#so much casual enby erasure

[secondsonaym]

too lazy to make another dumb edit to the 'don't make me tap the sign' meme but like

hello friends. a reminder that the mod here is nonbinary themself.

i get VERY frustrated with casual enby erasure, especially when it is done to my face. i'm not going to start a fight over character pronouns and shit and like. i headcanon baal as transfem so yeah, fuck around and have fun but also

(holds your hands gently)

please take five seconds to think about how continuously ignoring the idea of a character not using binary pronouns may make a person who is not a binary gender themself feel

it happened with deckard, it happens with haro, and if it happens with ??? i am going to fucking explode

[huntingthelioness]

Tonight I tried to explain to my cishet therapist the tension between desperately needing to be seen as a queer and genderqueer person and being ashamedly grateful for being straight and cis passing. It… did not go great.

Yes I know, cishet passing privilege. Yes, I also know erasure is not a privilege. I can’t just choose to live on one side of that tension. I *have* to hold both. It’s basically a requirement of being both bi and enby. And the problem is that her job for seven years has been to help me resolve shit like this but like, I feel that this CAN’T be resolved. Especially not right now, in this climate.

Between “you’re already more visible than you think” and “instead of trying to be casually out at work and wondering if you made a mistake when you watch people’s brain-gears stutter as they realize that although they’re allies they didn’t think queer people looked like you, maybe you should instead just not try to be casually out at work,” I felt weirdly invalidated. I like her and she’s helped me so much over the years but wow is she not someone I can talk to about queerness.