#theme: conversion therapy

[anti-endo-help]

hey!! uhm.. how do I say this. what the fuck is wrong with you??

seriously, what the fuck is wrong with you.

all this implies is that anti-endos are a cult, which is actively.. insane to think?? also, the conversion camp thing is just.. i'm speechless??

implying that trauma survivors, many of which have religious or cult trauma, are a cult is fucking deranged and a rather dog shit take.

go fuck yourself, you ableist piece of shit.

[ID: STOP! this blog is a strictly anti-endo space! pro-endos and endo neutrals, shoo! shoo shoo!]

[aftgficrec]

It open!

Is there any new Nicky and or/twinyard centred fics or any Kevin wymack bonding ones?

Or wymack parenting the other foxes?

Thank you in Advance

There is a lot here, so we split this up.  You can find fics about Nicky and the twinyards here, both canon compliant (or at least adjacent) and AUs.  Find Kevin & Wymack bonding here and Wymack parenting the Foxes here. - S

Previous recs:

Nicky with both or one twin here - see the extensive list on previous recs in this post

Nicky parenting the twins here 

new twinyards bonding here - also features many previous recs

Nicky & depression here

Nicky-centric fics here

big brother Nicky here

bad days-andreil & nerik here

angst w/comfort for andreil and nerik here

Nicky after thanksgiving here

Nicky in germany 2 here

long distance soft nerik here

‘AFTG/TFC minifics… ch 84’ here

‘Afterthoughts ch 90’ here

‘A two-man team’, ‘Something Good’, ‘Love is Patient, Love is Kind’ here

‘It’s a love story, baby’ here

Nicky-centric:

All We Got Was Bruised by Rose_vine [Rated M, 48214 words, complete, 2024]

They sent people to Camp Full Point to change them. Nicky was a boy made of secrets and lies, and he had broken a long time ago. Camp Full Point might just be the thing that kills him. Or, Nicky's parents send him to Conversion Camp. This is that story.

tw: violence, tw: blood, tw: conversion therapy, tw: electroconvulsive therapy, tw: implied/referenced torture, tw: religious guilt, tw: implied/referenced homophobia, tw: internalized homophobia, tw: restricted eating

Struggling in Silence by Ciara_Westford [Rated M, 34487 words, incomplete, last updated July 2024]

Nicky has been struggling with his mental health for a while. He tries to hide it from the others, but after a more or less public meltdown, he can't hide it any longer. The other foxes, as well as Wymack, Abby and Betsy want to help him, but Nicky doesn't know how to accept help from others.

tw: depression, tw: suicidal thoughts, tw: conversion therapy, tw: implied/referenced child abuse, tw: panic attacks, tw: nightmares, tw: vomit, tw: implied/referenced self harm

Holy and free by sapphosgaycousin [Rated M, 2871 words, complete, 2024]

„Will you come to mass with us for Easter?“ That’s how it all started to go south. When Erik’s mother had asked him to attend church with them on Easter Sunday, Nicky had said yes without thinking twice. What bad could happen, right?

tw: ptsd, tw: implied/referenced child abuse, tw: religious trauma, tw: vomit

Nicky is the sun that shines even through the clouds series by ThePureMonster [Rated E/G, 21452 words, 2 complete works, 2024]

Part 1: We'll pray for you, honey (E, 15038 words)

"Homosexuality is a sin. Homosexuals are doomed to burn in hell forever, if they want to change, they can be healed. By rejecting temptation, they will become normal again. They must try and make more efforts if it doesn't work." That's what Nicky had been hearing all his life. And he really tried his best until one day he stopped. Nicky's difficult path to himself.

tw: violence, tw: child abuse, tw: rape/noncon, tw: suicidal thoughts, tw: homophobia, tw: conversion therapy, tw: depression, tw: religious trauma

Part 2: We love you, Nicky (G, 6414 words)

Five times when the Foxes learn a little more about Nicky's terrible past. And one time Nicky feels confident enough to open his heart and tell them the truth.

tw: panic attacks, tw: implied/referenced rape/noncon

Du bist der Einzige für mich by Anonymous [Rated G, 772 words, complete, 2024]

Nicky gets jealous, Erik reassures him.

A little crush turned into a like by HereBeChickens [Rated T, 3814 words, complete, Aftg Mixtape Exchange 2024]

In the end, it’s his German teacher that works everything out. Or, Nicky's year in Germany with his host brother that he totally does not have a crush on and his feelings that he totally has under control.

tw: implied/referenced homophobia, tw: implied/referenced conversion therapy, tw: implied/referenced suicidal thoughts

I'm never gonna not dance again by Acetober (allfortheBoyds) [Rated T, 7023 words, complete, 2023]

Pole dancing, as it turns out, is fucking hard. Even the simplest swing requires a type of body control Nicky doesn‘t think he‘ll ever be able to possess. He tries anyway and with a few tries and tips from Dan he manages a decent performance. Out of the corner of his eye he sees Kevin - looking as grumpy as ever - strap into a pair of hot pink heels. He wobbles around like an oversized newborn fawn. or 5 times Nicky danced in front of other people +1 time he danced only for himself (and Erik)

Twinyards-focussed:

Come across the universe between you and I by bInTheMoon [Rated M, 4258 words, complete, 2024]

“Aaron! Wake!” “Hey,” Aaron answered his twin, who was crouched at his side and staring at him. “I bought ice cream, it’s on the bag.” “What the fuck, Aaron!” Andrew hissed, his cold eyes not leaving him for a second. “What happened?” “Accident.” ---- Or: Only they would need an accident to take another step to healing.

tw: car accidents, tw: injuries

I‘d die to be somebody you could love by moonlightboyz [Rated M, 39860 words, incomplete, last updated June 2024]

"For a medicine student you're really dense sometimes." It was quiet for a while before Andrew spoke up again. "I don't know, how to be your brother, Aaron. Not the one you want, but I'm trying." "And I'm trying too." OR This fanfic explores Aaron Minyard’s complicated feelings regarding Andrew Minyard and how he learns how to love and be loved by his brother.

tw: implied/referenced child abuse, tw: drug abuse, tw: suicidal thoughts, tw: panic attacks, tw: disordered eating, tw: self harm, tw: negative self image

Don’t go where I can’t follow by moonlightboyz [Rated M, 8579 words, complete, 2024]

Andrew held out his hand between them and Aaron intertwined their pinkies. “I promise to never leave your side.” He muttered. “I promise to protect you and never leave your side.” Andrew echoed. OR an AU where Nicky kills Tilda and Drake and the twins live with a foster parent while they wait for Nicky to be released from prison and everything else that happens while they wait.

tw: implied/referenced child abuse, tw: implied/referenced drug addiction, tw: implied/referenced murder

Slings and Arrows by This_Witch_Writes [Rated T, 5935 words, complete, 2022, locked]

Andrew Minyard had spent quite a lot of his admittedly short life wanting to die. It wasn’t really a secret though he didn’t talk about it. The evidence was right there on his arms, in every cigarette, in the way he stood between those he’d chosen to protect and a world that wouldn’t hesitate to leave Andrew in a cold ditch. So he was a little surprised that now that he was going to die he was so pissed off about it. His only thought as the gunshot rang in his ears was a pathetic ‘this isn’t supposed to happen’ like life had ever cared what he thought. - As he faces down what could be the end, Andrew considers his complicated relationship with his own survival.

tw: suicidal thoughts, tw: past suicide attempt, tw: gun violence

Nicky & the twinyards:

Mom by high_lady_kate [Rated M, 1941 words, incomplete, last updated April 2024]

"“Are you sure about this?” Nicky wanted to shout no! and then several insults regarding Tilda Minyard. Instead he grinned at Erik and finished zipping his suitcase." Or: Nicky Hemmick is 19 when he gets custody of the Minyard Twins.

Eat Your Young by Rose_vine [Rated M, 1947 words, complete, 2024]

Any hopeful feelings vanished the second he sat down on the medical chair in the doctor’s office. There weren’t any straps on it, but Nicky felt like he was constricted anyway. He remembered viscerally the sensation of thrashing without being allowed to move, the buckles that had wrapped around his arms, legs, and chest. The bite guard they’d shoved in his mouth, tasting like vomit. “Nicky,” Andrew said. Nicky looked up with wild eyes. “I can’t,” he gasped.

tw: ptsd, tw: anxiety

The secrets we keep by DrowningStrawberry [Rated T, 5067 words, complete, 2024]

Andrew never kills Tilda, he never had too. A certain cousin had gotten there first. or Nicky Hemmick has a murder problem.

tw: implied/referenced murder, tw: implied/referenced conversion therapy, tw: implied/referenced abuse

And I Fall by DrowningStrawberry [Rated M, 3193 words, complete, 2024]

“Maybe Eric is glad you stayed away longer because he doesn't want to have to see you.” And on and on and on in a rotation in his mind. Before he realizes he is moving, he's grabbed a knife and locked himself in the bathroom. Or Nicky's depression gets the best of him.

tw: depression, tw: suicidal thoughts, tw: suicide attempt

Nicky thinks the twins don’t love him by @hmmm-shesucks [tumblr, 2023]

Nicky thinks the twins don’t love him, but then they both get ejected from a game for beating the shit out of a guy who illegally hits Nicky hard enough Nicky breaks his wrist.

Nicky & Andrew by @bisexualchaosdemon [tumblr, 2024]

I think Nicky does piss Andrew off, but not because he's loud and dramatic; because he cares.

Art

Twinyards by @eeriethacus

twinyards by @art-foxx

Happy Birthday to the Minyard twins by @midgart

I dont smoke by Mitski and the Minyard brothers by @eeriethacus

Nicky after taking this picture: 🏃🏃🏃 by @prince-peachie

A little candy by @neroholik

Nicky Hemmick by @neroholik

I heard someone had a birthday some days ago😏 by @yarn_garn (Twitter)

[aziraphales-library]

Hi! I've tried looking for it myself, but I've only found two results and both were in languages I don't speak, so I think it's time to call in the experts :)

I'm looking for GO fics which talk about conversion therapy, I figured there must be some seeing as there are many queer and religious themes in Good Omens but so far I haven't had any luck finding them!

Thank you for your help, your patience and your hard work 💚

Hello! These are the only fics I can find that even mention conversion therapy...

The Truth by mordelle (T)

Adam and Warlock to dinner and Aziraphale is forced to talk about his bleak past.

