#theres nothing inherently bad about being old. the only thing thats changed is how you look. youre still you and thats all that matters

[sunny-daze-days]

And really what's the harm in looking old? What's the harm in it? Your beauty doesn't fade when you're older. Tis a myth created by society. Really what happens is that your beauty just changes. Growing old is one of the most beautiful things you could do and shouldn't be considered a tragedy because that just means you've had more years with the people you love.

What's the harm in laugh/smile lines? Crows feet? Wrinkles on your hands or face? The little "what the fuck" wrinkle between your eyebrows? All of these are just signs that you have lived a life full of moments and memories. Why deprive yourself of this so obsessively?

as someone who nearly died at 22 due to serious health issues, society's obsession with youth and hatred of the signs of aging really gargles my goyles. not everyone gets to grow old, it's such a privilege and yet we treat it like a disease, or a curse, something to avoid for as long as possible. truly it strangles the soul to witness

[michaelmilkers]

I saw in one of your tags that you mentioned how 21 pilots made emo pretentious and im actually curious about why you say that (not hate i just never knew about them that much)

my friend you have asked me about a topic i am very knowledgeable and very angry about so prepare yourself for what you have wrought

it isnt just twenty one pilots but theyre just the biggest and most popular example

like. take my chemical romance in the early-mid 2000s aka the peak of emo. it was very melodramatic and theatrical, the way emo should be. there was a presence of “we are not like other people” in a lot of the songs, but it was never just that. it was more of a “we have been cast out and we kinda suck but thats okay.” one of the best examples of this is, ironically, i’m not okay.

take, for example, the opening to the mtv music video:

[Ray] You like D&D, Audrey Hepburn, Fangoria, Harry Houdini and croquet. You can't swim, you can't dance and you don't know karate. Face it, you're never gonna make it. [Gerard] I don't wanna make it, I just wanna...

this immediately establishes the song as being about social outcasts and people who dont fit the mold. the fucking tag line of the song is “i’m not okay” ffs, that really tells you all you need to know about the song. but the important thing is it doesnt take itself too seriously either. the music video takes place in a private school, and shows scenes of the band members eating lunch alone, being bullied by jocks and preps, etc., but it ALSO shows scenes of frank putting swim goggles on in chemistry class and ray drawing on his test with a crayon and then licking it, and at the end they all ambush and beat the shit out of a guy in a mascot costume. all of this is cut up by text saying things like “if you ever felt alone” “if you ever felt wronged” “if you ever felt anxious”

do you see the juxtaposition here? the music video could very very easily be a fake deep bullying psa, but its not, because while theyre getting bullied and playing their music in a garage they are also, unequivocally, total fucking losers for obvious comedic effect. it is a very exaggerated and lighthearted version of real phenomena, which makes it more relatable to a wider audience.

the same can be said about the song itself. it has some pretty heavy and angsty lyrics (”i’m not o-fucking-kay”) but the instrumentals are punchy and energetic and catchy and gerard’s vocal delivery is very theatrical but also very deliberate and he still puts real emotion in the words. it sounds like its taking the piss out of not being okay, which is exactly what i as a clinically depressed 13 year old needed, and i bet a lot of other people can say the same. i’m a loser and thats okay. i fucking suck in school and thats okay. i feel shitty and thats okay. i’m not okay and that, in itself, is okay.

with twenty one pilots, on the other hand, there is no theatrics, theres no taking the piss, theres no over-the-top melodrama that made emo what it was. 

take, for comparison, the opening lines of heathens:

All my friends are heathens, take it slow Wait for them to ask you who you know Please don't make any sudden moves You don't know the half of the abuse

and this presents, immediately, one of my biggest criticisms of twenty one pilots: their rampant appropriation of mental illness.

because my first thought when hearing this is as an abuse survivor and someone with ptsd they can kiss every single square inch of my ass.

Welcome to the room of people Who have rooms of people that they loved one day Docked away Just because we check the guns at the door Doesn't mean our brains will change from hand grenades You're loving on the psychopath sitting next to you You're loving on the murderer sitting next to you You'll think, "How'd I get here, sitting next to you?"

they try to do the same kind of nuanced poetic lyrics that my chemical romance did and in my opinion is just doesnt fucking work because they take themselves SO. FUCKING. SERIOUSLY. it sounds JOYLESS. 

and the song closes out with this:

Why'd you come? You knew you should have stayed (It's blasphemy) I tried to warn you just to stay away (Away) And now they're outside ready to bust (To bust) It looks like you might be one of us

this is what i mean by pretentious. there is a clear separation of the person/people from whose point of view the song is told and the people the song is meant to be listened to by from the greater population, but theres no high energy or comedic self deprecation to counteract it. 

now take some lyrics from heavydirtysoul, a song i actually really like the sound of, im not just shitting on this band bc its not to my taste yall:

There's an infestation in my mind's imagination I hope that they choke on smoke 'cause I'm smoking them out the basement This is not rap, this is not hip-hop Just another attempt to make the voices stop

Nah, I didn't understand a thing you said If I didn't know better I'd guess you're all already dead Mindless zombies walking around with a limp and a hunch Saying stuff like, "You only live once." You've got one time to figure it out One time to twist and one time to shout One time to think and I say we start now Sing it with me if you know what I'm talking about

right back at it again with that appropriation of mental illness symptoms! and some dumbass critique of our generation that doesnt fit in with the rest of the song at all, closing out the verse with “we are not like you” shit. the vocal delivery at least has more energy than heathens, but the lyrics just feel like a mishmash of different points theyre trying to make that have nothing to do with each other.

the best line of the song is undoubtedly “death inspires me like a dog inspires a rabbit” but its poetic just... for the sake of being poetic? its one of those lyrics that sounds like someone came up with and was like “bro we gotta put that in a song” but then couldnt actually figure out how to fit it into a song in a way that would flow. another example of this is “i cant drown my demons they know how to swim” in bring me the horizon’s can you feel my heart. not shitting on bring me the horizon, i really like sempiternal, but thats another line thats just poetic for the sake of being poetic. and to be put on t-shirts. i know this because when i was 12 i had a shirt that said “i cant drown my demons they know how to swim” on it.

i could do more analysis on other mcr songs, namely welcome to the black parade and famous last words, but i would be here for literal hours and idk if people actually care that much.

to sum my points up:

they take themselves too seriously. they appropriate and romanticize mental illness (forgot to mention that top’s website, at one time, described their music as “schizoid pop” lol). they pull a lot of “We Are Not Like Other People..,.,.,,...” shit. 

that last point is not inherently a bad thing, for example the new slipknot album is literally called “we are not your kind” but the song that contains that line as a lyric is all out life, and corey taylor is screaming that entire song and the instrumentals are reminiscent of speed metal with how fucking energetic they are. its edgy and its GREAT. twenty one pilots just sounds like they think theyre the shit.

also, and i want you to read the following sentence in a bass boosted voice to best understand how i feel when i say this:

the twenty one pilots cover of cancer is an embarrassment that completely misses the point of the original song and changed it into a weird amalgamation of lo-fi synth pop.

emo music is dead. thank u and goodnight.

