#robyn's trans talks

[messrsrarchives]

look, here's the thing. you can come online and you can say that you're protecting women. you can say that your vengance against trans people is some kind of feminist move, but that doesn't erase the fact that YOU are next. when trans people are gone and there is no one left to turn on, you will be next.

you come online and say you support the indefinite ban on puberty blockers in the UK, you come online and erase the fact that only 83 gender non-confirming (GNC) people were on them, that more cis people were on them. you start a war against hrt, about minors taking hormonal medication and we'll watch as america starts clamping down on contraceptives. you cry about the 83 GNC people that were on puberty blockers, but you'll later be worrying about the 58% of 16-17 year olds afab that are on some variation of hrt themselves. you come online and cry about hrt, ignoring the fact that the pill is hrt. it just doesn't have the word trans infront of it.

you come online and blow up a trans persons comment sections. you cry about the fact a trans man is wearing makeup or that a trans woman hasn't shaved. you come online and pinpoint all the ways that we aren't doing "enough", and you erase the decades long fight against gender norms. you say a trans woman isn't trying hard enough when she doesn't have a full face on, and you'll watch as YOU start not being enough. you watch as the gender norms we fought against for so long start coming back into play, where women are told they aren't doing enough and those with PCOS or any other hormonal imbalance watch as you ridicule a trans woman for having hair and therefore not being a woman. you'll watch as you, with your hair not done, your makeup not on, and your legs unshaven start becoming a debate about womanhood and what it really means.

you come online and cry about the fact trans people are "mutilating" themselves with top surgery. you say we rush into this surgery with too little thought, and you watch as a 16 year old online gets a rhinoplasty. you watch as an 18 year old gets filler, as people get boob jobs done and that's okay. that's fine. because your issue was never "if you're unhappy with your body, get therapy", you issue was that it was Trans. you say that trans hrt should start at 25 despite it being mostly reversible (bar bottom growth and voice on T) and you'll let people sign up to the army at 18. you'll let people fight for their country before you'll let them have bodily autonomy. you'll say gender-affirming care is disgusting and ignore the fact that every time you get your hair done, your nails done, lip filler, botox, boob jobs, etc etc - THAT is gender affirming. and you'll watch as the media starts dissecting celebrities appearances and questioning what they've had done.

and you won't be protected even if you're an olympian. even if you're successful.

you say you're protecting women when you talk about single-sex spaces and you listen to the government say that we, trans people, are the issue. you listened to Sunak talk about how trans people are nothing but sexual assaulters and ignored the fact that over 50 MPs of his party, the ones that were making these laws to "protect women", had sexual assault allegations. you'll say that people are pretending to be women to get into your spaces, and you ignore the key word - pretending. not trans people. cis. men.

and you'll listen to those men make the laws. the anti-trans laws, btw. none that are woman-centric, no. just anti-trans laws with a "for women" sticker put on top to hide the fact that they've done nothing beyond that to actually protect women.

you say you're "protecting kids" and you ignore as the suicide rates peak, how LGBTQ+ helplines reached record high call numbers the night of the election. you're "protecting families" and ignore the 1 in 4 trans people that experience homelessness in their lifetime, and the 1 in 2 that are domestically abused. you say you're "protecting women" when you talk about bathrooms and you ignore the fact that 1 in 2 trans people are sexually assaulted, and 10% of those that report are then assaulted AGAIN by the officers meant to help them. and then you'll go online and cry about trans officers.

you'll talk about the "them" and the "us", and you ignore the fact that when you start reducing gender down to an ideal woman or an ideal man, YOU lose too.

you ignore the fact that you are just as at risk, and you will be next. and it's already happening.

and i think the difference is, the really big key difference, is that trans people are going to have your back regardless. trans people will fight alongside you just like they did at stonewall, GNC people will fight alongside you just like they did during the suffragette movement, a movement that fought against the same ideals you are perpetuating all over again.

trans people are going to have your back because whilst you focus on the "trans" part, we focus on the "people". because that's what we are. people.

and i think you're a piece of shit if you use women's rights as a guise for your transphobia whilst perpetuating ideals that have harmed you, are currently harming you, and will continue to harm you, unless you realise the only "them" versus "us" you need to worry about is everyone versus the government.

[swedlex]

I hope the people who weren't concerned with how Ben Barnes is seen in the marauders fandom and his aversion to trans organizations asking him to do a simple gesture, putting pronouns in his bio in which he was asked twice about it. But that is not my main point, the main point is that he now wants to be in the reboot, the same thing people have talked about to not give support to.

This is from the article itself

“They’re books that I love and at least half of my career has been based on literary adaptations that I’ve loved,” he noted. “And that one, I see no reason why it would be any different, but I haven’t spoken to anyone about it yet.”

And this

Barnes certainly doesn’t mind the enthusiasm fans have, explaining, “I find it very flattering, but it is quite weird to be kind of lauded for something that you never did.”

I hope the people that weren't concerned about this see that maybe this is concerning, that maybe this should be talked about. I just needed to say something because I've been itching to write something.

But also credit to my friend because he was right about this all along.

