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subconsciousmysteries · 1 year ago

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what I like about 7s is you can tell when they are fuckboys unless you have a room temperature IQ. maybe it is a natural talent that only I have (I really doubt this but I dont wanna insult ppl who've been victimized by 7 fuckboys). however it is just so obvious to me when a 7 dude is a fuckboy trying to taste all his options vs. when he is ripe and ready for commitment. the way that 7s show you bluntly when they are bored with you by ignoring you or only responding with one liners is actually a good thing. I find 7s to be very transparent, very obvious about what they want from you even if they don't directly communicate it with words. they are not capable of leading me on because they never give me the impression that they think I'm special in the first place. they never immerse themselves in my world and make me feel special because they're too preoccupied with their own.

meanwhile other types of men cough cough withdrawns are confusing as hell to the point it feels like manipulation and deception. they can larp like they are all innocent when they are the world's biggest fuckboys. they become deeply connected to you as a friend, they show you that they have a crush on you that they are too scared to act on, and they act like they're ready for exclusivity to get you into bed when often they are not. with words and with showing a genuine interest in your world, they make you think you are extremely special to them, yet many of their actions (or lack thereof) imply that you are not.

no one talks about how 7s with the 1 line can grow up and develop an intense dutifulness towards relationships. the meme is that 7s struggle with commitment but in my experience it really depends on the 7 in question. relational commitment issues are a lot more complicated than "lol 7". any type can have them and its usually rooted in trauma or plain old spiritual weakness.

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#7s struggle with committment towards a lot of things but relationships arent necessarily one of them #i see it like its a bar #in a video game #and the 7 bar for “things you struggle to commit to” is SUPER BIG #but many 7s consume that struggle to commit on non relationship things #like their job their work ethic their dreams their good habits (they dont commit to these things)#7s also have a capacity to commit which is small #but they can develop it to be bigger over time #and many choose to spend the little capacity for commitment they do have on relationships #anyways a problem is that 7s can lack the ability to make you feel special because they dont like going too deep emotionally #ive had this problem with my bf and been like “im leaving” but then he was always like noo stay #and i was like well thats the first time anyones wanted me to stay #all these withdrawn dudes made me feel like a princess but it turned out to be shallow words & platitudes because they didnt want to persis #actions are all that really matters and this is what assertive types understand that withdrawns dont #the tradeoff is that assertives are insensitive fucktards who make you feel like theyre always thinking about something better than you #assertives literally never have time for you. even if theyre sitting inside scrolling thru phone all day. its a psychological thing #their thing is always better... more worthy of attention than your thing.#intimacy is difficult with an assertive type. regardless of what your type is #3s and 8s guilty of this as well #im sure ive made my partners in the past feel this way... like theyre unimportant and im always thinking of better things #and i make my bf feel this way sometimes too #he complains #as do I #lmao

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