#stranger things kincord

[xrebel-robinx]

Ahoy kinnies!

This server is for anyone 18+ who is kin with or a fictive of someone from Stranger Things! Basic rules are: don’t be a dick, respect people’s canons, follow the blacklist and have fun!

[fictionkinfessions]

I think one of my least favorite things about trying to find canonmates or join kincords is how overly familiar people get with you. Like, yeah, hello, stranger I’ve never spoken to before. You may kin a character I once knew, but the key word there is “once.” Please stop insulting me and trying to rule me up just because that’s the dynamic our kintypes had. On the flip side, some people get too affectionate. Like yeah, we kin characters who are canonically family or friends, but you and I have quite literally never met before. Please stop insisting that we are already buddies. I don’t even know your favorite color, yet.

This isn’t me throwing shade or airing laundry, either. It’s just something I’ve noticed throughout the like 7 years I’ve spent in this community. I wish people would lead with the mentality of “Yes, we knew each other once, maybe, but you’re different now and we need to relearn each other.”

For certain kintypes, I’ve fully stopped looking for people from my canons because every time I tried people were too mean or too affectionate too quickly for my comfort, even when asked to rein it in. It’s a real issue, I feel.

I think people need to realize that for some people (especially certain categories of kinfolk), there’s a disconnect between the person and their kintype, and all in all, you are strangers to each other at first. Treat people how you would any other random person you’re trying to get to know. Don’t be rude, don’t start showering them with affection when you’ve only had a few conversations, etc.

Hopefully, I’m not alone in this sentiment.

x

[flairfulboi]

Ayo kinnies of stranger things I’ve made a discord server you might wanna check it out. Adults only and we do not hate on hell cheer alright! https://discord.gg/8DqmKKyN

[kincord-hub]

Discord Name: stranger kins Source(s): stranger things! Age range: 15+ Invite Link: discord.gg/u56jG4K3ty Description: we're a decently small doubles-friendly stranger things kin discord! all kins / fictives / irls etc are welcome to join as long as you're 15 or older. can't wait to have ya!

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[fictionkinfessionsarchived]

Hi, here are the new Ask Response Guidelines! Well I say new, but they're mostly updated and abbreviated from the original ones Mod Maude [rip?] made back in 2016! They are long so I hid them behind this read more! If you have suggestions for other ask response guidelines, please let me know! You are the ones they're generally directed to, and so it's good to know what ARs kinds are helpful and which are [at best] patronizing!

side note, unrelated: I also changed the blog title to quotes from The Thing [1982] horror movie! They’re two different ones because I couldn’t pick just one! It’s a different, longer one upon the blog page! Man, that's a real good ol spookadoodle movie right there!

Ask Response Guidelines:

#1 Don’t be a jerk.

The one hard, unbreakable rule! Please remember you are speaking with a stranger. Perhaps your close friend is fine with hearing “holy fuck are you out of your mind? jfc get your head out of your ass lol??? There’s no way that this happened, that character was implying this, etc etc.” But complete strangers on the internet may not understand if you are joking or mean that in a casual manner. Especially since emotions and tone of voice can be difficult to discern through only text, without additional body and vocal language and so on. Assuming you are able to read body language since that is kind of difficult for some people. :u

Simply avoid using disparaging words and insulting tones!

#2 Do not send in threats.

No rape threats, suicide baiting, suicide threads, death threats, etc. This one may get you ip blocked. Consider yourself warned.

Do and Do Nots [or rather, more bendable code of conduct than hardcoded guidelines]:

💖 Do remember the person may be referring to their personal experiences/canons. Particularly if they are speaking of events, people, or relationships, etc that do not resemble the known source canon. Kinsplaining a person’s source to them is kind of a drag.

💖 Do ask someone to contact you off anon.  If you want someone to contact you on a side blog, please reblog the relevant confession mentioning this. Trust me, people do check post notes for friendly faces! :3

💖 Do offer to make a kincord, or invite an confessor to join a discord if they mention an interest in finding one for a kintype or canon, be it an unusual or obscure one.