[cinelestial]

Apple Music’s ‘100 Best Albums of All Time’ list:

#1. Lauryn Hill — The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill

#2. Michael Jackson — Thriller

#3. The Beatles — Abbey Road

#4. Prince & The Revolution — Purple Rain

#5. Frank Ocean — Blonde

#6. Stevie Wonder — Songs in the Key of Life

#7. Kendrick Lamar — good kid, m.A.A.d city

#8. Amy Winehouse — Back to Black

#9. Nirvana — Nevermind

#10. Beyoncé — Lemonade

#11. Fleetwood Mac — Rumours

#12. Radiohead — OK Computer

#13. Jay-Z — The Blueprint

#14. Bob Dylan — Highway 61 Revisited

#15. Adele — 21

#16. Joni Mitchell — Blue

#17. Marvin Gaye — What’s Going On

#18. Taylor Swift — 1989 (Taylor’s Version)

#19. Dr. Dre — The Chronic

#20. The Beach Boys — Pet Sounds

#21. The Beatles — Revolver

#22. Bruce Springsteen — Born to Run

#23. Daft Punk — Discovery

#24. David Bowie — The Rise and Fall of Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders From Mars

#25. Miles Davis — Kind of Blue

#26. Kanye West — My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy

#27. Led Zeppelin — Led Zeppelin II

#28. Pink Floyd — The Dark Side of the Moon

#29. A Tribe Called Quest — The Low End Theory

#30. Billie Eilish — WHEN WE ALL FALL ASLEEP, WHERE DO WE GO?

#31. Alanis Morissette — Jagged Little Pill

#32. The Notorious B.I.G. — Ready to Die

#33. Radiohead — Kid A

#34. Public Enemy — It Takes a Nation of Millions to Hold Us Back

#35. The Clash — London Calling

#36. Beyoncé — BEYONCÉ

#37. Wu-Tang Clan — Enter the Wu-Tang (36 Chambers)

#38. Carole King — Tapestry

#39. Nas — Illmatic

#40. Aretha Franklin — I Never Loved a Man the Way I Love You

#41. OutKast — Aquemini

#42. Janet Jackson — Control

#43. Talking Heads — Remain in Light

#44. Stevie Wonder — Innervisions

#45. Björk — Homogenic

#46. Bob Marley & The Wailers — Exodus

#47. Drake — Take Care

#48. Beastie Boys — Paul’s Boutique

#49. U2 — The Joshua Tree

#50. Kate Bush — Hounds of Love

#51. Prince — Sign O’ the Times

#52. Guns N' Roses — Appetite for Destruction

#53. The Rolling Stones — Exile on Main St.

#54. John Coltrane — A Love Supreme

#55. Rihanna — ANTI

#56. The Cure — Disintegration

#57. D’Angelo — Voodoo

#58. Oasis — (What’s the Story) Morning Glory?

#59. Arctic Monkeys — AM

#60. The Velvet Underground & Nico — The Velvet Underground and Nico

#61. Sade — Love Deluxe

#62. 2Pac — All Eyez on Me

#63. The Jimi Hendrix Experience — Are You Experienced?

#64. Erykah Badu — Baduizm

#65. De La Soul — 3 Feet High and Rising

#66. The Smiths — The Queen Is Dead

#67. Portishead — Dummy

#68. The Strokes — Is This It

#69. Metallica — Master of Puppets

#70. N.W.A — Straight Outta Compton

#71. Kraftwerk — Trans-Europe Express

#72. SZA — SOS

#73. Steely Dan — Aja

#74. Nine Inch Nails — The Downward Spiral

#75. Missy Elliott — Supa Dupa Fly

#76. Bad Bunny — Un Verano Sin Ti

#77. Madonna — Like a Prayer

#78. Elton John — Goodbye Yellow Brick Road

#79. Lana Del Rey — Norman F*****g Rockwell!

#80. Eminem — The Marshall Mathers LP

#81. Neil Young — After the Gold Rush

#82. 50 Cent — Get Rich or Die Tryin'

#83. Patti Smith — Horses

#84. Snoop Dogg — Doggystyle

#85. Kacey Musgraves — Golden Hour

#86. Mary J. Blige — My Life

#87. Massive Attack — Blue Lines

#88. Nina Simone — I Put a Spell on You

#89. Lady Gaga — The Fame Monster

#90. AC/DC — Back in Black

#91. George Michael — Listen Without Prejudice, Vol. 1

#92. Tyler, The Creator — Flower Boy

#93. Solange — A Seat at the Table

#94. Burial — Untrue

#95. Usher — Confessions

#96. Lorde — Pure Heroine

#97. Rage Against the Machine — Rage Against the Machine

#98. Travis Scott — ASTROWORLD

#99. Eagles — Hotel California

#100. Robyn — Body Talk

[allthegeopolitics]

The chief executive and founder of HER has expressed disappointment at a new lesbian dating app which purports to use facial recognition technology to exclude trans users. Robyn Exton, who launched dating and community app HER in 2015 – it boasts more than 13 million members worldwide – said she felt a “real sadness” that the new app is being promoted during Pride month. “This is a month where we’re supposed to talk about rights, equality and equal access for our whole community and this is the time when you choose to build a platform that you intentionally discriminate against part of our community,” Exton said.

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[gal8ctea]

HIII!!

