#realistically i'm pretty sure there are multiple babies since that's how it is on sets

[otogariado]

that shits been on the floor sir!!

[midnight-fox-boy]

I'm not sure if this helps but something I learned online that really helped me understand how to talk to people (and myself!!) who struggle with various things like hygiene, productivity, etc. Is that there really is a realistic medium between toxic positivity and negativity/shaming. (Long)

By this I mean, toxic positivity could be something like just constantly reassuring someone to the point it ends up being toxic. "Oh no it's okay to not shower for 3 months! Don't worry about it!" "It's okay if you haven't brushed your teeth in 6 months 💜".

And the toxic negativity (which I wont be detailed with here because I don't want to induce negative emotions or anxiety) I mean stating really messed up half truths, statistics, or shaming someone for not being perfect at always doing important things.

It's pretty obvious why the negativity is bad, but the toxic positivity with these things has multiple actually negative outcomes. It can end up not being helpful to the person in question who's really struggling but doesn't know what to do, setting them up to not make any improvements whatsoever or helping them find solutions when it's something like, sensory related for example. (Of course ask first before offering suggestions!!) and on another side of it, it's actually not really okay to go a very long time neglecting your hygiene.

And the happy medium is a mixture of reassurance, asking if they want nonjudgmental suggestions, AND actually helpful suggestions, not shaming them.

And I'm not talking out of my ass here, this has genuinely helped me personally and I know it's helped some people who have accepted my ask of "want me to try to offer some tips?"

Reassurances like: "No I promise you're not a bad person!!" "I do believe you, I can tell that you're struggling a lot", "I'm sorry people are treating you this way when you're having such a hard time"

When giving suggestions, or reassuring yourself, you have to be okay with not being perfect. You have to be okay with what helps you not being "typical". The easier you can accept that you're trying and you got something done, the easier it'll be overall. And maybe you don't fully believe it yet, but you believe it enough to give it a shot anyways.

Some examples that have helped me and that I've given others include like

Bathing but can't handle showering for one reason or another: dry shampoo/dry wash if you can access it, baby wipes on especially sensitive areas or areas prone to getting dirty and stinky (pits, crotch, butt, under breasts if applicable, feet), witch hazel for oily skin, washing your face, changing your underwear daily, antiperspirant (really feels better if you've wiped up your pits first!). And if you feel you can get into the shower but don't have the energy to use soap, just using water and if possible, your hands/a loufa can do more than you'd think.

Do these things perfectly replace showering? No, but that's not the point. The point is to minimize the risk of getting sick or an infection, the point is to feel better about how you look, smell, and feel better about how you physically*feel*. A lot of people who struggle with showering are also dealing with depression and/or sensory issues, and it can be a wild catch 22. Depression/sensory problems preventing the shower, but then feeling gross and/or BO can make the depression worse/can trigger different sensory issues, making this crappy cycle of making it even harder to bathe. All self care is important, even if it seems like it's on a smaller scale.

Cleaning/washing dishes, I legit just suggest having some disposable things on hand if possible. Washing dishes hurts my hands a lot. I sometimes need disposable things just to get through the day and properly care for myself and others. Otherwise I may actually just avoid eating which isn't helpful since I'm already underweight. And I even try to just slowly stock up so I have things on hand when I need them later! Because I know I'll need them..

At the end of the day, doing what you can to take care of yourself is so much better than not taking care of yourself at all. Id rather you "half ass" the job than no-ass it. Id rather you brush your teeth once a day than none a day. While twice a day should be the end goal, progress isn't made over night.

collection of useful things tumblr has taught me:

even if you can't fall asleep, laying down with your eyes closed will still rest your body

you don't have to brush your teeth standing up

you don't have to do any chore standing up, from dishes to showering

you don't have to shower with the lights on

if you can't brush your teeth, flossing and a tongue scraper gets rid of plaque and bad breath

if you can't do that, mouthwash kills a lot of bacteria

eating "unhealthy" food is better than eating no food

you can make the same meal everyday for however long you still want it

some pills come in syrups or chewables if you can't swallow them

kids nutritional shakes can be a quick way to get fuel if you can't eat/don't have time

if walking hurts/exhausts you on a regular basis, canes and rollers are for you, no matter how young you are

we have free will—if doing something "out of the ordinary" makes life easier for you, do it

[vesper-roux]

Height Comparison Tag Game

Nicking this from @author-a-holmes [HERE]

Tagging: Anyone and everyone who sees this post and has OCs. If I can do it from an open tag, so can you. :) Let me see.

Link to the Height Comparison Website

How To Play: List the heights of your OCs, add any notes you'd like, and make a chart

I'm personally going to do multiple WIPs, limiting it to the MCs/some major characters. I also listed them from shortest to tallest in their respective WIPs.

It'll get long, so it's under the cut

Anthem

Willow: 5' / 152 cm. The shortest of the bunch and short by overall cultural standards. Where does it come from? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (It's because the only reason Will continues to live is because of vis life/energy stealing ability) Will doesn't care most of the time; ve's nimble and can stealth more easily because of it.