❌ Do not ask someone to interact with your anonymous ask response message in order to contact you. Again, please do reblog a post requesting contact or come off anon. It’s scary to put yourself out there, I know, but I’m sure you’ll get much better results that way.

❌ Do not tell someone to simply blacklist a thing they are displeased with seeing. I guarantee that if they could, they have already blacklisted it. Additionally, sometimes a fandom at large does not tag something they see as good, or popular, or personally unobjectionable. [Party note: does this need to be said? I feel it could be already covered under Rule #1 ]

💖 / ❌  ??? idk what else? Suggestions for do or don’ts? Because as one’s who the ask responses are aimed towards, you would know what you’d

Ask Response FAQ:

What are ask responses?

They are anonymous or non-anonymous ask messages sent in reply to a posted confession. Generally they are sent because the person does not wish to come off anon, or are not publicly kin or presenting as a system on their main blog. They are generally available alongside with or replacing post replies. It depends if post replies are enabled. Both are welcome ways of responding to someone, in addition to reblogging a confession.

How do I send in an ask response?

Simply send in an ask message. It is suggested, but not required, that you also put a ‘@’ symbol at the start of your message to make it clear it’s an ask response. That way it will be posted ASAP, and not mistaken for a confession. There are many confessions posted per day, and sometimes we mods are not sure if an ask message is a response or confession. Hence the suggested use of an ‘@’ symbol. However it’s not required and you don’t have to use an ‘@’ symbol every time you send in an ask response message.

Did you get my ask response?

We might have! It could still be on the queue since we intersperse the ask responses between confessions so it’s not a deluge of a single type of post. Or we may not have received it. Please feel free to send in an ask about where it might have gone, and what keywords or topics we can search for to find it with.

Why didn’t you post my ask response?

It may have gone against the Ask Response Guidelines [see above] or tumblr ate it due to spam detection. Feel free to resend it and we’ll post it asap. Or it’s simply that we didn’t realize it was an ask response until a day or so afterwards. In which case we’ll queue it up to post asap with the latest ask responses.

I didn’t like that ask response to my confession, and honestly don’t appreciate it’s response for personal reasons.

I’m sorry. We do vet responses so that they are not  derogatory, overly hateful or vitriolic, or explaining things you the confessor may already know. If we post an ask response, it’s because we feel it may be helpful to you or others, or feels generally neutral, or may be positive and cheering towards you or others. If you consider an ask response to your confession crosses a line, please feel free to let us know and we’ll handle it somehow.

I’m not going to read all those words in the guidelines. What’s the tldr?

Be nice! Don’t be mean! Write like you’re messaging someone for the first time and you want to make a good impression! No threats of any kind!

Updated: new ARS created on 10/21/2018 by mod party cat! Previous version of the ARS page can be found here!

[fictionkinfessions]

Anyone know any stranger things kincords out there? Id love to join one

If anyone knows of one, please like or reblog this post so anon can contact you! Please do not send discord server invites into the inbox!

[fictionkinfessionsarchived]

Hi!! I’ve been thinking about the ask response guidelines! Partly because nobody apparently reads them, and partly because the have not been updated since Mod Maude installed them! Which may be why nobody reads them: they’re old and outdated! :V Uh oh!

Since this blog has grown and changed since 2016 [wow!], I thought maybe they could be freshened up and changed from what they currently are! Here are the newly rewritten ones! If anyone has suggestions for them, I would appreciate the input! To add something, or to remove something, or to reword a confusing sentence, and so on! I mean, I kinda feel ‘dont be a jerk’ is sort of obvious, but it seems helpful to have a guidelines type page to refer to as the most basic guide for a code of conduct!

Also I’d like for people to stop being so mean in ask responses! Like, have I ever posted an AR that was totally vitriolic? Who is encouraging people to be mean like that? What the?! im confus!