Im Robyn/Sage!! You can call me whichever one you like idm :3

I go by he/they/it pronouns, and I’m bisexual and a trans guy :] (I’m actually boyflux but it easier to call myself a trans guy LMFAOAO)

Please know that I am a minor!!

I really love:

The owl house, amphibia, spider verse, Gwen Stacy, Adrianne Lenker, Steven universe, whale sharks, marine life, hazbin hotel (but I’m not one of THOSE fans I promise 😔), helluva boss, my hero academia (once again I’m not one of THOSE fans I’m chill I promise 😔😔), drawing, art, cosplaying, heartstopper, occasionally writing, ok ko, bluey, splatoon (although I don’t play it very much anymore 💔), kipo, I’ve watched almost every queer/queer coded children’s show out there, my bearded dragon, dressing emo, and I just love being myself!!

DNI (do not interact) list:

Homophobes, transphobes, zoophiles, proshippers, anyone who hates any group of people that aren’t hurting anyone (eg furries, cosplayers, etc)

Music taste:

Adrianne Lenker (if you like her please talk to me), cavetown, Alex g, Taylor Swift, my chemical romance, pierce the veil, 6arelyhuman, phoebe bridgers, big theif

(As you can tell it’s very all over the place)

If I was a Sanrio character I’d be kuromi :3 (you probably guessed it LMFAOOO)

PLEASE INTERACT IF YOU LIKE ANYTHING I LIKE 🙏🙏

[qbdatabase]

Hi, could you please recommend me bisexual memoirs? I have already read Boyslut btw. Thank you!

Memoirs by Bisexual Female Authors

A Cup of Water Under My Bed: A Memoir by Hernández, Daisy

Bad Feminist by Gay, Roxane

Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body by Gay, Roxane

Death Threat by Shraya, Vivek

Tomboyland: Essays by Faliveno, Melissa

Unbecoming: A Memoir of Disobedience by Bhagwati, Anuradha

A History of Scars: A Memoir by Lee, Laura

Marbles: Mania, Depression, Michelangelo, and Me by Forney, Ellen

A Song for You: My Life with Whitney Houston by Crawford, Robyn

Yours Cruelly, Elvira: Memoirs of the Mistress of the Dark by Peterson, Cassandra

Believe: Boxing, Olympics and My Life Outside the Ring by Adams, Nicola

Good Talk: A Memoir in Conversations by Jacob, Mira

Girlhood: Essays by Febos, Melissa

Wow, No Thank You. by Irby, Samantha (she has several other books I haven't yet had time to add to the database, but they are on the list to be added!)

Manifesto: On Never Giving Up by Evaristo, Bernardine

Memoirs by Bisexual Male Authors

Sorted: Growing Up, Coming Out, and Finding My Place by Bird, Jackson

Baggage: Tales from a Fully Packed Life by Cumming, Alan

Trans Mission: My Quest to a Beard by Bertie, Alex (he's pansexual, not bi, but there's so few mga male memoirs here that I wanted to include it, esp bc I have personally read and do rec this one!)

Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-spec Men by Mehta, Vaneet (not a memoir, but he does discuss a lot of his personal life and experiences)

Memoirs by Bisexual Nonbinary Authors

Fairest: A Memoir by Talusan, Meredith

(if anyone knows of others, please let me know!!)

full notes on representation and publishing info at qbdatabase.com

[grasslandgirl]

For what its worth, the creators who are also the co writers refer to Mizu as She/Her in all there interviews, but they know just by the nature of the show it'll resonate with lots of trans/gender/nb folks

that makes total sense !! i was just talking w robyn @ribbittrobbit about how like. there are lots of equally interesting and valid interpretations of mizu's experience and identity !! we haven't seen much of MIZU'S personal relationship to their gender/presentation beyond what is necessary at the given time (boy in childhood. woman in marriage. man in revenge. etc) but like. i can totally see how interpreting mizu as either a cis woman or a trans man or a nonbinary person etc etc could be an interesting and valid interpretation of the character and the text and the narrative depending on your perspective !!! <3

[noelbobby]

Here we have two women: Maya Yang and Robyn Yang. No relation and, like a lotta times with me unrelated duos, the two am from different countries. Also both these women am trans. It seems like whenever people around Maya have phone appointments that they tell her about it gets rescheduled, it's happened five times. Her friends joke that if they ever want to reschedule a phone appointment they should just tell Maya about it. As for Maya herself, every phone appointment she's ever had has happened on time and when it's scheduled. Robyn speaks in constant terminology and acronyms that technically makes communication faster… after she's properly explained what she's talking about to someone, since it's all invented by her. Spend too long around Robyn and you end up picking this habit up, just ask her boyfriend and he'd say 'Yeah, Rex, uh, Robyn exposure.' because of course Robyn has a term for the phenomenon. Sexuality statement time, both Maya and Robyn are heterosexual.

[messrsrarchives]

i JUST yapped about this on tiktok and i'm instantly here because oh my GOD.

