#rb this i need positive reinforcement

[sigskk]

him <3

[gettinontopic]

Image ID: Image that has been dunked in an under water filter. Paragraph one says: Anti-transition is not a fundamental terf position, it does not define it, many terfs are in fact pro-transition. What you're pointing out is a generic anti-trans stance, not what terfism fundamentally is.

Paragraph two says: Transmasc TERFism (and other terfisms) for example, does not oppose transition at all and does not seek to force trans people to identify with their assigned sex. You're either dishonest or very ignorant about this subject, which isn't surprising from a tme.

Paragraph three says: Terfism involves creating/maintaining or reinforcing a power imbalance between cis women, transmascs, tme enbies (TMEs) and TMAs, where TMAs are the subordinate class and TMEs the dominant group, something in which TMEs are highly invested, even within trans spaces. Its is tagged with #transandrodork. Image ID End]

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Anti-transition is a very common defining things t-rfs believe um what?

I was attacked before I was trans for being a gnc women who wanted top sugary. They wanted me to be a tit keeping cis person with she/her pronouns so fucking bad.

T-rfs who are pro surgery get more backlash than most other terfs from what I can tell bc T-rfs "believe in biology" and transitioning even as a cis person is against that shit

T-rfs are obsessed with the ideology of forcing somone to identify with their birth sex. It's seeped into nearly every argument they make. They're constantly telling us what parts they assume we have and how we are baed on those parts. That's forcing aomeone to identify with their birth sex!

T-rfs want me detraisitoned and if I don't they've told me to I'll myself enough time to know they want dead as an alternative. Those are my options: Gender traiter (even when I was cis!) or dead.

The term is

Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist

I am trans

Therfore they exclude me and anyone who come across as me.

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Not to mention t-rfs ideology first and formost is to uphold the genders and roles of white supremacy above all else and that's why a majory of them are white

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Edit: I saw this persons blog after. She has only rbs starting at Feb18 and has a very high chance of being a t-rfs herself attempting to sow seeds between us and transfems.

I unfortunately am seeing people unironically agree so this post stays up to fight misinformation.

But if you find the user attached to this post block and move away, she will not engage in good faith, only using peoples need to be reactionary to coax in fighting.

Stay away and stay safe, and know that t-rfs will never win!

[whitehartlane]

okay i missed the game so i would love to know what u thought of archie (have only heard good things!) and lucas and ALSO excruciating detail about the Deki Renaissance

hellooooo gormlaith!!! obviously disclaimer that this was a preseason friendly against hearts (and their bench in the second half) and in no way an indicator for how and where we’re going to use certain youth or younger players in the upcoming season but it was rly promising!

archie originally played more as a defensive midfielder for leeds before filling in at right back for them last season and today he was asked to play centreback (for the first time in his career i think!). i was super impressed by the way he slot right in like he’s been playing in this position at this level for years. he timed his tackles very well, had a couple of clearances, won all his ground and aerial duels. committed 0 fouls! and what i rly liked seeing is how he got himself involved in the attack, he had a couple of passes into the final third (interested to see how he profiles against biss here who favours a progressive carry) and wasn’t afraid to push up high on the pitch. looks very comfortable on the ball. i do think he’ll end up playing rb or the 6/8 in our system but i didn’t mind him playing at the back today to get used to the intense way of how we play. super encouraging!

lucas is a little more raw imo which is understandable considering he’s made the jump from the swedish league to a pl team at only 18. he was a bit sloppy the first 10-15 mins he played and i think that’s due to the role he played at his old club where he had the agency to play in a more free creative role. however he settled into the game rly well and made a lot of creative forward thinking passes (and of course bagged assists!). i liked seeing him with alfie devine who had a rly underrated game. something that impressed me with lucas is his read of the game and the urgency with which he plays it. there’s this moment where he dictated play from deep which reminded me of madders. another thing is that he made a few outside of the boot passes, i’m interested to see how that translates to the pl. he was also directing other players where to position themselves and assuming that responsibility!

