#theyd likely say the same thing about cis women if they thought they could get away with it

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T/rfs: Having a period is an integral part of womanhood! Trans women will NEVER have a period because it's an inherently feminine thing! Periods are some of the most feminine things and you'll never have one.

Trans women: Periods are so tied to womanhood and I missed that seemingly universal feminine thing when I was growing up. So now that I'm out, part of me wishes I could experience that.

T/rfs: D:< Periods are bad!! Do you think they're GOOD? That we want them???

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whining about personal irl introspection stuff

since my friend groups mostly consist of trans peeps it always has kind of wormed its way into my head my own thoughts abt my gender and stuff but like for my whole life ive always been pretty comfortable as a cis dude and like for the most part despite growing up with very traditional parents ive also never really felt pressured to like follow the same gender roles they have like my parents are basically the one foot in the door type where like if for whatever reason hypothetically i come out as trans and gay double whammy them my dad whose a pretty Mans Man type of guy would still love me but i know he'd think that he did something wrong (out of ignorance not malice he would absolutely maul someone if they made fun of me) vs my mom who would also be accepting but it would become the next hot topic of her friend groups gossiping and neither are malicious but ive also seen them make themselves suffer over their own gender roles (men do this v women do this) and like i honestly think the reason i dont put much stock into gender as a concept is because most people focus on the roles aspect of it and even with my best efforts ive never really deprogrammed that out of them but honestly above all else im lazy as hell and wont impose more arbitrary rules like that onto myself so when i say im cis im not cis plus im like cis hasnt touched the personalization settings and forgot the login and ofc this would also bleed into ideas like romance and sexuality with aforementioned roles and when it comes to romance this leads more into my experiences with my asshole brother who would always be bringing girlfriends and bragging about being a sex beast but he could never hold onto a relationship and was always dumped and cheated on multiple times (and with modern context and Adult Brain i know its likely because he was a fucking asshole) while my parents would always argue but theyd also been together for 35+ years and wouldnt trade each other for the world so neither of those would be a good reference point for romance but this one also came down to me Not Really Caring where I wouldn't mind a romantic relationship if it happened and im p sure if I liked the person enough to where said stage of romance would even be happening i would invite it but im also not really agonizing over it and can be pretty comfortable being without a partner and on the sex side of things this one is a little weird because ive also Not Cared about it however i know I do have desire for people so im not ace and when it bleeds so intermittently with the romance aspect i just kind of assumed i was ace for a while in my teens until i learned the Words and Terms and such so i was like oh huh i guess i just dont seek romance and thats not the same as liking other humans physically and on that front i guess im just ok with any type of partner so like with neither of these considerations ever being a factor for gender or presentation esp when im a 6ft behemoth of a guy with a strongman body build and never had any type of body dysphoria with that i was and honestly still am perfectly comfortable just being a cis dude and for the past decade it has literally not changed im here for a good time not a long time

anyways this is a very long winded wordy way of saying that im pretty sure im cis aro and bi/pan because ive never cared about gender never wanted a partner and also i appreciate mens tits and cockenbalsen too much to be straight and this post came about because I was thinking of getting an anime man body pillow cover and was imagining the scandalized looks on my parents faces lol

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Like seriously man

This is some gross early 2000s fandom shit, i thought we were better than this. "Lol huhuhu wouldnt it be funny and/or sexy if this cis man was magically poofed into a cis woman's body and he's all embarassed about it. Also somehow becoming a woman also removes all his body fat and gives him perfect supermodel tits. Also like.. Biologically appearing makeup." Its like the most basic fuckin baby's first understanding of trans women! Its the exact thing people say trans women are to discredit them! "Lol just a man who has a fetish for dressing like a woman" say a bunch of predjudiced cis fucks who ACTUALLY get off on that exact thing and draw it in situations like this where there was a minimal goddamn excuse. Seriously why on earth would you even assume that the crown that turns toadette into a humanoid princess wouldnt just turn male characters into humanoid princes? And why did we jump to "lol sexy to do it to a cis man who'd be embarassrd about it" instead of giving this magical transition crown to the TWO CANONICALLY TRANS MARIO CHARACTERS??? i hate it cos ive not even once seen a fanart of the popular terrible bowsette design that even says like.. Hey bowser is trans. Or hey bowser enjoys crossdressing. Hey bowser chose to put on this hat. For any reason other than "trap fetish". Gahhh.

