#plus deposit plus 1st rent

[halfmoon-horse]

I'm getting 3 of my 5 hundred quid deposit back, the rest is used on "cleaning". Honestly? Not worth arguing over it.

This is your daily reminder that renting is a scam but what choice do we have?

[megacosms]

  Hello there, this isn’t something I like to do at all but I don’t know where else to turn or what else to do. The person I’ve been living with has decided to move out of the apartment I’m in on July 1st and I’m choosing to stay and have an agreement with the landlord to sign a new lease. He will be charging me a security deposit just to stay in the same apartment I’ve been living in for almost 20 years now with no problems (which is messed up but I don’t really want to make it into a thing) so I will have to pay $1300 for rent plus $325 extra every month for 4 months for the security deposit. The $1300 rent I could swing (with difficulty) but adding the extra $325 for the first 4 months is too much for me and I don’t think I will be able to afford it, which is why I’m making this post. If anyone can afford to help me with anything at all I will leave my paypal below. I’m trying to raise $325 to cover the security deposit payment for July. I know times are tough for everyone so I appreciate any and all help. I just don’t know what else to do. I’m trying to be happy about this person leaving the apartment because they’ve been putting me through endless mental and emotional abuse for a long time but the stress of not knowing if I will be able to afford to continue renting this apartment is really taking a toll on me. So if anyone can help me with anything at all it would be lifesaving. Thank you so much!

Here is my paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/DanielCoelho

Once again thank you to anyone who can donate to help me.

And please share this so it can reach anyone who might be able to help. Thank you so much! Much love <3

[speechlessxx]

my move has been so stressful that I must rant.

I mean please read if y’all have some advice

I highlighted all my issues.

To preface this, I moved bc I got a job in my dream city. But rent is so expensive there, I got an apartment in a city near it.

I chose an older apartment complex bc the apartment itself was really nice but the outside is old af. And it’s near a lot of areas

I also chose it bc the leasing agent was Filipino and clicked with me and my folks (bc we’re Filipino duh) & even waived fees for us. He’s important to this story

Mind you i apartment hunted in March because it was spring break and the only time we could fly out.

Most complexes actually turned us away bc I planned to move in July so it’s a liability for them to promise me an apartment and have it be vacant for months (aka not making money)

From March all the way to end of June, I was in contact with this Filipino leasing agent. He made several promises to me and my parents: apartment will be renovated to have wooden floors, it has a microwave installed, it’s near the exit (bc i have a dog).

I called 2 days before I left TX (June 26 AND 27) to ensure that the apartment was ready

Filipino man swore up and down everything was ready to be moved in.

My family and I drove from TX to location (appx. 22 hr drive) with a reactive dog. We traveled for 3 days.

Only to find out Filipino man does not work there any more.

Filipino man did not finish my move in paperwork despite promising me a move in date AND me signing all kinds of paperwork and sending deposits etc.

On top of that, the apartment he swore was mine and was signed to me wasnt even ready to be moved in to.

His replacement had been working there for 3 days and didn’t know shit on what to do. She tried to turn us away but my parents stood up for me while I had a mental breakdown (bc I was arguing with her for 1 hour)

They eventually got the apartment “move-in-able”

Guys. This place is literally falling apart.

I’ve lived here 2 days (moved in July 1st), the shower doesn’t work, the dryer isn’t working, the lightbulb in bedroom is dead, the bathtub/shower is clogged.

To add onto Filipino man’s web of lies, nothing he promised was fulfilled. This place is carpeted, there’s no microwave. It is at the end of a long & dark hallway. I have to pass through 10 apartments plus the lobby to get outside.

On top of that, the aforementioned reactive dog is struggling with the move. Since the family spent 3 days on the road right by each other’s sides sleeping in motels together, etc.

he’s developed really bad separation anxiety to the point that we can’t leave him by himself because he will cry and bark and whine (which he never did before since he was kennel trained). And I’m afraid that they’ll kick us out 😭

Y’all I am so stressed beyond belief. But I’ve signed a lease now and I’ve paid HELLA MONEY to be here now.

I am stuck and depressed all over again.

[mint-moon25]

Expecting Miracles - Excel in Your Calling, Part 4

I CLOSED - ACCOUNT - ACTIVE - BUILDING

SAID - PAST - DUE - ALREADY - $85

AND - STATEMENT - SAID - FOR

LOW - INCOME - APT - BUILDINGS OF MIAMI

575 SQ FT - AND - BALCONY

$1,191

SSI - RECIPIENT - DISABLED - 33%

NON-PROFIT - ORG - USU - RELIGIOUS

THE - REST

1ST - MONTH - FREE

2ND - MONTH - MY - 33% - ONLY

$311.19

THEY - PAY - RENTER’s - INSURANCE

LEMONADE - STARTS - AT - $5

THEY - PAID - SECURITY - DEPOSIT

$30 - ONLY 

WHO - EVER - HEARD

ELENA QUIROS

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SO - HERE

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OR - CHECKING

EVENTS

MAINTENANCE - REQUEST

BUT - GOING - 4 - FREE - 4 - LIFETIME

INSTEAD - CALLED 

BELLHOP - CONCIERGE

BUT - ACTIVE - BUILDING

THAT - CONGRATULATED - ME - WITH

2ND - FLOOR - APT - WITH - BALCONY

BEGINS - 30 SEPT 2024

THEN - TODAY

JUST - GOT - YES - WHEN - HAVEN’T

SIGNED - LEASE

PAST - DUE - $85

TOTAL - IF - PRE-PAYING - $641

YOUR - RECURRING - MONTHLY - CHARGES

HOMELESS - RENT - $556

APARTMENTS . com

DOESN’T - EVEN - SAY - THAT

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ARE - LOW - INCOME - APARTMENT BUILDINGS

JESSICA - TOLD - ME

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SECURITY - DEPOSIT - $30

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FURNITURE - JESSICA - SAID - ALL FREE

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FOR - 2P EDT - APPOINTMENT

2 HISPANIC - FEMALES - AND - CASE

WORKER

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MARY BRICKELL - ACADEMY

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SPEAKING - MY - APT - WILL - NOT BE

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7 DAYS - BUT - BY - OUTSIDE - LICENSED

