#stirring the pot today

[foxybouquet]

LOL Per gets "cancelled" so often and its like,,,, 1. twit needs to touch grass, and 2. maybe dont put all ur obsession in a single real life person who is only human and WILL do things you don't like if they expect everyone they like in the public eye to be morally correct 100% of the time (based on their own morals btw) then they WILL be disappointed 100% of the time lol

Yeah, I mean, no one is perfect. My little sister votes differently than I do, has a (sealed) criminal record and yet I love her with all my heart. We just have different experiences and opinions and can’t talk politics. I feel she has a lot to learn about life, and maybe in some ways so does Per. Regardless…I don’t know him at all. He repeated the important point that NONE OF US really know him, and I’ll extend that to the entire band, much as we’d all like to think we do. I like his conduct during his lives. He’s friendly, funny, and answers a LOT of questions I’m often ashamed the fans ask of him. If he takes a rather aerated approach to his detractors, I’m not sure I blame him—being a public person means you will inevitably run into people who will hate anything and everything you do, think, or say and are ready to pounce on you for your slightest mistake.

I’m not excusing him—I don’t know him. There is plenty about him that is none of my business. It would suck if he supported certain people or ideologies, but I have yet to see any hard evidence of that.

[madohomurat]

I love using "no attraction to men" as a key part of lesbian definition. its my favorite thing to do actually. I especially love it when the queer men get angry about it

[crushedsweets]

If u consistently choose kindness on the internet in comment sections and dms and content I love you.

[crybabybat]

I wish pie tasted better. It’s fantastic as a concept, looks so good, but it’s always mediocre. The best apple pie in the world would bring me as much joy as a grocery store cake

[soup-mother]

the tasmanian greens are the true successors to the fourth international

[inwantofamuse]

If we ever get Mobius and/ or Don/his sons again, I need Cate Blanchett playing his sacred timeline wife.

Owen and Cate had wonderful chemistry in "Life Aquatic".

Plus, the entire Marvel fandom would never stop saying she's Hela or a Hela variant, meanwhile she's just Some Woman and Loki would haaaate her lol.

[widevibratobitch]

me when im obsessed with dead singers from 50 (well... mostly 70-120) years ago and im heartbroken to know i'll never see them on stage... never hear them breathe, never see them sweat, never even touch the hem of their garment...

it really is enough to drive a person mad...

[onewomancitadel]

I had a hell of a time the other day and I ended up reading some slashfic out of distraction and honestly I've come back around to being an apologist to it... it was very interesting because the characters were really psychologically small, the question of misogyny which normally infuses hetfic was totally absent (by virtue of what it is) but even the question of gender was relatively minimal, a lot of it was sexless and when it was sexy it was weirdly - juvenile? - genuinely like smushing Barbie dolls together. I almost feel like the word I'd use to describe it all was 'innocent'; it was innocent psychologically, socially, sexually, in narrative consequences.

It's interesting because the much-maligned fujoshi - even I have partaken in the sport - is usually termed as an oversexed A/B/O nightmare busy getting men pregnant. And it's true that they exist, but in their own way I kind of find them quaint: the sex they always have is outlandishly perfect and bereft of all psychological complexity. Even pregnancy, in this case, is turned into something even if difficult, always beautiful and nongendered, not the experience it is in the real world (even hetfic at its happiest is not ignorant of the implicit place pregnancy has cultually).

I find the angle of psychological simplicity a surprise because the way it is normally termed is that male characters are capable of psychological complexity women lack (or lack in writing). Whereas I think the thesis is actually kind of the opposite: it can be simple because it is not painful. There's something existentially deeper here which is that I think what we find is that we believe the other gender(s) has it easier; existential meaning is located along the border of it. It's very human. Simplicity seems desirable. (It's not to devalue feminist analysis in any way).

And I think that this generally speaks to the issue that I have with a lot of storytelling atittudes - the desire to escape that complexity - for people who really do just seek out storytelling as an avenue for fluffy pleasure. For me, the idea that the full spectrum of human experience is elided from something very fully, deeply human - literally narrating someone's perspective of the world - is essentially existential horror to me, the worst of all kinds of horror. I don't think this is an issue found simply along slashfic/hetfic lines (and indeed femslash, for similar reasons), but is more apparent in slashfic just because it really offers the optimum escapist experience.

There are surely exceptions, but you find this in the genre of whumpfic; even that sort of melodramatic pain is played out in a nearly childish, thumping-the-toys way. You'll notice that I've pretty much ignored the question of sexuality - it's beyond the purview of this post, but also because I don't think it's really that straightforward. And there is slashfic which isn't 'childish', to be sure; there's a difference between simplicity and childishness, and I think you can surely make the case that this applies to the mainstream romance genre. The two have a lot in common.

But the thing I find valuable here is that there is something essential, maybe even deeper than any other argument put forward about why slashfic draws such an overwhelming audience, to be found here.

The most valuable thing to me was considering that it is not about male characters being more complex than female characters - it's the exact opposite. What they profess, I think, is not true, and to take it at face value - that male characters (with one line? With none?) are simply universally better written than women as a consequence of nebulous misogyny which can simply not be contended with - is a grave error I've made in the past. I would dispute that complex female characters scare people; not that they can't understand them, but that it is precisely the sort of thing a lot of people really aren't looking for. It's not safe, it's not comforting, it's not reassuring. And this crosses over with all the people afraid of conflict, afraid of any narrative complexity whatsoever. The issue was not, as it happens, poorly written women.

[isometricsch]

keep it fucking classy hlvrai fandom. there's a reason i pronounce this shit hell-vrai.

[ragingbullmode]

the girl were trying to get fired for harassing everyone is determined to prove im some sort of work bully ? when this is how i spend 110% of the shift

[littleoblivions]

this is honestly so unserious one minute y’all are like how DARE you stream any version other than taylor’s version what a fake fan!!!!! and now that she changed a lyric y’all are like we will NOT be streaming btr taylor’s version 😭

[stevethehairington]

oh twitter is UNBEARABLE for an entirely new reason today ugh

[ilostyou]

currently resisting the urge to just 🗣️ pop culture update for the zero people who were wondering 🫠 taylor swift and her boyfriend broke up 🫣

[barbreypilled]

support needs, levels and functioning labels are all different things but ppl just use the first two as a PC substitute for the third with no understanding of why it doesn’t make sense