#ship: romaj

[daughter-of-melpomene]

this ship meme for roman x aj 🩵 — @xoteajays

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who made the first move: roman.

who kissed who first: technically roman did lean in first, but they met in the middle.

who started the relationship: aj was the first one to confess his feelings.

who remembers things: aj.

nicknames for each other: aj normally calls rome “love” or “darling”, but roman has half a million pet names for his boyfriend; “babe,” “baby,” “sweets,” and a bunch of others.

who is more likely to pay for dinner: they generally take turns.

who normally cooks: roman.

who remembers anniversaries: they’re both pretty good about it, but aj’s just a little bit better.

what would they get each other for gifts: mostly stuff related to cars, although the gifts themselves are a little different; rome will get aj some tools for working on his various little projects and occasionally some fun little decals for them, while aj usually gets rome things like driving gloves so his hands don’t chafe against the wheel or some fun little decoration to hang from his mirror.

most trivial thing they fight over: whose turn it is to load the dishwasher (they both hate doing it so they usually try to claim it’s the other person’s turn even if it isn’t).

how often do they fight: they bicker and go back and forth pretty often, but they rarely have any actual heavy fights.

who uses all the hot water: aj.

who calls up the super/landlord when the heat’s not working: roman.

who leaves their stuff around: they’re both kind of bad about it.

who remembers to buy the milk: roman.

who controls the netflix queue: aj.

who steals the covers at night: roman.

who cusses more: i’d say they both do it an equal amount (which is to say, a lot).

who does most of the cleaning: aj, but only every once in a while after they’ve let something get really messy and he finally notices and feels bad about it.

what’s their favorite non-sexual activity: working on their respective car projects together.

who’s the cuddler: they’re both pretty cuddly, but roman’s probably a little bit more so.

who’s the big spoon/little spoon: roman is the big spoon and aj’s the little spoon.

who’s more dominant: definitely roman.

who is the dirty talker: usually roman, but aj can give it just as bad when he wants to.

what do they do when they’re away from each other: worry, mostly, especially considering the kind of things they get up to and the enemies they’ve made because of it. they both try to go about their lives as normal when they’re apart for longer periods, but it doesn’t usually work - roman’s too protective over the people he cares about and aj’s too much of a worrier.

what would they do if the other one was hurt: surprisingly, if it’s a person who’s hurt roman, aj is the one who gets the angriest out of the two, gritting his teeth and daring to go after the guilty party the moment he’s made sure rome’s alright. roman wants to get revenge when aj is hurt, too, of course, but he typically spends some time fretting and trying to make sure his boyfriend is alright first.

a headcanon: whenever aj has a panic attack and roman isn’t there with him for whatever reason, he always listens to a video ramsey once took of the two of them roasting each other while cuddling and sent to him, and the sound of rome’s voice always helps him calm down.

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[daughter-of-melpomene]

ship asks 10-20 + aj x roman — @xoteajays

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Do they share any hobbies or interests? How do these things bring them together?

Well, of course they do share a mutual love for cars, even if AJ’s interest lies more in modifying and suping them up then actually driving them, and, of course, all of the craziness the Toretto family gets up to and breaking the law in general. And these things bring them together in a lot of ways; in addition to AJ’s ties with the Shaw family quite literally being the reason they met in the first place, spending time with the team on adrenaline-fuelled adventures and committing smaller crimes together in between missions allows them to bond and reaffirm all the things they love about each other.

How do they feel about nicknames/pet names? If they like them, what pet names do they use? If they hate them, why do they feel that way?

AJ doesn’t like them very much, mostly because he’s kind of awkward with affection directed at him in general, but he doesn’t mind when Roman calls him “babe” or “baby”. Roman’s a bit better about them, but he’s still not comfortable with anything too mushy - he does really like when AJ calls him “love,” though.

Do they have a difficult time when separated from each other, or are they fairly independent?

They are both fairly independent people, but because of AJ’s anxiety, he tends to have the harder time when Rome’s off without him. It isn’t that he doesn’t trust Roman, but he does know the other man’s reckless tendencies all too well, and he often worries that he’ll get himself into danger if AJ isn’t there to act as his impulse control. Roman is a lot better about being left without his boyfriend; depending on where AJ’s going or if he knows where he is, he might worry, but mostly he trusts AJ to keep himself safe.

How do they keep in contact when they’re apart? Do they write letters, talk on the phone, or simply wait out the time?

They’re not often apart after AJ becomes an official member of the Toretto team, but when they are, they usually content themselves with texting each other, or doing a video call if there’s time for it; neither of them could stand just waiting out the time until they’re reuinited.

Do they enjoy PDA, or are they more private with affection?

They may hold hands in public or, if they’re going their separate ways, share a quick kiss before they go, but nothing beyond that; AJ’s too awkward with affection for anything else in the presence of others, and although Roman has gotten to a much better place with his feelings about his sexuality and love for AJ, there’s still a part of him that gets nervous at the thought of being too affectionate around other people.

What songs remind you of their relationship?

“Tough Love” by Avicii, “Delicate” by Taylor Swift, and “Good Old-Fashioned Lover Boy” by Queen.

Would they ever get matching tattoos? If yes, what would these look like?

I don’t know if they ever actually would, and if they did it would be AJ’s first and only one because he’s terrified of needles, but if they did, the tattoos would be matching sports cars on their forearms.

How well do they communicate? Are they open with their feelings/thoughts or more reserved? Why?

They are… not fantastic at communicating, mainly because neither of them are very good with emotions in general (AJ more with properly communicating them and Roman more with expressing them in general). This can cause problems in their relationship, but they do try to make the effort because they know it’s important.

How do they care for each other when one of them is wounded/sick?

If it’s a person who’s hurt Roman, AJ will actually get angry, raring to go out and get revenge on the person who hurt him, but he will make sure he’s okay and his wounds are properly tended too first. If he’s sick, however, he will absolutely dote on his boyfriend, making sure he has everything he needs and checking up on him as constantly as he dares without getting annoying.

Roman isn’t as good at taking care of people, it doesn’t come naturally to him, but he will make sure to be right by AJ’s side and lean on the people around him for extra support. If AJ’s injured, he’ll leave the patching up to Mia or Brian, hold AJ’s hand the whole time, and be at his side the whole time he recovers; if he’s sick, he’ll call Tej because he makes the best chicken noodle soup, and make sure to make a list of all the things Mia told him help best for sick people so he never forgets for next time.

Do they wear each other’s clothes/jewelry?

It’s mainly AJ wearing Roman’s clothes, since AJ’s are too small for Roman to wear, but he will occasionally snatch a shirt or jacket that Roman will vehemently deny that he finds cute, and they also get matching chain necklaces after two years together.

How do they comfort each other when one of them is upset? Is this method of comfort effective?

AJ isn’t very good at verbal comfort, so his usual method of comforting Roman is just to tuck himself into his boyfriend’s side and lay his head on his shoulder, giving Roman all the time he needs to speak or return the contact and making it clear that he can tell AJ to leave if he needs to. It’s his way of making it clear that he’s right there with Rome no matter what, and though it may not always work immediately, it does always work.

Roman, however, is a very verbal person, as we know, so if AJ is upset or overwhelmed, his usual tactic is to just start talking - telling a random funny story, sharing memories about him and Brian as kids, anything lighthearted that he can think of. It’s a trick for bringing AJ out of his head and cheering him up a bit, and though it can be hit-or-miss, it’s always done with the best of intentions.

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