#the anon

[dirtybg3confessions]

I know Gale's ass jiggles FURIOUSLY when you fuck him from the back

-THE anon

[my-castles-crumbling]

Anon Advice Asks - February 1st

anti-jegulus anon (new), second opinion anon (new), Elaboration Anon (new), the anon, crash out anon (new)

Anti-Jegulus Anon

Hi Cas!! I hope you're doing well. I promise I'm asking this in the most genuine way, and I hope you don't take it the wrong way because, like probably all of us, I hate ship wars in fandom. They're just SO stupid.

I've had this problem for a while, and I don’t know what to do about it. I think it's the reason I often see people hating on Jegulus everywhere. But for some reason, I feel genuine disgust and hatred toward that ship, and I have no idea why. I can't stand it. I have it blocked everywhere, yet it still shows up EVERYWHERE.

Do you know how stupid it is that I feel like this? It’s just a freaking ship. Like, come on, let people ship whatever they want and move on. Don’t be stupid and immature.

But I feel GENUINE hatred toward that ship. I've tried to like it—I’ve read fics, looked at fanart, and engaged with content in general—but each time, I hate it a little more. It makes me so angry because almost all the "big fics" in the fandom are Jegulus (yes, that makes me bitter too. WTF is wrong with me?), and I can't even enjoy them.

On every Jily post, someone has to comment something about Regulus or Jegulus, and it feels impossible to escape. It's really affecting me. I would never publicly rant about it because, honestly, people should just stop hating on what others like to ship. But personally, this is really getting to me. What the hell?

I'm so tired, but I don’t want to leave the fandom because it's my only source of happiness. What should I do?

Hi!

Okay first I want to say, to anyone else reading this, we aren't going to attack anon. Anyone who does is going to have their comment deleted.

So...I mean, you're allowed to dislike a ship as much as you want. There's nothing wrong with really disliking a ship. You don't need to like...be mad at yourself for that or try to force yourself to like it. There's plenty of ships I don't like, too. You're doing the right thing by not adding to stupid ship wars, and that's what's important. You're more than welcome to not consume fandom content that you don't like.

I think the thing is, you can't let it get to you, though. Block the tags and block the people who are talking about it, and focus on the ships you like. And...if you really dislike it THAT much, I'd maybe try to think about why? Is it that you don't like what canon Regulus stood for? If so, that's valid and nothing to be ashamed of. But if it's seeing James with a man...that might be something to think more about, you know? I would never say that disliking a ship is an indicator of morals, but you keep saying you HATE it, and that makes me think like...to have that much passion about it? Idk. You still don't have to like the ship; there are plenty of queer ships I don't like, but I'd just think about the WHY.

Good luck!

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Second Opinion Anon

Hey, Cas!! I hope you’re doing well! I need a second opinion. I feel like an adult woman thinks I’m friends with her. I’ve been friends with A since we were in the nursery and we’re sixteen now. Because we’ve been friends for so long I know her family very well. Her mom, M, is really sweet and nice to me. I consider her a second mom and I think she considers me a third daughter. When my friend has plays and stuff she invites me to go with her but not our other friend. At first I thought she was just being nice, and that’s probably what she thinks is going on too because she’s a family lawyer and would definitely never make a kid uncomfortable on purpose, but it started getting weird. During A’s performance of The Sound of Music, she told me how she’s ashamed of her mom and stuff. And then while my friend was changing out of her costume for Our Town, she told me she had a trust fund set up for both her daughters but not to tell them. I don’t know if I’m being paranoid, but it feels weird that a forty five year old woman would be telling a sixteen year old a secret like that and not expect them to tell their friend.

Hi!

I think the thing is, whether or not she's intending on making you uncomfortable, she is. It may be that she feels a maternal connection with you, or something like that, but the problem is, there is an inherent power different between a sixteen-year-old minor and a 45-year-old adult. If you feel comfortable, next time she says something like that, I would say something like, "oh, I'm not very good at keeping secrets, please don't tell me anything like that!" or "oh I don't know anything about that, I'm too young to talk about that kind of thing!" even just change the subject or walk away. If you really feel like it, you can even say, "I don't feel comfortable talking about this, I'm sorry!"

But if you don't, I would start trying to avoid time alone with her.

If things persist, this is something you can talk to an adult about, to see if maybe you can get help talking to her about. You don't deserve to feel uncomfortable, whether or not it's intentional.

You are allowed to set boundaries, no matter your age and the age of the other person <3.

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Elaboration Anon

hi cas!

my dad is kinda awful sometimes and i’ve been wondering if what he does counts as emotional abuse

do you know how to figure out if a parent is being emotionally abusive or just an asshole?

i’m probably gonna return with an elaboration on what exactly he does, but i’m still uncertain if i should even consider calling it abuse, like it could definitely be worse

and i do love him, and he can be lovely sometimes, it’s just the consistent ways of hurting me are kinda overwhelming

Hi!

So I'm not a professional and I'm not sure exactly what he does, but I'd try looking here and here to look at the lists of types of abuse and signs. I hope this helps a bit!

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The Anon

Heyyyy, it’s the/thé anon again! (Fun fact, typing that makes me laugh a little cuz it’s like, I’m the anon. So special, roll out a little red carpet for moi.)

ANYGAYS

Good news, I’ve started setting up boundaries. Maybe not explicitly saying they’re ’boundaries’, but nonetheless that’s what they are. I’ve reduced how long I stay on call with them, I also have established that when I’m crafting I like to not be on call (works pretty well, cuz I can just say I ‘need to focus’ or some crap so they understand)

And like I said in my last ask, I did actually take my sharpener out of my pencil case. And forgot about it for a week until they asked for it. Only problem, i immediately went ‘here I have extra pencils’ and handed them one.

