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devotedlystrangewizard · 2 years ago

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i think the most fun part about writing is exploiting ur character's flaws to create unique & interesting interpersonal relationships like yes what this character is doing is nearly objectively wrong but to them its just another tuesday. im projecting my parents' issues onto my oc & his kid is what im saying

#this post is about valerian & luca #brought on by this one sentence i wrote a while back #in which luca tells someone that 'i thought all the kids with divorced parents were exaggerating'.#luca at the very least got to grow up before he got the barrage of 'i cant believe your father did this did you know your father did this'#bc ever since i was 10 & my parents divorced? 'your other parent sucks and heres why'. from both sides #should people use their kids as therapists or discord vent channels? no!#but it is a real thing. valerian isnt a perfect father. he messes up a LOT. so much so that luca moves in with their aunt when theyre 11 #their reconciliation doesnt start until luca's well into their twenties but tha doesnt make it less valuable #within those 15 or so years valerian grew as a person. a lot. but hes still incredibly flawed #i get the fun in mary sues but also i need a way to cope with my parents' flaws and to accept mine. so!#young valerian has a lot of my own characteristics & flaws #even some of my experiences #i project a lot i just try to frame it in a way that makes sense #but also its my ocs and i can do whatever i want with them.#pparental relationships are far more complex than good parent who loves you and bad parent who doesnt #sometimes parents have severe unresolved trauma and thats okay! but also you shouldnt be a parent #its. difficult to fathom the concept of having to support another person for 18+ years #i dont blame my mom for giving up on me i dont blame her for all the shit shes done to make me miserable #because she got it from her mom. and her mom got it from her mom. my mom is just as traumatized as i am she just. doesnt admit it #this is just a repeat of the silco post i made on my main LMAO #ive always been more drawn towards flawed characters who love their kid(s) & i wish fandom understood nuance :/

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