#serious depressed working class woman who has abandonment issues

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[glasses-and-anxiety]

let’s talk about my depressing life

ok so basically let’s start with me being born jkjk we’re not doing that.

so I kno no ones gonna read this but I have to vent somehow right?

TRIGGER WARNING

mentions of suicide and overdosing, mental health issues, anxiety

so we’re gonna start with mental health issues yay. it seems like everyone has them, especially on this goddamn site.

so basically sometime around a year ago (july 2018) I was put into an inpatient facility under a form 1.

(don’t drag me I haven’t done any research and this was a while ago)

I’ve had anxiety since I can remember. in SK (I was like 5 or 6 idk) I wouldn’t speak to my teachers cuz I was too scared. I have a vivid memory from grade 4 (9 yrs old or smth) when I cried in front of the class cuz my teacher picked on me to answer a question (I didnt have my hand up but that’s another issue I can rant about later)

I switched schools for grade 5 which made my anxiety rise but it was a private school so they had all sorts of thing around that stuff and eventually I got a lot better than I was before. the school however ended at grade 8 and I’d have to switch for high school.

so the summer between grade 8 and 9 a lot of things happened.

(my birthday is over the summer so I had just turned 14)

for the past like year I had been... idk how to say this... like casually contemplating suicide which led to actually contemplating suicide kind of thing. like I don’t want to say I was that serious about it. I mean I looked up stuff about overdose and shit so I guess I was serious about it, but I just don’t like to say so.

anyway keep in mind I had done research about how much it takes to overdose so I knew about what I would survive. so that summer I went and overdosed on a fuckton of advil and melatonin, but obviously not enough to kill u since I’m here telling the story.

it rly should have fucked up my insides at least a bit, but I knew it wouldn’t even come close to killing me. don’t get me wrong it hurt like I bitch, but I didn’t even have to like get any medical care from the hospital. all they did was check my vitals, nothing was actually like put into me (I did throw up a lot before the ambulance came tho)

anyway I’m out of town atm so it’s not a very state of the art hospital. I am in ontario but the hospital isn’t even close to busy. it’s practically abandoned (that was scarier than being worried I’m gonna die). the doctor who has no idea who I am comes in talks to me for about 3 minutes and decided I need to be placed under a form one because I’m either a danger to myself or to others (obviously it was meant for the former). like 3 fucking minutes to decide whether or not to fucking detain me? bullshit

(obv I’m biased since I didn’t want that outcome but like fr 3minutes?)

anyway they keep me overnight and force my parents to pay for an ambulance to the city I live in so I can be kept in an inpatient facility there. and when I get there they insist on wheeling me on a fucking stretcher through the lobby area (not the ER) for everyone to see and up to my new home.

now I’m sure inpatient facilities work for some people (more like 1% imo) but that was the worst thing for me.

I have SOCIAL ANXIETY (and general). yes keep me in with all of these people I don’t kno and expect me to be comfortable talking to complete strangers.

this was basically my first experience with psychiatrists and shit (other than that one time when I was like 6 when my parents made me go to this GROUP therapy thingy for my SOCIAL anxiety).

the woman who was assigned to like work with me was like fresh out of whatever program they learn in for this shit. she looked and sounded like she wanted to cry when she was talking to me (like yeah that’s helping me feel all comfy talking to u) and honestly it was the worst.

(I know my spacing of this thing is horrible)

(I also kno it’s long af)

so ima try to keep this in one paragraph now. they made me talk to them and whatever I said they would twist it to make it sound like I was unstable. I hid an ipod in my room along with earbuds cuz they found my phone immediately since I only put it under my pillow. they didn’t trust us with anything with a camera, anything long (like wires), etc. they locked away my clothes and made me wear a fucking gown that was way too big for me (but some other inmates didn’t have to). one time they left that thing unlocked and I took a bunch of my clothes from it and hid that shit in my room so I knew I could access it even if I couldn’t wear it. they let us keep a set of pyjamas (our own) which I ended up always wearing under my clothes even if I was super hot just because I was trying to piss them off ( I kno bad move). I was rly mad they’d put me in there. whenever my parents would visit (which was only allowed for a tiny amount of time each time) we’d be in a separate room where I’d take off the hospital clothes and wear just my clothes. I eventually didn’t put those other clothes back on and refused. it’s not like they could do anything about it. they can’t hit me. so that was my little rebellion. I wouldn’t eat any of the hospital food cuz it was disgusting so I just ate the snacks they let me bring in. they ended up keeping me longer than they said it would be so that was shit. it overall made me feel worse about myself than I had felt before. like I cry at night when I think about inpatient. there’s so much more i could talk about but I’m not feeling it rn

this was long

[zhannabelle-eng]

Zhannabelle: “Crown is a symbol of ego”

How not to get infected during the pandemic

Who should beware of coronavirus? How to save yourself and your lineage from the epidemic? Why is it so important to reveal your abilities and ask other people for help? Zhannabelle tells us about it.

