#solanswers

[daybringersol]

Staring at you in autism /silly

Please tell me about mouthwashing

omg. okay. so. its about these five people stranded on a space ship after they hit an asteroid. they go insane. its really trippy and everything and theres some SERIOUS topics handled (SA, violence by caretakers, alcoholism, suicide, unreality, cannibalism, gore and more, probably). the story is told by skipping forward and back in time, in little episodes. theres basically no traditional jumpscare (i can tell you when they happen if youd like), its all in the ambiance and the imagery. i never managed to finish it because theres this one ‘level’ im stuck on (the graveyard one, if anyone knows what im talking about), but i watched the end of a lets play to not miss anything. god its so fucking good. you get so attached to the characters. god.

[soleilapproves]

i love ur sukuna fics so much arghhhh <3

Thank you so much 🥰

Nanami may be my favorite but writing about Sukuna is just so much more fun lol.

Also, I’ve been trying to get out of the boxer!sukuna bubble (I just want to try something new), and I���m glad my new fics are getting good reception :)

[solaireverie]

Why is no one talking about the song choice Lando put over his Carlando post? It's so gay and sexual and it feels like them coming out as a couple?

everything lando does is gay and sexual 🤷

(some of the lyrics of the song lando chose)

… right. they totally fucked.

[brevityisthesoulofbitch]

☁️ 🍓

☁️- this is a question that gave me some trouble, but in a good way (also sorry this took me so long to answer) I always considered myself to have a type like lots of people do.

But after coming more into my own realized spent a good portion of my life thinking that it was about waiting for My Type to arrive and anything less than what was constructed in my head would fall short and that they would just show up. It’s common for people to say , “well it’ll show up when you stop looking for it.”

This is false...at least for me. I want people who fascinate me. Who I can’t get enough of. Who engage with me in honest and completely radically vulnerable ways.

And that’s cultivated. And discovered-in all sorts of places. Looking back at my attractions and relationship history, it’s checkered and varied and the only common denominator is I was drawn to their passion.

Anybody can have that and what follows next is based on circumstance, the work put into it, and all sorts of varying factors.

It’s very cliche, but my type is anybody living as authentically as they can and that really turns me on lol

((Also Will Graham is my type.

And Viggo Mortensen.

And Neil Gaiman))

🍓- have one tattoo currently. Had it for nearly five to six years now. Full left forearm and it’s in Broadway Font that my college graphic designer roommate helped me discover (going through endless amounts of text. god bless her and the work she wasn’t getting done those nights), it says ‘brave’ in those huge fantastical letters and I can assure you if you ever wish to test the universe slap that as large as you can and see what happens next lol. I love it. It’s my first and I got it for a variety of reasons that may or may not sound similar to everyone else who has ever tattooed ‘brave’ onto their body. The font was chosen because I am absolutely and irrevocably in love with F. Scott Fitzgerald and The Great Gatsby and have been for a very long time. Though his truly best work is and will always be me to me, ‘The Crack Up’ a series of essays and non-fiction from Fitzgerald nearer the end of his life. I will mourn the unfinished ‘The Last Tycoon’ for far longer than is necessary. I later found out that makes me dark academia trash, but at the time of the tattoo I was unaware of this terminology and even now-I am admittedly dark academia trash, even if I feel ‘too old’ for the name. This affront to the universe will eventually have green coming off the letters like a glowing light in tribute to Gatsby & the Green Light at the End of the Dock. His reckless pursuit is something, stupidly or irrational as it is, is something close to me. All the rest of my tattoos had to wait for personal reasons, but are all text and about nearly as bad as you might predict if you’ve made it this far in reading this lol; a collarbone piece that is ‘do not go gentle into that good night/rage rage against the dying of the light’, something from Tolkien, a quote from Gaiman who is one of my largest inspirations, and a Hamlet quote (the dream role though writing takes up most of my time now). I also said I would get a tattoo with this old lady in Texas at a shop in Austin called Mom’s.

She’s going to be thrilled I called her old.

But she is.

[solagratia-rpg-blog]

For an original character, are angels like gabriel or michael allowed?

No, we’re not allowing those angels in play. So Michael, Gabriel, Raphael, Uriel, etc are not allowed for play.  However, siblings or children of those angels are allowed. For example, the character of Mykiel is the son of Michael. 