as for this deki remontada … i mentioned this in a post i made but i rly like the idea of deki and madders playing together in midfield. i’ve always been a deki sympathiser since i think he brings a lot to the team that we don’t have in that forward line (retaining and recycling possession mostly) even if his performances can be inconsistent. we did try the deki/madders experiment last season towards the end but it didn’t come off the way i wanted it to; i suspect bc deki was knackered and low on confidence and madders was coming back from injury. i rly liked it yesterday though! if you remember the beginning of last season we’d see madders drop as low as biss to receive the ball from the centrebacks and dictate play from deep. i have to rewatch the game in order to give any proper insight but going off memory alone we had madders dropping a little deeper and deki playing in a more advanced role (his fav role also) and pushing up onto the wing as well when necessary. i thought it worked quite well even if his cutbacks into the final third didn’t come off as well as he wanted to, but it’s preseason and the idea is there. it allows a bit more dynamism in midfield and a lot more attacking options as we saw for the first half goal (which was a pass from madders to deki at the edge of the box, backheel from deki back into madders and short cross into bren who scored). it’s not something i think we can equip against all pl teams especially if we have less possession of the ball but it’s a good option to have if we shore up defensively and are potentially chasing a goal or something. we def need reinforcements in the front line tho, a winger wouldn’t be bad 😭

you didn’t ask this but i thought i’d mention that the academy lads put in a proper shift! rly nice seeing them all gelling so quick (huge credit to wayne burnett and the rest of the academy coaches!). pretty much all of the kids had a good performance yesterday. ones for you to keep an eye on are tyrese hall, mikey moore, jamie donley, and will lankshear. there’s a few more but these are some of the ones i’ve been repping for a bit 🥰

[s4m-1s-l0st]

Don't get me wrong, I do see the positives in - for lack of a better word, - normalizing mental disorders. Although it does have its fair share of problems, which stem from the way the majority of media talks about it.

Example 1. Watered down autism being used as the punchline

This is clear in the way people talk about such topics, as if it's just a fun little adjective to make your remarks seem more quirky and relatable, saying things such as: "Why did [insert pronoun] do that, is/are [insert pronoun] acoustic?" (please note that the majority of people who say this say "it" as the pronoun they use to refer to the person who does something slightly weird/out of the norm, this is done intentionally, to subconsciously show the receiver of the message and the person saying this, that the person in question is less than them, so much so, that it's not even a person, it's an "it", which is used in a derogatory way. This further reinforces the narrative that autistic people are sub-human, and therefore should be shunned for the way they behave.)

Example 2. Watered down Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Another example is the "everything needs to be organized, omg I am so OCD!" which just completely undermines the stress that individuals with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder go through. Because it's not as simple as being a "clean-freak", or occasionally needing to double-check whether you turned the stove off. I'm sure that the folks with OCD wish it was as simple as that. But OCD comes with unwanted, intrusive thoughts, that cause a lot if distress to the individual. Which brings me to my third example:

Example 3. Intrusive or impulsive thoughts?

It has recently become popular to say something along the lines of "Intrusive thoughts won." when talking about getting your hair dyed or confessing a crush to someone. That is a common mistake, but the thoughts being demonstrated here are actually impulsive thoughts, since they don't bring distress to the person thinking them, and it's not affecting them negatively in their day-to-day life. Intrusive thoughts are more like unwanted thoughts of harming someone or yourself, racist thoughts, where your brain keeps thinking of a slur and you can't get it out of your head, it can be about distressing and disgusting topics such as incest, and if you're religious it can be thoughts of heresy. These are intrusive thoughts, as they cause great distress to the person forced to deal with them. IMPORTANT NOTE! People who struggle with intrusive thoughts are not inherently bad people because of them. These thoughts are unwanted and involuntary. Just because someone has these thoughts doesn't mean that they want to act on them, and that's what categorizes intrusive thoughts!

TL;DR stop watering down mental disorders, and learn the difference between impulsive thoughts, and intrusive thoughts. P. S having intrusive thoughts does NOT make you a bad person!

