#the summer of like 2022 was honestly one of the happiest times of my life

[aroacecowboy]

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[somuchwhatever]

20 Questions for Fic Writers

Got tagged by @somewhereapart, and I figured y'all may be sick of seeing me just post fic so here ya go.

1. How many works do you have on AO3?

88

2. What's your total AO3 word count?

305,612

3. What fandoms do you write for?

AO3 tells me I've written for Battlestar Galactica, Buffy, General Hospital, Law & Order: SVU, Law & Order: OC, Lie To Me, Stargate: Atlantis, Stargate SG-1, and The West Wing. And I honestly can't think of any others outside of just ficlets I've tossed into the wild over the years.

4. What are your top five fics by kudos?

Flinktober 2022 (EO, SVU/OC)

i remember skies (EO, SVU/OC)

gala (EO, SVU/OC)

bizarre love triangle (EO, SVU/OC)

Chautauqua (EO, SVU/OC)

I did not include one that was cowritten with a bunch of other people because I will always assume the kudos are for them.

5. Do you respond to comments? Why or why not?

As often as possible. If someone takes the time to comment, I want them to know that i care enough to acknowledge and thank them for that kindness and effort. Especially when I write mostly for a fandom where I've seen people specifically state that they will read works but NOT comment on them as some sort of punishment for whatever random/imaginary fandom sins the writer whose free content they are enjoying has committed. That's just dumb and unkind, so I make the effort to let people know their comments are appreciated, even if it takes weeks to circle back.

6. What's the fic you wrote with the angstiest ending?

Hmmm. There are several chapters in the first flink posting that would qualify, but I'm going to go with my largest Sam/Jack (SG-1) fic, Gravity Sings. It's hard to pretend it's not angsty when you've literally killed off half the planet.

7. What's the fic you wrote with the happiest ending?

Hmm. Not really sure. I'm a sucker for fluffy endings, so I tend to write them quite a bit. Maybe waltz or Chautauqua?

8. Do you get hate on fics?

Occasionally, but I shut it down quickly. If you come up in someone's space where someone is providing you free entertainment and be rude? Don't expect a pass from me about it. The scroll bar isn't difficult to use, and neither is the back button. I use it frequently on poorly-written works or things that may be well-written but just aren't my thing. What I don't do is sling entitlement issues around demanding things be written to my satisfaction (unless you employ my beta services, in which case, you asked for it!). :D

9. Do you write smut? If so, what kind?

I never really did prior to the first flink experiment, and I created that experiment purely to practice writing smut. Well, I take that back. @rgrdsalxndra would be the first to remind me I'd often cockblock Elliot and Olivia by having them dream-smutting without real-life release. But I started that project with the express purpose of getting better and more comfortable with writing smut, so I'm making that the hinge point.

10. Do you write crossovers? What's the craziest one you've written?

Because SVU and OC are different shows, I write them regularly. But if you mean out-of-universe crossovers, I've only really written one, R.E.M. (SGA, BSG, Buffy). It was based on a prompt from an LJ friend, "Elizabeth Weir, Kara Thrace, and Buffy Summers walk into a bar..."

11. Have you ever had a fic stolen?

Not that I'm aware. There are much better people out there to steal from. Also, I always assume if something is similar to what I've written, it's because fandom truly does become a hivemind at some point. Nothing new under the sun and all.

12. Have you ever had a fic translated?

Not that I'm aware. If I had to guess, I'd say Gravity Sings would be the most likely candidate since SG-1 fandom is probably the most global and that fic has been around much longer than any other likely candidates.

13. Have you ever co-written a fic before?

Wrote Wet Dream with much better smut writers than myself in a group chat, and a bunch of us in SG-1 fandom way back in the day once built an SG-1 AU loosely based on The Big Bang Theory called The House That Jack Built, and I have several entries in that little universe.

14. What's your all-time favorite ship?

How does anyone pick this??? I love them all for different reasons. I will say EO has a grip on me nobody else ever has, but then they have that 25 year slow burn that is just absolutely and sickly delicious.