Wednesday by originaldaniphantom (T)

Channeling Matilda and my Evangelism-infused upbringing: Crowley and Aziraphale are surrogate gay dads to a lil bby queer.

fast times at south downs university by littlesnowpea (T)

It’s 2:46 p.m. on a rainy Tuesday in March that Anathema Device, a Women’s History lecturer at South Downs University, realises the following things: She’s forgotten her umbrella again. Dr. Fell, the head of the English Department, offers to share his as they walk into campus together, and Dr. Fell is married. This is significant not because Dr. Fell shared his umbrella – he’s shared his umbrella many times before, and is quite generous – but instead is significant because in the entire two years Anathema Device has taught at South Downs University, she never knew Dr. Fell was married.

So Much to be Consoled as to Console by Arokel (T)

“What are you,” Crowley drawled, “the patron saint of queer kids?” A series of lost souls over the centuries who prayed, whether they knew it or not, to the Angel Aziraphale.

All This Bad Blood Here by erroneous_hedgehog (T)

Maggie moves to a new town and, in search of friends, stumbles into the community at a little church right near her house. The lives of Maggie and her friends will intertwine for a time, break apart, and come back together in somewhat spectacular fashion throughout their teenage years. - Told in scenes across several years, this is a soft, wishful piece (that skates over some much darker themes) that became progressively less realistic (but also more affirming) from one moment to the next.

- Mod D

[insonniacaotica]

Hi! If you are in the EU, take a moment to read this. The petition to ban conversion therapies has started. If you can, sign. If you can't, share. This is important.

[thewingedwolf]

i’m actually so happy i missed that discourse bc i was working so much bc if i had to sit with someone saying “the queen’s thief, a NEWBERRY AWARD WINNING SERIES, shouldn’t be considered kidlit bc it’s got torture in it” at work i think i would have lost my everloving mind actually.

[disneydatass]

Everytime a YouTuber/streamer/someone buys and or plays the hogwarts game they should immediately donate at least a $100 to a trans person

[maybeamiles]

Was playing around with some plot ideas for my OC's before going to bed but ran into some fundamental character clashes that cannot be resolved without fucking over one of my major themes so BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD WE GO.

[woso-dreamzzz]

Helper:Christmas

Arsenal Women x Child!Reader

Summary: Christmas with Guppy

"I...I don't understand. What's...What's going on?"

"Just keeping holding it up," Codi whispers to Rosa, who looks like she's about to lower the tinsel that she's holding up.

"I don't get it. What's going on?"

"We're decorating the tree."

"No, I get that. But why are we holding it up in a line?"

On her other side, Leah huffs. "Because Lia's raising a kid who doesn't like mess and gets freaked out by Christmas trees. Ow! Lia!"

Lia's elbow, none too kindly, digs a bit further into Leah's ribs.

"Don't make fun of her!" She snaps, imaginary hackles raised in annoyance at Leah's dismissal before turning to Rosa to explain, much more kindly. "Guppy...She gets a bit overwhelmed about this kind of stuff and these cretins like to go overboard until the tree's a big mess. So, Guppy gets to pick the theme and then we all decorate. Leah's exaggerating."

"I'm just saying! Maybe exposure therapy will be good for her! I love her, Lia, I do. You know that. But you have to admit, this-"

Lia whips her beads at Leah in annoyance.

"Alrigh! Alright! I get it! Sorry!"

Lia's not finished though as she points to practically everyone in line in turn. "None of you are allowed to talk about that kind of stuff while y/n's in the room too, do you understand? She's sensitive and I'm not letting any of you make it worse!"

"I think they get it," Mario intervenes quickly," No one wants to make her feel bad."

Rosa's kind of glad that Mariona did. She's never seen Lia angry before. Annoyed, yes. Overtired, yes. But never angry. Not truly anyway but she's heard how protective Lia gets over you.

You're not really an oddball. You're not overwhelmingly weird either. But something that Rosa's noted is that you're very particular. She's never met a child so particular in her life. You like things done in a certain way.

You get all fidgety and anxious if you're not allowed to do things in the way you want and tend to start things over if it hasn't gone perfectly. You flick the lights on and off twice in whatever room you leave and you always knock on doors twice.

Rosa's seen you on the team bus, getting Lia to buckle and unbuckle your seatbelt twice over just before the bus sets off to whatever away match they need to get to.

You're just...

Different.

It's clear that Lia knows that too and a lot of her energy is put into making sure no one makes you think that you don't fit in.

"Alright!" Kim comes in holding your hand and from what Rosa strains to hear from Mario and Lia's conversation, this is normal too.

Kim helps you pick out the theme.

You both whisper together, Kim clearly going along with your childish wonder and happiness. She crouches down at your side as you look between Rosa and Kyra's tinsel.

Rosa's holding a red one and Kyra's holding a gold one.

Kyra wiggles it enticingly in your face but your features all scrunch up at once as you move away from Kim to take Rosa's hand and then to choose Codi and her matching green tinsel as well.

"Alright," Kim says," And what about baubles?"

"Er..." You look at the rest of the team and all the baubles they hold up to you, suddenly overwhelmed with choices.

You look at Leah's glittery baubles and shake your head.

"Not-Not glitter ones."

Then you catch sight of Lia and Mario, immediately breaking away from Kim to go crashing into them.

"Mummy!" You gasp," You bought the special beads from home!"

Wound around what looks to be an old piece of cardboard, is a long string of silver beads.

"I did," Lia says," Because our tree is too little for them this year. I thought we could use them on the Arsenal tree."

You nod, head bobbing up and down happily before you also take Mario's hand, dragging her into your little group of chosen people without even looking at the bauble in her hands.

"Nah!" Leah complains," This is so unfair! Why can't I be chosen?"

"Because you clearly didn't choose a good bauble this year," Beth teases," Not like me."

"Not Beth's bauble either," You say to Kim.

"Wait...What? Come on, come back!"

Decorating the tree is a team effort because while you may have been the one to make your selection, you're much too small to decorate it all by yourself and Rosa's found herself with you on her shoulders as you strain to put a candy cane onto the tree.

"Careful," Lia warns her," Keep straight or she'll fall."

"Rosa's doing fine," Steph says," And it's not like Guppy is going to start throwing herself around. She's very responsible."

"I am, Mummy!" You say," Very responsible! I helped Mrs Gina find the missing gluestick lid yesterday!"

So, Lia ends up worrying from a distance and insists on being the one to lift you up so you can put the star on the tree before letting you down and leading you from the room without any more preamble.

"What's happening now?" Rosa whispers as it looks like everyone starts sitting down on the floor in a little circle that she has no option but to join.

"Lia's been doing this since Guppy was born," Caitlin explains," We're getting presents now. It was pretty cute the first time, little gifts in baby y/n's hands. It was her handprint the year she was born and then it was like little keychains? She's old enough to give them out by herself now."

The present Rosa gets is kind of soft and squishy and it doesn't rattle or anything when she holds it up to her ear and shakes.

"No opening until Christmas!" You say once everything's been given out and everyone's attention is on you," Because that ruins the surprise! You can only open them on Christmas!"

The little Arsenal teddy bear you got her sits on Rosa's desk for the rest of the season.

[thefriendlypigeon]

To make it short: I watched a show about gay men in the 50's and conversion therapy was a theme there so I thought to myself: "… but what if KINKY DOCTORS??" so I clapped my fanartist hands together and threw Destiel into this absolutely-not-problematic mix 😏💙💚

👉COMMISSIONS ARE OPEN👈

[my social media links]

[siddyyyyyyyy]

Unhinged

Jason Todd x Reader

MDNI wc: 0.7K summary: your roommate finds your messages you send your friend about him. warnings: suggestive themes, no y/n used, actually kind of cringe a/n: my dear friend accidently gave me this idea while spamming me with delicious Red Hood edits (@dollyure), evidence will be shared at the end. enjoy!!

You never thought this could happen. You were so careful to leave your own thoughts to yourself and never let Jason see the things you tell your friend. But of course, nothing really goes your way for some reason.

It took one thing for you to end up in this situation. One thing. And that was leaving your phone unattented on the sofa for a minute. Unlocked.

It was a typical evening as any other, just getting to relax and wind down at the end of the week on your favourite spot at the couch with your roommate. Jason was always pretty quiet but respectful of the shared space, a good friend if you want to wind down together. You rarely get to see him in the evenings but on days like this, when he stays in, it feels like a small reward for you.

Of course he doesn‘t know about any of this. Doesn‘t know anything about what your silly texts between you and your friends. You keep it a secret pretty well, so he won‘t think you are a complete weirdo.

Well, until that evening. Setting your phone quickly aside to get to your boiling tea kettle, you forgot to lock it. Jason sits at the other end of the fluffy couch and watches how you scurry away to get the boiling water to a stop. With an amused grin he gets back to his book but keeps getting distracted by the bright phonescreen just a little away from him. Glancing over, he sees the outlines of text bubbles but he can‘t see what‘s written in there yet.

He isn‘t trying to pry or get into your privacy, but the way the other person spams you non-stop is making him more curious. Whatever this conversation is about, he wants to know if it‘s a conflict or some sort of gossip.

Jason checks if you are still in the kitchen and sees you preparing your tea and some sweets. He technically has enough time to snatch your phone while it‘s still open and gets to have a look over the texts. Who knows, maybe he will find out some interesting things on there. So, with these weak excuses, he grabs your phone and starts reading through them.

UNTIL YOUR TONGUE FADES COLOUR??? I mean every word I say. Wow. Just…

His brows furrow. What does this even mean? Are tongues even capable of fading colour? With a quick glance to the kitchen, he scrolls up, reading through the older messages.

From the couch, to the shower, to the bed, from the wall to the floor from missionary to cowgirl, straddled on top JUST LET ME HITTT

His jaw drops. Jason quickly composes himself and sits up, clearing his throat. He is sure he will need extra therapy after this. Ignoring the unfamiliar, warm feeling in his lower abdomen, he continues to read through them. Unsurprisingly, he finds a picture of himself in the chat. His profile picture, some random pictures he didn‘t even you had in the first place.

Until my throat memorises every vein.

That‘s the last message he sees from you before you appear in his sight again. Tea in hand, some cookies in the other. But most importantly, your flushed cheeks and regretful expression. His hand drops your phone and his cheeks also flush.

You can‘t look into his eyes anymore. This is the next worst thing that‘s ever happened to you so far. There is no way you can talk yourself out of this situation at all. He knows basically everything now. From the fact that you crush on him to the fact that you literally want to devour him whole.