- Zhannabelle, probably, the main problem that occupies the minds of almost every inhabitant of our planet is why a huge number of people got infected with coronavirus?

Zhannabelle: Yes, my students ask me about it all the time. Before I answer, I would like to elaborate on the astrological aspect of this issue.

Many people know that at this time the planet Saturn is in the constellation Capricorn. This arrangement of planets has a serious effect on us, creating very strong restrictions. This is exactly what is happening everywhere: borders are closed, flights are canceled, people can’t travel. And in most countries of the world where the quarantine regime is installed, people cannot even leave the house. Freedom of movement is now limited.

But our internal limitations look much more serious. Imagine, for example, that you want to do something good for this world, to demonstrate your talents and abilities, but you can’t.

You may have always dreamed of singing. But there is an internal barrier inside you that does not allow you to do this. An inner voice whispers to you: “Why do you need this? You’re singing terribly!” Why did this voice appear in your head? Probably in childhood someone dropped a remark that you were worthless singer. And you heard and believed in it! And we have a lot of similar internal limitations.

- Such examples happen quite often. But they affect the life of only one person, not the whole humanity.

Zhannabelle: I would like to touch on exactly this topic.

Suppose you want to accomplish something meaningful and to help people all over the planet. Or maybe you dream to help animal shelters. But they dissuade you from doing this: “What kind of whim is this? You can catch an infection, you can get sick! Please think about your own health, about your life. Think of yourself.” And you involuntarily listen and do not implement your plans into reality. And the world will not get a certain share of goodness, love and compassion, because you have abandoned your goal.

Our reality is cruel and selfish. And the whole society is saturated with this egoism, everyone thinks only of himself.

If you examine this virus under a microscope, you will find it resembles a crown. And the crown has long been considered a symbol of ego.

It is a pity that only for a small part of people in the world do thoughts about universal well-being, about the fate of our planet, about love for all living things matter. That is why coronavirus has a strong influence on people whose ego runs high. Because like seeks like.

- So, some people are not affected by the virus?

Zhannabelle: Of course! Students often write me now that they are afraid of getting infected with the coronavirus and even more worried that their family will get sick. I try to reassure everyone: “Don’t worry! If you do the opposite of your ego, then there will be no chance of getting infected."

For example, from time to time I visit places where many people with serious illnesses are concentrated. I never worry about catching a virus. I hug these people, take their hands and I’m sure that nothing will happen to me. Because it has never happened to me. I am very grateful to God and my tutors who have given me the ability to neutralize my egoism.

That is why, if now you gather in a circle of like-minded people, pray together, stimulate your development, think about others, you and your lineage will easily avoid infection!

- How to get together under quarantine?

Zhannabelle: This is a very urgent problem now.

Saturn seriously set out to divide us. In some countries, people were forbidden to approach each other closer than two meters. People have to stay at a distance, each is caged up within four walls of their homes. What can be done? Unite and stick together!

Yes, we have such an opportunity! Along with the full-time classes, we have an online school, and every Sunday we make an online prayer Field of Love at 14:00 GMT.

And those who take part in all these important events and prayers are people with a special mission. Their fate is to become the saviors of our planet.

In this difficult situation, the Lord instructs us: “Deny selfishness, help others, begin to develop yourself, benefit the world. Unleash your abilities, demonstrate them to the world so that people can feel their impact. Because if you keep your talents to yourself and don’t share their creative power, this is also a kind of egoism.”

After all, God endowed each of us with unique talents. Someone got a huge kind heart, someone got the talent of a vocalist, someone got the ability to acting, and someone got the desire to help other people. And we must put all this to use.

- You say that in this difficult period women fulfill a special mission. What is the reason for this?

Zhannabelle: Yes, it really is. Do you know why my course is called THE WOMEN'S WORLD - THE RETURN OF WOMEN'S POWER? What is the true female power? In love!