15. What's the WIP you want to finish but doubt you ever will?

Glazed and Fired (SGA) was originally the first part of a 5 Things fic that got away from me, and I had always intended to go back and finish it but eventually just put it away for good. I fully intend to finish my others (Skies, I'm looking at you).

16. What are your writing strengths?

Grammar. Economy of language (this is also sometimes a weakness). Getting into the head of characters who are typically very closed off.

17. What are your writing weaknesses?

I feel my writing is way too mechanical. I'm also still not comfortable writing smut. I always walk around with a sense of imposter syndrome with my writing.

18. Thoughts on writing dialogue in another language for a fic?

I'm literally one class shy of a degree in French, and I had to write many upper level term papers in that language, but let me assure you I have zero plans to ever write in another language. I sincerely applaud those of you who do.

19. First fandom you wrote for?

Stargate SG-1

20. Favorite fic you've ever written?

Geez. It probably changes regularly, and I'm hesitant to say because my faves are never anyone else's. all i ever wanted (a rather dark Elliot-centric fic) holds a very dear spot in my heart just because of how my muse just grabbed a keyboard and churned it out. This is not a popular opinion, and hardly anyone read it, but I still love it a lot. And just because it was the first fic I wrote that was widely recc'd, I have a soft spot for Things Not Dreamed (SG-1), a Sam & Jack & Daniel fic written from Daniel's POV.

tagging in a no-pressure way (and sorry for any double tags):

@morethanwords229, @whatbecomesofyou, @samwrites99, @rgrdsalxndra, @shut-upjohn, and anyone else who wants to do it!

[moccahobi]

2023 Review

Oh boy... this review will likely be short! I spent a lot of time writing but much less time posting. Generally, it is interesting to look back and see how much I did and how little I posted. I became quite unorganized this year as well. I didn't properly maintain my organizational systems. Which I guess is something that I will want to refresh soon!

Now! Let's get into this review!

Fandom(s): BTS

Total Fics:

Posted: 10

Worked On: ~13

Total Words:

Posted: 22.6k

Written: 63.2k

 ~SHIP/CHARACTER BREAKDOWN~ 

Ships (if applicable) (per series):      

NamSeok (Namjoon x Hoseok)

Sope (Yoongi x Hoseok)

Yoonkook (Yoongi x Jungkook)

 Character Frequency (per series):     

Seokjin: 2

Namjoon: 2

Hoseok: 2

Yoongi: 2

Jimin: 1

Taehyung: 1

Jungkook: 2

Character POVs: 

Seokjin: 0

Namjoon: 1

Hoseok: 1

Yoongi: 2

Jimin: 0

Taehyung: 2

Jungkook: 2

Reader: 3

Did you seem to have a preference for any particular member/ship/pov? Why?

I def love my Hoseok ships it appears! Given only one of my mxm fics were wholly written this year (quite tragic truly).

 ~SPECIFICS~ 

Best and Worst Title? 

Best: The Creamed Pie (thank you @sailoryooons for helping me with that innuendo!)

Worst: TT I love them all honestly... it's a first

 Best and Worst first line?

Best: "Hello." (Hello, Goodbye)

Worst: Sweat dripped down Namjoon’s back, the sun bearing down on Hoseok and him as they hiked higher and higher. (Dancing in the Rain)

 Best and Worst ending line? 

Best: "One fateful rainy summer day, Hoseok and Namjoon walked out to dance around in their quiet haven. The ring sat patiently in Namjoon’s pants pocket, soon to be sitting happily on Hoseok’s ring finger. " (Dancing in the Rain 3)

Best: "Goodbye" (Hello, Goodbye)

Worst: At the mention of home, she looked away distantly before sighing and smiling at Taehyung, “Sure!” (AFBTTYA 17)

 ~GENERAL QUESTIONS~ 

Looking back, did you write more fics than you thought you would this year, less than, or about what was expected? 

I wrote less than I hoped I would but as the year progressed, I think I wrote as much as I thought I would.

I actually barely achieved any of my 2022 goals. I finished AFBTTYA but didn't finish posting it. Didn't finish Defrosting Ivy, Golden Ramyeon, or Life on Pause. I didn't take part in a collab/project (tried to but then realized I wouldn't finish in time). That being said, I do feel like I worked towards healing my relationship with writing more and I did read more! Which I am so proud of.

