#reasons for tagging include a range of i've been meaning to ask you what you've been up to/how you are lately (pearl)

[purecommemasolitude]

Nine people i want to get to know better tag game

But it’s a new post because the other one was far too long

LAST SONG? - Currently listening to Die Together by Amanda Tenfjord, but the *last* song I listened to was the original version (according to the Spotify title) of John Denver's Take Me Home, Country Roads

FAVORITE COLOR? - Purple!!

CURRENTLY WATCHING? - Theoretically Star Trek: The Animated Series but also it’s been months since I’ve watched an episode so. You know. Other than that I’ve generally been getting into vintage film recently — discovered Kanopy has a load of Keaton & Chaplin’s work so I am going to make my way through those shortly

LAST MOVIE? - Buster Keaton’s The Haunted House if we count it, Last Suspect (2023) if we don’t. It was the last movie I watched on the plane back to Canada from Taiwan, and while I enjoyed it I did prefer the other Chinese crime/legal proceedings movie I watched on the flight (The Invisible Guest from 2023). The plot twists from TIG felt really clever and purposeful within the context of the genre, whereas my internal monologue was more "WHAT IS GOING ON" by the time they got to the FUCKING MEAT GRINDER??? in Last Suspect. It was still a solid movie that I would rewatch, but again the meat grinder really comes out of nowhere.

SWEET/SPICY/SAVORY? - Savoury! I’d like to get my spice tolerance up, but since coming back from Taiwan I feel like my sweetness tolerance has gone down. Beverages there truly are the exact amount of sugary for me (someone who thinks Brisk Lemonade is way sweeter than it should be)

RELATIONSHIP STATUS? - Single and far too busy & also uninvested in the possibility to mingle

CURRENT OBSESSIONS? - In case it isn’t obvious, The Outsiders has been living in my mind for the past few months. Within that subset, Japanese-American Paul Holden specifically has me in a vice grip — Darry’s still my favourite character, but as a member of East Asian diaspora myself I am not immune to the implications Japanese-American Paul Holden has.

LAST THING YOU GOOGLED? - "try guys phoning it in" because i was trying to figure out how many episodes they were/what order they were in (update actually I had to stop answering to do something else and now it's "can you do police checks on minors" because they need to do that before I can volunteer somewhere but as I'm still a minor for a bit I don't know if I still have to get a police check or if I get to wait until I'm not)

This tagging list is a combination of people who actually fit the theme and people who do fit the title but whom I think I’ve already talked with too much to count for OP’s vision but who I am chickening out and putting anyway. Which is a really wordy way of saying I'm sometimes falling back on people I've interacted with before because I'm scared. Feel no pressure to participate, but if you do pretty please make a new post because the other reason I made a new post for this was because I fear what OP's notifs look like

@asexual-juliet @partiallypearl @granma-sweetie @sondheim-girly @hhuta @mishapen-moth @pesticine @mar-the-magician aaand a cheating blanket tag to anyone who wants to!

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I've been having so much bad luck. I've lost all my income. It's now zero income. My hair is falling out in handfuls. I'm starting to breakout on my face. I have lost everythin n everyone. I don't have any friends here. Ive always kept to myself. It was just me my kids n my life partner. He just left us like we don't exsist From one day to the next. He loves his new girl. She is clearly with other men in front of him n he goes running after her like a lost dog. What is happening?

Hey Anon, I'm sorry to hear you've gone through so much.

I'm guessing since you came to a witch, you suspect there might be some kind of magical, supernatural, or paranormal reasoning for this sudden turn in your life. And I've got advice for that, but I think I should mention some mundane advice first.

Sudden break outs and hair loss can be caused by all kinds of things, including stress, which it sounds like you've got in abundance. But sudden hair loss can also be a sign of other serious medical issues. If you have the ability to see a doctor, I'd do so. Especially if you're on his insurance. It's also possible that you might still be covered with your previous job's insurance, depending on where you live and your plan. Some plans are forced to cover you for a full length of time, even if you lose your job. So I'd definitely try to get that figured out ASAP.

Now, on to the witchcraft advice. I'd assume that if this is paranormal, it's either a curse or a negative spirit preying on you. Both can be solved in the same way.

Firstly, cleanse yourself. If you search my blog for "cleansing" you'll find a bunch of ways to cleanse yourself, ranging from a ritual bath or shower, to asking your deity to help cleanse you. Do whatever feels best for you and will work in your current living situation. As someone who's had nothing, including running water for a time, I know how hard it can be to take a simple shower, let alone a ritual one.

The whole point of cleansing yourself is to drive anything that might be attached to you away from you. It'll disconnect and either go away entirely, or it'll wait in the surrounding area until it's safe to reattach, which is what we solve next.

Next, cleanse your space. You can find info on this under the same tag, and there's a ton of ways to do this too. Smoke cleansing is the most popular. People burn various plants or incense, and incense is cheap, but I personally use oak leaves and twigs. I pick them up while walking the dog in the fall. They might be a little hard to find this late into winter, but you might get lucky. Otherwise, even walmart carries incense sticks, and some dollar stores do.

If smoke isn't an option, sound is another popular option. Anything from a bell to banging pots and pans can work. Ritual cleaning of a space is also very effective. Wipe down the walls, sweep the floors, picture the negative force being pushed out with the old. Sweep it right out your door way, or into a trash and immediately take the trash out.

Now that the negative force is no longer attached to you and no longer waiting in your house, you need to keep it that way. You're going to need a protective charm for yourself and your loved ones. If you're religious, a prayer to your deity, written on a paper slip is a good option, as well as maybe praying personally for their protection. If you're not religious you can do something similar by making a protection sigil, a protective spell, or any number of other protective charms. Again, you can search for protection and sigil if you have any questions on those things, I try to tag stuff well. Keep these protective charms on you, or in something that represents you.

Lastly, wards and barriers. This is locking the door some the thing can't return and linger around your home. Search for "Ward", I've got a lot of stuff and a bunch of reblogs to resources on this too. Layers of wards are important, meaning do more than one, just in case one fails or isn't particularly effective against one thing, as it is another. Personally, I place decoys like witch's bottles near my home, more decoys in my home, I "paint" protective sigils on my walls and doors in water (water evaporates when it dries, but the spell stays), I've got enchanted doorway thresholds, piles of protective charms scattered around the house, and much much more.

That's more or less a crash course in the steps I'd take to remove anything that might be actively causing problems with you, and prevent them from coming back.

Next, look up spells for bringing good luck, financial stability, all the things you're lacking. I don't really deal in those kinds of spells, but there's a lot of others out there who are really knowledgeable on those topics.

Hopefully that helps turn things around for you. I know things a pretty rough right now, even without the problems you're going through. Just hang in there, it's got to get better if you just keep fighting.

If there's anything else I can help you with, feel free to ask. I try to reply to these whenever I have the time to check my messages.