#plus deposit plus 1st rent

[halfmoon-horse]

I'm getting 3 of my 5 hundred quid deposit back, the rest is used on "cleaning". Honestly? Not worth arguing over it.

This is your daily reminder that renting is a scam but what choice do we have?

[megacosms]

  Hello there, this isn’t something I like to do at all but I don’t know where else to turn or what else to do. The person I’ve been living with has decided to move out of the apartment I’m in on July 1st and I’m choosing to stay and have an agreement with the landlord to sign a new lease. He will be charging me a security deposit just to stay in the same apartment I’ve been living in for almost 20 years now with no problems (which is messed up but I don’t really want to make it into a thing) so I will have to pay $1300 for rent plus $325 extra every month for 4 months for the security deposit. The $1300 rent I could swing (with difficulty) but adding the extra $325 for the first 4 months is too much for me and I don’t think I will be able to afford it, which is why I’m making this post. If anyone can afford to help me with anything at all I will leave my paypal below. I’m trying to raise $325 to cover the security deposit payment for July. I know times are tough for everyone so I appreciate any and all help. I just don’t know what else to do. I’m trying to be happy about this person leaving the apartment because they’ve been putting me through endless mental and emotional abuse for a long time but the stress of not knowing if I will be able to afford to continue renting this apartment is really taking a toll on me. So if anyone can help me with anything at all it would be lifesaving. Thank you so much!

Here is my paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/DanielCoelho

Once again thank you to anyone who can donate to help me.

And please share this so it can reach anyone who might be able to help. Thank you so much! Much love <3

[gutwrenchflowerbomb]

This post is just me sort of rambling about the thoughts surrounding my new job so feel free to scroll past.

New workspace. This machine was installed a few weeks ago and a few of use were trained in it but I am the primary operator. They haven’t installed my work table yet so I’ve been using that cart. I’m two months into the drastic change in careers and it’s been strange - not just the obvious difference in what I’m actually doing but the shift as well. I don’t have weird start and ends times that change daily. But my set shift begins at 5am, meaning that I’m waking up at 3:30am. That’s the middle of the witching hour. I keep expecting to sit up and see some kind of demon ghost thing looking shocked like “the fuck you doing awake?”

But I’m less stressed, I think. I miss my clients dearly but now I no longer have to be responsible for the lives of 12 people. I can actually focus on myself. And the fact that I can do this job while wearing headphones has allowed me to catch up on podcasts and shit I’d long abandoned due to lack of time/energy. I’ve even made it a goal to listen to at least one new album a day from an artist I like but only know a song or two. I have 10 hours a day to fill so it’s not that hard to do. (I’m open to suggestions btw so if you have a fav band/album you think more people should hear, let me know! I don’t really *hate* any genre, except 90% of the new bro country shit)

My medical insurance kicks in on July 1st, so I can finally go to the doctor and dentist. They’ve had some overtime available that I’ve taken advantage of, and will continue to do so as long as it’s there. Mostly because I need all the money I can get and also - I don’t mind the work. It feels good to be physically doing stuff. I’m not like, building houses or anything but there I’m for sure getting more movement than I was previously. The ONLY downside so far of this job is that it’s very hard to regulate the temperature. I’ve had to buy my own fan to bring in and honestly I’m about to get a second one so I can have it blowing on my from both sides. Ya girl STAYS hot.

I’ve been staying with my mom and it’s been rough. We don’t have the most loving relationship, she gets on my goddamn nerves but I try not to get to frustrated with her because it will only make things worse. Maybe one day I’ll write some essays about it, as my upbringing with her was anything but “normal” but I digress.

The most challenging thing has been the lack of *silence* in the house. Before, I had my roommates. Ut they were hardly home when I was and then they had their room upstairs. We never really got in each others space. Here, that’s not possible. I’m literally sleeping on a twin bed that’s been set up in the dining room since it’s a tiny 750sq ft one bedroom house. And my mom nor Mo work, so they NEVER LEAVE. And neither of them have much variety in the food they eat so I’ve had to adapt to eating much of the same bland poor southern shit I grew up with. Which is good occasionally but man. I can’t wait to have my own kitchen again and cook some Indian food. Or Mediterranean.

My goal is to have my own place by the first of August. Thats plenty of time to have the money for the first few months plus deposit. The biggest issue is not knowing what’s gonna be on the market. Rent, while not nearly as high as places like Chicago and Austin and huge cities like that, it’s still unreasonable for a single income person. Especially when that income is just under 40k a year, pre tax.

Anyway, my hope is that once I get moved into my own place I can finally have the energy and focus to do more creative shit. I have TONS of ideas written down but with no space to do any of them, it’s been depressing. I’ve got buttons and magnets and silly shit all in my big ass head. And not all of it is wrestling related.

Alright I’m gonna stop now. But yeah if anyone read all this I apologize haha. It’s not my usual shit of making jokes about AEW and posting too many pics of Chuck Taylor and Orange Cassidy.

