#some of y’all have very obvious fatphobia

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fat lesbians are so perfect please screw off if you think otherwise

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how i sleep at night knowing my chest is naturally bone-flat, i don't have any disgusting lumps of fat on my chest AT ALL and all the p00ners get scars on their chests to imitate me, only to end up failing miserably and looking like a grotesque parody of my reality:

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putting the obvious anti-transmasculinity aside because i think it speaks for itself, i’d just like to point out the fatphobia (and general wrongness) of acting like “bone-flat” is the ideal and no real men have fat on their chests. like, i hate to break this to you but my very cis dad has a bigger chest than me now, as does pretty much every other cis man in my family, because it’s completely normal for cis men to have fat on their chests and the existence of that fat is not disgusting. “bone-flat” shouldn’t be the ideal for like…pretty much any part of the body because having some degree of muscle and fat tissue to pad out your skeleton is literally just part of having a body. if you really think having any fat whatsoever on a given part of your body is disgusting, i genuinely fear for your well-being because that’s…not good.

also, y’all really have to chill with the emojis if you want anyone to even remotely consider taking you say seriously. i refuse to believe you don’t see how silly it makes you look. you must know we’re all just laughing at you.

[iskierka]

sometimes people on here say “she could do so much better than him” or talk about an “ugly” man when what they mean is that the guy is fat and I just wanna say: cut that shit out

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This isn’t phrased perf because I’m tired but I do think in all these conversations about recognizing coding/hurtful tropes/bad narratives/ect y’all need to like start doing it for the disabled community too we can’t be the only ones who see ableism in media and point it out and I’m not talking about freaking Batman guys. Like learn the coding, learn any disability activism theories, learn what narratives harm us if you can do days of research to accuse every kids cartoon on the planet of q bait you can like spend two minutes online and get that bad guys with facial scars = bad. Like it’s not hard guys

Anyway a short very short list of like the most basic coding and narratives and just really general guidelines guys

Any and yes I mean any #quirky character, comedic relief, or airheaded character is coded to some degree as autistic or adhd for obvious reasons it’s not always good

Genuinely most “stupid” characters are coding with some form of learning disabilities

Characters who have trouble moving, easily tired, often in pain pls give em an aide

Odd, slow, or simple were all words to convey the character as some form of disabled in literature up until frankly now guys they still do it

Literally any fatphobia is ableism

Character talks too much? Fidgets? Has trouble paying attention? My dude that’s adhd

Also like obv autistic/ ocd detective trope here

Literally most non human characters are coded as Nd/ect famously. Spock

Facial scars? Sexy. Visible scarring only on the bad guys? Rancid ableist move on yes this is @ the ww movie

Literally anything that portrays a scarred character as inherently scary or villainous

Evil mental ward patients (yes mental wards have a history and currently are ableist but there’s a difference between a disabled person talking about it and abled people just villainizing the whole thing)

Cures yes almost any cure narratives is bad there’s a thin line with chronically ill characters as a community sims of them obviously do want to be cured but outside of that any narrative with physically disabled people is in fact ableist

Magical disabilities (nuance here)

Pls just learn to let blind characters be blind none of you are Garrett from Quest from Camelot none of you will be Garrett from quest from Camelot pls stop trying

Let us talk about wanting more characters and! Let us be critical of the characters we have. Yes we know Toph exists

Literally when we say x is ableist or y is z coded just listen to us it’s not hard no ones mad at you for not knowing

When physically disabled people are talking you have to listen yes even if you have depression physically disabled people get to talk about physically disabled specific ableism too just as much as you get to talk nd specific ableism

Cr/pple is a physically disabled specific slur don’t use it to explain your depression or your economy

Mentally Ill people aren’t inherently violent if that’s the plot of the story yeah it’s ableist

Mental age is an ableist concept

If your disabled character is #independent because just because you’re disabled you don’t need to rely on anyone? Yeah that’s ableist

Yeah disabled people sometimes do need constant care and help we’re people god

Low independence people are no more childish than any adult

If you’re disabled character can be independent that’s great just don’t insult every other disabled person to do it

Asthma is not just using an inhaler after recess pls just do five minutes of research here

Same with diabetes just like. Five minutes

If you’re confused talk to disabled people ( who are cool w being asked) but remember we are not a monolith and we have different comfort levels ect

Yes we can have s/o’s who in some level take care of us because relationships are about taking care of each other no they aren’t our caregiver (all the time this is when nuance happens) if you’re writing that dynamic just run it by a sensitivity reader literally it’s not hard dhfhdggg I have an aunt who takes care of her husband and an uncle who hired a nurse both these things are common just like. Use nuance. Don’t infantize. Gfhdgdhdgdyf

