#prolly should've clarified that

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for abandoning my party in the middle of a notoriously tough dungeon?

i (26m) was playing ffxiv and had just unlocked a new dungeon. all my friends were asleep and i was too excited to wait, so i decided to go against my social anxiety and run it with randos.

the scant handful times i'd run dungeons with randos before went great - earlier that day after another dungeon i'd even gotten player commendations from two of the players in a party i was healing for - so i was more or less confident this time would be fine as well.

boy oh boy was i wrong...

i got matched with three players we will simply call tank, healer, and dps (age and gender unknown for all three). i went in as a bard (all my other jobs were too underlevelled), filling the remaining dps role.

things went awry almost as soon as we set foot in that dungeon. i died in the first room to some enemies that aggro'd on me and ganged up on me. the rest of the party left the room pretty much immediately after all enemies were dead.

i politely asked to be resurrected, to which healer reluctantly complied. they told me to "just rez next time", which would've sent me to the beginning of the dungeon. in hindsight that would've prolly been fine since it was only the first room.

after i caught up to the others i once again got swarmed with monsters. this is gonna be a pattern if you couldn't tell. after i'd died to this pattern a couple times tank yelled at me for "constantly pulling everything ffs".

for those who don't know, tanks (at least in this game) have a special ability that basically acts as an aggro magnet. i have a strong suspicion tank wasn't using said ability considering how often i got swarmed, but we'll never know for sure.

now the mid boss was where it truly went to shit. no matter how much of a distance i kept from that damn thing, no matter how well i evaded its aoe attacks, i just kept dying over and over again. one time the rest of the party even got sent back somehow. i'm not sure how.

and why did i keep dying you may ask? because healer never healed me. not once after they resurrected me at the beginning did i notice my hp go up aside from when i used hi-potions or my one (1) healing spell, both of which have a very long cooldown. i think they were glued to tank the entire time, completely neglecting me and dps.

and yet, i was the one taking the blame for everything. for pulling the enemies tank should've pulled. for constantly dying, which i couldn't help because healer never once touched me after that first resurrection.

it was really starting to affect me so after i let my dead body be sent back to the beginning of the dungeon i finally put my foot down and left the dungeon. this disbanded the party, not only kicking everyone from the dungeon, but likely also penalizing all 4 of us because of my actions.

i will clarify that this wasn't just any old dungeon; it was aurum vale. it's a dungeon you need to be at least level 47 for. while i don't know much about it myself, judging by the way my friends talk about it the semi-universal verdict is that it sucks major balls. it' would's not be a fun dungeon to have to redo, that's for sure.

i was on the verge of tears for well over 30 minutes afterwards, both from the emotional afterquakes of fear and anger but also from the guilt of abandoning these people like that.

so, am i the asshole? am i too sensitive? should i just have sucked it up and kept going?

tldr; i felt like my party of randos were blaming me for being the weakest link while doing their own jobs poorly, and decided to prioritize my own feelings by leaving the dungeon, dissolving the party and forcing the others to start all over again

Oh no. Oh honey. I am so sorry Aurum Vale is just like that. I'm gonna put the poll here and some extra INFO/advice under a readmore because it's a bit long, but please read on before voting.

First: don't let leaving bother you too much, it didn't kick everyone from the dungeon, that's not how it works. If one person leaves, the queue just refills the party with a new person and the dungeon continues like normal, or everyone else now has the option to leave without penalty.

Aurum Vale's first room is a motherfucker--basically it's an older design with lots of wandering monsters, so on the first room especially you need to hug the left hand wall as tight as you can to aggro as little as possible. Let the tank go first and grab aggro on mobs. Don't pull for the tank, especially at this level range. Let them do their job. I can't say for sure whether they had their aggro-generating stance on, could go either way, but I can see why they got annoyed at someone pulling stuff they weren't ready for yet. While wall-to-wall pulling is pretty standard in this game, that's the tank's call to make, not the dps's--and some of these older dungeons with funky level syncing or enemy pacing make wall-to-walling more difficult and not for everyone.

