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People with aspd often get accused to use their disorder as an excuse to be a bad person. But those people donât understand the personality of someone with aspd. Like, I donât care about other people or what happens to them, so when Iâm told a tragic story I might react different that what they would expect. Maybe I just shrug my shoulders and the others automatically think Iâm acting emotionless and therefore âedgyâ, when in reality I maybe just forgot that my normal isnât socially accepted.
ok well thereâs a difference between the tragic story example you gave and being a bad person, in my opinion
i donât care what happens to other people. genuinely. i understand there are always going to be homeless people and theyâre always going to suffer. but just because i donât personally care if someone else is starving doesnât give me an excuse to be neutral, or god forbid, kick these people while theyâre down
theyâre human just as much as i am and deserving of dignity so itâs my duty to promote those donation posts, to give money where i can, to hand a homeless person some water or my own burger. i can find another meal. fuck, i can eat ramen if i absolutely have to. but there people may not be able to do that and they deserve kindness
like i may not cry or feel anything when i see human suffering or hear about tragedy, but thatâs one thing. itâs not acting âedgyâ at all. itâs just the reality of things. whatâs âedgyâ is when you turn your âi donât careâ into âitâs not my fault iâm punching you because i have a disorderâ that it becomes an excuse to be a bad person. youâre not taking responsibility for your actions
frankly, so far as morality goes, personal motivation doesnât exactly matter or at least not nearly as much as people think it does. iâm personally motiated towards neutrality in all situations because i just donât give a shit. jontronâs a white supremacist? doesnât affect me so who cares, right? motivationally, it doesnât matter either way if i continue to watch him or not
but, objectively, it does matter. even if i wasnât queer, mentally ill, disabled, etc it does matter because it does effect other people. there are consequences to mortality even if the consequences arenât my own. it doesnât matter how it affects me. the end result is negative even if my actions were neutral
i mean iâm not saying motivation doesnât matter at all. after all, it is much better to do good things with good intentions than bad things with good intentions. the end doesnât justify the means, after all. but with your intentions neutral, or even leaning towards bad (ie hurting people because their reactions are funny or itâs just downright generally entertaining) the action itself is what matters
this is what i mean when i say i donât use my problems as excuses. i donât force my trauma onto other people and i donât blame my actions on my own issues. certainly they explain them but, at the end of the day, cool motive still murder
except a personality disorder isnât even a cool fucking motive. collect your shit and donât be an edgelord
#mod vann#i hope that made more sense than it's looking to me#lol this is an incoherent mess#Anonymous#anon#vannswers#vann speaks#thataspdfeel
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Thoughts on the blog thataspdfeel?
They put up more effort than can be expected (logically).The blog itself, while obviously not relatable, is entertaining enough.
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You got any good aspd blogs? Yours is too good
đđ Some good ones Iâve noticed are @reiraaa @aspdking @thatpsychopathnextdoor @sociopathicneighbor @thataspdfeel @cenkrett @reinedescruelles Not sure if you are looking for blogs with info about aspd or simply blogs by people who have aspd.
-I am certain I am missing some, feel free to add to the list.
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That ASPD feel when you don't cry when your ex sexually abuses you, but regularly cry just out of frustration and boredom.
this is a really relatable mood. i didnât really feel anything about the abuse my ex put me through until i was out of that relationship entirely
also iâm on ADD meds so i can focus on answering these messages finally
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what do you think abt aspd/bpd or aspd/empath relationships? any thoughts or experiences?
ok so alex and i have talked about my disorders and weâre pretty sure i have bpd and a conduct disorder as opposed to aspd like i was diagnosed. iâve been debating about if i should continue this blog since i donât necessarily have full-blown aspd myself but just the conduct disorder. but there isnât really anybody on tumblr other than alex iâd trust with this blog because there are way too many Edgelord Pure Psychopath⢠people floating around. yâall can draw blog names out of a hat and probably find one, frankly
that said, my wife is an empath and itâs absolutely debilitating for them. itâs kind of refreshing for them to be around me, someone who has no empathy because theyâll describe a problem or situation theyâre having socially and iâll respond in my usual way (fuck that guy, heâs a dick; iâm going to steal her kneecaps; why is that bothering you exactly?) and theyâll realize when theyâve been treated poorly versus when theyâre overreacting to things and when they needs to disengage. instead of trying to process their emotions like somebody else with empathy and then ârespond accordinglyâ ie filter it in a way i think would be best for them, they can tell from my blunt responses what the truth is by seeing the middle between their reaction and mine
alternatively, iâll be bothered by something but not care enough to say or feel itâs not important and theyâll be able to tell and tease it out of me. iâll also encounter a situation where iâm PRETTY SURE someone is treating me poorly, but wonât be sure due to autism or a slew of other issues, run it by them and theyâll be able to confirm or deny. or iâll be having a tense situation with somebody, theyâll sense our emotions, see both sides, and mediate effectively. that tends to be more exhausting for them but like itâs a huge boon for the other people involved
this is a double-edged sword, however. i have SO MUCH TROUBLE filtering things to sound non antagonistic just because iâm very blunt about how i feel. iâve been slowly working towards saying things like âi feel neglected lately so maybe we should spend some time togetherâ rather than âi feel neglected when you donât spend time with meâ which places the blame on them for my own feelings âyou need to spend more time with meâ which doesnât explain how i feel but commands a solution that, to my wife, feels like iâm just rudely demanding something of them