WORKERS - NOT - BY - HIM - HE FINISHED

HIS PART - 7 DAYS - BY - PROFESSIONALS

EARLIER - THAN - 15 OCT 2024

SO - NOT - THIS - WEEK - MAYBE - 2ND

WEEK - OF - OCTOBER - INSTEAD - YES

WAKING - UP - EARLY - ANYWAY - 4 - I’M

GOING - 2 - STORAGE - TOMORROW

EARLY - INSTEAD - GET - WHAT - ME

NEED - THEN - GOING - 2 - BACK OF

GOV’T - CENTER

FRONT - OF - JRK! - RESTAURANT

BUS - 836 EXP

FOR - 24 HOUR - FITNESS

WILL - TAKE - CHANCE - WITH - MY

SHOWER - ITEMS - SO - HAVE - 2

PLACES - 2 - GO - TOMORROW

JUST - LEAVING - EARLY - EACH

DAY - BECAUSE - JAIL - IS - YES

BETTER - THAN - OUTDOORS OF

FLORIDA - BECAUSE - FLORIDA

IS - A - GARBAGE - STATE - AND

THEY - PLAN - OF - GARBAGING

SENIORS - WHO - NO - LONGER

HAVE - MONEY - THEY’RE ALSO

HOMELESS - BUT - HERE I SAW

HOMELESS - RENT - $556.00

INSTEAD - OF - $1,191.00 - 4 APT

SO - THEY’RE - CONFUSED

HAVEN’T - SIGNED - LEASE

CLOSED - ACCOUNT

EMAILS - SENT - ME

UNSUBSCRIBE

MARK - AS - SPAM

DELETED - FOLDER - MESSAGES

YANDEX - MAIL

HUNGRY - EATING - SOON

JESUS - IS - LORD - TRULY

JOINING - OTHERS - HOMELESS

1ST - WEEK OF OCTOBER - 2024

[meme-loving-stuck]

we just toured a place that was asking $1750/month (not terrible considering it was a small house and not an apartment, in a really good location) but also a 1750 security deposit.... which is steep for a deposit, it's first months rent, but again also not uncommon.

they were nervous about our wages, and apparently good credit history and a year of renting at an established apartment, PLUS the income & background check wasnt enough. they asked 2k for security deposit and theyll take it off the market as soon as we sign. i texted her this morning to let her know we cant just throw down 2k for a place that isnt even vacant yet, i have a weird feeling about it, but thanked her for considering us

.... she just called and said $500 for a deposit would be fine if we sign this week, just pay the remaining + first months rent when we move in on the 1st.

sometimes, it is worth it to communicate and be polite even if you think youre getting played. (we're considering this new offer)

[wanderlustwayadventures1]

21 Day Europe Adventure September 2023

On 9/1 we took a 7pm Aer lingus direct flight from JFK to fly directly to Dublin Ireland. With a 8 yo I thought I would give a night time flight to try sleeping on the plane so we could gain an extra day of site seeing.

The plan was to get to the airport early so we didn’t have to rush, but we got there too early and had to wait an hour before checking in our bags in and able to go thru security. Once we go thru security we where able to get dinner inside.

Insider tip: bring water bottles to grab filter water from the airport at no extra charge!

We grab burgers because we didn’t get dinner until 9pm. The plan was to go to sleep on the plane but due to so many babies crying we were unable to sleep. Def was not excepting this! Lesson learned! My son manage to sleep for 3 hours, he was so happy playing with the plane’s features, it kept him very entertained with games and movies. However I did download lots of shows and movies on Disney plus and Netflix’s on his iPad as a backup. He did not even asked for his iPad which was a plus during the flight!

ARRIVAL

When arrived the next morning ( 8 hours ) it was 8am in Ireland but 4am in est time zone. We went directly to the car rentals in the airport assuming that our rental would be there. To my surprise it wasn’t. I was able to get wifi and get into my emails where I read the instructions from the rental. It instructed us to go to terminal 1 shuttle area and to call when we arrived so that a shuttle would pick us up. Since I could only use my data with my esim I purchase online via Airalo I could not make calls. I tried using my google voice but since it was not a US number I could not call the number. I had to ask one of the airport works to call for us, which they did and we were able to let them know we where waiting.

Once our shuttle came were where taken 5 mins away to a rental location where we waited to pay the balance our our rental. I was sure that our rental came with insurance but it didn’t. We were given a choice to leave a credit card with a 1,000 euros block or to add insurance for 500 euros. Since this was my first time driving on the left side we opt for the 500 euro option so we would be covered. Luckily we did not have any accidents just a few scares along the way 😀.

Here’s what the rental cost 10 days 9/2-9/11

$787 deposit( $164.47 ) plus insurance $651 total $1438

As we where waiting we found out that the apple play was not working properly so we had to wait for a different car. After 3 hours they where able to get us a car with a working gps, which I’m not a fan off but it would be good for a backup Incase my gps lost connection. To my surprise the usb iPhone connectors worked and the car was able to connect to apple play but found that it drained my esim data to quickly.

Trick: One trick I learned was to place my phone on airplane mode once I got the directions so that the data from the esim would not drain so quickly. I was able to do 10 days off 3gb.

Trip Start:

1st Hotel, Day 1 Glashaus Hotel right outside of Dublinin Tallaght. The hotel was extremely comfortable, clean and had access to transit. The hotel is very well located near a mall and an Aldi to purchase gallon of waters. Luas train is a 1 minute walk away and makes getting to Central Dublin quick and inexpensive. Since we had a rent a car we did not take the transit but we could see it right outside of our hotel room. The hotel did provided onsite parking.

We had arrived an hour early then checkin so we left our luggage there and went into the restaurant to have a late lunch. The food was delicious!

Although breakfast was not included we where able to purchase it after 9am at the restaurant right in the hotel. We checked out early, the first day was going to be a long drive. We checked out at 7am and headed to Northern Ireland.

Day 2 Here where our stops:

Stop 1: Malahide Castle

Stop 2: Breakfast at Cafe Provence Malahide

Stop 3: Titanic Belfast The Titanic Experience is the world’s most authentic retelling of the iconic story. The self-guided tour extends over nine interactive galleries where you discover the sights, sounds, smells and stories of the ship, as well as the people and city that made her.

Close by Titanic Belfast, two important titans of naval history are on view. SS Nomadic is the last remaining White Star Line ship in the world and was built alongside Titanic in 1911 to ferry passengers to the great liner from shore. A self-guided tour is included in your ticket to Titanic Belfast.