(spoiler warning for heartstopper season 3 - episode 6)

ELLE AND TRANS ACTIVISM!? ELLE'S FUCKING STORYLINE!?

i'm crying and i haven't stopped crying.

i'm talking about the bit where she is brought on the radio to discuss her art. she's doing something that she enjoys, she's given a space to talk about it, and they make it about the trans "debate" (p.s bonus mention to "trans people aren't a debate, we're human beings")

i'm talking about elle LEAVING THE ROOM. and how fucking powerful and important and COMFORTING that is.

to have a trans person leave the room.

to have it shown that we don't all want to be activists, and you shouldn't expect us to. that we shouldn't need to be. to have media representation of a trans person choosing peace, and choosing what's best for her.

to have them specifically mention that a cis person was on the last show, and said transphobic things about same-sex spaces. to have it mentioned that the cis peson went first, and elle was brought on as a rebuttal. that she already had less power in this "debate" because they allowed someone with more respect in society, who isn't even part of the discussion, who wouldn't even understand the complexities of existing publicly as a trans person, to go first.

and to have her still. leave. the. room.

i've been on the radio nine times.

only three of nine discussions that i've had have been aired. why? because only three of them were meant to be about my identity. because that wasn't what i was there to talk about. it wasn't relevant.

and then to link it to everything now? to link it to all the massive discussions i've been having recently in this space? i'm sobbing.

trans people do not need to be activists. and i personally enjoy it! i enjoy talking about it - i hate that i have to, but i personally do enjoy being a loud activist (not that this is activism but yk, in my wider life) - but...

she came onto a space to talk about something she enjoyed, and ended up having to defend her right to exist.

and she left the room.

because the cis person went first. because that wasn't what she wanted to talk about. because it's exhausting having these conversations day in day out.

and most importantly, because she didn't have to speak on it.

and then, let's talk about the fact that she was only asked because she now had "influence". that her voice only matters now because she's "big", and it's insignificant otherwise. that a trans person with any kind of traction needs to be an activist - which we see SO much in the media! we see it so much online! that any successful trans person needs to be loud and active. that she was questioned about the meaning of her art only in the context of a political discussion on her right to exist.

so she left the room.

trans people do not need to be activists and they shouldn't be expected to be, and oh my GOD i'm so glad that we have that representation.

[moonmeg]

How would Caleb react to one of his children being part of the LGBTQ+ community? I know that obviously Caleb would continue to love his son no matter what, because he is the father that we all love, but it can still be a cultural shock, so to speak.

greetings 💚 :D

Funny you ask, Robyn is indeed bi (when he's a teen and up) - it's a Clawthorne thing or something.

Caleb had it all explained by his lovely wife way before they were married because he was exposed to more mlm, wlw, poly etc. relationships in the demon realm than he would've ever been in Gravesfield and so he just had to ask. Kitty/Eve herself is pan (and he himself is kinda bicurious at the least).

By the time Robyn or another of his kids were to tell him they're bi/gay/lesbian/pan/ace/..., the surprise factor and the "how do I handle this??? I was taught this is wrong??? KITTY HELP??" factor would be nonexistent as by then he would've already spent over 10 years on the Boiling Isles and more or less forget and ignore what was drilled into him as a kid. I paint him as a very open minded person. My guy literally looked over all he was taught about witches and demons and decided to stay on the Isles and marry his hot witch crush.

All that matters to him is that his babies are happy and loved.

My guy would give a thumbs up and probably bake a cake with some dumb pun on it - "my kid is trans, so now I'm transparent"- esque. He'd possibly even act as wingman. Unasked of course. Robyn would be like "that guy kinda cute-" and Caleb is all "Say no more, son". Before Robyn can even realize what is happening, Caleb is talking to the guy like "Excuse me? Hi. My son thinks you're cute. Yeah, the one staring at us big eyed, face red."

"WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT, PA?!?!"

"Standing around and staring will not get you into a relationship. You're welcome."

"WHAT RELATIONSHIP EVER HAPPENED BECAUSE A FATHER SAID 'MY SON THINKS YOU'RE CUTE' TO A STRANGER????"

[wonderneverlandsystem]

My RWBY Headcanons (subject to change)! If you are BIPOC and are commenting to talk with/correct me involving the headcanons that involve race (this includes identities like, but not limited to, Two-Spirit & Muxe which are for Indigenous people of North America and Mexico only [pls correct me if I'm wrong]) that's more than okay, otherwise don't try to argue with my headcanons. You're free to leave.

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[STRQ]

Summer- Japanese & Irish

Bi & Ambiamorous | Cis Woman

She/They

Raven- Japanese

Bi & Polyamorous | Trans Woman

She/Her

Qrow- Japanese

Gay & Ambiamorous | Trans Man

He/Him

Tai- Chinese (canon)

Pan & Polyamorous | Cis Man

He/Him (Doesn't mind They/Them)

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[RWBY]

Ruby- Chinese (canon), Japanese, and Irish

Pan, Ace, and Polyamorous | Enby

She/They/Xe

Weiss- German & Korean

Bi, AroAce, and Ambiamorous | Cis Woman

She/They

Blake- Maori & Japanese (canon?)

Bi (canon) | Whakawahine

She/They/He

Yang- Chinese (canon) & Japanese

Lesbian (canon) | Trans Woman

She/Her

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[JNPR]

Jaune- French (essentially canon)

Bi | Cis Man

He/Him

Nora- Nordic (essentially canon)

Pan & Ambiamorous | Trans Fem

All

Pyrrha- Greek (essentially canon) & Japanese

Bi | Trans Woman

She/They

Ren- Chinese (canon) & Japanese (canon?)