Therefore, I do not stop reminding everyone: if you make prayers, if you give good to people, help others, you will not get infected! Because your immunity is tempered by love. Love for your immune system is like nutrition for a living organism. At our events, trainings, consultations, we create a powerful Field of Love. This is possible by combining our energy, doing special rituals. And this radiant energy of love is transmitted to your lineage, city, country.

Women of Power have the ability to create this power of love like generators. And it serves as a miracle cure against a deadly infection. After all, the vaccine against coronavirus has not yet been developed.

But those who try not to miss my seminars, develop unrealistically strong energy immunity. It completely prevents any infection.

Jesus Christ was an enlightened Master. He could heal people during periods of raging epidemics, but he never became infected. Therefore, his energy level was of a completely different level and his immune system could withstand the onslaught of any bacteria and viruses.

Any virus is a manifestation of dark power. And if you already have inside a focus of such powers like envy, malice, negativity or condemnation, then you are unlikely to be able to protect yourself from coronavirus. And if you make prayers, support the needy, if you are always positive, then the virus is not a problem for you!

- What recommendations can you give our readers so that they have the opportunity to protect themselves and their lineage from the virus?

Zhannabelle: This will require three simple actions.

1.You need to refresh all your talents and abilities in your memory and write them down on a piece of paper. Remember what you were fond of as a child, what worked best, for what you were praised. I already told you, for what purposes it is necessary to reveal all your abilities. Send this list to me by e-mail and I will teach you in detail what to do with it.

If it suddenly seems to you that you are an absolutely untalented person and have no idea why you came to this world, I can advise you an individual online diagnosis of predestination. Send me a message and I will certainly give you an answer.

2. Think about those who have difficult time during this difficult period. Perhaps these are your relatives, friends or neighbors. Most people at the moment are writhing with obliged loneliness, they feel fear of uncertainty, and even think about suicide. The situation presses on them so much that they are completely immersed in a depressed state and see no way to escape from infection. They are disconnected and cannot see each other. It is depressing.

But helping them is in our power! When we offer our prayers, we will definitely remember these people, all your friends who feel lonely and need help and support.

3. If you feel insecure, you feel bad, you are scared or feel despair, do not hold it in yourself! Write me about it! And I will contact everyone and help!

Modern people have poorly developed ability to ask for help. And this also has a fair share of egoism.

The ego implies an arrogant desire to do everything by yourself, but more often it does not have sufficient support to cope with your plan. And when we ask someone for help, we open our hearts and thoughts, our souls, thereby counteracting the selfish Saturn.

And that is why, I urge you to this opposition: open yourself to the world and ask for help from people, from spirits, from God. This is one of the most important qualities of Woman of Power!

[srnevergivesup]

It's the end of the year. 2017 has come and gone by so quickly! Its a bit scary as nobody is getting any younger! Well, I am not!

It has been a great year so far. The best in a very long time. It had its challenges but, it is the way I handled those challenges that made my journey easier.

I started 2017 by deciding to really be myself. I came out as a bisexual to my dearest and closest, to my Daughter especially who was loving and open hearted about it.  I even told my half little brother! I was loved, encouraged and loved by all.

I had my first relationship with a woman. This relationship only lasted two months but, I finally embrassed who I am and, true to myself, I ended it as I felt it wasn't the right relationship for me. Not so long ago, ending any romantic connections used to trigger my Co-dependency and Love Addiction, both results of childhood trauma, creating deep fear of abandonment and rejection. This time, though, I noticed red flags of controlling behaviour and acted accordingly. I knew that the end of this relationship wasn't a reflection of my worth. For the very first time, I felt strong and happy, alone.  I very much enjoy my single life. I am turning my love inward.

I also promised myself to start writing this book I've been thinking about for so long. I enrolled in a Memoir Writing class. I met a bunch of amazing like minded people as passionate, as I am about literature and words. They are even bit cheeky, just like me. As we share each other's work, which can get very personal and moving, we do it with love and care. The feedback is always given fairly and gently. It feels like family so I enrolled on the next term and I am going back in January 2018.

I did some serious work on the book. I had great feedback from classmates and friends around. I'd like to finished the first draft but, I didnt. I did start something though. It's a good foundation for my work.

I started to put a project together to raise awareness about the work/ mental health issues. A cause I am passionate about as its close to my own heart. I got experiences from friends sharing their struggles looking for working, working or not being able to work at all while suffering from Depression or BPD or whatever else. But, again, I didn't do as much as I wanted too.

With the book and this project, I had to face my perfectionism. I had to learn to be flexible with myself and loving towards myself whether I achieved this or that. I mean, it would be silly for me to drive myself crazy working on a project about mental health issues! I was understanding with the participants who courageously shared their experiences with me; I need to be as understanding with myself.