Like seriously this is what we mean when we say "genderbends" are transphobic. Not that the entire concept is inherantly that way, but that fandom is SO predictable in how they handle "genderbends" in this disgusting way thats not only transphobic but fetishistic and sexist too. And its the prevalance of this stuff that makes it hard to look at even better stuff without just being reminded that people see you in that horrible negative way OR that horrible fetishistic way that they think is somehow positive support. "Lol ur trans thats sexay thinking about what u got down there" Everyone has met a fuckin uncomfortable "ally" like that...

So yeah thanks for the few people posing different less fucked up ideas for Bowsette, or other more positive princessified characters, or even just better Bowsette designs that still look like Bowser. I mean i know toadette/peachette's design kinda looks nothing like her and more like a younger peach, but i hope that doesnt become a trend in fandom too. I wish theyd at least let toadette keep her colourscheme cos putting her hair colour on the dress instead isnt really noticeably different from peach's shade of pink anyway.

Also honestly trans bowser would be a cool headcanon and i'm sad that now its preemptively ruined before it even started. I was thinking more of bowser as a trans man though, cos that'd be an answer to how he has all these kids with no known mother, and why junior wouldnt even know what his mother looks like. Like trans man bowser actually mothered his children pre-transition, and whoever he was in a relationship with at the time was a horrible asshole who didnt support his transition so bowser wants to keep him away from the kids for their own safety. And like bowser's crush on peach is a very genuine one cos she's like the bastion of all goodness and if he's gonna get into a relationship again after that hellish one he wants to make sure its with someone he can trust. But alas he's pining for someone who simply isn't interested and he needs to learn to respect that and try and find someone else out there who's right for him. And his kids definately still love and accept him as a single father, even if he feels self concious that he can't be the mother they need.

See look at all the moral complexity and additional avenues to redeemability you could get from this headcanon! Or if you happened to headcanon bowser as a trans woman instead, or any other kind of LGBT, yknow? Way more substance than just "identical peach clone but somehow i find it fetishistically hot to imagine peach having a dick BUT not if it meant actually imagining peach being trans, somehow". Seriously the worst part about "trap fetish" is that 99% of people drawibg this stuff all hate trans people at the same time theyre drooling over the concept of us in a more cis-acceptable interpretation they made up in their own head...

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but how can she be a trans girl if she was born a girl? like she had to pretend to be a boy because she was a girl? like i guess it could be trans coding (but like as trans as mulan is) but like canonically she's always been a girl and like i know trans women have it way the hell harder than me but the way it started with her presenting female in the past and keeping her gender a secret i thought she was gonna be a trans boy

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ok i kid. two things,  but  first thing is completely unrelated: CONTEXT!!!! please give context in your asks!!!!

i only know this is about Pidge from Voltron bc the post is getting notes, i think. that post is a few months old (over 4).

other wise you just play the pronoun game and dont tell me ur talking about pidge or voltron; i talk a lot about other fandoms and people so honestly if i didnt have that context clue i would have NO IDEA what ur talking about and since ur on anon i cant ask for clarification really. so. please next time you send anything like this CLARIFY WHAT POST YOURE TALKING ABOUT  

thank u.

secondly:

trans girls are born girls, theyre just told theyre not by other people. the moment you stop seeing trans as “being one gender and then switching” the better.

and also no where in voltron does it ever say pidge is a cis girl–she just says shes a girl. if you think “girl” = “cis girl” than thats ur fault for making the assumption in the first place

 (which. ive talked about before…. as linked above.)

its not hard to think she was out as a girl, went back into the closet to sneak in–bc this is MILITARY who do PHYSICAL EXAMINATIONS (which means presenting as male was the best option bc a) the officials would be on the look out for a girl named katie, not a boy named pidge b) even if its the future, its hard to say if theyd be ok with transgender recruits so easier there too)–and then came out again bc it made her more comfortable, and she no longer had a reason to not be out and felt safe with the crew.

this is  real thing that sometimes happens: where for whatever reason ppl have to go back into the closet for a bit.

here’s some more post about trans girl pidge that go into it and how it works well narratively than i ever could: 

one 

two

also the tag “Trans girl pidge” is a good place to look. 

trans boy pidge is super transphobic btw for. hopefully obvious reasons (”im a girl” “katie” “gentle-lady”–mostly the coming out stuff tho)

oh and one last thing:

mulan isnt trans coding, its a folklore story from China that i cant speak on really but generally i follows the “woman has to pretend to be male to join army as they dont allow women” narrative when portrayed in the west, which is a real thing people did and IS NOT the same as trans coding, since theyre still WOMEN, merely pretending to be male. trans coding is different. id rec reading more about coding bc im shit about describing it.

