#so uuhh tldr it’s so complicated

[daisychainsandbowties]

Wouldnt it be easier if you just changed your name legally to the one you preferred, unless you dont want to thats also fine

yeah irish law has no rules for how to change your name like you just decide to. to prove it to legal bodies & stuff there’s a few steps & a small fee & i haven’t tried it but it seems simple.

legal gender is pretty much the same but it’s only male/female as far as i know (TENI are advocating to change that & currently if you’re under 16 legally changing your gender is impossible. don’t let the name laws fool you btw trans care here sucks and needs a massive overhaul. there’s like a 5 year waiting list for HRT & we have no surgeons in the healthcare service who can perform gender affirming surgeries)

but anyway yeah i could & i might but like i said my deadname just gets a blank stare from me it doesn’t make me feel bad enough that i’m in a great hurry plus i’m still shielding i guess? being out out is relatively new to me & there’s LOTS of people i’m not out to. & yeah casper is not a name that i generally look like i belong to (it’s a weird name & i mean,,, i most commonly get gendered as “child” so 🫤) it outs me at the get-go

but i’m also. that’s me! so yeah it would take me a very short time to change my name if i decided to (at least in terms of paperwork & then i’m a pestering little bastard when i want a legal thing done plus my childhood best friend is an entire solicitor (like a lawyer but boring lol) so she could probably help me.) idk it’s more a souce of…. i don’t know amused indifference to me right now? which i know is kind of dumb and i’m a pro at not making eye-contact w how i actually feel about stuff. there’s an element of normal to it though bc i have never ever related to my name or liked people saying it (the fucking euphoria, by the way, of hearing people say a name that means you 🫠🫠🫠)

this is why i refer to myself in the third person sometimes on here btw i just like writing and looking at my name. most days i have it written in the crook of my elbow in blue ballpoint pen. djdbdbdbdb one day someone’ll mistake it for a tattoo & be like “ha is that your ex?” and i’ll say “no it’s me i’m in love with myself actually” and it’ll sound so fucking dumb but maybe it’ll also be true