Any reasons why? 

I'm a super optimistic person with goal setting so I am not surprised that I set my hopes high. In fact, with goals I often use reach goals rather than SMART/attainable goals. I also think that this understandably ignores all my academic writing. I took a hiatus my final semester because I was doing so much writing with my ulnar nerve inflammation, was super burnt out from school, and needed to reduce what I was doing. All valid things. I probably wrote at least to 100k words if I included my academic writing.

What pairing/genre/fandom/trope did you write that you would never have predicted last year? 

Succubus au!

How was it? 

I loved it so much. I think that if I have energy/plan to write more oneshots, I might try to include more traditionally sexy things (or at least sexy here) and make them very ace. It's super fun.

 What’s your favorite story this year? 

Well... I want to say DIA 3... but since I finished it this year rather than write/posted the whole thing, Imma say The Creamed Pie!

Not the most popular, but the one that makes you the happiest. Why? 

Either DIA for finishing it or The Creamed Pie!

Okay, your readers’ most popular story? 

Story most underappreciated by the universe? 

Story that could have been better? 

Sexiest story? 

The Creamed Pie lol

Saddest story? 

Hello, Goodbye

Fluffiest story?

The Creamed Pie

Most fun story (in content)?

The Creamed Pie

Hardest story to write? 

AFBTTYA (getting back into writing it was hard!)

Easiest/most fun story to write? 

Hello, Goodbye

What story took the longest? 

AFBTTYA (4 years!)

Did you take any writing risks this year? What did you learn from them?

I don't think I took risks persay. More so, I think I tried to be more protective and be less impulsive. The biggest example of this is trying to give my writing space between finishing and posting (and finishing something before posting which is why my posted word count is so small in comparison to my written word count).

365 days feels like a super long time... but honestly, I don't know if I will feel the impacts of all I've worked on until later in 2024. Writing and less posting really does mean that a lot of what I sowed will not be reaped for later. I think I'd like a faster turn around though.

What was your most productive days/day of the week/month, etc in terms of writing?

Well *adjusts collar* It appears that July was my most productive month for writing!

Name one thing you improved on this year in relation to writing. Either an actual technical writing thing, or even a mental approach to writing change. 

I think that I've taken to really focusing on the process of writing more which is nice. I don't know how much this will continue in 2024 since I also took a long hiatus but I would love to continue to focus on the process of writing and less on the posting aspect.

Name one thing you’d like to improve on in the future? 

Range. Esp since I enjoy writing for two groups with OCs, readers, and member pairings. I enjoy intentionally including range... and since I really only posted 4 units (two series and two one shots) that range wasn't really the focus.

What are your fic writing goals for next year? 

Finish writing Defrosting Ivy

Edit Defrosting Ivy

Start posting Defrosting Ivy

Finish posting AFBTTYA

Write a main pairing for each member of BTS

Write 3 Got7 pieces

Start working on another series (after DI)

 And finally, fics that you wrote in 2023:

Dancing in the Rain [Part 3]

The Creamed Pie

AFBTTYA 22

AFBTTYA 21

AFBTTYA 20

Hello, Goodbye

AFBTTYA 19

AFBTTYA 18

AFBTTYA 17

AFBTTYA 16

[jupitercl0uds]

ive just been reminded of stuff oh no

if youve read most of my posts since like mid august, maybe september onwards, youll know that i am STRUGGLING rn. while its been all over the place, having highs and lows, i seriously havent been this bad since 2020/21. i know the reasonable thing to do is take a break, but i cant do that because i have pitiful impulse control atm. that being said, the only thing to really stop me is to deactivate. my main blog's been going for years now, so i dont want to lose everything, though i also get the urge to occasionally.

the issue is, the only times i actually feel almost fully comfortable in a social circle is on tumblr and even then im still scared and awkward. my school friends keep saying really hurtful stuff and while a lot of it is just as a joke, theres almost no time to be serious with them. ive tried. i weakly asked them to stop calling everything retarded more months before finally putting my foot down and demanding, although it took a month of 'retard! whoops, i shouldnt say that' before they just went straight back to it.