A few weeks ago, I felt the strong need to stay in, to retreat. The end of the year festivities always bring some of the past up. I was meant to start volunteering, but instead of trying to push myself to go as I normally would, I took my needs into account and took care of myself and decided it was best for me to start in January. I am scared. It is in a small second hand book shop within a local library. I will be surrounded by books!!! I always wanted to work surrounded by books. They were my only escape for so long. I will go. I will be brave and open a dialogue with the team. "One step at the time" never gets old!

Whatever I do in be New Year, it needs to be from a place of love towards me. " What would make me happy today? " or "Would working there bring me happiness?" Or "Does that feel good?"

My fears need to be embraced and understandood with compassion towards myself, before I can even think of moving forward with them because those fears might always be there, somewhere. Acceptance goes a long way. Self acceptance goes even farther.

Self love goes the extra mile!

Sylvie

Self love goes the extra mile

[hyenainlipstick-blog]

How I Became Disillusioned with ‘Mainstream’ Feminism

This may come as a shock to some people, but I used to be deeply committed to the ideology of mainstream fourth wave feminism. I devoured books like Full Frontal Feminism and BitchFEST, read feminist blogs compulsively, and of course updated my feminist tumblog a dozen or more times a day.

I’d casually been a feminist all my life (what’s not to love about women’s rights?), but like many women, I didn’t get serious about it until college. I was struggling to come out as a lesbian (I now identify as bi) as well as all the normal struggles of living on my own for the first time, and it felt like the entire world was against me.

This was 2008 when LGBT rights were nowhere near as mainstream as they are today. I was raised in western Pennsylvania and entered high school the same year George W. Bush based a large portion of his re-election campaign on denying gay people civil rights. Being gay was not something that was ever even discussed where I grew up.

Getting into feminism was almost like a religious awakening for me. It seemed to be the only ideology that cared about people like me at all. I had very serious social anxiety and depression at the time, and online feminist spaces were some of the few places I felt comfortable expressing myself.

To make a long story short, my anxiety got to the point where I ended up dropping out of college, and a few months later, I came out to my family and ended up living on the street for about half a year.

Most of my waking hours were spent just trying to kill time, waiting for the shelter to open at 10pm. I spent a lot of time at the public library, and used their computers for as long as I could. I blogged about my experiences and found a lot of sympathetic voices I was grateful to have, but I started having doubts too.

I worked hard to make the shelter and day center I frequented more in line with my idea of feminism. I constantly badgered the staff for, in my eyes, failing to create a safe space. One thing I always yelled about (and I do mean yelled, sometimes slamming my hands on the table) was how people would casually refer to themselves and their friends by LGBT slurs. In retrospect, the staff was overworked and had more important problems, and it wasn’t my place to condemn others for reclaiming slurs just because they made me uncomfortable, but at the time all I could focus on how everyone wasn’t living up to my expectations.

I also encouraged my friends to read more feminist books, but most of them found the books out of touch and not very relevant to their experience as homeless, queer women struggling just to keep their heads above water. As time went on, it was hard not to see their point.

Meanwhile, the feminists I encountered online seemed to spend most of their time complaining about issues I found really inconsequential. The term ‘microaggression’ wasn’t popularized yet, but the core concept had already taken root. I was on the verge of suicide everyday (I was hospitalized three times when I was homeless and would later attempt suicide twice), I got six hours sleep a night at most (sometimes sleeping on cement), and I hardly ever had enough food. People online said supportive things, but the words increasingly felt hollow. Everyone was focused on how they were personally ‘oppressed’ by things that seemed more like pet peeves to me than real problems, and there wasn’t anyone who seemed serious about helping women like me.

However, anytime I brought up my concerns, I was accused of concern trolling, trivializing patriarchy, not being a real feminist, or secretly being an MRA troll. (Nice to see that some things haven’t changed.) This was around 2011, and ‘checking your privilege’ was really starting to take off. It frustrated me to no end that people much better off than me would dismiss all my opinions by saying I was just too privileged to understand real oppression.

So I dropped out. I deleted my blog, stopped reading and commenting on feminist sites, and generally avoided social media all together. Considering how much worse call-out culture has gotten in the intervening years, I’m glad I left when I did.

For a time, I refused to even call myself a feminist. I would think “I didn’t leave feminism, feminism left me.” I never stopped believing in the importance of women’s liberty, but I’d completely lost faith in modern mainstream feminism to make any real progress toward that end.