Bi & Ace | Gender Queer

He/They

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[SSSN]

Sun- Chinese (canon) & Korean

Bi | Cis Man

He/Him (cool with whatever)

Scarlet- Scottish & Japanese

Gay (Canon) | Cis Man

He/Him

Sage- Japanese & Maori

Straight & Ace | Whakatāne

They/Them

Neptune- Greek (essentially canon) & Latino

Pan | Trans Man

He/They

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[CFVY]

Coco- French & Chinese

Lesbian (Canon) | Trans Woman

She/They

Fox- African (specifically Kenyan) & Japanese

Bi & AroAllo | Trans Masc

He/They

Velvet- Australian (canon) & Japanese

Bi & Ace | Enby

They/Them (She/He sometimes)

Yatsuhashi- Japanese (canon)

Bi & Ace | Cis Man

He/They

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Maria- Indigenous Latina

Bi & AroAllo | Muxe

Any

Ilia- Indigenous North American (Sioux) & Latina

Lesbian (Canon) | Trans Fem

She/Her (Doesn't mind They/Them)

Pietro- African American & Latino

Straight | Trans Man

He/Him

Penny- African American & Latina

Lesbian & Polyamorous | Trans Woman

Any

Shopkeeper- Japanese (canon)

AroAce | Cis Man

Any

Oscar- Cuban & Indigenous Hawaiian

Pan | Māhū

He/They/Ey

Ghira- Maori

Bi | Cis Man

He/Him

Kali- Japanese & Maori

Bi | Tāhine

She/They/Ne

Willow- German & Korean

Lesbian | Cis Woman

She/Her (Doesn't mind They/Them)

Jaques- German

Straight | Cis Man

He/Him

Winter- German & Korean

Lesbian & Ambiamorous | Trans Woman

She/Her

Whitley- German & Korean

Gay | Trans Man

He/Him (Eventually, finds out about It/Its and uses those as well)

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Ozma/Ozpin- British & Filipino

Bi | Trans Man

He/Thon

Port- Dutch

Pan | Cis Man

He/Him

Oobleck- British American

Gay | Trans Masc

He/They/Thon

Glynda- British & Japanese

Lesbian | Trans Woman

She/They

Ironwood- British & Taiwanese (essentially canon)

Bi | Cis Man

He/Him

Lionheart- British & Japanese

Gay | Cis Man

He/They

Sienna- Indian & Chinese

Lesbian | Trans Woman

Any

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Clover- British American & Japanese

Gay | Cis Man

He/Him

Harriet- African American & Latina

Lesbian | Trans Fem

She/Her

Elm- Latina & Polynesian

Omni | Trans Woman

She/They

Marrow- African American & Japanese

Bi & Ace | Trans Man

He/They

Vine- Chinese & Japanese (canon?)

Bi & AroAce | Enby

They/She/He

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Robyn- Latina & Indigenous North American

Bi & Polyamorous | Trans Fem

They/She

Fiona- Irish & Icelandic

Pan, Ace, and Ambiamorous | Demi-Girl

She/They/He

May- Latina

Bi & Polyamorous | Trans Woman (Canon)

She/Her

Joanna- African American & Latina

Bi, Ace, and Polyamorous | Enby

Dey/Dem

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Cinder- Japanese

Lesbian AroAce | Cis Woman

She/Her

Neo- Japanese & Greek

Omni & AroAce | Genderfluid

All

Roman- Italian & Greek

Bi | Trans Man

He/Him (Neo can use They/Them)

Emerald- Arab (essentially canon) & Indian

Lesbian & AroAllo | Trans Woman

They/She

Mercury- Icelandic

Gay | Trans Man

He/Him

Tyrian- Japanese & British

Bi | Cis Man

He/Him (Doesn't really care)

Hazel- Hispanic & Polynesian

Bi & Ace | Cis Man

He/Him

Watts- German & Hispanic

Bi & AroAllo | Trans Man

He/Him

Salem- African American & British (The form we've known since the beginning and that she currently has clearly has locs, yet they made her human form white??? I decline the canon in this case.)

Straight | Trans Woman

She/They

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[acomparablesandbox]

things i loved in february

[spaceytingz]

What are your top bottom 5's?

OH MY GODDDD I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS QUESTIONNN okay so

bottom five random people i have ultra specific beef with:

That one homeschooled cunt on Twitter that somehow has a lot of followers even if he’s PAINFULLY unfunny, has a FLOP music career, a NASTY HAIRCUT, UGLY glasses and stans bluey for some reason and that one other irrelevant kids show. I WILL be attending the funeral and it better be soon

There is this hoe called Matt Taher trying to pull off my rude bitch schtick in a group chat in 2020, failing miserably. I do not like him

There is this bitch Jan in Turkey that’s 2 meters tall randomly and he’s soooo BLEH i don’t like him

That one person that was the only person i talked to in the first half of eighth grade that was so cringe and unfunny and then he tried deleting my midterm project so i punched him in the nose and spread rumors around him FUCK HIM