Dwarfism isn’t a joke neither is gigantism

Unless you’re disabled generally speaking none of it’s a joke honestly

That’s just off the top of my head this isn’t everything or even close but it’s like half of the bare minimum do some research y’all r annoying

Ok to rb / add on no clowning unless you’re actually funny

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159 notes • Posted 2021-04-09 13:37:09 GMT

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Every time I see a “guys jk rowling is a transphobe and we know that now but acting like it was obvious in her work is a false narrative” I am so frustratingly conflicted because on the one hand it is true. Most of the notable transphobic tropes are minute details that certainly didn’t stand out to me at the time, especially as a child, and acting like it was always an inherent part of her work and motivations probably neglects a very relevant timeline of radicalization. I don’t think saying “oh she’s always been transphobic you could have seen it in the books if you paid attention” is very helpful analysis.

That being said people of color have been telling you she was racist since the books first came out, and nobody listened. Like that shit was textual, but you couldn’t get a white fan to stop talking about hogwarts houses long enough for it to matter to them. People were pointing out explicit racism, fatphobia, xenophobia in those books from the very beginning and it did not stop it from becoming the largest book series ever, or from white fans telling the rest of us we were interpreting it in bad faith.

So I can’t help wondering, like. If someone had noticed, if there were young trans fans seeing themselves villainized, like. Would they have felt like bringing it up? Or would they have felt like they didn’t have enough “evidence” for a legitimate interpretation? Were there enough fans at the time willing to consider it a concern worth having? Or would it have been easier to shrug it off, keep the criticism to corners of the internet where people can’t look back on it?

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Hey can I just say it really fucks me up when people out here act like tuberculosis is some kind of extinct romantic victorian disease.

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If this cruella spin off is just about her being evil and bad but also sexy I’ll enjoy it. However because we live in hell I look forward to seeing y’all in two months for “the dogs were an acceptable sacrifice” discourse

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Happy new year

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my rant on why twink culture is toxic af

alright so I’m not in the same angsty mood I was when I first mentioned twink culture being bad, but all my points still stand so I’ll explain them yet, they just might not be as organized as they could have been and I hope y’all will bear with me anyways Okay! so! twink culture. What is a twink? Yes, my capitalization will vary a lot throughout this, probably, maybe. Anyway, a twink is a guy who is skinny and young looking, and most of the time, the stereotypical twink is white. This very loose “definition” is based on a mix of my observations, other people’s input, articles, urban dictionary, and other random sources - so far, I don’t think I’ve gotten the gist wrong. 

Twink culture is focused on being skinny and having youthful looks. That on its own should be enough, but apparently it’s not, so I’ll explain a bit. First, a whole subculture set on being skinny in order to be found appealing? isn’t this something we’ve all been trying to combat?? if skinny is your requirement for a guy to be attractive, you need to reassess yourself. the whole freaking culture is teaching people, especially youth like myself, that you need to be skinny to be attractive, that you can’t be fat and you can’t be a little thicker and that skinny = good, anything else = bad. I don’t know how to say this any other way except it is blatant fatphobia culture at work. this is coming from a skinny underweight kid, by the way. this isn’t me crying over “not being good enough.” 

Second, youthful looks. Is this one a surprise? nope, neither was the last one though. Yet another lgbtq+ generation is being raised to have this toxic mentality. You don’t have to be a twink to be gay, sure, but don’t you think idealizing this one specific body type is harmful? can’t you see it? all the mlm teens thinking they’ve got to be slimmer, they’ve got to lose some weight, they’ve got to eat less? all because they want to be attractive? this is real, this isn’t just hot guys on the internet. sorry, I guess I’m still on the skinny thing. it’s pretty upsetting once you see it, y’know. I can tell you now that this is my least succinct rant ever oop. anyway, youth itself is being put on a pedestal as it is - “high school/college are the best years of your life” “it only goes downhill from here” and of course, every birthday after 25 is more and more shameful. 

If you don’t understand (or rather, see) society’s obsession with being young already, I’m not going to explain that to you. I also won’t be explaining the gross culture of men dating far younger women, and how yes, the queer community does the same thing and it’s disgusting. if you don’t see the gross and predatory age gaps, I’m not gonna bother telling you about it. that’s not the whole point of this post, I guess. it’s just tying in the points of toxicity within twink culture, kinda just pointing stuff out.

Now onto a couple other points. One being, you guessed it, ~white supremacy~. or racism, that too. I’m white, so I can’t speak for any people of color, but I can say that as a white guy who also happens to be skinny, it seems super easy to fit into twink criteria. I’ve also seen some men/boys of color claim to be twinks, and while I think that’s great that they (or you, perhaps) have pushed the boundaries, I do still think there’s an issue here, ‘cause the definition of a twink is still white. it’s always about white guys, it’s right there in the theorized origins of twink, whether it be a twinkie being pale/filled with cream or whatever, or t.w.i.n.k. “teenage, white, into no kink” I think we can all see that that’s... not great. Again, some mlm of color have decided to be twinks anyway, and that’s great for them, but the obvious white idealization and the rest of the toxic culture still exists. 

