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biggest-gaudiest-patronuses · 1 year ago

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anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd)#because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

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huecycles · 8 months ago

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homesick

#dess and gaster found family dynamic aways gets me #you have no choice but to cling to the darkness #and maybe find a little uneasy comfort #dess holiday #gaster #wd gaster #deltarune #utdr #my art

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hellenhighwater · 7 months ago

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Genuinely being a single woman in my thirties, living alone, is such a mixed blessing sometimes. I do love my house and when I'm here I literally never want to leave. But on the other hand, I do get tired of leaving to go hang out with people, even though I love seeing them. Especially because I have such a great group of friends but they live all over the place, geographically, and therefore most of them don't know each other. And I actually really love hosting? But I never have people in my house because logistically it's always more practical for me to go to them than vice versa.

But sometimes I buy new old dishes and wanna just have a little fancy wizard party, but all my guests are far away. Please may I have the teleport spell. Or a high-speed commuter rail system.

#Hazard of moving to a city where i dont have people locally i guess #a very insular city at that #and honestly i am not lonely! I have lovely freinds! But I do miss the college days of everyone basically living in walking distance #in one city #as opposed to now #where DND takes me the width of the state on a weekly basis #usually the only time there are groups of people in my house is around christmas for the family holidays #and like...in the overall balance of my life this works #me going to my people is the logical choice #and its not a bad thing #but most of my friend groups are...local clusters where I am the out-of-towner these days #which again: fine; i knew that going in when I decided to move where I did and overall its the best call #but also sometimes I want to just load up the whole crew in detroit and tell them we're heading to mine this time #dont worry there'll be fancy little finger sammiches when we get there #just give me an excuse to use the wizard plates

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bixels · 10 months ago

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Jesus man, relax.

#this was in response to me saying “lunar new year” on the rarity art #personal #delete later #what in insane nonproblem to get this angry about #i asked my parents (taiwanese immigrants) about this and they said we use either but prefer lunar new year #because it's inclusive to koreans and vietnamese people who celebrate on the same day #lunar new year is an umbrella term same as “happy holidays.” this person is basically getting mad i said happy holidays instead of #merry christmas.#my family and i identify more as taiwanese than chinese so. we're not gonna say chinese new year much anyways #i sent this to my mom btw and she replied with basically “die mad i guess.” love you ma #this literally doesn't matter anyways i could have said “chinese new year” to caption that post and it wouldn't have mattered #the only reason i didn't is because i plan on drawing another art including carol (coco pommel) who's korean and celebrates the same day #like. most people in china/taiwan don't care they just say “happy new year” cuz it's the fuckin new year. someone saying lunar new year is #not erasure it's not flattening asian identities into a monolith. it's just an umbrella term.#anyways happy lunar new year happy chinese new year happy tet happy spring festival happy seollal #like i cannot stress enough to you guys that these holidays are on the exact same day and celebrate basically the same exact thing.#this is not an issue.

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choochooboss · 10 months ago

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Emmet heading off for the holidays - first time alone. [Festival of Family 1/8] Some WIPs under the cut!

I'm so tired of looking at this - the composition and colors were a massive struggle and I still don't know if I made good choices or not.. Welp, I've been holding onto this well over a year now so it's time to move on! And it's not the only piece I've been holding onto; next one will be the biggest of the set of 8 pieces!

#submas #pokemon emmet #submas emmet #subway boss emmet #gear station #I have no idea how many days/months I've spent on this piece but TOO MANY #I started this back in holiday 2022 #There will be a story to this set of pieces #submas angst #be prepared #Spot some familiar characters here!#festival of family

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iwantajaneaustenlife · 12 days ago

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Holiday season dream outfit

roll up in this stunner, and wait for family to object to its inappropriate nature on this blessed holiday

agree to remove it to reveal

#jaimie's post #holidays #thanksgiving #Christmas #funny #wish I had a shitty family holiday to go to but I don’t see my parents for holidays anymore #and my queer little holidays have already seen this joke because I’ve made it to everyone

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owlsie-hoot · 15 days ago

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Godparents are among the most important people at a christening, who make big promises to encourage their godchild to grow in faith.