Also on a high school note, this nazi that turned out to be a trans girl but who gives a fuck she’s still a nazi FUCK you victoria

bottom five overrated albums

Red by Toylet Shit

Blond by Frank Ocean

Honey by Robyn

CTRL by ✂️

Punisher by Phoebe Waller-Bridge

bottom five colors:

BEIGE OHHH HOW I HATE BEIGE JESUS CHRIST EW

GRAY LIKE EW

Brown is genuinely meh as fuck

That one orange that looks like explosive diarrhea

The perfect middle between yellow and green

bottom five situationships my friends have had:

Ratnee, a fake suicidal bisexual with horse teeth

Giant Sam, that guy is going to hellll

The Cable, a pretentious loser that can only brag with his mother’s college diploma cause he has nothing else going on and also he can’t finger for shit

Fluorescent, fucking insecure loser

Lowkey whoever made you wanna hide, you know who I’m talking about, even if I don’t

Ishita’s bf

bottom five music moments that happened to me:

Marina releasing Handjob Hell thinking I’d gag

Carly Rae Jepsen putting five meh songs on Dedicated when she has like 15 leaks from that era that are masterpieces FUCK YOU FOR SURE AND EVERYTHING HE NEEDS

Kesha releasing My Own Dance thinking I’d gag

Paramore releasing The News thinking I’d gag

Icon For Hire turning cringe

Thanx for the askkk

[spaciousreasoning]

Talking Sugar

Thankfully, my blood sugar this morning dropped to 114. No doubt it was because I had nothing after dinner last night but water. Not a candy bar, not a single potato chip. Nothing!

Nancy had cancelled her blood draw for this morning and rescheduled for next Wednesday, so we had our coffee and brain games on time. We headed to the Creswell Bakery for a loaf of sourdough bread and breakfast sandwiches, taking Kathleen with us. While I waited for our order, Nancy and Kathleen grabbed a seat at one of the picnic tables outside the bakery and discussed family business.

While perusing Facebook earlier in the day, I saw that a friend in recovery from Tucson has begun transitioning and established another profile for her new identity. I fully support the trans community. Robyn is not my only friend who has made a transition.

After getting back from our jaunt to Creswell, I spent nearly 40 minutes on the phone with a fellow from PeaceHealth talking about diabetes care. He confirmed my feeling that sugar is an addiction, at least for those of us suffering from diabetes. I signed up for a program to monitor my diabetes. He said it sounds like I am doing a good job right now with all my walking and adjusting my diet and avoiding as much sugar as possible. As with other aspects of addiction, one is too many and a thousand never enough.

While Nancy did some more yoga, I took a walk around the neighborhood for two miles. I forgot to put on my walking shoes and the cracked place on my left heel starting leaking blood again, staining another sock. When I got home, Nancy applied more antibiotic and covered it with a bandaid.

For dinner we had leftover mashed potatoes and more of the pulled pork, plus some green beans. There’s still plenty of pork left, so we’ll need to come up with some other ideas for combinations.

We finally got around to our streaming entertainment a little after 7 p.m. We watched an episode of “Midsomer Murders” that featured Olivia Colman; the first episode of the third series of “No Offence,” in which a major character is killed; and another episode of “How to Die Alone,” the comedy show that ended on a serious note tonight.

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Joshua that number I left for my past EMDR therapist is the only way I've gotten in touch with her. I did request my records, she said she'd send them. They weren't delivered ever. I really really do want to get my files from her I am entitled to a copy via state law. It contains a fuck ton about me that I really feel will help because the sheer amount of traumas to bring up again is going to jar me trying to list em out. I feel like it'll definitely assist you on my treatment plan greatly because we did A LOT.

I assume that there's a place files of this nature are supposed to go?

I assume you would know who to call to help me secure them? Or perhaps we could find out. Even if you don't want to use them...I would very much like a copy of her files on me.

I can sign paperwork for you next session for you to get my files if I haven't and idk who else you'd like to talk to or option to chat with other than psychiatrist and primary care but I'll sign documents with them.

I think she still has a profile on psychology today and email...but the text number I left has been my only way to catch her...

I don't want to be nasty but if she can't produce my files I will call a lawyer. Because yes they'll be great for therapy but I asked a while back.

I'm going to send an image of your card to her and request she leave a voice-mail or talk to Chelsea so we can get that done.

It's just BOTHERING me.

I do understand your treatment style us very different.

Also fuck Robyn. I got so much "feedback" to say about her. She takes literal young men and women who are struggling and honestly I see those patients struggling more with thier gender identity and transitioning. I don't think she's safe for LGBTQA+ folks. That's imo something that should be between a psychiatrist and endo foremost before hitting therapy. Like ive spoken to mine about it and we have different views but now that I have I can open up abt that. Like she invited a client to her home. I feel she pushed a bi male into transitioning and imo the trans ppl I know are happy and she doesn't seem happy now at all. She told me to break up with my now ex and treated me like a liar and literally sessions with her felt like interrogation and SUPER judgy and she was VERY FAKE with my parents who were ofc putting on a show for her.

I cannot begin to explain how well my parents are at manipulating therapists and turning it into everything being on me and as soon as I say something in response or try to blow their cover it's WILD because the one thing they don't realize they do is thier facial expressions. They'll either over mask or forget to do it. They always trip up.

