#they're like if your parents who argue all the time and threaten to divorce each other were crime lords with a list of crimes

[featherymainffins]

So we all agree that the two fucked up pieces of shit in Blue Eye Samurai are a married couple, right?

Like you know how some characters are divorced despite never having been married? These two are that except the divorce hasn't happened yet and is instead about to happen. Probably. Possibly. Nobody knows because the divorce papers are on the table every two weeks.

[masakiastrology]

zodiac observations part 2: zodiacs in an argument

Here are some observations I've noticed when zodiacs get in an argument. Keep in mind, this is not just based on your sun sign, but other placements as well. Multiple things may resonate with you, and some may not.

Aries: I've noticed that when Aries placements get into an argument, they usually go off to do something. Like, my mom had an Aries moon and whenever she'd get into an argument with me or my dad, she would usually go off to get food or look for something. I guess it's a way to keep their mind from getting too stressed? Same thing for online arguments. I have an Aries friend who when he gets in an argument, he'll be off watching TikTok or YouTube or something else.

Taurus: Taurus really do not care during an argument. If it's an online argument, they will not hesitate to press that block button. If it's a real life argument, they will not hesitate to walk right out the door. They don't have time to deal with people and arguments, they have places to be and things to do.

Gemini: Geminis always end up feeling the most guilty after an argument. They usually end up saying a lot of bad things during the arguments, feeling guilty when it's over, and then is embarrassed to talk to you unless you talk to them first.

Cancer: Cancers end up revealing a lot of personal stuff during an argument. They may be the type of person to say something like "What do you mean I don't know how you're feeling? my parents are going through a divorce!" without telling anyone that beforehand. And they usually end up crying during the argument, especially if someone targets something they love or something they're insecure about.

Leo: Oh boy, I have experience in this category. Leos are surprisingly calm during arguments. Like, they don't raise their voice much. Instead, they usually just act like you're stupid and say things like "okay" and "yeah" just to piss you off further. They won't give you the satisfaction of seeing them angry.

Virgo: Virgos raise their voice a lot during arguments. They will also probably bring up something you have done in the past just to piss you off further. Oh, and then they will proceed to gossip about the argument to all of their friends.

Libra: Libras get really insulting during arguments. Like, they are not afraid to point out your flaws. And then, sometimes, they get their friends involved if they feel like they're losing.

Scorpio: Ah it's me and my sister having our weekly argument. We like to threaten each other a lot during an argument. Like, she'll be like "If you don't shut up, I'm going to tell dad about blah blah blah" and then I reverse it with "If you tell him that, I will stomp on your laptop". And then we both try to get our dad to back us up and hope we're the one he agrees with.

Sagittarius: Sagittarius do try to use logic when arguing. Like, they're the type of person to pull an Elle Woods and be like "you know you did it because you got that perm 12 hours ago and you can't wash your hair within 24 hours of a perm". Unfortunately, when they get really heated, they tend to spiral off topic and start insulting you about things completely unrelated to the argument.

Capricorn: I've noticed Capricorns usually end up arguing in public spaces. However, they do try to reason with you and often say "I get where you're coming from but..."

Aquarius: Aquarius love making their friends watch their arguments. They make you pick a side. They're also the type of people to say "let's square up" or "let's take this outside" to act tough.

Pisces: Pisces love to use manipulation when they get into arguments. They are entirely convinced they're right... and when you talk about something that bothers you, they often say "how do you think I feel?"

[wakraya]

Okay now what about your opinion on the domestic abuse pandemic?

Oh boy, this became more a relationship rant than anything else but:

You know I could spend a while talking about domestic abuse and say how, you know, helping people reach out, doing better in the future to make people less entitled and prone to taking advantage of others and promoting mutual respect, talk about how misogyny plays into all of it...

But instead I'm gonna focus on one specific thing- I think we need to rethink relationships as like, a whole? Now, this comes from someone who's SUPER Poly, but like... I've seen a lot of people close to me, and generally seen around, just kinda, a lot of relationships that just don't work and trying to make them work not for the sake of the people involved, but for the sake of the relationship itself?

Like... Dating sites are promoted as a place to seek love- And yeah they match you with similar people, but it's always seemed weird to me because, I never understood the idea of seeking love for the sake of love? Love is something that, for me, blossoms between people that get along well. Looking FOR the love to begin with as the primary objective instead of for people you get along with and share interests, and then love can just happen as a byproduct? It seems a lot of people feel pressured to FIND love for the sake of it, and when you force it, you can end up with unpleasant relationships and friction and a lot of bullshit.

This is not just about Dating Sites either. I am a biiiig Introvert, and Autistic, so that plays into my view of it, but I can't, for the life of me, understand how, for example, my parents, met at a bar. Like... You just, decided to approach each other because they were attracted to each other and they happened to mesh well. Except. They fucking do not mesh well. They say they're so in love, but my mother is a manipulative bitch and my father's a pushover who holds resentment for her attitude, they can argue and can threaten divorce and will literally be at each other's throats over the most MINOR disagreements, and then they will be like "Oh I love you so much :)" and I've NEVER seen the love. It's always seemed so performative, it's been tolerance, at best, for each other, and I think that's messed up? They do not get along. They aren't a good match. But they got together, and had children, and their idea of 'love' is this fucked up tolerance because they're too far in and it's Sunken Cost Fallacy all the way down, no matter what happens or how they make each other worse and not only don't share any interests, but she actually mocks him for his interests.