Lunch at the Titanic Hotel Belfast right beside Titanic Belfast. This luxury hotel is located in the old Harland and Wolff Headquarters and Drawing Offices and is filled with Titanic heritage.

Stop 4: Causeway hotel

If you'd like to explore the Giant’s Causeway, you can’t stay any closer than the Causeway Hotel. During your stay, you can discover this UNESCO World Heritage site for free – all from the comfortable base of this Grade II listed hotel. enjoy this dramatic landscape from the comfort of the Causeway Hotel – offers 28 suite rooms, all with views of the Atlantic Ocean, or with a private terrace to enjoy the sun setting in this magical landscape.

We checked into our hotel at 8pm booked dinner reservations for 8:45pm. The brought our bags to our room and we freshened up and went down to dinner then went to bed directly after dinner so that we could wake up at 7am to do an early morning hike to the causeways.

Day 3 Northern Island 7 am hike to the causeways

Tip: The earlier you go the better opportunity you get for photo ops. Less crowds!

The Giant's Causeway lies at the foot of the basalt cliffs along the sea coast on the edge of the Antrim plateau in Northern Ireland. It is made up of some 40,000 massive black basalt columns sticking out of the sea. The dramatic sight has inspired legends of giants striding over the sea to Scotland. Geological studies of these formations over the last 300 years have greatly contributed to the development of the earth sciences.

Stop 1 carrick a rede rope bridge

Stop 2 Ballintoy harbour

Stop 3 Bushmills Inn for lunch in the town of Bushmills.

Stop 4 Dunluce Castle / castle rock

stop 5 Mussenden Temple

stop 6 Dark hedges

stop 7 back to Causeway Hotel

Day 4 breakfast at the causeway hotel

Then we headed to the UNESCO MUSEUM: The Giant's Causeway and Causeway Coast site was inscribed as a World Heritage Site (WHS) by the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organisation (UNESCO) in 1988.

Took the trail down the causeway for one last view!

Below is a map of the places we visited while we stayed at the causeway hotel. The last image is a map of our hotels while we road tripped around Ireland!

My first blog was 3 whole days and the morning of our 4th day. Please go to the next blog post for part 2 of our Ireland Adventure Road Trip…. Day 4 continues with our lunch stop in The town of Derry/Londonderry and afternoon tea ashford castle!

[mint-moon25]

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33% - OF - $943

TOTAL - $311.19

LEMONADE - HOUSE - RENT - REQUIRED

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[tlrvakarian]

I’ve been incredibly scared about being able to afford living on my own but I think I’m more than well prepared, and just psyching myself out at this point

[mariacallous]

Doing some math and figuring out budgeting and I think I’ll be okay - I get paid this week and rent will be due for my current apartment next week, which’ll still leave me a decent amount until the next payday (which would be right around when my new lease would start anyway and which I’ve already paid 1st months rent for) so I can get quotes from movers and place a deposit with them and then I wouldn’t have to pay the full amount until after I’ve moved and after the next payday (in theory). I’ve got a decent amount of groceries so I shouldn’t really need too much between now and then, and I just need to basically not spend money for the most part - I’ve got the wedding this weekend but it’s both a short trip and I’m not inclined to do a lot of shopping anyway. Plus, I’ll follow-up with my professor(s) for next semester and get that resolved and so there’s the possibility of financial aid overage in January, and December would (in theory) both be the last month I’d need to pay rent on my current apartment and also it’d be the prorated month for my new apartment so not as much $ there which’ll be nice.

And I can always reach out to the real estate guy and let him know I’d not been able to come in by the lease start date and about pushing the move in a bit further, etc.

Things I need to do this week:

-At least call back two of the moving places about their quotes -Print out and send in my 60-day notice to vacate -Laundry -More packing, both in general but also for the wedding this weekend -Start getting stuff ready to take to Goodwill -Maybe start to look into utilities and cable/internet providers in NY -Not have a panic attack meltdown

[wouldvelovedmewheniwassoft]

update 6/21/24:

have yet to check in with insurance. next update will be when i hear back, as well as my luck with financial aid and other things relevant to my income + upcoming job.

need to call my old bank today because i genuinely think my branch screwed me over. 🫠

i've been misled multiple times about my account being charged off. i was told it could be reopened with a significant enough deposit (which, again, i only got from breaking NC with my rapist). then, i was told it was permanently closed, but i still had overdraft debt to pay off. after a good writing/fic friend sent money that paid off the PayPal debt, i sent the remaining $94 to my account to get further out of the hole; i was told it went through, and it brought my debt from around $421 to around $330. i couldn't do a direct deposit due to being out of state, let alone out of one where any related branch is located, so i sent back some of the deposit i received to the sender (family friend, same one whose texts are featured in the imgur album) on Venmo so he could deposit it. he called me the 18th and said the bank wouldn't accept it, implying the overcharge amount due was more than $330. i called the bank directly (not the branch), and the woman who did research confirmed the amount remaining in my charged off checking account is $0.00, meaning the bank itself paid it off, but my old branch didn't tell me.

so, now i've both lost money from that transaction i can't immediately recoup, and my branch possibly stole $94 under the guise of paying off my non-existent debt.

while i'm trying to get things sorted out on my end (opening a new checking account at a different bank, activating a debit card that came in the mail, applying for a credit card with my currently nonexistent score to start building credit), my partner has struggled financially to the point of needing my help.

i've already sent them $872 total within less than a week to help cover food (groceries, helping with dinner night for their professional dance/cover group, buying for our chronically depressed/fatigued roommate), my combined share of electricity and Spectrum bills, and them going overdraft (negative balance, $35 fee, more than my usual share of rent/utilities due to automatic payments being unable to draw at the time).

so that, plus $750+ dollars i lost because of my bank, adds up to over half of the initial deposit i got from breaking NC. all within a week.

since posting this, we've only received $16 via CA from a dear system friend this morning. they also plan to send more once they're paid at their new job, but that won't be until July 1st.

outside of that, i haven't even received inquiries about my comm prices in DMs.

i'm trying my best not to panic. i know things will get better. things have already improved. i promise to update everyone when things are substantially resolved on our end.

sharing this and sending support really has helped. for once, i actually feel seen and heard as opposed to before (insulted, mocked, ignored, downvoted, made to delete/close GFMs three times last year because my safety was constantly threatened). i promise that hasn't changed.

