#sure transfems need positivity but so do transmascs and so do nonbinary people of either sex why dont you rb their positivity posts

[butch-bakugo]

If you are not Transmasc and identify as a "anti-transandrophobia truther" or otherwise don't think trans men face oppression or are even neutral on the topic. If you ignore transmysogny and think trans women all have a chance of committing crimes. If you lean really hard into the differences between transfems and Transmascs to such a degree you're starting to ironically (maybe even unironically) identify as a transandrophobe or transmysogynist then I have a request of you. Its really simple.

I ask that you go to your blog's search function and search, specifically, "transfem"/"trans woman" and "Transmasc"/"trans man". Or even more specifically "afab"/"cafab" and "amab"/"camab" or "TME"/"TMA" and I want you to grab a scrap of paper.

On that paper you gonna make two sections, one labeled transfem and one labeled Transmasc. Then under each, your gonna write, with alittle room in-between, a positive subsection and a negative subsection.

Then I want you to go down your blog and tally Every time a post that you agree with says something positive about one of those groups or says something negative about those groups.

I mean everything, if it's nessesary criticism or calling out a communal problem, you still mark it negative. If it's blind acceptance or acknowledging positive historical facts, you still mark it positive. Every instance you or someone you agreed with and reblogged said something positive or negative about either groups. If you've been here awhile, this might take awhile but I need you to do it.

If you notice, and your honest with your tallies, that you always talk shit about one of those groups or only ever praise the other, I need you to acknowledge that you have a bias and make those numbers fucking even.

I need you to look at that raw data of yourself and fix it. I need you to take a moment and say " wow, I really do only criticize X." And " wow, I only ever uplift Positivity about X". Look at your own raw data and fix it because wether or not you think you have a bias, you do. Wether or not you'd call yourself a transmysognist or a transandrophobe, you may be one subconsciously.

Regardless of your feelings about either, your numbers should be even because if they arnt, you are the divide in the trans community. You are the one ripping it apart. You are the one trying to pick and choose who should be Included and uplifted and who should be thrown to the transphobes. You should be uplifting Transmascs just as much as you uplift transfems. You should be acknowledging transmysogny just as much as you acknowledge run of the mill transphobia. You should be acknowledging all of our own, not separating them to make yourself feel better about being one or the other and justify your assumptions about one or the other.

You are justified in calling out issues, including entire communities just as they are justified in doing the same towards yours. You should be talking about the amazing historical significance of both. You should be acknowledging the good and the bad.

You may not be transphobic for having that fundamental imbalance, but you will be a transphobe if you see and choose not to do a damn thing about it. Sure, only a mild-stalker would be able to confirm your numbers but you will know them and you will feel guilty over it and you should be ashamed that should you find you praise one group more than the other and constantly criticize one group while ignoring the other's active problems, you choose to not right your path. You choose to ignore that problem. You are not trans-positive, you are transphobic, just with one or two exceptions.

Check yourself because you shouldnt have to knowingly make victims before you knowingly make allies.

[velvetvexations]

Honestly the whole "cringe queer identity VS Cool Real Edgy queer identity" has been going on for a while and it's extremely annoying. It's always the same concept too.

It was the same during ace discourse. It's now seen as somewhat tasteless to openly and proudly make random hateful comments about ace people, but you can still frequently see people make these kind of "jokes" where ace people are the stand-in for some sort of "annoying", naive person unlike the real queers who go to the club and take drugs and fuck and have real problems in the real world. The whole "Steven Universe queer VS Ketamine queer" type of comments.

There seems to be a whole subset of the queer community who clearly has a superiority complex and feels the need to see themselves as the edgy, cool queer people, mocking some other group that they see as childish, whiny losers who don't truly understand queerness (unlike them, the True Enlightened scoffing at these pathetic pale imitations).

Transmascs and nonbinary people AFAB (or those perceived to be) are often a target of this. This is how you get all the "trender" discourse. This is how you get a million different frameworks trying to define a subgroup of trans people as The Real Oppressed and stereotype another group as the Whiny Annoying Ones Who Don't Understand Oppression. It's also how, for example, you get people complaining that forcemasc is a cringy copy of forcefem (with forcefem being positioned as a kink for the Enlightened), that transmascs make cringy music unlike transfems who make cool music, and so on.

It's not even just within the trans community either. Another example of this mentality : the stereotype of the "toothpaste flag" or the achillean flag (or even using words like "achillean" or "MLM") as markers of being some sort of naive, childish UwU blue haired transmasc (the stereotypical "cringe person") who doesn't Truly Understand the gay label and probably spends all their time squealing about their cartoon character ships, unlike Real Gay Men, who would never behave like that as they are busy hooking up, doing drugs and being hatecrimed IRL (the Cool Person faces real oppression and does Cool Adult Things that would surely shock the innocent sheltered cringe person naively trying to imitate the Real Queers).

