#something we can agree on im sure 🤝

[seffien]

how i think the promo kids feel about each other because i can: the post.

veronika (ronnie)

on annie: we were...something in elementary. don't know what her deal is now

on yarr: cool dude. can clean the hell out of a weapon and is a good tableturf opponent

on steph: friends til the end. i help her, she helps me. i've only known her for a few months, but it feels like i've known her forever

cal: suuuper good cook and pretty skilled at chargers. i gave him the nickname cal and he really seems to like it.

on kay:

on hiro: he was the first person i met when i got to the splatlands. ever since then, we've had a pretty strong bond.

on tako: ...are you okay?

anenomeno1 (annie)

on ronnie: i will destroy you every chance i get and i hate you.

on yarr: you’re a nerd and a loser. also your glasses are stupid mine are better.

on steph: meh. (condescending)

on cal: you’re such a baby. i cant believe hiro put you as 2nd in charge. it should be me! IT SHOULD BE M

on kay: you’re so pretentious and i hate you. i hope your favorite thing gets as rating on some random rating site so you have to stop liking it.

on hiro: i just know youre a loser who pretends not to be. i know it. i know it. i could beat you up. (could not)

on tako: you get me. we’re best friends for life and forever. …maybe something even more?

yarrwhal (yarr)

on ronnie: i don’t know why she’s a casual player. she could totally rock the field with a just a jammed up splattershot.

on annie: …you can’t even see in those, dude.

on steph: 🤝

on cal: how is he so good at chargers? shouldn’t he be, like, in school? he’s like 12.

on kay: do not touch me do not look at me i don’t want to be associated with you sorry

on hiro: turf master to turf master—you’re cool. we should play in a tourney together.

on tako: the enemy of my enemy is my friend…? actually no that doesn’t sound right.

stephanie (steph)

on ronnie: yo!!!! it’s always so nice to see you! friends til the end.

on annie: you should get help. (well-intentioned)

on yarr: 🤝

on cal: you should cook for me us more often. please? please.

on kay: annoying.

on hiro: we could kill so many people together.

on tako: why do you keep staring at me?

c4l4m4r (cal)

on ronnie: i appreciate the compliment, but i’m really not good at either. luck, i guess?

on annie: hiro told me not to talk to you. sorry :(

on yarr: do you really think i'm that good? :0 you're way better!

on steph: ehehe i'm glad you like my cooking! i'll make sure to always make seconds for you! :]

on kay: (indifferent.)

on hiro: i'll do my best!

on tako: i am NOT a BABY!! :(

kayoss (kay)

on ronnie: oh, of course, the skilled spunky tomboy teenage girl who thinks she's 'just average'. sigh. boooring.

on annie: lol you'll like or dislike anything tako likes or dislikes, you shouldn't be speaking.

on yarr: ugh. i wasn't planning on getting near you anyway. you're stupid and i'm worried your stupidity will infect me

on steph: don't worry, i think you're annoying too

on cal: you're nothing but a baby. don't try and step to me.

on hiro: stop trying to be me. also ronnie will never love you back kthankbye <3

on tako: ugh. you again. get a life, girl

hirooooo (hiro)

on ronnie: hey girl are you. are you a girl because. are you you because. because i love you. i dont think im doing this right

on annie: no you could not beat me up and no i'm not putting you in charge.

on yarr: i agree. we'd make a good team. as long as i get to play with veronika...

on steph: true.

on cal: you're a natural leader! i know you'll go far in life, so don't ever think you won't

on kay: dude if i was you i would **** ******

on tako: what...happened to you?

takotruck (tako)

on ronnie: filthy casual not worth my time. you could never be me or compare to me, so stop trying 💖

on annie: you get me. it's kind of us against the world atp.

on yarr: don't speak to me. i do not respect you.

on steph: hey do you like girls. don't ask me why i'm asking.

on cal: you're a baby LMAOOOOOOO idk why hiro put you in charge

on kay: kys before i come to your house and do it for you.

on hiro: don't look at me. don't touch me. don't speak to me. i hate you and everything you and your little girlfriend stand for. i should kill you with my bare hands you fuc

[misc-obeyme]

I hope you're doing well! I feel like I haven't been on tumblr in forever, too little time in the day 😭 Work is gonna kick my butt because i have the craziest shifts this week

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my mc/me 🤝 Mammon

anything for money

I've made it through crazy schedules before so I'll survive at least (once did 10 days straight) 🤣 The only thing that's going to get me through this is that the hours from this paycheck are going to line up with a merch drop SO IM GONNA POWER THROUGH, MAMMON WOULD BE PROUD IS WHAT I TELL MYSELF

- ✨ anon

Welcome back, ✨ anon!

