#so many inactive accounts:( & i miss my inactive/deactiveated mutuals

[svftpup]

wish i was never inactive bc i have almost 1k & no anons💔 give me attention

[gxrlcinema]

Hi friend,

I saw your post about where you're at right now. First of all, thank you for sharing that. It really puts into perspective how much of your heart and soul goes into your writing and how little love it receives in return. Your frustration at the lack of interaction is something that you and every writer on here has the right to be upset about.

I also wanted to add that I don't believe this is a problem with your mentality, but rather a problem with new Tumblr readers.

I'm one of the youngest, if not the youngest of your mutuals. Until Tumblr, I was taught that the best way to appreciate a work over social media, whether that be a video or a meme, was to use your account to like it and follow the creator. So as a new Tumblr user, I came on here thinking that liking a writer's fic and quietly following them on a blank profile was the best form of engagement.

I'm so deeply grateful to everyone on here, especially you, who told me that was the wrong thing to do. I hope it makes you feel a little better knowing that I started reblogging with comments because I listened when you told me that was the best way to support authors. I'm so so sorry that people's silence has made you feel this way, but I hope you also know it is of no personal failing that this is happening.

And to your point about you disappearing and someone else replacing you, I want to say I don't believe that's possible. Sure, there are other talented marvel x reader authors, but there will never be another person who writes the way that you do. I can't tell you how happy it made me seeing a reader in Attention that I could relate to. And there will never be another YOU! You've been so patient and kind in answering my questions that you've made Tumblr a WAY less scary place for me.

Finally, Burnout is a massive bitch. Burnout was the reason that I stopped writing entirely. So, I completely understand and applaud your decision to take a step back from writing. Whether or not you ultimately decide to return to fanfiction, please know that at least one reader thinks you're a super cool person.

I really appreciate this so much! <3

It's actually really helpful to see the perspective that the new influx of users might be worsening the problem. That being said, this has been a trend happening for a while on here. I remember writers telling me about lack of engagement back when I started posting fic in late 2020.

And fic writers feel like we are constantly telling people. I don't know a single writer who hasn't written or at least reblogged a post talking about how the lack of engagement effects us, how comments are the best motivation, how our content doesn't go anywhere unless you reblog, or how many great writers we've lost to lack of engagement. I can think of blogs that were very good friends of mine that are now no longer writing, inactive, or fully deactivated. I miss them and I miss their work. If inactive users could read it, they would perhaps understand what's at stake to lose.

I was so grateful that you asked questions about engaging on this site! It gave me so much hope that it wasn't on purpose, that not everyone who was lurking was doing so because they truly didn't care. I'm honestly bummed for people who don't interact because the community on here is most of the fun. Making friends and sharing things and getting excited about fandom shit because there aren't many spaces for us to do that in the real world.

Anyways, thank you for your appreciation of my writing. I think I just need some time to reevaluate what I'm doing here, given the climate of feedback rn.

[kaiternity]

some changes

no need for anyone to really read this, but there’s a sense of realization when something is written (that i apparently need), so here goes.

as i’m getting back to tumblr after a short break, i realized i have to make a few changes, so that i can continue being on this site happily. emphasis on happily. some things i’ve already done, some are left to be done, but i’m glad i’m taking the time to improve my experience here.

i unfollowed a lot of inactive blogs that i’ve been mutuals with for years. at first it felt weird, i still don’t know why it feels weird to hit the unfollow button even when blogs become inactive, but it just is. however, last night i did just that.

i unfollowed some blogs that i’ve been mutuals with for years but that don’t post about exo/as much exo anymore. again, this felt so weird, but at the same time liberating. i have nothing against the people behind the blogs, nothing at all. while everyone is free to post whatever they like on their blogs, i realized i’m also free to fill my dash with what i like and that is exo. there really is nothing more to an unfollow than just this.

i will check up more exo blogs and follow them. i realized that while tumblr really is dying, it’s also my fault if my own dash is dead. because i only follow a few blogs. so that is something i’d like to change.

i muted and keep filtering a lot of the tags/posts that simply don’t interest me or tire me. i didn’t do this up until a few months ago and wow i had really missed out! now that i don’t see the things or even the groups that are always accompanied by some sort of drama, my dash feels so much cleaner and i feel much happier.

i will become better at replying on time. while i haven’t felt like engaging with the friends i’ve made here because my job consumes all of my social energy, i’ve realized at the same time that i’ve missed talking to them. and if i keep telling myself i don’t have the right energy to reply, i’ll never find it.

i will care less and less over notes, until i don’t really care at all. i create a lot less than i usually did and it’s normal people forget i’m a content creator sometimes. while i have a tendency to not bother too much about how many notes my now rare posts make, i sometimes find myself falling down that hole. a lot less than before, admittedly, but it can always be better.

i stopped caring about my follower count. while i’m grateful for each blog that follows me, a while ago i would get upset over people unfollowing me. i didn’t think of the reasons why. some deactivate, others change interest, others don’t like a certain thing about my blog or my tags or something i said. i didn’t think beyond the fact that the numbers were going down. and it was wrong of me. in the end, i’ve also done the same and i’ve unfollowed a lot of blogs over the years, so why aren’t others allowed to do that? why should that upset me?

