#some of y’all have very obvious fatphobia

[sapphic-sprite]

fat lesbians are so perfect please screw off if you think otherwise

[lycandrophile]

how i sleep at night knowing my chest is naturally bone-flat, i don't have any disgusting lumps of fat on my chest AT ALL and all the p00ners get scars on their chests to imitate me, only to end up failing miserably and looking like a grotesque parody of my reality:

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putting the obvious anti-transmasculinity aside because i think it speaks for itself, i’d just like to point out the fatphobia (and general wrongness) of acting like “bone-flat” is the ideal and no real men have fat on their chests. like, i hate to break this to you but my very cis dad has a bigger chest than me now, as does pretty much every other cis man in my family, because it’s completely normal for cis men to have fat on their chests and the existence of that fat is not disgusting. “bone-flat” shouldn’t be the ideal for like…pretty much any part of the body because having some degree of muscle and fat tissue to pad out your skeleton is literally just part of having a body. if you really think having any fat whatsoever on a given part of your body is disgusting, i genuinely fear for your well-being because that’s…not good.

also, y’all really have to chill with the emojis if you want anyone to even remotely consider taking you say seriously. i refuse to believe you don’t see how silly it makes you look. you must know we’re all just laughing at you.

[femme-enby]

Medicated, ranting, many thoughts that I can (mostly?) process.

Fatphobia & the clothing industry.

The following thoughts first started whirling this time around (not that I wasn’t already aware, but that this specific rambling has been building up since) due to a post on TikTok.

To summarize: apparently sizes are getting “bigger” allegedly due to fat people (Ex: XXS now fitting like an S) and the clothes industry “pandering” to people beyond the typical (and note, SMALL and rare) “plus size” range of clothing. This is specifically speaking on women’s clothing.

Note: I’ve always been small. I’ve had friends of widely varying sizes. I’ve been damn near a figureless 2x4, I’ve had (for my size, and based off of trying on clothes that SHOULD have fit) more curves than the average person of my size. I’ve gained weight in “odd” places for women’s clothes. I’ve either experienced the struggle of finding clothes that fit or heard in extreme detail about it and seen the struggle. I use terms like “skinny/scrawny” and “fat” instead of terminology commonly used in the fashion industry like “straight size” “plus size” “petite” for simplicities sake as well as for the fact that those terms inherently imply that there are clothes that fit that are available, when that isn’t always the case. Direct descriptions of body type/weight are not inherently “bad” or “dirty.”

Firstly: pretty much anyone who isn’t within the range of XS-XL has struggled to find clothes that fit. Downside to mass production, there is very little variation in shape & size, let alone shape adjusting based on size, or adjusting too MUCH based on expectations of the body type of folks who “need” that size.

That being said- there is a difference between “nothing is small enough to fit me well” and “nothing is big enough for me to fit into.” The obvious difference is- one of y’all is still clothed.

Being small, even w curves: clothes can easily be made to fit. Depending on your region, you can probably find a small, family run alterations shop. I’ve had formal dresses altered to fit me in width and length for like… $20 before tip. That’s insane for a dress that they gotta be mindful of things like the structure of the fabric, the sequins or design, the second skirt underneath, etc. yet there are plenty of options for “common” clothes. Needle & thread ain’t expensive, and it’s relatively easy for most able bodied folks to put a stitch in a waistband, or around the “waist” of a shirt so it fits your narrow torso better. There are tips and tricks using hairties, zip ties, shoelaces/hoodie strings, etc. these are especially useful for folks who are skinny with curves. Having to size up so your tits/ass fit? There ya go.

For small folks WITHOUT curves, or with smaller curves, lemme let y’all in on a secret- there is overlap in the smallest juniors, and even women’s clothes, and “big kid” clothes. Some folks might be thinking “tf am I supposed to do, show up at my office job with a dinosaur tee shirt?” To which I say- first, if the dress code allows it, and you like dinosaurs, why not? But SECONDLY!!! They have plain tee shirts. They have plain jeans. They have “dress clothes” for big kids, bc kids have “graduations”, weddings, funerals, presentations, and so on. There are plain colored skirts in the big girl’s section. It might be a little boxy but refer to ways to take in clothes quick and easy. (Hell, you can even use a dinner plate to take something in/give it an hourglass shape.)

Being big, regardless of curves: up to a certain point, sure someone could utilize those same minor alteration tricks I mentioned… but what if there’s literally NOTHING that fits?