I was completely demoralized, but as more time passed, I began to grow angry instead. I was angry at the radicals and the nitpickers and the armchair theorists for driving me away from something that was so important to me. I was angry that a tiny sliver of feminists claim to speak for all women (claim to speak for me!) when they never do more than pay lip service to the real world barriers poor and working class women face. And I was angry that women like me were being shouted down, maligned and told we’re not real feminists because we’re not ideologically pure enough by the standards of feminist academia. I mean, fucking christ, ain’t I a woman?!

So you can insult me, say I’m not a real feminist, say I’m a dumb whore of the patriarchy, I don’t care anymore. Believe me, I’ve survived far worse. I am a feminist, and I won’t let ideologues bully me into abandoning the label or being silent any longer. To me, being a feminist means standing up and speaking your truth, even when everyone tells you you’re wrong. I don’t criticize feminism in spite of being a feminist; I criticize feminism because I am a feminist. I believe philosophies are like swords; they must be beaten with hammers so they can become stronger and sharper. Feminism is too important to the wellbeing of society not to criticize.

When planning this blog, I really debated whether or not to share the more dramatic details of my personal history. I believe a woman should be judged by the quality of her ideas, not the melodrama of her sob story, and I know there are a lot of virtue-signaling hypocrites who will praise any idea so long as it comes from someone with the right oppression credentials. I’d rather be hated on my own merits than loved for spurious, superficial reasons.

But hopefully I’ve at least shown that not every woman that criticizes mainstream feminism is just some privileged little princess or too ignorant to know better. Feminism should empower women to speak up for themselves, even when no one wants to listen, and if I can in some small way help set that example, I will have no regrets.

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10 People Who Were Found Dead Years After Their Deaths

Many think discussing death is something best avoided. While most of us would tend to agree that it is something best avoided, no matter how much we try to make it go away, death is unfortunately inevitable. The earth is becoming an incredibly lonely planet with all of our privacy ideas. This is why most people these days live and die alone and some others die without anyone even noticing they are gone until years or decades later when its time for agencies to come collect. Sometimes, we begin to imagine how lonely such person were or how much they had to deal with in their solitary lives that after so many years of their demise nobody noticed they had died. Of course normally when somebody dies, the person’s family and friends dispose the corpse through burial or incineration hoping to make the deceased rest properly. However, it appears though that such treatment isn’t for everybody. These 10 people whose death was not discovered until years later are among the most surprising so far.

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A Middle Class Woman with 9 Siblings Lay Dead for Five Years

The body of Michigan IT worker Pia Farrenkopf of Pontiac, 44, was found mummified in the back of her car when her home was seized over unpaid bills. Investigators believe she died in 2009 at the age of 44 as she had last withdrawn $1,500 from her checking account in February 25, 2009. Relatives and pals who know her as bright, fun but unsociable didn’t see or hear from her but they ascribed it to Farrenkopf’s solitary tendencies. Her body was dry when she was found in 2014 making it almost impossible to determine the cause of her death through autopsy.

Unread letters heaped up in her mailbox in the middle-class neighborhood where she lived in Pontiac, Michigan, before being taken back to the Post Office as unclaimed. A family member even tried to talk to her through for phone in 2012 to tell Farrenkopf her mother had died, but never got a response. Mortgage payments kept making deductions automatically from bank accounts overflowing with cash from Farrenkopf’s job at ALLTEL Information Services, where she had once programmed banking software. It was not until they exhausted the money in 2013 and the bank foreclosed that Farrenkopf was finally found by two repairmen, hired to patch a hole in the roof in 2014. She was found slumped in the backseat of the Jeep Liberty parked in her garage, mummified with many unopened letters  around her and several empty packs of cigarettes as well as $500 cash in her pockets and a partially drank bottle of wine by her side.

 The Croatian Woman who Sat Dead infront of her TV for 42 Years

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Born in 1924, Hedviga Golik body was found on May 12, 2008, when police broke into the apartment along with two neighbors. The woman had seemingly prepared herself a cup of tea before sitting in her most preferred armchair in front of her black and white TV. Croatian police disclosed that she was last seen by neighbours in 1966, when she would have been 42 years old. Her neighbours thought she had moved out of her flat in Zagreb or have traveled abroad as she had earlier mentioned. A source revealed inexplicably that neighbors had been paying the missing woman’s utilities and rent for decades and has told police to investigate the apartment which the department had refused until its discovery.