my family loves me but i dont like it here. i dont think i even can get into it because its complicated. just know ive seen and HEARD a lot over my short life and its finally starting to catch up to me.

as for the other kids in my school, im in an awkward spot. im honestly fairly 'normal', just with slight outbursts from time to time, but ive always been weird so i always will be. oh, year 9 me, how naïve you were. they don't care if you have an autism diagnosis, if you mask or not, you will NEVER be normal, you will NEVER be accepted and they dont care if theres a reason. if anything, that makes it worse.

im only ever happy when im on tumblr or doing something sonic related. on tumblr, im insecure that nobody really likes me or someone's going to manipulate me, with no amount of reassuring being enough to change that. and as youve already seen me say, sonic is 'too childish', no matter how heavy the themes can be.

this always happens. pre-2020, i didnt really use social media much and i was 11 oldest, so my main escape was roblox/youtube. in 2020-22, i was only happy when chatting to friends on discord. that was ruined when we all started to argue and drift apart. in 2022-23, it was tiktok. this was then ruined when popular kids found my silly waluigi tiktoks and started sharing them around. i havent used tiktok since june and i havent posted a public video since may.

but then, last year, i remembered i had a tumblr account. i started to use it more. and then, when sonic got involved and suddenly i was becoming friends with people, i started to feel my absolute happiest. i was euphoric.

until, of course, my brain struck.

if my birthday werent at the end of august, i think i would be much worse than i currently am, because at least i had a short break to be happy. school was off to a bad start from the very beginning. i didnt sleep the night before my first day, nor did i sleep before the second. what's worse, mum didn't let me stop working at the charity shop i had THOUGHT was for the summer, because, you know, i dont have anything on my plate, im able to just have a designated day of the week where i have to be productive. nope! ive had my days off, but ive still had work every week. is it hard? no! do i have the spoons to go most weeks? also no!

thats not to mention exams. ive always been a well performing student and will be surprised if i fail even 1 gcse, but im not the top of any of my classes, not even the ones im passionate about. no, i dont have to be, i know, but when you grow up as a kid who often IS the top of their year in something, the moment you aren't, you feel like a failure. even if i get all 9s and a d* in drama, there'll be someone who gets more than me in something, and i know i definitely wont get all 9s and a d* in drama. i was proud for a moment, for being top of english, until i found out a girl ive known since primary got a 9 in an english language mock. english language. my favourite english and the subject im best at. needless to say, i was miserable. i barely even slept across the course of my mocks and wont be surprised if i do the same for my gcses.

i sometimes wonder if im just not built for the world, which could honestly be the case. because i have low support needs and my biggest problems are sensory issues (which can be easy to prevent) and social problems, i forget im even allowed to be disabled by autism. but i think that honestly might just be the case.

ive always wanted to be a teacher or an animator, hopefully both, but im starting to wonder if i can do either. animator has such a big workload. teacher also has a big workload, but i know because my family is full of teachers and artists that it's the kind of workload i can manage. but the kids? could i control the kids? could they even take an autistic, nonbinary teacher seriously? again, i dont have high support needs, but its hard not to notice im autistic. of course, if everything goes to plan, i would probably start teaching in the 2030s earliest, 2050s latest, so the world will have changed, but how much?

i get most of these are problems out of my control, but i suppose im just scared and tired of living. that's why i make a million posts a minute: i cant get a word in edgeways with anyone else. that's why i get so apologetic: id get ridiculed for trying otherwise. i get that im annoying and boring. i should know. when i was 3, my dad infodumped about back to the future to me for about half an hour and it was such a tiring experience that it still gets brought up. so i get it, it's annoying when all i care to talk about is sonic. but its the one thing i can care about right now. the world is in ruin and i hate being alive. i dont even have enough motivation to act upon any occasional suicidal/self harming thoughts.

but life goes on and there's no way to stop it.