this has led to a LOT of fights especially recently after i moved in with them. part of it is indeed my own inability to communicate in a âpoliteâ manner (which iâm working on with my therapist!) but part of it is their empath sensitivity feeling like iâm purposely attacking them whenever i try to bring up an issue. itâs a complex problem but because my wife canât turn their empathy/sensitivity off, itâs up to me to make sure iâm communicating as effectively as possible in order to minimize conflict with each other and maximize effort towards a solution
so like, as far as my own experiences go, itâs both good and bad like most other things. if iâm not careful, i can be not just toxic but outright abusive if iâm not curtailing my own blutness and words. in turn, my wife can easily miscontrue how i feel and drive a wedge in our relationship. if weâre not very careful with how we interact with each other, our relationship can turn into a toxic waste dump of nuclear power
so far though, weâre both hyper aware of this as weâve both been in abusive relationships. i myself have been both victim and abuser so iâm especially aware of how easily i can turn into something i donât like. but weâve known each other for almost 10 years now, and been together romantically for somewhere in the vicinity of almost half that. weâve grown apart then back together again over the years. weâre imperfect individuals but our love has kept us going, cheesy as that sounds, itâs very much true
anyway, i hope that answered your question! i feel that, overall, that these relationships can be the most wonderful, fulfilling things you could ever experience or the exact opposite. it all depends on the personalities of the people involved as well as how self aware they are and willing to work to be better people
#mod vann#long post#sorry about that i can finally answer things with ease so i'm doing my best to catch up#Anonymous#anon#vannswers#vann speaks#thataspdfeel
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that aspd feel when manipulating people is one the only things to bring you joy anymore. but, by gosh is it fun to fuck around with people like theyâre your sims :DD
you need better hobbies mate. people arenât toys no matter how fun it is to pretend otherwise
#mod vann#like i understand this cause it is fun to fuck with people#but it's still wrong#Anonymous#anon#vannswers#vann speaks#aspd feels#thataspdfeel#aspd relatable
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That feel when your family doesnât like you because of the disorder but whoops! you just donât give a care! Go ahead and seethe in your hatred grandma, iâll be over here actually feeling bad for buying a piano tuning kit when I donât even have a piano.
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Why are people with ASPD called sociopaths?
google was no help and iâve had this ask for months trying to figure out the answer to this
iâd check the notes, mate
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JESUS FUCKING CHRIST DO YOU EVER JUST REALLY WANT TO MURDER YOUR MOTHER
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Also that ASPD feel when you really want a relationship that actually stays together instead of impulsively dating people you don't care about solely off the dopaminergenic high you got from meeting them so you break up with the bf and tell yourself you're just gonna be promiscuous but end up in another relationship literally less than an hour later.
i dont know that specific feel because i casually sleep around until i feel that kind of connection i need to date somebody cause im on the aro spectrum
but im pretty damn sure you arent the only one who feels this
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Like, idk why I'm submitting this here because I don't even use tumblr but DAMN I wish I knew other people with ASPD (irl). It gets so tiring being around normal people and JUST like cmon can I not have someone who will join me when I get my pyromaniac urges or something? Like is that too much to ask? Only one person knows my diagnosis and sure I can talk about things I do or want to do but I don't think he could ever Truly understand.
this is such a mood tho like i get that anon i totally get that
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One of your past posts says that lying is always inherently abusive but what if you are lying to make the other person not feel bad? I dont know man my entire existence is a lie (both in the joke sense and because I have learned to mostly hide my antisocial traits in order to not die in society and for that i have to lie. Example: "Im really sorry you had to go through __ " instead of "I could not care less why are you telling me this?")
i think what i meant in that post had to do with like lying about huge things and how it can lead into a slippery slope of gaslighting and shit. i dont remember the post but my general stance is that honesty is the best policy where possible and i think it also depends on why youre lying vs the lie itself. like polite lies like the example above are fine considering even nt people do that shit
sorry im a little discombobulated and slowly getting back to this blog. hit me up again if this answer doesnt make sense or answer what it was you wanted
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#thataspdfeel when u swore ud never date someone w a cluster b again bc of trauma and ableism but turns out u just needed another aspd since u both understand each other perfectly, are brutally honest and communicative and for the first time dont have to fake anything ;u; love is fkin real and its so weird to discover it at 20 years old yoooo i wish it to everyone whos still searching :oo (love ur blog btw so refreshing not to see edgy tunglers glorifying being shitheads)
ty for the compliment!! also idk that feel but im sure somebody does
also i have a personal standard of not being a shithead and im glad thats holding up
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Thataspdfeel w u apologize constantly about everything to make up for that fact that youre not guilty or sorry at all
#YALL ARE READING ME FOR FILTH DAMN#its like i ghost wrote this specifically like#from the astral plane or smthn#cause dylan and i had a discussion about it like just yesterday#mod vann#Anonymous#anon#vannswers
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That aspd feel when after you percieve anyone to have wronged you your first response is to try to hurt them back or to want to kill them/attack them, and it's always getting you in trouble
#aspdfeels#thataspdfeel#aspd relatable#mod alex#violence and anger#why y'all keep sending in asks that i feel like i ghostwrote#this is seriously a hard symptom for me to control though#and oddly it's even harder when it comes to my favourite persons/equals#my fps/equals know i am dead serious when i say i would murder anyone who hurt them or wronged them#but even with myself#my control over it is much better#but it's still pretty shit#i usually have to go isolate myself and just sit there until i calm down#anonymous#messages
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taspdfw you kinda hope someone attacks you when you go out walking just so you have an excuse to fight someone
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