#pondering potats

[forjongseong]

You've pondered the meaning of life and then remembered we live on a floating rock in space and said it is what it is

IT IS WHAT IT IS

I really don't give a lot of thought like philosophy always amazes me but like at one point I gave up and thought like people are people and shit happens and players gonna play, haters gonna hate, potatoes gonna potate

so I just let it be

[omegawizardposting]

Woobat!

[omegawizardposting]

may i ask who lindsay ellis is and what happened to them?

Lindsay Ellis is who many may remember as “The Nostalgia Chick”. She got her big break on Doug Walker’s (“The Nostalgia Critic”) website before eventually moving on to do her own thing on YouTube. Younger people might not remember them, but a lot of folks around my age (mid to late twenties) grew up with their content.

In short, she’s a film major, video essayist, film analyst, etc. with a focus on feminism and other progressive topics such as representation, appropriation, and bigotry.

More under the cut.

She has also been relentlessly harassed since day one (1) of her Internet career, much of which stemmed from misogyny. She’s been threatened with violence, suicide baited, pretty much every terrible thing you can do or say to someone has been done or said to her. People really love to hate her.

Recently, she made a tweet comparing Raya and the Last Dragon to Avatar: the Last Airbender--a comparison that has been made hundreds of times by hundreds of people, which even the writers of Raya themselves have encouraged. It was a completely neutral statement, an observation that Raya follows a story structure that was popularized by AtLA (and it does). She was far from the first to point it out, but absolutely the first to receive backlash.

This backlash eventually culminated in her addressing the tweet on twitter, and then deleting her account due to the sheer amount of vitriol she’d had to endure. However, it wasn’t long before bad faith critics started compiling lists of every sin Lindsay had ever committed, and so she finally felt it was time to address all of them.

This, of course, resulted in a very long video. It was almost two hours in length, and I watched every second of it. She talks a lot about cancel culture; at this point, she’s earned that right. It got to a point where, in her video, she was forced to talk about her own rape and the rape of her then-roommate, both within the span of a single year, in order to explain why she had made “The Rape Rap”, a piece that was made as a form of coping over a decade ago and was never meant to be publicized.

(As usual, “woke” leftists don’t actually care about rape and abuse victims.)

Basically, she gave her detractors what they’d asked for. She addressed everything, she expressed regret for having made insensitive jokes or poorly phrased tweets in the past, but she refused to apologize to them. After what they’d done, I can’t help but agree with her stance; they didn’t deserve an apology, because their goal had never been to receive one, it had always been to hurt her.

Nowhere is this more apparent than on twitter, where the people who were once clamoring for an apology are now outright refusing to watch her video. If they watched it, they’d see that she does address every accusation, every nitpick, explains why she did or said those things, and expresses remorse for her actions when necessary.

She also felt obliged to talk about her own rape and the rape of--

You see? I’m getting emotional. As a victim of multiple forms of abuse across my lifetime, this part in particular enrages me. It makes me see red. It hits way too close to home, because I’ve had to do this so. many. times.

Anyway, Lindsay Ellis’ is a story of a generally well-meaning person making missteps and never being allowed to forget them. Like I said before, I don’t like Lindsay Ellis. I have my reasons for not liking her, which I will not discuss; answering this ask will have poked the hornet’s nest enough, I think.

What she’s been through, though, is horrible. It’s heinous, and no matter how much I like or dislike her, I genuinely wish the best for her. I also wish the best for the good faith critics who raised legitimate concerns, who Lindsay spoke fondly of during her video’s closing segment. It’s clear that she’s open to criticism, so long as it isn’t coupled with a desire to see her harmed.

[omegawizardposting]

Hey zach what’s the wildest ask you ever got

That’s a tough one, but outside of my friends and followers sending in memes, the first one that comes to mind is the time someone told me that the primary reason for trans men to transition is so that we can date women.

Literally, they told me that gay trans men didn’t exist, that I could be asexual at the most, and that if I wasn’t attracted to women, I wasn’t actually a trans man. Apparently their trans brother had taught them this. They sent multiple asks on the topic, which I responded to by basically repeating myself.

The asks are somewhere on this blog, but it was years ago, so I’m not sure if I could find them.

It was just such a bizarre take that it’s stuck with me.

[omegawizardposting]

Monsterfucker concept: a being that says “you mortals cannot comprehend my true form, it is so terrible that to lay eyes on it would drive you mad” but he’s only saying that because he has self image issues and you decide to help him work through them

I would kill and die for him.

[omegawizardposting]

Please take your anti-depressants if your doctor still wants you to. Going off meds seems like a really good idea at the time but the resulting comedown can be really bad. :(

If they said you can come off them, please ignore this lol

Oh no, oh my gosh, I didn’t mean to worry you! I’m taking them tonight, I just straight up FORGOT the past two nights! :’)

[omegawizardposting]

Sometimes the discourse about community gets to me and I sit here thinking “Not woke enough to be queer, too weird to be lgbtq+”

Honestly, I feel this on a spiritual level. I've never felt welcome in the online LGBT+ community due to being a "privileged" trans man, and I know I won't be welcome in the online queer community because I recognize and respect that queer is a slur and care about the people traumatized by its use. :')

[omegawizardposting]

sorry this is out of nowhere but i finished final fantasy 7 remake the other day and i just need someone to know that i have not been able to escape gay thoughts regarding barett wallace since then. beautiful hunk of a man

Me: *looks up Barrett Wallace*

Me: *nods in gay approval*

[omegawizardposting]

"I'm good at one video game and that's pokemon" how about you tell the class about how you restarted your copy of Omega Ruby SOLELY because you realized you caught the regi's in ultra balls?