I have to say, I'm a bit concerned about your schedule! Please don't overwork yourself too much!

I can't imagine working for ten days straight, I think I'd probably lose my mind. I think the most I've done is seven, but that was a long time ago. More recently, I was doing six regularly, but that was still pre pandemic so. Nowadays, I get cranky when I have to work extra lol.

But listen, I'm sure Mammon would indeed be proud of you for working hard to get the money for the things you want! We all know that when he really wants something, he works hard to get it. Would he prefer to make easy money through some scheme? Sure. But if it's a situation where he needs it for something, he always seems to prefer getting an actual job for awhile.

I fully believe that you can do it, but I also think you should rest when you can! And I think Mammon would agree.

Good luck, ✨ anon!

[violetgarlends]

I’m also going 👀👀👀 at the drama mpreg would add to this nuthouse. It would most definitely be XL’s since MQ and FX were too scared to even kiss. Poor MQ would be worried sick because he knows XL would use that child as a way to further chain FX to him. And he’s completely right.

XL purposefully encourages FX to bond with the baby, giving him plenty time of just him by himself, questions about what he thinks they’ll look like, personality, and potential names. (When he hears FX’s ideas tho, he takes over the naming process. For that child’s own good. He still lets FX have a bit of a say tho). Anytime FX has a bad attitude or strains against the rules, he rules it off as hormones.

Because when that child is born and XL threatens to take them away to be raised only by himself, the way FX cries out confirms that his long term planning was a success. But XL also knows he has to use that threat sparingly. FX is at his most dangerous when he has someone else to protect. XL knows this well. So he makes sure to bond with the child too (obviously, because it’s his kid) so that instead of being afraid of him like their mother, they are excited and happy to see him and actively seek out his attention.

XL truly learned his manipulation strategies from the best and has no hesitation using them. It’s for his family’s own good after all.

We are not immune to the drama of mpreg 🤝

I definitely agree it would be Xie Lian’s. Even if Mu Qing and Feng Xin were able to fuck once, he’s Xie Lian’s concubine, and they’re together way more often. I can see Mu Qing feeling some affection for the child, wishing it was his own, wishing he could be involved in its life. Someone get him that “I’m not the step dad, I’m the dad who stepped up” shirt

He’s also right to be worried, because this is giving Xie Lian a whole new method to keep Feng Xin from escaping. They all know he wouldn’t leave if it meant abandoning his child.

Xie Lian making sure Feng Xin bonds with the baby is just so!! ahhhhh! screaming crying throwing up, as the poets say. The way he uses Feng Xin’s love for the baby as another way to control him…

threatening to take the baby away makes me want to fight him. im with Mu Qing on this one. its so fucked up. Feng Xin having to cry out and beg him not to is so godamn sad 😭

Having him make sure that he bonds with the baby feels so right. It adds so much drama potential. Something about Xie Lian beggining to take on a role similar to the one that BWX played with him. The cycle continuing.

If his plan works, he might even be able to distance their child from Feng Xin, despite their strong bond, as they grow older

[jackienautism]

no bc it's also been. YEARS since i was Really into dr (and i was. REALLY into dr KSJDF. yeah it's been like three years huh). but YESSS your taste is so good. my favorites if i remember correctly were uhhhh hina and sayaka from thh for SURE. there were a bunch more who i liked but those two were the ones i ended up being not normal at all about. and then AKANE akane was like. i loved akane. AND YESSS sonia nevermind the character of ALL time. i remember i liked hajime a lot too i think he was my favorite protag. and i really enjoyed gundham!! sdr2 was probably my favorite cast on average, i enjoyed them all a lot with like one or two notable exceptions. and then with v3 my favorites were miu tenko and angie because i love widely hated female characters lol nobody got those three like i did i was in the trenches doing deep character analysis i tell you

ALSO. nekomaru most mentally stable dr character truther!! i am also usually All Girls but i think about hypothetical nekomaru nagito dynamic semi regularly because putting the most mentally stable and one of the most mentally. not. stable characters next to each other yields extremely funny dynamics..

i also put a LOT of thought into celeste sayaka dynamics like it's about the fronts we put up the masks we wear the performance of it all..... i will never be normal about those two ever.. man i am thinking about dr characters again this is wild.

also YESSS i love kyoko's va and i loved her as ann in p5.... speaking of which...... who are your p5 favorites.... i am a haru girlie personally. also talk to me more about va's i would love to hear about va's...

sorrry for the late response, im gonna answer the rest of my asks in the next little bit :]

youand me🤝🤝 i was huge in DR during the second half of ? 2020 and it came to be such a Big hyperfixation. i CANT believe it's been 3 years. i just can't. BUT THANK YOU!!!!! THAT MEANS A LOT 2 ME HEHE i am pretty much a fan of all the characters in one way or another though... except for the one that starts w/ k and ends in okichi LOL...