#acgas #all creatures great and small #Siegfried Farnon #Audrey Hall #Samuel West #Anna Madeley #baby jimmy #godparents #acgas 2020 #yes s5 was different but remember: the role of godparents will now forever connect them #and makes the skeldale family an even stronger family bond than before #the two mother hens #sorry for not having posted any new gifs in 2 weeks but I was at a con and then on holiday followed by a horrid week at work #just LOOK AT THEM!#my poor ovaries #sometimes it really looks as if this is Siegfried's child #(and Audrey's... erm.. you know)#and to think that Siegfried thought of himself as bad father material

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egophiliac · 1 year ago

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hold on where are you seeing the boys in the basic t shirts i wanna seeeeee

they've been posting them on the twst_jp twitter account, and the merch for them is up on the Aniplex+ store! they're literally just drawings of anime characters wearing black t-shirts, but the art is really cute and, I dunno, there's just something about the Twst boys posing in their little matching t-shirts that is hilarious to me. it's adorable.

and of course, there's something about Mal especially that is just like

#art #twisted wonderland #the group shots look like they're taking their family holiday card photos #i am once again imploring twst to please open an international store #i would buy SO many keychains and acrylic stands if i didn't have to pay 80 bucks in shipping #i mean it's probably better for me that i can't. but i want to.#i am a magpie who loves trinkets and doodads

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dollya-robinprotector · 7 months ago

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April 30th - Vietnamese Day of the Liberation of the South and National Reunification

Also in honor of the upcoming update that brings Áo Dài into the school uniform system! Hehe, I'm full-on nationalist mode right now!

Sending my regards to Vrel, the devs, and the contributors!

#You can't blame me áo dài is too lovely to me so I gotta draw it every time I have a chance like I want to brag about it to EVERYONE #aaaaaaahhhhh these holidays with family are taking toll on me though urgh I can't keep this up any longer my work is pilling #I would rather stay inside my room and draw but instead I got dragged out and forced to run EVERYONE TTOTT #dollya art #dol pc #dol #dol fanart #degrees of lewdity #áo dài #lya the blossom #lyah the emancipated #kariya the alter ego #eburnean the truth seeker

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 11 months ago

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💙❤️Happy Holidays!❤️💙

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #lan wangji #wei wuxian #This is *specifically* fanart of the interfaith christmas cards featuring santa and his jewish rabbi husband spending time together #Why? Well as I was trying to think of things to draw for the season I realized there was another classic Blue and Red pairing to reference #They are going out for chinese food after this photoshoot. Kosher of course.#I want them to star in an interfaith hallmark film. A meet cute + save christmas + murder mystery in a small town kind of story #Or! Maybe they are just going to have a chill holiday break together and bake some treats with the extended family #So many fun possibilities about this bonkers concept I have no intention of making a bigger deal out of #speaking of Big Deals though;#If you have ever wanted to show appreciation for this (free) daily comics blog then I have one Holiday request:#If you have the means to - please donate your money to either a local food bank or a Yemen relief fund #there are so many people going without food and every bit helps. Truly would be the best holiday treat ever #and if you do not celebrate this holiday season…it’s also my birthday! You wouldnt want to let down the birthday cat would you?#(DISCLAIMER: it may or may not actually be my birthday. I may just be pressing emotional buttons to influence people to my cause)#(DISCLAIMER 2: I cannot vouch for any charities you donate to. Please be cautious and research properly before donating)

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buttercupshands · 6 months ago

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rewatched Kurogiri's holiday story from ultra impact (not related to sketch at all)

(but it did inspire me)

on another note

finally!!