but sending literally anything, even just $5 or $10, can help even more. if there's any apprehension or doubt about whether it really does make a difference: the $16 dollars our friend sent for us to eat was just enough to get a pint of ice cream for my partner and i to share as comfort food. it didn't fix everything, and it was all i could buy with our CA account balance; but being able to have something fun to enjoy because someone cared about making sure we've eaten gave us peace of mind for at least one more day.

please share wherever you can. please send whatever you can afford to (don't sent triple digit increments if it'll hurt you in the end, even if you can currently afford it). links are the same as before. DMs and asks are open for support, comm requests, and other relevant inquiries.

thank you <3

help keep a queer disabled system couple from breaking NC with my rapist ❤️‍🩹

(CW: parental abuse/familial trauma, death from cancer, alcoholism, domestic violence, homelessness, sui + hospitalization, incest/rape, victim-blaming, abandonment + gaslighting by a toxic friend, harassment involving police, disordered eating)

please don't tag my post. proof of situation provided in imgur album.

i've held off on publicly asking for help beforehand, as i know there are many people in more dire circumstances right now. but i'm at a point where it's absolutely necessary.

i moved out of state to live with my partner system (we both have DID) in March of this year. we already planned to live together, but circumstances forced me to escape and go NC (no contact) with my remaining family for my safety.

i lived in my childhood home for my whole life until this year. my parents and extended family have always been abusive, but things escalated after my mom passed from Stage 4 lung cancer. my father started deteriorating after her diagnosis in 2018, and since her death in 2022, our relationship is no longer salvageable.

his alcoholism worsened significantly, resulting in multiple instances of him driving home drunk, collapsing, and almost being charged with a DUI. he hasn't hit me since i was 13, but he's acted domestically violent by slamming and hitting things whenever i've angered him. he threatened me with homelessness twice for being suicidal (once after a four day hospitalization, once after an attempted overdose), knowing full well i had no resources at the time and would've ended up on the streets. i attempted to escape last year, but my paternal aunt purposefully sabotaged it, forcing me to stay in an unsafe situation and suffer quietly. my mother's family abandoned me in 2020, and they no longer accept me (specifically for being queer/trans, disabled, and a vocal leftist), so they wouldn't help even if i wanted to resume contact.

it took over a year to move out due to my father controlling every aspect of my life with the justification of me being disabled. i tried to get his blessing for me to move in with my partner; but he refused to let me leave him, and he made it clear his disapproval of my relationship was because he didn't want me to have any autonomy outside of him.

the breaking point came after three days of nonstop verbal and emotional/mental abuse from him over an argument he started; everything culminated in him raping me while i was incapacitated. both my best friend of three years and their partner offered for me to crash at their apartment while my partner planned to get me. they also escorted me to a sexual assault center in my state to get a rape kit done.

i burned nearly every bridge in the process, as the people who could help me sided with him. but i didn't anticipate my friends to abandon me, too. they spent my last three days with them coercing me into changing my escape plan and dismissing my visible distress at how doing so would jeopardize my safety. less than 12 hours before we left, my best friend abandoned me via text, saying they'd refuse to help me if i didn't get police involved. anything i said in response resulted in gaslighting from them, mainly using therapy speak of "boundaries" and "triggers" to justify their actions. i cut contact with them after my partner told me they planned to drop me from the start (they told my partner this in a phone call while i was out) and discovering a cruel vague post they made after i last texted them. the last time i ever reached out was to send them money to get through their own situation.

since then, my partner and i have struggled financially. they're currently one write-up away from being fired, and their supervisor has always been volatile, so confronting him or going to anyone else at their job will do nothing. they've gotten help from their grandparents, but they're similarly abusive and unaccepting of them for the same reasons, so it hurts them to beg them even if they're unable to go NC right now.

i'm unable to reapply for disability, and previously lucrative sources of passive income have currently dried up. i'm waiting for orientation to be scheduled so i can start my new job, but we've financially suffered in the meantime. my account was charged off, and i only just now paid off a month's worth of PayPal debt; most of the debt came from paying off medical bills after i was injured in late April (currently contemplating pursuing legal compensation but nothing's set in stone).

i had to break NC twice for my father to help, but it's been triggering both times. i had to block his number before due to him harassing me via call/text, and he made me talk to police twice by falsely reporting me missing.

i cannot risk breaking NC again if my future job falls through or my partner loses theirs. we both had to skip meals several times within the past month to keep from buying food, so it's gotten scary already.

anything you can send helps. if you're unable to, PLEASE share this wherever you can. i also do writing commissions, so DM me to know my rates and what i'm willing to write.

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[vrson]

hey so. a LOT of people need help right now, i know, but uh...me too, actually.

i paid $909 in move-in fees for my current place on August 21. i checked the online resident portal again on August 31 to see if i owed anything, and it showed a balance of $0.00. i thought i was in the clear.

apparently rent balances aren't posted until the 1st of the month. so my rent is $359, and now that its september 3rd, they've tacked on a $50 late fee, which will increase to $10 per day as of the 6th. this is my bank account right now.

i need AT LEAST $226 to be in the clear. i JUST moved into this apartment, i have no idea why they decided its fine to charge me a months rent plus deposit and fees, and then charge me a full month's rent again TEN DAYS LATER, but until i can talk to the property manager on tuesday (which may or may not help), my only real option is to try to pay it before i get more late fees.

so yeah, if anyone has some money they can spare, i would greatly appreciate it. and i can try to pay you back (or pay it forward!) when im more steady on my feet here.

i also make art! i do watercolors, pen and marker drawings, paper flowers, and (simple) clay figurines. so if you want to commission me or get a sketch in return for a donation, send me a message! unfortunately i dont have a commissions post or anything available, but i can show you pictures of work ive done before.

anyway! if anyone can help me out i would greatly appreciate it! if you cant, i totally understand, and i appreciate reblogs too.

cashapp: $tarrokaard

paypal: (dm me for this one, id rather use cashapp if possible)

thanks in advance!

[lockdownuk]

Lockdown Diary Part 3

A personal account during the lockdown in the UK due to the Covid-19 outbreak.

23/03/2020 8:30pm Boris Johnson, UK Prime Minister, gives a live address to the nation to, effectively, put the country on lockdown to stem the spread of the deadly coronavirus strain, Covid-19.