Mom likes to play victim and very clueless kind. Dad does this in a different manner, he's subject to get pissed and walk out or raise his voice unless he's gonna act right because you're not a woman.

The weirdest part of having been raised by these people. The way I've studied them since childhood to please them. They adapt and use therapy against me. They don't remember what they've said or done. They seem put out by me telling them "hey what you did was fuckin wrong and yeah I've brought it up before and you shut down and we never settled it" then they'll be like "you just love to hold grudges" etc... but it's not that. I'd like to process it all or what I can. The reason it comes up over and over is because it's not going into memories to be forgotten in my brain. It's just hanging out in the fuckin trauma bay. Like a packed ER.

I am open to whatever type of family therapy is beneficial. Often times my dad is nasty to my mom when she's calling or texting about me. I don't think she deserves any bullshit if she's just relaying a message.

Like they got divorced and still fight like idiot assholes.

She left and I had a fucked up back and was a stoner and kept to myself because my father treated me like a partner to abuse and daughter to control and there's a ton of emotional incest. Dad also talks to young ppl online and what I saw years ago looked like grooming behavior and poor pity me with women of age I hope but still younger than me. Probably because many older men try to influence young women and never emotionally mature correctly and actually accept their age. I remember him on dating sites complaining about how ugly certain women were whose profiles imo were quite lovely and impressive. He acts sorta like an incel.

My sister you'll probably see straight through. She's an actress.

I do want to see with a few sessions if it may be possible to salvage anything with any of them.

What's upsetting is that though I have a poor sense of self...they don't really know me or seem to want to know me.

My psychiatrist thinks it's due to me not being healthy and also that I'm not married and doing the "normal" thing so there's resentment.

Since NONE of them listen to anything I have to say because they're all under the impression I'm trying to control them based on well nothing other than I'm gonna guess THE PAST.

They think I'm frantic. They haven't really read anything about what I deal with. They don't listen to listen. They listen to reply and they cherry pick and twist things I say to mean things they don't.

I don't know how to have a conversation with any of them without them exploding. My dad and mom have literally put me on speaker and walked off and my sister idfk last time I tried to speak to her she was FADED and I hung up.

They all have excuses.

It hurts that they won't accept and educate themselves like my friends do. It's not hard.

I fear they are both VERY mentally unwell and I'd really like to hear what you think.

I do have audio I keep forgetting to show you. I feel it's important and it will give you an idea of what a "light" encounter with them both while having a fucked up back and asking for help because I couldn't do laundry on my own sounds like. I recorded it because it'd already been happening that day and they do the narccistic tornado and I wanted to make sure my words weren't twisted more.

I wish I had more recorded. It's wild.

I'm concerned my dad is fucking with Piper's head but she's already a shitshow (I love my sister but I'm gonna fuss about her crap still)

I feel like I'm playing Squid Games and talking to any of them is a test.

My dad has told me to kill myself and to die and he's left me alone in the hospital after relieving my mom where I was then abused and left in a waiting room with a dead phone and no way to go pee for HOURS because my back was out.

We almost sued OLOL for the maltreatment.

This is not the first time I've been left alone in a hospital and abused.

People think I'm a hypochondriac but I just have a special interest in medical. I grew up in medical environments. Knowing as much as I can retain has kept me safe from further misdiagnosis and malpractice bullshit. I wish I could actually just gent sent to a mayo clinic or idk one of the big hospitals where they use diagnosticians and run you through the gambit.

I know it's not a thing unless ppl are very sick. I mean it was traumatic as a child to be put in NIH testing for a Dermatomyositis study. I don't remember meeting other kids. I just met Ted Kennedy one day while I was playing waiting on another test. It was scary being like 8 and seeing secret service fill a room and guard a door so he could have a photo with me. He did talk to me a ton and I really don't remember what he said. My parents were thrilled and I'm sure there's a cat piss stained picture somewhere.

Did you know that my sister and dad just threw a ton of my things away and donated or tossed most of my books. I had a massive bookshelf. Now it's covered with things that are mine and shit my sister used to make her room aesthetic without asking me.

It has always been hard to go home and get anything from her. I really just want to take everything that was or is mine. Things I gave her and things she stole.

I don't think she realizes I have 2yrs to file a report on the assault and I could take her to court for emotional distress too and probably more.

I've never gotten justice for any of the things that have happened to me.

I wish I could just send all thier asses to prison but they wouldn't survive.

They all think I won't do anything. That's been taunted at me.

They have no clue. They have no clue what they created and they have no clue what goes on in my head.

Sometimes I think that there's something supernatural at play.

I believe in those sorts of things. I don't talk about it much enthusiastically because ofc people like to shit on it.

I know most of the things that haven't been proven by science will eventually be.

I know that also it does exist. Our govt wouldn't have done studies to use ppl with ability for war purposes.

I know a lot of cold reading is fueled by trauma. I don't like to cold read. I think people who sell cold reads etc are just very good at telling others what they want to hear...or they're so desperate they will truly take advice.

