#theres so much stuff in that tag but PLEASE b4 u start writing callout posts... check the date on the reblog lol

[night-dark-woods]

Are you an exclusionist/anti xenogender?

at work, so i did reread my answer briefly but BEFORE yall take me in the worst possible faith and assume what i mean, just reply to my post or send me another ask lol.

i had to look up xenogender, so nah lol. u do u, whatever floats ur boat. neopronouns are sick and however u want to describe ur experiences is frankly no ones business to have opinions on but urs.

re: "ace discourse"... theres a short and a long answer. (consider it in scarequotes for the rest of this, im just on mobile and lazy).

short answer: ace/aro people are valid, y'all exist & are welcome on my blog/in my irl life, and im not going to question ur experiences of ur life etc! again, none of my business and not my place!

long answer: i think ace discourse as it exists online has very very little bearing on how lgbtq ppl exist irl. i think straight aces/aros need to be mindful of being homophobic in online and irl spaces (eg, saying gay/lesbian/bi as ids are inherently Sexual, using "h*mosexual" as a label for people).

i think people who actively involve thmslvs in ace discourse, in general, make a lot of assumptions abt how anyone who doesnt ID as ace experiences sex/sexual attraction, and tend to disregard how sexuality, race, gender, ability, etc, affect that experience and the prejudices associated w it. i think the idea of some inherent "alloromantic/allosexual" privilege is batshit and deeply removed from the actual systems of power in place in our society. CERTAIN romantic relationships (white, cishet, wealthy, abled, child-bearing) are given societal/legal privileges, but when there r anti-miscegenation laws, being gay is criminalized in much ov the world, and disabled people cannot have savings when they get married, i REALLY dont think you can make an argument that theres some central system of oppression that privileges ALL romantic/sexual relationships lmfao.

i also think "REG" and its varieties are transmisogynistic in that they try to appropriate and expand discussions about terfs to prioritize anything and everything except the transmisogyny & actual physical harm to trans women that that ideology represents.

i also think a lot of people who aggressively call themselves "exclusionist" on here are really, unbelievably shitty to a lot of ace people on here, and thats not smth im ok with either. i think there ARE things to critique about the usage and creation of labels and microidentities in ace discourse, and the harm those can cause, and the way some discussions around consent get twisted to be about ace vs non-ace instead of about, like, rape culture.

anyway, up to u igss if u want to follow/interact? i dont consider myself Either, bc i dont particularly agree with either of the very extreme and opposed and harmful opinions on either side.

hope u have a good day, again feel free to reply/send another ask!