Many of us have been self-isolating for days but this latest development within the UK in reaction to the pandemic feels very serious and very scary. I decided to keep a simple diary and where better but online.

Day 61: Writing this in the afternoon on day 62. An exercise driven day. Two walks and stair climb as usual plus I popped round Jeff’s early evening. First time I’ve been to his house, 1 Garden Row, Elmington. It’s further than I thought so, with walking there an back, I managed a daily total of 14km. It was good to see him and have a social (but social-distanced) beer. When I got home, @9:45pm, I made thai green chicken curry, watch The Report (a great, if worrying film) and then TikTok-ed until gone 5am!

Day 62: Typing this on day 64! Beer round Karen’s. Missed Sam’s quiz.

Day 63: Typing this on day 64! Beer round Karen’s. Again! Well, it is bank holiday Monday! Had dirty pizza for tea and watched The Heat. Again! It is the most piss funny film.

Day 64: Well, I have been feeling guilty about treatung the bank holiday w/e l;ike a bank holiday w/e. It’s dawned on me that that guilt is way too self-disiciplned. I got up about midday, usual two walks and stair climb but that’s it. I need to clean the house from top to bottom, get on top of my online courses, get the garden done, get the car fixed, go shopping…fucking hell - if only I had the time…

Day 65: Today I swapped Amazon prime free trial for about the 5th time in my life. Same card and address - will they get wind of my skullduggery. This is all so I can finish watching Hunters and catch Homecoming S2. I went shopping at Asda near Raunds. I wish I hadn’t, it’s no good for a comprehensive shop. Received an email from RCI inviting me to a Zoom meeting with Pal Mulcahy for a business update. I fear the worst. And it’s at 10:00am, FFS!

Day 66: Logged in an attended zoom forum with Paul Mulcahy and over 250 RCI staff this morning. The message was that there is going to be redundancies. I expected this and expected to fall victim. All staff that are going to be put through cionsultation would be contacted today. I however wasn’t! Very, very surpised. meanwhile, Nick Reilly asked to connect via LinkedIn (including become a LinkedIn staff team member -  that’s new to me so I’ll see what it is but I accepted the invitation) Later, I WhatsApp-ed him and asked who has been affected from IT. All he could tell me was no one on Jon Rodger’s team is under threat. Also, Mark C emailed - I’ll respond tomorrow. I got up at 09:00ish and had my mornming walk before the 10:00am meeting. I am now, at 09:30pm, fucking knackered. Dinner and then bed, methinks but not before one more episdoe of Hunters!

Day 67: Typing on Day 68. Got pretty drunk last night. I’ve got blisters from walking (new boots) so I don’t think I’ll walk tomorrow (well, today!).

Day 68: I did fuck all today. Got up after 1pm, no walking. I did manage to clean the bathroom (and smash my little mirror) and do my 26 stair climb. I am typing at 9pm and I feel whacked!

Day 69: I have an abscess. It’s not too painful (today) but I am going to call the dentist tomorrow (Monday). I think antibiotics are in order. I watched a film, which I actually started yesterday, called The Voices starring Ryan Reynolds, Gemma Arteton and Anna Kendrick. Fuuuuuuuuuuuucking weird. The closing credits are the most bizarre, in context, I’ve ever seen. But, in general, a very good film. Back to normal exercise regime today plus hovered the hall and stairs. Get me. It’ll be interetingh to see my Google Fit figures for May tomorrow.

Day 70: Contacted the dentist who advised salt water rinsing and ibuprofen. But, tbf, it’s a lot better today and the swelling has gone right down. The dentist I called was the Oundle House (Rodericks) one. I was not hopeful since last time I saw them they referred me to their Northampton clinic for root canal work which was quoted at over £600. However, the dentist was very nice, had my x-ray to hand from that last visit and seemed more interested in making sure I’m OK than gaining a paying customer. He still wants to see me when possible though! I must mention the weather. It has been glorious weather nearly every day throughout May (it’s June 1st today). Seriously sunny and like a holiday every day. The news mentioned it today - the level of sunshine throughout the transition from spring to summer is unprecedented, apparently. My T shirt tan is, quite frankly, ridiculous!

Day 71: Today’s ‘must mention’ is what’s going on in the US and it’s not particularly related to Trump. There was a black man killed while under arrest. George Floyd died Monday 25th May (8 days ago) A policeman, who knelt on his neck for minutes while he complained of not being able to breathe, has been charged with murder. Now there are riots and curfews and military intervention all over the country. It’s similar to the English riots of 2011. It’s worrying, sad, scary and not what the fight against the pandemic needs. Most of all, it’s racism rearing its ugly head yet again. I’ve had a normal-ish day. received an email from Jim checking in, talked to a recruiter about a promising job lead (although the hours are 8-5 which I am not happy about), talked to Barry across the road and sent Barzzy a WhatsApp. And I logged in Shaw Academy and started lesson one of module 2 of web Design. It’s been a while, so long overdue, but I only did about 15 minutes. Must try harder / do better! As I type, late (10:10pm) I have dinner cooking and a strange pain in my left side and am in the middle of No Country for Old Men. Don’t think I’ve seen it since the cinema (13 years!)

Day 72: As soon as (well, within a couple of days) I mention the weather, it turns. It’s rained a little and is a lot cooler (15° rather than mid-20s). Much better for walking, I have to say. I finished Hunters today (Amazon Prime series). While I enjoyed it, it got too surreal at the end. It is loosely based on the real story of Nazi hunters in the US in 1977 but the straying from loosely based to down-right ridiculous fiction annoyed me. If it goes to S2, I will watch it, however. Received some of my rental deposit back today (the law changed so that only 5 weeks rent can be demanded as deposit). Over £600. Nice.

Day 73: I made a short video for Marc and Clare’s 26th wedding anniversary. I ‘dressed up’ for it. I enjoyed doing it and I think it was appreciated.

Day 74: Typing on Day 75 for no other reason than I couldn’t be bothered on day 74! I received a letter either today or the day before (well, yesterday or the previous day!) from Mr Minos at the eye clinic informing me that, while there is some stuff going on in both eyes (garnered from the photo scans done at the last hospital appointment), he wants to see me in three months. Always a refief when that happens. Been getting into two series on Amazon: Alex Rider and Modern Love. One is a male Hanna, the other is soppy affairs of the heart based on real life stories (from essays written in the NY Times). Both enjoyable for totally different reasons.