[romance-incubomp3]

no smoking no pets no parties. $1500/Month 1bed1bath. no pets. pets on approval (that’s special code for no pets). asking $2000/Month Studio apt (1 bath). no w/d in unit. no private bath. no pets. $2500/Month 2bed1bath. no pets allowed. no smoking. $2000 a month, asking for 1st and last month of rent plus $500 security deposit. pets allowed with extra $100 a month. doesn’t include utilities. $1300 a month with utilities. tenant pays for electricity. no pets. no pets allowed. one pet allowed (on approval). $2200/Month for this beautiful 1bed1bath. No pets. Will leave you on read if I don’t like your vibes. No pets allowed.

[speechlessxx]

my move has been so stressful that I must rant.

I mean please read if y’all have some advice

I highlighted all my issues.

To preface this, I moved bc I got a job in my dream city. But rent is so expensive there, I got an apartment in a city near it.

I chose an older apartment complex bc the apartment itself was really nice but the outside is old af. And it’s near a lot of areas

I also chose it bc the leasing agent was Filipino and clicked with me and my folks (bc we’re Filipino duh) & even waived fees for us. He’s important to this story

Mind you i apartment hunted in March because it was spring break and the only time we could fly out.

Most complexes actually turned us away bc I planned to move in July so it’s a liability for them to promise me an apartment and have it be vacant for months (aka not making money)

From March all the way to end of June, I was in contact with this Filipino leasing agent. He made several promises to me and my parents: apartment will be renovated to have wooden floors, it has a microwave installed, it’s near the exit (bc i have a dog).

I called 2 days before I left TX (June 26 AND 27) to ensure that the apartment was ready

Filipino man swore up and down everything was ready to be moved in.

My family and I drove from TX to location (appx. 22 hr drive) with a reactive dog. We traveled for 3 days.

Only to find out Filipino man does not work there any more.

Filipino man did not finish my move in paperwork despite promising me a move in date AND me signing all kinds of paperwork and sending deposits etc.

On top of that, the apartment he swore was mine and was signed to me wasnt even ready to be moved in to.

His replacement had been working there for 3 days and didn’t know shit on what to do. She tried to turn us away but my parents stood up for me while I had a mental breakdown (bc I was arguing with her for 1 hour)

They eventually got the apartment “move-in-able”

Guys. This place is literally falling apart.

I’ve lived here 2 days (moved in July 1st), the shower doesn’t work, the dryer isn’t working, the lightbulb in bedroom is dead, the bathtub/shower is clogged.

To add onto Filipino man’s web of lies, nothing he promised was fulfilled. This place is carpeted, there’s no microwave. It is at the end of a long & dark hallway. I have to pass through 10 apartments plus the lobby to get outside.

On top of that, the aforementioned reactive dog is struggling with the move. Since the family spent 3 days on the road right by each other’s sides sleeping in motels together, etc.

he’s developed really bad separation anxiety to the point that we can’t leave him by himself because he will cry and bark and whine (which he never did before since he was kennel trained). And I’m afraid that they’ll kick us out 😭

Y’all I am so stressed beyond belief. But I’ve signed a lease now and I’ve paid HELLA MONEY to be here now.

I am stuck and depressed all over again.

[meme-loving-stuck]

we just toured a place that was asking $1750/month (not terrible considering it was a small house and not an apartment, in a really good location) but also a 1750 security deposit.... which is steep for a deposit, it's first months rent, but again also not uncommon.

they were nervous about our wages, and apparently good credit history and a year of renting at an established apartment, PLUS the income & background check wasnt enough. they asked 2k for security deposit and theyll take it off the market as soon as we sign. i texted her this morning to let her know we cant just throw down 2k for a place that isnt even vacant yet, i have a weird feeling about it, but thanked her for considering us

.... she just called and said $500 for a deposit would be fine if we sign this week, just pay the remaining + first months rent when we move in on the 1st.

sometimes, it is worth it to communicate and be polite even if you think youre getting played. (we're considering this new offer)

[strongitsalifestyle]

21 Day Europe Adventure September 2023

Part 1 Getting there and pickup our rental was an adventure itself!

Once we got to our hotel it definitely got a lot easier with only a feel bumps, but it can’t be an adventure without those! We figure it out and we learned so much!

On 9/1 we took a 7pm Aer lingus direct flight from JFK to fly directly to Dublin Ireland. With a 8 yo I thought I would give a night time flight to try sleeping on the plane so we could gain an extra day of site seeing.

The plan was to get to the airport early so we didn’t have to rush, but we got there too early and had to wait an hour before checking in our bags in and able to go thru security. Once we go thru security we where able to get dinner inside. I wanted to make sure my son was full before we boarded the plane. We grab burgers and bought water. I packed empty water bottles which I was able to keep our cool. I wanted to have water during our flight and when we arrived incase my son was thirsty. Once we boarded the plane we did receive dinner around 9pm then we attempted to go to sleep but due to so many babies crying we were unable to sleep. never been on a flight with babies that just kept crying before so I was not excepting this. Lesson learned! My son manage to sleep for 3 hours, he was so happy playing with the plane’s features it kept him very entertained with games and movies. However I did download lots of shows and movies on Disney plus and Netflix’s on his iPad as a backup. He did not even asked for his iPad which was a plus during the flight!

