#saying gender bending is transphobic is stupid too

[bevy-obeyme]

I know you're super busy but if you have the time, I wanted to request a Trans FtM MC with the brothers, mostly headcanons or cute shenanigans! Like asking the brothers helping MC recover from Top Surgery!!! Please it would make my year!! Thank you so much for reading!

Of course! It’s no problem and I’ll try to get all my asks done today!! :))

I really appreciate requests that give me different prompts because I myself as I have stated numerous times am a cis female and being introduced to other perspectives is really intriguing for me!!

Shenanigans with the brothers as a Temale to Male MC

Lucifer - Top Surgery.

- No doubt, going into surgery was a nerve wracking thing. He could only admire your bravery to do so.. and hold your hand in comfort as you walked in.

- You got registered in and sat in the doctor’s office, Lucifer was sat besides you rubbing your knuckles absentmindedly and pressing kisses against your cheek, reminding you that you’d do great.

- Post surgery - he could see your delight, your newfound comfort in being more masculine. He couldn’t help the tiny smile that dotted on his face at your happiness.

- He did notice the scars and was always careful when admiring you. In fact, he seemed to be even more enamoured. Those scars were a sign of strength. A sign of resilience.

‘’No matter what you look like, you’ll always remain mine. And that’s all that matters.’’

Mammon - A lower class demon misgendering you.

- You bet, he would be hella pissed.

- You both were walking through the town square, hand in hand when suddenly his demonic hearing picked up on snickering.

- Snickers about you and transphobic comments.

- How dare they make such comments about you? So he yelled out to them.

- If that didn’t work, he would literally square up on them. Give them an intimidating glare and go up to them with his hands on his hips, you behind him as he rambled off, insulting the inferior demon’s intelligence and what not.

- At one point, you had to literally hold him back as you could swear he was about to throw hands.

‘’Yea’, yea! Walk away, I dare ya! Stupid scum! Next time I see ya bastards hangin’ around, insulting MY ____, yer gonna regret it!’’

Leviathan - Cosplaying to combat body dysmorphia.

- Levi noticed just how sad you looked in the Ruri-chan cosplay.

- Sure, you agreed to cosplay with him but he still felt bad about taking up your time.. he should’ve known a stupid otaku like him would only take up your time.

- However, then the realisation dawned on him. Ruri-chan was a girl and you were trying to transition… oh. OH.

- To say he felt horrible was an understatement, and he immediately offered to switch cosplays. He reassured that you still looked masculine and that a gender-bend Ruri-chan wasn’t that bad of an idea.

‘’Y-You look so cool as Ruri-chan! Who cares if she’s a girl? C-Cosplaying is all about the fun of it!’’

Satan - Helping insecurity and deep rooted inferiority.

- Satan could see it. Even if you never stated it, that you held a lot of gender envy towards him and his brothers.

- He sympathised with you. Feeling like you were born in the wrong body was awful no doubt. And the fact that you would always feel inferior to ‘real’ men.

- But Satan always countered that - what defined a ‘real’ man? Sure, anatomy might be one answer, but the second was identity.

- Gender was nothing but a social custom. Dresses being feminine? An opinion. Suits being masculine? Also an opinion. Mindsets, emotions and thoughts didn’t have a set gender and Satan made sure to express that clearly, hell, you’ve seen his brothers haven’t you?

- His tone was logical and firm. Reassuring you that you were justified in being who you were and that labelling yourself as a man was okay.

‘’Don’t let other people drag you down to their levels of simplicity. I’ll love you no matter the form you take ____.’’

Asmodeus - Help diminish masculine stereotypes.

- He too noticed your gender envy. But the avatar of lust had a different way of dealing with it.

- Any time you two went out, he’d make sure to apply makeup, wear skirts, high heels - any ‘feminine’ thing you could think of just to show you there was no harm expressing yourself in a ‘girly’ manner even as a man.

- He also did it to place the attention on him. He didn’t care for the confused looks or admirers. He strutted like he owned the place and he wanted you to do the same.

‘’Confidence is a lifestyle darling. Once you begin living it, people will love you for the amazing man you are.’’

Beelzebub - To feel more masculine.

- Beel was a regular at the gym and his clubs, that was fact. And so, you could argue he was the most masculine with his chiseled form.

- When you came up to him and requested to attend the gym with him to build muscle, he was more than happy for you to accompany him. It did get a bit lonely going by himself at times.

- He helped you bulk on calories and encouraged what foods to eat and to avoid when building muscle.

