#suggestions like how to keep yourself from giving in bc i always have difficulty w that one

[iknowwhereyousleepatnight]

should i sleep for a hundred million years or purposefully stop sleeping just to see what happens

[shmisolo]

Can you now tell us some the headcanos you have for "Let's Get Together" please? I absolutely loved the fic. It was an AU I din't know I wanted but I'm glad I got it.

ok spoilers for let’s get together chapter 5!

ok first things first: ben & rey don’t move in together right away.  ben gets his own place about thirty minutes away and they start with a traditional half-week split with the kids.

the twins don’t understand this and are very annoyed bc their parents are CLEARLY IN LOVE why aren’t they MARRIED AGAIN ALREADY

the reason they choose this is bc they want to ease back into things.  bc even though things feel right, they know there’s a lot of baggage attached that they haven’t had the opportunity to work through and they both care so much about making it right–for the girls and for each other.  they have to learn to be in one anothers’ lives again

they start seeing a couple’s therapist and that’s when Shit Gets Real in a lot of ways

rey has a lot of self-blame.  like a lot (that’s evident in the fic i should hope).  ben’s worked through a lot of his with his therapist beforehand, and he’s all for letting the past die (eyyyy) and starting as fresh as they can, but rey’s having a lot of trouble letting go, especially because she can’t really remember why she left to begin with, bc her brain has locked her out of it, bc her experience at the time was so clouded bc of the 19 different pressures from various badbrains going on.  so a lot of their couple’s therapy is working through rey’s guilt and trying to think more about the future than the past.

for ben it opens up more bitterness than he wants it to.  a lot of his previous therapy had been about him without her in conversation, and so he’d built up what i think (and ben thinks, and his previous therapist thinks) would be reasonable ways of engaging with the memory of his ex-wife and the love of his life; but that’s very different when she’s still having trouble remembering why she left, and he’s in a new place halfway across the country from everything he’s known, and being far away from his mom (which is harder than he thought it would be). (on the bright side: he likes the non-new york legal lifestyle of not killing yourself for the hours every day.  he likes that a lot.)  but there’s a lot that’s not quite as easy as he wants it to be and he has to learn how to work through that with rey and not just with himself.

ben also tries to point out that he was the one that suggested splitting the twins (it had been a tactic to try and make rey stay, and he hadn’t expected her to take him up on it) as a way of showing that they both were part of the situation, that it was in some ways mutual even if she initiated it, and the fallout falls on him too.  rey has trouble hearing that bc she has a lot of abandonment trauma herself, even if it’s factually correct that he did suggest this.

this is a conversation they keep away from the kids as much as possible, because they don’t want the kids to involve themselves too much.  it’s not their responsibility to fix the parents and they’ve done enough to show that they’d try.  so they say that they’re being careful and get cagey whenever either padme or breha presses it.

despite a lot of the work they are doing with their therapist, which is hard and necessary, they’re pretty good on the whole tho.  they have date nights–usually when the girls are staying with rey since the co-parenting trio are always down to babysit, especially as they are getting to know padme–and they continue sleeping together, and fall into a pretty good rhythm of life.  a lot of their therapy is about working through their past, but they’re mostly equipped to handle their present properly.

padme has more difficulty than either of them had really prepared for in moving down to new mexico.  she has gone from an all girl’s private school to a local coed public school and wasn’t expecting the culture shock of that experience alone in middle school, much less a different vibe of being in the southwest more long term.  and while she and breha get on very well, there are definitely spats bc for breha everything’s natural and normal, but padme misses her friends, and misses her bubbe, and misses being able to walk places.

breha starts going to hebrew school (a way to appease leia that padme and ben were moving down south; leia’s not really mad about it, but she’s definitely gonna push for both of her girls to have a jewish education)

after ~a year or so, ben moves in.  since this is headcanon and not #fic, i went ridiculous with the “he had a mild heart attack” thing (bc i can’t fathom ben solo having a healthy heart t b q h) and that makes everyone scared and sad and he’s fine but everyone’s scared and rey makes him stay at her place so that he can have everyone take care of him while he recovers and he just…never leaves.

while scary, this is also an important moment for rey bc they won’t tell her stuff about him at the hospital bc she’s his ex, not his wife.  so when she is let in to see him, she’s basically like “hi we need to get married” which they spend like three or four hours on in therapy bc it’s the first time she’s thinking “forward” and sure she’d done it in panic, but it’s important that she’s thinking about a future that’s not just weighed down by her own guilt.  (no, they don’t get married right away.  but they do start talking about futures more consistently after that, aided by ben’s moving in.)

they end up building an extension to the house bc with the additions of ben and padme, things are getting a bit cramped and also poe, finn, and rose have a bet as to whether or not ben and rey might have more kids.  they’re also considering kids of their own and figure having extra space will be good.

leia eventually moves down to santa fe.  she doesn’t like being far from her family.  she absolutely becomes like…the fucking matriarch of the jewish community in like 4 seconds and no one knows how except that it’s leia.

also: fun fact that i didn’t have time to work into the fic because she wasn’t going to tell either ben or rey while all this was going on--leia feels a lot of responsibility for the fall-apart of the first marriage.  she feels as though she failed her daughter-in-law when her daughter-in-law needed a mother figure and she just wasn’t able to give her the help and support she needed when she was clearly breaking down.  that’s part of what motivated her to help the twins--she saw it as an opportunity to fix something she feels she had a hand in (while also knowing that she isn’t to blame for rey’s mental state at the time).

the girls get bat mitzvahed.  everyone is emotional.

rey and ben decide to get married soon thereafter.  they have a convo w/the rabbi and realize that they’d never gotten a get so their ketubah is still valid which makes them both laugh real hard for a long-ass time, and they decide to skip a big wedding (much to the girls’ annoyance) bc it feels like a waste of time and they feel like they’ve already lost so much time.  but they do have a nice little thing at the farm after they sign their marriage license and luke and chewie come to visit and it’s a big family thing.

moar kidz??? idk that’s as far as i got.  that’s a lie they totally have one more kid and so do rose/poe/finn and those two kids are adorable and the best playmates everrrrrr.

fin.