[ocean-anchored]

Dear future self... 2022 Goal Recap

I can’t believe it’s another year gone. I spent last night re-reading my posts from 2022 and as much as I recall a lot of the year, there was some points in the earlier year that I had forgotten about. My hair stylist today asked me what my New Years resolutions were but I was stumped. I hadn’t really thought of it this time around. I guess I get caught up thinking that they have to be these elaborate ideas & goals, forgetting that it’s okay to keep things small & simple.  I realized in one of my early posts of 2022 that I had written a handful of things that I wanted to do & achieve that year, almost forgetting what I had written but I realized that I actually had done a lot of them. Let’s recap of things I had hoped: - To be the happiest point in my life - I always find this sentence interesting as I feel like I think I could always be happier or reflect on moments that may have been the happiest moment, forgetting that it’s a whole. I could say though that at this moment right now, I probably am the happiest I’ve been. - To further my career/position & start a side hustle - Definitely achieved that, majority of the year I had a part time evening job on top of my career which turned out to flip, so I still technically have a ��side hustle” if you want to call it that being my old original job but I do believe I’ve furthered myself by making this career change. - Out of LOC debt & better with saving - I’d like to say I did achieve this, I do still have some money on it that I put on only a few months ago but it was at $0 for most of the year. I wouldn’t say I’m in debt (outside of my car) as I could pay it off fully but I’ve been making payments instead to help my credit. - Hit fitness goals & being confident in my body - I feel like this is a forever goal honestly. I don’t even think I thought of what that fitness goal was other than to just feel happy with my body. Let’s say we’re still working on that one. -More hikes & furthering my footprint of where I’ve been - This one I forgot about but it excited me after I read it. I went on a lot of hikes in the beginning when I was seeing Nate, which also furthered my footprint by exploring all of Cranbrook and Kimberley. I did a lot of walks and exploring of NFLD this summer, I did a few mountain hikes myself & explored Vancouver a lot. - Find a core group of girl friends - Unfortunately still working on this. I did however find a solid girl friend but haven’t found that core group yet.  - Be at Grayson’s firsts - I feel like I was able to experience majority of his firsts this year. - Expand my baking - Also feel like i did this, I feel like I’ve almost mastered cinnamon buns, I baked a lot of variety of things this year including out of my comfort zone baking Gray’s first birthday cake. - Heal from the trauma - I really do feel like I healed so much this year. There’s still a few times that I might be triggered or emotion arises but I do feel like I’ve gotten through and past the feeling of shame of being divorced. I’m sure it will come up again over time in different situations but overall I’ve healed a hell of a lot. - Have a good start to a savings account - This was one of my actual written goals & it was wanting to have $5k of savings which I’ve done & am pretty proud of. As much as I feel like this was kind of an easy one being such a small amount when someone works two jobs, but not only did I achieve that but I’ve lived pretty comfortably this year not thinking about money. Not to say that I’ve gone & blown it but I’ve done a couple trips, maintained a relationship which is always quiet costly, moved & have spent money on myself in different ways so I feel good about that. -Stay true to myself - I actually feel like I did do this. There may have been times that I’ve lost myself a little in situations, but overall I believe I’ve stayed true to my values & beliefs. I turned down situations that weren’t who I was and said no to things that didn’t align or feel right.  -Strengthen my relationship with God - This one has sadly been my biggest let down being the most important. I mean yes I did continue my relationship with God throughout the year but there were many times and months that went by that I didn’t pursue further or strengthen, it was more just the bare minimum to continue to tell myself that at least I was still in connection.

[alwritey-aphrodite]

20. Crickets and Fireflies, requested by @creatively-analytical

2022 Summer Blurbs

This was your favorite way to end a stressful week.

Relaxing in your big backyard, with Jack’s arms around you as you lounge and watch the sunset, and then the stars. There was nothing you loved more than spending time with your husband, even if you weren’t doing anything exciting or adventurous. Honestly, you think you preferred these quiet moments, where it’s just the two of you with no one to impress.

“This is my favorite part of the day,” you say quietly, Jack humming in response. You relax against him, sighing happily as you sink deeper into his warm embrace, combating the slight chill that comes with the darkness.

Jack had never thought he’d get this, at least not again. He was sure that he lost his chance at a peace like this after his wife and son passed, but then, he met you. After years and years of healing and breaking down, he felt like he was finally at the right place to try another relationship.

