#super srry if this a bad explanation :’)

[xxyamaxx]

HEAR ME OUT..

Them as the sapphic couple ✨✨

[fazbearedits]

Fop:anw musical episode idea (TW for me yapping/hj)

So I have been cooking with this idea for a while based off the of phantom of the theme park episode from dead end paranormal park (because that episode is a certified banger) and due to the fact that the show has had a musical number before (new yorkity york) so have my idea now. This would be a special instead of an episode bc there would be ALOT of songs, so they would take over most of the time of a normal episode. Alright let’s begin.

Basically for the plot, hazel would be going through a musical phase after being taken to see a musical by her parents and she’s singing musical songs 24/7, in class, at home, in public etc. Hazel would accidentally make one of those “accidental sleepy wishes” where she wishes that her life was a musical, Cosmo and Wanda not realizing she was simply sleepy saying that as they would be half asleep themselves, grants the wish. So when Hazel wakes up the next day, she’s immediately awoken to a song by her parents and is extremely confused. After a quick explanation from Cosmo and Wanda, before Hazel goes to school, they consult the music fairy who says that unfortunately, Cosmo, Wanda or herself can’t undo the wish. Luckily thanks to the help of Nick of time, she and the music fairy are able to shorten the wish to one day, so Hazel has to live the day in a musical. At first she thinks it will be fine, but she’s quickly proven wrong. As she walks into school she’s immediately subjected to a musical number from her classmates and teachers (even featuring her principal). Every little event that happens sets off an elaborate musical number, Hazel can handle it at first until she eventually is driven crazy by the constant musical numbers that she’s forced to be subjected to and be a part of because she was the one that granted the wish, so she simply can’t walk off as she would just be followed by her singing classmates. The Whole day would basically be hell for Hazel but she has an idea, she asks Cosmo and Wanda if they can go to fairy world since she thinks the fairies wouldn’t be affected by the wish. She was wrong, they arrive in fairy world only to be greeted by a huge musical number by fairies which Hazel is furious about. They would be scolded by Jorgen (in musical form of course) about because of the constant musical numbers, it’s interrupting wish making which obviously is bad due to the fact that it could lead to magical backup. The three of them (Cosmo, Wanda and Hazel) try to find peri to see if he’s been affected by the wish, to none of their surprise, he has (he would have a huge upbeat jazzy musical number because I said so). He accompanies them in their quest to figure out how to stop this, Luckily, Nick of time, the music fairy and accompanied with them sci (the science fairy) have been able to come up with a solution. If they trigger multiple songs at once, they’ll be able to overload the wish and cancel it out, which will stop the wish. After doing everything they need to do (setting up events that will trigger multiple songs at once) and they get to work. Their plan works! The amount of songs at once overwhelm the wish so much that it completely breaks. And the wish is broken! And after that, Hazel is sick of musicals for a while. That’s it!

The amount of songs I’ve imagined that would be sung

-A wake up/intro song by hazel’s parents (ft Cosmo, Wanda, Hazel, music fairy and Nick of time)

-A huge bombastic musical number by the staff and students of hazel’s school

-A song sung in Hazel’s classroom while they’re learning

-A song in hazel’s cafeteria about lunch

-A song sung by the fairies of fairy world (ft Cosmo, Wanda, Hazel and Jorgen)

-A musical number sung by peri (ft Cosmo, Wanda and Hazel)

-A super huge song amalgamation of multiple songs at once (the song that breaks the wish)

That’s it, srry I yapped sm lol

[luvuwite]

i was wondering, if it isn’t personal, can you share a bit of experience about being gender apathetic?

i’ve been interested in that label ever since i learned about it but i can’t find a whole lot of information about it besides the same simple explanations but not rlly anything else. since none of my questions could really be answered by reading about it. to put it short, i at least want to test that label out for myself but idk if it’s actually me since there’s a lot that i don’t know, like personal experiences and stuff. i even tried looking for tests online but they don’t exist T-T

one of the things i’ve personally been wondering the most is, is it valid to identify as gender apathetic if idm people viewing me as any gender, but i still view myself as a specific gender and have preferred pronouns? like i said i’ve tried to research abt this but i can’t find much TT

if you do answer this, i feel like pretty much anything would at least be a bit helpful (?)

thank u for taking the time to read this if you did!