[simptasia]

🔥 torchwood, lost & detroit become human??

torchwood: i don’t think its that bad. the way the bi rep was handled is kinda wonky because… 2006 but like, overall its a good show. series 2 especially

also i love gwen. i dunno how much gwen hate still exists now but yeah

lost: 

the finale was great, fantastic, beautiful, A+++

the characters matter more than the ~mysteries~

i like/love jack, kate, ana lucia, michael, charlotte, shannon (heck, insert any female character name here because they��ve all gotten ragged on)

jacob is a bad person

i don’t think kate & sawyer work as romantic partners, i just like them as friends. i approve of several ships in the love square but thats one i’m ehhh about, and i know its very popular

i like sayid/shannon. nay, i love sayid/shannon

but overall im happy the modern lost fandom is fulla queer feminists because from what i’ve seen, the old lost fandom (2004 to 2010) was… not as pleasant

detroit become human

oh gosh this is gonna be bad (i have friends who hate this game)

i wanna make it clear ahead of time that i absolutely am aware of the flaws in this game and i’ve even spent a lot of time discussing them with my friends.nobody can diss dbh better than a dbh fan, believe me. i can be aware of something’s flaws and still like something (anybody whose followed me for lost knows i’ve dissed the flaws in lost loads of times. i still love it!) 

also the dude who wrote/directed this game is an asshole, an idiot, a sexist and a bunch of other bad things. thats not an unpopular opinion, i just wanted you guys to know that i know this. when i praise dbh, i’m not praising him

long story short, i like the creation not the creator

i went on a bit so its under here

despite who made it: it’s a good game, brent

i think despite its flaws, there’s more good things than bad things

allegory isn’t inherently racist. note my emphasis

“heavy handed”, “on the nose” and “not subtle” aren’t bad things? i see it get used as insults a lot but to me i got no bother. not subtle doesn’t mean bad. bear in mind that i’ve grown up a star trek and x-men fan so yeah

i don’t wanna say the word overrated because i don’t believe in that. i just find it interesting how certain characters are getting a lot of attention (e.g gavin, nines) whilst other characters are ignored or reviled. thats not me saying the characters whom are popular in fandom should be ignored, thats me saying i’d like more focus on other characters i like too e.g markus, kara, kamski, the jerries, north, josh, rose & adam and a bunch more. i just really like all the androids and some humans okay

like, its pretty obvious why simon (white man) is being adored whilst josh (black) and north (woman) are being ignored and despised respectively, right? and thats not me hating on simon or saying less simon. i like simon! (or like, what can be done with him bcuz canon simon has no depth)

i just happen to like josh and north! which deserves its own bullet point

not only do i like north, i love north and she’s one of my fave characters!

i do not agree with the often used phrase “hank and connor are the only worthwhile part of this game”, in fact, i hate it. sure, the best part of the game, go ahead. but the only worthwhile part? fuck you, because

i like markus and kara and their stories! whilst most my problems with this game are in markus’ story (just trust me on that), overall i still like it. and kara? heck theres not a single kara chapter i don’t like. and on that note:

i don’t consider kara’s story to be useless. yeah she’s not part the revolution plot but thats not bad. i think it provides a balance. think of it like this: markus represents The Leader, the liberator, the messiah. he is fighting for his people. and he comes from a privileged background. connor is representing The Man, The System, depending on how you play him he is rebelling against The System or is a part of it. now what does kara represent? The People. her and the other androids she encounters represent the average android in this world. markus and connor can’t do that so i feel its important we see her. we’re seeing what markus (and maybe connor) are fighting for. and i think thats really important

and besides all that, i just plain like it okay

i like markus/north, i think they make a good couple (moreso in my head than in the game but i still think they’re sweet in the game)

the concept that pacifist markus and north don’t “make sense together” is stupid because ur assuming north is bloodthirsty and has no room for growth. and that all couples need to agree with each other. also north for violent markus and simon for pacifist markus also makes no sense to me becuz 1. people aren’t rewards, 2. ur confusing simon with josh. again. and 3. violent!markus and north would just be enabling each other. if north is to be with any markus, it should be pacifist markus because they’d be good for each other. also all three of them being options woulda been nice but that’s not an unpopular opinion anyways so moving on

the awkwardness felt about markus/north coulda totally been fixed by literally just one change. take the “lover” indicator and move it until after their first kiss. that way the timing is far less jarring and because the player can choose the kiss or not, the “lover” thing feels more like “yay i made their relationship grow” and less “oh whoa that was sudden”. if that was moved and nothing else changed, markus/north would’ve been way more loved. but alas, markus’ relationship scanner is just damn awkward

markus, my markus, is a verse and a kind, socially inept boy (i like how with the jericho four, north is a rowdy girl whilst the other three are various kinds of soft boys in their own way. i think thats cute and neat)

connor is not an innocent niave dumb bimbo (save that for the bedroom) and i wanna remind ppl that he’s an expert on psychology

the humans killed by daniel, ralph, echo (blue traci), shaolin (HK400) and north all deserved it

north, josh and simon would not all hate each other, fuck you. these people are meant to be friends, remember? (also jericho OT4, y’all!!!)

the facial expression on simon’s face after markus and north kiss at the end is gentle approval. he looks happy, some ppl are just projecting

i don’t mind that alice is an android

the way some markus/simon shippers talk about north is downright sexist and i think most north hate is caused by sexism & rape apologism

