#several things wrong w them (due to the disorders and or demons)

[beachbummrr]

theyre two statues in my garden if u rlly think abt it 🪴

[softlittleheartsandsparkles]

i read your pinned post. I've never been in the age reg community but can i ask, what does pure/impure regression mean? these are words I've never seen before.

I'm not in that community, I don't really want interactions with that community. Thus I don't feel comfortable talking about it too much. But honestly Impure regression - It comes from the idea people involuntary regress. This does happen. But this is in folks with severe mental health struggles like trauma disorders (Ptsd/cptsd, DID, OSDD, BPD..) autism, adhd, and even sometimes individuals who struggle with anxiety disorders. Examples don't necessarily mean baby talk. But more so maybe even feeling vulnerable or just very scared like a small child. Can be brought on by flashbacks/memories of trauma. I don't like the term impure because it's suggesting basically there's something wrong. I also don't like the term vent, because again it suggests something is wrong. I mean is something wrong? Yes. It's mental health, but it's apart of peoples conditions & those people hopefully can get access to skills & take their time, and find people who are comfortable. But labeling it as impure, thats not okay. Even vent isn't okay. Like it should just be treated as part of the condition, rather then trying to be packaged in labels & trying to make people fit those "labels". (Like what if we did this for depression? "Oh your unbelievable sad and you watch sad movies to experience emotions. Thats so pure depression of you! You wear dark clothes? So pure depression of you! >W< I love pure depression peeps." - "oh you wanna self harm! dang thats pretty vent/impure depression if you ask me. pls tag that shit! Its totally triggering me!" - "dni if your a impure/vent depression blog!!! ONLY PURES PLS!" this would raise major eyebrows. Not to mention it's basically pushing shame on topics people should be able to discuss in spaces that are designed to be safe.) Equally "Pure" regression is a term I dislike. Due to the term, it gives the idea it's better. The idea of pure through comes from a similar concept I heard in DBT. Which is "Mini vacations" So doing activities to allow yourself to relax. Free of self judgement. Examples could be watching cartoons/shows, or doing crafts and activities you find relaxing. Again- This is a common tool mental health providers will teach people. So they can self soothe & move to distress tolerance, work on mindfulness /grounding skills. & learn you can offer up relaxing periods without necessarily needing something bad prior to "allow" for it to happen. My issues stem that. There was so much discourse when I was in the community for like 7 months that "pure" is "better". and that vent/impures are "bad", and I saw a lot of also people who regress due to trauma/ mental health struggling in feeling alone or icky or "othered"/different. & equally I really don't like the idea of labeling different symptoms (Impure, ex: dissociation) and then coping skills (Pure, ex: coloring) in a positive. I feel like this is people trying to make sense of terms like maladaptive skills, but the thing is, even as someone who DID a trauma group, when we went over maladaptive coping, what it is, why do people do it, and had examples. they were never demonized or seen as "lessor" "worst". There were examples and if you connected with it, you can bring it up with your private 1:1 therapist. (Like for example, maybe someone sees "shopping addiction" as a maladaptive coping skill. Looks at it and goes "yeah... ha... I do that". They they could talk to there private therapist and work on that. Talk about it, and the feelings that come up around it/ things that trigger it/the urge, and look into methods that could help them cope better.) Equally when we went through healthy coping skills, if anyone did them, it's not like we collectively slapped there back and said "WOW your so much better than those Maladaptive coping skill people." because it could equally add shame to anyone who doesn't know how to cope. It's one of the reasons why I moved away from the online community. But yeah hopefully this explains the two terms. =^-^=