Silently, he sets your phone back to its original spot and gets off the couch to stand up. Again, he clears his throat and speaks up first.

»I‘m gonna pretend I didn‘t see all this...«

And before you could apologise or say something to your defense, he is gone, retreating himself into his own room. Maybe even for the better, you can‘t imagine how awkward it would‘ve been if you were to sit next to him for the next few hours.

here is the so called evidence ( from my friends perspective)

and this was the final message that made me do this:

hope you enjoyed it somehow(★‿★)

part two

←MASTERLIST

[bsotted]

"The subtext that undergirds this new anti-racist discourse—that Black-white relationships are inherently fraught and must be navigated with the help of professionals and technical experts—testifies to the impoverishment of our interracial imagination, not to its enrichment. More gravely, anti-color-blind etiquette treats Black Americans as exotic others, permanent strangers whose racial difference is so chasmic that it must be continually managed, whose mode of humanness is so foreign that it requires white people to adopt a special set of manners and 'race conscious' ritualistic practices to even have a simple conversation."*

*(emphasis mine)

By: Tyler Austin Harper

Published: Aug 14, 2023

The hotel was soulless, like all conference hotels. I had arrived a few hours before check-in, hoping to drop off my bags before I met a friend for lunch. The employees were clearly frazzled, overwhelmed by the sudden influx of several hundred impatient academics. When I asked where I could put my luggage, the guy at the front desk simply pointed to a nearby hallway. “Wait over there with her; he’s coming back.”

Who “he” was remained unclear, but I saw the woman he was referring to. She was white and about my age. She had a conference badge and a large suitcase that she was rolling back and forth in obvious exasperation. “Been waiting long?” I asked, taking up a position on the other side of the narrow hallway. “Very,” she replied. For a while, we stood in silence, minding our phones. Eventually, we began chatting.

The conversation was wide-ranging: the papers we were presenting, the bad A/V at the hotel, our favorite things to do in the city. At some point, we began talking about our jobs. She told me that—like so many academics—she was juggling a temporary teaching gig while also looking for a tenure-track position.

“It’s hard,” she said, “too many classes, too many students, too many papers to grade. No time for your own work. Barely any time to apply to real jobs.”

When I nodded sympathetically, she asked about my job and whether it was tenure-track. I admitted, a little sheepishly, that it was.

“I’d love to teach at a small college like that,” she said. “I feel like none of my students wants to learn. It’s exhausting.”

Then, out of nowhere, she said something that caught me completely off guard: “But I shouldn’t be complaining to you about this. I know how hard BIPOC faculty have it. You’re the last person I should be whining to.”

I was taken aback, but I shouldn’t have been. It was the kind of awkward comment I’ve grown used to over the past few years, as “anti-racism” has become the reigning ideology of progressive political culture. Until recently, calling attention to a stranger’s race in such a way would have been considered a social faux pas. That she made the remark without thinking twice—a remark, it should be noted, that assumes being a Black tenure-track professor is worse than being a marginally employed white one—shows how profoundly interracial social etiquette has changed since 2020’s “summer of racial reckoning.” That’s when anti-racism—focused on combating “color-blindness” in both policy and personal conduct—grabbed ahold of the liberal mainstream.

Though this “reckoning” brought increased public attention to the deep embeddedness of racism in supposedly color-blind American institutions, it also made instant celebrities of a number of race experts and “diversity, equity, and inclusion” (DEI) consultants who believe that being anti-racist means undergoing a “journey” of radical personal transformation. In their righteous crusade against the bad color-blindness of policies such as race-neutral college admissions, these contemporary anti-racists have also jettisoned the kind of good color-blindness that holds that we are more than our race, and that we should conduct our social life according to that idealized principle. Rather than balance a critique of color-blind law and policy with a continuing embrace of interpersonal color-blindness as a social etiquette, contemporary anti-racists throw the baby out with the bathwater. In place of the old color-blind ideal, they have foisted upon well-meaning white liberals a successor social etiquette predicated on the necessity of foregrounding racial difference rather than minimizing it.

As a Black guy who grew up in a politically purple area—where being a good person meant adhering to the kind of civil-rights-era color-blindness that is now passé—I find this emergent anti-racist culture jarring. Many of my liberal friends and acquaintances now seem to believe that being a good person means constantly reminding Black people that you are aware of their Blackness. Difference, no longer to be politely ignored, is insisted upon at all times under the guise of acknowledging “positionality.” Though I am rarely made to feel excessively aware of my race when hanging out with more conservative friends or visiting my hometown, in the more liberal social circles in which I typically travel, my race is constantly invoked—“acknowledged” and “centered”—by well-intentioned anti-racist “allies.”

This “acknowledgement” tends to take one of two forms. The first is the song and dance in which white people not-so-subtly let you know that they know that race and racism exist. This includes finding ways to interject discussion of some (bad) news item about race or racism into casual conversation, apologizing for having problems while white (“You’re the last person I should be whining to”), or inversely, offering “support” by attributing any normal human problem you have to racism.

The second way good white liberals often “center” racial difference in everyday interactions with minorities is by trying, always clumsily, to ensure that their “marginalized” friends and familiars are “culturally” comfortable. My favorite personal experiences of this include an acquaintance who invariably steers dinner or lunch meetups to Black-owned restaurants, and the time that a friend of a friend invited me over to go swimming in their pool before apologizing for assuming that I know how to swim (“I know that’s a culturally specific thing”). It is a peculiar quirk of the 2020s’ racial discourse that this kind of “acknowledgement” and “centering” is viewed as progress.

My point is not that conservatives have better racial politics—they do not—but rather that something about current progressive racial discourse has become warped and distorted. The anti-racist culture that is ascendant seems to me to have little to do with combatting structural racism or cultivating better relationships between white and Black Americans. And its rejection of color-blindness as a social ethos is not a new frontier of radical political action.

No, at the core of today’s anti-racism is little more than a vibe shift—a soft matrix of conciliatory gestures and hip phraseology that give adherents the feeling that there has been a cultural change, when in fact we have merely put carpet over the rotting floorboards. Although this push to center rather than sidestep racial difference in our interpersonal relationships comes from a good place, it tends to rest on a troubling, even racist subtext: that white and Black Americans are so radically different that interracial relationships require careful management, constant eggshell-walking, and even expert guidance from professional anti-racists. Rather than producing racial harmony, this new ethos frequently has the opposite effect, making white-Black interactions stressful, unpleasant, or, perhaps most often, simply weird.

Since the murder of George Floyd in May 2020, progressive anti-racism has centered on two concepts that helped Americans make sense of his senseless death: “structural racism” and “implicit bias.” The first of these is a sociopolitical concept that highlights how certain institutions—maternity wards, police barracks, lending companies, housing authorities, etc.—produce and replicate racial inequalities, such as the disproportionate killing of Black men by the cops. The second is a psychologicalconcept that describes the way that all individuals—from bleeding-heart liberals to murderers such as Derek Chauvin—harbor varying degrees of subconscious racial prejudice.

Though “structural racism” and “implicit bias” target different scales of the social order—institutions on the one hand, individuals on the other—underlying both of these ideas is a critique of so-called color-blind ideology, or what the sociologist Eduardo Bonilla-Silva calls “color-blind racism”: the idea that policies, interactions, and rhetoric can be explicitly race-neutral but implicitly racist. As concepts, both “structural racism” and “implicit bias” rest on the presupposition that racism is an enduring feature of institutional and social life, and that so-called race neutrality is a covertly racist myth that perpetuates inequality. Some anti-racist scholars such as Uma Mazyck Jayakumar and Ibram X. Kendi have put this even more bluntly: “‘Race neutral’ is the new “separate but equal.’” Yet, although anti-racist academics and activists are right to argue that race-neutral policies can’t solve racial inequities—that supposedly color-blind laws and policies are often anything but—over the past few years, this line of criticism has also been bizarrely extended to color-blindness as a personal ethos governing behavior at the individual level.

The most famous proponent of dismantling color-blindness in everyday interactions is Robin DiAngelo, who has made an entire (very condescending) career out of asserting that if white people are not uncomfortable, anti-racism is not happening. “White comfort maintains the racial status quo, so discomfort is necessary and important,” the corporate anti-racist guru advises. Over the past three years, this kind of anti-color-blind, pro-discomfort rhetoric has become the norm in anti-racist discourse. On the final day of the 28-day challenge in Layla Saad’s viral Me and White Supremacy, budding anti-racists are tasked with taking “out-of-your-comfort-zone actions,” such as apologizing to people of color in their life and having “uncomfortable conversations.” Frederick Joseph’s best-selling book The Black Friend takes a similar tack. The problem with color-blindness, Joseph counsels, is it allows “white people to continue to be comfortable.” The NFL analyst Emmanuel Acho wrote an entire book, simply called Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man, that admonishes readers to “stop celebrating color-blindness.” And, of course, there are endless how-to guides for having these “uncomfortable conversations” with your Black friends.

Once the dominant progressive ideology, professing “I don’t see color” is now viewed as a kind of dog whistle that papers over implicit bias. Instead, current anti-racist wisdom holds that we must acknowledge racial difference in our interactions with others, rather than assume that race needn’t be at the center of every interracial conversation or encounter. Coming to grips with the transition we have undergone over the past decade—color-blind etiquette’s swing from de rigueur to racist—requires a longer view of an American cultural transition. Civil-rights-era color-blindness was replaced with an individualistic, corporatized anti-racism, one focused on the purification of white psyches through racial discomfort, guilt, and “doing the work” as a road to self-improvement.

Writing in 1959, the social critic Philip Rieff argued that postwar America was transforming from a religious and economic culture—one oriented around common institutions such as the church and the market—to a psychological culture, one oriented around the self and its emotional fulfillment. By the 1960s, Rieff had given this shift a name: “the triumph of the therapeutic,” which he defined as an emergent worldview according to which the “self, improved, is the ultimate concern of modern culture.” Yet, even as he diagnosed our culture with self-obsession, Rieff also noticed something peculiar and even paradoxical. Therapeutic culture demanded that we reflect our self-actualization outward. Sharing our innermost selves with the world—good, bad, and ugly—became a new social mandate under the guise that authenticity and open self-expression are necessary for social cohesion.

