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Can I request a insight into Kakashi with vegan/vegetarian s/o please? If it's not too much bother, I'd like to know how you imagine the couple would adjust? What Kakashi would think, how they adjust their meal habits, if he likes the food, if they cook together or if they cook for each other still, etc. Thank-you

I think Kakashi would be fine with a vegan/vegetarian s/o. I can see him enjoying the food, and most of it is healthy and he strikes me as a health nut.

More logistically, it depends, if the s/o does the majority of the cooking, then obviously he'd adapt to eating mostly vegetarian food and only eat meat if he's cooking for himself or if he eats out. If the s/o wants a more equal split, then he'll cook vegetarian meals etc on his days but I don't think he'd switch to completely cooking 100% vegetarian food for all of his time. They'd enjoy cooking together too!

The only time I see it being an issue is if a) the s/o expects him to assume all cooking responsibilities

b) adopt to their values

In terms of what he'd think - he's pretty open-minded and understanding, but whether he'd follow it himself is a whole other story. I think it comes down to a cultural thing - having lived in Japan, there's just a completely different attitude and philosophy to eating meat and animal consumption, so that's largely why I don't think he'd necessarily be compelled to adopt a plant-based diet himself. It's so deeply entrenched into the culture here - I don't think I've ever met a Japanese vegetarian/vegan in all my time living here and I've asked if they ever consider it, they always say no. I have a few dietary restrictions myself and I've ran into a lot of people just *not* getting it. But like i said, I definitely see him enjoying vegetarian food, but I still feel like he would want meat and fish in his diet.

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Hi, there again! Thanks for answering my question (I'm the one who asked the 'situationship' question)!

Okay, so I wanted to write a civilian x kakashi fic myself because I see most fics avoid it these days (understandably). I'm Inoue shiori fan, fanfictions got me into the "Kakashi cult", for the context. And I wanted to try something more traditional? Sorry I'm going off. But then, I read this fic ( I adore it btw), Idk if you've read it; https://archiveofourown.org/works/5059978/chapters/11637067, (it also has a sequel where the whole ordeal is from Kaka pov) I got tired just reading the fic with how evasive Kakashi was being (or maybe that was my 3 am memory exaggerating). So, I decided to drop my endeavour.

So, how how would you rate kakashi's behaviour there(if you have time to read, (´∩｡• ᵕ •｡∩`), please)?

Haha i've never been asked to read a fanfic and what I think of it before. I find the people that became big fans of Kakashi through fanfic super interesting, I didn't venture into fics until I was nearly out of the fandom tbh.

Anyway, I have read this fic before! It was YEARS ago and I remember loving it, and the writer was very talented, even though of course I'm sure that I might not agree with every little aspect of the portrayal of Kakashi, just because we are different people and that's what happens when we all create our own works of an established character. I definitely don't have time to read it again though, and I haven't read a fic in literal years, so I'm not sure if I can really get on the fic train again any time soon! But I remember reading this writer's other story, The Wolf, and loving it!

But just to answer your question - I do think it's realistic af that Kakashi would be evasive and the s/o would have to be persistent in their faith, as annoying as that might be, but I can't answer specific details. That would involve reading it again which is time I don't have, and also going all in on picking apart someone else's work publicly, which feels a little strange for me, aha.

I hope that's okay!

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Romantic sex with Yamato Tenzou on honeymoon after wedding????

i'm so sorry, i think i saw this ask briefly when i was checking my phone during my trip, then promptly forgot all about it till I just saw the '1' in my inbox and was like hmm? whats that?? and THEN I REMEMBERED!

anyway! im not gonna write a fic, sorry if thats what you wanted, but that just isn't on the cards at the moment. So I don't really know what you want me to do with this beyond talking about it a little 😭 i'ma ramble and hope for the best.

Yamato definitely seems one for sensual, romantic, intimate sex more than anything else tbh, so I see honeymoon sex as the absolute epitome of that for him. Just filled with so much love and passion for his s/o. The first two ideas that came to me were:

a) sex on the beach. or, because, that's not very romantic in practice, sex at maybe a beach house or something? or after a night time walk alongside the beach (seriously nights by the beach are the most sexy times i swear). but maybe not sex on the literal beach cuz who wants sand in your orifices. not me.

b) ryokan! maybe the honeymoon is at an onsen. And just yeah you both are wearing yukatas and on futons and things get a little heated and it's very down to earth and very, very lovely. maybe a monkey steals your clothes. idk.

But yeah, I feel like the sex is slow, very slow, but lengthy and passionate. He'll be a little more... autonomous? Is that the right word? I just mean that he'll be a bit more zealous, a bit less being led along by his s-o, taking the lead? a bit? more than he does usually, but I just mean that generally, when the sex isnt super intimate or romantic, he tends to just get swept along by whatever his s/o wants. If that makes sense, lmao. I don't mean that he's necessarily a sub, he's just not the most... active guy in the world. But this is one of those instances where he really wants to show you what you mean to him, what this means to him, how happy he is to be married to you and how much he wants to give you an amazing time as opposed to having an amazing time together.

so yamato's thing is making you feel safe and protected whilst realising your own autonomy and independence at the same time? both inside and outside of the bedroom. Like he'll be there for you but you'll never have your own wants or needs compromised. That can be bad cuz it means he won't tell you about hsi wants or needs in the same way, and you might realise too late if you've been selfish. cuz, tbh, there will be times where you *should* have to compromise your wants in a marriage, but yamato'll try to avoid that for your sake to his own detriment.

some slightly more explicit hcs:

i feel like yamato is as sturdy as a literal tree and i feel like he would last for a hella long time... with the caveat that it's much harder when you're on top

he makes nice noises <3 they're deep and guttural.

lots of burying his face into your neck, and collarbone kisses etc when he's on top. very affectionate and passionate <33

he has a thing for nipple play, both giving and receiving

oral is his go to for foreplay

not very kinky, but i feel like he wouldn't be above using wood style in the bedroom. you may have to convince him a lil, tho

And that's it for now! Sorry these arent very good, a bitch is tired

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ok i think i'm going to die of cuteness when i think of kakashi meeting his newborn son for the first time. After giving birth, that's where our copy ninja has a lot of mixed feelings and we know that being a father terrifies him, but that feeling of love and warmth overcomes him greatly when he sees his newborn in the arms of his beloved and hugs him for first time. I have a feeling that Kakashi deserves all the love he had to suffer in the past and as a new life with his new family.