(i’m a live and let live kinda person about ships and also i’ve very into multishipping so some y’alls behaviour is perplexing to me)

there is nothing inherently morally wrong with shipping hank/connor. connor is capable of consent and age differences aren’t inherently bad. and the only reason this ship is controversial is because hank looks old and he’s not conventionally attractive. nobody would care otherwise

kamski isn’t evil, he’s morally ambiguous / chaotic neutral

i, uh, like kamski/chloe. its interesting (i’ve embraced that it’s fucked up) and i like the idea that chloe actually does love him. its kinda tragic?

a bunch of that was more about the fandom than the game but whatever. and as usual when i make a list, theres probs more but like, thats what comes to mind

yeah there was room for improvement on this game but overall i think its great and i like the characters, more than that i like what can be done with the characters. like, its a nice place to build from. and like, the people who are all like “if ur a fan of detroit become human, ur a bad person” can just fuck off

thats not how… anything… works

and besides its a piece of android media, done in a story based game, that has android babes and is fulla allegory and it’s something i can analyse to death (and as a bonus, the graphics/rendering/mocap/texturing are PHENOMENAL)

of course this is something i would like and i won’t apologise for that

[jxpcloud]

journey into addiction

this might be a bit of a triggering one even for me

im coming to terms with alot of shit tbh and one thing most therapists like you to talk about is your childhood. dint get me wrong im pretty sure i had a good childhood. my parents spit up when i was 7 but that was the only "bad" thing that happened in my childhood and honestly it wasnt bad, they split up because theyre lives were going in different directions which is weird considering they had two kids but they had been together since they were 17 so i kinda get it. but im currently being treated for bipolor or bpd (they are commenly confused) and both hold strong to childhood trauma. you do not need to have childhood trauma to develop these its just more common. thinking about it i dont know much from my childhood. and childhood being a very big term as i have to think from the ages of 2-16 and im only 17 but my brain has block alot of shit out and sometimes i feel sad and i cant even remember why cause my brain has just decided to not let me know what flashbacks im having. im awear im having flashbacks to possibly somwthing traumatic but i dont even know what but it stunns me for a while to say the least.

anyway i was doing a deepdive on myself which, inherently dangerous, did bring back a memory. self harm. theres a trend circulating on tiktok at the moment where people reveal stupid shit theyb did and tell theyre youngerselves that its not worth it and many that come up to me are self harm related. i had a think back to when i first started to injure myself and i remeber 11yo me taking a compass to my arm. even then i felt pathetic because i was too nervous about an actual blade but it made decent marks that healed in a matter of days and that continued on for a while. but what pushed me to do that? i mean it couldve been the media i was exposed to alot of that kinda stuff peak 2016 tumblr tbh or maybe i wanted something phisical to externalize what i felt on the inside. i mean i wont sugar coat it, i saw people with marks and thought i should have marks too since im also stuggling with my mental health. not the smartest idea but thats how i made the pain physical. anyways i didnt get found out until i was 14, nothing really had changed but i was using a badge now that had a bend in it leaving the needle more exposed and sharp. mother had taken that away from me pretty quick but continued to not understand and took the classic approach that i just was attention seeking and then proceeded to give me no attention. shes alot better now at understanding. but its an addiction and i contuned up until maybe three weeks ago, my boyfriend saw some fresh ones and genuinly hugged me and gave me something that i needed to hear. i cant promise that i wont relapse and i didnt, but i promised to communicate and thats more impostant as its better than thinking im stopping cold turkey.

this wasnt really my point.

back into early childhood, primary school days, i had extreme anxiety. this is one of the only things i can remember. i remeber when kids were running and having fun i was worried about getting sunburn, or falling or genrally getting into trouble. its honestly concerning that nobody picked up how horrifically anxiety ridden i was as a child but i was just labled as one of those kids. a distinct memory i had was barely getting told off by my mum for something and refusing to eat for the rest of the day while i was in my room uncontrollably sobbing and hitting myself with the heaviest book in there. i was five. she probably thought i was throwing a strop but i remeber beating myself u til everything stung and i was exhausted. i didnt really get told off as a child and i think that was probably the only time but i would always feel so guild ridden that when i did make a mistake, when when told it was fine, i would continue to deny myself food and beat myself until i was a mess of tears and bruises. this is genuinly going on five to six year old me. its no wonder really how i developed an eating disorder thinking about it. but my violent tendencies started at five years old and have developed into more violence and years of trauma that i caused myself. no one really teaches kids how to handle there emotions, probably because they dont usually handle them like i did but someone should probably teach kids this shit before they destroy theyre little bodies

so yeah self harm is a tought action nailed down by addiction and the weird happy feeling after. i dont really want to explain that one. on a more postive note i wrote this out to stop myself from heing violent towards myself and i think the urge has passed now :)

[syssupport]

im only doing this one time, and i will be deleting any discourse etc on this subject in my inbox after this. (t system means traumagenic systems i had to shorten it)

our reasons for not allowing nor wanting endogenic systems to interact with us: endos and their whole idea of not needing trauma to form a system is further stigmatizing traumagenic systems. while it may be unintentional it still is pushes this idea of it being cool to live and pick alters, this obviously makes it harder for traumagenic systems who are trying to fight to have stigmas and things such as that removed because endogenic systems - who again are people without trauma and who dont experience the oppression/stigma traumagenic systems do - use terms that traumagenic systems use brings up confusing, misunderstanding and furthermore pushing new and more stigmas. endogenic systems also encourage things like system-hopping, walk-ins, alter deaths, etc which again it spreads misinfo and makes it harder for traumagenic systems to seek things out like a professional diagnosis because of this misinformation being highly spread about.

they also push the stigma of ‘evil’ alters which is a highly highly popular stigma especially in media, it shines a bad light upon systems and their headmates, there is no such thing as ‘evil’ alters. traumatized alters who lash out or do things they think is right for the host because of trauma or an abuser, etc does exist. i speak from my own personal experience, one of our persecutors did awful things to our host causing it to go MIA for a little while, however that persecutor expressed regret and has spoken with some of my headmates - speaking how he did what he did because he thought it was right, how he thought that would make him feel better because of his own trauma. now is this the same for everyone? no but it does show that even alters who are usually given a stigma of always being ‘evil’ can grow and change and are not infact ‘evil’. theres also the whole ‘roleplay’ thing a lot of endos do, and while theres nothing inherently Wrong with roleplaying or making up new characters, equating it to something serious like DID/OSDD is very very inappropriate. it again - makes these mental illnesses seem all sunshine and happy times, when in reality it is not. and it is very wrong to treat something serious as a game, or a simple rp.