Asche: 5'7" / 170 cm. Given her ethnicity is coded to be Yamato Japanese and Thai, she's taller than average, but to most around her, she is average height. She's also got some Dutch in there (I know the spelling of her name is German; listen to the Dutch pronunciation of ash ['as'] for an explanation).

(Not a MC but still important) Sawyer: 5'9" / 175 cm. She does appreciate the qualities she has that she can use to command more respect from people. Her height is one of them, though she's not exactly tall. Again, like Asche, she is coded to be of Han Chinese (and English) descent, so by that metric, she is tall.

Rhys: 5'11" / 180 cm. He's pretty average in height, not really something he or anyone thinks about. He's perfect to be the guy you don't want people paying attention to... as long as you hide his owl-eyed baby face and get him to shut up.

(Not a MC but still important) Klaus: 6'2" / 188 cm. What better than to have a tall, strong built man for a warrior king? He's so well coifed, you'd think he had work done to his legs to make him fit his role this well (he didn't).

Galen: 6'7" / 200 cm. It's lucky Galen doesn't know who his parents are. He can keep it in his head his height is thanks to genetics because it sure wasn't from nutrition. He wasn't starving, he always found a way to keep himself fed, but there wasn't security.

Count the Valleys

While CtV isn't supposed to be historical fantasy, be set in the real world, and reflect history, I'm still using time period and ethnicity as basis for these characters.

Ashira: 5'2" / 157 cm. Average height for a Semitic woman of the Bronze Age. Ashira may be a lone wanderer in the desert, but she has many ways of taking care of herself, be it magical or practical. Mostly it's because she shapes herself into a wolf part of a pack.

Shai: 5'6" / 168 cm. Complete average height for an Egyptian/Semitic man of the Bronze Age. He's been taken care of since birth by priests for the belief he's a seer, so he's never been in want... until...

Anai: 5'8" / 173 cm. Above average height for a Nubian woman of the Bronze Age. She's a warrior, and though like a specialized sport sifting out less compatible body types, work does craft one into what they seek. She's carved out a life that suits her, and it shows.

Calix: 6'8" / 203 cm. Obviously the most realistic height of any ethnicity in any point of history, especially a Minoan! Calix is essentially Frankenstein's monster, being made from multiple people's bodies for the specific purpose to protect and serve royalty. Why wouldn't they make him and those like him huge when mural visual hierarchy uses size to depict things like power?

The Man in the Moon is a Stranger

Tricksy: 5'1" / 155 cm. This is their natural height. Trick is legally homeless and a paranoid shut-in who refuses to install any cybernetics into their body or technology that cannot be destroyed within a moment's notice in or around their hut. I haven't decided whether they're a minor or a young adult yet. Inspired by Ed from Cowboy Bebop.

Dove: 5'3" / 160 cm. It will forever annoy her that her little sister is taller than her, even if it's just by an inch. Or... was. Bugs' head is practically a helmet with bunny ears on it now, but she was finished growing by time she got that. Dove knows she can get an enhancement to change that, but that's not the point, dammit!

Bugs: 5'4" / 162.5 cm. Bugs doesn't have the smugness about being naturally taller than her older sister that Dove expects of her. She thinks it's funny if only because of Dove's obsession with coming across as intimidating, going so far as to install muscle enhancements, though Dove refuses to make herself taller.

Mojo: 5'7.7" / 172 cm. Mojo's all about being real with it. He's had cyber enhancements, but he's not going to change his height. He's ethnically Igbo, so he's average to his people.

Katsura: 5'9" / 175 cm. He's had many installments in his body but none so invasive as to change his height. Aside from Tricksy, he's the most natural one of the ensemble, shown in his name being his legal family name, not a code name.

L: 5'10" / 178 cm. While there's not much about L that is natural anymore, she didn't change her height because she's happy with it. Like with Katsura's name being his actual one, 'L' is a code name but is also her chosen name 🏳️‍⚧️

Cosmo: 6'2" / 188 cm. This is her natural height, and anyone who says otherwise doesn't know shit or is lying from their ass. She likes to work on a skill naturally first then get enhancements to make that skill even better.

Quill: 6'6" / 198 cm. This is not his natural height. He's had many cybernetic enhancements, and making his spine and legs more powerful and longer are some of them.

Untitled All-Female-Lead Shounen-type Story

Sen: 5'2" / 157 cm. Sen has never been the strongest physically or focused on strength, despite her devious and criminal lifestyle, so she's quite happy with her height.

Faye: 5'4" / 162 cm. If ever she feels bad about her height, she can shapeshift. It's not painless, and it requires some concentration to do keep it up, but she can do it. She doesn't do it much.

(Not MC but major character) Song: 5'5" / 165 cm. What full spellcaster is required to be tall?

Inzali: 5'6" / 167 cm. She's a bit taller than she thinks is fit for her profession, but she makes it work and wouldn't change it now that she knows how to work with it.

(Not MC but major character) Ardavast: 5'7" / 170 cm. Despite knowing how to make ends meet, living on the streets has taken a toll. Not much to his height, but it's there. He doesn't mind. People don't see him as a threat, and that's good for him.

Cirin: 6' / 182 cm. Well-fed, well-dressed, well-trained. Of course, she's above average height even for her family, but she loves it and takes it as yet another point of pride.