FOR SURE ANON AAHHHHH

kakashi meeting his newborn son is my favourite thing to write/imagine. i've probably written that scene *SO* many times but i'm just unable to be satisfied with whatever i come up with but i am gonna do more with it. Without giving too much away for the last ignominy instalment, that's essentially a big part of the third/final chapter. kakashi being a father and meeting his son and all the love and angst and being reminded of his own father that that entails. I just didn't know whether I should write it as part of that or a separate one-shot because it feels more self-indulgent and less canon-compliant because i wanted to minimise anything approaching OC or SI with Ignominy, but I decided to go ahead cuz I think it would make the story full circle and complete it in the best way, and I already decided it'll be part of that but i might do a longer thing on it one day.

ANYWAY he absolutely loves his son right away, so much more than he ever thought he was capable, and he's so scared to be so consumed by that so instantly and so entirely, and that something so small and so vulnerable and innocent is now in his care, and that he helped *create* this tiny thing? i honestly think he'd have trouble holding the baby right away. he'd really need a gently encouraging and understanding s/o. it's just so overwhelming. He's always doubting whether he's 'good enough' for anything good, he just really sees himself as never deserving this kind fo thing... Just being a man that's taken so many lives to help bring something pure like a child into the world, and to have people he cares about depend on him? And then if it's a son there's also the father/son drama and what kind of man this baby boy will become and whether Kakashi thinks of himself as a good enough model for him whilst also comparing himself to his own father. It's easier to die to protect a random civilian lmao than have a family, have people to worry about and worrying about him in turn. There's just so much going on, so many emotions that are just gonna be so intense and conflicting.

But you're totally right, and I want him to have a picture perfect family so badly and YES he absolutely deserves it. he's the kind of man that would shy away from it and not realise how much he wanted it till it actually happens too. it's not long till he honestly feels so happy, and above all lucky, something he's not used to feeling.

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hi! feel free to answer this or not however you see fit! but i’ve seen a lot of discourse lately related to sacrifice and s/o when it comes to villains vs heroes and i was wondering do you think that kakashi if driven and forced to this point, would ever sacrifice his s/o for konoha. like if it really came down to his s/o and saving the world and being able to save his people, would he do it? regardless of if they would want him to or ask him to do it, do you think he would?

Hello!!

Thank you so much for the question!! Lemme attempt to think this through

But man, this is a tough one. Because Kakashi is so loyal to his home and doing the right thing, but that 'not letting your loved ones die' has been beaten into him through trauma and survivor's guilt and everything else, and this situation is those two things coming into conflict very intensely.

TLDR: if the s/o is now a villain, he probably would. In other circumstances, I don’t think he could, not without throwing his own life away in the process.

More rambles under the cut:

I guess the first thing it would depend on is how it’s established that his s/o *must* die for the sake of the village. Like, if that idea is coming from his superiors or the Hokage or something like that, and he has orders from them, I don’t think he’ll obey them to be honest. He’s Kakashi, he’s smart, he’ll think of something and we’ve seen before that he’s okay going against orders to protect or help people close to him. So I think if it’s a case of ‘your mission is to kill Y/N because the village/world is at stake’ he’s going to work around it and not directly follow those orders, whilst still doing absolutely everything he can for the village. This is one of those instances where he trusts his own intellect and skills, so I don’t honestly think he’s even beginning to feel conflicted about what he should do in a scenario like this. Like obviously he’s not gonna even begin to consider harming his s/o unless he’s thought about absolutely everything and done everything he can. It seems weird to describe Kakashi as optimistic, but I think he is in some ways - in that he’s not willing to give up hope easily, and despite what some people say, he’s not willing to blindly follow orders and he’s shown that multiple times in the series.

I think where this has the potential to be angsty and horrible is if it really does become clear to him that it’s a matter of the village/world and his s/o. Especially when you remember that he was forced into this position with the whole Rin/three tails jinchuuriki (I know that’s not the exact same as the s/o situation but she’s a loved one) and he was basically forced to kill her for the village? I really think he’d be much more willing to kill or sacrifice himself before he’d ever let himself harm a s/o. Or rework the situation where they could both sacrifice themselves. Because he really, really doesn’t want to lose anyone else, and not his s/o of all people. It’s just too much. (This is kind of what he does near the end of the series with Obito - he’s not just willing, he’s happy to be dying with him and sacrificing himself to protect Sasuke and Naruto, until Obito stops him)

Another thing worth mentioning is that I think Kakashi’s s/o would have a self-sacrificing nature as well - because that’s really at the root of who he is too and important to him - and they also would not want him to agonise over this decision, and I think if he refused to choose the village over them, they would not let him. Maybe they’d choose to kill themselves so he wouldn’t have to make the choice, a little like Rin (though hopefully they die in a less, well, selfish (?) way than she did), or stop him from doing anything stupid like try to join him.

So, I think in most cases, Kakashi wouldn’t be able to kill his s/o. He’d very much want to die instead, or die trying to stop the conflict… or even die with them.

