#pompettespeaks

[pompettepink]

literally in love with u and @lovesickbrat accounts. I’m so glad I found u two because most of the coquette accounts on here just post thin white cis girls and at the worst will be actively racist, transphobic, misogynistic, and more. Your account is a blessing to the coquette community <3

-sincerely, a pakistani girlie <33

Before I officially made this account I was a community lurker

I really loved what the aesthetic represented. "Reclaiming girlhood". Such a simple yet meaningful concept!

I got VERY lucky to have found accounts like @coquette-club @pinktrailerprincess @iridescentdarliing and @yayodolls that showed a GENUINE coquette lifestyle and representation. If I had just looked at whatever was on Tumblrs top page (or even worse, got my info from Tiktok) I would have absolutely fell victim to the belief that thin, white, cis, trad girls are the face of community and I would have checked out ages ago.

Representation not only matters, it's authentic!

[pompettepink]

Hey guys! I’m slowly starting to incorporate coquette styles, but how do I explain that to my mom? Coquette has different substyles, and I don’t want to confuse her!

How to explain coquette ⁽⁠⁽♡⁾⁠⁾

Pretty much everyone has a general understanding of the word coquette. It isn't in most people lexicons but people HAVE heard of the word before. Most people associate coquette with flirtatious girlishness, but that definition really doesn't mesh with the fashion. So the best way to explain the fashion to someone who isn't very knowledgeable about it is ACTUALLY to start in the middle.

When discussing the fashion it helps to start by defining what coquette means to the community rather than discussing what it means according to Webster's dictionary. Coquette is a reclamation of girlhood with members basing their aesthetic on what their girlhood is/was to them. It is NOT a community full of people trying to agebait, age regress, or cosplay as children. Even if some members do age regress, bait, or dress in children's clothes that is NOT the standard or the end goal for the community. Being coquette is a much more personal experience and our clothing and aesthetic incorporate a broad reflection of the concept of girlhood while also pulling the unique experiences of community members. It can be a little hard to explain the concept to people but if you know the person well enough you can use their life as an example (like telling your mom she can wear general 80s inspired fashion AND also replicate outfits that she use to love wearing or wish she could have worn as a kid) OR you can give a more open example like a dessert table that's filled with desserts everyone will love AND also features desserts you use to love as a kid alongside family recipes.

When you feel like the person has a pretty good understanding of what it means to be a coquette then you can dive into the subsets. Not everyone is aware that fashions can have different branches to them so defining what a subset is will be your base in defining what coquette subsets are. Use an aesthetic that the person you are talking to is aware of then expand on it. For example, everyone is aware of what a blue collar job is compared to a white collar job, with one being more manual labor that often requires a uniform and the other is more stationary and often requires a business attire. You can get into further detail and discuss the different types of business attire out there, like business casual, business formal, smart causal, black tie, preppy, techie, sporty chic etc etc. Give a general understanding of what it means to dress "business" then explain the differences between each business category and explain how they tie back into the general business aesthetic. After that then you can explain the different types of coquette subsets and how they exist as their own concept but still have the foundation of coquette fashion.

Finally end by going to the beginning. After you've discussed the coquette aesthetic, community, and subsets with the person you can circle back to it's history. Explain why coquette is even a thing. Talk about it's evolution. Discuss prominent members and celebrity inspirations. You might even feel comfortable enough to discuss Vladimir Nabokov's literature, Lana Del Rey's discography, and toxic traits such as smoking, drinking, materialism, and body image issues. That way, even if people are shocked over the smaller problematic parts of the community, they would have already had a positive opinion of the aesthetic after your initial clarifications.

As a side note, leave lots and lots of room for a two sided conversation. If the person has any questions be very open to answering them. If you see that they're deep in thought ask if there's something they're confused about. If they have a criticism don't be offended! Use that as an opportunity to educate, or maybe even concede to less savory parts of coquette spaces. HAVE EXAMPLES ON HAND! If you wanna talk about the subsets be ready to SHOW THEM. Pull up your phone's camera roll. Take them to the search bar and invite them to scroll thru on their own. Have resources from YouTube, Pinterest, Tumblr, Wikipedia and Google on hand. And encourage independent research. Confusion can't always be helped, but you CAN help guide people through the topic of coquette by informing them on what you know and ALSO what you believe ❤️

[pompettepink]

I’m guilty of shopping at shein (i don’t anymore, educated now thankfully) and i don’t want to donate because it’s such bad quality, so I found that upholstering and reusing fabric helps (not all the time unfortunately, due to quality again)

THIS!!

Being a former Shein buyer is actually a good thing, it's the Shein lackey's who act like they're on the company payroll that fuck things up for the rest of us, ecologically and economically.

It's all the same cami's, crop tops, and club wear that end up getting bought and dumped because the wearer gets bored and wants to move on to the next thing to stay ~trendy~

Personally I don't have a single seamstress bone in my body and zero knowledge of handling a needle and thread, HOWEVER, when I got this message I started doing some research on no sew upcycling and there are actually quite a few options for beginners using fabric glue!