HINA AND SAYAKA ARE SUCHU GOOD CHOICES FOR SUUURE sayaka is just incredibly interesting (despite the amount of screentime she got) and aoi is such a genuine sweetheart, i lvoe them both. AKANE IS ALSO SUCH A GOOD CHOICE, its amazing all this girl has gone through and yet shes still one of the cheeriest characters. and i jsut love how like. how she is with the people she cares about. PLUS HER RELATIONSHIP W/ SONIA IS SOOO CUTE... i specifically remember liking their lil interactions during one of the ? last trials. hajime best protag is also a very good choice, i remembner rly likking his personality and stugff.. plus i loved his voice as well lkldngd you're def not alone in loving the sdr2 cast in its entirety! which im sure you're aware of. im kind of interested to hear who your 1 or 2 exceptions were though (eyeballs)AND OOO A GOOD BATCH FOR V3... i of course cant say much in depth since i havent played the third game but GOSH... i can def say now that both tenko and angie esp deserved sooooooo SOOOOO mcuh better... i hate what kodaka did to them. im super happy all 3 of them had such a huge fan behind them though!!!!!

YESSSS GLAD ITS AGREED UPON and GOSH GOSH ive def seen nekomaru and nagito once or twice before and that seems HILARIOUS. i think theyd balance each out well... since obv nagito's whole thing is self deprecation and whatnot and nekomaru's whole thing is pumping others up and cheering for them right? i think in the end nekomaru wpuld help nagito work on that part of himself

IVE THOUGHT ABT A CELESTE AND SAYAKA DYNAMIC BEFORE 2 OOUGH i also rtemember adding like.... kyoko into the mix for some reason... i cant remmeber exactlt why holdon. ok....... i beleive it has something to do w/ all of three of them concealing their "true" selves for like.all of their lives... and i find that sooo interesting bc they all seem so different and yet. emotional / emotions wise. theyre so very similar.concealing certain aspects of themselves to an extreme degree? being shit w/ regulating their emotions? yeah. sorry for going off topic but YES sayaka / celeste is so good...... itd genuinely be a great like. contrast / balance. someone whos Mostly in touch w/ their feelings paired with someone who literally hides themself for a living? amazing. does any fo this make sense i hope it does my bad its been a while since i thought abt DR characters too DJKGDN cant believe this shit

ANN MYBELOVED !!!!! ann will always be such a fave.. like of all time i think.... ia lso rly like shiho. but. ok. ill be real i havent played the entirety of p5 (the most ive gotten to is the middle of ann's arc) so i dont know just yet if i would enjoy any of the other phantom thieves / characters yk... ia slo rly like ryuji so far ! haru seems like an awesome choice though . lvoe how fucking violent she is, girlboss

HEHE OK. VAS. THANK YOU. sure you already know but erika harlacher voices both kyoko and kaede... and shihos va, christine marie cabanos, also voices chiaki / himiko i believe. and sean chiplock (taka) voices mishima! for the rest of the phantom thieves though... max mittelman voices ryuji, xanthe huynh haru, FORGOT ERICA LINDBECK VOICED FUTABA..... pretty sure shes the current barbie, and kotoko! cherami leigh is makoto, who also voices komaru! and ofc matthew mercer as yusuke... who also voices that fuck face haiji and also leon in re6... robbie daymond voices goro. cassandra lee morris voices morgana! and also hina and angie i believe....

as for DR its like. a good majority have voiced 2 characters atleast. off the top of my heeeeead... lucien dodge voices both hifumi and kiibo. and im pretty sure hes dating (engaged to?) erica mendez, who voices maki. marieve herington as celeste is still fr one of my fave performances like ever in a video game.. amanda celine miller voices both toko and junko! ill stgop for now but the overlap between danganronpa persona and fire emblem is so funny. i get that like theres only reallty a handful in this industry but im pretty sure almost every single VA has been in fire emblem heroes

AND SPEAKING OF VAS!!!! brenda song also voices anne in amphibia :] whihc i like is real cool

THANK YOU FOR TALKING W/ ME.... I REALLY APPRECIATE IT!!!!!