- However, he also reassured you that you didn’t have to gain muscle to be a ‘man’ and that you were handsome enough as is.

‘’I know I don’t say it often but.. I love you how you are ____. Don’t feel the need to change for other people. But, I won’t stop you if you truly do it for yourself.’’

Belphegor - Comforting you after being deadnamed.

- Belphegor knew that you still had issues transitioning. It was normal - your whole life would change as people viewed you differently. But not him. In his heart, you were still the little human that got him to love the quirks of humanity again.

- However, after being woken up by your cries and hearing of what happened, he immediately came to reassure you that people like that were idiots and random nobodies. Why bother putting up with self-conscious fools who had nothing better to do than hate you for being happy?

- He pulled you close to his chest and snuggled into you, all the while asking about the low class demons that deadnamed you - you didn’t want to know what he would do to them.

‘’I’m telling you ____, don’t bother time with idiots.. they’re all mindless demons that somehow Lord Diavolo hasn’t eradicated yet.’’

[questionedturkey]

youre not?? trans???? you dont get a say in what is and isnt transphobic. countless trans people have said genderbends are transphobic and disgusting, especially when handled by cis people, you should maybe listen to them

Changing the gender of a fictional cis person has literally zero to do with being trans?? Gender bending is literally just a fun fandom thing putting a character is a different perspective. Assuming that only changing the gender of a character that nothing else (exclusively a cis character) is a portrayal of being trans is transphobic in itself. My trans friend thinks this shit is stupid too it’s literally not that deep

[skopostheorie]

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the thing is. the gender binary is SO tied to heterosexuality as well. so much of the “male” identity as perceived by cishet society is about marrying a woman, and so much about that of the “female” is about marrying a man. misogyny plays a major part, because so much more of “being a woman” is to serve the man they end up marrying, and to serve men in general, than vice versa for “being a man”. something something the patriarchy. this is not news to anyone.

the idea that gender identity and being trans, especially being nonbinary and lesbian or gay or aligned bisexual, doesn’t have any place in the so called “LGB” is so weird. because by not being heterosexual, you’re already rejecting the gender binary in the strictest sense. like the gender binary was just the easiest way to categorise people by how they would reproduce right. if it were Just About the body parts then we’d also have “roles” for shit like eye colour. (of course there’s racism and ableism etc but that’s a whole other discussion)

that’s of course not to say that you Have to consider yourself non-binary if you’re not straight. like that’s dumb. people have been bending “gender roles” as it were since the beginning of time and a good deal of those people haven’t necessarily felt some kind of dysphoria and are happy identifying within their binary gender.

but like. that’s just the thing right? gender is just an interpretation. literally EVERYTHING we perceive on this planet is an interpretation. “wednesday” may mean the same DAY and moment in space-time but when i hear “wednesday” it means something different between you and me. to me wednesday might be take away dinner night or something. and that means nothing to you but that doesn’t mean i have the wrong understanding of “wednesday”.

“be a man” is a sentence that can trigger all sorts of emotions and even trauma for people but it’s always meant something different to everyone. even between two hypermasculine cis guys, their understanding of “man” is different. if they’re transphobic they might think “a man is someone with a dick” but they have parts of their personality that hinge on their being a man, too. for some, to be a man is to, like, be chivalrous or “gentlemanly” or whatever. for others it’s about being Strong As Fuck or. liking cars or something. even though they both have the same basic idea, no one hears the word “male” or “female” and thinks the exact same thing, when you really get down to it.

but. at least in my opinion, maybe, i feel a lot of the Widely Accepted gender binary and its associated roles stem from heterosexuality, or rather heteronormativity. so much of the roles is that “a man is what a woman is not, and a woman does what a man does not”. so when someone isn’t straight, at least in my eyes, they’re already rejecting that oppressive binary.

again, doesn’t mean they’re nb. but i also think it’s why nb lesbians and gay guys, or nb aligned bisexual people, makes so much sense to me? cuz even though i feel a certain level of comfort and self-recognition in being a man and considering myself one - even though i know it’s stupid, like a television show you know is objectively bad but you watch the shit out of anyways - i also feel a resentment towards it. the definition of “man”, at least the way i’ve inferred it from having ideals of masculinity presented to me since birth, has a lot to do with being with women, and so when i go and date another man, am i not already.... not a man?

rejecting that binary entirely and navigating one’s sexuality and gender on one’s own terms makes a whole lot of sense to me. i mean, no one’s gender is a political statement, unless they want it to be, i guess. so i’m not going to stand here and pretend that every nb lesbian or gay guy or align bisexual person is making some Revolutionary Statement by just existing. 

but rather, it’s proof of how everyone has interpreted, and re-interpreted, what gender means in different ways. and it’s also proof, besides the whole history of trans women being so pivotal to the history of same-gender attracted people, of how you literally can’t untangle the connections between being gay/bi/lesbian and being trans. cuz in both instances, it’s about rejecting the way gender has been presented to us (whether it’s that gender is tied to heterosexuality, or that gender is tied to biological sex) and existing as ourselves; outside of how society planned it.

anyway.