There are also lots of craft projects people can do with random fabric scraps

Seeing all that Shein on the racks has really kept me focused on what I do like, what I don't like, and now I wanna do more to keep that stuff from wasting space that could be used for clothes or quality!

[pompettepink]

☆ Put this star into the inbox of your favorite blogs. It's time to spread positivity!

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! ૮꒰ ˶• ༝ •˶꒱ა

[pompettepink]

Would you say that coquette is one aesthetic? I would say that it’s an aesthetic with many subtypes!

Oh absolutely!

Coquette itself is just about girlhood and it manifests itself in many different ways!

There's substyles such as Americana, mystical, dollette, grunge/dark, farmers daughter/trailer park princess, key west kitten, bubblegum, plus a few micro labels scattered here and there.

This leads to a bit of discourse in the comm, but as long as people are able to recognize that their are different interpretations outside of "lace top, pink skirt, dior perfume" that's all that matters tbh

[pompettepink]

i need u to know that i typed ur username in the wrong way round just now, and i physically gasped bc i thought ur blog was gone

I ain't going anywhere!! If my account is gone trust and believe I was banned becuz I have no plans on quitting 😤

[pompettepink]

What is your favorite aesthetic besides coquette?

Definitely gyaru!!

I really like how, just like coquette, it's about establishing your girlhood in a way that's very authentic to you.

They both have a foundation based on decades old aesthetic (with coquette being based on nymphet from the 1997 Lolita film and gyaru being based on rebellious japanese school girls in the 1990's) and they both have lots of cute subsets to choose from. I LOVE when a fashion aesthetic has a lot of variety!

I also really sympathize with the bad rep gyaru girls get. While coquettes get accused to romanticizing pedophilia, eating disorders, and reckless spending, gyaru's get accused of prostitution, outlandish behavior, and being materialistic. (That just goes to show that no matter where you are in the world girls can't do shit without getting criticized!!)

[pompettepink]

omg ur pfp is everskies

It is!!

But my everskies profile is VERY boring becuz I'm not a serious player

Here are some of my girls

[pompettepink]

So that magazine post. I did not view the whole thing and wish I had 😑 who even publishes magazines like that? Coquette should be for all of us, or none of us...

I do the magazine edits for fun and it's honestly so sick to see ppl like that "white goddess" girl hype up my edits, especially when I make it a goal to be racially diverse

The fact that she cherry picked one edit I did out of my other poc edits just to post on her, I don't even know what to call it, "Aryan coquette blog" is beyond bizarre to me

Lil miss No Race Mixing caught a block real quick for that ✌🏽

[pompettepink]

Ahhh can I be in one of the coquette magazine mock-up editions please 🥹🥹

Yes!

To make my magazine edits I just go into the coquette/faunlet tag, look for anyone who posted a selfie, make a theme to go with it, and edit it all together to make a cover. But if you would like to volunteer your pic instead of me hunting it down just message me a selfie or two and I'll make an edit for you

[pompettepink]

hi, idk if you have made the magazine covers into full magazines yet. But I would be so down to help make them into full ones we could give digitally. That would be so fun <3.

Thanks for the message! Sorry it was so late, it was buried very deep in my notes ｡⁠:ﾟ⁠(⁠;⁠´-`⁠;⁠)ﾟ⁠:⁠｡

A few people have expressed interest in writing for my magazine mockup, but it would definitely take a few people to work on it and lots of man hours. My job has been hectic because we don't have a lot of workers so I don't have too much extra time to devote to any sort of creative endeavor that requires a timeline, but if that ever changes I'll keep everyone posted!!

[pompettepink]

Hi!!!! I saw the mood board you deleted but I actually had a reblog of it as a draft that I forgot to post so I just wanted to give it back to you if you wanted to repost it because It was so cute and the screenshot really does it no justice.

YOU'RE AN ANGEL SENT TO ME BY GOD HERSELF!!!!

[pompettepink]

what’s ur favorite lana del rey album? Mine is chemtrails over the country club and aka lizzy grant lolol

Ugh it's soooooo hard to choose!! I'm basic so I really love Born to Die but I also adore Ultraviolence and Norman Fucking Rockwell CARRIED me thought some rough times, but gun to my head I'd have to say Born to Die. It's just too iconic Lana and very nostalgic for me!!

[pompettepink]

I love you sm 🥺🥺🩷🩷

You're welcome!!

I really can't stand the double standards people have, and to do it on anon as if anyone will take you seriously? I have to laugh!

Love your content. Keep doing you!!

[pompettepink]

thank you so much for rebloging my post je’ tamie muah muah muah 💕🍦

Thank you for running an amazing account!!

[pompettepink]

Send this to ten other bloggers that you think are wonderful. Keep the game going, make someone smile!!! <333

No stop!! You think my blog is wonderful!? No you!!!!