If you want to hear more of my opinion on this topic feel free to write a comment, or rb this :)

P. P. S i ain't reading allat again, so pls ignore any mistakes in grammar or punctuation because I'm tired as I wrote this rant really late, and I can't be bothered to proofread it.

[thommi-tomate]

Holger Badstuber column

Hello football fans!

The first title of the new season has already been awarded - and the winner is not FC Bayern München. In the 3-0 Super Cup defeat against RB Leipzig, everyone saw that FCB are still missing elements. It was not only a setback before the start of the Bundesliga next Friday, but an alarming setback.

When you concede such a clear defeat in your own stadium, you must - as bitter as this realization is for coach Thomas Tuchel - go back to the basics first. And that means: defend, defend, defend and all together! For a long time now, Bayern's defensive work has looked increasingly sloppy, not carried out with the utmost consistency, and even sloppy at times. That includes the whole team, everyone has to do their part! After a rather disappointing season, FC Bayern are under even more pressure.

That's why I would advise them not to set the treble as their goal for the season. Winning the Champions League would be free skating, the focus should be on domestic titles.

Harry Kane as FC Bayern's ace?

With Harry Kane, FC Bayern has a real asset. He is an asset for the Bundesliga, which has to fight against the reputation of becoming a training league for England and Spain - and of course for the club itself. An undisputed number nine like Kane has been missing since the departure of Robert Lewandowski.

There is no doubt about his quality. He knows how to set up, score goals, of course, and he will fit in well because he is world class. When I think that Bayern are going to pay Tottenham over €100 million for a 30-year-old, I can only shake my head, it's crazy, but when I look at the current transfer market, the sums have shot up all over the place.

Kane is now the big hit, the king of signings, and I am also convinced that it will pay off. However, I also raise my finger in warning, remind them of the vacuum after Lewy and call on those in charge not to let the opportunity slip this time to find a suitable successor in time. It must be ready in three to four years: preparatory work must begin now.

Defensive midfield needs strengthening

Kane is important, but the biggest construction site in the Bayern squad still exists. The width is definitely high quality. But: The six-man position in the defensive midfield is not defined clearly enough.

A true six-man is physically strong, tall, plays simply, wins duels, wins balls and is there when things are on fire. He takes "dirty" runs that others would be too shy for. I don't see Kimmich, Laimer, Goretzka or Gravenberch in this role. I'm thinking more of a player type like Casemiro, Rodri or a Busquets in top form. Or even someone like Javi Martinez in 2012/13 at Bayern. If this building site is not closed, there could be further problems. Even if Benjamin Pavard leaves or if there really is uncertainty at the goalkeeper position, reinforcements will be needed.

What I would also like to see in terms of commitment is that ALL the values that FC Bayern have always stood for with their irrepressible winning mentality are also lived with conviction, that they embody them outwardly.

That would not only increase the chances of winning titles, but would also have the nice side effect of making the whole club a little more united again.

With this in mind: See you soon!

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[aqua-soap]

I can make it until tomorrow. It will be fine. I will have help. I will not be alone. It will be over one day because I know I can get better. Pls don’t reblog, just posting this here because I’m in a desperate metal place right now and don’t want to share these thoughts on my main blog, but I want to put them out there to feel less alone.

[pocketsizedquasar-3]

i very much agree broadly with this post and its initial rbs (and have rb’d it before saying as much!), but i do (with respect) want to push back on the last point — namely the idea that TERFs, specifically, have as much vitriol to cis men as they do marginalized genders, esp trans women. one need only look at how many TERFs outspokenly and blatantly ally themselves with cis(white) men (particularly abusive, racist, and misogynist cis men) to see that this is often untrue.