[thewebcomicsreview]

Ko-Fi Commission: LeaseBound

Leasebound is a “gender-critical” (TERF) webcomic that attained notoriety after releasing a chapter with hateful depictions of trans people, leading to it getting banned from Smack Jeeves. It’s currently self-hosted on a comic press site without a cast page, archive, or even menu, and doesn’t appear to have a patreon (and likely won’t, given its content). It’s a small enough comic that I wouldn’t normally feel comfortable reviewing it, except that the creator explicitly encouraged me to and appears to be getting off on the bad press. 

The story starts with two characters finding out that they both rented the same apartment because the landlord was incompetent and double booked it.

And this particular landlord doesn’t have any other rooms available. There’s a host of logical objections to this set up, such as

Isn’t this fraud on the part of the landlord?

Wouldn’t a major deception like this void the lease?

Why don’t the women move to some other landlord’s apartment and sue the shit out of the woman who sold them a single apartment and surprised them with a roommate?

How does a huge apartment complex with at least 18 rooms have two people booking rooms that don’t talk to each other?

Is the groundskeeper also doing the paperwork and background checks? You don’t buy an apartment at the apartment store, it’s like a whole process.

Isn’t this just the fanfic “but there was only one bed!” trope taken to an even more illogical extreme?

But that road leads to becoming CinemaSins, so let’s just acknowledge that the premise is ludicrous and all the characters are morons so we can move on with our lives. Anyway, the characters introduce themselves as Jaden and Riley, and casually accept sharing a bedroom. They exposit a bit about how Jaden dropped out of college and Riley never went, and

Uh

RILEY: Sorry- I wasn’t trying to pry. JADEN: All good. Earlier you said you had a “few things” in mind RILEY: Right, yeah! I thought it was be good to set some ground rules. JADEN: You can add’ “more organised” to the list then too. Haha. RILEY: Wait, really?  JADEN: Stories for another time

What the fuck? What list? What is Jaden talking about? Why is there an apostrophe hanging out after “add”?

You know how in PS1 JRPGs the translation would be really bad and sometimes people would just say weird shit that didn’t seem to have anything to do with what was just said?

That’s how Leasebound dialogue reads, bizarre punctuation and all. The add’ with an apostrophe is baffling, but I also like how “Haha.” is it’s own sentence with a period at the end.

 Anyway, the rest of the chapter is about how Riley owns a cat but has to keep it a secret because she doesn’t know if the landlord allows pets and I guess didn’t think to ask when she was applying for the lease.

So, the status quo is established. Jaden and Riley wanted to buy a single apartment but got foisted with a roommate, but they’re happy because that means the rent is cheaper. Personally if I wanted a cheaper apartment and was willing to have a roommate I’d get an apartment with a roommate in the first fucking place but we really can’t keep complaining about how stupid the premise is we have to move on. So Jaden is in the living room and, hold on, sorry

This living room is massive. The kitchen has a fridge, and oven, and two matching sofas. In chapter 2 Riley’s going to fit in a four-seat table in here. This is supposed to be a studio apartment in Downtown City

Y’know, City. Not any particular specific real or fictional city with a name, but City.

And Jaden and Riley, neither of whom have college degrees, are so hard up for cheaper rent that they’re comfortable with the surprise revelation of having to share a bedroom with a stranger. But they’re also in a huge apartment in the middle of a metro area? This living room is nearly as big as mine, and I have three roommates and live in Cheaper Suburb. Why are you buying all this space at City square foot prices if money is tight? Get a smaller apartment, or if you really need the space get an apartment that’s not in the middle of City? The author of this comic is 23, has she not looked into getting an apartment? Bigger ones are more expensive.

Okay, okay, the premise is dumb. Let’s move on. Riley and Jaden make sm-

Why are you sharing a tiny bedroom if your Living room is party sized and has multiple sofas? Why not partition off some of the living room with room dividers from IKEA to make a faux bedroom with privacy?