Then he ran into you. It was completely by accident, but perhaps the happiest accident of his life. Three years later, the two of you were happily married and living in a beautiful farmhouse, with a gorgeous porch and a big backyard, with plenty of space for gardening, for pets, or for any possible little ones to run around.

He didn’t think he deserved this life, or deserved you, but here you both were, and you couldn’t imagine being anywhere else. You close your eyes and focus on his breathing, the gentle rise and fall of his chest against your back.

With no other houses around for miles, you’re able to hear the crickets chirping, something you’d never gotten to do before you lived here. It was incredible to you, living in a house that was so close to nature.

You cuddle back even farther into Jack, met with his broad chest and gentle arms. He really was the perfect cuddle partner.

“I could fall asleep like this,” you mutter, already halfway there.

“Don’t fall asleep quite yet, sugar,” he responds, whispering softly into your ear.

“Why?” You practically whine. He was soft and his arms were strong and the night air was the perfect temperature, you were completely relaxed and after the week you had, all you wanted was a nice night of sleep.

“Fireflies,” he replies, gently squeezing your middle, where his arms are wrapped around you. You peel open your eyes, and whisper an awed, “Woah.”

The whole backyard was full of fireflies, flickering on and off and illuminating the night sky. It was absolutely beautiful, and you were glad that Jack didn’t let you fall asleep before you could see it.

“Want to go inside?” He asks, knowing how much you want to go to bed and sleep in.

“No, I’m alright,” you’re already nuzzling back against him, getting even more comfortable, “we can stay here for a little while longer.”

“Alright, baby.” He presses a kiss to the top of your head, making you hum in delight. “I’ll carry you inside after you fall asleep.”

[madeofcc]

January Update

Hey everyone and welcome to the new ones of you ♥ As usual, here’s a little update on what I’ve planned for this month on this blog and in my life.

Before we start though, I want to wish you all a happy new year and sending you the best vibes to carry you on ♥

Life update : As you may know or not, a lot has happened to me in the end of 2021. I actually lost my job and also ended the relationship I was during 6 years. This new year starts with a lot of things to do and handle at the same time so I’m taking few days to organize everything, this blog as well ^^

I’ve started to look for a new job but I can’t look for a new appartment until I get one so I hope to find one soon. I’m trying also to rest and relax during nights as my insomnia came back like a bitch ^^” So I actually have time to play and prepare some new stuff to come !

I actually played with Destiny and Leïla for the first time to discover the Uni pack. Something made it glitched so the girls couldn’t go to some of their classes and they spent most of their time working to get good grades ... Have to admit that it’s not my favourite EP (maybe the least favourite for now I think) but it was nice to see that Destiny started her carreer at rank 8/10 as a judge after graduated, it’s kind of cool when you play without cheats.

Since last week, I’m discovering Cottage Living with Soraya and Chester and *0* I love it !!! So far it’s my favourite EP : I love the animals, the world, the colours and peacefull universe it brings. I totally would love to live in a place like that ^^ It’s also not a surprise to notice that these two fit perfectly in this world and I’m enjoying a lot playing with them. I think I’m going to give them the peacefull life and see if I can maybe start a legacy just for me to play with sometimes.

Blog update : 2021 was a busy year for me so I had to delay DH2. Instead of that I also wrote Another Side and I really loved it ! 2022 will be more DH focused though, I promise !

As I told you before, I’m actually playing these days and enjoy it more and more. I’m still on DH2 as well don’t worry but I think I won’t be able to really work on it until I get my own home so let’s say for now it should be back around this spring/summer if everything turns out the way I want .

Until that, I think I’m just going to chill and have fun here. Post maybe more personnal stuff, more edits and maybe little DH random moments. I’m having a lot of fun with @samssims​ Mis Mix Tape challenge and I’ve planned to do more I’ve stocked in my draft for months. I’ve also decided to choose Sunday as a reblog day ‘cause I put a lot of things I like in my draft to reblog to not reblogging it the same time as everyone so I want to have a special day for it.