When arrived the next morning ( 8 hours ) it was 8am in Ireland but 4am in est time zone. We went directly to the car rentals in the airport assuming that our rental would be there. To my surprise it wasn’t. I was able to get wifi and get into my emails where I read the instructions from the rental. It instructed us to go to terminal 1 shuttle area and to call when we arrived so that a shuttle would pick us up. Since I could only use my data with my esim I purchase online via Airalo I could not make calls. I tried using my google voice but since it was not a US number I could not call the number. I had to ask one of the airport works to call for us, which they did and we were able to let them know we where waiting.

Once our shuttle came were where taken 5 mins away to a rental location where we waited to pay the balance our our rental. I was sure that our rental came with insurance but it didn’t. We were given a choice to leave a credit card with a 1,000 euros block or to add insurance for 500 euros. Since this was my first time driving on the left side we opt for the 500 euro option so we would be covered. Luckily we did not have any accidents just a few scares along the way 😀.

Here’s what the rental cost 10 days 9/2-9/11

$787 deposit( $164.47 ) plus insurance $651 total $1438

Once everything was paid for we were given a car similar to the suv all wheel drive that I requested online. The car was not clean properly, we requested them to clean it. As we where waiting we found out that the apple play was not working properly so we had to wait for a different car. After 3 hours they where able to get us a car with a working gps, which I’m not a fan off but it would be good for a backup Incase my gps lost connection. To my surprise the usb iPhone connectors worked and the car was able to connect to apple play but found that it drained my esim data to quickly.

Trick: One trick I learned was to place my phone on airplane mode once I got the directions so that the data from the esim would not drain so quickly. I was able to do 10 days off 3gb.

1st Hotel, Day 1 Glashaus Hotel right outside of Dublinin Tallaght. The hotel was extremely comfortable, clean and had access to transit. The hotel is very well located near a mall and an Aldi to purchase gallon of waters. Luas train is a 1 minute walk away and makes getting to Central Dublin quick and inexpensive. Since we had a rent a car we did not take the transit but we could see it right outside of our hotel room. The hotel did provided onsite parking.

We had arrived an hour early then checkin so we left our luggage there and went into the restaurant to have a late lunch. The food was delicious!

Although breakfast was not included we where able to purchase it after 9am at the restaurant right in the hotel. We checked out early, the first day was going to be a long drive. We checked out at 7am and headed to Northern Ireland.

Day 2 Here where our stops:

Stop 1: Malahide Castle

Stop 2: Breakfast at Cafe Provence Malahide

Stop 3: Titanic Belfast The Titanic Experience is the world’s most authentic retelling of the iconic story. The self-guided tour extends over nine interactive galleries where you discover the sights, sounds, smells and stories of the ship, as well as the people and city that made her.

Close by Titanic Belfast, two important titans of naval history are on view. SS Nomadic is the last remaining White Star Line ship in the world and was built alongside Titanic in 1911 to ferry passengers to the great liner from shore. A self-guided tour is included in your ticket to Titanic Belfast.

Lunch at the Titanic Hotel Belfast right beside Titanic Belfast. This luxury hotel is located in the old Harland and Wolff Headquarters and Drawing Offices and is filled with Titanic heritage.

Stop 4: Causeway hotel

If you'd like to explore the Giant’s Causeway, you can’t stay any closer than the Causeway Hotel. During your stay, you can discover this UNESCO World Heritage site for free – all from the comfortable base of this Grade II listed hotel. enjoy this dramatic landscape from the comfort of the Causeway Hotel – offers 28 suite rooms, all with views of the Atlantic Ocean, or with a private terrace to enjoy the sun setting in this magical landscape.

We checked into our hotel at 8pm booked dinner reservations for 8:45pm. The brought our bags to our room and we freshened up and went down to dinner then went to bed directly after dinner so that we could wake up at 7am to do an early morning hike to the causeways.

Day 3 Northern Island 7 am hike to the causeways

Tip: The earlier you go the better opportunity you get for photo ops. Less crowds!

The Giant's Causeway lies at the foot of the basalt cliffs along the sea coast on the edge of the Antrim plateau in Northern Ireland. It is made up of some 40,000 massive black basalt columns sticking out of the sea. The dramatic sight has inspired legends of giants striding over the sea to Scotland. Geological studies of these formations over the last 300 years have greatly contributed to the development of the earth sciences.

Stop 1 carrick a rede rope bridge

Stop 2 Ballintoy harbour

Stop 3 Bushmills Inn for lunch in the town of Bushmills.

