#take this with your platonic or romantic grains of salt i don't really care

[cousticks]

my post finally got a little attention and y'all asked so here we go (thank you @the-gayest-sky-kid and @aroacesigma i owe you both my life)

so as i mentioned, concerts are basically therapy and a great mood booster right. so chuuya is normally in a pretty good mood after concerts. which, when you're ~16-17yr old chuuya, and your three emotions you're allowed to feel are anger, annoyance, and raw despair, that's kind of impressive. so dazai, who has probably never felt a positive emotion in his life (according to him), decides he wants to see what this whole live music thing is about. so he shows up with two already purchased tickets to some band he knows chuuya likes (because dazai keeps tabs on chuuya's interests so he can make fun of them, right, of course,)

now. chuuya isn't going to pass up free concert tickets, even if he has to drag dazai with him. dazai was going to go to a fucking concert in his dress shirt and slacks. chuuya had to prevent this because who dresses like that to a concert (unless you just came from a wedding. i've seen it.)

[ words are chuuya saying "you can't fucking wear that" and dazai starting to say "what's wrong with my clo-" ]

[ "-thes". arrow pointing says "one of Chuuya's hoodies lol" ]

[ disgruntled ]

dazai is bullied into a hoodie. he gets to keep his slacks.

now, for anyone that's never been to a concert, or has only been to stadium concerts, let me explain pits a little bit. in front of the stage is a very large mass of people standing very close to each other and getting covered in strangers' sweat, and not in a fun way. everyone is jumping and moving and very warm. everyone is screaming too. if you get closer to the center of the main pit, you'll find the moshers, which is basically playing human bumper cars and slamming into each other for fun. but like, really aggressively and throwing yourself into the crowd and back. the closer to the front you are, the more crowdsurfers get dropped on your head. if you have a problem, the fastest way out of a mosh pit is to crowdsurf out, where you find the nearest bro and point up like a child asking for uppies and then get passed/thrown forward until a security guard catches you and sends you on your way.

chuuya is telling dazai all about moshpits on the way to the concert. but at some point he says something along the line of "you don't have to get in though" which sounds like a fucking challenge, and dazai is no pussy and will tell chuuya as much, so of course they end up in the moshpit.

now. i believe dazai would fucking hate this. sure, dazai will obnoxiously get all chummy with people he already knows the behavior of, but in my Personal Opinion i really don't think he at this age would be particularly happy about a bunch of strangers jumping and sweating on him. he'd last three songs then a popular one would play and the crowd would go nuts, but he won't say "jesus christ get me the fuck out of here" directly, will he? so he's just standing stiffly in the middle of the moshpit trying not to lose where chuuya is (who is totally laughing at him) and just goes "i hate this."

now. remember the fastest way out of a moshpit? chuuya can tell dazai there's a fast way out but it'll kinda suck and dazai, who again is totally not going to be phased, can go "whatever just fucking do it" and without warning chuuya gets the help of the next guy over and throws dazai up to the crowd to surf him out.

dazai hates that. chuuya is laughing his ass off while eventually following him out. it was miserable.

dazai will never admit he had a little fun.

p.s. i was going to write this concept into a proper fic eventually (i promise i can write better than idea dumping) and still might but i'm too obsessed with the concept to wait until then

you cannot look at teenage chuuya nakahara and think he wouldn't go to concerts. that boy 100% uses those mafia paychecks on concert tickets. what else is he going to spend it on? luxuries? he doesn't know what those are yet. luxury to him is his mafia apartment with a weapons cabinet. i'm getting off topic, that's a different post.

so anyway, he goes to concerts, right? you cannot tell me otherwise. i'm talking emo-pop punk-rock-metalcore-vibe. you know he's in the mosh pits. they're a great mood booster. much less personal than therapy which is another plus. anyway, all this to say i have a very strong personal headcanon that he uses his ability to help crowd-surfers safely make it to the security up front without getting dropped (i've both been a crowdsurfer and have crowdsurfers dropped on me, surfing is fun but getting dropped sucks for everyone involved). under the concert lighting nobody would notice the ability glow very much anyway, and everything happens so fast nobody really cares.

tl;dr chuuya uses gravity manipulation to float crowdsurfers at concerts. i'm right

[crystalandbow]

PICK A PILE🤍

CALL OUT EDITION

Pile 1 is beach, pile 2 is garden, pile 3 is swans. Take the reading with a grain of salt and only take what resonates 🤍

If you liked the reading, lmk! & Follow for more

Hello pile 1👋🏻

Or should I say hello my mama bears

lol anyways let's begin!!!

The cards that you got: 2 of swords, ace of coins, the emperor and the ace of cups.

Okie so The 2 of swords really sums it up for y'all, the others cards just confirm it more. like you guys are torn between 2 options/paths/things/ whatever. Making a decision is important because It seems like this has been on your mind for some time and is bugging you ? Taking up all your mental energy/stamina. *like a vampire/jk* most of y'all already know which path you want to choose but for some reason you haven't locked in your answers is what I am feeling. And now it's time to make a decision! It might be that you are afraid for some reason, you have this fear of what if things go wrong or something like that or it might be that you are unable to make a decision because both options seem equally tempting.

I think you can choose any path because they will have decent results. The advice or call-out message is that whatever you chose to do for your situation, stick with it. Its not about the options it's about you! The reason why I called you guys mama bear is because that is how you should deal with your current situation. Chose whichever path you want, fight or flight. But stick with it! Know that what you did was absolutely okay!! You have to embody the emperor's energy (of being bold and authoritative, because it is your life, do not fall for anything that doesn't feel right )

The ace of cups tells me that you guys should make a decision using your heart ( feelings & intuition) because afterall you know what's best for you! follow your intuition/gut feeling, don't be afraid of anything YOU ARE THE EMPEROR & YOU'VE GOT IT !

Keywords: stability, bravery & action. Facing fears/oppositions, gut feeling

Ig thats it, lmk how I did and only take what resonates 🤍 have a good day/evening/night

Hello pile 2 👋🏻

Cards you got: 3 of cups, death, 2 of cups & 9 of cups

I'm getting the word "love potion" for guys, I mean we do have alot of cups *the 2,3 and nine of cups* woah! That's alot of emotions. I'm also getting the word "self acceptance" all the cards are so positive but it doesn't feel that good? Something feels heavy? And a Lil stressful yk? I think the message for you guys is opening up yourself.

Y'all might have the habit of guarding yourself, but many times sometimes you just end up over doing it, leaving you feeling sad? Y'all feel that you are different from others in a sad way and that you have to put up this "fake" self to fit in. You try to be like others / everybody around you in public and this needs to change, atleast your mindset that people won't accept you for who you are. Change is needed! Stop blaming it on other exteranl reasons. Do you even know who you actually are? Do you accept yourself? Do you love/care about yourself? Do you prioritise your needs first? Its not always others, sometimes it's our fault that we let people treat us like that! The two of cups imagery is giving me mirror energy, it looks like there's a mirror between the two peeps and they are actually the same person but also different at the same time like it's just their "other side" yk? How you view yourself, and how you let yourself be you truly. Love your inner child. Death talks about how you need to embrace all your different sides and be yourself, be unique & don't try very hard just to "fit in"

The nine of cups is here for advice and it talks about prioritising your needs first & putting yourself on the pedestal! Whether it be in romantic relationships or platonic or any relationship

Call-out message: DONT BE AFRAID TO BE YOURSELF let yourself be! Accept love, prioritise your emotional needs first!!!

Ig thats it, lmk how I did and only take what resonates 🤍 have a good day/evening/night

Hello pile 3 👋🏻

Cards you got: the strength, justice, devil & the star.