[skrunksthatwunk]

that's true, and pretty good context!! "bad" mightve been too harsh for how i view him. i guess perhaps it's less that he himself was bad rep and more that he contributes to an overall trend of villains being more likely to be mentally ill and DID specifically being used as a sort of twist/gimmick (i.e. psycho) within them.

while explained, his plurality is a choice i feel largely comes out of nowhere for the sake of shaking up the final fight (effectively giving sensui a couple power boosts), because his other identities aren't present (to my memory) in other interactions preceding this, and we never really learn about at least three of them. they kinda mostly amounted to new fighting styles/abilities (kazuya's gun arm, shinobu's sacred energy), with the other identities (other than naru, briefly) left completely untouched. it reads as a little gimmicky to me. at the very least it's a loss of potential, though focusing a lot of time to fleshing out the identities and their dynamics, triggers, etc might have been too time consuming and distracted from the main plot.

(i would argue it's a topic worth exploring deeply if you introduce it in the first place due to its complex and often misunderstood nature (esp at the time), but that's just me. plus, i expect some of this suddenness may come from the pressures and spontaneity of the manga's serialized release format (though i haven't read the it so his depiction there isn't something i can speak on), but my point about discretion still stands in that case, i think. you pick up a cracked egg, you've gotta set it down gently. you pick a loaded/demonized topic, you've got to treat it with care, especially if you're an outsider. togashi didn't have to give sensui DID, after all. so to whip it out near the end for a power up or a cool scene ties its worth and presence to theatrics, the spectacle of DID (the different voices and powers, the silent and ominous switches, the tragic backstory, etc) to some extent, which feels gimmicky and somewhat voyeuristic imo, even if it was more accurate or flattering than what was normal for the time. but again, a lot of that's me trying to explain a kneejerk reaction on my part as someone without DID, so that's limited anyway).

sensui has important nuance, but to the lay audience, he's still a scary DID guy we're supposed to beat up, and some people are only going to take that away, even more so given the ill-informed climate of the time/setting. that doesn't negate the nuance ofc, but i don't think that effect should be completely ignored either, if the context is to be taken into account.

good rep overall as we understand it today vs good rep for the time is different, and an important distinction i didn't make in the first one. i think there's room for both the original and retrospective views here.

(a weird comparison I'm more familiar with might be "bury your gays" victims in 20th century lit/film. some of that rep was important and groundbreaking for the time, but nowadays we know we can do better, and that the tropes that formed out of those limited representations can be harmful. queer characters deserve to survive and live happily, and characters with DID deserve to be more than villains and cool power-ups. in sensui's case, it's largely a trope done well, but it still contributes to a pre and post-existing pile of bs for said people).

basically i agree that sensui was unusually good DID rep for the time, but i think he still falls into some of the negative trends we've seen in DID rep across the years

so sensui was bad DID rep but i will say that at least it wasnt the DID that made him a bad guy. it was a (human, in character) trauma response and there wasnt any like,, evil alter behind everything. like nah thats not the problem the whole system is down to end humanity. group project

[polyamorousmood]

My partner and i recently had a talk about polyamory stuff and like, we both agree that its just the thing for us. So some time they told me they had a requited crush, but of course thry wanted to ask me if its ok first and all that, which i said yes to because it really genuinely is!

But, i do get a little bit jealous and stuff, do you know like, ways to deal with it? Im sorry if this isnt the right spot to ask, im just a lil new to some of this and i also talked to them about my being a bit jealous sometimes, but im also afraid of coming off as like, pushy and whiny

Oh my gosh I'm so happy for all three of you! 🥰 And I'm sure you're really happy for your partner, but its still a big step, especially the first time! Its totally okay for you to have some mixed feelings and take some time to figure things out in a way that works for you all 💟

I do have some ways to help deal with jealousy I've found, and I encourage followers to weigh in too. Buckle up, cause I give long answers😅

Talk about it.🗣️ And you did! So you're already doing good! This is really stock advice, you'll hear it from any poly person you talk to, but that's because it really is that important. I feel like sometimes we just say "talk about it" as though that'll solve the problem though. It won't always solve the problem. Don't expect it to 100% solve it. There's more to it than just talking. I have a lot of thoughts on how to talk about things productively, so those will go below the cut.