However, after about 35-42 years of her death, police and bailiffs discovered her when they broke in to help the authorities find out who owned the flat. According to the officers who entered her apartment, the place was like going into a place frozen in time. The normal functioning of everything was not disrupted for decades, but there were more than a few cobwebs in there.

The Lonely Florida Woman who was Found 3 Later at Home

The decayed remains of Geneva Chambers were discovered in her Florida home by a landscaper in August 2013. Local police suggested that there was no suspicious circumstance connected to her death. The woman is believed to have passed away for about three years.  based on court documents, foreclosure notices were issued in 2009 and all utilities were turned off by June 2010. People who live next to her thought she had dumped the property. But they had taken care of Chambers’ lawn in recent years, completely uninformed about her death.

Investigators learned that Chambers preferred privacy when she was alive, telling neighbors to stay away from her property and turning away annoyingly a woman who offered her cookies .

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The Chicana Author’s Mummified Body was at Home for a Year

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The mummified body of a Chicana author, activist, and teacher were discovered inside her memento-filled apartment on Zia Road in Santa Fe, New Mexico home in May 2013. Authorities and family members believe that the body of the 70-year-old woman named Barbara Salinas-Norman may have been inside the home for more one year. A preliminary autopsy report suggested Salinas, died of natural causes. Her neighbours and relatives didn’t notice for over a year until her body was found by her brother-in-law Louis Ponce.

Louis Ponce and his wife Edna decided to drive from their home in California to see Salinas, the woman who wrote bilingual books and was part of the Chicano movement’s civil rights advocacy after two years of un-returned phone calls  and letters. Louis Ponce came around determined to “ see her no matter the cost as it’d been such a long time since he had last heard from her. Immediately he stepped inside the home of the activist, it was filled with an odor that Ponce defined as “awful,” he found her mummified body close to a poster that parodied Rosie the Riveter depicting Rosie as a skeleton, with a red cloth on her head and her arm raised in a fist under the caption, “Sí, Se Muere!” Yes, we die. There were scattered pieces of rubbish everywhere which Ponce revealed  he didn’t know anybody would be that dirty.

38-year Old Londoner’s Skeleton was Found 3 Years after her Death

Officials from a north London housing association who were retaking possession of a bedsit in Wood Green on January 25, 2006 for rent arrears made a really really depressing discovery. They found a skeleton lying on the sofa  which reportedly was the skeleton of a 38-year-old woman named Joyce Vincent who had died for nearly three years without anyone noticing it. Her TV set was still on tuned to BBC1, and a tiny heap of unopened Christmas presents lay on the floor. her kitchen sink was filled with dirty dishes and a mountain of post lay at the back of the front door. It was almost impossible to determine the cause of the death as the body has already decomposed, but police thinks that Vincent death was caused by natural causes.

Man who Lay Dead for 2 Years Until Cleaners Arrived to Clear his Home

The skeleton of this introvert named Simon Allen was found in the lounge of his city centre Brighton flat after two years of his death without anybody noticing he had died. His body which was wearing only a pair of socks was found lying behind an armchair in the living room of his flat in Brighton, East Susse when deep cleaners went to his home in November 2012. Police believe his death could have been caused by no suspicious circumstances even though it was not possible to confirm the cause of death.

Man was Discovered Dead in his Foreclosed Home 4 Years after Suicide

A Milwaukee real estate agent entered into a foreclosed house after it was retaken to behold a shockingly indelible sight in 2012. The body of the owner, David Carter was seen on the stairs in an almost skeletonised condition after remaining unseen for about four years.

The deceased resigned from his work as a nuisance control officer for the City of Milwaukee in 2007,  revealing to co-workers that he was relocating to New Mexico. Rather, it seems he went home to kill himself as he had  a bullet wound through his head and a handgun on his chest on the day he was supposed to become 45.

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Elderly Man who Died 15 Years Ago Found in Bed Wearing his Pajamas

The remains of a man, donning pyjamas is believed to have been dead  for over 15 years in an abandoned house. The skeleton was discovered in city of Lille and French police are trying to identify the body, which is  believed to be that of the elderly owner of the property who lived alone and seemed to have no family. Investigators found heaps of unread post in the house dating back to 1996. Based on French reports, he was of Spanish origin and was born in 1921.

A Woman who Died in her Home Discovered 8 Years Later

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Natalie Jean Wood’s Surry Hills died in her home in 2003, but was undiscovered until 2011.  She died at the age of 86, months after being diagnosed with a brain tumour, and lay unfound on the floor of her bedroom until her body was discovered when police searched her old home in 2011. The last family member to see Ms Wood alive was Ms Davis , her sister-in-law in 2003 when she came to their home in January 2003 to inform her family of the diagnosis.