Surprisingly all major arcanas😭I really wanna know what's going on with y'all. Like what MAJOR shit is going on lmao

Anyways here's my interpretation for you guys: you guys are working hard towards some goals of yours. I'm getting the vibes that the world told you what you think or thought once upon time is unrealistic and unachieveable but to you it feels like "inner- calling". you have started working towards it and might have achieved/ overcome certain milestones and mini achievements that you should be proud about and if not then you should know that they hard work that you have put in WILL workout and you will gain the fruits for you dedication. One thing you should possibly avoid is arrogance and / or greed attachments will be different for everybody, basically avoid the temptations of the devil. Don't believe you're at the top of the world and for some it's not getting overly obsessed with results,etc. Everything will workout at the right time. The justice card over here is likely talking about getting your results. Call-out message for y'all could be to choose the path of hard work & patience instead of shortcuts and unfair means. The star card is asking you to stay optimistic regarding your work to know that it will all be worth it, you will get your answers and result just keep working hard and have pure intentions

So yeah basically, just on the right track, keeping working hard, don't fall for temptations like shortcuts, procrastination, unfair means,etc be patient and you will be good to go

Ig thats it, lmk how I did and only take what resonates 🤍 have a good day/evening/night

[yanderes-galore]

How would yandere platonic link x maid reader x Yandere romantic Ganon hcs go especially with a reader who tends to attract danger ~  please love to see what you come up with, I Thank you in advance 💗

I assumed you meant Ocarina of Time era? Because that's what came to mind for me. I'm rusty on the details of the game's plot but I hope that does not change much. Link is tame in this as he's just overprotective.

This talks of time skips between young and adult link. You are 18 during the young Link era and 25 during the adult Link era.

If you are wondering ahout the dynamic. You and Link see each other as siblings/friends while Ganon sees you in a romantic light. Hopefully that makes sense.

Yandere! Platonic! Link with Maid! Reader vs Yandere! Romantic! Ganondorf

Pairing: Platonic (Link)/Romantic (Ganondorf)

Possible Trigger Warnings: Female Darling, Obsession, Manipulation (Ganon primarily), Overprotective behavior (Link), Possessive behavior (Ganon), Forced relationship/marriage (Ganon), Consensual companionship (Link).

Let's start with you.

You are a young royal maid working for the king.

You tend to the princess and all of her needs while keeping the castle clean.

For the most part you stay out of the way of guards and others.

You tend to gardens and on your time off you roam the castle.

You and Princess Zelda are close as you have a warm aura to you.

You do her hair and watch over the young princess like a sibling.

You don't meet Link or Ganon until later.

In fact you meet them relatively close to one another.

You meet Link, the young Hylian boy, when he's sneaking about the castle.

You catch him speaking with Zelda alone and quickly rush over to chase the troublesome boy off.

Yet Zelda stops you, explaining how he is a friend and ally.

You inquire further and Zelda tells you about her prophetic dreams.

She says she feels the boy, Link, will be a hero in the future.

While Ganondorf is a source of evil that will try to corrupt Hyrule.

You take the girl's words with a grain of salt and promise her you won't tell the king about her new friend.

Meanwhile you turn to Link and ask him about himself.

He isn't really one for words but you manage to learn that he's from the Kokiri Forest and was somehow instructed here by his fairy.

On closer inspection you can tell he's Hylian, which only makes you more confused about the boy.

Link is a strange enigma to you but you don't see him as much of a threat.

Before you leave, Zelda asks you to be careful around Ganondorf.

You recall that he is the visitor who gave allegiance to the king recently.

You haven't actually spoken to him yet but promise to keep an eye out.

In fact... you thought he made you feel off when bowing to the king.

That's how you meet Link the first time.

After that you occasionally see him visit outside the castle where you greet him and relay messages.

Overtime he becomes like a little brother to you.

You look after him when you see him just like you do with the princess.

That's the bond you two/three share.

Now here's your meeting with Ganondorf....

Eventually you're going to meet him while working at the castle.

The first time is a brief glance while he meets with the king.

You bring food and drink, only to catch gleaming eyes flash to you.

A grin appears on his face for a moment before you turn and quickly leave.

He makes you feel... wrong.

You wonder if Zelda has a point.

Yet that must just be your anxiety at work!

Afterwards Ganondorf may try to meet you more often.

When he's at he castle he often asks for you to bring him food, water, or some sort of item.

It's then he tries to initiate conversation.

You're extremely nervous yet put up with it.

Ganondorf seems like he'd be very smooth with words if he can win over the king.

He notices you don't trust him.

While he enjoys your fearful gaze, he tries to make you more comfortable.

He changes his tone and tries to be welcoming.

He's an ally of the king! Does he scare you that bad?

You poor maid... shaking in your shoes as you speak to a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Ganondorf would purposefully try to make you trust him.

He offers you to sit with him and talk over some drink.

In the halls he greets you and initiates small conversation.

In reality he's trying to remove suspicions to his plan.

However... he also finds it fun to mess with your fear.

At some point he even feels attraction brew in his beastly heart.

When he gains power he'll keep you as his own personal maid.

While Link prepares himself by gathering what's needed to open the Temple of Time, this is what's going on.

Ganondorf tries his best to charm you, perhaps even giving compliments while trying sweeten you up around him.

You fear his intentions yet still push through it to keep an eye on him.

When you manage to get away from him, you find yourself speaking with Link.

Like a big sister you ask how he's doing and if he's okay.

He can tell your demeanor has changed due to Ganon although you never tell him a word.

Zelda most likely tells him when they meet.

Link doesn't like that you're constantly pestered by Ganondorf, the supposedly evil man.

He's protective of you yet he can't do anything... yet.

Let's skip to the point of when he unlocks the Temple of Time.

This is when Link encounters two versions of you.

As young Link he sees you as the kind young maid who cares for him and the princess.

As an adult, when seven years past, he sees you as an older woman under the control of Ganondorf.

Just as he suspected, Ganon was not pestering you for no reason.

In the future Ganondorf has taken you as his (forced) bride.

This fact hurts Link.

To see the woman he befriended, the one who cared for him and the princess, forced to be with the evil lord makes him sick.

As a result, Link accepts his role as the Hero of Time.

He not only has to save Zelda and Hyrule...

But he feels he needs to save you too.

I'm going to skip around as Ganondorf's obsession over you spans over seven years.

Meanwhile Link's more protective obsession is split between young and adult Link.

Obviously the two obsessions are different.

Ganondorf intends to force you to be his wife, his queen.

While Link sees you just as family, he doesn't want you condemned to such a fate.

It can be assumed as much that Ganondorf has been trying to court you until Link opened the Temple of Time.

Once Ganondorf was able to get inside and have the Triforce, he didn't have to be patient anymore.

While Link was sealed away, Ganondorf swoops in to you with newfound power.

There's no doubt you tried to flee to Kakariko like most.

Despite this the Gerudo King still ordered you be hunted down an brought to him.

After all, he's claimed you since he saw you.

This whole rivalry would span the entire Ocarina of Time story.

Link would be going from temple to temple to awaken sages.

When he can he tries to find you as young Link to check on how you're holding up.

Link is driven to help you, it becomes a goal that keeps him going.

While Ganondorf prepares and makes you his perfect maid/queen, Link prepares to fight the final battle.

Link matures and becomes ready to fight Ganondorf and save you.

When the big fight happens, you're forced to watch.

You can only sit and hope the young boy you knew years ago can defeat this monster.

There's only two outcomes.

Ganondorf wins and you're forced to continue being his queen, watching your world suffer in silence.

Or Link saves you, Zelda, and Hyrule....

Link seems like the most tame yandere in this.

The reason being he really just wants you safe.

The moment he gets you out of Ganon's clutches, he refuses to have you leave his arms.

To you, you haven't seen this kid in years.