Know your feelings really well.🧠 Metaphorically engage with them as you would a cat that doesn't know whether to trust you yet: be gentle, be curious, don't get upset with them for not reacting how you'd like. Try to observe the feeling from an outside perspective rather than sitting in the feeling and reacting to it. There's a lot of information on being mindful of your feelings available with a quick google, so I won't go into it any further than that, but you have to really know your feelings to be able to talk about them and to be able to know what exactly you need to work on (and what you may need to ask of your partner).

Be okay with feeling unpleasant feelings sometimes.😕 That's a lot easier said than done, and it'll take some practice. Over little twinges of jealousy, practice saying "ah, that's not nice. But no biggie. 🤷" and moving on. For bigger bouts of jealousy, it'll be harder, but the same method of acknowledging how you're feeling but not letting it rule you is still helpful. On that note..

Practice self-soothing.🌱 Your partner should be willing to help you with your emotions, but they are, at the end of the day, your responsibility. Say to yourself, out loud if you need to, what the "problem" is and an affirmation for yourself: "I am feeling jealous because they're having fun with [crush] without me, but they still love me and want to hang out with me, too." Say it a few times. Depending on how much it bothers you, it may help you to make a list of things that are special between you and your partner, or a collection of affection your partner has expressed to you for you to review when you're upset by your jealousy.

Distract yourself.🤹 Of course you're gonna feel like shit if your partner is out bowling and making out with someone but you're sitting at home, staring at the wall, feeling sorry for yourself and waiting for them to come back. Do a hobby, arrange to see friends at the same time, treat yourself to a dinner you like but you rarely have because your partner hates it, try something new. Make it into a positive time for you too.

Get reasonable accommodations from your partner.🤝 This will tie closely into talking it out, and this is harder to give definitives on because so much is going to hinge on what your partner is comfortable with and what exactly your situation is, but its totally fair of you to at least ask certain things not get mentioned if you know they'll make you more jealous than you can handle, for example, or you can ask for occasional reassurance they don't want to de-escalate the relationship. Your partner may not be able/willing to make every accommodation you ask for

With that in mind, back to talking about talking

"Talk about it" is near-useless advice if the conversation isn't mutually respectful and productive. What that looks like for you and your partner, you know better than I do, so please remember this is general advice and may need a good bit of tweaking to fit in your relationship. But in general, when I say "talk things through with your partner," that includes:

You and your partner should both enter the discussion from a place of non-judgement and (unless someone has crossed a previously established boundary) non-blame.

You and your partner should both understand what is happening with the discussion. Do you want to explore solutions, ask for a change, or just vent?

Part of that understanding, in a healthy relationship, will be that its you and your partner vs the problem, not you vs them.

Things should be allowed to change. Your feelings and the situation will evolve. You both need to be allowed to say "I thought this would work, but it isn't, I need to revisit this."

Not hiding shit. Even if you're not sure how you feel or what you need, say that.

Self-awareness enough to have that conversation while adhering to all the other points. Being about to say things like "I know this isn't what you're meaning, but I feel like..." or "I understood it this way, was I mistaken" instead of shit like "You make me feel" or "That's not what you said before." Classify your emotions appropriately.

Classifying your emotions appropriately. Ties in with the previous point, but don't let knee-jerk reactions dominate your end of things. Don't let your partner's knee-jerk reactions get to you more than they should.

Assumption of good faith. Get used to saying "Can you clarify what you mean by that/why you think that?" Literally. Say it 10 times aloud right now. Miscommunications happen. If your partner says something wildly out of character or hurtful, take a breath, assume there's a misunderstanding, clarify that misunderstanding. If you sincerely believe your partner would try to fuck you over in anything, leave them now. If you don't believe that, don't act like you'd think that when things get tough

Hear each other out. Self-explanatory, ties in with several other points, important enough to mention again.

And of course, all of these things go both ways. No matter how well you handle things, if your partner isn't assuming good faith, you can only get so far, and vice-versa.

That's a lot, so you can see how its easy to breeze past that and just say "talk it through." It sounds like you and your partner have a pretty solid foundation in most if not all of these (at least I hope so!💖), so hopefully some of those feel obvious, but not everyone has that! Some people "talk about things" by playing the blame game and then are confused why nothing improves, so I wanted to cover my basics.