Certainly, a TERF would never allow their perceived sanctity of women's bathrooms, sports, shelters etc. to be ~infiltrated~ by cis men (or trans women or etc etc). And some TERFs may proclaim a hatred of cis men. But materially, if you actually look at their behavior, many of them do not actually offer cis men anywhere NEAR the same level of violence, scrutiny, vitriol, etc. that they do to trans women, trans men, intersex people, women of color, and so on. there are countless examples of high profile TERFs like JKR and random non-celebrity white women alike deliberately and openly championing known cis men abusers and violent misogynists. They do not mobilize social and financial capital against cis men the way they do against, for example, trans and intersex women and WOC in women's sports, or trans men OR women in women's bathrooms, or the inclusion of transmascs in reproductive ("women's") healthcare, or at how “trans women are assaulting and raping” and “trans men are stealing and corrupting/mutilating” young girls/lesbians... etc. etc. They will cover up and excuse violent, homphobic, racist, predatory, etc. behavior from cis men while going out of their way to falsely plant it on everyone else. This all, of course, in the name of protecting "women" from "men."

this apparent contradiction comes from the fact that TERFs and TERF ideology claim to be anti-patriarchal but are in actuality active reinforcers of patriarchy (and therefore white supremacy, since these are inextricably linked). TERF ideology deliberately allies itself with white supremacist patriarchy, even if it pays lip service pretending otherwise. it deliberately, intentionally reinforces and upholds the power of cis white men. Obviously at the expense of everyone else. this is not actually a contradiction in their ideology, because their ideology isn't actually anti-patriarchy. any gender 'deviance' is therefore directly targeted by TERFs, because the existence of anyone outside white supremacist gender norms (anyone who isn't cis and white, though obviously to varying degrees) is a threat to the power structure that they exist to reinforce.

of course, this does not mean that TERFs, individually or generally, don't hate (cis) men broadly — many do, and i do think it is important to talk about — just that TERF ideology EXISTS, by design, to uphold and maintain whiteness, white supremacy, and patriarchy as a system, and the victims of it will therefore Primarily (and again to varying degrees) be those who threaten that power. And importantly, TERFs as a class (mostly cis white women) do not have the social position to actually oppress the cis (white) men they proclaim to hate. so they settle for easier targets, which Does include cis men who are marginalized in other ways, but materially often harms trans and intersex folks & Women of Color the easiest.

this might not always be conscious on TERFs’ parts (though for many ‘leaders’ of the TERF hate movement, it definitely is — these people are not subtle about their open and deliberate CHOICE of allyship with cis white male power). in some TERFs’ minds, their rhetoric by definition excludes (/hates/denigrates) cis men (and therefore IS important to discuss, as this post is!), but in practice, white cis men are tools of their actual tangible goals, and thus kept close & deliberately allied with to further their true goal of suppressing ‘deviants.’ Deviance of patriarchy (white supremacy) is chiefly what they target. They hate and harm trans women more than they hate cis men. They hate and harm trans men, trans people as a whole, intersex people, Black and brown ppl, far more than they do cis (white) men.

I do think it's important to acknowledge what TERF ideology is dedicated to upholding (white supremacist patriarchy) and what it's designed to protect (whiteness — therefore, cis people, mostly white cis people — including cis men). it is designed to protect the power of white supremacy, and therefore of white cis men and white cis women, over everyone else.

(again, i very much agree with the original post, and everything you said about how TERF and radfem ideology is fundamentally irredeemable and fundamentally incompatible with liberation, with a future, with actual progress for queer and trans ppl! just wanted to add a little to the discussion. i definitely do not intend to be rude or argumentative, just to discuss more! /gen)

*grabbing young queer people by the shoulders* listen to me. radical feminism is inherently transphobic. you cannot rehabilitate it or reclaim it or make it trans inclusive, I don't care what the people on twitter who claim to be authorities on queerness say. the foundation of radical feminism is nothing but bio and gender essentialism and biphobia and aphobia and anti-kink rhetoric and intersexism and yes, misogyny. it does not offer a future, not for bi people, aroace people, sex workers, not for kinksters, or intersex people, cis women, or trans people regardless of gender and you should care about those people. it will never result in queer liberation because it is an ideology of exclusion and hatred. you gain nothing by buying into the idea that half the population is evil by birth or by transition. you gain nothing by acting like women are perpetual victims who can't think for themselves and are tainted by their association with men. being a man or being attracted to them is not a sin. if we truly want to stand a chance of dismantling the patriarchy we actually NEED men on our side especially marginalized men. they are our allies.

the problem with terfs is not just transphobia, it never was, the radical feminism is also so unbelievably harmful. you cannot save it and it will not save you, stop drawing lines between queer people and join hands with them instead. remove people who are actually harmful, not innocent people who happen to have the wrong sexuality or gender or job. we get there together or we don't get there at all. we need each other now more than ever. do not listen to those who seek to divide us even if they are queer. we all deserve so much better than the hell radical feminism pretends is a liberated future.