(srry if there are any typos or anything, i’m in a bit of a distracted state of mind lmao)

OH NO NOT AT ALL :D i would love to (try) and explain it!

for me, i grew up pretty standard and satisfied with my gender identity which is a privilege not many people can get, i didn’t mind my gender and i didn’t mind being viewed as the other gender as well

this mostly came out as a realization i wasss a little different? is the best way i can say it? was when my family members would give me a major side eye in some of the gender neutral or masculine stuff i would wear (since yk i’m a GIRL) have it be as simple as a baggy sweater to me wanting to wear a tuxedo

i kinda grew up not understanding what the big deal was about gender identity, NOT IN A BAD WAY but in a way of why it was so serious to my family members that i’d wear “girly clothes” or wear something more “girly” when i generally just liked all clothing!!

eventually somewhere in 2020 i was with some old friends and suddenly a screenshot came up of the definition for “gender apathetic”, and i read it and i was suddenly really like. shocked of how much it literally resembled me HAHA i looked more into it and found out oh cool! i’m gender apathetic! and honestly it was as simple as that and i’ve been using the term since

that’s kinda the past of how my gender identity went, to how it is now, i’m honestly just really chill with people using any pronouns with me because i really don’t care much of my gender identity and i love the fact that i can still be seen as one pronoun than the other to some people! like i know i’m a girl, and i know the main majority of people refer to me as a girl, and that’s super chill ! but sometimes when someone calls me a guy i’m like oh that’s super cool too! and etcetc

my girlfriend sometimes refers to me as her boyfriend, and that makes my heart go WOOHOM WAHHHH but it wouldn’t mean any less to me if she referred to me as her partner/girlfriend either!

hopefully this helps :) let me know if i can help with anything else or can elaborate more!

[generallybarzy]

ok soft night!! I’m so excited. What are your thoughts on being super upset about a bad day after work or something and mat finding out when you have a short message back and he shows up at your house with coffee and flowers and y’all watch tv and just ugh I think he would be the best bf

yes yes YES he gives off immense “literally ideal bf” vibes

mat always texts you at the end of your workday, and you usually reply with hearts and smiley faces and promise to come over to his place

but today there’s none of that

“hey beautiful!! how was your day? :)”

“it sucked” there was nothing else, no explanation or a detailed summary of what made it suck 

“ :( aww, are you coming over?”

“might just go home srry.” 

mat’s heart is breaking because he knows that you only get like this after a particularly rough day and he’s not gonna stand for it

you’d only changed out of your work clothes and gotten comfy on the couch when you heard a knock at the door and groan when you get to your feet again. when you open it, there he is

mat is standing there with a bag of your favorite take-out and a whole bunch of flowers, a smile on his face “hey baby. rough day?”

and you tear up right there

he quickly drops the bags and flowers on the kitchen counter and pulls you into his arms, letting you cry out all your frustrations

“i love you mat. oh my god i love you so so much”

“i love you too. lets go lay down and watch something cute, okay?” 

he takes such good care of you: letting you vent and listening so intensely and offering advice if you want and cracking jokes and making faces to get you to smile, and just cuddling the shit out of you and kissing you and telling you how much he loves you all night.

[shoelaces-comic]

i'm curious how you are able to put your emotions into pictures like you do. i try but it's so difficult for me. i've made a few, but they never come across right. at the end of yours, there's always a kind of twist (not the right word but it's the best i can think of) that hits me. even with my own life experiences, it still doesn't get the feeling across like how i feel it when i remember. (it's fine if you don't want to answer, either way i really like your comics!)

aaa ty so much!!!! im srry cuz i dont have the best advice w this?? i dont rlly have a defined process for making my comics, a lot of times i just come up w an idea and sketch it out and if i like it i ink it fjkldjkds

lately whenever ive been feeling rlly down its been kinda a coping mechanism to channel those feelings into coming up w a comic to go w it ya know? so if im feeling bad i brainstorm ways to represent those feelings w some kind of drawing. i usually only can fit like a half a sentence to a sentence in a single frame so i also think about what i want to say or convey w the comic & break it down into more simple phrases 

so for example i had the idea for making a comic abt the therapy issue bc i was thinking abt it a lot lately. the first 2 frames were meant to kinda set the stage for the comic by providing background, then the 3rd was kinda an explanation of why i had a bad experience w therapy, and finally the 4th was the real reason i dont wanna go back. its like telling a story so ya gotta think abt what u wanna say in a limited space - and bc of that the last panel is usually rlly important since its the last thing ur audience reads & what will stick w them most!! 

p much for me i try to build a basic structure for the comic by writing out the little “script” that goes in the boxes, then i go in an draw what will go for it. making multiple drafts or trying out different ideas can be super helpful too just too get a feel for how the comic will read!!! i have a few rough drafts that i havent posted just cuz i felt like i could have said something or drawn something better 

im srry im not the most helpful w this kind of stuff but i wish u the best of luck!! have a great day

[whutisthat]

Hidden Klance moments pt.1

So, we all are disappointed for the lack of promised content in this new season. They promised us LGBT representation, ‘project kuron’ explanation, diplomat hunk, team bonding, Lance falling in love ecc and we got almost nothing. I honestly enjoyed the season anyway, partly because i know i can’t expect so much in six 25-minutes-long episodes from a family show, mostly because I loved Pidge’s arch, Matt is finally found, Lotor is such a complex and enjoyable character, Lance and Allura interaction at the very end .... I can go on, I swear. 

But let’s talk about Keith and Lance. Since i love my boy Lance so much, I observed him really closely, and since I’m a complete slut for Klance because pf the relationship development between him and Keith in season 3, I decided to look for some hint that could possibly lead us to think that there is really something going on between the two (even if it’s just friendship). 