[daybringersol]

How did top surgery go/if its happend ? if so I hope you make a safe and healthy recovery

weirdly well !! barely had any pain, was able to go eat at a café the next day, barely took any meds. tbh the worst part of it was waking up from the surgery (anaesthesia made me really nauseous), having to sleep on my back and how itchy the bandages are. having some parts of my skin that i dont have any sensations in feels really funky, but i can already tell the nerves are reconnecting. i was intimidated by the drains before the surgery, but it’s actually really easy to do (and mess-free!). i should be able to get them removed soon ! tbh my recovery process is NOT typical, im just built different i think

here [link], if you want pictures & more info !

[daybringersol]

this isnt in the ask game but im curious anyways

a song that reminds you of someone who comforts you

or if thats too convoluted, a song that comforts you

Gonna go with a song that comforts me in general, cuz I know you got a whole playlist of songs that remind me of a person that comforts me.

Here, you even get two.

[daybringersol]

Hi! I'm the coiner of the cpunk flag, I was told you made a userbox with it but I don't see it anywhere on your page just on that users pinned post, we moved from wateryourgender (the blog we originally posted it on) to archival-arrival and fantasy-store (more active on cpunkwitch).

If it was Infact you that made the userbox we want to let you know we're fine with edits using our flags but prefer to be tagged and/or linked for credit, og blog at best otherwise usually tagged on fantasy-store.

Not upset or anything just info! (Light hearted)

- blue

alright, no problem, wait a sec !

edit : done, tagged the og account :D

edit : so, didnt look enough on the first one i tagged you in, so i tagged you one batch of userboxes that didnt have the cpunk flag in it, im trying to find the one that actually has it in it (i remember it was a request, someone asked me to do it, most likely by asks)l but tumblr often deletes my posts for some reason, or make them impossible to find. gonna keep looking but its possible that post doesnt exist anymore. if youd like, i could repost it with the credits @cpunkwitch (tagging so you see this)

edit : found it [link] !! turns out i had already credited you in it ! if youd like, i could still add the @ of the og account :D

[daybringersol]

Hello! Thanks for reblogging the askgame! Your ask is~

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Feel free to answer any other prompts if your interested!

If you could have a 60 second conversation with any jrwi character (either them being transported to the real world or you being transported to the campaign world for 60 seconds). Who would it be and what would you say?

Hmmm.. Had to think about it… With only 60 seconds there’s not much I can say so I need to be strategic about this.. I don’t think there’s anything I could say in 60 seconds that’d change someone’s mindset, so I’d probably more have to go with something that’s fun. I think I could convince a character I’m God just by how much ‘secret’ knowledge I have of them. My pick for this would be.. Chip JRWI. I will be the beginning of a cult in Mana and there’s nothing anyone can do about it.

[daybringersol]

if asexuality or aversion to sex comes from trauma, that is absolutely something a therapist and you are supposed to address, that's not queerphobia and equating it to conversion therapy is kinda disgusting and queerphobic itself lmao

That is not what I said in the slightest, to a point where im questioning if youre asking me this in good faith at all. Please actually read and/or reread the words I typed before accusing me of things like this. My initial post was not even worded in a way that was vague enough to be misinterpreted this way.

If you still don’t understand how misguided you are, here is my attempt at putting it more clearly :

Yes, aversion to sex and/or romance and lack of sexual/romantic desires can come from trauma. Therapy can help that, if you find the right therapist. However, from my own experiences, I can tell you that the way a lot of therapists approach this is at best, ineffective, and at worst, downright retraumatizing. If sex and/or romance makes you uncomfortable, being convinced to take part in sexual/romantic acts without you having desires for it or being downright averse to it is a recipe for disaster (for most people). It just puts you into more non-consensual and traumatizing positions. That is what exposure therapy is, and that is what most therapists have tried (and sometimes succeeded) to do to me. Horrible experience, would not recommend to anyone. This approach tries to cure the symptom instead of the issue, and is deeply based in ace/arophobia (seeing “fixing” a lack of attraction as more urgent and important than addressing the source of the issue, the actual trauma).