Recent anti-racist mantras like “White silence is violence” reflect this same sentiment: exhibitionist displays of “racist” guilt are viewed as a necessary precursor to racial healing and community building. In this way, today’s attacks on interpersonal color-blindness—and progressives’ growing fixation on implicit bias, public confession, and race-conscious social etiquette—are only the most recent manifestations of the cultural shift Rieff described. Indeed, the seeds of the current backlash against color-blindness began decades ago, with the application of a New Age, therapeutic outlook to race relations: so-called racial-sensitivity training, the forefather of today’s equally spurious DEI programming.

In her 2001 book, Race Experts, the historian Elisabeth Lasch-Quinn painstakingly details how racial-sensitivity training emerged from the 1960s’ human-potential movement and its infamous “encounter groups.” As she explains, what began as a more or less countercultural phenomenon was later corporatized in the form of the anemic, pointless workshops controversially lampooned on The Office. Not surprisingly, this shift reflected the ebb and flow of corporate interests: Whereas early workplace training emphasized compliance with the newly minted Civil Rights Act of 1964, later incarnations would focus on improving employee relations and, later still, leveraging diversity to secure better business outcomes.

If there is something distinctive about the anti-color-blind racial etiquette that has emerged since George Floyd’s death, it is that these sites of encounter have shifted from official institutional spaces to more intimate ones where white people and minorities interact as friends, neighbors, colleagues, and acquaintances. Racial-awareness raising is a dynamic no longer quarantined to formalized, compulsory settings like the boardroom or freshman orientation. Instead, every interracial interaction is a potential scene of (one-way) racial edification and supplication, encounters in which good white liberals are expected to be transparent about their “positionality,” confront their “whiteness,” and—if the situation calls for it—confess their “implicit bias.”

In a vacuum, many of the prescriptions advocated by the anti-color-blind crowd are reasonable: We should all think more about our privileges and our place in the world. An uncomfortable conversation or an honest look in the mirror can be precursors to personal growth. We all carry around harmful, implicit biases and we do need to examine the subconscious assumptions and prejudices that underlie the actions we take and the things we say. My objection is not to these ideas themselves, which are sensible enough. No, my objection is that anti-racism offers little more than a Marie Kondo–ism for the white soul, promising to declutter racial baggage and clear a way to white fulfillment without doing anything meaningful to combat structural racism. As Lasch-Quinn correctly foresaw, “Casting interracial problems as issues of etiquette [puts] a premium on superficial symbols of good intentions and good motivations as well as on style and appearance rather than on the substance of change.”

Yet the problem with the therapeutics of contemporary anti-racism is not just that they are politically sterile. When anti-color-blindness and its ideology of insistent “race consciousness” are translated into the sphere of private life—to the domain of friendships, block parties, and backyard barbecues—they assault the very idea of a multiracial society, producing new forms of racism in the process. The fact that our media environment is inundated with an endless stream of books, articles, and social-media tutorials that promise to teach white people how to simply interact with the Black people in their life is not a sign of anti-racist progress, but of profound regression.

The subtext that undergirds this new anti-racist discourse—that Black-white relationships are inherently fraught and must be navigated with the help of professionals and technical experts—testifies to the impoverishment of our interracial imagination, not to its enrichment. More gravely, anti-color-blind etiquette treats Black Americans as exotic others, permanent strangers whose racial difference is so chasmic that it must be continually managed, whose mode of humanness is so foreign that it requires white people to adopt a special set of manners and “race conscious” ritualistic practices to even have a simple conversation.

If we are going to find a way out of the racial discord that has defined American life post-Trump and post-Charlottesville and post-Floyd, we have to begin with a more sophisticated understanding of color-blindness, one that rejects the bad color-blindness on offer from the Republican Party and its partisans, as well as the anti-color-blindness of the anti-racist consultants. Instead, we should embrace the good color-blindness of not too long ago. At the heart of that color-blindness was a radical claim, one imperfectly realized but perfect as an ideal: that despite the weight of a racist past that isn’t even past, we can imagine a world, or at least an interaction between two people, where racial difference doesn’t make a difference.

[ Via: https://archive.today/8zfvc ]

[astrow0rldx]

Attraction & Sex in Astrology

7th house ruled by libra, libra ruled by Venus. On the other side of the 1st, of attraction. We really want to look at this part of our chart. While mars is our drive, and sexuality.

7th house - Who your attracted to. Your typical type in people when looking out in the world.

8th house - How you seduce/What you are seduced by

House that venus is in - Where you can find love. What enviroments, and places.

House that mars is in - Where you can find sex. Enviroments and places.

Sign that venus is in - Your Love Language. Behavior you want in a relationship to give or be given.

Sign of mars - Your turn ons, Sexual dynamics. Also the sexual energy you give.

You should have 4 signs your looking at, and 2 houses. Maybe some planets. Knowing the differentiation of each one, and how you can apply it when knowing what the sign or house or planet means.

🎀🧸Me Example: 7th house Capricorn, 8th house Neptune and Aquarius. Virgo Venus, Libra Mars. Venus in 3rd house, Mars in 4th. I'm attracted to/attract mature, older, wealthy, powerful, high-status, authoritative, responsible, father-like people. My love language and behavior I like is being of service, reliable, co-dependent, attention to detail. Practical, real, moral, organized, structured, routine. Where I find love is in my neighborhood, social media, school, writing or study places, workshops or learning environments, casual conversation places, Ubers, planes, transporting, libraries. My sexual energy and I'm turned on by charmers, graceful, flirty people with romantic gestures, physically and aesthetically pleasing, Intelligent, Good listeners, Fair, Cooperative people. That's mutual and partner-ship oriented. Balanced Passion Dynamics. Where I can find sex is in the home, private places, hidden, emotionally vulnerable places, kitchens, holidays, family themed things, therapy, somewhere nostalgic, or has history to it. How I seduce and what seduces me is spirituality, fantasy, enchanting, divine, mysterious. out of body, intoxicating, idealistic, artistic, music. Soul-Connecting/Taking. Illusions. Groups of people, Communities, Friends, Politics, Rebel, Different, Quirky, Weird, Kinky.

Jeffery Dahmer: 7th house Aries, Moon. 8th house Sun Mercury and in Taurus. Taurus Venus, Aries Mars. Venus in the 8th. Mars in the 6th.

Taylor Swift: 7th house Taurus, 8th house Jupiter, Moon and in Gemini. Aquarius Venus, Scorpio, Venus in the 2nd, Mars in the 1st.

[aftgficrec]

Thanks for the rec!  Nicky’s past does not get a lot of attention, so it’s good to have that rectified. - S

Whatever satisfies the soul is truth. by Kekune [Rated M, 2983 words, complete, 2023]

Nicky is lost. Erik is a guiding light. (A story of healing, self-acceptance and falling in love. Told in fragments over the course of Nicky’s years in Germany.)

tw: implied/referenced suicidal thoughts, tw: panic attacks, tw: implied/referenced conversion therapy, tw: religious trauma

[cinnamonest]

Female-Targeted Doujin Masterlist

Thank you anon! Sooooo, I have decided to compile a female-targeted/yumejoshi masterlist, I'll add this post to my main masterlist soon.

These were the one I could think of from memory, I’ll come back to this list and add to it if I get more, I'm sure I missed a few from my bookmarks. Feel free to add to it in the comments, and I'll try to find and update it! Also, several of these were recommended from anons in the past, so thank you all <3

FYI several links lead to nh*ntai dot net, so be aware of that.

Umekoppe

As per the post anon is referencing, Umekoppe is a doujin group that consistently puts out exclusively good content!

“The Yandere Prince Won't Let Me Slip Away”

(Part One)

(Part Two)

Premise: Isekai/pseudo-reincarnation trope, premise basically explained by the title, MC is isekai'd as prince's lost lover.

"The Sacrificial Maiden Corrupted by Coupling With an Oni"

(Link)

Premise: Historical Japan setting, the "MC is an offering sacrifice to the Creature, but the Creature chooses to keep her instead" trope.

"Until the Trashiest Boy Toy Exorcist Ren-kun Crushes Me in His Embrace"

(Part One)

(Part Two)

Premise: MC is a girl that attracts malevolent spirits, exorcist-kun is obligated to help her ward them off (with orgasms, naturally).

"The Spy Who Ravished Me ~Reborn As a Mafia Princess in a Deadly Game~"

(Link)

Premise: Isekai, MC reincarnated into a game where she knows who the guy who is most likely to kill her is, but in her attempt to avoid getting killed by him, ends up taking actions that make him grow into an obsessive love-hate instead. Top tier, this boy is probably the worst (in a good way) of how all the Umekoppe love interests treat the girl.

"Heibon Onna wa Downer Kami-sama ni Izon sarete Modorenai" (this one didn't have a translated title, sorry)

(Link)

Premise: MC discovers her friend is a shrine god and wolf-boy. Wolfboy fun times ensue (and in the end she's apparently unknowingly trapped into being with him forever, so that's nice).

You’re Cutest When You’re Pathetic ~Obsessed Golden Retriever Boy Haru’s Disciplinary Sex~

(Part One)

(Part Two)

Premise: Softboy™ neighbor finds MC's phone with lewd stuff on it, gets her confessions in drunk conversations, turns out to not be so much of a Softboy behind closed doors.

Oniben Katze

Another group that also does a lot of fem-targeted stuff.

Serious Sex with my Brutish Boyfriend

(Link)

Premise: MC's lover gets mad over rumors that she's a slut, decides to get possessive and rough over it.

Dog Eat Dog Era

(Part One)

(Part Two/Extras)

Premise: a personal favorite, an isekai'd witch adopts two dragon boys who grow up to have a strong fixation with her and noncon ensues.

Parasite Garden

Makes notably darker stuff that contains more controversial subject matter/themes, so be warned.

The Corpse of a Goldfish is at the Bottom of the Swamp

(Link)

CW: INCEST

Premise: possessive brother wants to corrupt/mindbreak sister to keep her forever (spoiler: he succeeds)

The Neighbor in Room 203 Disappeared Leaving their Keys Behind

(Link)

Premise: stalker girl meets her match, as it turns out the boy neighbor she's stalking pulls a spiderman pointing meme and has actually been her stalker for even longer and to a much greater, darker, and more more extreme extent, and is intent on not letting her go.

My Sweet Bunny Cage

(Part One)

(Part Two)

Premise: tiny girl is kidnapped by a crazed guy convinced she is the reincarnation of his lost pet rabbit.