Ahem, Riley and Jaden make small talk and order a pizza and it takes a long time and it’s not super interesting but it’s supposed to be cute and I can’t really fault a slice of life comic for taking its time. Riley’s worried that her girlfriend won’t like that she has a roommate (Riley why don’t you move in with your girlfriend?), and Jaden gets a call from work that they’re shortstaffed.

They’re so short-staffed that they’re going to send an employee out to go pick up Jaden. Can Jaden not get to work on her own? That seems like the kind of thing that would make her not want to move in to this specific apartment. Why would you move to an apartment that you couldn’t get to work from? You’re in the middle of City, and your job is a big nightclub in City, and City has public transit. You previously did not live in City, meaning you used to live further away from work than you now do. How did you get to work before? Isn’t picking up a Jaden a tremendous waste of an employee’s time? Even if the club is aware that Jaden can’t get in on her own and is willing to bend over backwards for her here, why not “Jaden, we need you at work pronto. Take a uber over, we’ll reimburse you”, which is dramatically easier for all involved? Why is everyone in this comic so fucking stupid?

Sigh

Well, Jaden goes to work, and that leads us off into the infamous chapter 3, “The T is for trouble”

We open the chapter with a bad-faith trigger warning that looks like a real content warning but is actually designed to get trans people really mad as Jaden heads to work and-

Hey hey, Rusty started putting links to her tumblr in the comic pages. Someone was expecting pages from this chapter to go viral, wasn’t she? Was the chapter where Riley and Jaden spend a few pages ordering a pizza not giving you enough engagement? But now that you’re the official #2 Terf Webcomic you get lots of angry people in your tags that you can reblog and be snarky at. Bet that makes you feel powerful. I know the feeling. I built my tumblr following by writing reviews and advice columns for five years, but you went from zero to hero in like a week and all you had to do was say mean things about trans people oh my god I figured it out

You’re Mary. Rusty Hearts is Mary Bradford from Dumbing of Age. You want the validation of the “wrong” kind of people giving you shit. That’s why you made sure all your transphobic comics had links to your tumblr and your getting pizza comics didn’t. That’s why you keep reblogging my ads for my comic that I place in your tags. That’s why you see me post the review and make a response like this

And you know what?

Nah.

I’m not going to include chapter 4. I’m not going to read it. I’m not even going to include chapter 3. There’s nothing that I can add to it that hasn’t been said by a ton of other people. I can post your anti-trans stuff and get the vapors about how bigoted you are, but at the end of the day I’m not the Social Justice Report. I’m The Webcomics Review. And your webcomic sucks. It’s boring, it’s stupid, it doesn’t make any sense. Your premise is ludicrous and quickly abandoned to bait and switch people into reading a political polemic (I did skim chapter four, it’s literally people standing around in a circle talking about how trans people are bad like a terfy Ayn Rand novel). Your characters are all morons in order to get to plot points you want to get to, and your first two chapters are a mountain of pointless exposition and characters being vaguely cryptic about their backstories.Your art is bad not just in that you can’t draw well, but in that you don’t bother to include details to give your world a sense of place, and the details you do include like that luxurious living room actively undermine your alleged story (to the extent that there’s a story at all).

But hey, you got your 15 minutes of fame (and zero patreonbux) from the anti-trans stuff. You got people to read your comic. Good hussle. Well done. Tatsuya Ishida does it better.

Leasebound gets zero genders out of a spectrum.

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[loumandliker]

no you know what y’all don’t get to uwu your way out of this lol. when you support a rhetoric that directly supports gatekeeping that destroys lives and build your entire understanding of transness on suffering and lift your own experiences up as the only acceptable one you are literally broadcasting your shittiness, you’re literally saying “i don’t care that the gatekeeping of access to life saving resources means that people are on the waiting lists for years and years and that the treatment of trans people trying to access transition care by cis ~professionals~ is atrocious in many places, i think we as trans people are too stupid and incompetent to know what we need.” you’re also then placing the blame on your fellow trans people for the long waiting lists despite there being absolutely no data or evidence anywhere of “”””transtrenders””””” clogging up systems in any countries, no data of increases in detransition, and dissatisfaction rates for trans procedures being lower than that for things like cancer surgery. i’m from a country with free universal healthcare and i couldn’t transition in my country because they had a year long waiting list with 2 years of counseling before transition, something that would’ve fucking killed me, so i went and paid for hrt out of pocket at pp in the us lmfao, i have friends in countries like the uk still waiting for an appointment 4 years later after being put on the waiting list, something you miserable shit gremlins support with your fear mongering and bootlicking