Because at the crux of it, the only time I see Kakashi being able to resolve himself enough to kill his s/o is if they are a villain who is actively coming against his home and his village and the entire world. It’s just dawned on me that that could be what you mean. In all other circumstances he probably wouldn’t be able to kill them, he’d die instead or die with them like I said, but this one - after trying every other avenue, pleading with them, fighting them into submission - he would resolve to stop them even if it comes to their death.

I’m just thinking about the Kakashi VS Obito fight and the way his fingers tremble after he Raikiri’s him through the heart; but he steels himself and clenches his fist before pulling out- I really think he might be able to kill his s/o if they were the villain: it’s just, if he thinks they’re long gone, and if he doesn’t stop them, more precious people will die and so will innocents and the stakes are even higher if it’s the whole world and if his s/o is the active cause of this conflict… he just couldn’t live with himself not doing everything he could to stop them. He’d convince himself in a ‘I’m protecting them and the world from themselves, I’m protecting the version of them I fell in love with’ kind of way. It’d be horrible and difficult, and Kakashi would be very happy to die straight after or in the process, but he just can’t let the s/o do this to themselves, above all else.

So I guess to answer your question: no, he wouldn’t - with the exception of being forced to, or if the s/o is a villain to the point of no return.

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KAKASHI KAKASHI KAKASHI

Omg yes thank you so much @jazzi-fizz I had a feeling that if anyone would ask it’d be him first but ok ok ok I'm so sorry in advance if I ramble but you ask about this man it's kinda is what it is

Kakashi Hatake

favorite thing about them

Oooh one thing? This is really hard. What attracted me most to him as a character is his humility and his strength in his stoicism, his quiet will to endure if that makes sense? Man’s been through hell of a lot but he just carries on for the sake of those around him and has more mental fortitude than he’s given credit for and he's wise for his age but he can also be chill and sometimes dorky and I like his well-roundedness, I guess. He is a good person even if he comes off differently, and he can’t see how good he is, and that makes me love him 😭 I like how his low-key nature is belied by something deeper. He has like, the kind of masculine traits that are more low-key and overlooked but I find super attractive.

least favorite thing about them

He has a tendency to... passivity, I guess? I guess it’s the lackadaisical part of his personality, the part of him that’s just happy to... just die and fade away into nothing and just see himself as how useful he can be to those around him? He doesn’t live for himself too much in any meaningful way, and it’s always kinda sad to watch. Like, on one level his self-sacrificial nature can be admirable and on another it's sad.

favorite line

He has so many good ones omg. I love the lessons he instils into the kids when they're little? He says something to Sakura after the Rock Lee/Gaara fight that;s like, there are times when condolences are crueler or something like that. Like, deep, bro. I know he was quoting someone else but i also loved the line he gave where he said 'to know what is right and to ignore it is the act of a coward'. That one's probably my favourite.

BUT, I wanna mention, one that's popping into my head right now is the one at the end of the Land of Waves arc, Naruto looks away from Zabuza's body and Kakashi says something like 'when you live your life as a warrior, this is how it ends.' Idk, it had an impact on me even as a kid, it just brought a lot of gravity to the situation and Idk, the kind of respect he'd had from someone he'd been fighting to kill for the whole arc and it's just one that got me thinking about men and soldiers and war. Like, I used to be obsessed with WW1 literature and it kinda harkened back to that, I guess.

brOTP

Kakashi and Gai, obviously. I really loved their dynamic and friendship for so long before coming to tumblr tbh, where I kinda fell out of love with it (I just felt that both these characters are so much more than the other character but they just got reduced to that), but I’m appreciating it again. 

OTP

This is a cliche answer but none. I really don’t have any for him. He just doesn’t have any characters that I see him having romantic chemistry with - I don’t approach ships like most people, so I’m not super excitable or imaginative about ships to begin with, like, there are some I like and dislike, but I really don’t get invested in the idea of them unless they’re a huge part of the show itself, and that’s never been really why I enjoyed Naruto and Kakashi just doesn't have that with any characters for me. So, because i don't really have an answer, I'll tell you who I can see him being compatible with - he actually would work really well with Shizune, they'd balance and complete each other in a lot of ways, and he'd be good with Mei Terumi too, because you know, sexy man, sexy woman, power couple, both Kages, she has this understated badass feminine energy and Kakashi has this lowkey subtle badass masculine energy so I like that. His personality complements Iruka quite well too, he'd be compatible with him I think. The kind of bond he has with Obito is easier to reimagine romantically than it is with some of his other ships too.

NOTP

I really don’t like any of his ships 😂  the student ships are particularly indigestible to me, and specifically during my teens I really hated Kakash x Sakura (it’s still probably my least favourite one, but no offense to any followers of mine who ship it), but like... I love Kakashi and Gai as a brotp, but I really don’t get KakaGai in a non-platonic sense, I really don’t (I'm sorry, I feel like that’s sacrilege on this website, and tbh that;s probably what’s emboldened my... confusion? of it).

random headcanon

Everyone says Kakashi is a dog person, and he is, but he is an animal person! He really likes being in nature and around animals in general, more than people. He would never turn his nose up at a cat and he'll watch some birds out of his window when he's half-asleep in the morning. I dont see him as a huge plant person but he's also got a hell of a green thumb, he probably just has one plant that he loves, but i like to think he has an appreciation and deep understanding of nature.

unpopular opinion

Lol I am the queen of unpopular opinions and I have a lot when it comes to Kakashi. Firstly, he’s not nearly as weak or as passive as a lot of the fandom would have you believe. Idk maybe fans want to make him more relatable and project onto him but they make fanon Kakashi a lot less functional and competent than he is in canon? He’s not defined by his depression or ptsd either. I think people on here feminise him far too much too (just something I’ve noticed, particularly with shippers. To me it’s a clear case of fan projection. Which is valid, but not what I get out of a show. Also, kinda unrelated but tumblr has this thing where they make established badass male characters into ‘uwu soft boys’ and I’m kinda allergic to it lmao)

Also, this is probably only unpopular on tumblr, but I'ma say it, I’ve always just had typical straight guy vibes from this man? Obviously people can see him how they want and I don’t really want to contest with anyone’s headcanons, but i’m someone that just goes by the source material, so when I see the idea of Kakashi with a woman being met with a lot of hostility and derision, it... confuses me a little. 

song i associate with them

Oh, lots, but at the moment it’s a tie between What a catch, Donnie by Fall out Boy and Please, Please Let Me Get What I want by The Smiths

favorite picture of them

It's so hard to pick one oh my god. There are so many good fanarts that depict him well, this is one of my favourite ones though. They depict his vibe and Kishimoto's art style so well.