Also, no. If someone doesn’t feel like fixing their trauma for any reason, nobody should push them to. A therapist can absolutely inform the patient on the benefits of doing so, but trauma work is incredibly hard, very much a long-term thing, and can put the patient in an extremely vulnerable headspace. It’s the mental equivalent of breaking a bone to set it right again. For an abuse victim who just got out of that situation, it is completely understandable for them to want to enjoy their new-found freedom and joy as much as they can, for as long as they want. Pushing them towards trauma work without the right environment, mindset or literally anything else they feel might make this not the right time for it can cause further damage, especially knowing how the current psychiatric institution works.

Asexuality and aromanticism, however, do not come from trauma, or any other neurological differences. It might be affected by it, and people with life experiences similar to aro and/or ace people are welcomed in the community (for exemple, sexual and/or domestic abuse survivors that are sex/romance averse), but it is not caused by it. Most therapy settings are not informed about asexuality, and assume it is a symptom of a underlying issue, that needs to be fixed. The same kind of exposure therapy that I talked about earlier is often used to “cure” aro and/or ace people, putting them those same non-consensual and traumatizing situations. That is conversion therapy, and medical use of coerced corrective rape. These therapists are, often with methods similar to gaslighting (and I use the original meaning of the word here, not the diluted tiktok version of it), convincing people to do sexual and/or romantic acts that they have no desire to do, to fix an issue that doesn’t exist, with the explicit goal of making someone not queer. Please explain to me how that is not conversion therapy.

Other forms of arophobia and acephobia are prevalent in psychiatric institutions as they are today, tho I wouldn’t call most of those conversion therapy. You only need to look at the notes on my post to see what I’m talking about.

I genuinely hope that this is a formative experience for you, and that in the future, you learn to actually read what is written before you send messages like this. Have a good day.

[daybringersol]

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ive been thinking about pillbugs.

[daybringersol]

I saw ur allo aro wallpaper

Do you do other wallpaper? Could you possibly do a non binary one? Tyyy

Of course !

Here :

Art by, in order, Noelle [link], the Museum of New Zealand Te Papa Tongarewa [link], me and me again.

[daybringersol]

Hey ! I’m Sol, Juno, Chip or Art, whichever you prefer, and you can use he/him, eon/eons, myr/myrrh, hy/hymn, it/its and masculine terms for me. I’m a paradox, I don’t abide to labels and stuff like that, not in the way that I don’t use them, more in the way that I just go with what feels right in the moment, without forcing myself to stay static. Right now, I’m an anarchaqueer, biaro man, but I’m fluid, so don’t get attached too much ! I’m also québecois and not shy about it; feel free to talk to me in french or english.

more pronoun options [link]

read CROSSTALK [link]

art collection sideblog : @solsanctae

Working towards being an editor professionally, so open to beta for fics or other stories, just DM me !

I’m currently trying to cut back on political commentary on here, both in reblogs or in my own posts, because it triggers my moral OCD. Please note that you cannot extrapolate how much activism someone partakes in based on their tumblr activity.

I’m for the liberation of Palestine, against antitransmasculinity (as not being so would betray my own life experiences), for the independence of Québec, against antisemitism, for a kind of aspec solidarity that includes non-aroace aspecs and respects the differences in our experiences, against the police & the current psychiatric system, for the destigmatization of kinks, fetishes & ‘scary’ mental disorders, against exclusionism & label policing in the queer community, for the exploration of complex topics in fiction (including in ‘lowbrow’ medias like fanfiction), against both gender & sex essentialism & binaries, for LandBack, against the criminalisation of (all) drugs & sex work, and passionate about much more topics than those included in this short list. I believe that morality is not determined by your thoughts but by your actions, and that what kind of bigotry you’re affected by is not determined by your identity but by how & if it is perceived. If you’re planning on harassing me about any of these beliefs, I’d recommend simply blocking me instead, as I will not answer any questions I don’t believe to be asked in good faith.

I’m 21 so keep that in mind. There should be little NSFW stuff on here, pretty much only artistic nudity & jokes.

Please note that I do have a separate (appropriately tagged) NSFW account, and that if you go looking for it, it’s your fault for seeing things you don’t want to see. Bringing here what I post to that account, or ‘exposing’ it to others with the goal to judge or mock me is sexual harassment. There’s a reason those accounts are separate.

