#regardless of race or gender

[befuddled-calico-whump]

This is a genuine question: I know you enjoy lady whump as you have some characters that are female and are whumpees. I enjoy it too, sorta. Truth is that I feel guilty.

I know it’s kinda problematic to see lady whump as taboo and immoral but I can’t help but feel like it’s wrong, I come from a country that HATES women (shocker all countries hate women but I mean mine has a huge femicide problem) and I know how stupid I sound “I can’t feel but it’s wrong” like duh it’s whump! But I honestly don’t know how to get over those feelings, it hits too close home.

My question here is did you ever got those feelings of guilt and if you did, how did you get over those?

It's understandable to feel guilty at times, especially when creating or enjoying dark content (and especially if it's something that hits close to home)

Initially, I had some reservations about lady whump, since in mainstream media, violence against women tends to be a sensationalized thing that exists for shock value or to motivate the male lead in some way

(it's worth noting that the media has a history of doing this to trans, gay, and otherwise queer characters and non-white characters as well)

Initially I was squicked out by the idea of lady whump because I was so used to seeing it through that lens (not to mention, as you've said, the real-life examples)

However, I've seen again and again that whump as a genre tends to handle that material well (with all genders, not just females). Instead of the shock value, whump focuses a lot on the emotions, how the harm affects the character being harmed, and more often than not gives that character a fulfilling recovery arc

Personally, that's what shifted my opinion on it

Even then, if it's something you're uncomfortable with, you're not at fault for avoiding or disliking it. It all comes down to personal preference, and whether you'd like to explore it more or just stay away, it's your choice, and you shouldn't need to explain yourself (/gen)

[midnight-puppy]

Look, I like Tumblr but it suffers from the same problems as many other communities.

Some people, and by that, I mean most people, are so close minded it's crazy. Like, sure it's more inclusive (i.e. sexually inclusive) than other websites but that's just because historically it's been a nsfw blogging site and some people took it on themselves to make it good and inclusive.

But boy oh boy, you guys are always ready to jump at the guns at anything that sticks even by an inch out of your narrative?

"wow, this anon left a note with a well-put opinion but different from mine." Slur time babey

"this guy is showing a personal preference that has nothing to do with me." Time to call him an idiot in a comment

Like, sure, some opinions suck balls (kink Nazis on the nose) but all opinions are at least worth listening to and judging at ground level. No goal in pointing fingers without trying to understand.

[orgasming-caterpillar]

Mard when pasandida aurat

[lesenbyan]

Me: listening to So You Want To Talk About Race

Me: oh I am learning a lot about my relationship to blackness in this book written by another black woman raised by a white parent (identities to that differing widely)

[arte072]

don't pay attention to these comments, pls, your art style is lovely and unique 👑

thank you so much, anon!! 💖💖💖

tbh more than anything, I'm just baffled that anyone thinks my feminism should be centered on "not drawing too much anime faces"

like yikeeeesssssss 😭😭😭😬😬😬

[phepde-xrayed]

Anyways, enough hatred for today remember I Love You all

[robotpussy]

"I wonder why it only took a few months of weirdos before you guys made an article but TO THIS VERY DAY actresses are still sexualized non stop, even sometimes underage actresses. People post about them wanting them to be 18 and the day after their birthday they'll get a weird nsfw Reddit dedicated to creeping on them. But yeah, sure, this is the REAL problem."

#its still gross to sexualize celebs #but tbh we need to address the sexualization of feminine bodies #in like every piece of media we have #and stop oggling celebs like they arent real people #im just annoyed that when it happebs to women it seems like it doesnt even matter #like no one even cares #both are fucked up but on has been around suvstancially longer than the other #and i feel like its being allowed?? #like no this should not be allowed

like they said this in their response but when I go to look up Sydney sweeny the FIRST article that comes up is one discussing how sam Levinson disgustingly sexualises and harms the actresses in his work and I know this isn't the best example to use AT ALL but I wonder why they came out and proclaimed nobody is talking about how the same thing and even worse happens to actresses and famous women and girls when for years I have been reading articles about this kind of thing.