To him? He's seen the suffering you've had to go through.

He saw it start, he saw it end.

He refuses to have you go through that again.

Even when Zelda gives him back his childhood, Link still vows to visit you.

To Link, it feels like he's on a trip to save family.

Even as he grows up, he promises to be your little defender.

It's a childish promise but he'll do anything to see you happy.

After Ganondorf is banished, your life goes back to caring for a young Zelda and Link.

Link plans to keep it that way as he grows up naturally, in his eyes you are the closest he's had to a sibling outside of the Kokiri.

He'd do anything to keep you happy...

Even if it meant slaying what he deems evil all over again just to achieve that.

[hey-hey-j]

Your Broppy opinion posts are so real!! It's hard for me to rewatch World Tour only because of the "just a friend" stuff. Like, I love the main plot, and the characters, and the attention to detail with the world design! But the romantic side plot just comes off so.. amatonormative. Their friendship really does feel like a stepping stone for eventual romance, which feels like a disservice to it. And like you said, it really was set up like them pairing up was inevitable.

Broppy isn't my cup of tea either. And before I watched Holiday in Harmony, I was really caught off guard learning they're dating in Band Together. Because the writing for them getting to that part just wasn't believable for me. The "I love you" exchange at the end didn't feel romantic (which you can take with a grain of salt on my end, being a romance repulsed aro-) and we didn't see much of Poppy's side. In fact, I don't remember any moments of pining from her. Which is why it felt so weird to see them together without that, I dunno, necessary buildup?

It's frustrating because Branch and Poppy genuinely do make a cute couple. Poppy is supportive and encouraging of Branch opening up, and Branch is willing to rework his boundaries for her and provide her support in turn. They care a great deal about each other and would follow each other to the ends of the earth. But their relationship progression could have been done a lot better.

Apologies! This was really long!! You just perfectly put into words what I've been thinking concerning canon Broppy :)

GOD yeah that's really the biggest issue with canon Broppy, is that they don't build up Poppy's side of the relationship at all so her reciprocating Branch just feels so abrupt and tacked on

and like I get it, Poppy's character arc in World Tour is laser-focused and doesn't leave a lot of room to explore any potential romantic feelings for Branch but in that case, why do the romantic subplot at all, ya know? It's a disservice to both of their characters in World Tour, honestly—Branch feels like he only exists to pine after Poppy and Poppy feels like she's getting shoehorned into an obligatory m/f romance.

I don't know, I think the saving grace here is that ultimately, romantic or platonic Branch and Poppy do have a really sweet dynamic. They both exasperate each other in different ways but they're both so willing to understand each other and grow together and it's genuinely really nice to see. You can't beat a classic sunshine/grouch dynamic, I guess *shrug*

[oddberryshortcake]

26. What would you describe as OOC?

go ahead i dare you

A lot of things, but this is coming from someone who took many creative writing classes in undergrad and generally notices and engages in writing rules, quirks, and professionalism. 

I know I take it too seriously. I still know how to have fun but I also notice things that would probably make others go "You're being too critical just have fun"

So take anything I have with a grain of salt-

Acting out of character 

This is literally obvious as that's exactly what OOC means and whenever I see characters doing and saying things that seem completely unlike them, my enjoyment definitely takes a bit of a dive. 

This is commonly synonymous with 'woobifying' which I think is the most common of ooc characterizations. 

I love sopping wet pathetic characters as much as the next person, really I do! I just wish it didn't often come paired with the character losing their personality, agency, and surrounding characters feeding into the 'smol baby can't do anything.' 

I'm a big fan of whump, and I think there can be a lot of nuance when it comes to the torture and caring of the character. But I don't think the essence of the character should be lost for the author's personal pity reasons. 

2. The world revolves around one character 

The world, like real life, isn't about one person. Even in your favorite pieces of media, other characters will get the chance to shine just as brightly as the favorite or the main character. 

To me, it's not possible for one person to be the center of everyone's universe. I'm in love with the devotion trope, where love takes on co-dependent forms whether romantic or platonic, but there is so much to explore outside of that relationship. 

I think about the Simpson bit where Homer advocates for the new Itchy and Scratchy character he voices by offering suggestions, and one thing he says is "Whenever Poochy isn't in the room, everyone should ask, 'Where's Poochy?'" and I feel pretty much like that lol. 

3. The soapbox 

I can't tell you how badly I get taken out of a story the moment a character loses their voice and takes on the voice of the author and PREACHES TO THE AUDIENCE. 

They lose their character voice if they have one and hearing and feeling like I'm being talked down to as a reader is soirritating. Almost as irritating as quips that don't entirely hit. 

I think characters should be able to think and speak for themselves in the story. I don't think audiences should have stuff explained to them through the author speaking as themselves through a character but I could be wrong, given that subtext and unreliable narrators are looked down on now for not being concretely clear. 

So, I could be wrong about a lot of this stuff. Maybe I'm dumb and lame, but these are elements that just ring out of character to me when reading and I try to actively avoid them when writing. Am I successful in this? I don't know, probably not, even I fall victim to these things lol. 

[natasha-in-space]

Hey so i too read your yooseven hc post but I wonder how would seven show his care towards yoosung cuz in that post i mainly see yoosung is like mainly the who is the "giver". And im not saying its bad (please dont take my words negatively) because i can also see seven himself feeling like yoosung is the one who "does more" than him in the relationship and perhaps may feel insecure about it from time to time because he never really had someone go this far for him, its not something he is used to.

And at the same time, while seven for most of his life have been the "caregiver" mainly because he is aware that he is the stronger twin and the one who could do something (so its more out of necessity) yoosung on the other hand has the innate need to be needed and be the "bigger" person even tho unlike seven he never had to feel the compulsion to be the said "bigger" person out of necessity because he has always been the youngest both in rfa and his family but he wants to be someone his loved ones can rely on because thats what makes him feel personally fulfilled, thats his love language. I hope im making sense

So i can see yoosung struggling in that aspect in the relationship with basically anyone he is been with including seven so I also wonder how it would be like in their relationship with seven as a dynamic

Hmm, yes, yes, I can totally see what you're talking about, anon! Relationships are messy, romantic or platonic, so it's only a given for both of them having to face a few difficulties, these ones included. Now, this is only my personal interpretation based on how I portray these characters, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt!

All I can say is that it's a process. A messy one. It all depends on the context. Do they confess their feelings to each other before taking care of Mint Eye? After? Does Yoosung have to deal with Saeyoung's avoidance like his mc's do during his route? Or do they have no time for that? Small details like these do matter in the long run. There are many, many ways you can write them getting together, and that's what makes it fun to play around with in the first place.

When it comes to the already established relationship... I believe they'll make it work. Not without a couple of mishaps, of course. Yoosung, in comparison to Saeyoung, is someone who is very open to communication, and he has no problem with openly talking about his feelings and asking Saeyoung to do the same. Saeyoung, on the other hand, will have some struggles with that aspect. It'll take him some time to move on from his previous ways of dealing with any difficulties, however big or small. This might lead to some conflicts between the two.

It's always hard to see your loved one pretending like everything's alright or outright denying that there's a problem when you know they don't have to do it alone. Saeyoung does this from the place of love, he really does. He doesn't want to burden anyone with his struggles and he'd much rather use this anxious energy to make his loved ones happy instead of making them needlessly worry. It's not healthy, but it's the only way he knows how to deal with his issues. For Yoosung, this might come across as Saeyoung not trusting him to understand what he's going through, and that stings. It's like Saeyoung thinks he's not strong enough to handle it. Yoosung has a... personal grudge against anyone keeping secrets from him. For a good reason. So, yes, this can become a major problem for them.