Day 75: Lazyish day. Well, not really, just that I only went for one walk, alebit 6km andI got pissed on. Wehn the rain hit, it was also fucking freezing! Some of the clouds were stunning today, made for great photos. As I type, it’s 21:12, I’m listening the wonderful Phoebe Bridgiers. Now, I’m gonna make some tea and sup a few ales, I reckon.

Day 76: Done lots of walking today (over 13,000 steps) I made sausage casserole with too much chilli (scotch bonnet and birdeye). I had an online (fb) debate with Sam over whether the George Floyd murder was a racial.

Day 77: Received a new (used) wing mirror for the car. £18 with delivery, I reckon that’s a bargain. I cashed in £20 from Prolific as well, so I’m satisfied at the financial full-circle. Dropped the car off at Barnwell (Nene Valley Body Shop) and walked back - 7km. Just about to dive into tea - finishing the blazing hot sausage casserole from yesterday. Then I’m going to do some more Rubik’s cube practice with my recently acquired GoCube.

Day 78: Lots of daily walking, 26 stair climb, press-up and late nights watching TikTok (gone 3am this morning) are making for a constantly knackered Tim Stubbs. Today I made veg soup and cooked up some meatballs. Both are delish. How did I ever to learn how to conjure up such stuff? The Rubik’s cube learning is coming along except that I need good daylight to distinguish between the yellow and white faces on the flipping thing!

Day 79: Listening to Radio 6 most the day and the news is making for dire listening. Forecast of severe recession, especially if there is a second peak of the virus, which I think there will be. Plus, an offshoot of the George Floyd murder and the #BlackLivesMatter movement, institutions and town councils are being lobbied by campaigners to remove statues of anyone associated with things like slavery (one was toppled in Bristol at the w/e) and rename buildings etc. that were named after historical characters with any links to something that now is deemed wrong or offensive. I agree with it but it’s not pleasant to hear amongst other bleak news. Walked to Barnwell to collect my car - front trim reseated and new wing mirror fitted, £20 - bargain (I source the replacement wing mirror). But, also, forked out £165 on car tax! Cleaned the lounge from top to bottom. Knackering!

Day 80: Chatted with Dad and Rita - he’s pissed off with the slavery backlash but otherwise they are both OK. I saw Baz in the Tesco queue where I mentioned my disgust at the Thursday market being allowed (I found I could not maintain 2m at all times just walking to Tesco’s!) and that I really don’t want to catch Covid19 as I will probably die. Maybe a bit dramatic but he messaged me later today to say he’d been thinking on what I said and offered to shop for me. I replied that I am OK to shop but am scared at how people are taking things so much less seriously than when lockdown started yet the virus is still out there just as it was then! I am very touched at his massage. I thoroughly cleaned the bedroom and changed the bedclothes today. House work really knackers me out!

Day 81: Spare room cleaned today. Not much else to type about. It’s Friday, I making curried mince and I don’t feel like a beer. How I’ve changed!

Day 82: I did have beers last night. Ended up going to bed with daylight and dawn chorus for company. Today, when I woke, gone 1pm, I have been greeted by what can only be described as thoroughly depressing news from every quarter. This includes violence in the capital, further virus outbreak in Beijing. Fog’s political posts on FB make for depressing (but vaild) reading. I’m feeling thoroughly fed up today. Not even music can lift my mood…

…but, I am currently listening to Craig Charles on BBCR6 and, I have to say, he’s putting in quite an exceptional effort - there may be hope that my mood might lift, even at gone 8pm! I might have a beer or two and grab something postivity and enjoyment from the day after all.

Day 83: Another late one last night but up before noon today. Started watching something called Condor on Sky One. It’s OK - there’s stuff I wanna waytch on Amazon Prime but, more often than not, it keeps telling me there’s ‘a problem’ when I try to play anything. Pissing me off. I just checked and I have two weeks of the initial 12 of furlough to go. I shall started asking the questions about what might happen on the Connections website.

Day 84: Typing this on Day 85. On the way back from dropping off some shoes for Sean Davies at his brother’s (martin) I met Karen and she said why not pop round for a beer so I did. Certainly not used to a drink on a Monday so that, and the genral upheaval to my evening, while good fun and a nice change, put pay to my usual diary entry! I sorted Amazon Prime out by leaving the TV turned off for over an hour. Day 85: Tim did the garden today and it looks great. The pipes in the bathroom have been knocking loudly, on and off, for a couple of weeks now. Last night, they were so loud that today I took it upon myself to resolve it or ring Woodfords. So, having turned off the water, run the taps dry to get rid of any trapped air and then turned the water back on slowly, I discoved it’s the cistern and its pipes. Woodfords are arranging Corvee to visit. Meanwhile, leaving the water turned off at least stops the noise which is, otherwise, costant and unbearable! I emailed HR a couple of days ago about what’s happening in a couple of weeks time in terms of furlough when the 12 weeks will be up. Sue Cockimngs got back to me attaching an email Deryn sent on 15th May which I never received. Basically, they’ll extend furlough if need be and an update should be forthcoming late May/early June. Well, that time has passed, so who knows what is going to happen. The furlough scheme (CJRS) has been changed by the govenment, I’ve read, and it looks like any new people would have to have been furloughed by June 10th (it’s the 16th today) so no furlough rotation, which is annoying. The CJRS ends 1st October with employer contributions required from 1st August - that’s D-Day as far as I am concerned….so job hunting will have to step up a notch! Day 86: Pete’s birthday and he bought himself the same speaker as me. When I asked if it lived up to his expectations he mentioned it’s better through WiFi than Bluetooth. That confused me as I haven’t got WiFi available on mine…..long story short, I bought the wrong fucking speaker. I got a AudioPro AddOn T10 instead of C10. To say I am fucked off is an understatement. To think I was so pleased at the cheap price I paid. Now I feel like I have wasted  €200. Bollocks.

Day 87: Finished Alex Rider last night. Another series that started off so well and ended a litte weak but, overall, not bad. I’ve started keeping strange meal times…lunch very late (4pm) and dinner really late (11pm). I need to sort it ‘cos it’s playing havoc with my sugar levels. I had a huge hypo while having my second walk today, second day on the trot that’s happened. My late dinner was Chinese chicked curry with a quarter of a scotch bonnet and two birdeye chillies. Delish.