I do not blame anyone who fell prey to this rhetoric, I know it feels good to have a common enemy and lash out at those you think are siding with them however they do it, but men, especially marginalized men, are not your enemies. and it's never too late to realize that and change for the better.

[staysuki]

Hello hi!! Your smaus are one of my favorites and I have a terrible habit of binging them and forgetting to react in a reblog BUT I did it this time with the latest hyunjin one so I’m v excited! I’m caught up and it’s all escalating as hyunjin gets deeper into his feelings but y/n is just kinda absorbing information…I saw that you’ve been feeling a bit down and unmotivated and I hope you’re taking any and all the rest you need!! It makes me so happy that writing makes you happy but also there’s no pressure to do something you don’t have any energy for. I’m with you when it comes to feeling down recently so rest up well and self indulge for your benefit. Thank you for writing as much as you do but also thanks for just creating fun original stories for us to read. Wishing you well!!

thank you sm for deciding to drop by! i always enjoy reading feedback so this is v v much appreciated ~ 🤍

hyunjin and y/n are def like magnets rn, except they're not opposites so they just deflect off of each other. i luv idiots to lovers 💓

and that's v v sweet! writing is def a way for me to destress, esp. when it gives me so much serotonin whenever i see asks and RBs so it's kinda like positive reinforcement u see. thank you again! 🫶 hope ur doing well too

[the-human-sharpie]

More ADHD Mondo headcanons from an ADHD person bc it’s fun

Anything lavender scented? Incredible

Part of the reason he doesn’t wear a helmet aside from the pompadour and the Tough Guy™️ act is that the texture on the inside of the helmet just Does Not Sit Right with him

Also the crunchy noises it makes against his hair (when it’s down ofc, I can’t fathom how you could fit the pompadour inside of the helmet) are Not It and can lead to him having a sensory overload (0/10, would not recommend having one)

He takes out some anger on chewelry bc sometimes you just need to bite something to relieve stress and emotions

He actually really likes the chewelry bc he thinks it looks kinda cool (I can’t find the image of that one diamond shaped pendant one— I’ll rb with it later if I happen to stumble across it— but yeah that’s the one)

May have briefly hyperfixated on pop culture from the 1950’s bc look at his hair it’s literally

Fun fact this particular style of pompadour was legitimately called an Elephant Trunk Pompadour

He listens to literally any music that plays

If he doesn’t like it, he’ll try to tune it out or just kinda scratch his head bc you know how it Makes A Good Noise yeah

So he doesn’t have to hear that music

If he likes the music he hears

It Is Going On Repeat

Poor guy probably represses stims in public or in general bc Tough Guy™️ act

Bc of emotional dysregulation, he got written up a lot as a little kid bc he had “violent outbursts” (@ hypothetical elementary school staff & teachers, literally that’s,, that’s a symptom of adhd maybe try positive reinforcement instead of You Are A Bad Child)

He!! Is!! So!! Smart!!