But, that doesn't mean they can't make it work. They care about one another. Saeyoung is not smothering Yoosung with gifts or putting up a lighthearted facade in front of him out of annoyance. He's doing it because he genuinely believes that's the right thing to do. I truly think Yoosung can figure it out. He's a deeply empathetic person at heart. He might get frustrated at times and he might need some time to get his thoughts in order, but he knows Saeyoung cares for him. And he knows when he's having a hard time. The tricky part is figuring out how to have this important talk.

It's really about balance. No relationship is perfect, just like none of us are perfect. Neither Yoosung nor Saeyoung had a serious romantic relationship before, so it's going to be very clumsy at times, but that's okay. At the end of the day, Saeyoung would never want to hurt the ones he loves most. He is willing to take notice when his actions start having a negative effect on Yoosung, and he is more than willing to apologize. As for Yoosung, he wants to know the real Saeyoung, more than anything. He might get a bit heated and pushy at times, but he will learn how to be more mature.

As for the way they show affection to one another... again, it's about communication. Saeyoung is the type of person who will show his love through his actions, while Yoosung is more on a verbal side. I truly think they know each other well enough where these differences won't be a problem. Saeyoung doesn't mind getting all mushy and romantic at times to see Yoosung blush and giggle. Meanwhile, Yoosung knows Saeyoung's gifts are so much more than just physical objects.

I guess you could say... they are learning together?

[thotsfortherapy]

Do you have why advice for people who haven't had a relationship?

hi there :)

to be completely transparent, i have not been single since i was like 17, and i have been in a committed relationship for the past three years. so take what i have to say with a grain of salt.

but if i were to say anything, i would say that having a romantic relationship is not the end-all-be-all of life. it is not the end goal, or it doesn't have to be, if you don't want it to be. if i were you, i would ask myself why i want a romantic relationship in the first place. is it to go on cute dates? to have that deep emotional bond with ppl? just really touch starved? because these are all things that you can get out of nearly every other relationship you have. it doesn't just have to be a romantic partner.

this is something i've been trying to cultivate in my own life as well, the idea of bringing romance into my platonic relationships. taking the time to plan dates with your friends - going to the movie theater, treating them to dinner, going for picnic - is something that can bring beautiful relationships into your life, even if they aren't the traditional romantic relationship you see on screen (which honestly i wouldn't want anyways!) taking that extra time and care has helped me strengthen my friendships, build cute memories, and meet my needs.

for example, one of my best friends and i used to spend our days downtown, and on the bus ride home we would hold hands and she'd lay her head on my shoulder. those moments of gentleness filled me with so much love and warmth, and im grateful i got to experience so many beautiful moments with her!

ultimately, if you are seeking a certain kind of love or feeling, i would encourage you to be the person who is bringing that energy into your relationships - both with your friends and family, but also with yourself. it's possible the reason you're not getting it is because those ppl have never felt it themselves.

lastly, if you are deadset on a romantic relationship - it is so much better to wait for the right person to come around than to settle for someone who won't treat you well. if you haven't settled for someone because they aren't the right fit for you, then you're doing a good job and no one should make you feel bad about that.

thanks for asking!

cy

[riizebabie444]

As for ur second reading, the celebrity crush reading I did for u is Mark from NCT 🤍.

How relationship with Mark from nct would be like?

I feel the relationship with you both will be more like a mentor and student in a way. I feel like Mark will be open to discussing with you really deep topics, or, in a philosophical sense, I feel like you both will treasure this friendship so much. Because both of you are learning something from it, and especially on your side, you have so much admiration and appreciation for him. You might be a person who loves someone who keeps challenge you, especially when it comes to knowledge, and Mark is that person for you. I'm going to be honest with you: I feel like this relationship is more like a platonic side rather than a romantic one. I do feel this love and care for each other. It might change, or I might be wrong, as I said I am still beginner so please take my words with a grain of salt 🤍. But that was how I felt. You both also like to hang out outdoors, like I keep seeing him eating like chess corn dog lol, so you might both like going for walks and trying street food and stuff. It's like a really relaxed and fun relationship. You both do respect each other. I also feel like he will find you so sweet and intelligent. Honestly, your energy is very much nice.

Disclaimer : for entertainment purposes.

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Initials S.S.A Gemini sun

The second celebrity crush is NATSUKI HORI

this reading is for you and natsuki sawamoto. i'm honestly getting major slowburn with this reading. it would take quite some time for your relationship to climax and i'm honestly seeing that this relationship would give the feeling of childhood friends to lovers. maybe even childhood frenemies to lovers, or rivals but in a friendly way. always teasing each other, trying to out-best the other but i don't think there would be any deep conflicts. it's that mutual understanding and respect and knowing when to back down as to not hurt the other. so much teasing and competitiveness yet always being there for the other to fall back on, standing up for the other when someone else tries to hurt them. i totally see you guys being the "no one else can tease them but me!" type of couple. i think it would also be the type of relationship where you are both so similar. you might seem as opposites attract to others but in reality, you know each other so well and you are so alike. maybe even down to hobbies and interests or even career choices. in this dream reality where you two are a thing, you may often be worried about how being in a relationship could damage your reputations. perhaps others will say bad things or you don't want to be public, but i think eventually after pushing away the mutual feelings for so long, you would just say "let's do it!" and you can finally be together. but again, it would take time! and maybe even distance because i see travel and different parts of the world. so much slowburn!

thank you for taking part in the exchange and thank you for your patience! i really enjoyed this exchange and i definitely see this with mark, that it would be more friendship than romance. going for walks and street food are totally my thing! it sounds like such a cute and inspiring friendship, thank you!

[rubyroller]

So to start, the difference isn't sexual attraction and asexuals can have romantic relationships.

Now I'm speaking from limited romantic experience so take this all with a huge grain of salt. I've found that the 5 love languages idea was really helpful for determining the differences in how I feel about people and what I want out of a friendship and a romantic relationship, and maybe my particular way of approaching the concept could be helpful for somebody out there.

So we have the love languages:

1. Physical touch (pt) - any form of physical contact, from a hand on the shoulder to kissing to sex.

2. Quality time (qt) - spending time together doing a joined activity. Having a meal, watching a show, sitting in the same room and sometimes showing each other memes, even having long and in-depth conversations about a topic, etc.

3. Words of affirmation (woa) - little comments that express gratitude, appreciation, reassurance, and such. "I love you", "thank you for doing the dishes this time it means a lot", "I'm glad you're part of my life", "that outfit/hairstyle really suits you, I'm glad you're happy with it", Etc.

4. Acts of service (aos) - doing something that the other person doesn't really want to, as a way of easing their stress. Always making sure they've got a drink or food when they're around, helping with/doing chores for them when they don't have the time/energy or just because you know it's not as much of a bother to you as it is to them, and other things of that nature.

5. Gift giving (gg) - either making or buying gifts to show you care. Getting their favorite chips at the store, hand making a card for them, getting them an accessory or outfit you know they'll love, etc.

Important note! These are not about how frequently you engage in them, just how meaningful they are to you. If you only talk to your friend once a week, but those talks mean the world to you, that's the important part!

Now, I put two sets of labels on each love language for platonic, and then romantic.

Set number one:

Requirement - I need this love language to be present for the relationship I have to be meaningful to me.

Desired - I would appreciate this love language being present, but it's absence won't negatively affect the importance of the relationship to me.

Neutral - The presence or absence of this love language will have little to no effect on my emotional investment in the relationship.

Averse - The presence of this love language will have at least some negative effect on my ability to emotionally invest in this relationship. From mild to extreme, any distaste or discomfort for the presence of a particular love language falls into aversion.

Set number two:

Giving - I prefer to show affection with this love language, but don't want to receive affection with it. (Ex.) You may really enjoy giving gifts, but dislike receiving them.

