#sang yan x wen yifan

[mostlyfate]

THE FIRST FROST 难哄 · 2025 Episode 29: [Love means… being each other light.]

Tell me. Were you sent by my dad to take care of me? No, I volunteered.

[dramashutup]

Thinking about how Sang Yan and Wen Yifan isn't just a couple in a romantic sense, but is also each other's best friends

Thinking about how this drama is about two best friends who became ex bestfriends, reunited as strangers with history, became housemates then lovers

Thinking about how Wen Yifan was a loner in high school. She only got close with Zhong Si Qiao after highschool even though they did know each other back then

Maybe because of her bleak home life and her introvertedness, Wen Yifan was more comfortable with being alone even in a crowd of people.

Thinking about how Sang Yan said he volunteered instead of being chosen by her dad; and we learn from his flashback he fell for her at first sight and basically became the puppy that followed her everywhere

Thinking about how if Sang Yan hadn't doggedly (yes pun intended) insist on crossing into the barrier that she puts up that even most girl friends didn't cross, then Wen Yifan would've been even lonelier. The worst kind of loner is the lonely one

Thinking about Sang Yan who learned that this girl he has a crush on hid so many secrets and sadness that he didn't know how to broach, so he settled on being there for her no matter what-- he was the closest friend Wen Yifan had in highschool, but not in those terms that he knew everything about her or she everything about him either, but in that they both share an aptitude for companionable silence, being around each other without the burden of talking, being there as an assurance that the other person is seen, that they both just enjoy each other's company, celebrating every milestone as students that they passed in highschool

Thinking about how Sang Yan after their friendship breakup said that he couldn't fall in love with anyone else anyway so if he couldn't be with Wen Yifan in one way, he could try to be there for her in other ways. He had made a promise to be there for her and he wanted to keep that

[sangyifan]

| 这么多年，我还是只喜欢你

— after all this years, I still only like you.

[fiddleyoumust]

Deep in my feelings about Wen Yifan hoping that Sang Yan gets everything he's ever wanted when the only thing he's ever wanted is her. 😭😭😭😭

[thea-herondale]

i'm watching first frost right now, the sang yan x duan jiaxu allegation will never end i fear WYM THEY KISSED IN COLLEGE????

the entire premise of first frost is so delicate and so fragile... certainly a change from hidden love but i'm loving it

[bigdsgirl]

me watching Sang Yan propose to Wen Yifan

the cutest freaking shit

[delicatebluebirdruins]

everytime we got a flash back after the Hong Kong saga was Yifan going to therapy. It was awkward as fuck at first like blood from stone getting her to talk about anything. But it's slow going and she's getting better. There is also couples therapy with SY because lord knows they need it.

[mostlyfate]

THE FIRST FROST 难哄 · 2025 Episode 30: [Relying: Trusting you in weakness, chosen by you firmly.]

I really want to hide you away. Wen Shuangjiang, I feel like… I've changed since being with you. I've become selfish, possessive. Back on that stage, you were shining. But I couldn't bear to let anyone else see it. I want you to shine in my world alone. But I know I can't do that. You should… You should let them see you. See how incredible you are.

[dramashutup]

Yknow as much as i dislike how the drama diverted from the novel, it's mainly because...well, it's a skill issue on my part lmao. I really can't watch any stories that separate the couple after they've gotten together.

The novel certainly dealt with it all differently, and I much prefer that because I feel too much of their second hand pain so I really rather wait it out for the happier time

But when you think about why Wen Yifan did what she did. It is understandable.

I suppose we can look at it as, the two ways things could've gone. In the novel, The Bastard didn't try to frame Sang Yan's restaurant.

He only went after Yifan and Sang Yan in a way that doesn't really affect Sang Yan, by not paying when he's ordered so much drinks, harassing Yifan etc.

She really doesn't want anything to hurt Sang Yan in any way. She didn't really care about her own wellbeing. She wanted SY to stay safe.

Remember she said he should stay happy and he deserves all the good things? I'm paraphrasing, you get it lol. For Yifan, who's traumatized and never been prioritized by her family, she is like a stain in SY life if his life becomes endangered.

Yes, harassing Yifan is monstrous but I think she much rather go through that alone than have something actually affect Sang Yan. It's when something like this happens that she gets so scared for Sang Yan and feels inferior.

Idk how to tell you the inferior feeling of not wanting to 'infect' the people that you love with the horrible people that you know. Iykyk.

Even from the beginning, without knowing what happened to her, Yifan's first knee jerk reaction was always to not be a 'bother' to other people-- if she could do everything on her own, she would. She's too independent because she wasn't prioritized by her own mother, and she had to fend for herself from a young age.

When she was asking if it's okay for her to stay in the apartment, her first question was about what SY felt about it, if it doesn't bother him.

Yes she was healing and extending her hand, to make an effort, to make SY knows that he is also loved by her,, but she's not completely healed, isn't she? She's trying, yes. But these things take time. It's not easy to get over a lifetime of trauma.

I cannot for the life of me understand why some people basically say she's being ungrateful to SY smh. SY never asked for a payback. He simply loves her.

Oh also, since I'm already deepdiving into it, my theory with her always looking at the clock? Because subconsciously when you're a trauma survivor, you're anxious about the happiness finally running out, being happy feels like a miracle-- do I really deserve being loved and cared for by all these people, she said.

I don't remember if she said this in the drama or only in the novel, but she said something along the lines of, what if SY finally sees that she's nothing after they get together.

It's an accumulation of insecurity, not healed yet trauma, self preservation and survival instinct

Some stories like to portray that love heals all, probably true. But realistically, any kind of healing takes time. And sometimes patients are known to go back into their shells.

[asterdust]

my current standard for a ship right now is if they're gonna fit the great war's narrative

[thea-herondale]

i cant. help us all. sang yan and jiaxu stepping out into the hall in their robes and wen yifan smirking... im cryinf

[mostlyfate]

THE FIRST FROST 难哄 · 2025 Episode 29: [Love means… being each other light.]

Tell me. Were you sent by my dad to take care of me? No, I volunteered.

[mostlyfate]

THE FIRST FROST 难哄 · 2025 Episode 27: [I accept my imperfections.]

[mostlyfate]

THE FIRST FROST 难哄 · 2025 Episode 30: [Relying: Trusting you in weakness, chosen by you firmly.]

Are you watching the rest of the performances? I already watched the one I wanted to. Then wait for me a sec. I'll go change. You look great in this dress.

[mostlyfate]

THE FIRST FROST 难哄 · 2025 Episode 31: [Back to the first day we met. Loving you, from the first day to forever.]