#the nuns and priests i know arent so bad

[lefortunes]

another win for the old catholic community.

my aunt who's been a nun for most of her life?

yeah ? what about it?

she's pro choice.

boom - mic drop.

[lunatic-fandom-space]

You know what its past midnight Im gonna make a post critisising acotar despite never having the read the series, the only book of SJMs ive actually read was crescent city but I spend a lot of time in anti acotar circles bc its fun being a little hater sometimes and I think I know enough by now to atleast critise some of the themes. I definitely know more about this series than I should, like I know about that immortal horse whose horse wife tragically died in horse childbirth and then Im pretty sure he died of horse sadness. And yet, despite cari can read being pretty good at explaining magic shit, I still dont know what the hell syphons are or why illyrians have them or why they matter so you really never stop learning huh

Anyway, I wanted to talk about the misogyny within the universe of acotar because its really bad, both in the sense that its just annoying and insufferable to read about even second-hand and in the sense that its badly written. The thing that inspired this was this short piece of flashfiction by @feynessupremacy about an unnamed girl from the hewn city being married off and having a horrible time living in this endless cycle of misogynistic abuse that her mom is still in and that her dauggters will end up in, all powerless to do anything against this kind of systemic sexism. I thought it was good and made its intended point pretty well but it also made me once again realize how borderline comical this series portrayal of misogyny is

Like, okay, once again, I have not read these books myself but it very much seems like the sexism in this world just materialized in the second book, from the summaries Ive watched it straightup seems like it was just not there in the first book. I mean hell, the entire plot hinges on the fact that Tamlin was sending all these fae disguised as fucked up creatures out so that they would hopefully be killed by a woman so she could break the curse, which implies that women being hunters was pretty normal. (Also, dont come at me with any kind of "oh, it doesnt specify the gender of the person who needs to break the curse a guy couldve done it as well", sjm is too insufferably heteronormative to consider that)

So basically what Im saying is, from my perspective it very much seems like sjm put not only systemic misogyny but like, incredibly violent systemic misogyny to the point where women being brutalized is basically completely normal, in her fantasy series for the sake of making a man look good because hes a wittle sad :( about it sometimes which is honestly pretty funny to me

But it gets even funnier because it doesnt even seem like sexism is really a widespread thing ? Like, i have never seen anyone else directly address this but its all I can think about: in the Nightcourt, the misogyny and institutionalized violence against women is literally the worst it possibly can be with genital mutilation and everything and then in the rest of Prythian its just like, not there. There are plenty of women with political power, the queen of adriada comes to mind first, Im pretty sure I read something about a woman from the wintercourt who was in a similar position of power, its unclear to me what all these fuckin priestesses do because theres no focus on the religion at all much less the institution(s) behind that religion, but they have to have some kind of power if theyre anything like priests in our world (although tbh they seem more like nuns to me functionally just with a diffrent name), especially Ianthe who was like a high priestess and directly in charge of Feyre, who shouldve been the most powerful woman in the springcourt by virtue of being with the high lord, Amren and Mor seem to be well respected outside of the NightCourt, their only deity is the MOTHER. Sure, there arent any "official" High Ladies but if being a High Lord entails being chosen by the magic of the land or The Cauldron or The Mother or whatever other kind of magic bullshit and women just dont get to have it for some reason, is that really indicative of the broader culture being sexist, or is that just God, Who Canonically Exists being sexist? Idk about you, but Im leaning towards the latter option

Thats not even mentioning the mortal lands which seem to be ruled by queens exclusively at the time of the story taking place, or Hybern which had Amarantha and I think her sister as well be these high-ranking generals and it wasnt presented as anything unusual. Like, are you telling me that the kingdom whose only value is "we love slavery, we would like to have slavery back" is more progressive than the court of fuckin Feminist King Rhysand?? I Am Going To Turn Into The Joker

Anyway, I think thats all I have to say, please correct me if I got any of this information wrong I cannot stress enough that I have not read these books and dont plan on reading them anytime soon, atleast not in english because reading the term mate a 1000 times sounds like too much for me to bear, atleast in german theyll probably use a term like "Gefährte/in" which doesnt make me think of actual animals

[thecw4kids]

popular horror series rating

Halloween - 5/10 - there are like 2 rly good halloween movies. there are some classic So Bad It’s Good gems in there like Halloween 2 fucking exploding a kid or Busta Rhymes being the only canon killer of mysers other than that its fucking boring and lame and the remakes suck ass

Friday 13th - 3/10 - i think when people think of this series as the “funny fun horror schlock” they think like 3 movies, the rest are snorefest rly bad production movies with, most of the time, cut gore effects. but it has a pretty good remake too so, its alright.