Receiving - I prefer when people show their affection for me with this love language, but I don't enjoy expressing my affection with it. (Ex.) You may enjoy recieving compliments, but don't feel as comfortable giving them.

Mutual - I prefer when both people show their affection with this love language. (Ex.) You may enjoy helping someone with chores, but also enjoy when someone is willing to help you with yours.

Now, I can label what love languages I prefer and how I prefer they present themselves in my relationships with other people.

Let's do my love languages for an example!

Platonic:

Quality time - mutual requirement

Words of affirmation - mutual requirement

Acts of service - mutual desire

Physical touch - mutual desire

Gift giving - mutual neutral

Romantic:

Quality time - mutual requirement

Physical touch - mutual requirement

Acts of service - mutual requirement

Words of affirmation - mutual desire

Gift giving - mutual neutral

So now whenever I may be confused about whether my feelings are romantic or platonic, I can just look at this and see if what I'm wanting from this person more closely lines up to my platonic or my romantic expression of love languages!

I know this won't help everyone but it's made sorting things out a lot easier for me in the past, so maybe someone out there may find it helpful!

genuine question:

what’s the difference between romantic and platonic love? and if the difference is sexual attraction, does that mean the asexuals can never have a romantic relationship?

[razzle-dazzle-dandy]

I decided to create this little game just out of curiosity! Let's play an alternate reality! Think of at least 2 TWST boys to ship or interact with your Sona/MC/Yuu or OC! Let's see the park burn and have fun! (〃ﾟ3ﾟ〃)/💗

Ooo, okay! This sounds fun! Thank you for the ask! ❤️

I have a few TWST OCs, so I guess I'll go with Sara for now since she's the most developed at this point.

I ship her with Leona first and foremost because they're my favorite children and I'm biased I think Sara's quiet but confident personality and difficult childhood would give her a different perspective on Leona. She knows herself well enough now not to be phased by most of Leona's posturing and half-hearted insults, but she's also dealt with feelings of worthlessness and irritability that would be familiar to Leona. Sara has sympathy for him, but also acknowledges that he needs to find a way to move forward instead of stagnating where he is. I think Leona would benefit from having a calm, stable presence in his life, romantic or platonic. Speaking from experience, sometimes nagging someone into action will only make them dig their heels in further. Sara definitely starts as more of a mom friend to him and Savanaclaw than a love interest. It's only after they've had a chance to spend time together and learn more about each other that they start to develop feelings. They probably don't properly start dating until at least a couple years after they meet. Once they do though, they will literally kill for each other. Sara is fiercely loyal by nature, and I headcanon Leona as someone who drops everything to protect what's important to him once he realizes that it actually is important to him.

(Unrelated to shipping, but since I know different people have different views on Leona's behavior; I personally believe he's suffering from some form of depression brought on by the most toxic mix of inferiority and superiority complexes with a dash of existential crisis for flavor, which he never got proper help for because every monarchy is a nightmare.)

If I had to pick a runner-up??? Jack was my first thought, but that feels too easy sooo... I'm gonna say Vil! Sara would be pretty indifferent to him at first, but I can see her being impressed by his dedication to his career and health. Iirc, Vil and Jack sometimes jog together? If it's not canon it's certainly believable, so I can see Sara and Vil getting to know each other during early morning jogs that turn into them just hanging out when Vil has time. Vil definitely introduces Sara to spa days, and she gets lost in the basically incomprehensible luxury. She starts having romantic feelings for him after his speech at the beginning of Chapter 6. His grace in defeat and his willingness to make things right endears him to her. I'm not sure what would draw Vil to Sara specifically, like they'd get along but I don't know what would make her stand out to him romantically? My first thought is that she genuinely has no concept of him as a celebrity. Not in the "she doesn't care me and that's hot" way, but in the "she has no preconceived view of me because she's literally from another dimension" way. So it's refreshing for him to talk to her about projects he's interested in and not hear that it doesn't suit him for any number of arbitrary reasons, or to watch a movie together that most would assume is too childish or cheesy for Superstar Vil. Just being able to indulge a little with someone. Might be out of character though, so take that with a grain of salt lol.

And that's it! I didn't write any scenarios, but I might reblog this later with some if I feel inspired. I really enjoyed writing these, even if it is me rambling lol. Thank you again Nicoli! 😘

Edit: Got permission to tag people, so if @pinkanonwrites , @veevz-drawz and @anunluckyrabbit would like to do this too feel free!

[fourangers]

Hi Fourangers,

First of all, I love your blog so much. It's like going through a history back when Naruto Manga chapters were released weekly and your reviews were so Golden, Hilarious and spot-on. Am a new fan though (especially an SNS fan), I just got into this fandom only this year. I don't know if you'll answer my ask, but I just wanted to try and ask you few questions and I pray that you might answer me....

1. Since you've written in a post that you were active in the eastern part of the fandom, How was chapter 698 received in Japan? Because this is the chapter I inherently realized they both love each other. Yeah, I was too late but somehow whenever they interact with each other in previous chapters I always find them to be 'Weird' for just to be friends. Chapter 698 is just blatantly obvious that they love each other. Considering Homophobia and Shounen genre, I have no idea how it was perceived over there back then in 2014.

2. Which scene made you to ship SNS?

3. As an SNS'er how do you feel about the ending, where everyone was married off when they were just 19 just to make some shitty sequel??? As a new fan, I felt betrayed and It would've been perfect if they had stopped at chapter 699, leaving an open ending.

4. How do you face with the accusation about Naruto and Sasuke as brothers and we, SNS'ers are Incest shippers??? I don't care about that Indra and Ashura thing. But Naruto himself told he considers Sasuke as his Brother couple of times. And in Chapter 699, Sasuke acknowledged, 'He finally understood what it meant'.... It's the only thing that confuses me and I don't even have an answer!!! Plus, Kishi himself gave an interview that he based Sasuke on his Brother... I really wonder how he gave such an interview when he literally made them wear necklaces with each other's faces.

5. How was Naruto and Sasuke's sexuality perceived in the fandom back then??? Man!! Kishimoto just made lot of comic reliefs on their sexuality by making Sasuke on Sai jutsu, Naruto not interested in Icha Icha but making Reverse Harem no Jutsu, Naruto was angry when Konohamaru made Boy on Boy jutsu whereas he had no problem with him doing it. LOL. And all those homoerotic posters. What do you think about their sexuality, personally??

6. Why did Kishi had to develop their bond as Soulmates with some unintentional or intentional romantic undertones, if he was eventually going to pair them up with girls??? He easily could've gave many such romantic tropes to other girls and keep the bond between N and S as purely friendship or brothers. It still would've made sense.

7. Final one, Was Naruto really Nosebleeding when Kurama made a joke about Sasuke's kiss in Chapter 572???? We had a lot of heated discussion with other shippers where they claim that it was just a splotch of snot.

Sorry for the lengthy ask....... I am so eager to know your answers and I don't want to spam your ask box by sending multiple asks.

Thanks 😊😊😊

Hey yo! Welcome new SNS fan! I'm so glad that you joined us and I'll try to answer as best as I can. I'm not very active here on tumblr (except browsing lol) but your ask was such a delight to read.

1. I honestly don't remember. I think I didn't follow the japanese boards until the eventual 699-700 disaster. People were craving for reactions and I was curious about it too lol. And well...it's been years, I doubt I'll be able to find the reactions from that time. Imo, most readers don't care much about pairings, they just wanted to read about power-ups and abilities and the basic Naruto Vs Sasuke. Though there are some backhanded jokes about how gay Naruto is for Sasuke.