(BTW, as an aside, tank stance works as a personal buff, not a magnet--they do still need to hit things to grab their aggro, sometimes more than once if someone else has already established on them. If they already have a pack they're working on and you grab something way on the other side of the room, you'll have to bring it over to them so they can take it off you!)

If you do die to mobs between bosses, sometimes the best thing to do is just release and respawn! If you get a rez, you'll have a debuff that makes you weaker for a while. Definitely if it's the very first room, releasing is the move most of the time.

As for dying to bosses: was it definitely the mid boss, the cyclops? Because the other two (the plant and the morbol) both have mechanics that make you take slow damage over time unless you eat a fruit to get rid of it. You want to eat a fruit every 2-3 stacks of the debuff that you get because that's where the damage starts to get more severe; before then, the healer can probably handle you.

Basically, it seems like this party mistook inexperience for malice and was rude to you in response. Not healing you, for example, is absolutely inexcusable. You did some things suboptimally that made the dungeon harder for the group, but honestly we were all there once, don't let it get to you too much. Try it again with your friends bearing the stuff I mentioned in mind, and it'll go much better! But as an aside it SUCKS to heal, if you have a more experienced friend you should let them handle it haha

[fenneladeline]

OOC: do you mean like message the account or send an ask or

//either works, sorry prolly should've clarified ^^;;

[artgurusauce]

Hahahaaaa we back at it again with another god damn AU Spreadsheet. Dw I’m not gonna throw dialogue on it this time I don’t need it lol. This took me like two days my hands and arms all hurt like really bad guys like seriously ;w; 

Btw yes I didn’t bother putting patterns on Hau’s shorts sue me

So then, been talking with my friend and dearly appreciated noodle @the-kawaiifan​ about headcanons and AUs and all that and I realized that somehow despite being a huge fan of the Gladion/Lycanroc PokeBurst I never thought of a Haudion AU as classic as this. It’s a tad inspired by Okami Kodomo no Ame to Yuki (AKA Wolf Children) since it’s one of my favorite anime movies. But it’s mostly one of those Beauty & The Beast motifs.

Context: Gladion and his sister Lillie are born with Pokethropy, specifically Lycanthropy inherited from their father who unfortunately passed away just a couple months after Lillie was born. Lusamine is hence a single human mother who obviously struggles to keep her children under wraps. Especially her rowdy son, Gladion.

1.) First Impressions

One day, tiny Gladion is bored and sick of being cooped up on the island and in the mansion. He sneaks aboard a cargo ship headed to Melemele and escapes into the woods. He spends all day playing and mucking about all into the night. Then, out of the blue, he encounters an odd boy with green hair and dark eyes. At first, Gladion is spooked by the sudden light in his face, until little Hau coaxes him and proves he's harmless by showing his flashlight and a backpack of food is all he has. The boys play together and get to talking. It seemed Gladion was not the only child to run away from home that night. Hau messed up, big time, and his grandpa got so scary and angry, and his mother seemed really disappointed in him. He had never made grandpa so mad before. So, he was sure that they didn't need him anymore since he was such a screw-up. Gladion tells him that his mother yells at him all the time for getting into trouble, and that sometimes the people you love get mad, but they never stop loving you. Of course, the boys are eventually found, separated, and talked to: Hau reassured by his mother and grandfather they still love him and aren't mad just as Gladion said, and Gladion scolded by his mother for dashing off and recklessly allowing someone to see him while he's "Wilding out".

2.) Fated Meeting

Fast forward to current day. Hau is out in the woods looking for something to do, he often comes there to hang out for some reason he can’t quite remember. That’s when he spots a rather familiar ahoge poking out of one of the bushes. Where has he seen something like that before? He approaches, calling out to them. Surely enough, he startles them and they turned around wide eyed and...with floppy ears? Suddenly the old forgotten memory from his childhood came rushing back to him. But before he could reconcile with his old friend, Gladion ran off in a fright. Hau pursues him of course, and eventually Gladion gives up and decides to take the aggressive approach. “Are you trying to make me kill you?” he snaps. At first Hau is nervous but it doesn’t take him long to figure out that Gladion is bluffing. Gladion grumbles grumpily, stating that Hau had interrupted his hunting. Hau decides to make up for it by giving him a bag of malasadas he had bought earlier that day for a snack. Gladion takes it, devouring it violently and making a complete mess. Maybe this boy wasn’t as annoying as he thought he was, humph.