Well! Some bright individual had the idea of getting it altered!

Now, that is CERTAINLY an idea, but it’s significantly harder to DIY or even get done professionally. Why? Because you have to ADD fabric. You either have to find the EXACT SAME FABRIC AND COLOR to make it as close to invisible as possible or a complimentary fabric. You then have to figure out where it would look best/be the least noticeable to add this extra fabric in. This costs significantly more money than simply taking something in, whether you’re DIY or paying for the service.

The fact of the matter is- firstly, it’s much more accessible in a sense to have to adapt clothes to a smaller size, than a larger size. Secondly- the smaller you are, the more options you have.

For the scrawny folks who might feel some type of way, be feeling overlooked… I’m going to be kind and compassionate, and let you know, I get it. I’ve tried on 00 jeans back when I was in my mid teens and they’ve been too big. I’ve struggled to find shirts that fit me how they seemed to fit everyone else. I’ve also had jeans that gapped horribly in the back, I’ve had shirts fit baggy around my stomach but far too tight/low on my breasts, I’ve popped the seam on the thighs of jeans and worn through the thighs even with an “impressive” thigh gap. Yes yes, skinny folks can experience plenty of similar issues with clothes.

But consider: imagine how others feel. Folks who struggled even more to find half decent clothes that didn’t leave them looking run down. Folks havin to dress like their grandmas for something that fit them. Folks who have been having to alter their clothes for decades bc of their figure, bc hardly any clothes seem to be made for anyone with impressive curves.

The problem is NOT fat people. The problem is not curvaceous people. The problem is the clothing industry as a whole has little care for women, transfems, anyone who likes wearing feminine clothes, who stray from a slight hourglass figure in sizes 2-8. The problem is fast fashion, where the goal is to pump out micro trends as fast as possible, regardless of quality, in as many copies of “common” sizes as possible to make money. The problem is ableism, leading to plenty of clothes that don’t even acknowledge the existence of folks with varying bodies due to birth defects, the importance of still being able to wear something “acceptable” for certain settings that can still accommodate being in a wheelchair (avoiding flashing anyone or getting tangled in wheels, that is relatively easy to get on or even adapt) or that can accommodate colonoscopy bags or whatever else.

The issue is the greedy ass clothing industry. Not the people who NEED CLOTHES. Beef with the greed of the industry, the REAL fuel behind stupid ass decisions in clothes and production, and then do what you can to acknowledge that it ain’t all about you, everyone needs clothes, everyone SHOULD have access to clothes suitable for every “dress code,” and do what you can to adapt clothes and make concessions when necessary just like fat and disabled folks gotta do all the damn time.

[iskierka]

sometimes people on here say “she could do so much better than him” or talk about an “ugly” man when what they mean is that the guy is fat and I just wanna say: cut that shit out

[ursie]

This isn’t phrased perf because I’m tired but I do think in all these conversations about recognizing coding/hurtful tropes/bad narratives/ect y’all need to like start doing it for the disabled community too we can’t be the only ones who see ableism in media and point it out and I’m not talking about freaking Batman guys. Like learn the coding, learn any disability activism theories, learn what narratives harm us if you can do days of research to accuse every kids cartoon on the planet of q bait you can like spend two minutes online and get that bad guys with facial scars = bad. Like it’s not hard guys

Anyway a short very short list of like the most basic coding and narratives and just really general guidelines guys

Any and yes I mean any #quirky character, comedic relief, or airheaded character is coded to some degree as autistic or adhd for obvious reasons it’s not always good

Genuinely most “stupid” characters are coding with some form of learning disabilities

Characters who have trouble moving, easily tired, often in pain pls give em an aide

Odd, slow, or simple were all words to convey the character as some form of disabled in literature up until frankly now guys they still do it

Literally any fatphobia is ableism

Character talks too much? Fidgets? Has trouble paying attention? My dude that’s adhd

Also like obv autistic/ ocd detective trope here

Literally most non human characters are coded as Nd/ect famously. Spock

Facial scars? Sexy. Visible scarring only on the bad guys? Rancid ableist move on yes this is @ the ww movie

Literally anything that portrays a scarred character as inherently scary or villainous

Evil mental ward patients (yes mental wards have a history and currently are ableist but there’s a difference between a disabled person talking about it and abled people just villainizing the whole thing)