Day 88: I have managed to be bitten yesterday or the day before on one of my walks. There are strange, itchy lumps on my right inner forearm. And I do mean itchy. I trimmed my sideburns today, I was very pissed off with them. My hair looks just a little less shit. I did a shop at Tesco in Corby today. Mainly booze as follows: 20 cans Sam Miguel £18 18 cans Stella £15 20 bottles Bud £10 8 cans Tyskie £9 3 lrg bottles Warsteiner £5 £57 Bargain.

Day 89: Lazy day. One short walk and usual stair climb. Howard and Sue popped round to give me a pressie - bottle of Monkey Shoulder. I’m building up quite a collection of whisky!

Day 90: Dad called and we chatted for an hour or so. I had to apologise for not sending a father’s day card! Dan messaged me and offered to pay for a pizza delivery which I declined.

Football has started again this past week…Prem and Championship only. L1 and L2 season was cut short and Posh missed out on the play-offs by one place. As I type, Everton v Liverpool is on Sky Sports on a Sunday evening - it’s very strange with no crowd. There’s crowd noise being played thorugh the tannoy.

[themiddlelayer]

Just more Bitching

It’s not like my life is all that bad at all... things are generally awesome but I had another rough day yesterday. And there’s my job thing. And the unknown about whether or not Tampa got the job back in Florida... blah, blah, blah...

I’ve got about 45 minutes until I’m off work for the night. I’ve done a little bit of actual work today but in general have been super low on ‘fucks to give’ around here. My boss is out of the country another couple days so the upside is that I don’t have the impending fear that she’ll call me for no apparent reason. I had a conversation with another co-worker who said that the morale is in the toilet everywhere and that she was told by another department director there were more ‘big changes’ coming. You know it’s bad when fellow work-from-home team members are sensing the low morale and lack of direction we’re all feeling. 

Yesterday I got up early to try and get some schoolwork done while Tampa slept in a little. While sipping my coffee I did the usual checking e-mails and facebook and ended up logging into the site where the joint bank account with MM is at. It’s only technically ‘joint’ because we haven’t done paperwork to remove me, though. And I didn’t mean to snoop but when I opened it up to check my credit score tracker the ‘overview’ had a ridiculously high account balance so I went through the details.

Now, MM’s life and money aren’t my business and I like it that way, except that he’s asked for more than just the bills I’m taking out of the marriage in order to cover a gap in household expenses. He’s basically been whining that without my income he’ll have to decide which bills not to pay in the coming months. 

That said, imagine my rage when I saw two deposits for nearly $10K that came in this week. Plus a deposit on the 1st of the month for roughly what the deficit in finances (aka what he would ask for as rent) from the chick he brought to Cookie’s wedding. Oh, and the multiple $100+ dinners including 2 at the Brazilian steakhouse and a hotel in VEGAS. Fucker was bitching about money and instead of using some of it to cover the gap in expenses and, you know, living within his means, he has continued to spend like crazy and live like a rockstar. 

I took about an hour to cool off and do some schoolwork before initiating a conversation with him. It turned out that the big deposits were refunded interest from 2 credit cards who retroactively reduced the rate to the ‘military rate.’ The deposit from his GF was ‘her half’ of the Vegas trip. Now, she paid it on the 1st of the month but they didn’t go until the 8th... and if $455 was her HALF, what the fuck else did he do in Vegas that he put on his personal credit card?!? 

In the end, we agreed to get a legal separation agreement in place that will be effective the 1st of the year. This will make his money officially no longer my business, which is a huge relief. But the emotional fallout took its toll on my day for sure.

Tampa saw me before I talked to MM and then I updated him after I got out of my office. He was nothing but supportive and loving (as usual) but it brought up my insecurity over being financially dependant on him like I am. He’s continued to say that we can talk about money once things have settled down for me and in the meantime I’ve taken responsibility for the bulk of the housework and I buy almost all the groceries. It’s a good arrangement for us both, but it still puts me in a position where, if Goddess forbid, something happened between us I’d have to rearrange my life again with an income that *might* get me into a shitty little apartment here in Arizona. The possibility of moving back to Florida with him just adds another unknown on that front, too. 

The rest of our weekend was great, though. We went to sushi then I made cinnamon toast crunch bars (think rice crispy treats) with a couple medicinal snickerdoodles ground up and mixed in. I hadn’t made anything like these in awhile and they ended up looking, as Tampa’s buddy said, “Like jizz covered cheese-its.” And that was before we dealt with removing the wax paper backing. Next time, buttered parchment paper! Whoops! 

It turned out that the snickerdoodles made for a different kind of treat that left me feeling relaxed and happy but not stupid and hungry. Win! Oh, and I may have had a couple more bites of them this afternoon... I feel focused and able to concentrate but I want another one because they were so yummy. New rule: any medicinal treats need virgin versions made at the same time! 

Tampa had to go out of town for work this week so he won’t be back until late Wednesday or early Thursday. I’m hoping to get myself back on track with getting up at a reasonable hour while he’s away so I can get up and get motivated on my schoolwork and work work. 

Tonight’s project is to take pics of all my ‘fat clothes’ so I can sell them. I’ve gone through the bags and donated a bunch already but I’ve got some really nice dresses and bras that were barely worn as well as a bunch of jeans and nice work slacks. I’ve got to get myself a buffer going for next month when I have to get my own car insurance and register my car in my name. 

Tick tock... one of these days I’d like to have a job where I don’t start counting down to the weekend on Monday. 

[dredsina]

Since I know they came in without notifying me first in March 1st or before I'm revising my request for a refund of 18 days' March rent to a refund for all of March. Plus deposit plus compensation for the stuff they ruined. If they give me my full deposit back I'm saying the portion they owe me is $1250 and my roommate $750 (if she decides to press charges too). If they don't give me my deposit back, they owe me $1050 and her $950.

[mousedetective]

I have 13 days to find housing and I need help!

Google Fu, monetary, whatever, but guys I am maybe a few weeks away from getting the hell out of the car.

Here’s the sitch: my mom went to see her surgeon who did her mastectomy today (for the moment, we’ll call her Dr. T.) Dr. T. is a no-nonsense but really caring woman. I adore her and was so glad she was my mom’s surgeon for the procedure. My mom had her one-year check-up post surgery today and Dr. T. was righteously pissed we were homeless (not at us, just in general). 

