#the cis are not fucking normal istg

[rage-is-my-fire]

Me: Makes an offhand comment to add to a larger about about how cis people are ultra gender obsessed in like everything, caring so much about these things that they will get very upset if their buttons are on the wrong side of the shirt and maybe it would be better to not do things That Way. Someone: But hoooooow will I eeeeeever knooooow how to eliminate half the store when browsing for clooooothes? What would it even look like to not have things separated into men's and women's?? Me, biting the bullet and mustering up politeness: Well, since you can't seem to rub your braincells together to get to some alternative ways of identifying fashion styles, let me help you with that. Someone: Thanks, but I wasn't actually looking for that, just making a point about how hard it'll be to change our societal views. Hope I didn't offend. Me, gritting my teeth into a grin that resembles a threat display: Don't worry about it.

[randommusicalfluff]

I think the biggest influence for me being a part of the tlk community is the fact I looovvee the sound of people laughing like oh my GOD.

I have this one friend who I’ll admit they don’t normally laugh much and if they do it’s like a scoff because cis men will be cis men /nm but!! Recently he’s been like full out laughing more and I internally YIIIPEE because his laugh is so fucking cute?? God??? I mean that in a complete non romantic way istg but it’s ridiculous how much someone’s laugh can sway me

[personnelkid]

i want to be a trans man so bad and i want to be a butch woman so bad but i cant see myself walking the path of either. so Im just me for now. And i’m not sure what that means.

when nb people talk about being trapped in between man and woman i usually interpret that as meaning they’re trapped in between the gender roles of man and woman, because thats how i felt when i was young and first exploring my gender identity, but being trapped in between the life paths of trans man and butch woman is just hard, yknow? I get it now.

like i want to go on testosterone but also i don’t somehow. All i have to do is make a phone call but i continue to not do that and idk why. Can i really picture myself as a man? What do i want to be at 40? Fuck if i know. But continuing to pretend i’m not a woman is hard. But I’m also trans. I’ve been trans for 5 years. It’s how I understand myself and the way I group myself. I wish i could just be a cis man so I’d never have to think about what i want out of gender. I could just exist. (Disclaimer, i do not want the childhood of a cis boy. I just wish my body developed into one without my brain’s/medical input.)

istg this would just be easier if i was attracted to women, because then I’d just be a butch lesbian and I’d be happy. I know I’d be happy as a butch. But I’m not a lesbian and so my butch identity would lack context and meaning. Plus I don’t like making my voice a girl’s voice. And if i was a woman i wouldnt mind being called she or be scared around other women right? (Wrong. Butches have expressed discomfort/bad experiences changing with women, using women’s restrooms, being forced to be a type of woman that they arent).

Alternatively, if i was assertive and self-assured enough to present more masculine or correct people on my pronouns, I could be a trans guy all the time without physically transitioning. But I don’t want to put in effort just to be a man? Like, nobody else does. It’s unfair that I have to. And then also I’m so deeply terrified of correcting people on my pronouns since nobody (not even myself) could take me seriously as a man. Internalized transphobia. God I should talk this shit through with my therapist.

But seriously, i have to figure SOMETHING out. Because the mix of gender insecurity, internalized/traditional misogyny, internalized transphobia, and self hatred i’m stuck in right now got me acting closer to an incel than how a happy, proud trans man or otherwise queer person is supposed to act.

i just need to go on testosterone. I just need to get going and then it’ll be smooth and natural and I won’t have to try anymore. I’ll just be me. I’ll just be me. I’ll feel normal.

(have i projected too much hope onto T and divorced it from its practical physical effects on my body? No. I know what I want.)

[quietwingsinthesky]

"Happy women’s day to all normal women! and cis women too I guess :/" honestly i'm so fucking tired of your bullshit. you post misogynistic shit regularly but now even on womens day? do you not realize how incredibly misogynistic you are? or do you just don't care? you think this is funny? edgy?? it's annoying as fuck istg. makes me pity you. do some reflection on your behavior. i'm not even joking.

oh my god 🥺🥺 a hate anon. i haven’t gotten one of these in forever. thank you so much. being genuine here, it’s one of those tumblr quirks you just can’t get anywhere else, so impotent in their effectiveness and yet so pervasive that they’re almost charming to me. anyway, do your own reflection, my friend, on why the silly joke post i reblogged got under your skin so much you needed to send me a whole paragraph about it. i hope you have a better day then you seem to be having so far.