Here’s a link to the page: http://fictionkinfessions.tumblr.com/ars

And here are the not quite confirmed updates to the ask response guidelines:

Ask Response Guidelines and FAQ

Rules:

#1 Don’t be a jerk.

The one hard, unbreakable rule! Please remember you are speaking with a stranger. Perhaps your close friend is fine with hearing “holy fuck are you out of your mind? There’s no way that this happened, that character was implying this, etc etc.” But complete strangers on the internet may not understand if you are joking or mean that in a casual manner. Especially since emotions and tone of voice can be difficult to discern through only text, without additional body and vocal language and so on. Assuming you are able to read body language since that is kind of difficult for some people.

#2 Do not send in threats.

No rape threats, suicide baiting, suicide threads, death threats, etc. This one may get you ip blocked. Consider yourself warned.

Do and Do Nots [or rather, more bendable code of conduct than hardcoded guidelines]:

💖 Do remember the person may be referring to their personal experiences/canons. Particularly if they are speaking of events, people, or relationships, etc that do not resemble the known source canon. Kinsplaining a person’s source to them is kind of a drag.

💖 Do ask someone to contact you off anon.  If you want someone to contact you on a side blog, please reblog the relevant confession mentioning this. Trust me, people do check post notes for friendly faces! :3

💖 Do offer to make a kincord, or invite an confessor to join a discord if they mention an interest in finding one for a kintype or canon, be it an unusual or obscure one.

💖 Do not ask someone to interact with your anonymous ask response message in order to contact you. Again, please do reblog a post requesting contact or come off anon. It’s scary to put yourself out there, I know, but I’m sure you’ll get much better results that way.

💖 Do not tell someone to simply blacklist a thing they are displeased with seeing. I guarantee that if they could, they have already blacklisted it. Additionally, sometimes a fandom at large does not tag something they see as good, or popular, or personally unobjectionable. [Party note: does this need to be said? I feel it could be already covered under Rule #1 ]

💖  ??? idk what else? Suggestions for do or don’ts?

FAQ:

what are ask responses?

They are anonymous or non-anonymous ask messages sent in reply to a posted confession. Generally they are sent because the person does not wish to come off anon, or are not publicly kin or presenting as a system on their main blog. They are generally available alongside with or replacing post replies. It depends if post replies are enabled. Both are legitimate ways of responding to someone, in addition to reblogging a confession.

How do I send in an ask response?

Simply send in an ask message. It is suggested, but not required, that you also put a ‘@’ symbol at the start of your message to make it clear it’s an ask response. That way it will be posted ASAP, and not mistaken for a confession. There are many confessions posted per day, and sometimes we mods are not sure if an ask message is a response or confession. Hence the suggested use of an ‘@’ symbol. However it’s required and you don’t have to use an ‘@’ symbol every time.

Did you get my ask response?

We might have! It could still be on the queue since we intersperse the ask responses between confessions so it’s not a deluge of a single type of post. Or we may not have received it. Please feel free to send in an ask about where it might have gone, and what keywords or topics we can search for to find it with.

Why didn’t you post my ask response?

It may have gone against the Ask Response Guidelines [see above] or tumblr ate it due to spam detection. Feel free to resend it and we’ll post it asap. Or it’s simply that we didn’t realize it was an ask response until a day or so afterwards. In which case we’ll queue it up to post asap with the latest ask responses.

I didn’t like that ask response to my confession, and honestly don’t appreciate it’s response for personal reasons.

I'm sorry. We do vet responses so that they are not  derogatory, overly hateful or vitriolic, or explaining things you the confessor may already know. If we post an ask response, it's because we feel it may be helpful to you or others, or feels generally neutral, or may be positive and cheering towards you or others. If you consider an ask response to your confession crosses a line, please feel free to let us know and we'll handle it somehow.

I’m not going to read all those words in the guidelines. What’s the tldr?

Be nice! Don’t be mean! Write like you’re messaging someone for the first time and you want to make a good impression! No threats of any kind!