It’ actually longer than I espected so I’m going to hide the following part!

We know that the two didn’t get a real interaction, but I am sure that the authors didn’t really forget about them.  Maybe this is just wishful thinking, but the information disclosed about them at the panel, really are a game changer.  So there must be something going on somewhere. 

Let’s start with Lance:

I don’t know about you but during the first and the third episode (which are the only one where he interacts directely or indirectely with Keith) he seemed to be very depressed. He was often portraied with two little bag under his eyes.

Like this. All those occation, I noticed, involved Keith. At the beginning, I thought it was just to make him look angrier, in fact he is talking about his absence during the parade (srry I couldn’t find a subbed version bcs Netflix doesn,’t broadcast Voltron in my country).  But the bags never appeared on noone else. 

Look at this photo of Pidge. The expression is the same, but she doesn’t look so tired. She is angry at Keith as well, she is litterally saying: “Keith is gone!”, althought we can’t read concern on her face. 

I’m positive we can say that Lance is both mad and concerned for Keith. Of course he is mad because he recognize Keith as their new leader so it hurts seeing him neglecting his former team, Voltron. But he is also concerned about Keith because he knows how much he is suffering and struggling to be the leader. The mixture of these two emotions is making Lance pretty sad.  

This screenshot really hurts.  I’m sure noone in the team really blames Keith for his behaviour (not even Allura, who is always the most reluctant about him because of his heritage), but Lance is the only one that seem to be trying and undertand him. So why didn’t we get a real explicit prove of this fact? During the last season Lance really tried to talk with Keith and show him how worthy to be the leader he was. But now that Shiro appeared again, Keith is too fragile and unsecure, and Lance knows that whatever he says or demontrates to Keith would be useless. We also know that he is not so full of self esteem, and I am sure that he think that he can’t stand a chance to Shiro, when it comes to Keith. That’s why he can’t try and fisically stop Keith from taking bad decision, or can’t lecture him like Shiro or Allura do.

I think this is the frame that proves my point the best. This was the point in the episode when everything turns out right: Keith is forgiven by his team and they allow him to take part of that long mission with the bom, now that shiro is finally able to fly the black lion again.  Let’s focus on the team’s different reactions:

Hunk/Coran/Pidge: for the sake of comedy they are ugly crying. They care about Keith and obviously don’t want him to part, but their character never shared something different or more special with Keith if not companionship. That’s why their reaction is the most obvious and uniportant ( speaking of this matter).

Allura: she looks genuinely pleased with Keith decision, and I know she is. she also speaks of how proud is of Keith ( space mum confirmed). I honestly think in this season the relatinship between them hits a turning point. Matter of fact she is the only one that tries to lecture Keith, in a positive way (not to scold him like shiro seems to do). 

Shiro: I don’t know about you but he seems the happiest about the decision. That startled me bacause I honestly thought that he would have been the hardest to convince. I don’t think is coincidence that he agrees to Keith parting just right after he can fly the black lion. I think I will analyse deeper about his character in another post because there is something about him I can’t really put my finger on. 

Lance: Lance, my boy, light of my days.... why do you look like a kicked puppy trying to deny the fact that he is in pain??? 

You’re not fooling anyone trying to lighten the mood.... “who am I gonna make fun of?”.... I can see the bag under your eyes, AGAIN. I don’t think he wants Keith to join that mission. I think he partly feel guilty because he had stolen red from Keith.  He is not just going to miss Keith like everyone else .He can feel Keith hidden sadness and concern, and that’s how author decided to show this fact. They BONDED, of course they share feelings!! I can’t use photoshop but I am sure that if I could erase those bags, he would have totally looked 100% happier. Those signs had been porpusely drawn. 

That’s all for episode one. Let’s talk about episode 3. 

I know there is not a proper direct or indirect interaction, but my delusional ass wanted to read in Lance’s behaviour something more. 

This is the episode of the iconic “milking moment” (can it be considered as a pun ??? how funny of me,,,). I noticed something was off with Lance. He literally locked himself in a dark room playing a video game he didn’t really wanted to buy this much (it was Pidge who insisted to find the money in the fontain in order to afford the game). 

I am not a gamer, but I don’t think it’s healty to bury yourself in a dark room, sit on a unconfortable metal floor and play until you hate yourself. Perhaps is super normal, but it’s defenitely not Lance. We know how much this boy likes to spoil himself. But we also know how much he can be self-destructive (not literally! I’m not talking about the suicidal/self-armer fanon Lance), in an “emotional” way. Let’s be honest, I think of himself like a seven wheel and struggle to find a place in the team. Actually it’s seems normal for someone like him to engage unhalty activity.I know this analisy seems kinda rushed, but what’s coming it’s suspicious as well: 

Coran and Allura asked him for help to get the milkshake. ALLURA asked him something. ALLURA, HIS CRUSH, CONSIDERED HIM THE RIGHT PERSON FOR A JOB. Let’s be real here. He would have been head over heels for something like that. At least he would have tried to flirt with her. We both know he never loose a chance to brag about himself. Normal Lance would have positively pulled off some pick up line like: “Everything for you, my princess. You know what they say about me? that my milkshake brings all the girl to the the yard.” That would have been gold (expecially altean reaction). BUT NO. Lance seems quite annoyed by the request honestely. And we know what that means. He is still not over the fact that Keith left. 