Stop 4 Dunluce Castle / castle rock

stop 5 Mussenden Temple

stop 6 Dark hedges

stop 7 back to Causeway Hotel

Day 4 breakfast at the causeway hotel

Then we headed to the UNESCO MUSEUM: The Giant's Causeway and Causeway Coast site was inscribed as a World Heritage Site (WHS) by the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organisation (UNESCO) in 1988.

Took the trail down the causeway for one last view!

Below is a map of the places we visited while we stayed at the causeway hotel. The last image is a map of our hotels while we road tripped around Ireland!

My first blog was 3 whole days and the morning of our 4th day. Please go to the next blog post for part 2 of our Ireland Adventure Road Trip…. Day 4 continues with our lunch stop in The town of Derry/Londonderry and afternoon tea ashford castle!

[lovingwordsandhatefulpromises]

Please Help

Posting on an Alt Account b/c my soon-to-be-ex is kind of unpredictable & I'm nervous. Its the same reason I am using AngelLink & not gofundme- even when I did a test fundraiser there, where I didn't link my FB, it still somehow showed up & he saw it.

Glad it was a benign post (helping a friend w/ her dog) and not this one.

My main blog is tolightamatch, and while I don't think he uses his tunblr anymore, better safe than sorry.

The TLDR is: he had a stroke in March & demanded a divorce in May & now is trying to walk back the divorce & getting possessive & scary about it. His personality has changed, and he is unpredictable. And I'm scared things could get physical & need out.

My lease is up in January but since he may be staying in the apartment I cant count on the last months rent being paid & im not fighting over the deposit.

I am asking for a lot- 7k- but its to pay off November & Decembers rent so I can break my lease, have the $$ for the 1st/last/pet deposit on a new place plus a couple months storage so I can start getting the most important things out of the house now in case things escalate. As well as the $$ to file for the divorce.

If you can help, please do. And thank you.

[tlrvakarian]

I’ve been incredibly scared about being able to afford living on my own but I think I’m more than well prepared, and just psyching myself out at this point

[therealbrigeedarocks]

GAS MONEY NEEDED

In a way

So, March is meant to be my last month in my current place and I’m hoping to make it all the way to the West Coast this time.

I’m applying to places (apartments and jobs) and am waiting to hear back (apartment hunting across states and not hearing a response of any kind within a few days is FUCKING NERVE WRACKING). 

I have enough saved for a deposit and 1st month’s rent plus just enough to get the timing belt replaced in my car but...I could use some gas money.

My goal is $350 bucks to cover the trip from here to wherever I end up

Patreon is on pause at the moment

Ko-fi is an option if you just want to chip something small in (it’ll be a long drive and I could use the caffeine 

Reblogs always appreciated!

[mariacallous]

Doing some math and figuring out budgeting and I think I’ll be okay - I get paid this week and rent will be due for my current apartment next week, which’ll still leave me a decent amount until the next payday (which would be right around when my new lease would start anyway and which I’ve already paid 1st months rent for) so I can get quotes from movers and place a deposit with them and then I wouldn’t have to pay the full amount until after I’ve moved and after the next payday (in theory). I’ve got a decent amount of groceries so I shouldn’t really need too much between now and then, and I just need to basically not spend money for the most part - I’ve got the wedding this weekend but it’s both a short trip and I’m not inclined to do a lot of shopping anyway. Plus, I’ll follow-up with my professor(s) for next semester and get that resolved and so there’s the possibility of financial aid overage in January, and December would (in theory) both be the last month I’d need to pay rent on my current apartment and also it’d be the prorated month for my new apartment so not as much $ there which’ll be nice.

And I can always reach out to the real estate guy and let him know I’d not been able to come in by the lease start date and about pushing the move in a bit further, etc.

Things I need to do this week:

-At least call back two of the moving places about their quotes -Print out and send in my 60-day notice to vacate -Laundry -More packing, both in general but also for the wedding this weekend -Start getting stuff ready to take to Goodwill -Maybe start to look into utilities and cable/internet providers in NY -Not have a panic attack meltdown

[vrson]

hey so. a LOT of people need help right now, i know, but uh...me too, actually.

i paid $909 in move-in fees for my current place on August 21. i checked the online resident portal again on August 31 to see if i owed anything, and it showed a balance of $0.00. i thought i was in the clear.

apparently rent balances aren't posted until the 1st of the month. so my rent is $359, and now that its september 3rd, they've tacked on a $50 late fee, which will increase to $10 per day as of the 6th. this is my bank account right now.

i need AT LEAST $226 to be in the clear. i JUST moved into this apartment, i have no idea why they decided its fine to charge me a months rent plus deposit and fees, and then charge me a full month's rent again TEN DAYS LATER, but until i can talk to the property manager on tuesday (which may or may not help), my only real option is to try to pay it before i get more late fees.

so yeah, if anyone has some money they can spare, i would greatly appreciate it. and i can try to pay you back (or pay it forward!) when im more steady on my feet here.

i also make art! i do watercolors, pen and marker drawings, paper flowers, and (simple) clay figurines. so if you want to commission me or get a sketch in return for a donation, send me a message! unfortunately i dont have a commissions post or anything available, but i can show you pictures of work ive done before.

anyway! if anyone can help me out i would greatly appreciate it! if you cant, i totally understand, and i appreciate reblogs too.

cashapp: $tarrokaard

paypal: (dm me for this one, id rather use cashapp if possible)

thanks in advance!