lastly, not tumblr related, but social media related. i will log out of my twitter account after jongin’s solo and at some point, maybe even deactivate it. that place is simply toxic. or maybe it’s the fandom. but while i don’t engage with the toxicity that goes on there, i realized that it still gets me because someone i follow will engage with it and i’ll have to see it, partly because i get curious. and i don’t want to be. i don’t want to do that. because it ends up tiring me. yes, twitter is faster for updates and news, but i realized i don’t need to know everything my bias/group does. no. i don’t have to know it all. it doesn’t make me a happier or better person. on the contrary, it just makes me want to feel more detached because there’s almost always drama accompanying it and i don’t want to be part of that. and i keep seeing even mature people becoming immature for stupid reasons. i don’t want to see that. i can’t tell people what to engage with and what not. so instead, i’ll do what i can and simply distance myself from all that.

i guess, what i’m trying to achieve through all these changes is a happier social media experience. i want to be happy! i don’t have time for anything less than that. i consume social media, not vice versa. i’m the one who’s in charge of my happiness and peace of mind. and if something doesn’t give me neither those things, then i don’t really need it in my life.

if someone ever reached until the end of this post, i hope you also think about these things and start taking control over your virtual experiences. like me, you’ll find it liberating. always ask yourself if something makes you happy. if the answer is no, then you know what to do. it’s as simple as that.

[jackrackhams]

hi! this is kind of out of the blue, but we used to be mutuals last year before i deactivated my account. i've been lurking in twdg tag for the past few days, since i got back into the series, and it kind of surprised me that you're still posting about it. most blogs i was following last year don't even post... at all, lol. i don't really know where i was going with this ask but its nice to see someone still show interest in the series! :D

aw hi!! yeah i doubt i’ll ever completely stop posting abt twdg bc like... it’s like my absolute favorite piece of media for so many reasons lmao. and yea SO many old twdg blogs are inactive, deactivated, or have stopped posting twdg 😔 but that was kind of to be expected once the series ended. still a little sad, but yknow. still, there are a few blogs who still have great twdg content and i appreciate them so much lmao

also if u feel like it maybe message me? i’d love to be mutuals again lmao :) i miss all my mutuals who deactivate

[ukelally]

i miss everything.

I have been spending the past couple of nights here on Tumblr. It truly feels similar to being away from home for so long then finally coming back into the comfort.

Besides cringing at my old self, it's nice to see growth in how I saw the world.

I miss how simple things were. The problems that I thought were going to be my impending doom are now silly little teenage things. The cute boys that I thought were so impressive and I wanted to be with so bad are now regular dudes. Oh my silly little teenage crushes.

What I miss more than anything are people. The good ol' buddies! The friends <3

I opened Tumblr for the first time today and I saw a notification on my inbox. Truly a big surprise because majority of ~mutuals~ here on tumblr are inactive or deactivated their account.

It led to a very nice surprise. Thank you btw, anon. Thinking that you put in the effort to make such a sweet reminder for me felt like a much needed warm hug. <3 <3

Naturally I started scrolling down.. to all my other old messages and I saw all the people I used to be so close with. Truly amazing people. Funny how I used to know so much about these folks and now I have no idea what's been going on with them.

I am terrible at keeping up communication. Even if I muster up the courage to say the casual 'hi hello im good how are ya' .. i fear that I won't have anything else to talk about with. I think it's okay though. People naturally drift apart. We're all caught up in our own stories.It is nice to just reminisce all the good times. I miss sooo many friends. I miss everyone.

Can't help but wonder how many people miss me :( I've been quite distant physically and socially from everyone for awhile now and I feel forgotten.

That's okay though. I hope to those that do think about me, remember the good times. I hope they are reaching goals. Taking breaks. I hope they're all doing okay. :)

[whalesims]

check in tag! i was tagged by @clowwntown ty ily!

why did you choose your url? well, i wanted to be magpie sims originally but that name was taken and all my other socials are whale themed to here we are!

any side blogs? if you have them name them + why you have them. i have 2 i dont use bc i am in fact lazy

how long have you been on tumblr? in general? since like 2014? this blog was started less than a year ago ngl

do you have a queue tag? yeup, i queue everything and im lazy so the tag is just #q

why did you start your blog in the first place? i first started a simblr dont @ me for this bc of watching lilsimsie on youtube, so i wanted a place to save cc, i started making content on ace-sims (deactivated) bc someone invited me to an a-spec sims server on discord, changed my account to swampysims (inactive) with my partner at the time and then left it bc i was putting too much value on notes and engagement, then started this one bc i missed the community and making things in the sims!

why did you choose your icon/pfp? i had the idea for it and im in a server with a bunch of artists so i commissioned it from one of my friends! (her info is in my about page :3)

why did you choose your header? it is my dnd character Firbolg the Firbolg and i love her with my entire life

what’s your post with the most notes? this one!

how many mutuals do you have? 38!

how many followers do you have? 97 <3

how many people do you follow? 155 :)

have you ever made a shitpost? probably? 

how often do you use tumblr each day? not super often right now, ive been working 40hrs every week and im so exhausted right now, but ill probably be back once school starts again

did you have a fight/argument with another blog once? who won? mm i dont think so but if someone wants to start a fight im game

how do you feel about ‘you need to reblog this’ posts? kinda guilt-trippy, depends on what theyre about tbh

do you like tag games? YES

do you like ask games? YES!!!!

which of your mutuals do you think is tumblr famous? simblr is too insular but everytime one of my mutuals post it feels like ‘ooh look at them go so popular!’

again im late to the party so if you want to do it feel free!