3-4.) Sweet Spot

Hau found a particular "Sweet spot” for Gladion when they were younger, scratching behind his left ear. As a more grown teenager, this spot is highly sensitive and while at the very least it yields a constant thumping of one of his forelegs, it can also be a tingly sort of pleasurable sensation for him if done correctly. It also totally doesn’t turn him on during mating season >w>

5.) RockGlad and LycanGlad

Did a full body doodle of little RockGlad since he never went full feral when he was younger. However, as a teenager he is now fully capable of transforming completely into a Midnight Lycanroc. Of course he can still maintain a somewhat human form sometimes and be halfway through transformation, but it's rare for him to be fully feral. It's normally only triggered by extreme stress or emotional turmoil. However, he usually goes full feral on full moons (In this case he has no control over the transformation) or when it is time for him to hunt. When he transforms, it’s revealed the tears on his clothes are actual scars he’s gotten from being attacked in the wild. Also his piercings break off. I decided not to just go for a normal Lycanroc design and tie his clothes into it way more, which is why you can see his hoodie is actually also part of his fur. I didn’t have room for Lillie on this sheet, but she can transform into a Midday Lycanroc. Her transformation is also only triggered by emotional turmoil, but unlike Gladion, there is no forceful trigger. She appears to have more control over her Pokethropy than he does, which could be a result of her form or her reserved personality in general. Nobody knows since Lusamine doesn’t want to perform tests on her children and Mohn is no longer around to tell them.

6.) Perfect The Way You Are

Pretty much like my "You're beautiful" scene from my other AU but like a more Beauty And The Beast sort of aesthetic? Like obviously at one point or another Gladion has insecurities about how he's not normal and that he's a hideous beast. Why just look at him, he's practically a monster. But of course, Hau, being the sweet cinnamon bun that he is, says that's just not true and that Gladion is perfect the way he is. In fact, he'd say Gladion was just as beautiful when he's furry and feral as he is when he's not. He’s perfect just the way he is. Oh dear, why is Glad’s heart suddenly so fuzzy? ◕////◕

7.) Food Chain

So like, most of these doodles haven't really touched a more romantic aspect of the AU. Well this doodle right here is a scene I've played around with in my head for a hot minute. Gladion flees to the mountains of Lanakila to distance himself from Hau after accidentally hurting him in one of his feral states. Hau obviously goes after him and finds Gladion caught in a Pokemon trap that's snared his back foreleg. Hau frees him but is suddenly tackled by a Midday Lycanroc that proceeds to try to bite his face off. Gladion takes action immediately and defends his mate, standing off with the opposing Lycanroc in direct battle while Hau just sorta...panics over in the corner. Gladion is victorious but is horrifically wounded and utterly exhausted. As soon as it's over, he flops onto his side and passes out. Afterwards Hau brings him to the nearest shelter he can find in a small cabin and treats his wounds. When Gladion wakes up he's obviously still upset that Hau follow him. After all, he shouldn't follow Gladion into danger. "Then don't run into danger!" Hau yells, distressed and stubborn as ever. Gladion just can't help but be confused. Why is he doing this? It's just not logical to put himself at risk all the time just to be around Gladion. And of course, Hau confesses that he's in love with Gladion. Yet still the poor Wereroc is confused. How could Hau ever love a hideous beast like him? But Hau reminds him again, he's beautiful the way he is. What's some fangs and some fur matter when Gladion's kind and caring enough to save his life like that? Commence kissus and cuddling throughout the night with sweet whispers to do their best and not act recklessly.