Other

(artist listed below titles)

If you wish, hypnosis ~Maki-san's secret love therapy~

(Link)

Artist: Meeo

Premise: pretty straightforward, after she doesn't believe it's real, MC's coworker uses hypnosis on her for Certain Specific Purposes.

Sakaki the Lazybones Shows His Talents at Night

(Link) (Contains all chapters' links on the page, you might have to scroll down on the chapter list to see chapter one on some phones)

Artist: Potsunen Jin

Premise: (Another personal favorite) MC's younger coworker, peak innocent idolizing softboy, is in love with her and takes advantage of a situation while she's drunk after watching porn to "learn what girls like." Clingy, possessive relationship ensues.

Lady K and the Sick Man

(Chapter One) (site's menu is a bit awkward to deal with, but you have to click in the corner to view the menu to go to other chapters).

Artist: Rororogi Mogera

Yet another personal favorite, this one does have slight male gaze to it in that it focuses on the girl quite a bit, but it still focuses on the guy way more than the average doujin. Also the guy is an older bigger guy, if you ever tire of the twink/twunk standard in yumejoshi stuff.

Premise: guy moves into an apartment with a ghost lady and just kinda accepts it because he can't afford to live anywhere else, but quickly decides he’s down bad for ghussy.

I Became the True Love Object of Mr. Segawa, Who Has a Huge Attitude and Body

(Link)

Artist: Haruo Haruyama

Premise: very straightforward office coworkers to lovers, coworker is a big guy who turns out to be kinda sadistic, which is good for the masochistic MC.

The Man Who Saved Me on my Isekai Trip was a Killer

(Part One)

(Part Two)

(Part Three)

Artist: Ahan Horihori

Premise: this one got kind of infamous and shock-valued the mainstream crowd due to an animated advertisement I believe, it's essentially self-explanatory from the title: isekai'd lady gets saved by a guy who turns out to be a violent murderer, dark and sometimes pseudo-incesty plot twists ensue.

[yolli-es]

I love jinx she’s my everything and my comfort character so I’m really insecure not even in normal insecurity like I’m on an deep level and I have a really bad eating disorder was wondering how would yandere! Jinx handle that I’m insecure about everything about me and i hide all my body I can’t eat or look in mirrors if I did I’ll break them (you don’t have to do this request I think it’s absolutely ridiculous also I’m okay I’m in therapy now)

Is it my fault? 🧊

Tags: NO spoilers for season 2, mention of blood, theme of uncertainty.

Well, I was gone for quite a while, lol, but I was able to fight off the teachers and come back 💪🏻 I hope you are glad to see me again, and I also have to say that I wrote about this from my point of view, and I am sorry if I did not understand your state of mind. This topic is not so close to me, and I really tried 🙏🏻

Jinx knew from the start that something was wrong. You were always too shy, closed off, and scared. You never exposed your body. The world saw nothing but your palms and head. Is this your style? No, you always look embarrassed when your clothes suddenly ride up and just a little bit more is visible. She thought that society, all those people around you, were to blame for everything. They must have just rammed their shit into you and are enjoying themselves. Jinx won't let them trample you that easily! But nothing changes even when you become a couple and Jinx becomes your rock and protection from any unwanted contact. No, she cut you off from the world. Seeing your insecurities seemed right to her. Jinx just makes your life easier, doesn't she? You didn't change.

It seemed to only get worse.

Mirrors. It took Jinx a moment to realize you were doing this. Everything in Zaun was broken, even the people. And yet there was something strange about the mirrors in your house. She resisted for a long time and attributed everything to her new quirks. Then she counted the number of cracks on all the mirrors you could reach. And she knew. Her stomach twisted, her pupils dilated, and she wanted to pass out. No, she was going to do it right now. You were breaking mirrors. Everywhere you could reach. How could she not notice? There's blood in the cracks that can't be washed away. Damn, did you do that with your bare hand? No, no, no.

"It's my fault."

It took all her strength not to lose the last fragments of her sanity. She honestly didn't understand why. You weren't threatened, you didn't talk to anyone, and you were always under Jinx's supervision. Unless....no. She would never have affected you like that. Jinx held back then and didn't tell you anything. No matter how much Mylo screamed, Claggor was right. This would scare you; she had to act rationally now. She needs to give you time and herself time too. Jinx needs to know the real reason for your behavior. Now she will be even more attentive.

Jinx had no idea then that the broken mirrors were just the tip of a deeper problem.

You rarely dine together, usually having to eat on the run or while working. But today is a special day—your anniversary. You've been together for a year. 

Jinx bites her lip, Her nails make an audible sound as they scratch the tray with the rich cake on it. She baked it herself. But right now she's not thinking about the cake or even the anniversary. Jinx can't sleep, can't work, and even explosions don't bring pleasure. What else are you hiding? She's been watching you for weeks now after she found out about your horrible habit, but Jinx still hasn't found out anything new. But there's something else going on with you, something she doesn't know about. She feels it. Mylo chuckled. Jinx hissed. She smiled tensely before starting the conversation.

"We've been together for a long time, haven't we?" She forced herself to smile, but it came out ragged and menacing. "I mean, we're like family now. Do you consider me your family?"

Jinx, trying not to make it too obvious, leaned forward. It looked menacing. You certainly noticed it. She's just trying to keep herself together, not to give away the pressure that's built up inside her.

"Hmm, yes, Jinx, I've told you that many times! You mean a lot to me." You smiled, sincerely as always.

But Jinx doesn't believe you now. No, she just can't. Anxiety, fear, and misunderstanding are eating her up from the inside.

"Good," Jinx sat down on the chair, creaking it closer to the table. "Then let's eat."

But Jinx doesn't even try to start eating, just looking at you. A new thought flashed through her mind. Strangely, despite her obsession with your existence, she's never watched you eat.

"Are you okay? You're looking at me like that," you swallowed nervously. The atmosphere was definitely not friendly.

"Oh, sorry," she didn't even try to put on a happy face this time, "start without me."

You hesitated, looking down at the plate. Jinx carefully cut a small piece of cake and placed it right in front of you. It was fluffy, with lots of cream, and covered in food coloring. It looked beautiful and delicious. You picked up a fork and began to break it into pieces.

"So.. how's your work?" You looked up, suddenly more confident and clearly in high spirits. This confused Jinx. She responded without really thinking. Her gaze was glued to you and your hands. You didn't like it and began to distract her in various ways. This had been going on for ten minutes now, and you still hadn't put a bite in your mouth.

Jinx's eyes, which had been looking at you emotionlessly until now, suddenly narrowed in concern. And you realized. Your seat suddenly became uncomfortable, and the room was hot.

"You don't like it?" Jinx asked quietly, cautiously, almost scared. Shyness, hiding your body behind baggy clothes, breaking mirrors, and not wanting to eat your once favorite cake. Was it ever your favorite? It seemed like the puzzle was coming together in her head.

"What? Oh, no! I'm just not hungry." You were caught off guard. Is this the end? Has she figured it out, and is she going to leave you? Will she be angry or cry? You couldn't stop thinking, going over all the possible reactions Jinx might have. Unfortunately, your girlfriend wasn't stupid. She noticed it was evident on her face. The trick that worked on everyone else had no effect on her.

You can't eat. Every time you eat something like this, your conscience gnaws at you. You want to spit out everything you ate.

"I'm so sorry," was the first thing Jinx said. "I'm sorry; I should have noticed. Are you... is this because of me?" Jinx spoke softly, but there was no hint of tears on her face. There was no emotion at all. You were hurt by what was happening. Any reaction she might give would hurt you.

Jinx is about to explode with emotion. She's trying so hard to be "normal" right now so you can rely on her to open up. It's heartbreaking, but it's having the desired effect, and you're plucking up your courage.

You took a breath. This is going to be hard.

Of course Jinx thought she was just taking shitty care of you, cruelly ignoring your problems and leaving you to suffer alone.

But that's not true. You never shifted responsibility to others, realizing that you were simply insecure in yourself. You certainly met shitty people—more than you wanted. But who in Zaun pays attention to them? You just suffered from constant comparisons to others and couldn't do anything about it. You honestly fought with yourself, your shyness, and other shit that was dragging you down. Jinx only helped you along the way, without realizing it. Every time she proudly held your hand walking along the busy streets, every time she unashamedly said, "Yes, this is my future wife," and every time she ignored the advances of a conventionally beautiful girl.

Your silence and her speculations brought you here.

And yet you came to understand Jinx. How could it be otherwise? She will never let you go.

But you will never want to leave.

"Oh, I'm always here," Jinx hugged you, and you did the same in return. It was a pleasant ending after several hours of relentless altercations. You were silent, whispering, screaming, crying, and didn't understand each other. But now everything became clear.

Jinx, on her yandere side, is not ready to leave everything just like that. Now in your house there is only one whole mirror, specially stolen from Piltover. You often eat together, and Jinx tries to make each meal as relaxed for you as possible so that you simply forget about the food itself. She will definitely not let you go, love you less, judge you, or make the situation better by force. Not with this problem. She will do everything you ask to make you feel better.

Jinx loves you.

In her strange way.

That's all! I hope you haven't forgotten about me 😅 This work is quite short, but I hope I was able to convey the main points and mood.

[esotericalchemist]

𝟒𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 - 𝐑𝐨𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐝 & 𝐑𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐭: 𝐆𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐔𝐩 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐈𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 & 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐞 ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚

Masterlist this series - TikTok (Matrix of Destiny) - Masterlist - YouTube (subliminals)

This is the fourth post in a 12-part series dedicated to helping you glow up using the wisdom of astrology. Each post explores one of the astrological houses and how it influences key areas of your personal growth and transformation.

In this post, we’re focusing on the fourth house—the house of emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. This house represents your roots, your connection to your inner world, and the sanctuary you create for yourself and your loved ones. Glowing up your fourth house means healing emotional wounds, building supportive family dynamics, and crafting a home that nurtures your soul and reflects your unique essence.

𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐒 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs your emotional foundations, family dynamics, ancestral roots, and the home environment. When Aries rules this house, your approach to these themes is dynamic, assertive, and filled with pioneering energy. Ruled by Mars, Aries in the fourth house brings a fiery determination to create a home that reflects your individuality and emotional resilience. Your glow-up involves healing emotional wounds through action, fostering healthy family dynamics with courage, and crafting a home environment that energizes and inspires you.