Cures yes almost any cure narratives is bad there’s a thin line with chronically ill characters as a community sims of them obviously do want to be cured but outside of that any narrative with physically disabled people is in fact ableist

Magical disabilities (nuance here)

Pls just learn to let blind characters be blind none of you are Garrett from Quest from Camelot none of you will be Garrett from quest from Camelot pls stop trying

Let us talk about wanting more characters and! Let us be critical of the characters we have. Yes we know Toph exists

Literally when we say x is ableist or y is z coded just listen to us it’s not hard no ones mad at you for not knowing

When physically disabled people are talking you have to listen yes even if you have depression physically disabled people get to talk about physically disabled specific ableism too just as much as you get to talk nd specific ableism

Cr/pple is a physically disabled specific slur don’t use it to explain your depression or your economy

Mentally Ill people aren’t inherently violent if that’s the plot of the story yeah it’s ableist

Mental age is an ableist concept

If your disabled character is #independent because just because you’re disabled you don’t need to rely on anyone? Yeah that’s ableist

Yeah disabled people sometimes do need constant care and help we’re people god

Low independence people are no more childish than any adult

If you’re disabled character can be independent that’s great just don’t insult every other disabled person to do it

Asthma is not just using an inhaler after recess pls just do five minutes of research here

Same with diabetes just like. Five minutes

If you’re confused talk to disabled people ( who are cool w being asked) but remember we are not a monolith and we have different comfort levels ect

Yes we can have s/o’s who in some level take care of us because relationships are about taking care of each other no they aren’t our caregiver (all the time this is when nuance happens) if you’re writing that dynamic just run it by a sensitivity reader literally it’s not hard dhfhdggg I have an aunt who takes care of her husband and an uncle who hired a nurse both these things are common just like. Use nuance. Don’t infantize. Gfhdgdhdgdyf

Dwarfism isn’t a joke neither is gigantism

Unless you’re disabled generally speaking none of it’s a joke honestly

That’s just off the top of my head this isn’t everything or even close but it’s like half of the bare minimum do some research y’all r annoying

Ok to rb / add on no clowning unless you’re actually funny

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[xueyangs-pinky-finger]

oh so i watched cats yesterday...

first of all, we had to pay $16.50 for it bc it’s not available to rent anywhere bc they know this is the kinda thing people only wanna watch one time, so that’s already pretty vomit-inducing...

and you expect the cats to look awful and they do but it’s bad for so many other reasons?? it just fails in every way imaginable...

they didn’t seem to give any thought to the scale of the cats; they’re way too tiny in comparison to the people items we see them with, and the mice are then somehow way smaller to the point where they’re the size of like one cat finger?? and the cockroaches are the same size as the mice?? and that ridiculous ratio isn’t even consistent, like the props and everything are just all over the place. (how come ian mckellen’s coat had such large buttons? they can make cat-sized shoes, but not buttons? not to mention they’re still way too small to be human-sized buttons, so again, the inconsistent scaling... who makes the clothes for cats? why do some cats wear clothes inconsistently but others don’t wear clothes at all? taylor swift was completely naked except for a pair of high heels... why make a cat wear heels... have you ever met a cat! they hate wearing clothes, but shoes are even worse. not to mention she only wore them on her feet and not her hands. why do all these cats walk around on two legs, but then suddenly crawl at random times? why did that one cat hand that magician cat his hat with her mouth when she has two perfectly good hands and the cats have all been using their furless human hands to do things for the entirety of the movie??)

... nor did they seem to give any thought to how catlike these “cats” would be. in fact, it rly seemed like no one on the production crew or in the cast had ever had a cat before. or even interacted with one. or even seen one. which i know isn’t true for taylor at least, so what the hell? the way they moved veered between just regular-ass humans walking on two legs and doing ballet and shit (and do not get me started on the hiphop sequence, dear god, their animated legs moving... 🤢), and spider-man climbing up a wall only they were on the ground. neither made sense, neither were catlike. and why did some cats wear random clothing items while others wore none? some wore just shoes... jennifer or someone wore both a coat and something underneath it with neither covering her boobs at one point, so... what was the point of that outfit? what’s it doing for you at that point? and how come they didn’t give more cats colored contacts or cgi eyes?? only idris elba had cool green eyes, and everyone else just had regular human eyes, mostly just brown. i have three cats, and none of them have brown eyes. in fact, i just looked it up, and no cats have brown or black eyes. and i’m pretty sure miss white kitty victoria should have blue eyes~ (if they were blue, it wasn’t noticeable. idris elba’s eyes were an obvious, intense, clearly fake green, and i wanted more of that honestly.)

