#they just assume that there is nothing to be said since asexuality/aromaticism is the “absence of something” | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

rawliverandgoronspice · 9 months ago

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weird post, but I just don't like how asexuality (and aromance too btw) is talked about online as a negation of things, as like an absence of understanding or an absence of action or an absence of intent. sometimes we slide back into "too stupid to get it/no thought brain empty" or just "oh you're asexual, you're then just Not a part of the conversation" territory, and I'm sorry to say but aspecs' relationship to sex and romance is *so* complicated most of the time, and I feel like exclusion framed as inclusivity is still a fairly recurrent problem, even in queer spaces.

I feel like we maybe lack good public resources on the emotional details of that experience. we're just lacking deeply personal art made by asexuals still in my opinion. the space ace stickers with cakes are cute and all but I'm personally really really over this as far as genuine representation goes

#thoughts #I don't know if “lowkey being a hater of your own online community” is a normal queer experience or not but it feels like one haha #I feel like there's this tendency for some non-ace people who don't exactly get it but want to be inclusive #and good for them!! really #but in a way that still push asexuality under the rug in my opinion #they don't feel qualified to discuss it so they just Don't. but not in a curious way of knowing one's limits #but researching other perspectives #they just assume that there is nothing to be said since asexuality/aromaticism is the “absence of something”#but then again I know the spectre is so vast it's hard to accurately represent everybody #I feel like my own experience is very different from a lot of other aces I may have met for example #but I don't know I feel like there's a lot of conversations #especially political ones #that nobody is really having #and I don't know it kinda bothers me

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