In terms of from the series, again, so much, but i'm a sucker for the first time we see Kakashi's hair wet and I'm also a sucker for Kishimoto's manga art.

Sorry I went on for so long! It's lowkey dangerous asking me about Kakashi lmao I saw this just before I went to bed and I couldn't stop myself.

Anyway, I'm still happy to do these for other characters!

Send me a character here and I'll fill this out!

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I'm so sorry for disappearing hehe, here's my question:

You know how after Kakashi and Naruto became Hokage, they were called Rokudaime and Nanadaime even by people who knew them on a first name basis. Now I know hierarchy, formality and respect are very important in Asian culture (being Asian myself) so would this same concept extend to their spouses?

Like if Kakashi got married, would his spouse have to call him Rokudaime-sama too?

Ah, so the short answer is no, you most definitely wouldn’t. I think people using formal and extremely respectful honorifics like -Sama with their spouse would be considered extremely unusual. It might even be considered rude and detached, like you hate your husband or are *so* distant or below him that you can’t call him by his name. Another thing I just thought of - at home, it’s much more common to call people in your household or family by their role in the family. Like what’s common in Japanese culture is once a married couple becomes parents, the couple stop addressing each other by their name and start calling them ‘Otou-san’/‘Okaa-san’ even when their children aren’t there. My Japanese teacher told me she and her husband started addressing each other like that even before she had their baby. My point is, it’d be weird for Kakashi’s public and professional role to also carry over into the household.

I think people you know intimately would call you as they always have. And I think the call them on a first name basis thing in Naruto’s context doesn’t necessarily mean that they were close before and now they’re not, it’s just the fantasy world doesn’t lend itself well to the typical Japanese ‘referring to people by their last name’ thing. You’ll notice anime set in the real world or in school/work or quasi-school/work settings do that a lot, but not so much in fantasy worlds like Naruto. Because a lot of the character distinguishability is coming from their names. Like, If Naruto was set in a Japanese high school, they’d likely call each other by their last names as many other anime like that do.

My point is, the fact that people who called Kakashi and Naruto by their first names and then by their titles after they became Hokage doesn’t mean that they’re necessarily becoming much more formal with someone they were formerly close with. Acknowledging their new title and hierarchy probably is important, especially in a professional setting, and that’s probably why they do it (like how in Boruto Naruto had Boruto not call him dad when he was doing hokage business, and Kakashi told Boruto to call him Lord Sixth in front of the other genin), but I definitely don’t see this applying to someone Kakashi is involved with romantically, or his family or close friends.

I hope that answered your question, Po! It wasn’t stupid at all!

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Hi if Yamato and his female partner are on long mission like 4 or 5 months mission, will they have feelings for each other? I don’t mind if you want to add nsfw

I love your writing

Hey!

I'm not sure if you were expecting a fic or if you were just asking the question generally (the 'if you want to add nsfw' part made me unsure) but I'm not sure I have any inspiration to write a fic like this about Yamyams? I dont even have energy for my own wips right now lmao, so I think I'll just answer the question more generally if that's okay!! Feel free to clarify if I misunderstood.

But to answer your question, I would imagine so :O Like, spending so much time just the two of you together in a high stake situation over a period of months would be the prime context for developing feelings for each other 😂 like it's almost a given, especially if there was already even slight attraction between them. I still think Yamato's the kind of guy to develop his feelings slowly over time, though, and I don't necessary seeing him being bold or forthcoming with them either, unless he's sure the girl feels the same way. I don't see him necessarily 'making a move', if that makes sense. But there could be a tense moment, something that sends his or both of their emotions into overdrive etc that would lead to a confession... I just see him with an s/o that would be the bold one, at least at first. Like the girl might be the one to be open with her feelings first? Unless she tries to coax them out of him.

And as for sex, yeah it might take a while for Yams to build to that. It's difficult for him to be the overcome by passion/ 'I need to take you now' kind of guy (not saying he's incapable of it, I just don't see him really opting for that unless his partner is *more* than forthcoming and imploring from the get go, or he's known them a really long time). He suits the kind of person that'll gently coax him out of his shell and push him out of his comfort zone while still 'seeing' him and understanding him, so they might not rush into a sexual relationship - or at least, sex is totally possible, but I don't see him initiating it.

I hope that answered your question! Tbhh I have a massive headache right now lol. Also, thank you <3 I'm happy you like my writing <3

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Kakashi's reaction when his kids asks him how their grandfather Sakumo died? Like they hear so many stories from him from their dad and how he was a great person and they visit his grave alot (I think if kakashi got married and settles down with y/n sakumos grave would be in their backyard somwhere.) and maybe one day he's shaving or something, and his daughter comes up to him and asks, "Daddy, how did grandfather die?"

OH MY GOSHHHH I think about these kind of scenarios all the time like Kakashi randomly shaving and his kids popping up out of nowhere to ask him shit and ahhh this is sad aw.