y’all do shit like say “all we want is for transness to stay medicalized so it’s covered by insurance!!!” as if it hasn’t already been demedicalized just to create an outrage and panic against imaginary enemies. you band together with terfs and right wingers to cry about how ~biology~ should determine various things. y’all make videos and blogs and ig accounts dedicated to posting photos of trans people you think are faking, or act as apologists for other people who do that. y’all say “you just only need dysphoria and gender euphoria means you feel dysphoria bc dysphoria doesn’t mean hating urself!”; get told that the actual fucking meaning of dysphoria necessitates medically significant distress (because dysphoria LITERALLY MEANS distress) and then pretend to not know how to read. y’all argue for the brain sex and then talk about how women are genetically and biologically more emotional for having feeble stupid female brains. you have never read any literature by queer trans sociologists on gender and know nothing about the historical significance of labels like genderqueer or genderfluid and then try to pretend they mean “likes to dress femininely/masculinely sometimes.”

y’all say things like “you need dysphoria to be trans,” get told by people whose transitions look like yours they don’t experience dysphoria only euphoria and you bend over backwards to come up with a reason for why they actually do experience dysphoria, try to define other people’s experiences for them, dismiss belittle and make fun of others, butt into other people’s posts to tell them not all transmeds, continue to bring up the trans girl y’all harassed into pretending to be cis after her nudes were leaked and examined in excruciating detail pixel by pixel to figure out if she was faking being trans as a reason for why there’s an epidemic of cis ppl pretending to be trans...

y’all are a bunch of spineless bootlickers and no uwufication will change that sorry! y’all are either outwardly openly misogynistic, transphobic, and homophobic or support people who are. there are no good truscum. lol

Just because your transmed doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

Just a reminder 💕

- Mod Freckles

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What You're Actually Saying When You Ask People to Use Your Preferred Pronouns

Not too long ago I stumbled upon the ever so thirsty Riley J. Dennis' video how intentionally mis-gendering someone is an act of violence. In the sources there was an article called WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY SAYING WHEN YOU IGNORE SOMEONE’S GENDER PRONOUNS 

It's the usual article that informs you how you massacre one's feelings by not doing precisely what they ask. And thus this is what you actually say. I usually hate these types of posts, because they tend to exaggerate ��the situation.

Therefore as a gag I made my own list to give a little look at the other side of the coin. By no means should you see this as accusatory. This is how the non-trans maybe feel like when you, a trans person, demand for your pronouns.

1. My only concern is my personal well-being

By this I mean, you make people feel as though they do not matter. You ask that your pronouns are used without questioning if the other person feels comfortable using them. Neither do you even consider if it is easy to use them. With the example being the pronoun “po”: 

“Hi! My name is Ashley and my preferred pronouns are po/pon/ponself. I like drawing” 

“Ashley is a highschool student. Po likes drawing”. 

Do you understand how awful that sounds? I used an extreme example, but even if the pronoun was “they” - I know that even that is confusing to use, because no one is really used to using singular they when referring to a specific person. However, it is easy to use when there is no knowledge of a person's sex, especially with unisex personal names, such as Ashley, Jamie, Taylor, Sidney and so on. So please, be a little more mindful of those you subject to your pronoun dictatorship.

2. I need your constant validation of my own identity!

Very often transgenders will claim that pronouns are part of their own identity and incorrect pronoun use invalidates them. You know what this says about the trans people? That they expect others to validate their existence. Why I have to validate you? Why can't you validate yourself and not give a fuck when random assholes don't care about your pronouns? What I've noticed from many people that are not trans per se is that they DO in fact try to use the preferred pronouns because it's a nice thing to do. So get that stupid idea out of your head that the cis are out to get you, because there is this one thing that you forget - people in general do not question your validity. They question your sanity, especially if you throw a tantrum about your pronouns.

3. Your opinion does not align with mine and therefore your're transphobic!

Whenever people disagree with you, you resort to insults. You never try to explain the non-emotional side of your gender identity. You never rationalize why you feel that way. You always rely on vague information or snark orders that you tell people who just don't understand.

What you don't understand is that people do not have to agree with you, nor do they have to try and that does not mean they are transphobic. People do not have to take your word at face value and trust you just because you experience it. I have yet to personally find a definition of what non-binary is, or how one can “experience gender”. If I disagree or feel as though you might be overreacting about something does not make me transphobic. I means I disagree with you.