I don’t know if new cc are going to come honestly. For now, I still have to manage my computer storage capacity and creating cc takes a lot of storage so it’s not my goal at all this year. Writting and editing are my priorities sorry ♥

Here are some gameplay of SoSter living the Cottage life. You can notice that Chester is the happiest (he wanted the farm, she wanted the peace). I wanted to include Poupou with them but as she’s supposed to be Leïla’s dog, I kept them together. Don’t hesitate to tell me if you’d like to see more gameplay pics from cottage living or Uni . I took some with Des and Lee and have planned to take more with SoSter.

And that’s it ^^

Again, I wish you all the best year, thank you so so much for being here, interacting and all ♥ You’re a huge help every day ♥

Take very good care of you

[alsjeblieft-zeg]

188 of 2022

01. What do you hope you grow out of?

I’d say epilepsy, but let’s be realistic. I’ve gone for years without seizures and medication, until last year it hit me back with a full blast.

02. What is the healthiest and unhealthiest thing you do on a regular basis?

I eat lots of veggies and homemade food, and I drink alcohol.

03. When looking for a SO, what three things are most important (besides looks)?

Besides looks?? Looks are not important to me at all, as long as he has pretty eyes (define that yourself) and is generally clean. People who choose partners based on what they look like are shallow. I don’t look for SO either, all my relationships have developed from lifelong friendships and it didn’t bother me at all when I was single. This question is based on some awful generalisations, and remember that not everyone loves in the same way.

Anyways, I’m drawn to people who are genuine, not afraid to be themselves and caring.

04. How much do you judge a person by their appearance?

I don’t judge people. When I see someone, I just make guesses about their personality/interests etc., because sometimes the way people dress says quite a lot.

05. What is the most embarrassing thing you own?

Some sex toys that my husband bought for me, I have no use of them anyway. I hold no interest in things like that.

06. What is the strangest habit you have?

Probably walking around when I’m thinking.

07. What movie made you cry the most?

I don’t watch movies.

08. What was one of the happiest moments of your childhood?

Spending summer vacations at my grandma’s.

09. What was the worst date that you’ve ever been on?

I don’t really date, I just hang out. I honestly don’t understand the point of dating people you barely know, I know everyone is different and likes different things, but I certainly seem to base my attraction on different things.

10. What’s your favorite vacation memory from when you were a child?

Spending time at my grandma’s.

11. What belief do you have that most people disagree with?

That generalising and making assumptions based on race, gender etc. is hurtful and just wrong.

12. What impression do you try to give when you first meet someone?

I’m just myself, you either like me or not.

13. Who or what inspires you to be a better person?

Knowing I can relate to other people’s pain.

14. What’s the TLDR description of your last relationship?

I used to live in the military area and there were some young soldiers being settled there, and he was one of them and he was my neighbour and that’s how we met. He was literally the one guy who didn’t make fun of our accent (unlike other Dutch people, because West-Flemish pronunciation sounds unnatural to them). He turned out to be a really fun guy, and also caring and very understanding, and we quickly became friends. Then I had something like a crush on him, and I was quite happy to find out he likes guys, too. And then things happened. We’ve been the happiest couple ever, but he was away for months due to his job, so we decided to break up. We were still in love with each other, which made things particularly hard, but on the v-bright side, we remain great friends until today. I know I can talk to him anytime about just anything, and he knows that, too. We still love each other. I would be unhappy if we parted ways completely.

15. If you found out your current life has been just a dream, would you choose to wake up? (You don’t know if your real life would be better or worse.)

No. I’ve been through some rough shit, but the perspective of ‘real’ life being potentially worse is just enough to put me off.

16. What dumb thing did you believe for a really long time?

That people on th photos can actually see me.

17. What are some things you would you like to achieve before you die?

Friendship with someone particular.

18. Where would you like to retire?

I don’t know yet.

19. What brings you the most joy in life?

My cats, this guy I like, all the simple things, beauty of the nature.

20. What is the best and worst part of your personality?

Best - I’m apparently very caring and accepting, and I value justice over mercy. Worst - I’m prone to anger and I’m quite greedy.

21. How would your perfect partner treat you?

No cringey romantic gestures, not being clingy and leaving me some personal space, being like my best friend, not demanding me to have sex all the time (once in a while is fine, though, and just for his benefit).