So what does that look like in practice? Well, tumblr ask limitations mean I don't know enough about your relationship dynamic or what's bothering you to say with certainty, so I'm going to make up a more specific example based on what I got, and trust you to translate it as you see fit to your life 👍Okay cool

In this scenario, you've gotten used to spending most of your time with your partner by default. So you've already told your partner you're feeling jealous (again, that's really good!) Hopefully they reassured you they love you and stuff. After examining your feelings for a bit, you determine that while you're happy your partner is happy with this new person, you're jealous of that new relationship energy and feeling sidelined. Its hard to be away from your partner, and you dislike how much time they spend texting their crush even when its just the two of you.

You go to your partner and say, "I'm really happy you and your crush seem to be going well, but I am struggling with getting less of your attention. I'd like to discuss what we can do to make this easier on me." Partner: Yeah, of course, what's up? You: I got really used to doing everything with you, so its a hard adjustment having you away. I think it'll be easier if I have something to do while you're out, so I was thinking about trying to set up a weekly board game night with [group of friends], and hopefully that could be 'you guys's time'. Your partner takes a second to process what you said, before explaining "Crush's work schedule isn't consistent enough to commit for sure to one day a week, and if things keep going well I'll probably want to see them more than that anyway. Having said that, I'm happy to make that Crush's and I's date night when the scheduling works out, but I still want to see them when it doesn't." You nod, that's disappointing but it makes sense. "Yeah, okay. When I talk to [friends], I'll ask about making it a floating game night and maybe we can all schedule together if that's okay?" Partner: Yeah, if your friends can be flexible, that's fine with me, but if that doesn't work out, I still want to be able to see Crush on my own terms. You: That's fair. I think it will still help even if it only works out half the time anyway. Can we give it a few weeks and see how it goes and check back in? Partner: Yeah, sure. Thanks for talking to me about things You: There's one more thing, too. I'm really glad you're so invested in Crush and that you feel comfortable enough in our relationship to text them around me, but it can be a bit much sometimes. I'm not really sure how to fix it because I don't feel its fair of me to be able to demand you stop talking to them whenever I want, but I don't think I can handle it all the time either. Your partner doesn't have an answer either, and you both agree to give it some more thought and come back to it later. After a couple days your partner asks, "Would it help if we have some time set aside that's just for us? Where I don't text Crush and we watch a movie or something?" You: yeah, that sounds really nice... I think that'd be a big relief to me and help me feel special and important to you. Which I know I am, but like, it'd help me feel it more. How often would you be willing to do that? Partner: [thinks a minute] Once a week sounds fair? That's how often I'm having special time with Crush, too. You: That is fair, but... :/ I had hoped to be a little bit higher priority than Crush still. Could I at least be able to like, ask for your attention outside of that time for even just for like 15-20 minutes when its really bothering me? Partner: You knew I didn't really want to prioritize my relationships formally, plus, I thought we agreed it wasn't fair for you to tell me to stop just whenever? That's not really what you had meant, and you ask your partner for a second to collect your thoughts before saying, "I don't want to be able to do it all the time, I just-- If I need to talk to you about something really important or I'm having a really hard day and need some extra affection, I just want to be sure that's not going to cause problems." Partner: Have I not been doing a good job of that anyway? I had my phone away when you were talking about that stuff with your family the other day. Like, I still care about you, and I'm not going to be texting them while you're having a breakdown. You: You know, yeah, you have, sorry. I think that was just an anxiety creeping up on me. Thank you for pointing out it wasn't a reasonable one. And then you kiss!!1!

That last step isn't necessary, but its nice, in my experience. Obviously, this isn't going to be the whole picture. You'll see how you and your partner feels after you implement the changes. And of course, there are a lot of other solutions everyone could have come to and a lot of reactions there could have been.

I want to draw attention to some of the ways some of the numbered items earlier got implemented, just so we're extra clear. You started the conversation by establishing clear expectations on what was happening, and made it clear you didn't blame them for your feelings and were wiling to contribute to a solution (Note: in a relationship where this is common, less formal check-ins probably don't require so much of a disclaimer, but I think its good practice to still do when you're doing A Big Thing). Your partner also didn’t blame you for getting jealous, while still not compromising on things that were important to them. You allowed for the fact you weren't certain how things would make you feel and future adjustments might be necessary when you agreed to check in after a few weeks. Both partners took time to think things over when needed to avoid knee-jerk reactions. You classified emotions appropriately by realizing something at the end was a baseless anxiety instead of an actual problem.

Wow this got long! If you’re still around, I hope this was helpful! 😆 Feel free to send follow up questions if you have them, and let me know how it works out!