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Weirdass Real Cis AF Conversation going on downstairs

"Oh my daughter's wedding yeah i want the girliest dress yeah she loves girly stuff. Like even when she was a baby she'd always wear frilly petticoats."

Like..umm.. You put her in those clothes...?

Serioudly she was on about how she bought a whole fancy old fashioned petticoat for a literal one year olf including frilly knickers, and how THE DAUGHTER IN QUESTION said she didnt want to raise her own kids so heavily gendered from such a young age as she was, but the mom was like "oh just wait til theyre born and you see them! You'll totally understand! Mommy instincts blablabla!"

Like wow i've never seen talk of these certain type of baby underwear instincts before. Seriously man that must be so uncomfortable for a literal one year old in a diaper to have frilly scratchy stuff everywhere?? And like an eight layer petticoat she cant even run around in?? Like if you're really insistant on only buying stereotypically feminine clothes you could just go to the actual baby clothes aisle and pick up something pink? Man it must have been hell for the mom too, to get all that stuff off every time a diaper needs changing!

And then seriously how can you say 'oh my daughter liked that and my son would never like that' when theyre both too young to even say their first word? Of course theyre gonna wear whatever you put on them, they cant exactly fight you off! They dont even have object permenance or a concept of what dresses ARE, let alone the social implications of fashion and gender roles! I just wanted to interrupt and be like "oh your son doesnt like it? So you've let him try it? And you've let your daughter try other outfits too?"

And It doesnt really bloody sound like the daughter liked being dressed that way as a kid if she argued with you about doing it to her own kid. And she was all laughing about "oh lol my son was always covered in sick instead of his clothes, he'd always pull them off haha Boys Amirite". Dude your kid is just a nebulous blob of vague comprehension of the world. Both of them would be running around being 'little terrors' if both of them could run! And serioudly thats just how much babies HATE clothes at first, they dont know why they have to wear a thing around their neck and chest or why its bad to take it off. Can you imagine how much more fidgety a kid would be in the most over the top petticoat nonsense? And not being able to crawl or run or play because she's not allowed to get stains on the stupid thing?

Ugh man i wore a frilly petticoat like that when i was a kid up to around age 6 or 7. Because it was all i had and my parents decided what i wore every day. And i didnt know that some things were 'girly' or 'manly' let alone that i was trans yet! Well i mean i guess i kind of still was me but i didnt know to feel bad about it cos i didnt know boys couldnt wear this or girls had to wear this. I just had no feelings on it except that it was annoyyyyying to wait thru all this long process of putting it on each morning and i'd fidget like hell. And then it was uncomfortable and i just had to get used to it because i thought ALL clothes were just as bad? I liked how the skirt fanned out if i ran but i hated that i wasnt supposed to run in it. And i still tried to run around and climb trees and roll in the grass and hide behind the sofa and make forts and be a "little terror" even when i kept getting told off for "ruining" my good clothes. And i think thats where i started my general hatred of shoes cos those fancy dress shoes were so tight and cut up the back of my feet. I'd take them off as soon as my parents werent watching! And theyd all swear that i "loved" having my hair tied back in a ribbon even though i'd cry about people tpuching and pulling my hair and then keep conveiniently losing the ribbon by the end of the day. Seriously bad parents will just make up a personality for you and never bother to actually ask you! Like i mean i dunno of this lady is a bad parent just cos she believes in kinda exaggerated gender stereotypes, but my parents did and yeah it reminded me of they who were very much not good :/