Anyway, I'm kind of iffy about moving graves lol but yeah I totally see something like that happening, more likely that Kakashi and his wife setting up a shrine or memorial place for Sakumo in their house as is common in a lot of East Asian cultures. I actually like the idea of his s/o being the one that takes a lot of pride in Sakumo and the one that makes sure the kids pay their respects to their grandfather etc and Kakashi's the one they go to with all the questions? It's just that Kakashi is a lowkey and modest man and I can't see him being like 'oh yeah my dad was so awesome etc' but he would be so touched to see his wife encouraging their children to remember his father and to make sure they're thinking of him fondly.

But as for his kids asking him about Sakumo's death... Ughhh my heart. It's not that the question hurts him or is difficult emotionally... He's not ashamed of his dad, after all, it's just... it's hard to explain suicide to children, and whilst I don't see him necessarily wanting to lie to them, he definitely doesn't want them to think about something so heavy and place that burden on them, if that makes sense? But at the same time, he wants them to know, you know? Not all the gnarly details, but Sakumo's death carried a lot of weight and also made Kakashi a part of who he is and also, he's proud of his dad and wants his kids to be too.

In terms of what he'd say, I think it'd be similar to that filler episode of Kakashi taking team 7 to Sakumo's grave and explaining who he was? (Do you remember that? Did I make that up? I think it happened during one of the infinite tsukuyomi fillers, maybe Tsunade's?). He'd frame it like a story. Like ughhh my brain isn't working right now but it'd be very simple: 'Once, your grandfather had a mission. He had to make a very difficult choice. He saved the lives of his comrades over his mission. Some people back home couldn't understand him, and made life very difficult for him, and then, your grandpa suffered a lot, and in the end, he passed away.'

He might tell them it was a suicide, but I don't think he necessarily needs to - but he'd end with telling them how proud he is of Sakumo, and how they should be too. And that somewhere, somehow, he still loves them, and is watching over them.

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Kakashi Word Prompt Headcanons

I wrote these a while ago, the first event I did actually, but these are hard to find in my blog so i thought I'd put them in their own separate post :)

Bell, Hand and Copper

Fire and Dust

Flower and Wild

Glass and Bloom

Gold and Bone

Heart and Sun

Noodles and Bed

Snow and Ice

Blood

Twist and Stone

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I have a kakashi related question! If Kakashi were to fall in love/ date someone younger, how many years younger would she have to be?

IIIIIII don't think it could be a larger age gap than 5-6 years, realistically. Any more than that is pushing it, unless she really is exceptionally mature for her age, which is totally possible, but also really not that common, despite what some people might like to think. I just think stability and emotional maturity are *really* important for him and is going to be needed to work through his barriers and issues and sometimes younger people mistake intelligence/not doing typically ‘young people’ things for maturity, you know? So it would have to be someone truly mature for her age if she were significantly younger, and they’d obviously have to have met after adulthood anyway.

That’s not to say someone with a lot of optimism and zest for life isn’t a good thing, I think someone like that could be really important for Kakashi. Also, he doesn’t mind having a more inexperienced s/o, one that can learn from him etc in a variety of ways. It’s natural to him anyway because he has so many areas where he’s experienced, talented, knowledgeable etc and someone that appreciates that and finds utility and admiration in it is nice. Not in an arrogant way (though sometimes the ego boost is nice) but it’s nice because it helps him feel useful, dependable. He actually does like that, in part because it’s a way he can feel like he’s offering something to her? Something he might be able to objectively say is a reason worth being with him, when his mind tells him he doesn’t deserve her. So I don’t think he’d mind a slight age gap of a few years like I said, and he wouldn’t mind being with someone of a lower rank to him.

But he has a lot of reservations about being with someone a lot younger than him. First is… drama. Plz no drama. The older he gets the more he values ease in his life and relationships and so he’d struggle with a volatile s/o and a younger s/o usually has the potential to bring a lot of drama with her. Just, like I said, emotional maturity is really important and he can’t be assed with an s/o that plays games and he has to spend a lot of effort mentally as well as physically. Also I don't think he always has the energy to match a much younger woman and this is something that would play on his mind. He’s someone that feels like he’s a lot older than he actually is anyway, and it’d bring out some of his insecurities, like what exactly does she see in him, hes too old etc, other people’s perceptions. He'd definitely feel a bit weird about it, especially at first. So I think she’d need to be pretty adaptable too. This goes for any s/o, not just a younger one.

They just need to be on the same wavelength, maturity wise and expectation wise, and have something in common, and this is a lot less likely with a much younger s/o. It’s not that the idea of Kakashi say, in his 40s, with an s/o in her 20s is impossible, it just comes with a lot of apprehension for him and it’s not something he’s gonna actively look for, so I just think it’s pretty unlikely. One situation where I can see it happening is if in Boruto-era he isn’t settled, I can imagine if he gets married and has a family the s/o might be ten or so years younger but the same things about maturity etc would still apply.

But to reiterate my answer to your question (I’m sorry for rambling so much), I do think it’d be a limit of 5-6 years. Someone who is younger so can offer that new perspective that would be good for him, and could learn from him in turn, but not so young that the relationship dynamic feels weird to him or like that there’s a huge gap in maturity.

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Oh this should be fun! Kakashi with a daughter or a kid who has the same person as kid naruto? Hotheaded, energetic, and somewhat impulsive? I think if he say her like that then he'd restrict her from being chunin for a while just like sasuke did with his daughter oof

Looool poor Kakashi as if the man doesn't have enough exuberant people in his life.