[hanafubukki]

YESS (๑•̀ㅂ•́)و✧ʸᴱˢ SURELY I WILL BE VERY HAPPY WITH MORE VIL CONTENTS.

And protect Yuu at all cost ୧( ಠ Д ಠ )୨

YOU'RE FIGHT BECAUSE OF THE LESSON LINES I OVERTHINKING A LOT TOO, though my tiny brain has no idea what will happened in the future. (　；∀；)

And first forgive me with lots of typo I'm a fast typer and my auto correct can be annoying at times to times (∩´﹏`∩)

And if you think about it Lilia often says something about he often forget things.. Is that perhaps leads to something..?

AND ACE BETRAYAL THEORY IS JUST-

NO YANA SENSEI PLEASE NOO ｡･ﾟ･(ﾉД｀)･ﾟ･｡

But.. Almost all of the first year got their UM.. How if Ace felt useless because of it? OH GOD ANOTHER GUY WHO FELT USELESS (´；д；`)

(Yuu and Ace crying together in the corner゜:(つд⊂):゜。)

And Malleus is very powerfull he could stop time and control lots of things. Time loop theory is a very possible option for future chapter. AND WHO'S READY FOR DIASOMNIA CONTENT AND SSR DORM CARDS?? ( ✧Д✧) WE NEED THEM!! KYAAA I'M SO HYPED UP FOR FUTURE CHAPTER (*≧∀≦*)

Though the Possiblity of chapter 7 will come so late like chapter 6.. (◞ ‸ ◟ㆀ)

But my feeling just told me that in chapter 7 we may have something to di with Mickey. And maybe realized more about all of the dreams they had has a meaning in it.

And do you remember when Yuu has a vision of seeing the Beautifull Queen poisining an apple? What if in next Ignhyde part Yuu will have another vision? (〇o〇；)

And let's hope no Ace betrayal, I love Ace and Deuce so no betrayal (•ˋ _ ˊ•)

OH and what do you think while we wait for chapter 7 what kind of events will come? Personally I really want some more RSA and Diasomnia content ( ͡≖ ل͜ ͡≖)

How about you? o(〃＾▽＾〃)o

YEESS lets gooo 🤝🤝🤝!! we can make Vil happy and protect Yuu at the same time 🔪👏

ksjlkjdkldjskdl no worries! don’t worry at all about any typos or anything 👏👏 You have nothing to be forgiven for ☺️🌺 I do the same thing. I get so excited replying and then make a bunch of typos too jsdjkjskdk so, no worries! you’re in good company ☺️👏

Me too, all their lesson lines has me paranoid and im like....what could this mean???? jkljddkjkllkjk and Lila does, doesn't he? 🤔🤔 I always wondered if maybe it was because he’s so old and the memories kind of get jumbled or something 🤔🤔 but maybe the time loop has some kind of influence? I think one of his lines also mentioned about he hates not finding things 🤔🤔🤔 hmmm that would add onto that mystery. YANA SENSEI LET ME INTO YOUR BRAIN REAL QUICK PLEASE 

I WILL BE SO HURT IF THAT THEORY IS TRUE. ILL GET MY ACE NEDOROID AND JUST SHAKE HIM. LIKE WHYYYYY YOU DOOFUS WHYY??? 😭😭😭 But you know, I cant help but wonder. what if Ace already has his? like, before school started. because Jack already had his and I wouldn't be surprised if sebek has his either. Maybe that's how ace can be so tricky and manipulative? 🤔🤔 I’ll feel really sad if he feels useless 😭😭😭 Deuce gets to punch ace if he tries anything stupid 😤😤

YEESSS PLEASE WE NEED DIASOMNIA CONTENT. WE ARE BEGGING HERE. SJKHJHJSDHJJHKK GIVE IT TO USSS. A PERFECT TIME WOULD BE FOR THIS FAIRY GALA RERUN. FAIRY GALA MALLEUS PLEEEAAASSSEE OR ANY DIASOMNIA JSDJKFNJKDNS

Yeah 😭 I notice how late chapter 5 took to finish and then chapter 6 was almost 6-8 months later and who knows how long it will take to finish and with twst tendencies to leave us on a cliffhanger its going to hurt 😭

now that you mention mickey again, omg, have you seen the post about how Lilia could be chernabog?!?!?! what if that's how mickey comes into play?? and he helps beat Lilia or maybe Mickey mentions the time loop?? I wouldn't be surprised if we see a vision next part, I wonder which ones they'll do? maybe the titans? or the river of styx? 