Their usual contact decreased and Ms Davis became too busy to go check on Ms Wood  since she was caring for her terminally sick husband, Ms Wood’s brother who was wheelchair bound. In 2007 and 2008 Ms Davis said she tried to reach Ms Wood through inquiries to Centrelink and the police and tried to return to Ms Wood property after Mr Davis succumbed to his illness and died in 2009 but all to no avail.

The German who was Found Dead in his Bed Seven Years Later

The body of a dead German man was discovered alone in bed in 2007, almost seven years after the man is belied to have died. Local Police said that the man was 59-years-old when he passed away, suggesting he died sometime close the turn of the century. The man’s date of death was projected to be November 30, 2000. He is thought to be single and unemployed  at the time of his death. Police believe that he died of natural causes.

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Trump and the people

The fireworks started around midnight on the west coast, they were probably the most depressing fireworks I’ve ever listened to in my life. I hadn’t seen any Trump signs around the ‘hood but it wasn’t too shocking. This stretch of deep Southeast Portland backing up to Powell Butte is in the old school white working class vein of town, though it’s had a thrush of new blood in the last decade, as the few remaining communities of color have been pushed out this way. I sat at my kitchen table feeling like a bad acid trip was coming on. I was about to turn 40, and my 20 year old self would probably have been surprised that something like this had taken so long. I remember sitting around with a bunch of degenerate punk clowns in Austin watching the returns the night Bush “won” in 2000, and feeling the same kind of despair while my girlfriend and I consoled each other in ‘04. But beyond that, it had felt for a long time that a country rapidly overrun by oligarchs was gonna run itself off the cliff sooner or later. Now that it’s done, I feel utterly alone and terrified a lot of the time. I don’t know if that’s a valid reaction or not. It is certainly one of fear, and that fear is by no means ungrounded. I write this not so much the 20 year old anarchist who went to anti-globalization protests but a self-employed carpenter father and partner of a teacher. Working people, raising our child with the same working class values our parents instilled in us: do your best, and take care of each other.

  I had to think of the time, 8 years before, when I rode my bike drunk on a warm November night in Brooklyn, fist pumping anyone I saw on Myrtle Ave and yelling “Obama!” on my way to a victory celebration with a bunch of friends. The restaurant was run by a lesbian couple, it was a diverse crowd, and the sense of elation I felt that night was potent. I’ll never forget the way I felt when the president elect verbally reached out to queer community, it seemed so strange to hear that from the man who would be president, the first black president, so improbable and unstoppable at once. And it was stranger still because I hadn’t even voted for him. I had voted in the first presidential election of my lifetime in ‘04, although I was old enough to have voted in the two previous ones, solely out of sheer terror at the prospect of another Bush term. When Obama came onto the scene, I liked him, but perhaps it was the way in which so many of my friends had become involved in elevating him to such a high stature that they weren’t able to see that much of his politics were firmly rooted in neoliberalism and, even if he were able to embrace his more progressive tendencies, he would certainly be hamstrung by the political establishment, more so because he is black. I did not vote for him or anyone in that election, but I was three sheets to the wind a fair amount in those days, and I couldn’t remember if I had updated my registration since I moved to New York. It was the last presidential election I would ditch, I voted happily for Obama in 2012, even though by then the dream was dead and the Tea Party racists were half unhinged over a black man trying to tell them what to do with their health insurance. I voted for him partly because I felt a little ashamed of not voting for him in ‘08, and partly because I hate stiff rich white guys like Mitt Romney as much as most Americans.

  But Donald Trump is no Mitt Romney. The now famous picture of the two of them dining together may speak to their shared cartoonish robber baron natures, but the similarities end there. Mitt Romney is the stuffed shirt blue blood with the weird religion, Donald Trump is the macho TV star whose antagonism has been saturating the market of our daily lives for two generations now, his kind of sales pitch is safe as milk to a lot of us. The picture of the two of them is terrifying, his dominance of Romney broadcast so viciously.