2. Hah. It's going to be very anti-climatic but it was when Naruto and Sakura were eating in Ichiraku Ramen. Naruto just used Rasenshuriken against Kakuzu and he busted his arm. Sakura was healing his arm and her attention was focused on Naruto. I used to be a NaruSaku shipper so I thought "Oh hey! This is the moment that Naruto would have a candid romantic moment!" But nope. He talked about Sasuke. And I was already getting suspicious about Sasuke's feelings towards Naruto ya know? And the whole "SASUKE IS MIINEEEEEE" in Orochimaru's lair. It was that moment I thought "you only have Sasuke in your head don't you, Naruto?" and started shipping SNS.

3. Hooo boy was I surprised when it was suddenly revealed that they had the basic heteronormative, boring marriage with bunch of clones of themselves. Everyone thought that it was almost like a bad fanfiction come true and some thought that it was fake. It was a pandemonium lolololol. I also thought that it was too lame to be true and lo and behold, when it came true I was floored. And then whenever Kishimoto threw new material, I got insanely pissed off because S*arada and B*ruto becoming pairing material is ok because they are a girl and a boy, and then they paralleled with Naruto and Sasuke which are only FRIENDS because they are both men. ARGH. Open ending was what Kishimoto planned from the very beginning but wrote a sequel to earn more money.

In that aspect, I made peace with it because of the whole anime/manga industry. I learned that, as a mangaka, you don't earn a lot of money with selling books, but rather with merchandise and profiting with sales right. And that guy have a family to raise, have two kids (which is hilarious about how B*ruto movie is his self-insert story), he needs a steady income. Also, I read reports about how anime studios are so poor and animators don't receive a decent income not to mention they are overstaffed and tired, and B*ruto is a good money cow for them to earn money so they can invest later on other anime they have more passion about it. So even though I hate this story with a strength of thousands suns, they are putting meal on people's tables and making them pay rents. I'm ok.

4. Lemme roll my eyes because in the Last movie they said that Hinata is related to Kaguya and so is the Uzumaki and Uchiha clan so they are all related woo hoo. But in the aspect of brothers because reincarnations bla bla bla, didn't Naruto himself said that he's no longer that brother, he's himself? Hmm...I gotta re-read it. One day. Maybe. lol. But I'm sure that he said "Sasuke is not my brother but I'm sure we'll understand well as friends" so there. Honestly, there are a lot of interviews out there and a lot of them are fake, so I'd always take the interviews with a grain of salt lololol. I do know from artbooks that Kishimoto wanted to create Sasuke as a rival-esque character and that was it. As he was developing Sasuke and Naruto's relationship, since he liked the whole yin-yang concept, whenever he wrote Naruto's story, Sasuke's was developed at the same time as his shadow.

5. I can tell from Naruto Forums (I used to participate back in that day) MOST of the non-shippers thought it was gay as hell, but you know...it was a relic of that time. While they thought it was gay, they didn't put too much thought about you know? Because it was shounen, and we knew that it was a joke that it couldn't be taken seriously. Of course, in the SNS fandom, we did make more analysis and there were a lot of instance when Naruto and Sasuke's sexuality was questioned. Some other non-shippers also thought that Naruto was totes gay for Sasuke (including a IRL friend).

Imo, Naruto is definitely bisexual in my view. Sasuke I think he's asexual or gay. He's attracted to Naruto, but mostly because of his connection to him, not because of his physical attributes, so yeah...asexual. Or Pansexual. Sasuke is more complicated lmao. Imo, Naruto could be pansexual too, come to think about it. Yeah, I guess both being pansexual can be valid.

6. He developed Naruto and Sasuke being soulmates from the very beginning, that was proven in his comments in artbooks and in the manga. He probably created with the intention of making it purely platonic, going beyond physical ties. Then he shot himself on the foot by drawing Naruto thinking about Sasuke on bed, talking about how Sasuke is cool, meanwhile Sasuke waxing poetic about how Naruto saved him. What gives? Lol. Yeah, I think he got too enamored writing their relationship that he didn't have time to write romantic ones. What I noticed that Sakura's popularity never was really high, so I could see some editors putting their fingers all over it and making her less relevant. Also, Kishimoto didn't know how to handle her, so when she got her time to shine was the whole fake confession disaster. Coupled with Kishimoto sexism and, in his words (Kurenai's flashback), women are useful to spout more babies, women was never really relevant in his story, unfortunately. Even Kaguya who was technically the big bad boss, was never really fleshed out in comparison to Madara. So the null het romantic moments it's not because he wanted to elevate SNS moments, it's more about how he's incompetent about it. It's either Hinata slowly elevating to a relevant status because forced interaction (Pain's sacrifice and Neji's death) or Sakura being obligated to be pining over Sasuke because she's a girl. It's even more painful to see that, if we ignore B*ruto, both girls are shown to be just talking with their kids and dusting shelves, basically being housewives, even though thorough the story (especially Sakura) it was implied that both of them have much more potential than being their husband accessories.

7. It was a splotch of snot. I can confirm myself lol. Whenever the chapter is out and fans would scan it to scanlate it, the editor usually would amp up contrast to max. So usually the lines get much more thicker than usual, when you read the official release which gets straight from the source, you can notice how the lines are more delicate.

Oh lol...but then we also have a lot of controversy about translating style. THAT one is a whole new can of worms to open.

Man I had fun answering your questions! Please send more :P

[scintillasofbeomgyu]

Having a bit of a problem rn :') I mean not rlly but uh I've never told anyone. But my guy friend who I'm in love with got into jyp a whole back lol we've been friends since we were 13 (19 now) I'm very happy for him obviously but what if this drives a wedge into our friendship and I'll really not have a chance to be with him 😭 it's so selfish of me to think that while his dreams are coming true but I can't help it :'( sorry for venting here I just don't know who else to dump this on hahaha

you can always vent here !! me and my askbox (and dms for those who are comfortable) are always open if you need someone to talk to !! ❤️ i completely understand how you feel. i mean, not that i've ever experienced something like that, but i feel like i would probably feel really conflicted if i were you, too. your friend getting into jype (no matter how much jyp himself sucks) is a really big achievement. it's really not easy to get into these entertainment companies bc they're pretty strict, especially a big company like jyp, so i think you should be really proud of him !! but, and forgive me for being blunt, i do think that there's a very big possibility it could drive a wedge in your relationship. it's more likely for it to work out if you continued being friends, but even then i feel like things would start getting really tough for you, especially if he ends up debuting. HOWEVER, it also depends on your relationship with him and the kind of person he is, yk? after all, relationships are a two-way street. you could definitely make it work if you're both committed to making it work (whether it's platonically or romantically) and if you're understanding of how your relationship could change and how careful you'd need to be, all the challenges you'd face, etc.

wow, this ended up being really long 😭 but i just wanted to give you an honest, holistic opinion and advice. i don't know much about your specific situation, so take it with a grain of salt though. and if you ever need to vent some more, i'm here! <3

[the-irish-mayhem]

Why are you unhappy with the black widow movie? Genuinely curious. Fans are excited for it. General audiences don't care for it. But you like Natasha and even you are not excited for it. I'd love to know your take.

My feelings are complicated. Like they are with most Marvel movies now.

So back in 2012, when fans started going “Where’s Natasha’s movie?” I started coming up with what I would want to see in her solo movie–and in my mind, it was going to be an origin story, no two ways about it.

And not only was it going to be an origin story for Natalya Romanova, it was going to be an origin of Natasha Romanoff. We were going to see how she came to be a part of SHIELD, we were going to see the by then infamous story of how Barton “made a different call.” We were going to get context for “the hospital fire, Sao Paulo, Drakov’s daughter” that Loki teased. We were going to see her developing partnership with Barton, develop her friendship with Nick Fury, see how Bucky was involved in her past, etc. In my mind, we were GOING to see all those things. It was simply a GIVEN with the story that I had felt that they’d set up–all these tantalizing bits of her past that were just BEGGING for payoff.