Christ alive I’m tired. Btw not writing a full fanfic for this so don’t ask but y’all can take it and use it if you want. Altho I might make another one for Lillie if y’all really wanna see it .w.

[monkeying-around-sim]

Player anon here. I mean stuff like name, pronouns etc. Prolly should've clarified in the first ask i sent 😅.

I will try to put on some pronouns! I am still trying to get used to the program I am working with. I will try to make the dialogue as gender-neutral as possible when its in the demo stage

[pinkpruneclodwolf]

I Made An Overgeneralization on My Part!!!

I said revealing clothing but I should've clarified lorddd

I do not believe that boys (esp twst boys, nrc boys) look at a spaghetti strap or crop top and instantaneously cream like corn.

My view of revealing clothing has been skewed because when I was a preteen I got hit on because I wore a short skirt (outgrew it but still wore it) or shorts that hit my thighs (I'm more leg than human lmaooo)

But what constitutes for revealing to me is wearing a see through top and bra with a sari thrown haphazardly on to at least make it look remotely close to south asian culture.

Now that might seem revealing but I do have a lot of conditioning from childhood about being fast (if you're an afab black you know the term) and I caught sooo much flack for wearing shorts after a certain age.

And of course Scalding Sands is hot its where it got its name lol, so revealing clothing (over generalization) is prolly the norm.

I do think my idea of revealing clothing is very much rooted in trauma that I'm projecting into my lil stories so...

Yeahh,,,,

But I'm hoping to work through my issues and not project any toxic views onto anyone else

[queeranesearch]

Three things: 1)Any references to christianity and judaism is there just for cool effect. the studio themselves even admitted this. 2)You can thank the show's (original+eoe) depression spiral on the creator. the rebuild movies is him but on therapy. 3)Oh shit you haven't watched end of evangalion (eoe) yet? that's basically an alternate POV of episode 25 and 26 (if you know, you know. And no, those two episodes aren't because of budget constraints. plus they end up complimenting eoe anyway)

Ah yeah I prolly should've clarified more that the religious aspects are mostly there for the aesthetics. they certainly succeeded in making things look cool though! And YEAH I'm vaguely aware of that stuff! My friend who got me into NGE was telling me about how different Eoe is, and the rest of the rebuilds. I'm definitely gonna watch eoe soon, and I plan to watch the others as well, just bc I'm curious to see what they changed! Especially now with what you said with the creator being in a different frame of mind for eoe..I look forward to it.

[peakywitch]

why do you think black people need to be ok with other black people tolerating racism as long as it's a kink- esp when the conversation does not affect you? also have you considered that is a problem as well? people with trauma, unhealed trauma at that, not seeking ways to properly deal with i (ie therapy) turn to kinks and re-expose themselves to said trauma just because it gets them off? anyways that post was about and for black people and idk i believe it is 100% common sense to be outraged at nonblacks calling black people slurs in any context and you prolly should've stayed out of it. hope that clears up your confusions!

hi! okay, various things to address: (before diving deep, let me say, i am not rtrying to say your message is wrong, you are correct 100% and i am trying to explain this, i have also reached out to say sorry to the people that told me to "dunk my head in a bucket of acid" and other stuff, knowing i had upset them unkowingly.)

1) i was raised very open minded when it comes to sex and with the belief that "as long as there is consent, everything is fine", so this is why i am having issues understanding the problem when there is consent (it is not like you are going to be calling anyone that slur, just your partner in a private enviroment)

2) as i stated, i am caucasian and latin, i was born, raised and i live in buenos aires, so my knowledge on black people and african-american people is very poorly since it is not mostly my culture, and i was trying to learn more.

3) the conversation 100% doesnt affect me, you are RIGHT. I was in no way, shape or form defending this kink, i was being curious and came from a place of ignorance and doubt, and i wanted to ask in a post where black people were talking, instead of, you know, asking white 50yo men that never suffered racism.