Emotional Healing: Taking Bold Steps Toward Inner Peace

With Aries ruling your fourth house, emotional healing is an active process for you. You don’t shy away from addressing past hurts or family challenges head-on, often taking the lead in initiating difficult conversations or setting boundaries. This placement encourages you to take a courageous and proactive approach to emotional growth.

To glow up emotionally, embrace the power of forgiveness and self-reflection. While your natural tendency is to push forward, taking time to acknowledge and process your feelings can be transformative. Practices like journaling, therapy, or breathwork can help you release pent-up emotions and find clarity.

Mars’ influence suggests that physical activity can also play a role in emotional healing. Exercise, yoga, or even energetic decluttering of your home can help you process and channel intense feelings. Aries thrives when in motion, so lean into action-oriented healing methods.

Family Relationships: Courage and Leadership

Aries in the fourth house makes you a natural leader within your family. You’re often the one who takes charge during crises or initiates changes that benefit the household. While this can be empowering, it’s important to balance your assertiveness with sensitivity to others’ needs.

Your glow-up involves fostering healthy and supportive family relationships by embracing open communication and mutual respect. Use your courage to address unresolved conflicts or clarify boundaries, but pair this with empathy to ensure your efforts lead to deeper understanding rather than confrontation.

Mars’ fiery energy can sometimes lead to impulsiveness in family dynamics. Practicing patience and compassion will help you create harmony and avoid unnecessary tension. Focus on creating traditions or rituals that strengthen bonds and reflect the vibrant energy Aries brings to your home.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Energized and Individualistic

Aries in the fourth house brings a bold and independent energy to your idea of home. You thrive in an environment that feels dynamic and uniquely yours, often preferring spaces that inspire creativity and action. Your home should reflect your pioneering spirit, with designs or elements that make you feel energized and empowered.

To glow up your home environment, focus on incorporating vibrant colors, bold decor, or statement pieces that reflect your individuality. Spaces that encourage movement—like a home gym, studio, or open layouts—align well with Aries energy.

At the same time, balance the fiery energy with grounding elements to create a sense of comfort and stability. Incorporate items that promote relaxation, such as warm lighting, cozy furniture, or a designated space for rest and reflection. A mix of bold and calming features will help you feel both motivated and emotionally secure.

𝐓𝐀𝐔𝐑𝐔𝐒 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs your emotional foundation, family relationships, and the home environment. When Taurus rules this house, your approach to these themes is grounded, stable, and focused on comfort and beauty. Ruled by Venus, Taurus in the fourth house brings a nurturing energy that values consistency, security, and the pleasures of home. Your glow-up involves cultivating emotional stability, creating harmonious family relationships, and building a serene, luxurious home environment that feels like a sanctuary.

Emotional Healing: Grounding Yourself in Stability

With Taurus ruling your fourth house, emotional healing comes through grounding practices and cultivating a sense of safety. You thrive when your inner world feels secure, and creating a steady emotional foundation is key to your glow-up.

Taurus energy encourages you to slow down and connect with your emotions in a practical, tangible way. Engage in practices like journaling, mindfulness, or spending time in nature to process your feelings. Surrounding yourself with soothing textures, scents, or sounds can also help you navigate emotional challenges and find peace.

Venus’ influence suggests that beauty and pleasure are important to your healing journey. Consider incorporating rituals that bring joy into your routine, such as aromatherapy baths, soothing music, or indulging in creative activities that help you reconnect with your inner calm.

Family Relationships: Stability and Support

Taurus in the fourth house emphasizes loyalty and consistency in family relationships. You have a natural ability to create a sense of stability and comfort for your loved ones, often acting as the grounding force in the household.

Your glow-up involves strengthening these bonds by fostering open communication and consistency in your interactions. Family traditions, shared meals, or other rituals that bring everyone together are especially important for Taurus energy. These moments of connection help create the supportive environment you value.

However, be mindful of Taurus’ tendency toward stubbornness. While your unwavering nature is a strength, remaining open to others’ perspectives and needs will deepen your family relationships. Balance your desire for control with flexibility to create harmony and mutual respect.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Luxurious and Grounded

Taurus in the fourth house brings a love for beauty, comfort, and quality to your home environment. You thrive in spaces that feel serene and indulgent, with a focus on natural materials, cozy textures, and timeless design. Your home is your sanctuary, and its energy deeply influences your emotional well-being.

To glow up your home, invest in creating a space that feels both luxurious and grounded. Incorporate plush furnishings, earthy colors, and decorative elements that bring a sense of calm and elegance. Venus’ influence encourages you to prioritize quality over quantity—choose items that feel meaningful and enduring rather than trendy or disposable.

Your home should also support your connection to nature. Consider adding plants, natural lighting, or outdoor spaces that help you recharge. Taurus energy thrives when you feel connected to the earth, so grounding elements are key to creating a nurturing environment.

𝐆𝐄𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐈 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs your emotional foundation, family relationships, and home environment. With Gemini ruling this house, your approach to these themes is curious, adaptable, and focused on connection and communication. Ruled by Mercury, Gemini in the fourth house brings a lively and intellectual energy to your personal life, encouraging dialogue, learning, and flexibility. Your glow-up involves fostering open communication in family dynamics, nurturing your emotional well-being through mental stimulation, and creating a dynamic and engaging home environment.

Emotional Healing: Finding Clarity Through Expression

With Gemini in the fourth house, emotional healing comes through communication and intellectual exploration. You process your emotions best by talking them out, journaling, or engaging in activities that encourage self-expression. Conversations with trusted loved ones or therapists can provide clarity and help you navigate emotional complexities.

To glow up emotionally, focus on creating a routine that allows you to explore and understand your feelings. Incorporate practices like writing, talking, or learning about emotional intelligence. Reading or studying topics related to personal growth, mindfulness, or psychology can also deepen your self-awareness and help you heal.

Mercury’s influence suggests that mental engagement is key to your emotional well-being. Allow yourself the freedom to explore different perspectives and embrace your natural curiosity as a tool for inner growth.

Family Relationships: Building Bonds Through Communication

Gemini in the fourth house brings a focus on communication and connection in family relationships. You thrive in environments where open dialogue is encouraged, and you often act as the mediator or idea generator within the household. Your gift for conversation helps create a lively and engaging dynamic.

Your glow-up involves fostering deeper and more meaningful conversations with family members. Make time for regular discussions, whether it’s through shared meals, family meetings, or casual chats. Encourage an atmosphere where everyone feels heard and understood.

However, be mindful of Gemini’s tendency toward restlessness or superficiality. While you enjoy keeping things light, don’t shy away from addressing deeper emotional issues when needed. Building stronger family relationships involves balancing your natural playfulness with a willingness to delve into meaningful topics.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Dynamic and Engaging

Gemini in the fourth house brings a love for variety and intellectual stimulation to your home environment. You thrive in spaces that feel light, airy, and conducive to learning and connection. Your home is a hub for ideas and conversations, and you’re drawn to decor and designs that reflect your curious and versatile nature.

To glow up your home, focus on creating a space that encourages interaction and mental engagement. Include a bookshelf filled with inspiring reads, a cozy nook for conversations, or a workspace for brainstorming and creativity. Gemini energy loves change, so consider rearranging furniture or updating your decor periodically to keep the space feeling fresh and dynamic.

Incorporate elements that inspire communication, such as a communal dining area, a gallery wall of family photos, or a message board for shared notes. Your home should reflect the lively and inquisitive energy you bring to your personal life.

𝐂𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐄𝐑 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment, and Cancer is the natural ruler of this house, making this placement deeply resonant. Ruled by the Moon, Cancer in the fourth house emphasizes emotional connection, nurturing, and a strong bond to your roots and heritage. Your glow-up involves embracing your emotional depth, healing family relationships through empathy and care, and creating a warm and comforting home that nourishes your soul.

Emotional Healing: Embracing Your Emotional Depth

With Cancer ruling your fourth house, emotional healing is a deeply personal and intuitive process. You have a natural ability to tune into your feelings, but your sensitivity can sometimes feel overwhelming. To glow up emotionally, focus on creating safe spaces—both internally and externally—where you can process and release your emotions.

The Moon’s influence encourages you to honor your emotional cycles. Journaling, meditation, or moon rituals can help you connect with your inner world and find clarity. Spending time near water or in nature can also provide a calming effect, helping you reconnect with yourself.

Lean into self-compassion and the power of vulnerability. Healing for you often comes through nurturing yourself as you would a loved one, reminding you that your emotional depth is a strength, not a weakness.

Family Relationships: Building Bonds Through Care and Understanding

Cancer in the fourth house makes you deeply connected to your family and heritage. You’re a natural caretaker who often takes on the role of emotional anchor in the household, providing comfort and security for others. While this is a beautiful strength, it’s important to ensure you’re not neglecting your own needs in the process.

Your glow-up involves fostering healthy family dynamics through open communication and mutual support. Use your natural empathy to navigate conflicts with compassion, but also set boundaries where needed to protect your emotional energy.

Focus on creating traditions or rituals that strengthen your bond with loved ones. Whether it’s family dinners, shared hobbies, or simply spending quality time together, these moments of connection bring harmony and healing to your relationships.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Warm, Cozy, and Inviting

Cancer in the fourth house brings a strong focus on creating a home that feels safe, nurturing, and deeply personal. Your ideal home is a sanctuary where you can retreat from the outside world and recharge emotionally.

To glow up your home environment, prioritize comfort and coziness. Soft textures, soothing colors, and personal touches like family photos or sentimental decor can create a space that feels uniquely yours. Incorporate elements that connect you to nature, such as houseplants, a water feature, or a garden, to align with Cancer’s connection to the natural world.

The Moon’s influence suggests that your home should reflect your emotional and spiritual needs. Designate a space for reflection or relaxation, such as a meditation corner or a cozy reading nook. This will help you maintain emotional balance and reconnect with your inner peace.

𝐋𝐄𝐎 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Leo ruling this house, your approach to these themes is bold, creative, and heart-centered. Ruled by the Sun, Leo in the fourth house brings warmth, pride, and a desire to create a home that reflects your individuality and radiance. Your glow-up involves healing emotional wounds through self-expression and self-love, strengthening family bonds through generosity and leadership, and creating a home that feels both regal and inviting.

Emotional Healing: Reclaiming Your Inner Light

With Leo in the fourth house, emotional healing comes through self-expression and reconnecting with your inner joy. Your heart is your compass, and when it feels weighed down by past hurts or familial dynamics, it’s essential to reignite your sense of self-worth.