[assortedfruitflavors]

Charging 1st and a security deposit plus a brokers fee with all being equal to 1 months rent is violence. Literally just say you don’t think poor & those without access to savings or generational wealth to have housing and go.

[lockdownuk]

Lockdown Diary Part 3

A personal account during the lockdown in the UK due to the Covid-19 outbreak.

23/03/2020 8:30pm Boris Johnson, UK Prime Minister, gives a live address to the nation to, effectively, put the country on lockdown to stem the spread of the deadly coronavirus strain, Covid-19.

Many of us have been self-isolating for days but this latest development within the UK in reaction to the pandemic feels very serious and very scary. I decided to keep a simple diary and where better but online.

Day 61: Writing this in the afternoon on day 62. An exercise driven day. Two walks and stair climb as usual plus I popped round Jeff’s early evening. First time I’ve been to his house, 1 Garden Row, Elmington. It’s further than I thought so, with walking there an back, I managed a daily total of 14km. It was good to see him and have a social (but social-distanced) beer. When I got home, @9:45pm, I made thai green chicken curry, watch The Report (a great, if worrying film) and then TikTok-ed until gone 5am!

Day 62: Typing this on day 64! Beer round Karen’s. Missed Sam’s quiz.

Day 63: Typing this on day 64! Beer round Karen’s. Again! Well, it is bank holiday Monday! Had dirty pizza for tea and watched The Heat. Again! It is the most piss funny film.

Day 64: Well, I have been feeling guilty about treatung the bank holiday w/e l;ike a bank holiday w/e. It’s dawned on me that that guilt is way too self-disiciplned. I got up about midday, usual two walks and stair climb but that’s it. I need to clean the house from top to bottom, get on top of my online courses, get the garden done, get the car fixed, go shopping…fucking hell - if only I had the time…

Day 65: Today I swapped Amazon prime free trial for about the 5th time in my life. Same card and address - will they get wind of my skullduggery. This is all so I can finish watching Hunters and catch Homecoming S2. I went shopping at Asda near Raunds. I wish I hadn’t, it’s no good for a comprehensive shop. Received an email from RCI inviting me to a Zoom meeting with Pal Mulcahy for a business update. I fear the worst. And it’s at 10:00am, FFS!

Day 66: Logged in an attended zoom forum with Paul Mulcahy and over 250 RCI staff this morning. The message was that there is going to be redundancies. I expected this and expected to fall victim. All staff that are going to be put through cionsultation would be contacted today. I however wasn’t! Very, very surpised. meanwhile, Nick Reilly asked to connect via LinkedIn (including become a LinkedIn staff team member -  that’s new to me so I’ll see what it is but I accepted the invitation) Later, I WhatsApp-ed him and asked who has been affected from IT. All he could tell me was no one on Jon Rodger’s team is under threat. Also, Mark C emailed - I’ll respond tomorrow. I got up at 09:00ish and had my mornming walk before the 10:00am meeting. I am now, at 09:30pm, fucking knackered. Dinner and then bed, methinks but not before one more episdoe of Hunters!

Day 67: Typing on Day 68. Got pretty drunk last night. I’ve got blisters from walking (new boots) so I don’t think I’ll walk tomorrow (well, today!).

Day 68: I did fuck all today. Got up after 1pm, no walking. I did manage to clean the bathroom (and smash my little mirror) and do my 26 stair climb. I am typing at 9pm and I feel whacked!

Day 69: I have an abscess. It’s not too painful (today) but I am going to call the dentist tomorrow (Monday). I think antibiotics are in order. I watched a film, which I actually started yesterday, called The Voices starring Ryan Reynolds, Gemma Arteton and Anna Kendrick. Fuuuuuuuuuuuucking weird. The closing credits are the most bizarre, in context, I’ve ever seen. But, in general, a very good film. Back to normal exercise regime today plus hovered the hall and stairs. Get me. It’ll be interetingh to see my Google Fit figures for May tomorrow.

Day 70: Contacted the dentist who advised salt water rinsing and ibuprofen. But, tbf, it’s a lot better today and the swelling has gone right down. The dentist I called was the Oundle House (Rodericks) one. I was not hopeful since last time I saw them they referred me to their Northampton clinic for root canal work which was quoted at over £600. However, the dentist was very nice, had my x-ray to hand from that last visit and seemed more interested in making sure I’m OK than gaining a paying customer. He still wants to see me when possible though! I must mention the weather. It has been glorious weather nearly every day throughout May (it’s June 1st today). Seriously sunny and like a holiday every day. The news mentioned it today - the level of sunshine throughout the transition from spring to summer is unprecedented, apparently. My T shirt tan is, quite frankly, ridiculous!