My class also ended up having a present or come in and talk to us about relationships. Friendships and family relationships along with romantic relationships and what-not. Thé entire thing felt super awkward, because when it got to toxic relationships it felt like each thing the presenter mentioned, I could think of a time my friend/bf had done.

Today’s ask feels much sorter, damn. Guess that’s gotta be a good thing tho, huh? Alright well uh- have an amazing dayyyyy :)

Ahhh I'm so proud of you for setting some boundaries! I hope you're proud of yourself as well. Please keep me updated!

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Crash Out Anon

Hi! You're allowed to dislike whatever ship you want. Ships aren't real, and disliking a ship isn't an indicator of moral values. As long as you aren't participating in all of the stupid ship wars drama, you're fine.

And for the record, I've been accused of fetishizing trans people for writing trans reg and I'm trans so like...I get it. Just ignore it, you can like or dislike whatever ship you want.

[nsftpolls]

Should I stop coming up with the most perverted poll ideas?

Yes

No, keep them coming!

Make them more perverted

-The Anon

[kiwibirb1]

...either i just got selected for bot account filler or we have our suspect. or some rando thought our screams were amusing

[formula-ghost]

Omg un día me voy and franco appears with some car sex, this boy is unhinged lol 😂

Ps: looking forward for the Oscar fic I’m sure you’ll EAT as ever

-THE anon

Literally that is SO on brand for him. But his perfect balance of silly and sexy is why I love him so much haha

And thank you, I’m excited to write it! At first I was thinking that I wanted to do the few one shots before starting a new series, but I have a ton of free time now with the holidays so I think I may just say fuck it and take that time to dive into the Oscar fic 👀 who knows (not me)

[turbobyakuren]

Thanks for giving it a chance, I'm sorry to hear you hated it :( I suggested it on the offchance it was something you vibed with, I didn't want to force you to play through it if it made you uncomfortable. I should have elaborated better in the first ask, I'm really sorry...

Don't sweat it anon, it's OK! You didn't force me to go through it, I gave it a try and it gave me some new perspective.

Don't apologize, we both learned something today

[owl-house-incorrectly]

REJOICE FOR IT IS I! THE ANON!

THE ANON

[flowers-and-pollen]

Request to the anon who i'm pretty sure sent me the most anons (the gothic archies lyrics and such, i'm pretty sure they weren't the only ones)

Could you please end each ask by, like

-THE anon

So i know it's you? :3

[miseria-fortes-viros]

dont tag bible stuff as mythology God isnt mythology

hi hello how are you. most if not all story-based religions are in fact considered mythology by definition including the abrahamic religions. god is in fact abrahamic mythos whether you think he’s real or not. im sorry if that upsets you but im assuming this is regarding the post i just reblogged and i have to say im surprised the part you’re upset about is me tagging biblicalia as mythology and not the entire discussion on who tops in jesus/judas ship discourse

[hellsitegenetics]

WHY ARE YOU MARKED RED ON SHINIGAMI, WTF DID U DO

i cant even post moths anymore. because of woke

[lesamis]

are you a Byron or Wilde apologist?

concerned citizens from 1895 are messaging me

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hi, it’s the anon (or thé anon, depending on what my keyboard decides to do)

I just need to rant some more about my boyfriend/friend/idek what to call them anymore.

Since the literal beginning of the school year (5 months ago), he’s been talking about trying to search for their pencil sharpener in their mess of a room. Obviously, four months later and I’m still having to pull out my own pencil sharpener from my bag for them. I told them they could buy a new one or some shite, but they literally just shrugged at me saying they could borrow mine (I’m kinda tempted to remove thé sharpener from my pencil case just so they realize they need to bring their own)

Another thing is our they always turn to me when they need a blank piece of paper rather than standing up and walking maybe 6 feet to go to thé extra paper spot

Idk why these things are bugging me so much, but it makes me feel like I’m just there for them to have easy access to things.

ANOTHER THING— they’re short, only 4’7” or so. And EVERYTIME we need to get textbooks from the shelf in thé class, they asks me to get the textbooks. Thing is, these textbooks aren’t even that high. They could easily reach the textbook with zero problems, but just immediately ask me saying “tall person, go get the textbooks”. There’s never even a please or thank you, which is dumb considering we’re friends but also I kinda want to feel appreciated.

This probably makes zero sense and is just a really mean rant cuz they should be allowed to do these things but I also don’t feel like they should and whatever, so uhhh- yeah.

And like I said with my last ask, sorry if any of me ‘the’s become ‘thé’s :P

No, I totally understand what you're feeling! I think sometimes, it's not the amount of effort you have to go through, but the fact that you're expected to go to an effort at all. Like...a thank you goes a long way, and it sounds like you might not feel appreciated. Which...you should feel appreciated!

[nsftpolls]

Hahahaha

you should be afraid

will there ever be safety

[kiwibirb1]

Who tf is wren

YOU!!! APARELENTLY!!!

[formula-ghost]

You r an awesome writer #kudos #wow, please make chapter 5 like 193848483939393838 words

-THE anon

Thank you so much sweet anon!! I’m not sure if that many words even exist in the English language but I will of course do my best to make chapter 5 extra long and full of chaos.

Also my next planned fic after Read Your Diary is an Oscar Piastri x reader that I plan to have multiple parts and hopefully be longer than RYD, but with similar elements (best friends to lovers and slow burn, my favorite tropes). So more content to come!