I guess Kakashi would be both exhausted and also endeared? Like, a Naruto type is a lot, and they're so different in personality that that can be tiring, but at the same time, he has a few people in his life with that temperament that mean a lot to him, so it's something that makes him smile, too. Make no mistake, there are times when he wishes she was a bit more like himself in temperament, and he also has no idea *how* this happened because who the hell does she take after? Not him, that's for sure. But he's pretty good at managing her, is laid back for the most part, calm, patient - but strict and good at putting his foot down when he has to, too. He doesn't really try to match her energy levels but he's content to just let her be and encourage her and discipline her where appropriate. His daughter does still respect him, I feel, and will listen when she feels like he has to. But they keep each other on their toes in different ways lol.

To address your last point, I definitely think Kakashi would be really strict about any of his children getting promotions. Just because he was promoted so young, and he just knows that even if they do have the skills, it might not be good for them, even if the village is much more peaceful now. He's good at recognising when risks and challenges are appropriate for his children and isn't overprotective in that sense, but he's also going to make sure they're mature enough mentally and is also not going to put them in situations he doesn't think they can handle. So yeah, definitely no promotions before she's ready and he would make sure that other people of authority in the village agree before he's gonna make his impulsive daughter a chuunin. This might be a point of contention for his daughter, she might think her dad is too strict, but at this point she should see it as a challenge and set about proving him wrong. Which he believes she can do, but she's gonna have to do it first.

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Kakashi NSFW Alphabet

18+ CONTENT AHEAD - NO MINORS - ANY MINORS CAUGHT INTERACTING WITH THIS POST WILL BE BLOCKED

Okay, attempt 2 - That’ll teach me to try ever posting from the mobile app. This is a rewrite from scratch and I’m way too tired to reread and see if it makes sense or if there are typos, it’s probably not a good thing this is longer than the original though.

No one asked for this, no one at all, and I know everyone’s done these but hey, it’s Kinktober, and you can never have too many Kakashi headcanons, right? Right? Right. I hope you enjoy these!! Goes without saying that these’ll be smutty. It’s also about 6.4k words. There is some real filth ahead, very nsfw, seriously, the thirst is so real. (I hate myself), so, this is 18+ only!

Also, I'm tagging @allthingskakashi​ because she asked me to (i really hope these aren’t disappointing)

Side note: This is all written from the view of an established relationship. I can kinda remember most of what I said, so these will be still be very long despite being a rewrite from scratch. Apologies for any rambles and tangents I might go on, since I was rewriting this, my brain got weird and tired, but I wanna take you through my thoughts. I’m also very concerned about keeping things in character and not self-indulgent/self-projecting of what the writer’s personally into so I won’t be doing that here... You’ll see what I mean as I go on. But I still wanna make it hot so i’ll try lol. I’m new to writing but I’m even newer to writing dirty stuff so i’ll try my best. And with this post goes my dignity

A = Aftercare (what they’re like after sex)

Straight after sex is one of the rare times where Kakashi feels completely at ease and relaxed. He’s pensive, often quietly mulling over what you two have just been doing and trying to come to grips with it, his hands gently running through your hair or along your back. He’s probably at his most affectionate here too. Expect gentle, lazy caresses, little kisses here and there, soft, easy conversation. He might not always be the most talkative, but post-coitus is where you’ll most likely hear him say something earnest and romantic compared to other times. You’ve gotta understand, you’re a miracle, and you being in his arms is like heaven, but he can’t really believe it? But he’s also overwhelmed and tired to let it bother him too much, so he’s able to let his doubt and restraints go a little easier and just breathe. He feels safe, he feels at home and that’s a rare thing, so he’s really just happy to bask in the afterglow and the quietude of it all. It’s the safest, easiest thing in the world for the both of you.

If he’s been on the rougher side, he’ll definitely make sure you’re alright and be more gentle in comparison. and he’s generally more attentive than usual. He’s usually nice about cleaning you up, too, a gentleman lmao.

B = Body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

Kakashi quite likes his upper body, or his torso more generally. He’s lean and broad, but not in an overbearing or obvious way, and he really likes the reaction he gets when you actually do get to see him shirtless. He’s also a little sensitive on his back (and he doesn’t mind if you end up scratching it). But if you rub his shoulders or massage his back or chest, he’s putty in your hands.

When it comes to a partner? So the fandom seems to be consistent in thinking of Kakashi as an ass man, and I’m inclined to agree. He just loves to grab it, slap it, just look at it tbh or whatever, but even if you don’t think your ass is that great, there’s very high probability that he does anyway. But honestly I think he’d have a hard time picking a favourite part of your body.

Some other body parts he definitely loves that don’t get mentioned though: he just loves your waist and how it curves in and out into your hips. He’s mesmerised by it.

plz imagine Kakashi’s nice big hands running gently running along your waist while he thrusts into you deep and slow, your back arching and then they settle on your hips?

Also, he loooooves legs, how they feel wrapped around him, the soft thighs omg. When you wear stockings or heels or other things that accentuate them, ahajhfkaj have mercy on him. Also, wrists and ankles? They’re so pretty and delicate he’ll just grab them where he can. If you both are in some kinda position where he can, he’ll definitely give you lil ankle kisses. also wear an anklet to see him blush

C = Cum (anything to do with cum, basically)

So uh, I’m really doing this, huh?

Soooo hear me out. Kakashi’s diet is impeccable. I don’t take criticism here lmao, it’s been mentioned multiple times how much he hates deep fried stuff and sweets (yeah yeah he’s one of those weirdoes that enjoys healthy food most, Kakashi we get it) and he’s always feeding Naruto veggies (or trying to). My point? His cum would taste good, okay? Or at least, not strong or bad at all, very neutral if not good. (You have zero problems swallowing)

Also, he cums a pretty good amount. He tends to try and hold back his orgasm so when he does come it does build up. Coming inside you is his favourite, just the intimacy of it, of filling you like that.

But…. he’s pretty ashamed of it at first, but he does love coming on his partner. Whether it’s on your face (ughhhh when you lick up some of his cum around your mouth after a blowjob), or your breasts, or your back, or wherever tbh. He doesn’t know whether it’s the visuals, the eroticism of it or even a territorial aspect? He doesn’t wanna ponder it too much it’s just hot okay.