I’m sure that’s enough material for one post. I’m not really used to analyse character, and i know that we can’t pretend to be right about our judgement. But if this can help to reconsider some aspects of fourth season, that would be awsome!

I’m going to analyse Keith second, god bless, that he had 1 min and a half screentime so it won’t be an hard job lol 

[6ad6ro]

an explanation post and small update about that thing that recently happened with that one ex friend. just fyi, this is very long:

first, some backstory. i have an issue where i often end up staying in abusive relationships (friends/family/dating) for way too long for various reasons. that said, this friend. they were always problematic. they would continue aggressively making passes at me even tho i rejected them constantly. like really gross passes that reminded me of why i “hate (stereotypical) men”. bc it was real bro-style creeping. hitting on me incessantly. always hanging all over me and making any excuse to have physical contact. making gross innuendo “jokes” that went too far just… always. at one point they licked my ear when we were taking a photo together. etc.

now i confronted them on this many times. asked them to tone it down. explained how uncomfortable and stressed they made me. told them “i’m sorry but i just don’t feel that way and i wanna be friends” like god SO often. my sister (used to be friends w them too) even would sit and we’d try to explain to them why they needed to stop.

but of course, they’d always reply to this with extreme defensiveness. say i was just over thinking it. that this is just who they were. that they joke with ALL their friends this way (sidenote i’ve seen how squeamish they can make their other friends). that “maybe i should rethink my standards for what is okay and not okay”. would even accuse me of being paranoid and “gaslighting” them. even when it got better, they were always making little jokes like “oh srry i wanted to pat you on the back but idk if you’ll get mad at me” like they really wanted to let me know i was in the wrong. and beyond that, they always seemed to be like actively trying to find new avenues of hitting on me.

and that was just the personal space issues. they’d also like rage at games when we played together? like slamming my controller to the floor when they lost. being overly competitive. being rude to my other friends if they were “holding them back” in a game. they’d actually criticize people who didn’t agree with how they wanted to play as being “unskilled” and “not real gamers”. and if you ever were beating them, they’d be all angry and say stuff like you were being “ cheap”. any mistake they made in a game was “people cheating”. but any time they did well (including purposeful exploiting), it was a boast worthy achievement. trashtalk all day but only they were allowed to do it.

it was weird too bc TBH THEY AREN’T EVEN ALL THAT GOOD. like overall, i’d almost always beat them. my sister too. they were mediocre at best. but of course… they’d literally make statements like “i almost always beat you” and “i usually win” when it was just… such a rare occurrence. its just… when it came to trying to have a fun play session with people, they put the game and winning above… you know… having fun w the rest of us? and sidenote they were always SUPER picky about what game we played. and when it came to options like “what guns to use” or “what stage to play”… you know how often people take turns so everyone is happy? on their turn, they’d get respect. but on everyone elses turn, they’d always like… fuck around and change options back to theirs and like revert stuff and just…

not that age matters but did i mention they were 27. i mean idk i only bring it up bc they reminded me so much of a little kid like esp about videogames. but there were a lot of other issues with them too. but i’ll just bring up the last big one. they… morally/politically? they tended to be in a cool direction in general. v “supports human rights overall” kinda person. but… they were the type who were idk v quick to judge? they would make extreme judgement calls with no information. they’d always end up fixated on conspiracies rather than perceiving things with moderation. people can think what they want imo, but the issue here is how they needed anyone close to them to agree with them too? 