Now for preface we are Not saying all endos do this - even then some of it is unintentional, does not mean it doesnt happen though. there is also a huge problem with endos entering into survivor spaces for systems of trauma, and you can imagine how upsetting it is when you see someone enter said safe space and claim they experience what we do and potentially speak over trauma survivors - without actually having said trauma. it can negatively affect t systems that then can cause new trauma or bring up old, it can also make ti hard for t systems to feel safe in space made specifically FOR them.

now while there is no problem with questioning or being unsure of if you are a system (+ and not remembering trauma to cause it/etc) claiming you are something that simply pushes harmful stigmas and makes it harder for t systems to exist in a safe place (though if it is available you should ALWAYS go speak with a professional about trauma/mental illness - not with people on the internet), you may not realize it but using terms like alters or headmates, etc, you are bringing up confusing and misunderstanding as someone may see that and think oh so this is what DID/OSDD is actually like? etc which again it makes it harder for t systems to be like, um hey thats not true! because a lot of singlets arent always willing to actually listen to what we say, be it stigma or whatever its always a hit or miss with a majority of singlets.

when endogenic groups use terms specifically for DID/OSDD groups it conflates the terms with things that are Not a disorder, which disempowers someone who uses those terms to describe their disorder. its important to listen to those who are oppressed and stigmatized and not appropriate those terms. you can always make your own.

“Essentially, equating a phenomenon (experiencing more than one identity with no discerned cause) with a disorder is inappropriate.” is a statement i fully agree with (source located at the bottom of this) because using things not meant for you and associating the two is exactly that. 100% completely inappropriate, to use terms and things made for a oppressed and stigmatized group - and by some extension ignoring and speaking over that group is very very wrong.

td;lr: endo groups, on purpose or not, push a lot of harmful stigmas back onto the DID/OSDD community, they cause a lot of misinformation and harm as well (convincing people they have something they dont, or making it seem like they dont/shouldnt go to a therapist about mental illnesses/trauma, etc) and overall are very bad for the community. which is why we would rather avoid endo systems - as this blog is meant as a safe space for DID/OSDD systems alike. Not endogenic groups.

heres a very good post i found that has some very good points in it:

https://dissolutionandcreation.tumblr.com/post/161225123118/hey-are-you-against-endogenic-systems-if-so

i mean, yeah, trauma is inherent to traumagenic system origins, it’s in the name. doesn’t mean endos are any less valid.

anon im not having this discussion, if you disagree with what i stated please block me and leave.

[apsbicepstraining]

24 Things You Shouldn’t Appear Guilty For Revelling In At 24

At 24, you’re expected to have a lot figured out. Your profession, your personal relationships and your investments are suddenly all up to you to manage- and it’s a balancing act for the best of us. The truth of the matter is, we all need to indulge a few frailties in order to stay sane at twenty-four. Here got a few we need to stop hit ourselves up over.

1. Drinking wine alone.

There may not be many benefits to adulthood but this is indubitably one of them.

Youve stirred it through the years of imitation I.D.s, binge-drinking, nasty next-day hangovers and maybe even a interval or two of moderation.

Now that youve learned to( largely) administer your liquor, youre clear to enjoy it responsibly that is, alone on your couch on a Thursday evening, like young adults. Because you worked hard the coming week. And you deserve it.

2. Dating someone you dont want to marry.

By twenty-four, your Facebook photo stream is nothing but a gallery of ring finger with stones nuzzled onto them. And while the pressure to find your soulmate is seeming realer than ever, the very important to remember that you dont have to find them tomorrow.

You still have time to date around. You still have is high time to get your mettle crack. You still have time to go on bad Tinder dates, requiem over ridiculous hookups and prosecute the guy or daughter who are not able be the one, but who clears you fairly glad right now.

The more heavines you put on noticing the one, the more your sexual love will balk under the pressure. So take the possibility of being chill out, move slowly and give whatever happens, happen. You have plenty of age left to find your future partner at twenty-four years.

3. Announcing to your mummy.

Just because youre a full-blown adult who may even have things like a errand and their own suite you havent stopped being someones son or daughter. And you havent stopped necessary support from the people who know you best.

Its okay to have dates where the world feels like too much. Its okay to not have it together one hundred percent of the time. And its okay to still lean on kinfolk or sidekicks who maintain you afloat. They love you and they want to be there for you the same direction youd be there for them in an instant if they needed it.

So you binged on twenty-five dollar candles. So your living room looks just like a pinterest board but your purse took a trouncing to corroborate it. And as frivolous as those buys may seem in retrospect, its okay to establish them now and then.

Because the thing about being twenty-four is that youre transitioning between life phases. And you sometimes need to indulge in a few transitional objectives to induce yourself detect more like the adult that you are becoming.

5. Leading out and getting 21 st-birthday-style drunk.

You dont have to be completely done having fun at twenty-four.

You may not hit up the dance storey as regularly as you used to, but theres no reproach in used to go every now and then and living it up the direction you used to when you were twenty-one and twenty-two.

You have real world responsibilities now, and with that comes real-world stress. The nature you need to blow off, in whatever method works for you.

6. Missing the hell out of your ex.

Navigating life gets lonely thats an irrefutable fact , no matter how surrounded by loved ones “you think youre”. Its tough to take on brand-new phases of your life all alone, and its natural to miss the ones who formerly took them on alongside us.

Its not weak or pathetic or worrisome to spot yourself missing your ex at twenty-four. Its only human to miss who weve cherished. And you have all the time on earth to move on.

7. Wreaking a position just to get money.

Its okay to not be working your fantasy undertaking at twenty-four.

If youre attracting in enough coin to money your own hire, make minimum payments on your student loans and keep your energy from shutting off, youre doing a whole lot better than most.