My sister has a friend who got together and had a kid with someone that everyone around them never saw getting along together- Not even from an outside perspective, but from the friend directly saying that his only redeeming quality was having enough money to pay for child support if they ended up getting divorced. I've seen and heard time and time again of people giving up their hobbies entirely because their partners are embarrassed of them/Don't like them and that drives them off entirely from indulging in this thing they liked.

Relationships can often require sacrifices and doing things differently! I'm not saying that any relationship where you need to concede something is bad. But like, you know what I mean? There's so much romantic stuff I see that is based on immediate physical appearances and 'making it work' despite rather intense friction, or like, "I found out a year into the relationship that my husband believed in X, which conflicts entirely with my ideology", how do you go out to begin with without knowing something as basic as "Hey, my partner-to-be is actually a huge racist"? How do you go out with someone if they make you feel ashamed of your hobbies and pull you away from things that you enjoy for dumb reasons? How do you build a relationship STARTING from the idea of WANTING to be in love with them, instead of from a foundation of understanding, mutual respect and knowing each other?

That's my take. I think so long as the point of relationships, for many, IS being in a relationship, instead of being with someone that they trust, respect, coincide with and can be with, there's going to be abuse and friction and bullshit in said relationships, from people expecting more/wanting more than the other party wants, from people settling for what they have because they are clinging to this fake love while in reality they're being taken advantage of, from people who mistake physical attraction with "Actually getting along together and loving each other". And by making this forced love less the point, it'd also help people who AREN'T interested in romance or relationships at all have an easier time, too, less pressure to 'find someone' or 'to be fixed', when more people realize it's all about comfort and happiness in your life, and not about 'seeking love' being a checkbox to tick before you're 30 or whatever the fuck.

NOTE: I am not saying that relationships that started in a bar or dating site are hollow/less real/cannot work, and I am not saying that everyone who met in these places met entirely for the sake of it or due to physical attraction. But I am saying in my experience, I've seen a lot of this in the past-

[brothersonahotelbed]

haha vent space tw parents fighting & stuff

so my parents are devout catholics right. and if you don't know, divorce is highly frowned upon in catholicism. except in extreme cases, a couple's marriage will not be annulled (a.k.a. if you're having marriage problems just tough it out even if you can't stand each other).

for as long as i can remember, my parents have been fighting. like, they always tell me that married couples have rough patches, it's normal, etc etc and i know that's true, but ..,, rough patches aren't supposed to last 10+ years. my parents fight so fucking much, and it's never gotten to an physically abusive stage, but it's verbal/emotional abuse for sure. they insult and argue and scream at each other in front of me and my 8 year old brother with no regard for our mental health, how their issues make us feel. my dad threatened to divorce my mom today when they were having another fight, which is surprisingly not the first time that's happened but it still made me really nervous.

i remember being 9 or 10 years old when my parents had one of their biggest fights, and my dad said he'd "already signed the divorce papers" (just a tactic to scare my mom) and my mom took my sister and i to the park where i had to persuade her, as a child, to not divorce my dad. since then, i'd always been something of a marriage counselor for them, listening to their problems and reminding them that they're supposed to love each other. that's not an exaggeration. i had to do that on multiple occasions.

my parents aren't happy. they've told me so numerous times, separately. they're both depressed and can't stand to be in the same room together most days. my dad's said some REALLY SHITTY things about my mom in the past behind her back, when i was the only one there. and it's just like,,, people who are supposedly in love shouldn't do things like that, right? like i understand that couples have falling-outs, they get mad, they need space, they say things they don't mean. those things happen in all kinds of relationships i think. but my mom and my dad just don't seem to love each other. throughout my childhood they never showed much affection for one another. i hardly recall them saying "i love you" to each other.

sometimes i wish that they'd get divorced already, and i know that's a horrible thing to think, but i can't help it. sometimes i think we'd all be happier people if my mom and dad separated for good. we wouldn't have to put up with the constant arguing, negativity, insults, yelling, etc. i get such extreme anxiety whenever my parents argue because one of these days i'm afraid my dad'll snap and hit my mom or my brother or start drinking as a form of escapism (he drinks a lot as it is). i feel so sad for them and i wish they could figure out how to deal with their horrible relationship.

my dad has boasted that he would never divorce my mom because divorce is against their religion and he's "better than that." but he's said before that if he wasn't catholic, he would've divorced my mom a long time ago.

like. what the fuck.

idk i'm so tired and sad and overwhelmed :(

*i don't need advice or anything i just needed a place to vent, so if you read this far thanks for your time /gen :)*