#ps. i need the klaine wedding like right now

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so many things are happening in the second half of s5 ... i just need time to elaborate everything or else i may implode

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I’m so happy for Ricky and his family! If the tin hats really cared about being good allies, they’d spend their energy on celebrating people like Ricky, Chris, NPH, and Matt Bomer. Gay men who are showing the world how diverse, talented, and successful the LBGTQIA+ community can be. If you want to help the community, support and celebrate actual members of it. Volunteer with programs like Trevor. By all means, be a Darren fam, but don’t pretend that makes you an ally.

Ps, I’m the anon who just sent a message about the diversity in the community then realized I listed three white guys and one Latino man when obviously it’s much more diverse than that. I ran short on characters to type. But Toderick and Billy Porter and Laverne Cox and countless others also exist and they could support them as well. But they’d rather go on fetishizing STRAIGHT Darren with an actual gay man instead.

Yes, I cannot agree more.  It is incredulous that she believes that Darren and Chris would be a love to change the world but then refuses to actually look for real-world example of gay love who are already doing that. People can’t change the world because they love someone else of the same sex. Love doesn’t actually change the world contrary to what musicians have told us for decades.  Changing the world takes work- hard work-a lot of dialogue, a lot of putting oneself and one’s love out there. You have to be willing to share your story very openly but neither the Captain of the ship, Christopher Paul Colfer nor the spineless Twitt, Darren Everett Criss is comfortable doing that. Both men are very obviously in committed relationships but Darren rarely talks about Mia and certainly doesn’t post pics off her very often. He willingly shared the most impersonal wedding photos of the lot. He makes it look like he is more open than he is -he’s magic like that-but when you get down to it we know he is married to Mia and they have a piano bar but we don’t know all that much more-we get glimpses. Chris is way more protective of his personal life.  I cannot imagine either one of them is going to show their children in regular social media posts where they speak about their lives together.  

People who are changing the world one instagram post at a time are NPH & David Burtka or Nate Berkus & Jeremiah Brandt. Both couples share their families and their love on social media easily and regularly. Matt Dallas and his husband Blu and their child have a YouTube channel they made specially to change the world regarding gay marriage and families (I said this before but I Loved watching them until Blu admired he’s a huge conspiracy theory junkie-and mentioned 9/11- and I just couldn't respect him ever again).  Pete and Chastain Buttigieg have the potential to really change the world. Pete is talking to so many people as he campaigns. Just sharing his story will change minds but he’s also helping shape policy in South Bend and as his career goes on, he will have a bigger say in bigger areas of America.

Talking about the trans community- People like Laverne Cox are so damn brave. To stand up and be yourself with the world judging is difficult but to do so as a trans person right now is so so brave. Billy is changing gender norms every time he goes to a red carpet wearing the most fabulous gender-bending clothing as does Nico Tortorella, Jonathon VanNess, Johnny Weir, Valentina and Laganga Estranga. Trans actors are getting work-some playing trans characters like Jaime Clayton from Sens8, Lachlan Watson from Sabrina, and the amazing cast of Pose  and some it isn’t clear if it will ever be mentioned like Theo Germaine from The Politician. It takes people to be the first to walk the path and I’m in awe of their bravery- both in transitioning, pushing boundaries, and in living their lives in the public eye. 

The tinhatters are a group of mostly straight women- at least the leaders are- who are fantasizing that an openly straight man is gay.  It is really messed up and the farthest thing from what an ally does. Allies need to LISTEN to the LGBTQ community and support them as they want to be supported, not push our own fantasies and fetishes onto the community to fit our our needs. The tinhatters are obsessed with Chris and mostly Darren because they are safe gay men. They don’t “act” gay. Abby and her little nest of killer bees are disgusted by the LGBTQ people and the overt sexual innuendos they see at Tramp Stamp Granny’s-they write Lulu’s name as double toilet emoji’s, they are horrified by dripping vaginas of the burlesque dancers and they cannot stand the sexual puns. They like their gay sex to be tame and timid. Chris and Darren provide perfect scapegoats for their fantasy because Klaine were pretty tame- it was mostly hand holding and flirty looks, a touch of their fingers and walking hand-in-hand. But in real life both man keep their public behavior with their lovers to rated-G behavior. It not only helps the tinhatters with their fantasy-they don't have to erase Darren and Mia kissing all that often and they never have to do so with Chris and Will-but they also don’t have to face either man as sexual outside of their own fantasy.