#psnlt

[feminon]

When am I going to get a dreamwidth account together rather than festering in twitter ads. Need to curate my online journal that I talk to my friends thru

[oridikut]

Conservatives don't reblog my posts challenge

[tpera]

Life has come to a series of standstills at the moment but. I did have fun being Jadzia (as Miss Honey Bare) for a day

[pearlhar-blog]

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[feminon]

I'm not usually a hater but if I had an option to remove all polls from my dash I would

[feminon]

If you aren't willing to no-platform terfs (and this includes the insidious brand of transmisogyny and shittery i keep seeing on this site that jst refuses to call itself transexclusionary so it can still seem woke and get notes) then unfollow me I've had enough

[feminon]

Sometimes traumatized people express that they have qp attraction/desire a qp relationship because it's difficult to explain to people the reality of our needs and limitations as survivors of abuse/trauma especially if we are at an early/denial phase of our recovery. Telling someone "I would like a relationship that is not a 'serious' relationship" doesn't always cover that and often leaves us vulnerable, so yeah while qp as a term has some bad connotations in terms of the integrated slur+hetace people being freaks some do still have a use for it and it rly confuses me that its considered a term that just straightup shouldn't exist.

[feminon]

Can someone help me out...there's a historical lesbian blog I'm looking at but I can't tell if they're a terf but like. They most likely are I'm jst unsure

[feminon]

I keep getting msg notifications on tumblr mobile but then not seeing any, wtf

[feminon]

Having a rly hard anguished time with terfs today. Just another reminder that noplatforming them is the best defense, engaging them or reading their content or doing anything that gives them relevance will only upset and drain and hurt you.

[tpera]

Oh you ever see something so extremely bad

[feminon]

The irony of young terfs reblogging leslie feinberg pics is so fucking sad.

[feminon]

can someone explain to me why the......hivliving drama is funny to people. It doesnt seem funny to me at all

[feminon]

I'm trying to not get involved whenever people decide to completely denounce terminology associated with the ace community, because its too exhausting+upsetting for me as a traumatized exclusionist to argue that some times making words to describe commonly shared experiences is actually okay? Its okay folks sometimes people invent terms and not everyone gets it and that's okay.

[feminon]

Ok some thoughts bcz I've been mulling over this but its always difficult for me to put this shit into words

There are many things tht set off my alarm bells but the biggest is probably people trying to push for intimacy+commitment w people and then getting nasty+guilt tripping when told no, or when they aren't given the attention they feel they deserve irregardless of the needs of the person they're demanding it from. Its a big red flag, it tells me either "this person is inexperienced in close interpersonal relationships with differing people and expects their needs to be everyone else's needs" or "this person is wilfully/unconsciously abusive and manipulative and has learned that to get what they want from someone who doesn't want it, they have to make it their problem"

Living as a person of abusive parents that's the literal nightmare scenario! We're so likely to just roll over and accept that we owe anyone but ourself our undivided time and energy even if it harms us, or even if we're literally not capable of giving it. The punishment that comes from being imperfect or """selfish""" with our own time and selves is horrific to us so we put ourselves thru that hell for people who 5/10 have no real compassion for us and are driven entirely by their own need for validation and control.

And I hate how common/unquestioned these sorts of dynamics can be.

I have some hope, because I know I'm guilty of that mindframe - I know I've unlearned it to the degree where I don't freak out when people don't give me the time I am convinced I need, and I have had friends/ex-friends who have learned too. But equally I've known people who have been so far gone that they even manage to convince themselves that the person they're demanding so much of, who is incapable or unwilling, is actually the villain for witholding.

We talk alot about consent but it doesn't seem to have reached our casual/non-sexual circles, and we really need to be more aware of what we expect from people, from our friendships and our courtships and our partners.

[feminon]

im so b.....ored