example: one time i was driving w them in an area that had very little shops and it was late and i had forgotten to pick up a gift for someone we were meeting. just a small thing to thank them for a favor. the ONLY store open and around was walmart. yes fine walmart sucks but  idk i needed a gift. i mentioned i was gonna stop by there and they were like “no not walmart”. and i’m like “yeah i know lol” and they were like “no seriously we cant go in there”. long story they refused to go in, wouldn’t wait in the car, and made it out like if i went in that there would be a big problem. i ended up showing up to the person empty handed and it sucked. another time just recently i was gonna get some lays potato chips and they were like “ew no you can’t buy anything from the cocacola company” and like shamed me and walked off so i couldn’t get them. idk this kinda stuff happens all the time tbh? but it doesn’t stop at just like pretentious annoyance. they’d go HARD with political opinions too and if you disagreed w them they’d HATE you. not just internet forums or strangers. but friends. one time my sister (who for the sake of the story is pan and leaning towards non-binary) disagreed with them when they made a sweeping statement on fb about how some specific thing made everyone “transphobic”. anyways when my sister tried to discuss it with them they literally sicked their friends on her and insulted and browbeat her until she just had to leave. she got stressed at the end and yelled back finally and then they sent her a pm like “i’m really disappointed in you. i’ll be waiting for an apology when you’re ready to give it”. lol long story short my sis dropped them at that point. as she put it “i thought highschool was over”. she was already super mad at them for how they were treating me sexually anyhow tho like... srry but i guess one of my points is my sister is like one of the coolest, nicest, best people i know. she never drops people. but she dropped THEM. over the years i’ve asked them why they go from 0 to 11 so fast and why they don’t... idk... “lead” people into agreeing with them rather than angrily and violently just immediately demanding it? and as they put it “people with strong opinions will never change so don’t bother with them” and “i act how i do as an example to others of how to be a good person”. but god i guess just recently i came to realize that they were just... i don’t think they cared about other people. they just wanted to protect THEMSELVES above all else? they wanted a reason to judge people. it was all an excuse for them to feel self-righteous and act entitled and superior. oops i forgot to mention that they’re pan and gender-neutral as well? maybe they identify as trans but idk. the only reason i mention it is bc they definitely use it as a way to shame people and feel superior. i know it’s easy to be sensitive about that stuff considering, but they go above and beyond. and it’s weird that they’re all about human rights and w/e bc GOD they’re so gross sexually and... srry another example. so they’re a furry. totally fine imo. but one day we were walking around a downtown area with a lot of bars late at night and they were wearing fox ears/tail and bein themselves nbd. but we passed by a “drunkbus” right as cookie-cutter bros spilled out of it. one of them was like “hey i didn’t know the furry convention was in town” and i immediately got super angry and turned to say something. but then i looked to see my friend had just continued to walk away? i took a breath and walked back to them and was like “i’m so sorry like do you want me to say something?” and they were like “it’s okay some day i’ll fuck them until they like it” or “until i turn them” or god idk i think they maybe even used the term “rape”... alarm bells tbh. blahh i won’t go into any more details but lets just say how they act and how they say a person SHOULD act is a dictionary definition of hypocrisy. well anyways, i guess my point i wanted to make with this backstory is, as i’ve finally come to realize... they’re an immature, self-righteous, spoiled person with a pretty distinct martyr complex. and they’re kinda rapey. they always used to complain about all this drama they had and how awful everyone was to them... and it always sounded like “really bad luck”? but i realize now that they were just a tornado of selfishness with like no emotional control and they couldn’t keep friends for too long before it just had to end in a big flaming ball. sorry like i should point out i know they’re obv full of mental illness... but i don’t think they really go to therapy or seek help for any of it? like so many of us on here are pretty messed up but we do our best? this person is not doing their best. they clearly feel the world should change before they do. anyways anyways anyways. this friendship lasted for idk 2 years? 3? it was weird that i didn’t notice my own reactions as warning signs. like when i don’t know someone too well or am having issues... i’ll often bring another friend to hangouts as a sort of buffer. maybe uncool, but it helps. usually this only lasts for like one or two hangouts. but with this ex friend, it lasted the entire period. whenever i tried to hang out w them alone, a much bigger incident would always happen, and i’d go back to square one. but okay. the actual story of the incident: so i was always trying to get them to hang out with me and another friend bc i felt like we all had v similar hobbies, and this past tuesday it finally happened. we all hung out at other friend’s place and played games and ate food and outside of exfriend’s usual little issues, it went really well. at some point it was mentioned that sonic mania released that day. it was something we had all been very excited about, but we already had plans that day and some of us (me) didn’t want to experience the game the first time in a distracted social environment. but i mentioned “ugh i have a doc appointment early tomorrow but i’ll still dl it right when i get home. i better not play it tho lol weh”! when they heard i was buying it, they were like “oh man you gotta let me come over and try it”. i knew they were a big fan of the guy who made it and a huge sonic fan, but also that they had just lost their job and money was tight (i had to buy their food that day). i had a feeling they’d morally be against pirating it temporarily until they could afford it. so idk i was like “hey listen as long as we only play like the first act each, i could take you to my place before i drive you home. but only if you’re okay with being v quick bc i have dr in the morning”. sidenote they refuse to drive and don’t use a bike so hanging out with them always involved carting them around. and no before they lost their job (v recently), they coulda def afforded it. they literally were constantly buying insanely expensive collectibles like think of the most expensive gaming stuff you can and they prob have it. sealed panzer dragoon saga. vectrex with every game. fami twin with working disc system parts. ique with most games loaded. mint physical laserdisc copy (beta?) of dragons lair from the arcade machine. whatever. my point is they spent all their money on toys instaid of bettering themselves. we all do it but they took it to an extreme. one other thing... they only would communicate over their parent’s lan line phone and over facebook. they refused to have a cellphone. back