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112618/Tuesday

On the way to work

Nothing much is new. As usual, im running late but I do not worry about the time at the moment. It took me an hour in the shower because I’ve been thinking a lot. Realized so many things and created role play scenarios in my head which sorta helped me think through stuff clearly.

I’ve listened to few podcast episodes a couple of days ago and reflected on what I’ve learned from them. And I know that to really learn is to understand it then apply it. Growing up, I missed to know how to accept people from being who they are because I lived through my beliefs on decency and conservativeness. I’ve always wanted to inspire them and teach people how to decently live their lives, but I became selfish for building a standard that I expect them to follow. I lack understanding. I’ve realized that people are individually different from each other and how their life has been growing up has influenced them. And life has taught them. And whatever their choices are is out of my control. Sure I can inspire people, impart them what I know and nurture their minds with constant reminders not to resort to any bad decisions and acts but I cannot shape them with my own hands because they don’t owe me a favor. I cannot push them to be someone I want them to be just to please and meet my standards. It’s not caring at all, it’s selfishness. And to truly care is to teach people to be themselves in the most decent way they can.

To become a true stoic is to not be a snowflake. “Snowflakes, whether they are on the left or the right, are miserable because they need the world to be a certain way--their way. They are constantly at risk of being upset and disturbed because someone else--someone with views different than their own--has the power to say or do or think for themselves. A Stoic, on the other hand, is open-minded and content to let others live and think as they wish.”

Being that super confined kind of a person, I forgot that each people has their own ways on how to live their lives. And what is effective for me cannot always be that effective to them. I judge them because they do something I don’t, and just because I don’t like them I automatically omit the value of their ideas. Which isn’t a trait of a true stoic. And for someone like me who aspires to Influence others. I realized that in order to teach people is truly understand them for who they are.

I might have really been selfish especially to the people who matters to me because I get upset just because they don’t completely meet the standards I solely created for myself, which technically means it could only work for myself and not for others.

For years, this is what’s actually missing. Acceptance of others. I’ve confined myself within my own bars. And to truly love people is to truly accept and understand them. And teach them without and judgement. I have realized that whatever they like and believe in as long as it does not harm themselves or anyone is not as bad as I think it was. And that people’s uniqueness is what made each one of us distinctive and beautiful. And I am happy to finally accept everyone for who they are and unload these wrong expectations. We are all beautiful human beings and we are designed to be different for a reason. Let’s empower each other’s difference.

Much love,

Chi ♥️

9:50am

[thewandroussoul]

21 but still 12 years old at heart, (6 years old pa nga yata) 🌷🌸✨ #SahChiinSG #TheWandrousSoul #TheseGirlsExplores #KidsAtHeart