Be patient with your daydreams and ideals. You have a long occupation ahead of you to pursue them, and your pragmatism will be represented you in the long run.

8. Expending your money on traveling.

If youre enthusiastic and free enough to travel at twenty-four, future developments self will thank you terribly for having done so. The knowledge you compile will intend more to you than the dreaming mansion or automobile you could have acquired one year sooner had you stayed home and hoarded your paychecks.

Plus, “youve never” know which commitments are suddenly going to pop up and keep you settled in one target. This may be the last chance you have to travel freely, for many years to come.

9. Staying home while everybody else is traveling.

Just as traveling is worthwhile and admirable if its what you truly crave from their own lives, the same could be said of abiding residence.

While your Facebook feed is spate with photographs of your ex-pat friends in Asia, take pride in your own decisiveness and future directions if youd instead be at home advancing professionally. Youre old sufficient to reach your own selects at twenty-four and you dont have to hop on whichever bandwagon examines the most glamorous.

10. Experimenting with your identity.

Theres still so much is high time to figure out who you are at twenty-four. You arent chained to the identity you structured in college or high school or childhood, and you shouldnt be ashamed to keep inquiring yourself.

Dye your fuzz a strange colouring. Get a tattoo. Take up a brand-new sport or brand-new pastime. Its never too late to start something new. You could be a whole new person by the time you stumble twenty-six or seven.

You cant burn the candle at both ends and expect to somehow remain sane. Youre old-fashioned enough and secure enough to know when you need a nighttime in. And the last situation you should ever feel is guilty for cashing in on your right to have one.

For some, a frightful promotion and compensate heighten is an accomplishment. For others, simply getting out of bed and taking a shower every morning is a accomplishment.

Whatever it is that youre proud of yourself for going done, own that pride. You are your own best friend and counselor at twenty-four. And if you cant celebrate your accomplishments, who else is going to?

13. Equating yourself to others your age.

Comparisons can be undesirable and detrimental at worst but they can also be perfectly normal.

If youre rarely weighing yourself up to the people around you and determining yourself coming up short, congratulations you are a human being. Youre going to feel inadequate sometimes. Youre going to feel like everybody else is onward. And the only thing worse than drawing likeness between yourself and others is overpowering yourself up for doing so.

Comparisons are a natural part of life. And as long as you can accept that and take them with a grain of salt, youre perhaps going to be just fine.

14. Allowing your friendships to change.

Its normal to find an enormous amount of push to conserve old friendships at twenty-four. Youre in a new chapter of life, but you dont want to leave the people from your last phase behind.

But that doesnt mean you have to break your back to keep something together. Ensure your friends a little less doesnt mean youve stopped desiring them. It just means youre ready to cherish them differently in a way that works better for both of you.

15. Asking for help at work.

Its ordinary to feel as though you should unexpectedly know as soon as somebody mitts you a big-boy or big-girl undertaking. But thats an unrealistic expectancy.

Refusing to ask for help merely means that youre limiting yourself and your potential. Its okay to indulge in the skills required of others at twenty-four years old. Possibilities are, all of your supervisors formerly did the exact same.

16. Dismissing everyone elses advice for you.

Just as its useful to know when you need assistant at twenty-four, its also useful to know when the advice youre being given isnt helpful. Just because youre at the bottom of the barrel professionally or personally doesnt means you dont inherently know whats excellent for you. And you owe it to yourself to follow that insight above all else.

17. Trying the newest fad diet.

Dont worry about being that guy or girlfriend. Youre learning what works for your organization and thats going to make some trial and error along the way.

So you hop on board the kale fad or try out a brand-new juice purify. Just because its overdone in the media doesnt mean its not going to work for you. In reality, youd has become a buffoon to opt out of trying something you want to try exclusively because it is favourite.

18. Skipping the gym now and then.

Fitness and health are important but its no secret that you have a lot of rivalling priorities at twenty-four.

Sometimes youre forced to sacrifice a bit of self-care to get ahead professionally and personally. And thats okay. As long as youre able to keep yourself on a health regime that works for you long-term, the odd bounced workout wont kill you. So cut yourself some slack when you need it. Youre not doing yourself any advantages by over-exerting yourself.

19. Saying No to professional or personal commitments.

If you said yes to every social commitment, networking incident, employment assignment and familial commitment that you were invited to, youd physically drop dead by the age of twenty-five. Memorizing when to strategically say No is not just a suggestion for your twenty-fourth year of life its a survival programme.

20. Watching too much Netflix.

Theres ever something more meaningful or important you could be doing with their own lives than watching Tv. But sometimes “youve been” exactly is a requirement to escape actuality for several hours at a time. And thats okay. You cant be on youre a-game 24 hours per day, 7 days a week. Youre only human.

21. Still missing college sometimes.

Life as a young adult is exciting and invigorating and parcelled with new opportunities. But its likewise stressful and harried and seemingly impossible to navigate some dates. And on those daylights, its okay to remember about simpler experiences. Missing the past doesnt mean that you are not moving forward it precisely means youre able to appreciate the good times that youve had.

22. Forming some greedy decisions.

Youre allowed to quit the job that is constructing your mothers proud of you. Youre allowed to break up with members of the public who perfect on paper. Youre allowed to choose yourself, over and over and over again when youre twenty-four years old. Because if you are not putting yourself firstly at this stage of life , nobody else is going to do it for you.

23. Still harboring pipe dreams about living and ardour and handiwork.

Youre faced with a lot of coarse realities at twenty-four years old but that doesnt mean you have to let go of the ridiculously gigantic dreamings that youve been reining since childhood.

If youre not fantasy of bigger and better and more amazing things for yourself at twenty-four years, youre likely doing something wrong. Because the only behavior to stimulate those daydreams come true is to keep adamantly agreeing to them.

24. Taking your damn age figuring happenings out.

If theres anything you still have at twenty-four, its age. Time to try, time to miscarry, time to fall down and mess up and pick yourself back up, as many times as you still need to.

You dont have to have your entire life figured out at twenty-four years old. You precisely have to be committed to trying your damnedest at got to get. And if youre doing that, youre going to be more than okay.