And then… they killed her in Endgame. And now her solo film is going to be her finale rather than a setup for something more. So even if I end up loving this movie more than anything else I’ve seen (which I highly, highly doubt) there’s going to be a sour taste at the back of my throat because I know that her story is over.

And maybe they will pay off some of the stuff I want them too. They’ve said that this film is going to delve further into her backstory than they’ve ever gone (which is not that much of a promise, because all they’ve done so far is tease with short flashbacks and a few lines of dialogue.) So perhaps I’ll be pleasantly surprised with some backstory payoff.

But the way I’d always imagined it, the vehicle for that payoff was going to be her redemption arc through her renewed purpose with SHIELD and the beginnings of the “found family” with Clint. Those were going to be the two pillars of hope and stability while we revisited her past. I wanted them to deepen the relationships she already had, expand on what they mean to her as a person, and how they shaped the woman who would eventually steal the show in IM3, Avengers, and Cap 2.

If you looked back far enough on my blog you could probably find some salt posts about the MCU unproductively expanding their universe–throwing in new characters, and focusing on making their story web BIGGER instead of more stable and dynamic. That’s how I feel about Alexei and Melina and Yelena being added–it’s three new characters who were are just meant to accept as “oh yes this is natasha’s old russian family/friends/frenemies/etc. oh aren’t their antics and interactions amazing! don’t they pull at those tender heartstrings!”

Because if you ask me? No, I don’t think they’re going to. I would’ve accepted the addition of Yelena (because if you ask me, she’s a more important part of the fabric of Natasha’s character than Alexei or Melina in the comics) but Marvel’s tendency of adding more characters and TELLING ME I need to care about them/their interactions with Natasha when I spent years building up expectation of payoff on the relationships that I already cared about because I began to care about them organically. Platonic or romantic, I’m ride or die Clintnat. I’ve wanted to see payoff for Nat and Nick’s friendship since she said “Don’t do this to me, Nick” in Cap 2.

There were already existing character threads I wanted them to pick up and pull and see what unspooled. What Marvel is doing is throwing those threads into the closet and pulling new threads from a bag, saying THESE are the threads I was meant to be looking forward to this whole time!

I would call to question your assertion that “General audiences don’t care for it” because my mom and dad, both in their fifties/sixties and as solidly “general audience” as you can get, have been asking me for YEARS when Black Widow was going to get her own movie. When Peggy Carter got her own show, they were really excited because they thought it was Black Widow (they were a disappointed when I said it wasn’t.) So I’d want to see some demo data before I would comfortably say the general movie-going audience isn’t going to be interested in a Black Widow movie.

Perhaps Marvel still has the capacity to delight me like it did with Black Panther, but I sincerely doubt it.

I do ask that everyone take this with a grain of salt because this is all just my personal take on the situation. I love Natasha Romanoff, and I think I always will. I’m planning on seeing the movie because I adore the character (even if my feelings about the actress who plays her are a bit muddled now). I’ve just come to accept that I’m not going into it with a lot of hype, and I don’t think I’m going to be leaving with a lot of story satisfaction either.

[jojosbabe]

Shipping rules,hcs,and ask box info.

If you want some hcs made for you. Feel free to ask.

Ask box is open.

I am not big on canon characters shipped together. But i will do some if asked nicely. I mostly do self shipping. And self ship requests. As thats really the only thing i do.

Some characters if you ask for hcs for i dont know as much so i mostly do parts 1-4 as 5 i only can do mista and maybe abba. Maybe ghiaccio. But im not good with those characters as much. But any characters from 1-4 im very good with. So feel free to ask.

Ships i will do and am comfortable with

Jonathan x erina

Ceaser x Joseph x suzie q

Ceaser x Joseph

Joseph x suzie q

Joseph x avdol (tho this one i do more platonically but i can do a romantic ship if you'd like. I don't really pair avdol with anyone really)

Koichi x yukako (this one i take with a grain of salt buuuut i can do it if you'd like)

Jotaro x dolphins . Joking,just joking . I can write personal opinions and general hcs bout jotaros married life if you'd like. But since he did marry and have a kid. I kind aleave joot joot out of shipping hcs unless its for self shipping purposes.

Dio with almost anything and anyone cuz that bitch a horny vampire and canonlly bi so.....he's cool . I dont mind indulging with dio. But i love dio self shippers. Y'all rock my za wardo!

I hc Joseph as bisexual. Don't hate me plz. He's the only one i hc as queer/lgbt. Ok? I just vibe with grandpa. He's jiji. *hugs Joseph* . I don't really hc anyone else as queer so plz no hate.

I do not tolerate harassment and disrespect. If you do not like my hcs or anything i write. Take your business elsewhere. I will not write for anyone who sends anon hate. Or hate in general.

Pairs i will not do and do not feel comfy with:

Jotokak ( i have my reasons and personal feelings about this.)

Avpol (i don't really care for it. And i dont see polnareff that way. Nor avdol. I see them as friends and if anything avdol is like a mentor for polnareff. Since he is older than pol pol technically. I am not as squick or cringe with this as i am with other pairs.)

Okuyasu x josuke. (This is a hard no for me as i see them like brothers and it feels hella weird for me. They are the best friends duo i need to see. Hella positive and uplifting for dudes. Not toxic at all. And if they are paired up in a romantic way i feel they lose that importance. Plus again it feels weird to me)

I WILL NOT DO ANYONE PAIRED WITH GIORNO OR NARANCIA. AS THOSE ARE BABIES TO ME. I DO NOT FEEL COMFY ABOUT THAT. (If you want self shipping i know some people that may take your requests but i do not feel comfy with those sweethearts ok?)

Like i said i don't really ship canon characters together with each other.

I'd rather do x readers and self shipping. Its really the only shipping i do anymore.

Its way more fun and inclusive.

I DO NOT DO NSFW HCS AND OR REQUESTS FOR MINORS! IF YOUR UNDER 18. I WILL REFUSE TO DO NSFW. FLUFF IS FINE BUT NOT NSFW. ALL CHARACTERS WILL BE AGED UP AND ARE OF AGE OF CONSENT.

IF YOU ARE NOT OF AGE AND YOU DO NOT LISTEN TO THE RULES YOU WILL BE BLOCKED.

I will only do 1 or 2 requests at a time.

I do hcs and fun dabbles. Nothing heavy or full on novels or long x readers. As i can only focus so much.

I may do matchups eventually but for now the ask box is for hcs requests and self shipping purposes.

Again nsfw content is for adults 18+ only. And will be tagged accordingly.

Im trying to keep this safe,fun and open as i can.

While setting boundaries for myself and others.

I appreciate your time. Please read this if you wish to request something.

I have lots of jojo husbandos. But polnareff is the one i self ship with the most and is absolutely baaaaaaabe. 💖 (love me some pol pol. So i get passionate about him. Srry if i vent about this lovely Frenchman)

Also if you wanna show me your art you are most welcome to. Even if its a ship i dont like. I appreciate all art. As long as its not disgusting or disturbing i.e guro,blood mention, etc . If so give me some warning.

Any other questions feel free to ask.

Much love jojo fans i love you.

-jojosbabe *mwah kiss*

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She stopped talking to me a whole month, with no explanation, now i don't think we are something, i send her a message and she responds, that is the only contact we have in the next two weeks, i tried other methods to ask or help, but it ends in a emotional talk, a promise and everything goes the same, no matter how hard I try, and I'm tired honestly, i should end the relationship at this point- dense anon

Hey, dense anon, I’m sorry you have to deal with this, I know it’s rough and that it sucks. Imma try to help you out, hopefully it’ll do something for you. Lemme say this rn, I’m not a relationship expert so you can take everything imma say with a grain of salt.