to story. they excitedly agreed to my conditions and we went back to my place and installed the game. i started playing and god it was amazing (obv)! i got to the end of act 1 in a couple of minutes and was like “okay i should rly quit and hand it to you” but they were like “no no finish the zone” and tbh it was so good i agreed. so i played until i beat the boss and then i was like “okay i can’t go further” and quit and then handed it to them. i think the whole zone took me like... 5 minutes? this is when it started getting weird. i noticed my gf had called and like idk she was a bit worried bc i normally call her after i get home from my other friend’s place (we hang every tuesday like clockwork) and it had gotten really late but i forgot to let her know. it was really sweet and i didn’t want her to worry so i was like “hey uh shoot do you mind if i call her?” and tbh they were like already so absorbed in playing the game they weren’t even paying attention to me. but i had given them the rly comfy chair but it blocked the exit to the room. i couldn’t even squeeze by unless they moved first. so i started like asking them ‘hey uh do you mind pausing and moving so i could get by?”... nothing. again i asked. ignored. this went on for like idk 30 sec? a minute? until i finally was like hovering my finger over to hit the pause button like “can you please just pause so i can leave” like... and only then did they finally say “well fine but i don’t even know how to pause”. let me take the time to point out that they are prob the most techy person i know. esp about old game systems. they build flashcarts and repair ancient consoles and solder and mod and they worked the past 4(?) years at a legit retro game store. and they were amazing to begin with. it’s a small thing, but they coulda figured out how to pause a switch. they’d played one many times before too. so finally i have them pause it. and i’m like still standing there for 30 sec or so and they still aren’t budging? and i’m like “you uhh gotta get up so i can get by the chair is blocking me”. they continue to idk ignore??? i finally have to literally pick up the chair WITH them still in it and move it aside. only then could i pass. idk but i didn’t get angry or anything bc i was just relieved to finally get by. as i walked out of the room i mentioned to them “hey if i take too long just keep playing obv but when i walk in please pause it and quit immediately so i don’t see later level content plz” (i’m a big baby and have been avoiding all details for so long and was looking forward to the surprise lol). and they were like “okay” or something. i went out to my car and talked w my gf for god idk 15 or 20 min? i didn’t want to talk that long but she was going to bed soon and was a bit down/ill and i still wanted to talk to her and idk i knew worst case my one friend would love the extra time to play. and i felt like if i stayed out that long i could go in to a very satisfied friend, you know? so i get off the phone and head inside. i enter the room and am like “okay i’m back plz pause it like we gotta go”! ignored. i ask again kinda lol trying to plug my ears and not look. ignored. at that point i notice the same song from the first zone is playing and i look over and it is in fact the same level and i’m like ??? “wait how are you still on the first level??” and they were like “oh i’m completing all of the special stages”. the first thought i had was like oh wow cool they really wanted to stick to my initial request of only playing the first zone? unnecessary but v nice of them! i guess i was really reaching for an explanation lol... so whatever they still are playing so i sit down next to them and am watching them play for another minute or so. i was about to say something bc they still weren’t stopping but then i notice how close they are to the boss and am like “oh okay cool you’re p much to the boss so you’ll be done super quick”. they keep playing. at that point i notice they’;re like... taking sonic up and around the level kinda in circles? and backtracking? like? it’s really weird and i’m like “wait what are you doing” and they’re like “trying to get rings to complete the special stages”... so i’m like “uhh sorry tbh but i’m already way past when i wanted to go to bed is there any way you can just... go to the boss”?? and they’re still doing their thing and ignoring me and so i speak up again like “cmon like i’m really sorry but this doctors appointment is an obligation and i really need to get to bed”. and at that point they pause the game. stand up angrily. kinda fling the controller so it hits the table and falls onto the hard floor. they start kinda flailing their arms angrily and say in this really sour tone “oh im sorry i just thought you were gonna idk let me PLAY the GAME”??? i start replying like “listen i’m sorry i just like i don’t have a choice in the matter like i have to go to bed like you had like 3 times as much time as i did and idk maybe you can take the switch into the car or something idk??” and they just kinda angrily say “whatever whatever just stop yelling at me”. btw i’m not yelling. i’m definitely definitely not yelling. i’m not even angry. calm. nice. confused at best? and this isn’t one of those things where it’s like “im not yelling bc when i yell you really KNOW it”... i just wasn’t yelling by anyone’s terms. at that point i’m like “listen i’m sorry i just don’t know why this is becoming such an issue like idk maybe you can wear headphones in the car and keep playing later levels or...” and that’s when they’re like “it doesn’t matter just STOP yelling at me”. and the chair is in the way of the exit and needs to be like lifted and moved so we can leave. but at that point they take their foot and just KICK the chair across the room. at that point i’m kinda like “listen i’m sorry if i have a tone in my voice or am hurting your feelings but tbh it’s kinda hard to remain perfectly calm when you’re sorta throwing a temper tantrum and..” and that’s when they shouted as loud as they could “OKAY NOPE UH UH BYEEE” and swung open the door and ran through the house to the exit door. i’m trying to call after them like “shit i’m really sorry but i don’t have time to chase after you i gotta go to bed please can i just take you home like if you leave i gotta just let you and go to bed” and they ignore me and run outside. it’s like 2am at this point btw. i kinda go outside to check if they’re standing there cooling down but no. long gone. ran down the street i think. so i go back inside. turn the light out. and lock the door. i just dont have time to deal with this. i want to but i can’t. but i sit there for a few minutes. and... (maybe) the mentally ill/abused side of me is like “well you COULD go look for them and try to calm them down and drive them home and it wouldn’t take THAT much longer than you were gonna already spend driving them, right? worst case if you don’t find them you can just go home and go to bed”. and so i head outside.as i enter my car tho, i get this weird gut awful feeling of deja vu? i realise pretty quickly that this scenario was pretty similar to the ones i had pretty regularly with my one really bad ex gf. the one who was a manipulative sociopath that used me and cheated on me and also had no emotional control etc etc etc lol? and idk i was surprised bc... i thought that this part of my life had been over. but still... the