THAT DOESN'T MEAN I COULDN'T KICK YOUR ASS IN A BATTLE, LEE, THAT'S JUST A E S T H E T I C !

(Also I wanted to play through ORAS again!)

[omegawizardposting]

i don’t know why you sent me this but god i am so glad you did

[omegawizardposting]

God mood I hate that depression gives you memory issues that make it possible to just forget to take your meds I once went 3 days and I was completely fucking feral

UGH YEAH I am honestly an actual fucking animal when I’m off my meds I have no control over anything

[omegawizardposting]

What the heck is a TIF?

God, I wish I was you.

TERFs call trans men “trans-identified females” to get out of calling us, y’know, men. Trans women are “trans-identified males”. It’s absolutely bonkers, and I’m angry that I know any of this.

[omegawizardposting]

Every one of those people just be ignoring how baby Via only had drawings of her and stolas and how Stella didn't say anything to Via when she came into the kitchen in ep 2. Also ignoring that Stolas acknowledged he was wrong at the end of ep 2 and he and Via were on better terms??? Also the original concept art for the end scene of ep 5 showed Via and Stolas sitting on the opposite end of the table so I think the crew is uh... TRYING to show that just because Via has a strained (but lovable) relationship with Stolas that doesn't automatically mean she has a better one with Stella

I’m sure Via loves both her mother and father, but you’re absolutely right. Stolas has been her only source of parental affection for most (if not all) of her life.

Meanwhile, as far as we know, Stella has always been distant at best, outright neglectful at worst. I get the feeling that this was the case even before Via was born. In E2, Stolas starts to say, “We weren’t [something],” before cutting himself off. The logical conclusion, given the context of the conversation, is “in love”.

If Stella married him out of convenience or if the marriage was arranged, then having a child with him almost certainly wasn’t high on her bucket list. (Or Stolas’.)

I do hope we get to explore Via’s relationship with Stella in a future episode, but I get the feeling it won’t be nearly as heartwarming as E2. It could be a set-up for some interesting character development though.

[omegawizardposting]

Not gonna lie your post made me wish Twilight was an horror series instead, it sounds very promising

I wish so much that Twilight had been created by someone with the skill (and desire) to expand upon its universe in a satisfying way.

In the movies, we get a glimpse of what that could have entailed. Some of the actors, those playing the Volturi in particular, are very good at selling the inhuman aspect of vampires. They’re cold, calculating, and they view humans strictly as prey. They lean heavily into their natural instincts, unbound by the morals the Cullen’s live by, but guard the existence of their kind fiercely.

In the books, from what I remember from my high school days, Stephanie Meyer doesn’t quite manage to hit the mark. We know that the Volturi conduct themselves in a certain manner, but she never drives home their otherness in a way that I find at all impactful. There isn’t enough of a focus on the darker aspects of vampires’ natures as apex predators, because the main vampires of the story are “vegetarians” whose struggles with their instincts are brief and fairly shallow.

That was the story Stephanie Meyer wanted to tell, so unfortunately, we’re left with bits and pieces of a series that could have been taken in a radically different, and ultimately more interesting direction.

[omegawizardposting]

Did something happen with trans people in Texas?

Yes.

I weep for trans kids all across the nation, but especially here in the south, where their treatment and rights (and adults’ as well) are in constant jeopardy. Hopefully this bill, like others, will NOT pass through the House.

Keep us in your thoughts, everyone. We’ll fight this like we’ve fought everything else. Trans kids, we’ve got your backs.

[omegawizardposting]

i am sorry if this is a deeply personal question, and obviously, feel free to delete it. but i was wondering if you have any insights for a trans person with virtual (roleplay-related) sexual trauma. are there ways to observe oneself to make sure that one's dysphoria is legitimate, and not just a coping mechanism for such issues?

I’m not entirely certain. Even cis people can have complicated relationships with their gender, sometimes taking on the form of perceived sex/gender dysphoria or incongruence, so what I would suggest is talking to a professional. They may be able to help you sort through these feelings and figure out where they stem from.

If talking to a professional isn’t an option, you might start by examining your feelings toward your gender before your trauma took place. If that disconnect existed before you were traumatized, you can pretty safely say it isn’t the trauma. If they only manifested after, well, you could still be trans, but mulling things over couldn’t hurt.

Remember, there’s no rush. Take as long as you need to figure everything out. What you’re going through is hard on the mind and spirit, so don’t agonize over it. Give yourself room to breathe as you explore.

I’m sorry I couldn’t be of any more help, but I hope you’re able to come to a satisfying conclusion. Your happiness is the most important thing.