Saw - 6/10 - NGL if you plan on watching the full Saw series, i will tell you dont even try to take it seriously as much as it wants to. nearly every movie in the series is memorable in some way and the VFX are gnarly. even if the writing is terrible and it starts becoming a soap opera

Elm Street - 8/10 - dude i know sometimes this series gets boring but when it hits it fucking HITS. i dont care how fucking stupid and dumb it gets, freddy is a stupid dumb character and its funny seeing him do stupid dumb shit. This would be higher if the remake did not exist.

Texas Chainsaw - 1/10 - the two first movies and the remake are the only good movies. holy shit do all the other ones suck. like legitimately they fucking suck, theyre so bad and not even in a fun way. like they are frustratingly bad

Scream - 2/10 - if you wanted to watch a gorey version of a Disney Channel Original Show, heres the series for you. Its the same movie every single time.

Hellraiser - 4/10 - this movie has an amazing first 4 movies with some being actual good and some being so bad its good but wow does it deteriorate. theres literally a movie where they stay in one Living room for the entirety of the movie and just argue. thats the whole fucking movie.

Paranormal Activity - 7/10 - this series is fine. it has fine scares, fine moments, fine writing. it does go bonkers near the end and has kinda lackluster endings but for what it is, its very ok to watch. esp when they just start blasting the bad dudes with guns

final destination -  2/10 - refer to Scream series except replace Disney Channel with ABC Family. the 5th one is the only good one.

the conjuring - 1/10 - who cares. the ghosts in this movie arent even deadly and only target white people (poc in these movies have Powers apparently). the nun literally appears to scare priests. the red mask demon does nothing. annabelle is ableist. this series is boring.

[tradcatmaria]

For the lesbian/gay anon: being gay isnt bad! What would be bad is if you would actually have sex or anything like this from somebody of your own gender. What you can do is just.. not have a relationship. I know this sounds hard but its better than forcing yourself to 'become straight' because its not gonna work. A other thing you could do is become a nun/monk or something like this. You arent allowed to have a relationship then anyways AND you are serving God then! Good luck!♥

Hello!

Yes, the inclination is disordered because we are tempted to do something that isn’t good for us, but the sin is acting on these desires and not the temptation. However, we are all tempted to do something that isn’t good for us, whether it’s acting on SSA or something else, so you aren’t alone there.

Yes, it’s hard to live out the call to chastity, but it is totally worth it. Living to honor God is always worth it.

What I’m not sure about is whether or not Catholics with SSA can be nuns or monks. I do know that Catholic men with deep-seated SSA cannot be priests (Read more here, specifically the fourth paragraph of the second section), but I don’t know if it’s the case with other religious vocations. This is something I’d talk to a vocations director or specific community about.

I know this is not the point of your ask, but there is something I want to point out. I strongly discourage using secular terminology like LGBT, gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc. because using secular words often suggests agreement with secular ideas or identification with that movement (even if we disagree with them) and we don’t want to give that impression. Also, the secular world uses those words as identity labels and as Christians, our identity is in Christ. No matter what our temptations and sins are, we should not label ourselves with them (We wouldn’t call ourselves drinking Christians, lying Christians, or pornographic Christians, so we shouldn’t call ourselves gay Christians.). I noticed that you said being at the beginning of your ask. I avoid the to be verb because this is not who we are and this does not define us. Who we are is children of God and this goes for all Christians, SSA or not. I prefer to say Christians with SSA because it is something that we happen to struggle with, but it is not who we are (There’s the to be verb again.).

Either way, God loves you so much and He has a wonderful plan for your life. We are all tempted to do something that isn’t good for us, but we are al called to serve God. You are not alone and we don’t want you to think that you are. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are a beautiful child of God and it’s going to be okay.

I highly recommend watching The Third Way: Homosexuality and the Catholic Church if you have not done so already. Remember that God loves you so much.

Thank you for sending in this response to my other anon! I love seeing us come together to support our siblings in Christ. It is truly a beautiful thing.

God bless you both!

Ad Jesum per Mariam,

María de Fátima