The school environment just isn’t providing the right stimuli and accommodations (yet👀)

Study buddies w Taka

His grades improved significantly bc he finally had a study partner who could explain the material in a manner that makes sense to his thought process

Feel free to add on if you’d like!! These were the only ones that I could put into words in a somewhat coherent manner:)

[youchangedme]

another PH transphobia thing was they made a super long personal post about how they experience misogyny BUT tied it into trans dean? and how like "femininity" is inherently good in a way that felt v tasteless when it was happening on yknow transmasc dean celebration night. and tagged a picture of dean in eyeliner with "now THIS is radical" as if to say like dean being a cis guy and/or amab person who Dresses Feminine is like radical and cool while dean being transmasc is like regressive or reinforcing masculinity. like very much vibes between the lines but a lot of stuff in context/as a reaction to trans guy dean night as it was happening just like very ugly and sets off my sensors as a transmasc person. and also weirdly holds up femininity and/or transfemininity as like Pure And Radical in a way that feels like it could spell over into fetishisation

didn't know all of this but not surprised. the fact that they felt the need to interject their own transphobic take when everyone was just having a good time already indicated what kind of person they were

and then to just suddenly rb a ton of trans dean content is so disingenuous like. you were just being transphobic, and now you're suddenly completely supportive of this headcanon (which you didn't need to comment on at all)?

everything they do to "apologize" is just a performative attempt to cover up the bad takes. like the post i screenshotted is still there but if you try to find it, it'll be buried under a bunch of trans-positive posts that they made after getting backlash

nobody forced them to accept the headcanon, they just did that bc they have no idea how to apologize for genuinely hurtful shit they post. which is usually an indication that the person apologizing isn't actually sorry and is only concerned with how it'll make them look

[heliianth]

i chose to comment on his golden retriever vibes instead of saying how his voice sounds in this one everyone thank me for being normal

what kind of energy did dream have in this vod like it was so ??? 

[holdmyhopeinyourhands]

If Messi Leaves Barca

There aren't many teams that will be able to afford him. If he does decide to go to the premier league for example, chelsea won't get him. They have already spent a lot on this transfer window. There is no way he goes to united (ronaldo's old club) it'll mess with his legacy. Arsenal can't afford him, same goes for Tottenham. Liverpool don't really need him, so City is his best option. With Pep there he might actually give it a shot.

For the Serie A I guess Inter would be the team to chose. But joining the team that is consistantly losing to juventus (even if Juventus has a bigger budget etc etc) will make fans underrate him and say Ronaldo kept beating him. Now you can say that Inter only lost to juve by one point this season, but this was both covid season and we all know that Juventus will reinforce their team this transfer window like they always do and since they are more well of than Inter.....

He could also come to psg (what a dream that would be) but again why would he. Sure we could use him, but currently Neymar is playing in that position and also we barely managed to escape ffp last time, getting messi would stop us from reinforcing the positions we desperately need. Like get an actual 6 for once! (Haven't REPLACED motta in 5 years) and find a great rb and a decent box to box midfield that can substitute and do the same work as Verratti. So I guess we are a no too.

So, City it is I guess. Unless Messi want to go to Bayern (don't need him) or Dortmund (can't afford him)

[thommi-tomate]

Holger Badstuber column

Hello, football fans!

It's time again for emotion, passion and enthusiasm. That is what I have always associated with the Bundesliga. As a professional with FC Bayern, FC Schalke 04 and VfB Stuttgart, it was a constant up and down for me, it never got boring.

Before the first matchday, the adrenaline was particularly high, with the hard weeks of preparation in my bones, the goals in my head and the will in my heart to show everyone. Even now, after ending my career as an active player, I can feel the tingle when it starts again, and I enjoy the speculation about the strength of the teams, the course of the season and the spectacle.

Will FC Bayern be champion again? The new Bundesliga season promises excitement in any case. Here are five theses:

Big showdown: championship decision only at the end

The thrill of the last matchday of last season showed that FC Bayern is no longer completely untouchable. Even the record champion will have to stretch to win the trophy again. This season, the title fight promises to be tough.

With Harry Kane, FC Bayern has brought a new goal machine into the team, but he alone will not be enough. The coordination within the team must first be found in order to use him properly. The competition could use this time to get used to the new player.

RB Leipzig is already pushing forward impatiently, showing itself tenacious and hungry for goals. The victory in the Supercup could be a harbinger of what awaits us: Bayern chasers on the march! Bayer Leverkusen, without the pressure of being favorites, enters with a strengthened squad (Granit Xhaka!) and the valuable input of coach Xabi Alonso. That has potential. Borussia Dortmund will also attack again, even though I tend to believe that they will neither finish first nor second.