dumb side of my brain ignored that and carried on. i drove along the path i assumed they walked, thinking maybe they woulda taken the time to calm down. after a bit i finally caught up to them. i pulled up slowly and kinda called out like “hey i’m really sorry like i never wanted it to go down that way like you’re my friend like let me take you home i’m really sorry”. they ignored me for a bit and kept doing that angry car walk thing as i had to slowly follow behind and continue apologizing. finally they stopped and came to the window. they were like “listen you can’t talk to me like that and abuse me like that like what you did was so awful and bullying and ..” and went on like that for a min. and i was like “listen i’m sorry and i know me using that one word in particular must have really set you off but idk..” like trying to explain to them why i said “temper tantrum” (BC THATS WHAT THEY FUCKING HAD BTW THATS WHAT IT GD WAS) but i was trying to be nice about it? so i continued on “well i mean the reason i said that was okay like i know you were agitated but you kinda like tossed my controller haphazardly and it hit the floor and yeah i’m sure it was an accident...” and at that point they stuck their head inside the window like super close to my face and shouted as loud and angrily and full of spittle as they fucking could “WELL MAYBE IT WAS A FUCKING ACCIDENT THEN”!!!! i’m like... idk... adrenaline just dumps into my body. i’m giving this person so so so many chances tonight. being so nice. and this is a problematic friend to begin with. and they’re shouting in my face like this as i try to apologize to them so i can drive them home after they ran off. but i’m a pacifist and i try to avoid conflict. but still... i’m like, probably quietly, “you... you can’t just yell at me like that. you aren’t allowed to yell at me like that.” and they open their mouth and start shouting more. and that’s when i shout back “I WON’T LET YOU SHOUT AT ME LIKE THAT”!!! idk if it scared them or what like i know i’m pretty booming and alarming when i shout idk but regardless they yanked their head out of the window and backed away from the car and i split second checked they were clear and i just floored it. but... i quickly slammed on the breaks. took a breath. decided i didn’t want it to be like this (do you see how stupid/messed up i am). i put it in reverse and turned around to back up. but i have to slam on the breaks. thank god i was only idling at that point. bc they’re pressed RIGHT up against my back bumper. i’m trying to comprehend all this bc there’s a v big sidewalk and they were on it when i started to speed off so why are they right behind my car now? a BIG alarm bell goes off in my head but i ignore it. i stare at them as they wait pressed against my bumper for like half a minute, giving them “what are you doing” eyes and gestures. finally they come back to the window. i’m like “listen. i’m really really sorry. it���s okay if you hate me. we don’t have to talk about it or at all. i made a mistake. i’m very sorry. can i just... take you home? i feel bad. we can try and work out this stuff later if we have to”. at that point they start yelling at me again (not screaming but just normal yelling) and telling me how awful and bullying and abusive etc i am and how their reactions were justified and idek bc they started walking off again. FINALLY. FINALLLLLY. my brain accepts this situation as fairly impossible and unreasonable and i decide i gotta be done. i just... can’t? anymore?? even if i wanted to... i don’t have time? so i pull up next to them and say sternly “you know what? you can’t treat your friends like this or they will LEAVE you.” and i sped off. i think i heard them screaming after me like “YOU SHOULD TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE” but god knows like my car is junk but i had floored it so they were long gone. okay so that’s PRETTY much the end of it. i decided pretty quickly after that that i was DONE with this person forever. that this wasn’t the kind of friendship i wanted. over the next few days i came to realize i should have been done with this person almost immediately. again, weird parallels to my worst ex. you don’t have to be dating someone or romantic w them for it to be a super abusive relationship. well anyhow i decided to avoid facebook or communicating w them for a bit so i could figure out how to like “officially end it”. because i was sure that they’d have gone on fb and written one of their common “i’m sorry i acted that way BUT” fake apologies where they pretend to be sorry but then negate the apologies by justifying all their behavior by making me out as some super abusive monster. 3 days later, i bite the bullet and check facebook, bc i realize this also is a pretty easy way for me to like... end it with them in a polite and cordial way? to pretend i don’t hate them. to talk to them in a way that hopefully keeps them from freaking out at me the next time our paths cross? also bc deep down i still do remember the good times and have a bit of respect for them. sure enough, it was there. the half-apology that leads into “you need to learn how to talk to people”. “you bullied me just like this person”. “when you talk to anyone you should use this tone”. tbh i only barely glazed over it. i started my reply along the lines of “i don’t want to get into a big discussion about what happened, but i think it would be best if we parted ways. i don’t think we’re compatible as friends. i hope we can be polite if we ever run into each other again. i’m really sorry that it turned out this way.” etc etc etc. part way in, i noticed their last short msg. sent way after the initial bunch of “sorry not sorry”s. it was just a half sentence. “i guess i should apologize for jumping in front of your car...” ... THAT FUCKING ASSHOLE. THAT BASTARD. THEY REALLY DID IT. THEY REALLY WERE TRYING TO FORCE ME TO INJURE THEM WITH MY CAR SO THEY COULD ENTRAP ME OR SUE ME OR FUCK MY LIFE UP. I THOUGHT I WAS BEING CRAZY AND PARANOID WHEN I HAD THAT THOUGHT BUT IT WAS TRUE. THAT ABSOLUTE LUNATIC. *deep breath* i’m still shaken. it was just a fluke that i didn’t step on the gas before i noticed them against my bumper. it EASILY could’ve gone down in the worst way. god. and all this over me asking them to stop playing sonic mania. tbh the experience kinda soured the game a bit for me? i mean... thank god it’s so good but really who even gives a shit bc it’s just a game like GOD fucking DAMN i can’t believe i had something so FUCKED happen at this stage in my life. i know it’s a really self-hating thing to do to blame myself for having someone like that around but... my. god. i ended up sending the fb message that i was initially planning and ignoring all the impulses to scream at them or call some authority (idek what i could do here) or tell them they need immediate help or what bc what the fuck. and i haven’t checked fb since. i wanna be done forever. i don’t ever wanna see or hear or hear about this person again. it’s a bit silly but i’m cleaning house and getting rid of all the stuff they got for me (i rejected most of their “wooing” gifts but a few still got through bc general gift exchange”. i know it’s messed up but i even washed all the clothes i was wearing w them regardless if it needed a wash or not. maybe it was symbolic. but they’re dead to me. god. it’s not just for the best it’s goddamn mandatory.