#fanart #sketch #my art #bnha #shigaraki tomura #tenko shimura #kurogiri #I cried a bit while playing it I missed the classic LoV I missed Kurogiri WITH the LoV it's been so long :(#and it feels like last chapter (423 atm) broke the seal of sketching them as anything but something static #it took me two or so days to just understand that Kurogiri is... yeah #I can't believe it took Horikoshi so long to bring him back but as I said and will say it again I glad it happened at all #after some thought I just want to sit with the chapters #anyway getting the preordered book was so much fun #it was full of LoV from Toga and Dabi talking about her house to Tenko being upset over being told that he doesn't have friends #and everything in-between basically only Compress left to join in the next volume #I think????#I actually want to get another one already they're so goodddd #and the translation sounds pretty good but I checked some pages not the whole book it'll be boring #it's actually so weird to think that I started a goal of reading the whole series ad it was now officially coming out like this back in 201 #and now it's 2024 and the translation is pretty much ahead of anime and maybe it'll be faster than viz volumes too #since it's 2 in 1 basically - I think it's really great since I save some money but get LoV chapters every time #because they appear every 2 books at the start of the series and back then it was hard for me to get them #but I felt content seeing all the books that I bought when I was visiting family for holidays this month because there are so many of them #and I don't need any wi-fi or internet in general to read them back to back now with an addictional volume #they have some mistakes but I don't mind them it feels good to just hold all of them (and a bit heavy after like 8 books) and now it's 18

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galoogamelady · 1 year ago

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Dunno if this is something you've been asked before but how does our favorite post apocalyptic beanboy and his most excellent gal celebrate Halloween in the Commonwealth?

It's been a long time since we talked about this in detail (probably in 2014-15?) but I think we established that many traditional American holidays were lost in the Great War (people were more concerned with surviving, obviously). A lot of these celebrations were kept alive by Vault residents however. Buttons does his best to inspire his fellow Arefu settlers to celebrate Halloween to some extent and Meg plays along, even if it makes no sense to her. The budget Brahmin has to be my favorite Halloween post so I did a quick redraw:

Buttons had a couple other Halloween costumes since 2014:

Butt-O-Ween skeleton

Slutty Molerat

Hancock (aka raunchy mayor)

GTA Online Buttons is a sexy cat every year

#I'm sure Meg and her family have some sort of harvest celebration #seeing how they're farmers #but it's probably a lot less wild and removed from logic haha #I don't think Buttons knows the origin of any of his holidays he's just like THIS IS WHAT WE DO don't ask for reasons #Why dress up as stuff? Don't ask questions. Put on the horns.#Halloween #Fallout 3 #OC #Buttons #Meg #budget brahmin #redraw

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iliothermia · 3 days ago

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I'm really struggling with communication right now, so I'm gonna be a bit distant for a bit. I really appreciate the patience n kindness 💗

#i feel like ive been struggling to get back to people all month #ty especially to the anon who sent a kind message irt my post about processing familial death / alienation when #everyone related to you has passed with society valuing blood relation etc #im gonna try and find a therapist soon (again) bc. Just a lot going on internally.#like. today i realized that I have only seen a message of 'i love you' from my mom written for someone else.#bc she didnt get to ever write one for me. or if she ever had it was kept from me #and it really messed with me today #idk I just always get messed up in the period between birthday and holidays n overthink. but i hope everyone else is well #and im sorry if i havent been able to be there for you if youre reading this and have been waiting for my response.#I really wish that as I got older I got more well / stronger mentally.

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puppiesareperfect · 2 months ago

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Carl Phineas and Ferb has to have the most unserious dynamic with his family?? Because he literally works for a spy organization run by animals. He’s 17ish. There is no way his family doesn’t KNOW about his internship bc he most likely still lives with them because he’s a literal teenager. And he’s been doing this for a good 3-5 years since he was with them when Perry was a baby?!! What the HELL did he tell his family when he got the job? “Oh yeah I finally found work—well it’s technically an unpaid internship but it’ll look great on my resume and/or college application. What is it? Oh it’s an organization of secret agents—no really. They fight evil scientists—yes those DO exist, we just don’t notice because they do such a good job. Oh no you can’t actually talk with any of the agents because they don’t talk because they’re literal animals”.

And somewhere along the line his fam was just like “yeah ok son, that seems like a believable and worthwhile summer job”

#phineas and ferb #shit post #carl Phineas and Ferb #OWCA #what does the extended family think #do they come home for holidays and he’s not around and his parents/guardians just have to be like #‘yea sorry Carl couldn’t make it to thanksgiving dinner he’s attending Ted the Turkey’s funeral’#do any of them know he turned evil once?!#do they all hate monogram bc he still won’t pay him?!!#many questions

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upperranktwo · 2 years ago

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