FC Bayern: More than 25 goals conceded without new "six"

It's an old adage, but for me as a former defender it's like a mantra: defense wins titles. For a long time now, however, defensive work at FC Bayern has seemed neglected, even sloppy at times. That's where everyone in the team is called upon! There is also a major construction site in the squad with a missing "Holding Six". Someone is needed who is physically strong, tall, plays simply, wins duels and wins balls when things get dicey. Someone like Javí Martínez in 2013.

However, as it will be difficult to find a top-class player in this position, this weak point will continue to cause problems and thus goals conceded. The last time there were fewer than 25 goals conceded was in 2017 (22). However, the aspiration should go there, even if the championship title was always achieved in the end.

Union takes the next step

I've never made any secret of the fact that the "Eisernen"(Die eisernen/the iron ones/iron Union It is the nickname of the Union Berlin) fascinate me. Because the club combines many things for which I feel great sympathy: unity, humility, hard work and standing together for success. Everyone in the club supports the team - and they give it back on the pitch, whipped up by positive-minded fans who go all out. Union is a real unit.

Now they've made big moves in the transfer market, landing experienced players like Kevin Volland and Robin Gosens. These reinforcements could even help Union make a splash internationally. The club is on the upswing, which could carry it far up the Bundesliga as well. Establishing itself in the top third of the Bundesliga would be the next step in its development. The conditions for this could not be better.

Problem child "Effzeh" (Köln): relegation fight instead of midfield

Coach Steffen Baumgart is entering his third year at 1. FC Köln - so far, he has always managed to overcome periods of weakness with his intense style of play. However, high pressing, demanding duels and an extraordinary willingness to run take their toll. I see the danger of wear and tear, especially since the departure of Ellyes Skhiri to Frankfurt weighs heavily.

Thus, a year is shaping up in which power football may no longer be effectively implemented without the centerpiece. In addition, there are few new faces in the squad that could bring a breath of fresh air to the team. While the competition has upgraded in the transfer market, Cologne seems to have stagnated. If the Cologne coach does not consider a Plan B, the "Effzeh" will slip.

VfB Stuttgart remains a surprise package

What I experienced at VfB Stuttgart from 2017 to 2021 was like a roller coaster ride. It was wild, it went up and down. For me as a player, but above all for the club. Most recently, however, VfB Stuttgart finally looked solid again under Sebastian Hoeneß after turbulent years - with a stable axis and a clear concept. But now, with the departure of Wataru Endo, one of the mainstays of the team has been lost. If Dinos Mavropanos or Borna Sosa were to leave the club, that would be a fatal mistake.

With the transfer window about to close, it's hard for me to imagine that adequate replacements will be found quickly. With Endo, Mavropanos and Sosa, I would have predicted a stable season for VfB. So it will probably be rather tight again.

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[throughthewwods]

100 Days of Productivity

Day 29

✨Got my house functionally clean for the upcoming week.

Main victory was the kitchen, which was 😬

✍️ Added a bit to my drawing

📚 Wrote my biopsychosocial model reflection paper

🍪 Got my kid’s friend into Girl Scouts, so that’ll be fun for them to share

🐕 Bribed my dog with peanut butter to let me brush him

👩‍🔬 helped Kiddo with her dissolvable substances science experiment

Realized I need to work more with her on science lingo so it doesn’t become unintelligible, thus boring. You know, there’s this push to get girls into STEM, which feels like insincere social engineering when my daughter parrots she loves science like the public school nudges them to, but they kids aren’t being helped to truly understand ‘science’ as more than a catchphrase. My kid is lucky she has a parent who understands enough to fill in the gaps, but many don’t. I observe this weighing on her self esteem: to be conditioned to believe she likes a subject and have it integrated into her identity then one day feel like a deer in the headlights aware she doesn’t understand and if she likes science then why is she bad at it? I must be stupid compared to other girls” it’s frustrating because the truth is I don’t think my kid is destined to be a scientist. She’s a bubbly extrovert who I can only hope doesn’t become a cheerleader, but I don’t want her to integrate the false belief she’s ‘not smart enough’ to understand/enjoy scientific concepts all because she is unknowingly a part of a poorly executed social experiment.