[numberonepartyboy]

why can't cis people be fucking normal about trans ppl istg. one mention of a person being non cis and they get SO WEIRD ABOUT THIS

[redheadbigshoes]

jesus chirst man...

can you believe 172 ppl reblogged that post? that disgusting post? that nonsense post? people simply do not have any critical thinking skills anymore.

they are just extremely dumb.. seriously, everytime i hear or see something like that post i feel so much anger that i could break things just to express my anger, especially if i hear someone saying something like this, i am capable of punching them istg (yes i have anger issues im sorry if im being agressive, its just too much for me and this is the only blog i feel safe saying these things 💀)

the other day, a girl (A STRAIGHT GIRL) asked if lesbians could kiss men and i said of course not and my GAY friend just said

yeah ofc they can if they are just joking, especially in a party.

jesus fucking christ, the anger i was feeling in that moment is unspeakable, i was just staring at him dead in the eyes.

OH THERE WAS THIS TIME TOO THAT HE SAID THAT LESBIANS IS MORE ACCEPTABLE AND PRIVILEGED THAN GAY PPL, ESPECIALLY IN SCHOOLS.

my friend, acceptable and have privilegies? where?? WHEN?? HOW???? i was in SHOCK, you have no idea.

You know what’s sad? What’s sad is that I actually believe that. Because lesbophobia is VERY normalized, not only by cishets but by other queer people.

And if you see I’m pretty sure most people interact with that post are not lesbians. And if they do identify as lesbian it’s probably the ones that fully known they’re attracted to cis/trans men and still identify with the label.

To be honest this people really do deserve aggressiveness. They don’t respect us and our label. They don’t listen to us. They invalidate us.

The thing about lesbians kissing men: technically we could kiss men. But why would we do that? If we fully know we’re not attracted to men we shouldn’t want to kiss them.

People often say we’re more accepted than gays because we’re fetishized. Being fetishized is not being accepted.

[tricewithaz]

go off about something that pisses u off bc like we all need that

there are so many things that piss me off some of the most notable ones:

basic pinterest "redesigns" of disney princesses like theyre literally just carbon copies of the original ones except they have basic rich white girl clothes and they often dont suit the characters at all. Genuinely! Not every disney "modern" fanart deserves that ammount of attention! let it go! itsso unoriginal and often gets way more attention than original artists with their own style and actual cool designs. Fuck it! To this i also add: hyperrealistic art whose only appeal is looking like a photo but not beibg one, various plain drawings of basic girls in basic outfits, naming the aesthetics at that, and "realistic" remakes of disney princesses: i genuinely do not get the point and im sick of it being si popular. In fact, why do we want to make everythung realistic??? why ks realistic the epitome of quality??? wheres the d e s i g n and the f U N??????

Americans trying to tell Spaniards what is and isnt problematic. "oh rosalia is problematic oh yall are colonizers" yall dont know our history our culture or our demographic stop trying to tell US what our culture is about (istg twitter is 🤢🤢🤢🤢) yall can barely understand that mediterraneans are white and are trying to tell us why rosalia is offensive to our own people?

on that note: brits (Self explanatory, but them just jumping off balconys in spain? like yall really think this is a touristic attraction we sell or? you guys are malites)

The Picture of Dorian Gray: I read like two chapters and its essentially a whole ass misogyinist being gay and trying to be Philosophical™ about it. Like, we get it. Beauty is ephimeral and vanity is useless and you hate your wife. Shut up. I think i hate oscar wilde. the only good thing about him is the one pun he made (the importance of being ernest is a great title) and his tomb (its actually quite pretty and full of kisses)

There barely being any rock bands that arent made of cis white/asian (i only say this because i listen to some korean rock honestly but considering spotify recomendations i might as well also exclude them) men. Why???? Why are there barely any women and poc in rock??????

Men (self explanatory)

Sex Work being not only normalized but encouraged. not gonna elaborate but ??????