When I read things come through and there's this process. It's mind's eye where pictures and words come through. Then I just ask about what I see or deliver whatever messages. I was pushed out of a group that was threatened by my reading. They were threatened because they are frauds. If a message doesn't make sense for someone then I tell them to just take what makes sense. It's often like a crowded room when I read for people. It's been a while since I tried beyond simple shit. I've scared the crap out of friends holding thier hand and reading them. Because they never told me about the people I relayed messages. I didn't just guess. I opened myself up to it and flooded in.

Sometimes I want to get Reiki certification so I can just do that for ppl. I was told by a master that I was a natural energy worker. I was told by native shamans that I was a gatekeeper. My grandmothers had thier little superstitious practices.

This is the part you'll probably want to ask more about if I haven't talked abt it. I've exorcized a demonic or spiritual entity out of a person before. There's no way to prove it. I know what I saw and heard. I wasn't high.

It makes me wonder how many cases are actually supernatural and how many are actually just mental illness.

Also it's been driving me insane Joshua but I know you somehow outside of therapy. I do wonder if we've just been at the same place at the same time more than once and that's why I remember your face or if we have many mutual ppl. This is a big city small town so who knows. I hope it doesn't fuck up th Or you have a doppelganger 🤷🏻‍♀️

Idk.

I think one reason ppl think me and Travis would be a pair is because he's just a really kind good person. This extends beyond me and to others he knows. His family really is picturesque. They are excellent people. He will make someone incredibly happy one day. I am really bothered by people passing him over. He's actually looking for a therapist. I wouldn't be bothered if any of my friends saw you as a patient. The whole "oh no we can't do therapy with people you know" thing imo is silly. People in this state all know each other to the point it's just goofy.

My partner called me all excited that he didn't have to work overnight. He called because he was going out and felt bad that he wouldn't get to chat with me and had planned on doing so and had been excited to do so. He actually said "I Love you" more than once and I told him to go have fun. Saying I Love you is difficult for him sometimes. Am I sad I'm not getting to talk to him? Yes. Am I happy he got out of a stressful work night to enjoy time with his buddies or other partner? Yes, why wouldn't I be? I do get sad that I can't be there but it's still better than half the mfers that are just overgrown fuckbois etc that don't even have the emotional maturity to call.

I'm gonna go smoke out, do smol bit of laundry in my travel laundry bucket thing, eat decent food, stay up to an asinine hour, and play Sims4.

Hopefully no dumb bullshit occurs.

I cannot and I'm not the one this evening.

Goodnight

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Community Spotlight: Robyn Dever

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Community Spotlight: Robyn Dever

Robyn Dever moved to Coffs Harbour in 2011 and quickly identified a gap in support for the local LGBTQIA+ community.

Robyn Dever founded Rainbow Coffs Harbour in 2015 with her partner and another local gay couple.

In the decade since then Robyn has become a pivotal figure in offering a safe and empowering space for LGBTQIA+ people in the region, fostering a community that now boasts over eight hundred members on Facebook.

With a background in sexual health, Robyn worked at an HIV clinic in Sydney in the 80s and recalls some of the horrors of that period, which she says had a profound effect on her.

“I saw a lot of patients coming into the clinic wearing dark hats and hoodies and I saw the sunken faces. I witnessed the embarrassment and the shame,” Dever recalls.

Coming from that background, in 2011, Robyn and her partner moved to Coffs Harbour, and discovered there was no LGBTQIA+ support group for the area.

Robyn put a Facebook post up and connected with a gay couple who had moved up from Melbourne, and the group grew from there.

Recognising the pressing need for a group like this, particularly due to the mental and physical well-being of the transgender and gender diverse communities in the area, Robyn knew she had to reach an audience beyond social media, especially given the age diversity of LGBTQIA+ people in the region.

That resulted in Dever doing a lot of the PR and marketing to expand the group, getting the word out to different types of media, while working with a fantastic group of volunteers.

She explains that one of her proudest achievements of running Rainbow Coffs Harbour was when a trans girl came up to her and said, “This is the first time in public that I feel comfortable wearing a dress.”

She also recounts how people have become more open about talking about their HIV status through Rainbow Coffs Harbour.

“People will come up to me and disclose their HIV status or ask me about sexually transmitted diseases,” Dever says.

Dever achieved this all while still balancing her role as a practising nurse.

When COVID restrictions started to dissipate, the community rallied around her again in wanting to help support her in bringing future events to life through Rainbow Coffs Harbour.

Since then the group has hosted a picnic with close to 150 people attending, with Dever saying, “We are very pleased with that”.

The group also had forty people turn up to an event at The Big Banana when it was turned red for World AIDS Day, where Robyn had a red flag bearing the World AIDS Day ribbon symbol.

She feels like with all these successes, “We are on the tip of something big!”

Looking ahead, Robyn would love to find more sponsorships and partnerships with local businesses to expand the reach and impact of Rainbow Coffs Harbour to continue her mission of building a safer and more inclusive future where all LGBTQIA+ people can find acceptance in the region.

She also hopes to see more trans young people attending the group’s events and for people to feel empowered to solidify the future of Rainbow Coffs Harbour.

“If anyone has any ideas for Rainbow Coffs Harbour, I am more than happy to listen to them,” Dever says.

-You can find out more information about the group by heading to Rainbow Coffs Harbour on Facebook or you can reach out to Robyn directly at rainbowcoffsharbour@yahoo.com

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