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24 Things You Shouldn’t Appear Guilty For Revelling In At 24

At 24, you’re expected to have a lot figured out. Your profession, your personal relationships and your investments are suddenly all up to you to manage- and it’s a balancing act for the best of us. The truth of the matter is, we all need to indulge a few frailties in order to stay sane at twenty-four. Here got a few we need to stop hit ourselves up over.

1. Drinking wine alone.

There may not be many benefits to adulthood but this is indubitably one of them.

Youve stirred it through the years of imitation I.D.s, binge-drinking, nasty next-day hangovers and maybe even a interval or two of moderation.

Now that youve learned to( largely) administer your liquor, youre clear to enjoy it responsibly that is, alone on your couch on a Thursday evening, like young adults. Because you worked hard the coming week. And you deserve it.

2. Dating someone you dont want to marry.

By twenty-four, your Facebook photo stream is nothing but a gallery of ring finger with stones nuzzled onto them. And while the pressure to find your soulmate is seeming realer than ever, the very important to remember that you dont have to find them tomorrow.

You still have time to date around. You still have is high time to get your mettle crack. You still have time to go on bad Tinder dates, requiem over ridiculous hookups and prosecute the guy or daughter who are not able be the one, but who clears you fairly glad right now.

The more heavines you put on noticing the one, the more your sexual love will balk under the pressure. So take the possibility of being chill out, move slowly and give whatever happens, happen. You have plenty of age left to find your future partner at twenty-four years.

3. Announcing to your mummy.

Just because youre a full-blown adult who may even have things like a errand and their own suite you havent stopped being someones son or daughter. And you havent stopped necessary support from the people who know you best.

Its okay to have dates where the world feels like too much. Its okay to not have it together one hundred percent of the time. And its okay to still lean on kinfolk or sidekicks who maintain you afloat. They love you and they want to be there for you the same direction youd be there for them in an instant if they needed it.

So you binged on twenty-five dollar candles. So your living room looks just like a pinterest board but your purse took a trouncing to corroborate it. And as frivolous as those buys may seem in retrospect, its okay to establish them now and then.

Because the thing about being twenty-four is that youre transitioning between life phases. And you sometimes need to indulge in a few transitional objectives to induce yourself detect more like the adult that you are becoming.

5. Leading out and getting 21 st-birthday-style drunk.

You dont have to be completely done having fun at twenty-four.

You may not hit up the dance storey as regularly as you used to, but theres no reproach in used to go every now and then and living it up the direction you used to when you were twenty-one and twenty-two.

You have real world responsibilities now, and with that comes real-world stress. The nature you need to blow off, in whatever method works for you.

6. Missing the hell out of your ex.

Navigating life gets lonely thats an irrefutable fact , no matter how surrounded by loved ones “you think youre”. Its tough to take on brand-new phases of your life all alone, and its natural to miss the ones who formerly took them on alongside us.

Its not weak or pathetic or worrisome to spot yourself missing your ex at twenty-four. Its only human to miss who weve cherished. And you have all the time on earth to move on.

7. Wreaking a position just to get money.

Its okay to not be working your fantasy undertaking at twenty-four.

If youre attracting in enough coin to money your own hire, make minimum payments on your student loans and keep your energy from shutting off, youre doing a whole lot better than most.

Be patient with your daydreams and ideals. You have a long occupation ahead of you to pursue them, and your pragmatism will be represented you in the long run.

8. Expending your money on traveling.

If youre enthusiastic and free enough to travel at twenty-four, future developments self will thank you terribly for having done so. The knowledge you compile will intend more to you than the dreaming mansion or automobile you could have acquired one year sooner had you stayed home and hoarded your paychecks.

Plus, “youve never” know which commitments are suddenly going to pop up and keep you settled in one target. This may be the last chance you have to travel freely, for many years to come.

9. Staying home while everybody else is traveling.

Just as traveling is worthwhile and admirable if its what you truly crave from their own lives, the same could be said of abiding residence.

While your Facebook feed is spate with photographs of your ex-pat friends in Asia, take pride in your own decisiveness and future directions if youd instead be at home advancing professionally. Youre old sufficient to reach your own selects at twenty-four and you dont have to hop on whichever bandwagon examines the most glamorous.

10. Experimenting with your identity.

Theres still so much is high time to figure out who you are at twenty-four. You arent chained to the identity you structured in college or high school or childhood, and you shouldnt be ashamed to keep inquiring yourself.

Dye your fuzz a strange colouring. Get a tattoo. Take up a brand-new sport or brand-new pastime. Its never too late to start something new. You could be a whole new person by the time you stumble twenty-six or seven.

You cant burn the candle at both ends and expect to somehow remain sane. Youre old-fashioned enough and secure enough to know when you need a nighttime in. And the last situation you should ever feel is guilty for cashing in on your right to have one.

For some, a frightful promotion and compensate heighten is an accomplishment. For others, simply getting out of bed and taking a shower every morning is a accomplishment.

Whatever it is that youre proud of yourself for going done, own that pride. You are your own best friend and counselor at twenty-four. And if you cant celebrate your accomplishments, who else is going to?

13. Equating yourself to others your age.

Comparisons can be undesirable and detrimental at worst but they can also be perfectly normal.

If youre rarely weighing yourself up to the people around you and determining yourself coming up short, congratulations you are a human being. Youre going to feel inadequate sometimes. Youre going to feel like everybody else is onward. And the only thing worse than drawing likeness between yourself and others is overpowering yourself up for doing so.

Comparisons are a natural part of life. And as long as you can accept that and take them with a grain of salt, youre perhaps going to be just fine.

14. Allowing your friendships to change.

Its normal to find an enormous amount of push to conserve old friendships at twenty-four. Youre in a new chapter of life, but you dont want to leave the people from your last phase behind.

But that doesnt mean you have to break your back to keep something together. Ensure your friends a little less doesnt mean youve stopped desiring them. It just means youre ready to cherish them differently in a way that works better for both of you.

15. Asking for help at work.

Its ordinary to feel as though you should unexpectedly know as soon as somebody mitts you a big-boy or big-girl undertaking. But thats an unrealistic expectancy.

Refusing to ask for help merely means that youre limiting yourself and your potential. Its okay to indulge in the skills required of others at twenty-four years old. Possibilities are, all of your supervisors formerly did the exact same.