it’s so gross in multiple definitions of the word? firstly, there’s the trash scene, which... was just way grosser than it needed to be. & there’s rebel wilson eating human cockroaches, which was also very upsetting to watch and to hear the crunch,,, and the other aspect of it is the sexual energy?? which was just ever-present between every combination of characters, and actually left me confused as to who the main ship (🤮) was supposed to be for a while. why... dear god why... what the fuck were they insinuating lapping up milk in jason derulo’s number in the context of all the girls liking him...

oh that’s another thing. they made sir ian mckellen lap up water or something out of a bowl. it was completely unnecessary and added nothing to the story... so that was A Choice.

twice they had rebel wilson unzip her fucking skin to reveal a show biz outfit underneath, which is horrific enough on its own, but the way there was a huge gap between her chest and the boob cups of her dress?? it’s like okay... you already just let all the female cats have boobs and walk around naked for the entirety of the movie. but letting rebel fill in a dress is too much? that’s where you draw the line?? maybe don’t give her a dress with boob cups then!! it’s just sticking out in front of her and it looked awful... lol speaking of awful. the way they edited their ears through their hats... i’ve seen better work done in catboy edits on tumblr. and if y’all can’t do it then maybe just don’t. just consider not. doing that. it’s like they kept writing themselves into corners or not thinking things through or something. when will you learn that your actions have consequences!!!

they only had the cats show affection one way, and that was by like rubbing their faces together, and i know they did that in the musical too but god it just makes me so uncomfortable... i’d rather they just straight-up made out with their disturbingly human mouths. but it was rly confusing bc you’d see the “main” character victoria do that with her love interest (who was perhaps the most ugly hybrid... he didn’t even look like a human or a cat; he invented a new category and hopefully is the only one in that category forever), so you’re like ‘ok, this is how cats kiss’ or something. but they all do it. victoria did the same thing with dame judi dench! (i rly thought this movie was just gonna end with a big ole orgy, honestly.) so it’s not kissing, it’s more like hugging? but then we literally saw two cats hug each other with their human arms at one point i’m pretty sure... so wtf?!

jennifer hudson always had snot on her face?? like her nose was running, a lot of the time the snot would actually be on her lips, like... that’s the only way they could think of to show her emotions?? sometimes they weren’t even tears, it was literally Just Snot.

the songs weren’t fun at all. they were completely devoid of energy, so to have everyone dance to them didn’t even work or make sense. they’d pause in the middle of songs a lot (e.g. to make jokes about james corden being fat wow so funny hahaha) and ruin any momentum they might’ve otherwise had. a lot of the time they weren’t even singing so much as talking or whispering or chanting with a faint bgm playing over it.

the fatphobia, oh my god. rebel wilson and james corden’s characters only existed for the movie to make jokes about them being fat and eating a lot and have them do awful slapstick.

the main character had no personality at all and didn’t even have her all-important cat name at the end of the movie, which rly shows how much she mattered... yeah she got jennifer hudson sent up into the heavens to either be reborn or just fucking die up there bc how would they know this process actually works? but that’s it. otherwise she just got swept from side character to side character and adapted whatever traits they possessed for the duration of their song.

not only were all the cats way too sexual (i rly think watching actual straight-up porn would be less graphic and disturbing than watching whatever gross fetish this movie exists to cater to), not only did they seemingly make a cum joke (that was the only time they drank milk in the movie! when they were all trying to get with jason derulo! who, btw, is just a nasty person which made it all the more gross to watch), they also... slut-shamed jennifer hudson? and all did drugs, some against their will, in another very uncomfortable, sexually charged sequence. so like what is this movie rated actually and who is it for?? why make a children’s movie with such adult themes? but then, what adult would laugh at james corden being too heavy to get catapulted into the air (followed by him landing on his balls, because humor!)?

taylor swift can’t do a british accent.

lastly, cats have eight nipples. so, to loosely quote danny gonzalez: if you’re gonna give them boobs, at least give them the right amount of boobs.

thus ends my review. please don’t watch this dumpster fire.

(i think this gif clearly shows many of the problems i had with this movie... the sexual energy, the boob cups and shitty cgi, jason derulo... dear god make it stop.)