I kind of hope that Yuu makes a connection that they are in a Disney world or something, they have so many witty comebacks in the eng version lmfaooo chapter 4′s “its like a whole new world” ended me sjdijdkhkhew

YES! I agree! we need more diasomnia events , and an event where they actually do something or have a bigger role. they desperately need it. would mind a fairy gala with diasomnia. oh! I would forever be happy if we have a dance with the stars part 2! I would love that! and maybe somehow sprinkle in other characters like RSA popping up, I want to meet rielle or Neige again! or Cheyna, because he has literally been gone since chapter 1. 

I kind of doubt we’ll get a diasomnia home event so I would love to go to afterglow Savanah or pyroxene. mainly because I want to see Cheka again and make leona suffer lolol but also would love to meet Vil’s father or other family characters too.

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ok Im adding something just because I kinda agree with your take but don’t really vibe w how you detailed some stuff,

“I'm telling you no sensible gay person cares about the word f/g spelled out with scrabble letters” while neither I nor my friends were deeply angry/hurt/wtvr w this situation I understand that we represent less than 1% of the world’s population, therefore, our opinions won’t always match with some people and how they feel, however, I wouldn't diminish people who were hurt by the situation.

Slurs don’t really need to be directed to someone in order to be hurtful, that's how it works, and that's how systemic violence also works. So I wouldn't say it's not sensible to be angry about it yk.

I also take it you're referring to Twitter because as far as Ive seen nobody in here is really making a big deal out of what happened (rather the contrary, they're mostly defending him), and I would add that Twitter isn't the best source to bring because half of the people there just want to seem “woke” going out of their ways to blame cole while ignoring open (and recent!) racism and homophobia from other players. so yup, you will see some people saying “I'm queer and I didn't like that, therefore, he should be canceled” which is wrong but you will also see people saying “I'm queer, and I'm not bothered by it, therefore, you shouldn't” which is also wrong.

as a twenty yo black queer, I’ve seen a handful my whole life, but I like to think that nobody is entitled to feel the same way about something just because I may have more experience yk. feelings work differently and that's ok.

as corwin added, I wouldn't go out of my way to defend him nor blame him, i's up to people’s feelings and morals what they're gonna do w that info, that's why I wouldn't push and say that how people feel isn't reasonable (I’m not living their life nor I know what they went through outside the online world).

Adding: I 100% agree when you say that this shouldn't dictate how we feel irl, usually people get really hurt when they put those guys on a pedestal, and that would be a good tip: don’t expect them to be perfect (cuz nobody is tbh), but feel free to “unstan” or whatever, if they do something that to you, is hurtful.

What he did was a homophobic joke, it is wrong, and while I wouldn't call him a homophobe and make a monster out of him (esp if we consider the context), I support those who don't wanna talk about it anymore.

that being said, if I were some ppl I would direct my energy to different stuff, especially if you're trying to be an ally (aka you're not lgbtqia+) you can talk about it (cc situation), but make sure you're not ignoring what's being blatantly homophobic around the league. we can use your support on the violence that's happening now 🤎

other than that, good take, honey 🤝❤️ thank you for sharing it w us

people's hatred of Tampa is so overwhelming and blinding that not only did they all forget that Gally went on record saying something transphobic, as well as making a racist remark about a former teammate of his, they also conveniently forgot how their miniature beloved Cole Caufield got caught doing something homophobic in the past.

maybe this is a hot take but like as a gay person i don't care about cole caufield holding some scrabble letters. like if you're gonna cancel every nhler that has done something vaguely homophobic then the whole leage is gone and no one can watch hockey anymore. and the type of people who usually like. throw a fit i guess over this meaningless acts of "homophobia" aren't actually gay or are too young to understand that people are human and you can consume problematic media, though i don't think cole is problematic anyways. it's obvious when people's only interaction with queer people has been on the internet, and i'm telling you no sensible gay person cares about the word f/g spelled out with scrabble letters. like all in all, ultimately there are more things to be worrried about, and calling this homophobia and calling cole homophobic is honestly laughable.

on that note though like. parasocial relationships ppl. especially with these ntdp/college hockey boys, they're not going to live up to your dream boy expectation and 9 times out of 10 then will be huge cunts. if you're losing your mind over this insequential thing then please for the love of god just like. seperate yourself from the internet for a bit. tumblr does not affect your real life, and letting menial things like who gets cancelled today or whatever the fuck dictate your emotions is not healthy

also i'm rooting for the habs this series so i also hate tampa ❤️