OH MAN LOL its funny looking back on how my parents were ~so concerned~ at my ~sudden phase~ of hating dresses and choosing to wear "boy clothes" literally AS SOON AS I LEARNED THERE WERE OTHER OPTIONS. And they still chose everything i wore so i'd just have to go for the least feminine of the bunch and like ignore half of the closet until they got the hint. Imagine like entire years of slowly getting slightly more neutral clothes until eventually i had one singular t shirt. Still with care bears on it. And as soon as i actually got to choose my own clothes i was totally off on the me train! "What has caused this alarming new trend out of nowhere?" Asks zero memory mom, who was complaining about the same damn thing every time i did anything non girly for the last decade. Also they complained that i was "less vibrant and happy and didnt run around like you did as a kid" despite the fact they friggin punished me for running around and not being a demure young girl :/

And then there's the whole subject of how all babies regardless of gender wore frilly smocks and bows in victorian times. It was still considered unmasculine for a grown man but it was like in an "immature" sense. It was called the breeching of the child, i think? That age when you get old enough to start wearing pants, it was treated as a lil life milestone celebration. There's loads of other stuff like that of our ideas of masculine and feminine clothing switching sides throughout history! Baby blue was considered the primary feminine colour for a long time, and pink was just considered a shade of manly red. High heels and tights were both invented as male fashions,and you see LOADS of regency era men wearing them in portraits! They only became degraded as a women only thing because crossdressing women would wear them and society had a homophobic transphobic panic and decided to abandon the trend. And over time it was all forgotten and the idea morphed into a 'ultinate symbol of straight femininity' just like it was the ultimate straight masculinity before...

So yeah lol sorry i just overheard a very stupid excuse for why imposing super over the top gender roles on a kid is ~totally good~ and i just went off on a brain thought train about the whole subject. I guess im still a bit upset from the whole transphobic mess yesterday and im probably judging this lady a bit too harshly.

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Also randomly this is the flattest chest i've ever managed to achieve with my binder, hooray! It can be tough when you're plus size, the size of binder you need to fit your shoulders is often too loose in the front, or vice versa. But a tip i just learned is that you get a more realistic look if you push your chest into your armpits! Yeah, it sounds unintuitive, i thought i should align the old hell orbs towards the front so theyd get more compression or something. But really binders arent that tight, and it'll just push out more if there's more under it. Its better for holding a tuck in place, yknow? Also on plus size people if you push the middle of your chest down you'll get a sort of spillover effect on your neck and shoulder skin that looks kinda unnatural and gives you trouble passing. Its also why when you look down you might be discouraged thinking your boobs look even bigger than before, but then from a side view it looks okay? Its weird? Anyway i never saw many tips on this stuff before i started binding, so i thought i'd ramble about it even if its a bit TMI. Try and push your dysphoria sacks outward towards your armpits, and downwards as far as possible. It can be hard to do while youre wearing the binder, even if you could do it fine without it. So a good tip is to have one arm down the front of the binder and one backwards through the actual sleeve of the arm. You'll need the power of both to adjust things! I mean you're basically trying to shuffle shrink wrappped fruit from the worst angle imaginable! Oh and this spread out sideways strangeness also makes it way less uncomfortable to wear a binder, as well as better mimicking cis male body fat distribution. I had no clue binders were supposed to hurt before i got one, and i had no clue i was doing it wrong and they DONT hurt until i saw the sideways tit trick! Seriously everyone just says 'put it on and its done' when really you have to do just as much tucking as trans women have to do. (I have so much sympathy for you girls, it must be so much more painful!) And man you better get used to slipping and readjusting too cos every time you bend over its like russian roulette! It takes grand power to find the one perfect sweet spot where you've pushed the thing downwards enough that it wont immediately pop back up again! Ugh damn you real life jiggle physics, the way less sexy and way more annoying version! Nobody else would notice this 2 milimetre bounce on my compressed chest but i'm still super anxious about it. I know that cis dudes dont have a completely flat chest when they're the same weight as me, but i feel i have to overpreform to achieve the same level of respect from people. Anyway ideally wearing your binder shouldnt hurt, you should buy a size that feels a little loose in front, cos that looseness is to make the final result look more human instead of washboard flat. Just gotta spend a bit of time in front of the mirror experimenting with tucking in different directions and seeing how well the compression works at those angles. For me the downwards sideways works, but if you look around other trans bloggers you might find other tips for different body types and chest sizes. I hope everyone can have a momebt like me where they take a dumb selfie for some hair dye and get to be pleasantly surprised by their real self staring back at them (^_^)