(written 3 days ago)

and the initial article isnt the best, by claiming to end misogyny is for women to do to men what they do to women but they didn't even bring that up, just "how come this article exists?" as if people are not currently talking abt this happening to women right now. a circulating tumblr post is not the entire landscape of the internet! and all I said in my response was 'this article existing isn't really taking away from anything.... like at the end of the day sexual harassment is wrong regardless of who it is happening to

(og post)

[bunnyboy-juice]

i think a lot more ppl need to get comfortable with the fact that some ppl self describe as ugly not as a way to tear themselves down but as an acknowledgement of the beauty standards that exist and how, even with "expanding" the definition of beauty, we still Do Not fit into that expansion and NO amount of expansion of beauty ideals is going to change that.

[livelyhappenings]

I really hate it when people hate on boys when they wear skirts. Especially women.

Like- now it's completely normal and no one bats an eye but only like- what last century women weren't even "allowed" to wear pants. They had to fight tooth and nail to even wear something in resemblance to pants.

"He who is ignorant of history is condemned to relive it" - Kennedy

We already had this fight once and won, okay. So don't try to start another losing battle.

So next time- whoever it is- sits down and starts to write/say something hateful to someone who's wearing a skirt (or whatever they please) because they're not "fem or not female enough" for you, just stfu.

[the-crow-binary]

People really be projecting their values, way of being and sexuality onto their favorite fictional characters aren't they :/

(I'm people)

[shastonkydonk67]

Agreed, there's a thin line between calling someone out and being a bigot.

I don’t know who needs to hear this but a trans and/or non-binary person being a piece of garbage isn’t an excuse to misgender them. Yes they’re a trash person but that doesn’t revoke their gender, give them consequences instead of treating correct pronouns like only good people get them instead of a part of who you are. They don’t “deserve to be misgendered,” they deserve to be punished normally, like cis people. Just saying.

[athalantan]

GREENWOOD EXPLICITLY CONFIRMING LAERAL IS QUEER, GOD BLESS

[stormbreaker101]

had an experience that can ONLY be described in greentext so

> be me

> unemployed, job hunting

> specifically i wanna do theatre shit

> lots of theatre job listings are stuff outta my scope. im freshly graduated and cant take on any supervisor sorta roles

> find a job listed as "Production Assistant"

> thismightbegood.jpg

> i open it in a new tab

> first words: H4RRY P0TT3R (in leetspeak to avoid this showing up in the search) AND THE CUR53D CH1LD

> NOPE.JPG

> FUCKTHISSHITIMOUT.GIF

> ugh

[sasquach-scratches]

It's definitely an instance of seeing only the tip of the discourse iceberg, but for the longest time I thought "playersexual" was used when romanceable characters in videogames clearly just had a "anyone can romance them" thing slapped on them without any thought put into it whatsoever and not "these characters are canonically bi/pan and it comes up in-game/the player's "configuration" is brought up"

Like, I can kind of see the overlap but for the most part it seems like people getting into arguments about it just...don't have the same definition for it lmfao

[thesaddhatter]

You know, if there is anything that Tumblr has taught me, it’s that your opinions matter, that and when voting, even if it’s a joke, you should put at least some consideration into who you want to win in the polls, I know it might sound ridiculous, but I have been on YouTube for a lot longer than I’ve been on Tumblr, and on YouTube, at least for me, I’ve never really seen the impact my decisions had on a voting space, because, although the button I clicked indicated I had voted for that thing, wether it be a dislike, like, subscription, or poll, I never really saw the number get bigger, so I never really thought about the fact that, even though I did not see it happening, I even slightly, raised an opinion… but on Tumblr, everything is numbered down to the detail, how many notes, how many people have voted, the hours remaining on a poll, maybe I just never noticed it, but those are not things I saw on YouTube, and that minuscule detail work, that slight increase in Notes every time me or another reblogs, that realization, that in fact, regardless of what my baseless assumptions led me to believe, I and everyone else, has a voice, that even barely can be heard and can still help push what I believe in, it makes me actually feel, just for a moment, that we live in a society that places democracy first and not capitalism… it might just be me, but tumblr has helped me realize just how important having a voice and using that voice can be.