D = Dirty secret (pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

So this one was hard… because, unpopular opinion, I don't see him as into anything too crazy or depraved?

But here’s what I came up with: he’s totally fucked in the Hokage’s office. It’s only a dirty secret because of how improper that is, how inappropriate it is that the man in charge of the whole village is having sex in the very epicentre of where he’s supposed to be doing that, when other Hokage have been in that room before him… but it’s also why he’s into it.

Also, he’ll die before he ever admits to you exactly how many times he’s jerked off to the thought of you. And after you got together into a pair of your panties when you were away and he missed you too much

E = Experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they’re doing?)

Short version: Kakashi’s not as experienced as you might think, but this doesn’t translate into lack of skill in any way.

The long version: Ahhh so I go back on forth on this but I’ma attempt to think this through here. Okay, so, fandom has generally two sides when it comes to Kakashi and this topic. He’s either the completely suave, smooth ladies’ man who has all the one night stands or on account of his issues he’s a passive, stuttering virgin who’s constantly flustered.

Neither of these are that accurate. So I do get ladies man Kakashi to a point. It comes from the fact that he is quite smooth? And women do seem to like him quite easily in the series. And Kakashi definitely has the capacity to be a charmer, and is quite good at flirting when his job requires it or it’s a stranger etc. He’s good at reading people and winning them over. This is more complicated when he’s faced with someone he’s attracted to, or that has the potential to mean something to him. He still might be charming, but he’s very good at using this to keep you further from him, so you can’t really get to know him or get close to him so it’s not quite the same. It’s his way of controlling the distance between you.

Now, when it comes to experience, I don’t think Kakashi’s incapable of using casual sex as some kind of a coping mechanism (it’s not the healthiest), but if he was going to do this, it’d be during the latter part of his ANBU years. I can see him having sex as just a means to forget and remember he’s alive, and quell an urge, with basically faceless partners, or maybe complete strangers on missions. This does make him feel even lonelier after a while though, and it’s not really what he wants. Eventually having sex with women he’ll never see again serves to make him more miserable, and I think by the time we see him at the beginning of the series he doesn’t really do this anymore. So I wouldn’t say he’s completely inexperienced sexually at least, though he definitely is romantically.

Generally after that, Kakashi’s gonna reserve sex for someone who he has a deep emotional and physical connection with, but God forbid he ever calls it what it is - a relationship. Basically, if he’s sleeping with you, he pretty much loves you whether he knows it or not. And if he’s comparing that to his past experiences, he really feels the difference and cherishes it all the more (but it still scares him and he won’t admit it to himself.

So here’s how I see it. There’s always been a sexual chemistry between him and you, and a physical and romantic attraction. But of course Kakashi is Kakashi so he does absolutely nothing about it and doesn’t want to let you do anything about it. Still, you’re surprisingly persistent, and you do become close to each other in a friendly capacity, in whatever way Kakashi’s able to participate in that. Eventually, ( I haven’t thought this through quite yet) you do end up fucking and Kakashi tries to convince himself that he can just do that, that he can keep up having great sex with a great friend and that you don’t mean the world to him. You try to do the same, for his benefit, but you’re in deep and neither of you can’t deny there’s a bond and your connection is so strong that you’re basically in a relationship - and you kinda are by the time you start having sex - but he doesn’t really have the balls to actually call it that till after the 4th shinobi war. (I have some thoughts about how the war impacted Kakashi’s psychology but it’s generally then when he’ll genuinely feel comfortable enough to fully commit himself to you and see a future for himself, which he’s never really had before, and a future with you to boot).

To bring it back to this (I’m sorry what a fucking tangent), Kakashi’s maybe not had sex with a large amount of women, but he’s a quick learner and has natural skill. He also learns your body and what you like quickly. So whilst he’s not as experienced as he seems, he’s definitely more skilled than he has any right to be.

F = Favorite position (this goes without saying)

When it comes to positions there’s very little he wouldn’t enjoy tbh. He does have an affinity for positions like doggy style, just the visuals and the power it gives him. It’s easy for him to get a bit carried away though, but that’s his go to when he’s feeling rougher.

When it’s more romantic and slow and sensual, he also loves variations of missionary, because he loves the intimacy of the eye contact, and how your body is so close he can hear your heartbeat but his absolute favourite positions are missionary variations where your legs are on his shoulders, or where he’s spreading your thighs as perpendicular as possible and really testing your flexibility are probably his favourite cuz legs, and he can go even deeper and get an amazing angle.

But he definitely likes it when you ride him too, whether you’re facing him or away, it just feels too good when you’re bouncing on him like that. Also it’s nice to relax a bit and not have to do more of the work�� plz take care of him from time to time…

G = Goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)

He definitely has the capacity to be a fucking dork, as we know, and this has the potential to translate to his sex life. It’s a sign of complete ease if he can laugh and joke with you during, and he loves to have fun and play around with you, but at the same time, he does prefer to be serious most of the time. This means a lot to him and he’ll make sure you know that. He’s also gonna get a bit exasperated if you don’t seem to be taking it as seriously as him, or if you’re too into jokes and giggles for his liking that day. Probably will try and shut you up one way or another.

H = Hair (how well groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)

(Ughh okay so the idea of Kakashi with a silver happy trail leading to a messy shockwave of hair down there really does things to me okay, I’m sorry, I’ll see myself out)

Okay so… Have you seen how Kakashi manages his hair? Spoiler alert: he doesn’t. I don’t even know if this man owns a hairbrush. So I can definitely see him not being assed about shaving his bush. It’s probably kind of wild, or at the very least more on the unkempt side.