I don’t really have a clear and concise argument for this, but another thing to mention is that a commonly heard preference is twinks being hairless? as in, shaving everything or whatever. and that’s... well, we could get into misogyny and pedo stuff, and again with the loving “youthful looks” all over in society, *cough cough* hairless is a pre-pubescent trait oop (I can see it as a preference but again, making a trait for a whole subset of people in the community? idk maybe that’s just me being weird with this one). yet another stupid beauty standard put on young guys tho

Something I read a bit about was how twinks are kind of just “dumb bottoms” or something? and that it feeds into anti-bottom and feminine culture and all of that, which ultimately probably leads back go misogyny and gender roles and that shabang that I don’t know well enough to explain (feel free to do so if you can put words together better than me right now, I’d love to hear it). 

As a (skinny, white) trans guy, it’s easy to want to be a part of this culture. it’d be so easy, right? I automatically look younger without T, and I’m literally as skinny as it gets - I could be a twink if I wanted to, and then I’d “fit in” with cis gay culture (which is an issue a lot of us mlm trans guys face, the whole fear of being rejected by a cis guy for not being “male enough”). I get it if this is hard to be told. but we can’t just use our privilege like this, especially without acknowledging all the toxic aspects to it. besides, we won’t all look young forever. you can’t look like a twink forever. it will outgrow you, and you will be left with the rest of the people who were never allowed in. 

That’s about all I can personally say in my messy summarization, but here are some links that helped me 1. feel confident enough to put this take out there after a year of wondering if I was just alone in my thinking and 2. organize my thoughts a little better (well, a week ago when I first made a post, at least):

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/gay-culture-twink-grindr-body-image-eating-disorders-a8360001.html

https://thoughtcatalog.com/brett-nolan/2018/05/the-eternal-age-of-the-twink/

https://johnsovec.com/article-lgbt-issues/111-from-twink-to-troll-age-ism-in-gay-culture

https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/culture/olly-alexander-explains-why-he-doesnt-like-being-called-a-twink/

**These mostly touch on the youthful and skinny appearance aspects, just to note

if you don’t really understand or like my phrasing, BY ALL MEANS, PLEASE READ THE ARTICLES.

TL;DR? Here.

Twink culture supports:

ageism/sexualizing of youth

white supremacy/racism

fatphobia

bottom shaming

likely deep rooted misogyny

Please reblog and add your own thoughts. Do not say transphobic or random insults, they’ll just get deleted. I don’t care about your bigotry, I care about trying to learn and make our community a better place. If I’ve said something wrong, please let me know privately or in an understanding reblog lmao I really do want to learn and hear from others, I don’t mean any harm.

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oh so i watched cats yesterday...

first of all, we had to pay $16.50 for it bc it’s not available to rent anywhere bc they know this is the kinda thing people only wanna watch one time, so that’s already pretty vomit-inducing...

and you expect the cats to look awful and they do but it’s bad for so many other reasons?? it just fails in every way imaginable...

they didn’t seem to give any thought to the scale of the cats; they’re way too tiny in comparison to the people items we see them with, and the mice are then somehow way smaller to the point where they’re the size of like one cat finger?? and the cockroaches are the same size as the mice?? and that ridiculous ratio isn’t even consistent, like the props and everything are just all over the place. (how come ian mckellen’s coat had such large buttons? they can make cat-sized shoes, but not buttons? not to mention they’re still way too small to be human-sized buttons, so again, the inconsistent scaling... who makes the clothes for cats? why do some cats wear clothes inconsistently but others don’t wear clothes at all? taylor swift was completely naked except for a pair of high heels... why make a cat wear heels... have you ever met a cat! they hate wearing clothes, but shoes are even worse. not to mention she only wore them on her feet and not her hands. why do all these cats walk around on two legs, but then suddenly crawl at random times? why did that one cat hand that magician cat his hat with her mouth when she has two perfectly good hands and the cats have all been using their furless human hands to do things for the entirety of the movie??)

