#that marriage meant NOTHING to Stella ;; Stolas literally mentions that he TRIED to make it comfortable and okay for them

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[sennerixx]

I normally go on Tiktok to see cool edits or helluva boss but I came across a post victimizing Stella and normalizing Stella's constant abusive behavior.

While I normally respect many opinions people have on characters, the show, and ships even ones I don't agree with this is one I can't.

I refuse to get behind someone who is vindicating domestic abuse.

They were saying "she was also a teenager" and was "forced to have a kid" Yes, true, she was a teenager like Stolas and had to have a kid, he was told clear as day he was "destined to sire a precautionary addition to the Goetia family"

Yet, it still doesn't provide her the right to abuse and torment Stolas and as seen in earlier episodes, throw things at her husband even if he did sleep with an imp and he did make a "mistake" but it still doesn't warrant for her to assault Stolas, not to mention she literally tried to kill him by hiring an assassin (Striker). Twice.

I know Stolas isn't innocent, far from it but from what we've seen but not once has he laid a hand on Stella in an act of violence out of pure villainous intentions like Stella had.

Stella also said in "THE CIRCUS", "I like tormenting you." While they argue and Stella brings up wanting him to remember the affair, Stolas says "I would feel bad if I hurt you but we both know I didn't do that," Stella isn't upset that he had an affair, she's more concerned about her image than anything in my eyes.

"The only reason I have inured your constant insults and cruelty was for that girl to have a normal life."

We can see her rasing a hand to hit Stolas and we can infer its probably not the first time shes done it or tried too.

I understand Stella hasn't had it great never being able to have the chance to find love on her own and being shoved into a marriage but people forget, so was Stolas.

The circumstances for her were shit, I know, but I refuse to let people just justify domestic abuse. Abuse is still abuse. Stolas was also in that boat she was, being thrown into a forced marriage, his life laid out for him, He even said he "tried to make it comfortable for us, but it was never enough."

Stolas tried, very hard to have some sort of a normal life, especially for his daughter and a woman who he had, let's not forget with a woman he reciprocated now a physical attraction for.

The show wouldn't be interesting without proper villains, because who wants a villain with no backstory, nothing for us to get attached to or dislike? and that's fine to like a villain character, I have quite a few villain characters I like.

But these characters are meant to have flaws and be sinister, It's what makes villains... well, villains but to show a just cause for years of domestic abuse and then villainising Stolas and portraying him as some kind of horrible monster, the victim of the abuse is where I draw the line.

I may sound rude to Stella lovers but it's not Stella's character I'm hating on, it's the fact people want to defend and justify domestic abuse or any kind of abuse for that matter. No matter how hard people try to, Stella has no excuses for her actions and I refuse to believe she does.

[unedited, i mainly just wanted to get my thoughts out]