4. My feelings should matter to you more than your own!

Just like you do not care about the physical well-being of non-trans people, you seem to now care about their emotional well-being too. It's always about your needs and never coming to a compromise. Whoever comes into contact with you HAS to use your pronouns otherwise, as Riley wants to imply, they are psychologically harming you. But have you bothered to think how your demands affect others? Let me guess, you haven't.

Because at the end of the day you are the victim and always have been. People defy your pronouns thus invalidating you and you yourself cannot do anything about it, because your self worth does not stem from your own perception of yourself...I hope I made sense. What I means is, you're responsible for validating yourself and no one else. They may try to dismiss your existence, but everyone experiences that.

5. I will always assume that you have it much better than I do!

This happens all the time. Cis gender privilege. The assumption that cis people do not have to worry about passing, using restrooms, getting jobs, ridicule and so on...except that well, since you're not cis, you would not know that such privileges are almost non-existence and just because one is cis does not mean they will walk this world care-free. It's because of these assumptions, which you never bother to actually check, you end up being disliked and hated. And do not even think for a second that you as a trans person do not have privileges. Because privilege itself is relative to circumstances and everyone is privileged in one way or another.

You somehow forget that we are people too, we get hurt, mistreated and abused. Just. Like. You.

6. If I'm a non-binary female, my duty is to use the male rest rooms because that is what is gender neutral!

I know this one is specific, but for whatever reason, gender neutral is assumed to be...well...pretty masculine. Non-binary or gender neutral females will probably look like guys. And I've seen a bunch of them and asked myself “what is it?”. Remember that news report about the chick who was non-binary and used the boys bathroom and then bitched that she was denied? How many more people like her do that on a daily basis? Also, remember point number 4? It's this sort of things I am talking about - there is no concern for others well-being and comfort because your trans status is more important to you. Because male bathroom is the pinnacle of gender neutrality.

7. I am forcing you to alter your language even though I'm a stranger to you!

Bill C-16 in Canada will enforce people to comply with whatever gender identity and pronouns a trans-person will come up with. Similar things already are happening in various cities around the USA. People are forced to do something they do not want to or feel comfortable doing because some trans-people base their identity on pronouns.

Majority has to accommodate a very small minority, please explain, how does this make sense? Why does the  trans community think that their rights are not met? The fact that you can be trans openly and not get stabbed should be seen as a good thing. The fact that you can speak out about supposed oppression and not get executed or put in a mental institutions or prison means that the society you live in is tolerant towards the likes you. Yet somehow that is not good enough for you. For some reason, everyone has to bend over backwards for you. Because you matter, because you are valid. This is what taking things for granted looks like.

8. My mental stability is your responsibility!

This point sort of ties in with the second point. Except that everyone who is not trans for some reason is responsible for your emotional and psychological pain. You tend to wear your disabilities as a crown, assuming it will empower you in some way. It just makes you look weird. The fact that people need to meet your needs, but you do not try to meet theirs is pretty selfish. Why should anyone let you leech off of them? You fail to understand that each person is on their own for better or worse. You create your own inner world and you're responsible for how you feel (not talking about depression).

The society isn't guilty for not liking you if you struggle to like yourself. Nor is it a babysitter for th  ose who struggle to take care of themselves, but for the most part people in need get help. So stop demonizing everyone around you who does not fit your personal standards or is not progressive enough. Almost every other person would help you if you needed it. Think about that.

9. You can't assume my gender, but I can assume yours!

What I've noticed ever so often is that when a trans person is misgendered, they might throw a fit. When trans people do not like when someone disagrees with them, they will automatically assume that you are cis. Great example is Blaire White. She is trans, but speaks against plenty of SJW and trans BS. Ever so often someone will call her cis...I guess because only cis people have the passing privilege.

This example is one of many. But do not assume that every trans person has to have one unifying opinion that coincides with yours. You ironically forget that people including trans are different and just like no one should prematurely assume something about you, you shouldn't do the same to them. Having a special gender doesn't give you a free pass to be an asshole.

10. I need to feel special at all times.

Whether this is intentional or not, many will perceive your special pronouns as you wanting special treatment. The more exotic or foreign they will sound, the higher special snowflake level you'll get. But the problem with this is not the need to feel special because people want to feel special too. You rely on others and almost everyone to fill a gaping hole that you yourself neglect.

As I mentioned in point 8, if you do not like yourself, don't expect others to like you. Your pronouns are not the problem. It's your attitude and militant demands towards strangers.