I’m fully fine with (appropriately tagged) NSFW topics being explored in fandom, including JRWI (as those same things are explored in the source material). I believe the council’s boundaries are to not do RPF and to not show them porn of their characters. Feel free to block me if that makes you uncomfortable.

I’m not going to tag every time I talk about my own experiences with abuse, addiction, SA, C-PTSD, pure O (internal OCD, in my case moral), P-DID and stuff like that, so feel free to block if that’s something that could trigger you. I don’t talk about it often though, and will tag it if it’s too graphic.

I am the host of a system, this account should be mine & mine only but we’ll see. The way I see my plurality is not the generally agreed upon way in the plural community (e.g. I am my body; the others are at best symbiotes, at worst parasites), so don’t think I represent anyone else but myself. Don’t ask me to have an opinion on endogenic systems, I don’t care.

If you tag me in stuff where you have to tag your friends and then they tag their friends, I enjoy and appreciate it, but I most likely won’t tag other people cuz it makes me anxious !

I usually do PTs, IDs and/or alt text on my flags and userboxes but I don’t always have the energy that requires of me, so sorry about that.

Flags : No credits needed, except if put on a wiki or pinterest, in which case credits are needed (preferably a link).

Userboxes : No credits needed, but reblog the post you got it from.

Visual arts : No reposting, but can be used as pfp/banner with credits.

Poetry : Reposting is fine, but with credits.

[soleilapproves]

Hiii I hope you’re having a great day. I was wondering if I could please be added to you tag list I’m loving the boxer and mechanic sukuna storylines so far!

If not no worries I understand it thanks I’m advance :)

Of course, you can :)

And thank you, I’m so glad you’re enjoying the stories!

[daybringersol]

I'm pissed off by conservatives but I don't think that makes them (inherently) queer

it wasnt meant literally, sorry that it wasn’t clear. what i meant is that queerness is an anarchist political mouvement in itself (by the literal definition of anarchism), not just a collection of identities. queerness is in itself a search to destroy unnecessary hierarchies (like heteronormativity, cisnormativity, amatonormativity, exorsexism, ect.) around sex, sexuality, romance and gender, and thus, conservatism is its natural opposite (since, by definition, it seeks to conserve these hierarchies). in short, if conservatives (as in, the whole ideology, not just like your uncle) are pissed off at you for existing (because your existence in itself puts into question these hierarchies), youre doing queerness right, no matter what your identity is.

the reason LGB without the T and other exclusitionist mouvements like that exists is because the LGBTQ+ community has become just a community of people with marginalized identities and not a political mouvement like it was at the start. when people ask “why are trans people (or aces, or aros, or intersex people, ect.) in the same community as gay people, their experiences are so different”, that is a direct result of this. the LGBTQ+ community was formed originally to take down together these deeply intertwined hierarchies of power, not only to soothe ourselves by being around people who love us for who we are.

in my books, a fully cisgender heterosexual allosexual alloromantic perisex person can absolutely be queer, if what they do with their free will, and thus their existence, puts into question these aforementioned hierarchies (for exemple, if they crossdress, if they do drag, if they choose to live their life in celibacy, if theyre polyamorous, if theyre detrans, if they transition, ect.). i do understand that is a controversial opinion tho, and we can agree to disagree on that one lmao. less controversial, but still, i also think some LGBTQ+ people are absolutely not queer, and usually, those people themselves agree.

the queer community, in itself, is a community of marginalised people who are inherently more defiant against those hierarchies, because the successful reclamation of the word queer itself puts into questions these hierarchies. if being queer is inherently worse than being “normal”, than why would so many people ever want to call themselves that /s ? is there some hidden value in queerness /rhe ? of course, we know there is, but anti-queer rhetoric works on the basis that queerness is inherently inferior to cisheteroamatonormativity. obviously, im not saying the LGBTQ+ community and the queer community are separate communities, since the overlap is so big, more that the queer community is an anarchist subset of the LGBTQ+ community.

ill probably talk about this later, but im exhausted rn ahah. just wanted to clear up the confusion.

original (admittedly unclear) post [link]

[daybringersol]

Sending in asks so followers can see :3

Hold button, first spin for super Boop, keep holding and let it spin the other way for evil boop

OOOHHHH THANK YOU