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[girltalkcollectives]

Why Most Relationships End at Stage 3 (And What Comes After)

Nobody tells you there are five stages of love. Or maybe they do, but we're too caught up in stage one to listen.

Stage 1: Falling in Love

God, isn't this part beautiful? Everything is perfect and new and exciting. The butterflies, the constant texting, the way they can do no wrong. Their jokes are always funny. Their little quirks are adorable. The way they breathe is somehow fascinating.

You stay up until 4AM talking about nothing and everything. Every song on the radio suddenly makes sense. You plan your entire day around the chance of seeing them. Even sitting in silence feels magical.

I remember thinking "this is it." Like I had somehow cracked the code to perfect love. Spoiler alert: I hadn't.

Stage 2: Getting Serious

This is when reality starts to blend with the magic. You're still in love, but now you're also building something. Meeting families. Planning futures. Moving in together. Making joint Netflix accounts (because that's basically marriage in 2024).

You start saying "we" instead of "I." You have inside jokes. You know their coffee order by heart. You can read their moods. You're a team. Or at least, you think you are.

The butterflies might fade a bit, but they're replaced by something deeper. Something real. You're not just in love anymore - you're choosing each other, every day.

Stage 3: What Happened?

And then... something shifts.

Suddenly their quirks aren't cute anymore. The way they chew is annoying. Their jokes aren't funny. The silence isn't comfortable - it's heavy. You start wondering if this is all there is.

This is where most relationships end. Right here. In this messy, uncomfortable space where the fairytale crashes into reality.

Their pedestal starts crumbling. You realize they're human. They make mistakes. They have flaws. They disappoint you. And worst of all? You disappoint them too.

Most people panic here. They think the relationship is broken. They think love is dead. They run.

I did. Multiple times.

But here's the thing about Stage 3 - it's not the end. It's the middle. It's the growing pains. It's the part where real love has a chance to begin.

Stage 4: Climbing Down from the Pedestal

If you're brave enough to stay, if you're willing to do the work, you reach Stage 4. This is where you both climb down from your pedestals and meet in the middle.

You see each other clearly for the first time. Not as perfect beings. Not as disappointments. Just as humans, trying their best.

You learn that love isn't about butterflies or grand gestures. It's about choosing each other, especially when it's hard. It's about seeing someone's flaws and loving them anyway.

Stage 5: Working Together as a Team

This is where real love lives. This is what all those romantic comedies don't show you.

It's not perfect. It's not always exciting. But it's real.

It's working through problems instead of running from them. It's knowing when to fight and when to let go. It's building something together, brick by brick, day by day.

It's understanding that love isn't something that happens to you - it's something you build together.

But here's why most people never make it past Stage 3:

1. We think the end of the honeymoon phase means the end of love

2. We're addicted to the high of Stage 1

3. We don't know how to love real, flawed humans

4. We're scared of doing the work

5. Nobody told us what comes after the fairytale

The truth is, Stages 4 and 5 aren't as glamorous as the first three. They don't make good movies. They don't inspire pop songs.

But they're where real love lives. In the mundane moments. In the hard conversations. In the choice to stay even when it's not perfect.

To anyone stuck in Stage 3: it's okay. It's normal. It's not the end unless you choose it to be.

The most beautiful love stories aren't about perfect people having a perfect romance.

They're about real people choosing each other. Again and again. Through the hard parts. Through the boring parts. Through all of it.

[toneast1960]

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[dandanieeri]

Officially ended

I'm tired of being mad.

I'm tired of being frustrated.

I'm tired of hurting you.

I hope you're tired of letting me hurt you.

So move on.

[radiantlighttech]

Shifting to the World of Love Reality - the doorway is the Heart.

[saranhamshi]

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[xxchuchanxx]

At first you're like...

ii

Then you realize it's love... and be like

i  i

And then you agree to "wait" for the right time... only to be

i                                                                                   i

The stages of falling -_-

[toneast1960]

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[dandanieeri]

If one chooses to separate because of another, that cannot be love. To bid farewell for someone is just excuse. It is a way for you to pretend you care for the other person when you really cannot handle reality anymore.

Melo Holic chapter 56

[danie-rmt]

Amar es destruir y ser amado es ser destruido.

[susysr]

Real Love.

[mariaxmariaa]

The Reality of A Cold Love

    She walked the long corridor as if in a daze...arms crossed tight against her breast, she tried to ignore the way everyone seemed to absorb every facet of her appearance before saying hello.  It wasn't like she didn't do the same thing to everyone else...

     As she walked, she duly noted the tall and subtle figure standing beside her.  Lately their relationship had been rather tumultuous in her eyes.  She couldn't understand why she hated to be touched--in public.  Sighing as he closed in at her right, she sped her pace quick enough that she might reach the room before he noticed she wasn't holding his hand.

[upperclassmen]

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[globalvito]

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