And so she offered my mom $1K to put towards a deposit if we can find housing.

Like, this, plus my money plus my mom’s money plus this will get us a place.

We’re looking at Softwind Point right now. We need $700 in my mother’s account to apply, which will hold us an apartment, and covers application fees for both of us and the deposit (if we qualify...it may go up to $700 for the deposit). They have 1 and 2 bedrooms available, and Dr. T’s help will cover the pet deposit (of $1K, or $500 for each cat), so we would just need to come up with the first month’s rent, which if I can get the $700 now my mother and I should be able to cover between us with minimal help on the 1st.

PLEASE PLEASE HELP IF YOU CAN IN GETTING US $700!!! We would be out of the car around the 1st (possibly a little later if we get a place where people are moving out after the 1st) but guys, I could be in an apartment again by Thanksgiving.

PayPal

[chonzu]

i just realized i can’t come on here and shout ‘my roommate ripped me off 3 thousand dollars’ without context so like

Here’s the story

In April I was desperate. Because of a long string of bad luck I’d been unable to find a roommate to fill our 3bed 3bath condo and the upstairs bedroom had been vacant for some time. At that time I found Lacey, who I don’t give a shit about name dropping, because he’s a fucking piece of shit.

He moved in on May 8th, also my grad date. I felt a bit off about it because he was super fucking late after insisting he’d be there at a certain time, and I had a migraine, and I just wanted to sleep. It was okay till we got to June, and he had to start paying bills, and I didn’t get rent. So I gave him the benefit of the doubt and asked for it by a certain date.

By this time I’ve already decided I’m moving out. The third bedroom ends up vacant on Father’s Day because that roommate was moving to New York and just happened to leave on that day. I don’t hear or see Lacey for some time and he comes home one day and just decides to deep clean the whole house. At this point, I’m working as much as I possibly can and doing anything I can do to 1) get sleep and 2) get enough money to cover all the bills.

July 1st I get nothing. At the same time, I’m trying to apply for a new apartment, and I got a new job offer, and my old manager made me work EVERY SINGLE DAY of my 2 week notice. I’m trying to squeeze in a vision appointment and a dentist appointment and then found out I need to get a filling immediately or within the next few months it’d be a root canal. Okay! I tell Lacey he needs to leave by the end of the week. I wanted to press charges, but my aunt, who has a law degree, or masters, or some shit and has been working in law for a really long time, said that it wouldn’t be worth it and the money I wanted to sue him for would barely cover the fees that would come with it. Okay. Fine. I go to the police because I woke up that morning and a set of keys was gone and all the couch cushions (5) were missing. Law says that after living there 30 days whether or not someone is on the lease, they have a right to live at the house (unless they’re doing drugs or prostituting or whatever). Tenant rights. I had to get the landlord involved. Because what I was doing is illegal, and the landlord has to evict him legally, which takes 30 days.

So July 6th I have a convention to go to. It’s great. I’m having a fucking amazing time with a lot of good D&D friends I’ve met and do some board games and a 4 hour one shot. That evening I tried sushi for the first time and real ramen for the first time and when we’re watching a movie that evening Lacey tries calling me through FB like 7 times. He insists he’s going to have all the money and he just needs One More Day after already begging for one. I come home that evening at around 12:30 AM and go to bed. He comes in at 1 AM shittalking me and telling the new guy I’m a disgusting pig and he did me a favor by cleaning everything because it was covered in grime and shit (he’s a compulsive liar, I’m not surprised). So I messaged him that I can hear him and to tell the new guy I’m leaving by the end of the month. I hear his phone go off and he huffs and leaves me on read. The next day the sink is full of every single piece of silverware in the house and the counter is full of dirty dishes.

Cut to yesterday. I bought a storage unit because I’m going on vacation and if I get this apartment the move in day is August 10th. I get back late in the evening and come home to the water shut off. New guy is like, yo, what’s going on? And I explain that I cannot turn the water back on, and he has to if he is renewing the lease, because Lacey never paid me a dime and I couldn’t afford it. He runs out and gets me half of the bill and I got it back on today. But now I’m down to less than 100$ to my name (except for cash I’ve stowed away for my trip/graduation money) and I need boxes, tape, and cat food, among some other things. By this point, everything he owes me comes to about 2000 dollars. New guy, just before getting the money, tells me that he gave Lacey the first and last month’s rent and signed a paper saying that he agreed to pay the money to Lacey. And then he stops, and whispers ‘why did he ask me for the money when you’re the one who pays the rent?’ and then drops the bomb that Lacey hurriedly left yesterday morning with a haphazardly stuffed bag and neither of us are sure if he’s coming back and he still has the keys.

New coworker found court records that he’s been arrested like 7 times for drugs and doing shit on probation and now at this point he’s basically stolen 3000 dollars from me and the new guy.

I don’t know if my last paycheck this Friday will be deposited or mailed by paper. New job gets paid this week, but this is my first week, so I’m going to get first week, second week, and third week all together (all of them mailed to me, getting here ‘whenever they get here’). 

Now you might be asking, how did you let Lacey do this to you? I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I was in a very similar situation he was (homeless, working crazy jobs, just looking for a place to start new). But, since he gave me that first month’s rent, he covered himself to be able to stay for at least 60 days, 90 days max. Thankfully he ended up leaving, I think, but neither me nor the new roommate know if that’s actually going to happen. 

I told the office today that I’m leaving and not renewing the lease. I haven’t gotten a response, but I checked my spam and realized they’d sent me a very similar question about it 20 minutes prior to me sending my email, and still no response, and the office is now closed.

And I’m screaming because all of my tax return AND all of my fucking graduation money are being ripped out of my hands just to live, and I cannot get an eviction on my record if I want this apartment, and my credit has fucking tanked because my power and water keep getting shut off, and the new guy won’t renew the lease because Lacey was Probably on drugs and it made him super uncomfortable. I’m trying to get an apartment with a close friend who’s going to be moving in September and I don’t know how I’m going to survive this month, honestly, because the burnout of working retail and having no time off plus trying to adjust to new policies in a corporate office and dealing with this AND trying to at least do something fun every day and living off whatever scraps I can find while gathering change for some Monster energy drinks is....

Not a good time.