Day 71: Today’s ‘must mention’ is what’s going on in the US and it’s not particularly related to Trump. There was a black man killed while under arrest. George Floyd died Monday 25th May (8 days ago) A policeman, who knelt on his neck for minutes while he complained of not being able to breathe, has been charged with murder. Now there are riots and curfews and military intervention all over the country. It’s similar to the English riots of 2011. It’s worrying, sad, scary and not what the fight against the pandemic needs. Most of all, it’s racism rearing its ugly head yet again. I’ve had a normal-ish day. received an email from Jim checking in, talked to a recruiter about a promising job lead (although the hours are 8-5 which I am not happy about), talked to Barry across the road and sent Barzzy a WhatsApp. And I logged in Shaw Academy and started lesson one of module 2 of web Design. It’s been a while, so long overdue, but I only did about 15 minutes. Must try harder / do better! As I type, late (10:10pm) I have dinner cooking and a strange pain in my left side and am in the middle of No Country for Old Men. Don’t think I’ve seen it since the cinema (13 years!)

Day 72: As soon as (well, within a couple of days) I mention the weather, it turns. It’s rained a little and is a lot cooler (15° rather than mid-20s). Much better for walking, I have to say. I finished Hunters today (Amazon Prime series). While I enjoyed it, it got too surreal at the end. It is loosely based on the real story of Nazi hunters in the US in 1977 but the straying from loosely based to down-right ridiculous fiction annoyed me. If it goes to S2, I will watch it, however. Received some of my rental deposit back today (the law changed so that only 5 weeks rent can be demanded as deposit). Over £600. Nice.

Day 73: I made a short video for Marc and Clare’s 26th wedding anniversary. I ‘dressed up’ for it. I enjoyed doing it and I think it was appreciated.

Day 74: Typing on Day 75 for no other reason than I couldn’t be bothered on day 74! I received a letter either today or the day before (well, yesterday or the previous day!) from Mr Minos at the eye clinic informing me that, while there is some stuff going on in both eyes (garnered from the photo scans done at the last hospital appointment), he wants to see me in three months. Always a refief when that happens. Been getting into two series on Amazon: Alex Rider and Modern Love. One is a male Hanna, the other is soppy affairs of the heart based on real life stories (from essays written in the NY Times). Both enjoyable for totally different reasons.

Day 75: Lazyish day. Well, not really, just that I only went for one walk, alebit 6km andI got pissed on. Wehn the rain hit, it was also fucking freezing! Some of the clouds were stunning today, made for great photos. As I type, it’s 21:12, I’m listening the wonderful Phoebe Bridgiers. Now, I’m gonna make some tea and sup a few ales, I reckon.

Day 76: Done lots of walking today (over 13,000 steps) I made sausage casserole with too much chilli (scotch bonnet and birdeye). I had an online (fb) debate with Sam over whether the George Floyd murder was a racial.

Day 77: Received a new (used) wing mirror for the car. £18 with delivery, I reckon that’s a bargain. I cashed in £20 from Prolific as well, so I’m satisfied at the financial full-circle. Dropped the car off at Barnwell (Nene Valley Body Shop) and walked back - 7km. Just about to dive into tea - finishing the blazing hot sausage casserole from yesterday. Then I’m going to do some more Rubik’s cube practice with my recently acquired GoCube.

Day 78: Lots of daily walking, 26 stair climb, press-up and late nights watching TikTok (gone 3am this morning) are making for a constantly knackered Tim Stubbs. Today I made veg soup and cooked up some meatballs. Both are delish. How did I ever to learn how to conjure up such stuff? The Rubik’s cube learning is coming along except that I need good daylight to distinguish between the yellow and white faces on the flipping thing!

Day 79: Listening to Radio 6 most the day and the news is making for dire listening. Forecast of severe recession, especially if there is a second peak of the virus, which I think there will be. Plus, an offshoot of the George Floyd murder and the #BlackLivesMatter movement, institutions and town councils are being lobbied by campaigners to remove statues of anyone associated with things like slavery (one was toppled in Bristol at the w/e) and rename buildings etc. that were named after historical characters with any links to something that now is deemed wrong or offensive. I agree with it but it’s not pleasant to hear amongst other bleak news. Walked to Barnwell to collect my car - front trim reseated and new wing mirror fitted, £20 - bargain (I source the replacement wing mirror). But, also, forked out £165 on car tax! Cleaned the lounge from top to bottom. Knackering!