It’s no coincidence that he came out of the same 80’s culture that made guys like Vince McMahon rich and famous, his antics are right out of the WWE playbook. Trump is the classic heel, in wrestling terms the villain you love to hate, the guy who doesn’t mind fighting dirty to get the job done. In the working class neighborhood in Baltimore I grew up in, more kids idolized Rowdy Roddy Piper, the heel, than Hulk Hogan. To draw further comparisons between Trump and the Hot Rod would do a disservice to the memory of the latter, but Trump is indeed cunning in his abilities. His racism is well documented going back to the 80’s, as is his treatment of women and outright powerlust, but it was not within his grasp to become a politician, for that he would have to wait until 8 years of living under a black president had created such an apocalyptic mindset in the voters of white America that he was able to seize his opportunity. And he held fast.

  Count me among those who believed that his candidacy would fizzle after the initial blast of profane assaults, but once his momentum gathered I felt like we were in for it. I was canvassing neighborhoods for Bernie Sanders but I knew he was never going to be given a serious look by the Democratic establishment. White folks in our neighborhood who were for Trump would give lip service to Bernie, and that kind of sentiment fueled the idea that he might be the only one who could beat him. We’ll never know how that would have turned out, unfortunately. But one thing that’s clear is that the Trump phenomenon is a vindication of the power modern media domination, and, to put a finer point to it, mind control. The Apprentice gave rise to its titular character’s aura of invincibility. Here we have the lavish billionaire, the picture of wealth and power, thronged by beautiful elites and backed by ominous music, dangling the sword over outstretched necks of would be sycophants, buoyed by the immense drama of those two famous words…..

  And in the end that’s all it took. The rich and middle class Republicans by and large fell behind him like we all knew they would, but much ink has been spilled in these last months about the rest of his voting block, those poor racist white people, and how could they be so stupid to vote for someone who so obviously doesn’t give a shit about them? Did they feel wounded and left behind by 8 years of a “reverse” racist-in-chief, or were they simply sick to death of the status quo and willing to vote for the flamboyant playboy because he at least doesn’t seem like such a phony? I suspect it’s more than a little of both, and more than a lot of decades of misinformation and subterfuge clouding the waters for working people of all colors, leaving the talk shows and comment threads with nothing but vitriol and bad analysis. Given the alternative of a candidate like Sanders, would people see that his brand of populism gave some beef to the airy promises Trump made to bring back manufacturing, or would people just see him as a far out Jewish commie? If Hillary Clinton had not been Hillary Clinton and instead been a woman more in the mold of Elizabeth Warren, would poor white folks have given her more of a shot, or is the horrid sexism she endured a true barometer the attitudes towards women among the working class?

  And then there is the whole issue of the term itself. Working class. Working poor. White working class. Blue collar. While there are fairly clear indicators of where we all fall on this ladder based on income, the past few generations have indeed muddied the usage of the term in a variety of ways. One’s upbringing and exposure to media and education may preclude them to a different outlook than those they share an income bracket with. As a child of college educated socialists I certainly viewed politics through a different lens than an old carpenter I once worked with, who thought that global warming was a hoax to sell more textbooks and hated Hillary Clinton not on the basis of her corporate, imperialist worldview but because she had the gall to be an assertive first lady instead of “knowing her place”. And there are certainly those who argue that the working class doesn’t even really exist any more; in the same way that people talk about the vanishing middle class, the attacks on unions have all but eviscerated the ability of working people to organize for their mutual benefit, to the point where working poor is perhaps the only appropriate term.

  I am working poor. I live paycheck to paycheck and I was raised by a single mother who lived that way too. Under President Obama, I had health insurance, medicaid for sure but it was enough to get me to the dentist every once in awhile. I also had hope. Not hope in the utopian sense that was broadcast large back in 2008 but hope in a more cautious, realist sense. I have long understood that I was born into the later stages of a cancer. We are abusing the earth at an alarming rate, and the world cannot hold up under the excesses of capitalism for very much longer. I do believe that, for all of his drone strikes and fracking advances, President Obama understood this too. I felt some measure of comfort in the thought that at least he could pilot the sinking ship of neoliberalism with some care and perhaps mercy. For the next four years, I will abandon that hope as he hands the wheel over to a narcissist lunatic. But I will most certainly not give up.

    This Friday they will be installing the madman at the White House, and the following day, thousands will march on Washington to demand that their voices be heard above clamour of those who would normalize the denigration of women, the dehumanization of immigrants, and the destruction of resources for poor people the world over. In the coming years some of us may have to make difficult choices about putting our own privilege on the line to help stem the tide of abuse that will undoubtedly fall hardest upon our more vulnerable brothers and sisters. I was raised to think these kinds of actions can not only make a difference, but can be what makes us human. I can only hope that I will be able to find the courage and determination to see that through.

-JS