[I'm not mentioning stuff about hookups and drugs because I have a problem with these (perfectly fine things to do lmao), but because the queers with a superiority complex will definitely judge others based on their expression of sexuality for not being "subversive enough" (see: the forcemasc complaints, ace discourse, anything about "bi women with a boyfriend / who only date men"...) and pride themselves because their own sexuality is more "cool", "real", "truly queer" than the one of Cringy Losers. And they will often bring up that stuff to more or less subtly imply they're the Real Queers, because apparently the Cringe Identities wouldn't do these things (and if the Cringe People did, they wouldn't do it the Right Way so it wouldn't be as cool, edgy or morally right as when they do it, of course).]

It's hilarious when you can tell how insecure they are in their position as the Real Queers, e.g. "no trans woman is binary in a way that counts."

[silliest-heartaches]

Ohh my god DRINKKK!! Dude I love them sooo muchhh. I just love imagining them being head over heels for each other yet constantly denying their feelings, because of how they view themselves, yet still finding comfort and solace with each other. They are so. YES. PERFECT. AUGH.

SHARE MORE ABOUT THEM PLEASE!!!

And I love how you use they/them for Ink and she/her for Dream!!

GOD YEAH I LIKE THEM SO INCREDIBLY MUCH... tbh the main reason i started liking them was bc i was thinking abt them and how doomed yuri coded they were and. The worms Wormed in from there,,,,

I actually use he/they and she/they for ink and dream respectively but!!!!!! I love all hcs and interpretations of them for REAL. nonbinary people who are gay as fuck for real,, very inherrently queer ship regardless of how u see either of them i think...heart seeing them as t4t transmasc and transfem forever personally though so thats what i see em as hehe,, also in my head theyre both aroacespec (though the specifc kind varies from au to au though i do consistently see ink as ace and dream as demiaro :>>)

Im not sure how long these will be so...hcs under the cut lol

- okay well while in my mind while error is technically the First Entity ink sees that isnt just a normal entity, dream is like their First. Friend. you know. Like when error first saw him he was screaming and crying for the hills bc it was also his first time seeing another outcode so. that reaction BUT with dream she was more filled with gentle confusion... this is a bit after she unstoned in the apple incident but still was new to au hopping and naive to most danger so they became friends!!! Questionably so.

-to elaborate, when they first meet dream is still stuck on the ideals of toxic positivity and pushing through hardship no matter what... i think this is something they eventually grow out of and dream will eventually learn to see the need for balance eventually but one of their first disputes happens when ink is running low on ink and most of whats left are the Negative Emotions within him alongside the especially strong panic that he usually feels when they get like this... dream would try to comfort him and try to say that itll work out in the end no matter what and that they just need to push through and that itll be okay like normal comforting words because dream is an empath and can sense feelings right,,i feel like its comforting in some cases but when things get Really Bad and especially when the main reserves of feelings that ink has are Negative, they heavily override his normal sense of self and i imagine they get a lot more. Snappy.... theres also the additional hc thingy of ink also really overexaggerating his feelings and overplaying them a lot for the sake of trying to feel more intensely (doesnt work, just drains him faster and will never truly feel natural to him...personally think that ink feels a lot of disconnect from his feelings) which could be considerably offputting to dream (though before adding swap to the group she thought it wass normal because she had only seen the fake pretend nice joy of the village influenced by her aura and not Genuine Feelings)

I think eventually through the years they would learn a lot from eachother...like with ink learning to be more naturally charismatic and dream learning to see past toxic positivity and have his perception on emotions change for the better (ie in learning that having different emotions are okay, so long as there is a balance)

id do alot more hcs but tbh what it boils down to is: toxic codependent yuri. intensely up and down relationship where theres an insane amount of love and attachment but also a lack of self from the both of them because they are only able to see themselves as a Thing to the other. Also exes who turned out to be besties. Thry got together and broke up wayyy before blue (they casually tell him stories about it and for the parts that he does know about he is horrified for.) Oh and they share hobbies and do parallel play alot. dream is more music oriented and can play the cello and flute. ink can play the ukelele but hes more familiar with drawing and painting duh. Also they have a garden. they love growing flowers but their favourites are sunflowers. Also have writing sessions together. Also may/may not also have beautiful princess disorder. (The both of them)

im so sorry this is so incoherrent but erm. yeah im very normal abt them (half of this stuff comes from oc projection the other half is like. Mental illness while in the shower tbh)