Day 80: Chatted with Dad and Rita - he’s pissed off with the slavery backlash but otherwise they are both OK. I saw Baz in the Tesco queue where I mentioned my disgust at the Thursday market being allowed (I found I could not maintain 2m at all times just walking to Tesco’s!) and that I really don’t want to catch Covid19 as I will probably die. Maybe a bit dramatic but he messaged me later today to say he’d been thinking on what I said and offered to shop for me. I replied that I am OK to shop but am scared at how people are taking things so much less seriously than when lockdown started yet the virus is still out there just as it was then! I am very touched at his massage. I thoroughly cleaned the bedroom and changed the bedclothes today. House work really knackers me out!

Day 81: Spare room cleaned today. Not much else to type about. It’s Friday, I making curried mince and I don’t feel like a beer. How I’ve changed!

Day 82: I did have beers last night. Ended up going to bed with daylight and dawn chorus for company. Today, when I woke, gone 1pm, I have been greeted by what can only be described as thoroughly depressing news from every quarter. This includes violence in the capital, further virus outbreak in Beijing. Fog’s political posts on FB make for depressing (but vaild) reading. I’m feeling thoroughly fed up today. Not even music can lift my mood…

…but, I am currently listening to Craig Charles on BBCR6 and, I have to say, he’s putting in quite an exceptional effort - there may be hope that my mood might lift, even at gone 8pm! I might have a beer or two and grab something postivity and enjoyment from the day after all.

Day 83: Another late one last night but up before noon today. Started watching something called Condor on Sky One. It’s OK - there’s stuff I wanna waytch on Amazon Prime but, more often than not, it keeps telling me there’s ‘a problem’ when I try to play anything. Pissing me off. I just checked and I have two weeks of the initial 12 of furlough to go. I shall started asking the questions about what might happen on the Connections website.

Day 84: Typing this on Day 85. On the way back from dropping off some shoes for Sean Davies at his brother’s (martin) I met Karen and she said why not pop round for a beer so I did. Certainly not used to a drink on a Monday so that, and the genral upheaval to my evening, while good fun and a nice change, put pay to my usual diary entry! I sorted Amazon Prime out by leaving the TV turned off for over an hour. Day 85: Tim did the garden today and it looks great. The pipes in the bathroom have been knocking loudly, on and off, for a couple of weeks now. Last night, they were so loud that today I took it upon myself to resolve it or ring Woodfords. So, having turned off the water, run the taps dry to get rid of any trapped air and then turned the water back on slowly, I discoved it’s the cistern and its pipes. Woodfords are arranging Corvee to visit. Meanwhile, leaving the water turned off at least stops the noise which is, otherwise, costant and unbearable! I emailed HR a couple of days ago about what’s happening in a couple of weeks time in terms of furlough when the 12 weeks will be up. Sue Cockimngs got back to me attaching an email Deryn sent on 15th May which I never received. Basically, they’ll extend furlough if need be and an update should be forthcoming late May/early June. Well, that time has passed, so who knows what is going to happen. The furlough scheme (CJRS) has been changed by the govenment, I’ve read, and it looks like any new people would have to have been furloughed by June 10th (it’s the 16th today) so no furlough rotation, which is annoying. The CJRS ends 1st October with employer contributions required from 1st August - that’s D-Day as far as I am concerned….so job hunting will have to step up a notch! Day 86: Pete’s birthday and he bought himself the same speaker as me. When I asked if it lived up to his expectations he mentioned it’s better through WiFi than Bluetooth. That confused me as I haven’t got WiFi available on mine…..long story short, I bought the wrong fucking speaker. I got a AudioPro AddOn T10 instead of C10. To say I am fucked off is an understatement. To think I was so pleased at the cheap price I paid. Now I feel like I have wasted  €200. Bollocks.

Day 87: Finished Alex Rider last night. Another series that started off so well and ended a litte weak but, overall, not bad. I’ve started keeping strange meal times…lunch very late (4pm) and dinner really late (11pm). I need to sort it ‘cos it’s playing havoc with my sugar levels. I had a huge hypo while having my second walk today, second day on the trot that’s happened. My late dinner was Chinese chicked curry with a quarter of a scotch bonnet and two birdeye chillies. Delish.

Day 88: I have managed to be bitten yesterday or the day before on one of my walks. There are strange, itchy lumps on my right inner forearm. And I do mean itchy. I trimmed my sideburns today, I was very pissed off with them. My hair looks just a little less shit. I did a shop at Tesco in Corby today. Mainly booze as follows: 20 cans Sam Miguel £18 18 cans Stella £15 20 bottles Bud £10 8 cans Tyskie £9 3 lrg bottles Warsteiner £5 £57 Bargain.

Day 89: Lazy day. One short walk and usual stair climb. Howard and Sue popped round to give me a pressie - bottle of Monkey Shoulder. I’m building up quite a collection of whisky!

Day 90: Dad called and we chatted for an hour or so. I had to apologise for not sending a father’s day card! Dan messaged me and offered to pay for a pizza delivery which I declined.