4) in regards to this part: people with trauma, unhealed trauma at that, not seeking ways to properly deal with i (ie therapy) turn to kinks and re-expose themselves to said trauma just because it gets them off: people have various ways of dealing with trauma, and when you can't afford therapy,,, in my case, it becomes a diy time, so maybe some of them have the same experience!

5) anyways that post was about and for black people (again, i thought it would be the best place to ask, directly from the source and not go and ask a 50yo white man or my friends, who also never had a race issue) and idk i believe it is 100% common sense to be outraged at nonblacks calling black people slurs in any context and you prolly should've stayed out of it. (i despise racism, i do believe it is one of the worst crimes AND I WOULD NEVER DO IT, NOT EVEN ON A PRIVATE MOMENT WITH A PARTNER. But i wanted to know others opinion, because mine is "well, like,,, slavery was a big issue, so i would never in a million years even say it, as a joke, insult, or during sexs" but my opinion is coming from a caucasian and latin woman.)

just to clarify something: never have i ever used the english or spanish variation of the insult, and never will. not even if a partner asked me to. I am questioning why THE KINK would be a bad thing, i do not believe the practice to be okay.

again, this is me explaining why i did the post and saying sorry. i wanted to learn about history and how they deal with it, and what their opinions were. i was not trying to be disrespectful and was coming from a place of HONEST doubt. but my question still stands if any black user would like to explain it, because i am TRYING TO LEARN and educate myself in a history that is NOT mine. Truly sorry for upseting anyone, big love, stay safe everyone.

[sucuretcannelle]

Hey, back again to ask for a bnha matchup 😳

Also for context, prolly should've clarified, I don't get mad when people speak before me, I just will blurt something out and then apologize XD

Could I have a matchup for any Danganronpa game? I'm a 5'5 chubby female, with longish red hair, brown eyes, and freckles. Also an Aquarius and prefer dudes. I'm super awkward, and not the best when it comes to romance. With certain friends I like hugs and stuff, but with other friends I'm not. Since this is a romantic matchup, I'm going to assume I'd be close and comfy with them hugging me and stuff. So yeah, I'm affectionate with people I'm comfortable with, and, for example, if it's cold I'll just start pressing up against them.

I'm shy when it comes to meeting people, but chill with friends and immediate family.

May or may not be a pervert hehe

Love dark humor

I have a short temper, and actually am on medication, so that's chill I guess

I'm super insecure about everything, which has led to me kinda being a bully in my head, and sorta out loud when it comes to my immediate family. I feel bad, but it's a habit that I hope I can break.

I can be obsessive about my interests so yeah

Oh I'm also lazy and a bad procrastinator

I love animals, and have 3 dogs and 3 cats who I would actually die for. Though I do have a tendency to be a pretty lazy owner, which I feel bad for, and am going to attempt to get over. And be a, y'know, good owner. I'm really bad at describing myself, so yeah that exists I guess hahahha

Um, I'm also really bad at waiting my turn(primarily when it comes to talking) cuz I'm kinda impatient.

And I'm really bad about only talking about myself when it comes to conversations. Trying to get batter, and I think I have a little bit.

Ooh, I also like singing and writing, though I'm not very good. I'm pretty proud of me art skills though :)

I also like oversized hoodies, leggings, and slide on shoes :3

I'm just gonna assume that you just want a danganronpa matchup cuz I literally don't remember the last time I opened matchups

My top danganronpa match for you is Kokichi!

—To say that he cared about you at first was a stretch

—Cuz he really didn't

—But in the end, he's sees you more as a partner in crime

—He won't admit it, but he really does care about you by that point

—Or maybe he will mention it? Who knows?

—He's very clingy, so if you're near him, he will latch onto you

—since you like dark humor, you're in luck! Cuz that's a majority of the jokes he's gonna make

—He doesn't really know what to do about you being insecure

—So you know when you see someone aggressively compliment someone?

—Yeah that's what he does. He will sit down with you and aggressively compliment you cuz he doesn't know what to do

—He drags you around a lot so you don't have much of a chance to be lazy

—He's also really impatient, so it's just double trouble

—He also likes talking about himself a ton, but for you he just let's it happen