16. Dismissing everyone elses advice for you.

Just as its useful to know when you need assistant at twenty-four, its also useful to know when the advice youre being given isnt helpful. Just because youre at the bottom of the barrel professionally or personally doesnt means you dont inherently know whats excellent for you. And you owe it to yourself to follow that insight above all else.

17. Trying the newest fad diet.

Dont worry about being that guy or girlfriend. Youre learning what works for your organization and thats going to make some trial and error along the way.

So you hop on board the kale fad or try out a brand-new juice purify. Just because its overdone in the media doesnt mean its not going to work for you. In reality, youd has become a buffoon to opt out of trying something you want to try exclusively because it is favourite.

18. Skipping the gym now and then.

Fitness and health are important but its no secret that you have a lot of rivalling priorities at twenty-four.

Sometimes youre forced to sacrifice a bit of self-care to get ahead professionally and personally. And thats okay. As long as youre able to keep yourself on a health regime that works for you long-term, the odd bounced workout wont kill you. So cut yourself some slack when you need it. Youre not doing yourself any advantages by over-exerting yourself.

19. Saying No to professional or personal commitments.

If you said yes to every social commitment, networking incident, employment assignment and familial commitment that you were invited to, youd physically drop dead by the age of twenty-five. Memorizing when to strategically say No is not just a suggestion for your twenty-fourth year of life its a survival programme.

20. Watching too much Netflix.

Theres ever something more meaningful or important you could be doing with their own lives than watching Tv. But sometimes “youve been” exactly is a requirement to escape actuality for several hours at a time. And thats okay. You cant be on youre a-game 24 hours per day, 7 days a week. Youre only human.

21. Still missing college sometimes.

Life as a young adult is exciting and invigorating and parcelled with new opportunities. But its likewise stressful and harried and seemingly impossible to navigate some dates. And on those daylights, its okay to remember about simpler experiences. Missing the past doesnt mean that you are not moving forward it precisely means youre able to appreciate the good times that youve had.

22. Forming some greedy decisions.

Youre allowed to quit the job that is constructing your mothers proud of you. Youre allowed to break up with members of the public who perfect on paper. Youre allowed to choose yourself, over and over and over again when youre twenty-four years old. Because if you are not putting yourself firstly at this stage of life , nobody else is going to do it for you.

23. Still harboring pipe dreams about living and ardour and handiwork.

Youre faced with a lot of coarse realities at twenty-four years old but that doesnt mean you have to let go of the ridiculously gigantic dreamings that youve been reining since childhood.

If youre not fantasy of bigger and better and more amazing things for yourself at twenty-four years, youre likely doing something wrong. Because the only behavior to stimulate those daydreams come true is to keep adamantly agreeing to them.

24. Taking your damn age figuring happenings out.

If theres anything you still have at twenty-four, its age. Time to try, time to miscarry, time to fall down and mess up and pick yourself back up, as many times as you still need to.

You dont have to have your entire life figured out at twenty-four years old. You precisely have to be committed to trying your damnedest at got to get. And if youre doing that, youre going to be more than okay.

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24 Things You Shouldn’t Appear Guilty For Revelling In At 24

At 24, you’re expected to have a lot figured out. Your profession, your personal relationships and your investments are suddenly all up to you to manage- and it’s a balancing act for the best of us. The truth of the matter is, we all need to indulge a few frailties in order to stay sane at twenty-four. Here got a few we need to stop hit ourselves up over.

1. Drinking wine alone.

There may not be many benefits to adulthood but this is indubitably one of them.

Youve stirred it through the years of imitation I.D.s, binge-drinking, nasty next-day hangovers and maybe even a interval or two of moderation.

Now that youve learned to( largely) administer your liquor, youre clear to enjoy it responsibly that is, alone on your couch on a Thursday evening, like young adults. Because you worked hard the coming week. And you deserve it.

2. Dating someone you dont want to marry.

By twenty-four, your Facebook photo stream is nothing but a gallery of ring finger with stones nuzzled onto them. And while the pressure to find your soulmate is seeming realer than ever, the very important to remember that you dont have to find them tomorrow.

You still have time to date around. You still have is high time to get your mettle crack. You still have time to go on bad Tinder dates, requiem over ridiculous hookups and prosecute the guy or daughter who are not able be the one, but who clears you fairly glad right now.

The more heavines you put on noticing the one, the more your sexual love will balk under the pressure. So take the possibility of being chill out, move slowly and give whatever happens, happen. You have plenty of age left to find your future partner at twenty-four years.

3. Announcing to your mummy.

Just because youre a full-blown adult who may even have things like a errand and their own suite you havent stopped being someones son or daughter. And you havent stopped necessary support from the people who know you best.

Its okay to have dates where the world feels like too much. Its okay to not have it together one hundred percent of the time. And its okay to still lean on kinfolk or sidekicks who maintain you afloat. They love you and they want to be there for you the same direction youd be there for them in an instant if they needed it.

So you binged on twenty-five dollar candles. So your living room looks just like a pinterest board but your purse took a trouncing to corroborate it. And as frivolous as those buys may seem in retrospect, its okay to establish them now and then.

Because the thing about being twenty-four is that youre transitioning between life phases. And you sometimes need to indulge in a few transitional objectives to induce yourself detect more like the adult that you are becoming.

5. Leading out and getting 21 st-birthday-style drunk.

You dont have to be completely done having fun at twenty-four.

You may not hit up the dance storey as regularly as you used to, but theres no reproach in used to go every now and then and living it up the direction you used to when you were twenty-one and twenty-two.

You have real world responsibilities now, and with that comes real-world stress. The nature you need to blow off, in whatever method works for you.

6. Missing the hell out of your ex.

Navigating life gets lonely thats an irrefutable fact , no matter how surrounded by loved ones “you think youre”. Its tough to take on brand-new phases of your life all alone, and its natural to miss the ones who formerly took them on alongside us.

Its not weak or pathetic or worrisome to spot yourself missing your ex at twenty-four. Its only human to miss who weve cherished. And you have all the time on earth to move on.

7. Wreaking a position just to get money.

Its okay to not be working your fantasy undertaking at twenty-four.