Truly, my greatest accomplishment yesterday I was not eating my young heh.. 😬

so over this being sneaky/lying bs constantly stressing me out with new problems I have to solve.

Anyway....Saturday was mostly ok.

RB and I drew together for a bit while the kids gabbed giddily about Bob The Pig in their Mindcradt World they’d been diligently sculpting. Him beginning to sketch (his own inner work to sustain his creativity despite Covid malaise) inspired me to grab my own sketchbook. (An impulse to do the same for myself)  We’ve both been struggling with artists block all year, but the times we’ve drawn together make a subtle, dreamy quiet. I’m reminded of a course I took a few years ago that described the science behind ‘bringing the best out of each other’ via relationship congruence: how couples unconsciously influence each other, for better or worse; and that one reason studies find happy couples tend to be healthier and more successful than singles or unhappy couples is because their healthy habits/attitudes cue, enhance, and reinforce each other.

It was a positive afternoon for the kiddos also. I know RB gets anxious about his son’s autism string social challenges, but I think it’s good for the kids to learn how to navigate disagreements and if things went too far down a bad road there’s two reasonable adults to mediate in the room over. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Covid sucks for kids. I know my lil extrovert for sure misses peopling and I’m certain his son does also. If they have a good day, greet. If not, remember how important these social situations were for my little brother way back when he was cognitively learning socializing nuances. Coincidentally, my kiddo has had many differently abled people in her life, which has taught her to be pretty accepting, flexible, and compassionate. RB is still trying to work out that parenting balance of respecting and accommodating to your child’s special needs, but also letting them be a typical kid.I think over time RB is starting to relax though realizing we’re all a pretty good fit and everything will be just fine even if the kids bicker.

[melonishus]

What if..... Ruby and Blake swapped lives?

[Ruby sits in the library, reading “The Man with Two souls”, a strange feeling that something was wrong. She gets up and stumbles to  the bathroom to look at herself in the mirror, and see her Amber eyes]

Ruby - [sighs] My bows a little loose

[Ruby readjusts her bow, feeling her cat ears as she does]

[Ruby’s scroll rings. She looks down to see a message from her boyfriend Sun, her face growing warm even though she still had a concern that something was wrong]

................

Blake - [whines] STOP YELLING AT ME 

[Blake hides behind Yang to protect her from a glaring Weiss]

Weiss- Yang Xiao Long, don’t you protect her. She needs to do better in school

Yang- Yelling at her isn’t going to help. Blake does better with positive reinforcement

Weiss- She’s not a dog Yang

[Yang leads Blake to the bed]

Yang- Blake, you are a loved and valued member of this team, and we need to take action to make sure you can continue coming to school here

Blake- The materials so hard Yang, and Weiss doesn’t understand how I learn  =(

Yang- [sisterly hug, nuzzling Blake affectionately] Well I do baby sis, and I’ll make sure you’re ready for the next test

Blake- [whines] YAAAANG , you’re treating me like a baby again

Yang - That’s because you are. my adorable baby sister

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RB/BR AU 1

[itgirlgasly]

omg so pierre's engineer... first off it was his first year in f1 - and he gets the job as engineer for the new RB driver who had 2 big crashes preseason, isn't clicking with the car, and who is known to respond to positive reinforcement. if you watch drive to survive you see him take the piss out of pierre, roll his eyes at him when he radios, 'we can't keep doing this, push' on the radio when pierre is telling him about issues... while horner laughs with marko and says he could drive better ..

thank u sm!! but I have to laugh, I dont know shit about the career of a race engineer but.....why would u give such an important job to a new guy....and then not even match him up to a driver thats like..less dependent on his engineer.... Pierres season sure was damned from the start and Horner n Marko didn't even care LMAO. he really does need a positive environment to truly show his talent and im glad he found that in alpha tauri