... nor did they seem to give any thought to how catlike these “cats” would be. in fact, it rly seemed like no one on the production crew or in the cast had ever had a cat before. or even interacted with one. or even seen one. which i know isn’t true for taylor at least, so what the hell? the way they moved veered between just regular-ass humans walking on two legs and doing ballet and shit (and do not get me started on the hiphop sequence, dear god, their animated legs moving... 🤢), and spider-man climbing up a wall only they were on the ground. neither made sense, neither were catlike. and why did some cats wear random clothing items while others wore none? some wore just shoes... jennifer or someone wore both a coat and something underneath it with neither covering her boobs at one point, so... what was the point of that outfit? what’s it doing for you at that point? and how come they didn’t give more cats colored contacts or cgi eyes?? only idris elba had cool green eyes, and everyone else just had regular human eyes, mostly just brown. i have three cats, and none of them have brown eyes. in fact, i just looked it up, and no cats have brown or black eyes. and i’m pretty sure miss white kitty victoria should have blue eyes~ (if they were blue, it wasn’t noticeable. idris elba’s eyes were an obvious, intense, clearly fake green, and i wanted more of that honestly.)

it’s so gross in multiple definitions of the word? firstly, there’s the trash scene, which... was just way grosser than it needed to be. & there’s rebel wilson eating human cockroaches, which was also very upsetting to watch and to hear the crunch,,, and the other aspect of it is the sexual energy?? which was just ever-present between every combination of characters, and actually left me confused as to who the main ship (🤮) was supposed to be for a while. why... dear god why... what the fuck were they insinuating lapping up milk in jason derulo’s number in the context of all the girls liking him...

oh that’s another thing. they made sir ian mckellen lap up water or something out of a bowl. it was completely unnecessary and added nothing to the story... so that was A Choice.

twice they had rebel wilson unzip her fucking skin to reveal a show biz outfit underneath, which is horrific enough on its own, but the way there was a huge gap between her chest and the boob cups of her dress?? it’s like okay... you already just let all the female cats have boobs and walk around naked for the entirety of the movie. but letting rebel fill in a dress is too much? that’s where you draw the line?? maybe don’t give her a dress with boob cups then!! it’s just sticking out in front of her and it looked awful... lol speaking of awful. the way they edited their ears through their hats... i’ve seen better work done in catboy edits on tumblr. and if y’all can’t do it then maybe just don’t. just consider not. doing that. it’s like they kept writing themselves into corners or not thinking things through or something. when will you learn that your actions have consequences!!!

they only had the cats show affection one way, and that was by like rubbing their faces together, and i know they did that in the musical too but god it just makes me so uncomfortable... i’d rather they just straight-up made out with their disturbingly human mouths. but it was rly confusing bc you’d see the “main” character victoria do that with her love interest (who was perhaps the most ugly hybrid... he didn’t even look like a human or a cat; he invented a new category and hopefully is the only one in that category forever), so you’re like ‘ok, this is how cats kiss’ or something. but they all do it. victoria did the same thing with dame judi dench! (i rly thought this movie was just gonna end with a big ole orgy, honestly.) so it’s not kissing, it’s more like hugging? but then we literally saw two cats hug each other with their human arms at one point i’m pretty sure... so wtf?!

jennifer hudson always had snot on her face?? like her nose was running, a lot of the time the snot would actually be on her lips, like... that’s the only way they could think of to show her emotions?? sometimes they weren’t even tears, it was literally Just Snot.

the songs weren’t fun at all. they were completely devoid of energy, so to have everyone dance to them didn’t even work or make sense. they’d pause in the middle of songs a lot (e.g. to make jokes about james corden being fat wow so funny hahaha) and ruin any momentum they might’ve otherwise had. a lot of the time they weren’t even singing so much as talking or whispering or chanting with a faint bgm playing over it.

the fatphobia, oh my god. rebel wilson and james corden’s characters only existed for the movie to make jokes about them being fat and eating a lot and have them do awful slapstick.

the main character had no personality at all and didn’t even have her all-important cat name at the end of the movie, which rly shows how much she mattered... yeah she got jennifer hudson sent up into the heavens to either be reborn or just fucking die up there bc how would they know this process actually works? but that’s it. otherwise she just got swept from side character to side character and adapted whatever traits they possessed for the duration of their song.

not only were all the cats way too sexual (i rly think watching actual straight-up porn would be less graphic and disturbing than watching whatever gross fetish this movie exists to cater to), not only did they seemingly make a cum joke (that was the only time they drank milk in the movie! when they were all trying to get with jason derulo! who, btw, is just a nasty person which made it all the more gross to watch), they also... slut-shamed jennifer hudson? and all did drugs, some against their will, in another very uncomfortable, sexually charged sequence. so like what is this movie rated actually and who is it for?? why make a children’s movie with such adult themes? but then, what adult would laugh at james corden being too heavy to get catapulted into the air (followed by him landing on his balls, because humor!)?

taylor swift can’t do a british accent.

lastly, cats have eight nipples. so, to loosely quote danny gonzalez: if you’re gonna give them boobs, at least give them the right amount of boobs.

thus ends my review. please don’t watch this dumpster fire.

(i think this gif clearly shows many of the problems i had with this movie... the sexual energy, the boob cups and shitty cgi, jason derulo... dear god make it stop.)