My skin??? Sucks???? it gets red and irritated so easily???? Bruises at the faintest brish against a table????? Lots of blackheads?????? Random breakouts????? Practically translucent?????? fuck outta here

[the-gayest-tree-you-ever-did-see]

i don’t know much about indian politics, but knowing that modi is far right, promotes religious secularism and is/was trying to become a dictator (wanting to cancel term limits on being a prime minister) tells me all i need to know. like he refused to enforce curfew or any lockdown rules in the second wave after multiple people had told him to do so! he could’ve prevented this so easily and get chose to do nothing. anyway he pisses me the fuck off.

(also i love how you say first class or like seventh class instead of grades!)

the sweaty from laughing to hard is so accurate. istg they do nothing at every event. i get the acting different cause your from the us part. i pretty much grew up here since i was a baby, so it took me longer to notice. they tend to be a bit more polite maybe cause they could get an iphone or something lol. (also i’m pretty young so i can’t give them any gossip or dirt about myself).

having a gender fluid character in a book that a lot of children will read is so incredible! i would probably have to re read the whole series cause i forgot most of the pot line, but it’s on my tbr list. also wtf Aru Shah has queer rep?!! wait, I have to look this up..

okay i’m back and there’s a wlw ship (hira and brynne) so now i have to read it! ahhhhh that literally just made my day :))

rick grew so much as a writer too and his writing style was so much better in hoo compared to tlo. so, yes i am also proud of that 57 year old.

literally me reading any book or watching a tv show. as soon as i see a queer character, i stop giving a shit about the others. and it was only until like last year when i realized that cis het people don’t do that...oops

i’ve only read the first book of red scrolls of magic and even though the plot was a bit weak, malec made up for it! also i liked alec a lot better in that book. i should get around to finishing it!

ahhh me too! my favorite line was the one in the trailer about the enemies (can’t translate either lmao) and also the court scene.

.... *dramatic pause*... i do <3

also i now realize that this means my full name is indiphannon (a dramatic step up form phindian, cause then i would have to sign these off as phindi and a respectful ew to that)

...but if you’re treeman... i’ll be your indiphannon (gross <3)

ilysm,

- indi <3

💍 (here’s your wedding ring bitch)

no yeah, that about sums it up. like he can fuck himself, i hate him

(i normally say grades when im with americans but lately ive been saying class bc ive spent so much time with my family, i kind of like it better. its like including my heritage in Absolutely Everything)

ikr, theyre always waiting for me to let my guard down and let something slip. like one time i told them i got an 84 on something (the lowest score ive ever gotten on anything and i was pretty messed up about it) and they had a FIELD DAY. meanwhile my cousin was bringing home consistent C's on good days and no one gave a shit. they see me as an outsider a lot, which sucks bc if i dont belong there and i dont belong here, then where do i belong? on tumblr i guess

no but actually, seeing alex legitimately made me question my gender identity and allowed me to feel comfortable with that, so i love having them in such a normalized way. and yes! aru shah does have queer rep!

brynne is the telugu character i was talking about, she literally amazing. shes established as canonically bi i think in the first book she's in, and when hira is introduced she simps for her, but they arent together yet :( although the fifth book is coming, so perhaps?

actually though, going back and reading lightning thief after tower of nero, hes grown so much as a writer and as a person, its so amazing to think ive lived through it all :') so proud of my 57 year old son finally growing up

exactly, its like queer? queer?? ME queer! they queer? they queer!! QUEEEEER!!! and no, cishet ppl dont do that, shoutout to 9 year old me being the greatest and most involved ally to ever live lmao

yeah, red scrolls of magic was a bit weak, but lost book of the white is a bit stronger, so its all good. honest to the gods believe cassie just wrote herself fanfiction and accidentally showed her agent, theres no other explanation for it. and yeah, alec has grown a lot since we first met him, i hope we keep seeing him bc hes amazing, and the relationship they had is not only great queer rep, but also amazing relationship rep as well? like they have such a good relationship even though theyve been through so much, proving that communication is key. theyre like the dnp of the shadowhunter world.

omh yesss, when she was like "oh just give them the bail" and they were like ??? well if she says so as a joke, PEAK comedy

*wait anxiously*... !! i do too <3

lmao, disrespectful blech from me, that was not my finest moment. indiphannon is much better <3

maybe GAY GAY HOMOSEXUAL GAY can be our always <3

ily tooooo <3

*chucks your engagement ring at you* i prOPOSED FIRST (cant believe this is our first domestic 😥)