From what I remember, the two of you just started your first year of college, right? Also, you two used to spend a lot of time together, right?

Here’s the thing, college is a whole new scene. Different environment, different experience, different dynamic that I’m sure both you and her might still be adjusting to. This is the beginning of figuring out who you are and what you want, something that the two of you will be constantly doing the rest of your lives. It’s not always going to be easy either. This could maybe explain why she hasn’t really been talking to you. Also, the thing with high school is sometimes the people you hung out with everyday only did so because they saw you five times out of the week. Once you move away where you no longer see that group or that person, those/that connection can start to fade. However, on the flip side, if two people want it, that connection is only going to grow stronger and stronger, I know because I’ve seen it happen. That’s with any relationship, let it be romantic, platonic, familial.

You also got to take into account that the two of you are also different people. As someone in a long distance relationship, lemme tell you right now that that shit is hard. The thing is, take away the distance and the requirements to maintain the relationship are still the same as any other couple. But just like any other couple, you gotta be able to enjoy your “me” time. Your partner doesn’t wanna be all up under you all the time and, even though it seems like you might want it now, you don’t wanna be all up under her either. If you don’t understand that now, you will eventually. You can be in a relationship but you also have to focus on yourself too. Despite what social media and media says, those things can coexist. Do things you enjoy on your own, hang out with friends, just make sure your entire being doesn’t revolve around your relationship with one person (can you believe that it’ll actually make it stronger?). You’ll become codependent and that’ll damage your relationship if left unchecked. Im not saying that you do this because how could I know that? But just be sure you’re taking care of yourself too, alright?

But you should know, just because someone isn’t talking to you for a few hours or even a day doesn’t mean that they don’t still love you, that they don’t still care about you. Sometimes people don’t wanna talk and need a day to recharge, sometimes they lose track of time because they were doing something they enjoy, maybe they’re grieving and need time to process, whatever the reason may be, they still love and care for you all the same, they’re just focusing on themselves for the moment and that’s more than fine.

Now onto what you said about your partner going cold turkey on you for a month with no explanation? That’s not good, that means there’s a lack of communication going on on her end if you’re always the one reaching out. The thing about that is, people are only going to talk when they want to so you can’t force her to communicate. Sometimes, you have to wait for them to come to you but you can only do that for so long, you know? Since it’s been a month, this isn’t really one of those times, in my opinion. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship and it sounds like the lack of it is negatively affecting your relationship.

One thing you have to remember: relationships are hard, there’s going to be lapses in communication, there’s gonna be disagreements and arguments and times where the two of you don’t want to be around one another for a bit. And all of that is okay as long as the two of you come together and find a solution together. I like to think of it as “It’s the two of you against the problem.” If you can figure out what the problem is then the two of you can work together to push through it and, in the process, come together as a couple.

Based on what you said, what I said about college and beginning to learn and unlearn aspects about who you are, here’s my advice: find time where the two of you can have a deep, real conversation about what you want. Doesn’t matter if it’s over the phone or in person, just find some time and make sure you can hear her voice. I promise that you’ll find the time because those who actually care will make time for you, When you find the time, lay it out for her completely, tell her how you’re feeling without blaming her and be vulnerable, you gotta be able to tell her what you feel in order for her to know what it is you’ve been thinking. People aren’t mind readers, they only know what you tell them. Figure out the problem and work through it if both you and her can.

But you also have to remember, sometimes things won’t end the way you want them to and while that’s an unfortunate part of life, it’s something you’ll have to be able to accept. You said the two of you end an emotional conversation on a promise, yeah? I’m sorry but words aren’t enough. Actions matter, they really truly do. If she says she’s gonna do better then she needs to show it, not say it. What people do show you how they really feel.

If you truly feel like you should end the relationship then do it. You don’t owe her an explanation but if you want to explain then you can. However, if you want this relationship and she tells you that she wants it as well, come up with solutions to overcome the problem at hand, work together and communicate, work for what you want and I promise if you do all that, it’ll come together.

I hope everything goes well for you.

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My mom wants to send me to therapy cause I'm not interested in relationships with people. I only like anime, video game characters and am fine just imagining being with them. I don't like being categorised as asexual or ace because it's not a no sex thing, it's a"ew your physically human, thus grotesque " thing. Either way I really don't want to go but she's pressuring me and threatening to kick me out. How do I tell my mom that I'm just not interested in ppl? Platonic or other wise?

I understand where you’re coming from, Anon~!!! People can be drawn and designed to be a lot more flawless (or, have their physical flaws represented as more idealistic) in video games and anime.  A long while ago, I felt similarly -- it was like... the boys I had a thing for irl couldn’t exactly measure up to my at-the-time anime crush, because they had real faces, and real bodies, and weren’t designed to be flawless; simply to be human.

However, it can be dangerous to oneself to have that sort of... divide in consciousness, where we’re so used to seeing idealized, sexy illustrations, that real people do become grotesque, as you mentioned.  And that’s a problem, simply because there is a lot of beauty in people, both physically and internally, and we miss out on those things when we hold everyone to the standards of an animated character.

I’m definitely not saying you should ever, ever, ever have sex with anyone you don’t want to have sex with.  You shouldn’t.  The same goes for romantic relationships.  And I know that this, in your case, is not about asexuality.  That’s totally fine.  A lot of people don’t want to become romantically/sexually involved with others for a huge variety of reasons, and absolutely no one should be pushed into relationships (sexual, or non-sexual) that they’re simply not interested in.  That’s totally okay~!!!

It’s just important to be able to see humans as humans... as complex beings, with their own forms of beauty, and personal relatability, and worthiness, because that’s the world we’re in right now, and the fantasy lovers -- the animated people of our dreams -- aren’t ever going to be with us, and that’s okay.  

You mentioned that you’re alright with not having sex with anyone, and with just fantasizing about being with the game and anime characters you love, and if you’re happy with that alone, then that’s perfectly okay too~!!! There’s nothing inherently wrong with that.  It’s just that the very intense emotional attachment to idealisms of people that can’t form irl connections with you may become a problem -- mainly for you.  I don’t want you to be isolated from other people... 

I can’t speak as to whether or not a therapist is needed, or will help you, but I think having the opportunity to talk to someone about this in-depth may be helpful in general, just for daily life, and to lessen disappointment regarding other humans.  But, if the therapist suggests that you should have sex/enter a romantic relationship with someone you don’t want to, then remember that you can challenge that, and you have every right to say no.

As an additional, but important note, I don’t believe that your mom should be threatening to kick you out if you don’t see a therapist... I get that she’s probably trying to help you move forward in life, but threatening to take away the roof over your head is not a fair way to do that.  

I’m not a professional of any sort, so take what I say with a grain of salt: What I’d say to her (your mom) is p much what you told me... that you’re content with just being attracted to video game and anime characters, and that you don’t want to have a romantic/sexual relationship with other people.  

What I’d think about deeply on your own end, though (and this is also incredibly important) is why you don’t want to have anything to do with irl people at all... I know this is a total cliche thing to say (but it is true), humans are social creatures.  And while you can always be interested in game/anime characters, it’s good to be able to connect with people who you can spend in-person time with too.  Doesn’t ever have to be romantic, but it’s important to keep other people in your heart in some way -- stay connected.  Love humans for the flaws that don’t hurt you.  Keep love in your heart in general.  

And hey, when you’re able to balance your interest in game/anime characters with a decided interest in the lives of people you can interact with directly, you may be able to placate your mom by telling her that, and to gain a life that isn’t too focused in either direction -- but one that is healthy, and happy for you. 

Best of wishes, Anon~!!! And take care... let me know how things go, if you’re comfortable doing so!!! I’ll be in your corner, hoping for the most positive outcome for you!!!!