ANYWAYS so that’s it i guess. sorry i know how long this was. i don’t REALLY expect anyone to read through all this. but if you do, plz lmk so i can say thanks i guess lol? it’s just nice to get it all out there bc it kinda messed me up... really bad? idk. and oh um i’ll still reply to people individually for asking about the previous post that related to this? but it’s taking me a bit to do replies bc i’m just... kinda scared regarding social stuff rn considering.  i guess the last thing i’ll say is if part of you is telling yourself that someone is abusive and you find yourself constantly making really big considerations or umm excuses just to hang out with someone? maybe don’t. there are many good people out there for you. abusive people can be dangerous. be careful and try to surround yourself with nice, happy people. <3

[princesiddie]

hi, can u please explain kin to me? like I don't understand it at all BUT I would like to understand it. also what's factkin if that's an ok ask? thank u if u can answer, I can't find any decent discussion on any kin stuff

of course !!being kin w someone or something is kinda like .. u relate a lot to it ? or like you look at it and you kinda think “thats me” but in more than just a “thats relatable” way (this is probably a really bad and vague explanation srry) n like the degree/way someone can be kin w someone/something varies from person to person but generally i think the common thing is looking at something and feeling that “thats me” thing n u can be kin w a thing like an animal or smthn which is otherkin or a character which is fictionkin ! youv probably seen ppl describe it as “”“”“cringy”“”“”“ but it cn b rly helpful for identity issues n stuff like tht n coping w mental illnesses n stuff ! fr exampl i view link as strong and powerful and brave even though hes my age and selectively mute n identifying myself w someone like tht rly helps w my usually super super shitty self image (i hope thr was a good explanation aaa)n factkin is like the same thing but w a real person so it raises .. a lotta issues bc at its worst its kinda like identity theft ,,, so lotsa ppl dont like it n find it problematic n gross. i personally havent run into any factkin ppl so i dont know a ton abt it

[mbtipartyblog]

Hey there! I'm kind of new to this whole MBTI thing, but how can i tell if im an INFJ vs ISFJ? Specifically, how I can tell if im more intuiting (ni) vs sensing (si)? II've taken so many tests and they all have different results. I'm srry if this question is annoying basic lol

oh no, you’re totally fine. Tbh @mbti-notes has a lot of very clearly articulated pages about the functions, and they’re a pretty good resource when it comes to typing yourself (it also takes some time to figure it out, i’ve found)

Honestly when it comes to every description of S vs N it’s always sort of shoved in a dichotomy between “Are you an INxx or an ESxP?” and like… it can get pretty difficult to distinguish Ni from Si because there aren’t very many super clear explanations for Si out there, and Ni is kind of…weird

it’s gonna come down to mostly whether your frame of reference lies in sensory details or non-sensory ones. Si types tend to be able to work out the flaws in their ideas before running it– intuitive types are notoriously bad at that (and Se types when unhealthy aren’t super nuanced). finding out your inferior function’s also going to be helpful.