To glow up emotionally, focus on practices that help you rediscover your inner light. Creative outlets like painting, dancing, or journaling can help you process emotions and channel them into something beautiful. Affirmations that remind you of your strength and value are also powerful tools for self-healing.

The Sun’s influence encourages you to take pride in your journey and celebrate your growth. By focusing on self-love and releasing any need for external validation, you can heal deeply and radiate confidence from within.

Family Relationships: Leading with Love and Generosity

Leo in the fourth house makes you a natural leader within your family. You bring warmth and enthusiasm to your relationships, often acting as the glue that holds everyone together. Your generosity and ability to uplift others make you a beloved figure in the household.

Your glow-up involves embracing this leadership role while balancing it with humility and open communication. Use your charisma to inspire positive changes and strengthen family bonds. Whether it’s organizing gatherings, initiating meaningful conversations, or encouraging others to shine, your ability to lead with love creates harmony and joy.

Be mindful of Leo’s tendency to seek validation or dominate conversations. Focus on creating space for everyone’s voice to be heard, and your family relationships will thrive in mutual respect and admiration.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Bold and Radiant

Leo in the fourth house calls for a home that reflects your creativity, individuality, and passion. Your ideal space is one that feels regal yet welcoming—a place where you can entertain, express yourself, and recharge in style.

To glow up your home, incorporate bold colors, luxurious textures, and decor that reflects your personality. Statement pieces like a unique chandelier, a gallery wall of family portraits, or a vibrant accent wall can bring your vision to life. Your home should feel like an extension of your inner radiance, inspiring both you and your guests.

Since Leo thrives on warmth, prioritize natural light, cozy spaces, and elements that evoke joy. Create areas for celebration and self-expression, such as a space for hosting gatherings or a creative studio. Balancing grandeur with comfort ensures your home feels both dynamic and nurturing.

𝐕𝐈𝐑𝐆𝐎 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Virgo ruling this house, your approach to these themes is practical, nurturing, and detail-oriented. Ruled by Mercury, Virgo in the fourth house brings an energy of organization, care, and refinement to your personal life. Your glow-up involves healing emotional wounds through self-reflection and healthy routines, fostering supportive and harmonious family relationships, and creating a clean, organized, and serene home environment that promotes well-being.

Emotional Healing: Grounding Yourself Through Reflection and Ritual

With Virgo ruling your fourth house, emotional healing comes through thoughtful self-reflection and cultivating habits that support your well-being. You have a natural ability to analyze your emotions and work through them logically, but your tendency toward perfectionism can sometimes lead to self-criticism.

To glow up emotionally, focus on practices that balance self-awareness with self-compassion. Journaling, meditation, or therapy can help you process feelings and release the need for control over every situation. Create rituals that ground you, such as morning routines, breathwork, or acts of service that bring you joy.

Mercury’s influence suggests that healing also comes through learning. Reading about psychology, emotional intelligence, or mindfulness can provide you with tools to navigate your inner world more effectively. Remember that progress, not perfection, is the key to emotional peace.

Family Relationships: Supportive and Harmonious Dynamics

Virgo in the fourth house emphasizes care and service within your family relationships. You have a natural inclination to take on the role of the problem-solver or caretaker, often bringing organization and calm to the household. While this is a strength, it’s essential to ensure you’re not overextending yourself or becoming overly critical.

Your glow-up involves fostering supportive family dynamics by leading with understanding and balance. Use your gift for organization to create routines or systems that make family life smoother, but also practice letting go of the need for everything to be perfect. Open communication and acts of kindness can strengthen bonds and create a sense of mutual respect.

Encourage collaboration within the family to avoid taking on too much responsibility yourself. A shared approach to maintaining harmony allows everyone to contribute and thrive.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Clean, Serene, and Functional

Virgo in the fourth house brings a love for order and simplicity to your home environment. You thrive in spaces that feel clean, organized, and thoughtfully designed, with every element serving a purpose. Your ideal home is one that supports your well-being and promotes a sense of calm and focus.

To glow up your home, focus on decluttering and creating systems that keep your space functional and stress-free. Invest in storage solutions, minimalistic furniture, and decor that feels fresh and soothing. Neutral colors, natural materials, and indoor plants align well with Virgo’s earthy energy.

Incorporate elements that support your physical and emotional health, such as a meditation corner, an ergonomic workspace, or a well-organized kitchen for healthy cooking. Virgo energy thrives on small, intentional improvements, so make your home a place where every detail reflects care and thoughtfulness.

𝐋𝐈𝐁𝐑𝐀 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Libra ruling this house, your approach to these themes is graceful, harmonious, and relationship-focused. Ruled by Venus, Libra in the fourth house brings a natural ability to create beauty and balance in your personal life. Your glow-up involves healing emotional wounds through cultivating inner harmony, fostering peaceful and cooperative family relationships, and designing a home that reflects elegance, serenity, and connection.

Emotional Healing: Finding Balance and Inner Peace

With Libra ruling your fourth house, emotional healing comes through creating inner balance and harmony. You thrive when your emotional world feels centered and aligned, but your tendency to prioritize others’ needs can sometimes lead to neglecting your own.

To glow up emotionally, focus on practices that help you establish equilibrium in your inner life. Meditation, yoga, or spending time in peaceful and aesthetically pleasing spaces can help you reconnect with yourself. Journaling about your emotions and working through relationship dynamics can also provide clarity and healing.

Venus’ influence suggests that beauty and connection play a role in your healing. Surround yourself with uplifting art, music, or natural elements that soothe your soul. Engaging in therapy or heart-to-heart conversations can help you find resolution and growth in emotional matters.

Family Relationships: Creating Harmony Through Diplomacy

Libra in the fourth house emphasizes fairness and balance in family relationships. You’re naturally gifted at fostering harmony within the household and often act as the mediator during conflicts. Your charm and diplomatic skills make you adept at building cooperative and respectful dynamics.

Your glow-up involves leaning into these strengths while setting boundaries to protect your emotional energy. While you’re skilled at maintaining peace, it’s important not to suppress your own needs or overextend yourself to keep others happy. Practice open communication that includes expressing your feelings and perspectives.

Focusing on creating shared traditions or moments of connection—like family dinners, movie nights, or collaborative home projects—can strengthen bonds and bring a sense of unity. Libra’s Venusian energy thrives in environments where everyone feels valued and included.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Elegant and Balanced

Libra in the fourth house inspires you to create a home that feels harmonious, beautiful, and inviting. Your ideal space is one where balance and elegance reign, with carefully chosen decor that reflects your refined taste.

To glow up your home, focus on cultivating a sense of symmetry and flow. Choose calming color palettes, graceful furnishings, and decorative touches like candles, mirrors, or fresh flowers to elevate your space. Venus’ influence encourages you to prioritize quality over quantity, so invest in timeless pieces that bring beauty and functionality to your home.

Your home should also serve as a space for connection and relationships. Create areas that encourage conversation, such as a cozy living room setup or a charming dining area. Incorporating shared design elements—like collaborative artwork or family photos—adds a personal and heartfelt touch.

𝐒𝐂𝐎𝐑𝐏𝐈𝐎 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Scorpio ruling this house, your approach to these themes is intense, transformative, and deeply emotional. Ruled by Mars and Pluto, Scorpio in the fourth house brings a powerful energy of rebirth and resilience to your personal life. Your glow-up involves embracing emotional healing through transformation, fostering profound and honest family relationships, and creating a home that feels like a sacred, private sanctuary where you can regenerate and grow.

Emotional Healing: Transforming Your Inner World

With Scorpio ruling your fourth house, emotional healing is a transformative and cathartic process. You’re naturally attuned to the depths of your emotions and often experience life’s highs and lows with great intensity. Healing for you involves confronting and transmuting emotional pain into strength and self-awareness.

To glow up emotionally, lean into practices that encourage deep self-reflection and release. Shadow work, therapy, or journaling can help you uncover hidden emotional patterns and move through them with clarity. Scorpio thrives on regeneration, so embrace the idea of letting go of what no longer serves you to make space for renewal.

Mars and Pluto’s influence encourages you to harness your inner power to heal. Practices like breathwork, energy healing, or meditation can help you process intense emotions and reclaim your emotional resilience. Trust that your ability to transform your inner world is one of your greatest strengths.

Family Relationships: Embracing Depth and Truth

Scorpio in the fourth house brings an intense and transformative energy to family dynamics. You value honesty and emotional depth in your relationships and often act as the emotional anchor in your family. While you’re deeply loyal, you may also find yourself navigating complex or hidden issues within your family history.

Your glow-up involves fostering authentic and open communication with your loved ones. Use your natural insight to create safe spaces for honesty and healing, but ensure that you set boundaries to protect your emotional energy. While Scorpio’s influence makes you a natural investigator of family dynamics, be mindful of avoiding control or emotional manipulation.

Embrace rituals or practices that bring your family together in meaningful ways, such as sharing stories, creating new traditions, or participating in healing activities. Your ability to bring light to shadowy areas within family relationships can lead to profound transformation and stronger bonds.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Sacred and Regenerative

Scorpio in the fourth house inspires you to create a home that feels private, secure, and deeply personal. Your ideal space is a sanctuary where you can retreat from the outside world and connect with your inner self. You’re drawn to decor that feels mysterious or evocative, with rich textures, deep colors, and meaningful symbols.

To glow up your home, focus on creating a space that supports your need for emotional regeneration. Incorporate elements like dim lighting, soft fabrics, or water features to create a calming and introspective atmosphere. Add pieces that hold personal significance—such as heirlooms, crystals, or artwork that reflects your inner world.

Scorpio energy thrives in spaces that feel sacred and transformative. Consider dedicating a corner of your home to spiritual or meditative practices. This could include a small altar, a journaling space, or a cozy nook for reflection. Your home should feel like a protective cocoon where you can explore your emotions and recharge.

𝐒𝐀𝐆𝐈𝐓𝐓𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐔𝐒 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Sagittarius ruling this house, your approach to these themes is expansive, optimistic, and adventurous. Ruled by Jupiter, Sagittarius in the fourth house brings a desire for freedom, exploration, and growth to your personal life. Your glow-up involves finding emotional healing through wisdom and exploration, fostering family relationships based on honesty and mutual growth, and creating a home that feels open, inspiring, and aligned with your quest for meaning and truth.