Football has started again this past week…Prem and Championship only. L1 and L2 season was cut short and Posh missed out on the play-offs by one place. As I type, Everton v Liverpool is on Sky Sports on a Sunday evening - it’s very strange with no crowd. There’s crowd noise being played thorugh the tannoy.

[themiddlelayer]

Just more Bitching

It’s not like my life is all that bad at all... things are generally awesome but I had another rough day yesterday. And there’s my job thing. And the unknown about whether or not Tampa got the job back in Florida... blah, blah, blah...

I’ve got about 45 minutes until I’m off work for the night. I’ve done a little bit of actual work today but in general have been super low on ‘fucks to give’ around here. My boss is out of the country another couple days so the upside is that I don’t have the impending fear that she’ll call me for no apparent reason. I had a conversation with another co-worker who said that the morale is in the toilet everywhere and that she was told by another department director there were more ‘big changes’ coming. You know it’s bad when fellow work-from-home team members are sensing the low morale and lack of direction we’re all feeling. 

Yesterday I got up early to try and get some schoolwork done while Tampa slept in a little. While sipping my coffee I did the usual checking e-mails and facebook and ended up logging into the site where the joint bank account with MM is at. It’s only technically ‘joint’ because we haven’t done paperwork to remove me, though. And I didn’t mean to snoop but when I opened it up to check my credit score tracker the ‘overview’ had a ridiculously high account balance so I went through the details.

Now, MM’s life and money aren’t my business and I like it that way, except that he’s asked for more than just the bills I’m taking out of the marriage in order to cover a gap in household expenses. He’s basically been whining that without my income he’ll have to decide which bills not to pay in the coming months. 

That said, imagine my rage when I saw two deposits for nearly $10K that came in this week. Plus a deposit on the 1st of the month for roughly what the deficit in finances (aka what he would ask for as rent) from the chick he brought to Cookie’s wedding. Oh, and the multiple $100+ dinners including 2 at the Brazilian steakhouse and a hotel in VEGAS. Fucker was bitching about money and instead of using some of it to cover the gap in expenses and, you know, living within his means, he has continued to spend like crazy and live like a rockstar. 

I took about an hour to cool off and do some schoolwork before initiating a conversation with him. It turned out that the big deposits were refunded interest from 2 credit cards who retroactively reduced the rate to the ‘military rate.’ The deposit from his GF was ‘her half’ of the Vegas trip. Now, she paid it on the 1st of the month but they didn’t go until the 8th... and if $455 was her HALF, what the fuck else did he do in Vegas that he put on his personal credit card?!? 

In the end, we agreed to get a legal separation agreement in place that will be effective the 1st of the year. This will make his money officially no longer my business, which is a huge relief. But the emotional fallout took its toll on my day for sure.

Tampa saw me before I talked to MM and then I updated him after I got out of my office. He was nothing but supportive and loving (as usual) but it brought up my insecurity over being financially dependant on him like I am. He’s continued to say that we can talk about money once things have settled down for me and in the meantime I’ve taken responsibility for the bulk of the housework and I buy almost all the groceries. It’s a good arrangement for us both, but it still puts me in a position where, if Goddess forbid, something happened between us I’d have to rearrange my life again with an income that *might* get me into a shitty little apartment here in Arizona. The possibility of moving back to Florida with him just adds another unknown on that front, too. 

The rest of our weekend was great, though. We went to sushi then I made cinnamon toast crunch bars (think rice crispy treats) with a couple medicinal snickerdoodles ground up and mixed in. I hadn’t made anything like these in awhile and they ended up looking, as Tampa’s buddy said, “Like jizz covered cheese-its.” And that was before we dealt with removing the wax paper backing. Next time, buttered parchment paper! Whoops! 

It turned out that the snickerdoodles made for a different kind of treat that left me feeling relaxed and happy but not stupid and hungry. Win! Oh, and I may have had a couple more bites of them this afternoon... I feel focused and able to concentrate but I want another one because they were so yummy. New rule: any medicinal treats need virgin versions made at the same time! 

Tampa had to go out of town for work this week so he won’t be back until late Wednesday or early Thursday. I’m hoping to get myself back on track with getting up at a reasonable hour while he’s away so I can get up and get motivated on my schoolwork and work work. 

Tonight’s project is to take pics of all my ‘fat clothes’ so I can sell them. I’ve gone through the bags and donated a bunch already but I’ve got some really nice dresses and bras that were barely worn as well as a bunch of jeans and nice work slacks. I’ve got to get myself a buffer going for next month when I have to get my own car insurance and register my car in my name. 

Tick tock... one of these days I’d like to have a job where I don’t start counting down to the weekend on Monday. 

[dredsina]

Since I know they came in without notifying me first in March 1st or before I'm revising my request for a refund of 18 days' March rent to a refund for all of March. Plus deposit plus compensation for the stuff they ruined. If they give me my full deposit back I'm saying the portion they owe me is $1250 and my roommate $750 (if she decides to press charges too). If they don't give me my deposit back, they owe me $1050 and her $950.