If youre attracting in enough coin to money your own hire, make minimum payments on your student loans and keep your energy from shutting off, youre doing a whole lot better than most.

Be patient with your daydreams and ideals. You have a long occupation ahead of you to pursue them, and your pragmatism will be represented you in the long run.

8. Expending your money on traveling.

If youre enthusiastic and free enough to travel at twenty-four, future developments self will thank you terribly for having done so. The knowledge you compile will intend more to you than the dreaming mansion or automobile you could have acquired one year sooner had you stayed home and hoarded your paychecks.

Plus, “youve never” know which commitments are suddenly going to pop up and keep you settled in one target. This may be the last chance you have to travel freely, for many years to come.

9. Staying home while everybody else is traveling.

Just as traveling is worthwhile and admirable if its what you truly crave from their own lives, the same could be said of abiding residence.

While your Facebook feed is spate with photographs of your ex-pat friends in Asia, take pride in your own decisiveness and future directions if youd instead be at home advancing professionally. Youre old sufficient to reach your own selects at twenty-four and you dont have to hop on whichever bandwagon examines the most glamorous.

10. Experimenting with your identity.

Theres still so much is high time to figure out who you are at twenty-four. You arent chained to the identity you structured in college or high school or childhood, and you shouldnt be ashamed to keep inquiring yourself.

Dye your fuzz a strange colouring. Get a tattoo. Take up a brand-new sport or brand-new pastime. Its never too late to start something new. You could be a whole new person by the time you stumble twenty-six or seven.

You cant burn the candle at both ends and expect to somehow remain sane. Youre old-fashioned enough and secure enough to know when you need a nighttime in. And the last situation you should ever feel is guilty for cashing in on your right to have one.

For some, a frightful promotion and compensate heighten is an accomplishment. For others, simply getting out of bed and taking a shower every morning is a accomplishment.

Whatever it is that youre proud of yourself for going done, own that pride. You are your own best friend and counselor at twenty-four. And if you cant celebrate your accomplishments, who else is going to?

13. Equating yourself to others your age.

Comparisons can be undesirable and detrimental at worst but they can also be perfectly normal.

If youre rarely weighing yourself up to the people around you and determining yourself coming up short, congratulations you are a human being. Youre going to feel inadequate sometimes. Youre going to feel like everybody else is onward. And the only thing worse than drawing likeness between yourself and others is overpowering yourself up for doing so.

Comparisons are a natural part of life. And as long as you can accept that and take them with a grain of salt, youre perhaps going to be just fine.

14. Allowing your friendships to change.

Its normal to find an enormous amount of push to conserve old friendships at twenty-four. Youre in a new chapter of life, but you dont want to leave the people from your last phase behind.

But that doesnt mean you have to break your back to keep something together. Ensure your friends a little less doesnt mean youve stopped desiring them. It just means youre ready to cherish them differently in a way that works better for both of you.

15. Asking for help at work.

Its ordinary to feel as though you should unexpectedly know as soon as somebody mitts you a big-boy or big-girl undertaking. But thats an unrealistic expectancy.

Refusing to ask for help merely means that youre limiting yourself and your potential. Its okay to indulge in the skills required of others at twenty-four years old. Possibilities are, all of your supervisors formerly did the exact same.

16. Dismissing everyone elses advice for you.

Just as its useful to know when you need assistant at twenty-four, its also useful to know when the advice youre being given isnt helpful. Just because youre at the bottom of the barrel professionally or personally doesnt means you dont inherently know whats excellent for you. And you owe it to yourself to follow that insight above all else.

17. Trying the newest fad diet.

Dont worry about being that guy or girlfriend. Youre learning what works for your organization and thats going to make some trial and error along the way.

So you hop on board the kale fad or try out a brand-new juice purify. Just because its overdone in the media doesnt mean its not going to work for you. In reality, youd has become a buffoon to opt out of trying something you want to try exclusively because it is favourite.

18. Skipping the gym now and then.

Fitness and health are important but its no secret that you have a lot of rivalling priorities at twenty-four.

Sometimes youre forced to sacrifice a bit of self-care to get ahead professionally and personally. And thats okay. As long as youre able to keep yourself on a health regime that works for you long-term, the odd bounced workout wont kill you. So cut yourself some slack when you need it. Youre not doing yourself any advantages by over-exerting yourself.

19. Saying No to professional or personal commitments.

If you said yes to every social commitment, networking incident, employment assignment and familial commitment that you were invited to, youd physically drop dead by the age of twenty-five. Memorizing when to strategically say No is not just a suggestion for your twenty-fourth year of life its a survival programme.

20. Watching too much Netflix.

Theres ever something more meaningful or important you could be doing with their own lives than watching Tv. But sometimes “youve been” exactly is a requirement to escape actuality for several hours at a time. And thats okay. You cant be on youre a-game 24 hours per day, 7 days a week. Youre only human.

21. Still missing college sometimes.

Life as a young adult is exciting and invigorating and parcelled with new opportunities. But its likewise stressful and harried and seemingly impossible to navigate some dates. And on those daylights, its okay to remember about simpler experiences. Missing the past doesnt mean that you are not moving forward it precisely means youre able to appreciate the good times that youve had.

22. Forming some greedy decisions.

Youre allowed to quit the job that is constructing your mothers proud of you. Youre allowed to break up with members of the public who perfect on paper. Youre allowed to choose yourself, over and over and over again when youre twenty-four years old. Because if you are not putting yourself firstly at this stage of life , nobody else is going to do it for you.

23. Still harboring pipe dreams about living and ardour and handiwork.

Youre faced with a lot of coarse realities at twenty-four years old but that doesnt mean you have to let go of the ridiculously gigantic dreamings that youve been reining since childhood.

If youre not fantasy of bigger and better and more amazing things for yourself at twenty-four years, youre likely doing something wrong. Because the only behavior to stimulate those daydreams come true is to keep adamantly agreeing to them.

24. Taking your damn age figuring happenings out.

If theres anything you still have at twenty-four, its age. Time to try, time to miscarry, time to fall down and mess up and pick yourself back up, as many times as you still need to.

You dont have to have your entire life figured out at twenty-four years old. You precisely have to be committed to trying your damnedest at got to get. And if youre doing that, youre going to be more than okay.

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