Emotional Healing: Expanding Your Inner World

With Sagittarius ruling your fourth house, emotional healing comes through expanding your perspective and seeking deeper truths. You thrive when you can explore your feelings through philosophical, spiritual, or adventurous means, often finding solace in the wisdom you gain from new experiences.

To glow up emotionally, embrace practices that broaden your emotional and spiritual horizons. This might include studying philosophy, engaging in mindfulness practices, or even traveling to places that inspire reflection and renewal. Journaling about your emotions and how they connect to your life’s bigger picture can also help you find clarity and inner peace.

Jupiter’s influence encourages you to trust the process of growth and believe in your ability to heal. By reframing challenges as opportunities for learning and personal evolution, you can transform emotional wounds into sources of strength and wisdom.

Family Relationships: Building Bonds Through Growth and Honesty

Sagittarius in the fourth house emphasizes a family dynamic that values freedom, growth, and open communication. You thrive in relationships where honesty and exploration are celebrated, often encouraging your loved ones to expand their perspectives and embrace new ideas.

Your glow-up involves fostering family relationships that are built on mutual respect and a shared commitment to growth. Encourage open and honest conversations that allow everyone to express themselves freely. Creating opportunities for shared learning—like family discussions, trips, or projects—can deepen your bonds and inspire a sense of unity.

Be mindful of Sagittarius’ tendency to avoid emotional depth in favor of keeping things light. While you value independence, leaning into vulnerability can create stronger and more meaningful family connections. Balance your need for freedom with a willingness to engage deeply with your loved ones’ emotions.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Open and Inspiring

Sagittarius in the fourth house brings a love for spaciousness, inspiration, and a global touch to your home environment. Your ideal space feels open and uplifting, with elements that reflect your adventurous and curious nature.

To glow up your home, incorporate decor that inspires exploration and personal growth. This might include bookshelves filled with travel guides, philosophy texts, or art from around the world. Use large windows, open layouts, or outdoor spaces to create a sense of freedom and connection to the world beyond.

Jupiter’s influence suggests a love for cultural and spiritual elements. Add items that reflect your personal journeys, such as souvenirs from travels, a meditation space, or meaningful symbols from different traditions. Your home should feel like a sanctuary for inspiration and self-discovery, where you can dream big and connect with your purpose.

𝐂𝐀𝐏𝐑𝐈𝐂𝐎𝐑𝐍 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Capricorn ruling this house, your approach to these themes is structured, responsible, and focused on creating a solid foundation. Ruled by Saturn, Capricorn in the fourth house brings a sense of discipline and tradition to your personal life. Your glow-up involves healing emotional wounds through self-discipline and inner resilience, fostering family relationships rooted in respect and mutual support, and creating a home environment that reflects stability, practicality, and enduring quality.

Emotional Healing: Building Strength from Within

With Capricorn ruling your fourth house, emotional healing is a process of cultivating resilience and self-reliance. You’re naturally inclined to take responsibility for your feelings and work through challenges with discipline and determination. While this can make you emotionally strong, it’s important to acknowledge and process your vulnerabilities rather than suppressing them.

To glow up emotionally, focus on balancing responsibility with self-compassion. Allow yourself the space to feel and release emotions without judgment. Journaling, therapy, or setting boundaries to protect your emotional energy can help you heal. Saturn’s influence encourages you to build lasting habits that support your well-being, such as regular self-care routines or mindfulness practices.

Your glow-up also involves reframing challenges as opportunities for growth. By seeing your emotional struggles as lessons that strengthen your foundation, you can move forward with confidence and clarity.

Family Relationships: Leading with Respect and Responsibility

Capricorn in the fourth house emphasizes loyalty, tradition, and responsibility within family relationships. You value respect and mutual support, often taking on a leadership role in the household. While this makes you dependable, it’s essential to ensure you’re not carrying too much of the emotional or practical load alone.

Your glow-up involves fostering a family dynamic where responsibilities are shared, and everyone feels valued. Use your natural leadership skills to guide your loved ones in creating harmony and stability, but also encourage open communication and emotional expression.

Capricorn energy can sometimes feel reserved or overly formal in family settings. To deepen your relationships, focus on adding warmth and vulnerability to your interactions. Moments of connection—such as shared traditions or meaningful conversations—can bring balance and closeness to your family ties.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Stable and Sophisticated

Capricorn in the fourth house inspires you to create a home that reflects your commitment to stability and long-term quality. Your ideal space is practical yet elegant, with an emphasis on timeless design and functionality.

To glow up your home, invest in pieces that stand the test of time, such as high-quality furniture, neutral color palettes, and classic decor. Capricorn energy values organization, so declutter regularly and incorporate storage solutions that keep your space clean and efficient.

Your home should also reflect your achievements and goals. Create a workspace for productivity, a display for family heirlooms or meaningful accomplishments, or a cozy area where you can relax and recharge. Balancing practicality with personal touches ensures that your home feels both grounded and inspiring.

𝐀𝐐𝐔𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐔𝐒 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Aquarius ruling this house, your approach to these themes is innovative, unconventional, and community-oriented. Ruled by Saturn and Uranus, Aquarius in the fourth house brings a forward-thinking and humanitarian energy to your personal life. Your glow-up involves healing emotional wounds through detachment and self-awareness, fostering family relationships built on mutual respect and individuality, and creating a home environment that reflects your unique vision and ideals.

Emotional Healing: Embracing Self-Awareness and Freedom

With Aquarius ruling your fourth house, emotional healing comes through intellectual reflection and cultivating emotional independence. You have a natural ability to observe your feelings objectively, which helps you process them with clarity. However, this detachment can sometimes lead to avoiding deeper emotional exploration.

To glow up emotionally, focus on balancing your analytical approach with moments of vulnerability. Allow yourself to feel emotions fully before stepping back to evaluate them. Practices like journaling, mindfulness, or therapy can help you bridge the gap between thought and feeling.

Uranus’ influence suggests that healing for you often involves breaking free from outdated family patterns or emotional restrictions. Embrace the freedom to define your own emotional foundations, prioritizing authenticity and alignment with your unique values.

Family Relationships: Celebrating Individuality and Equality

Aquarius in the fourth house emphasizes the importance of individuality and equality within family dynamics. You value freedom and authenticity in relationships and often act as the innovator or voice of change within the household. While this makes you a natural advocate for progress, it’s important to balance your forward-thinking nature with empathy for others’ emotional needs.

Your glow-up involves fostering family relationships where everyone’s individuality is celebrated. Encourage open and respectful communication, ensuring that each family member feels heard and valued. Collaborative decision-making or shared projects can help strengthen bonds and bring a sense of unity.

Be mindful of Aquarius’ tendency to emotionally distance or intellectualize conflicts. While it’s natural for you to approach issues logically, adding warmth and emotional connection to your interactions can deepen your relationships and create a more harmonious family environment.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Unique and Visionary

Aquarius in the fourth house inspires you to create a home that is as unique and forward-thinking as you are. Your ideal space reflects your individuality and serves as a hub for creativity, community, and innovation.

To glow up your home, incorporate modern or unconventional design elements that align with your vision. Futuristic decor, sustainable materials, or tech-forward solutions like smart home devices resonate with Aquarius’ energy. Your home should feel dynamic and adaptable, with spaces that can shift to accommodate your evolving interests and needs.

Uranus’ influence encourages you to think globally and inclusively. Add touches that reflect your humanitarian values, such as eco-friendly practices, community spaces, or art that celebrates diversity. Your home can also serve as a gathering place for friends or like-minded individuals, creating a sense of connection and shared purpose.

𝐏𝐈𝐒𝐂𝐄𝐒 𝟒𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐄

The fourth house governs emotional foundations, family relationships, and the home environment. With Pisces ruling this house, your approach to these themes is intuitive, empathetic, and deeply spiritual. Ruled by Jupiter and Neptune, Pisces in the fourth house brings a dreamy, compassionate energy to your personal life, emphasizing emotional healing, creative connection, and a home that feels like a sanctuary. Your glow-up involves healing emotional wounds through compassion and spiritual practices, fostering family relationships grounded in empathy and forgiveness, and creating a home that reflects peace, creativity, and soulful serenity.

Emotional Healing: Surrendering to Compassion and Intuition

With Pisces ruling your fourth house, emotional healing comes through surrender and spiritual alignment. You feel emotions deeply and are naturally attuned to the subtle energies around you. While this sensitivity is a strength, it can sometimes leave you feeling overwhelmed or burdened by the emotions of others.

To glow up emotionally, focus on practices that help you release what no longer serves you. Meditation, energy healing, or journaling about your dreams and emotions can help you find clarity. Pisces thrives on spiritual connection, so rituals like prayer, moon ceremonies, or spending time by water can be deeply restorative.

Neptune’s influence encourages you to embrace forgiveness and compassion, both for yourself and others. Trust your intuition as a guide to navigate emotional healing, and let go of the need to overanalyze your feelings—sometimes surrendering is the path to freedom.

Family Relationships: Building Bonds Through Empathy and Forgiveness

Pisces in the fourth house emphasizes unconditional love and empathy in family dynamics. You are the peacemaker, often acting as the emotional glue that holds everyone together. While this makes you a comforting presence, it’s essential to protect your energy and avoid taking on others’ emotional burdens.

Your glow-up involves fostering family relationships through open-hearted communication and gentle forgiveness. Use your natural intuition to sense what others need, but ensure that you’re setting boundaries to maintain your well-being. Encourage shared moments of connection, such as creative projects, storytelling, or spiritual practices that bring your family closer.

Be mindful of Pisces’ tendency to idealize or avoid difficult family issues. While your compassion is a gift, addressing challenges honestly and with sensitivity will lead to deeper and more authentic bonds.

Creating a Nurturing Home Environment: Dreamy and Peaceful

Pisces in the fourth house inspires you to create a home that feels like a sanctuary for your soul. Your ideal space is soft, serene, and filled with elements that encourage relaxation, creativity, and connection to the divine.

To glow up your home, incorporate soothing colors like pastels, soft blues, or whites. Add textures that feel comforting, such as plush rugs, cozy blankets, and flowing curtains. Pisces loves a touch of magic, so consider including candles, fairy lights, or spiritual symbols that enhance the dreamy atmosphere.

Water features, like a small fountain or an aquarium, align with Pisces’ connection to the ocean’s energy and can bring a calming presence to your space. Dedicate an area to creative or spiritual practices, such as painting, writing, or meditation, to nurture your soul. Your home should feel like a haven where you can escape the noise of the outside world and reconnect with your inner self.

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