But then again he’s assed enough to keep his face clean shaven so he can wear his mask, so maybe he does, like I do head canon that he’s a very clean person and he probably feels like it is a *bit* cleaner that way but I’m leaning towards nah he just leaves it alone, but will trim it from time to time when it gets too wild or if it bothers you. I do think he probably has slightly more body hair than you’d expect tbh, but his hair is so light especially against his complexion so it’s not really noticeable. Oh and obviously, the carpet matches the drapes. (Idk why this made me imagine Kakashi with a ginger bush..  LMAO there’s a thought)

I = Intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)

It does depend on the mood between you, what kinda day he’s had, what position you’re in etc but he places a lot of value on sex in your relationship, for the intimacy and emotional bonding, not just the physical pleasure. So there are a lot of times where he’d be super intimate. Kakashi’s a man who chooses his words and actions very carefully in normal life and during sex he allows himself to let all that go. His actions really convey the depth of what you mean to him, what being with you like this means to him. He’ll hold you close to him, running his hands all over your body just to feel you everywhere, kiss you everywhere you can whilst he moves, bury his face into your neck, breathe you in - he just is very overwhelmed by this and there are times during your most intimate moments where he’s so in awe and so happy that he could die right there.

That being said, if he’s fucking you over his desk in the hokage’s office and it’s rough and fast, it’s a little harder to feel the intimacy and the romantic connection. Still, it is underlying every moment between you too. You’re the only ones that see these sides of each other, and make each other feel that way, and he really values that. He’ll still make it feel tender somehow and not just mindless fucking (no matter how blank he makes your head feel)

J = Jack off (masturbation headcanon)

I don’t see him as being a particularly frequent masturbator tbh. He strikes me as disciplined and he can probably go a while without it, especially if he’s busy, but more than just that, he kinda sees it as an inconvenience he just has to do sometimes? To blow off some steam, or when he’s not had sex in a while or something got his mind racing and it’s a distraction because he literally can’t think about anything else. He’ll probably use his books, but he prefers to use his imagination tbh, though the books can start as a seed for that.

He also doesn’t like having to put too much effort into jerking himself off? He doesn’t like to overcomplicate things when it comes to his sex life, and especially when it’s just jacking off.

He just kinda wants to get it done so he can move on to something more productive or fall asleep or something. So he’s just happy to pump himself off until he gets there.

K = Kink (one or more of their kinks)

Okay here’s where I’m gonna lose some of you.

Kakashi’s just not that kinky. Or maybe not kinky by tumblr/fic standards. Like I said in the previous head canon, he just does not see the appeal of making his sex life more complicated than it needs to be and his kinks aren’t gonna be too crazy. He just wants to feel good with you and he’s not that difficult to get going. With that in mind, here are some things he likes:

Spanking ;)

Teasing

Face-fucking

Dirty Talk (to a point, anything too stupid sounding or too dirty might make him laugh or take him out of it…)

clothed sex (where you are so horny for each other you can’t even wait to get undressed properly)

semi-public sex (he would hate the idea of actually being seen but the idea of *almost* being caught is kinda hot to him, not that he’ll ever let that happen if he can help it),

body worship (is that a kink)

LIGHT dom (I’ll mention it more later but he’s not too extreme into this stuff, but if you call him Hokage-sama or captain he might get a little too into it… not that that’s bad) I heard someone call him general during the war arc and that shit SENT me

he maaaay do a a threesome with shadow clones (either two of his if you want that, but two of you seem kinda hot… that being said, this might delve into that ‘making things too complicated’ so Idk, this might just be hot to me cuz I would like two Kakashis to rail me and I do think he’d enjoy it if two of you focused on him),

L = Location (favorite places to do the do)

The bed is fine but that’s really what he associates with either morning sex, or romantic, intimate lovemaking type stuff. When it’s more raunchy and playful, he really likes bending you over stuff tbh, his desk, kitchen counter etc most surfaces work well. He likes the shower too. Also, one time you both were just so hot for each other and didn’t make it to the bed and went at it on the hard floor and it was so wild and rough.

But he really loves fucking you up against walls, doors, mirrors, etc, Wall is his favourite, it’s just so intense and he gets animalistic and yeah it’s so good.

WAIT, how did I forget, sex in front of the mirror?! This is something he enjoys more with a more flustered or shy s/o who’s not used to looking at themselves. I have been thinking about writing something for this

M = Motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

Kakashi’s more on the traditional side in terms of what he likes but it’s really not that hard to turn him on. He loooooveeees when you wear lingerie for him, anything pretty and lacy but also stockings and all that. But then there’s something about when it’s simplistic too, like when you’re just wearing his shirt and nothing else? That’ll get him going too. But yeah, plz surprise him with a sexy outfit when he comes home from a long day of work and he’ll love you 5ever.

I dunno why I’ve always thought this, but I also think he’s turned on by subtle, understated signs of femininity? It’s just such a contrast to what he’s used to and he really appreciates it and is just mesmerised by you tbh. It’s things that are natural, the way when you sit down your hips get that crease where they meet your thighs, you might sometimes look down when you smile softly, the way you walk, pretty hair. If you have a really classical, elegant/sophisticated kind of style he loves that. Kinda hard to explain what I mean with that but like, say a dress or skirt that shows off your curves but isn’t too revealing? It really gets his mind racing. That make sense? (No worries if that’s not your style either, like I say, it’s not that hard to turn him on) But I also think he kinda likes when you wear jewellery? Like nothing too ostentatious but if you’re naked beneath him and the only thing you’re wearing is a necklace or some fancy earrings he just thinks you look so beautiful.

He also likes the comfortable, gentle teasing and flirting in the conversations you have, the jovial aspect to them, the connotations they carry. You could say one comment and not mean a whole lot by it and it might get his mind racing. He’ll think about you all day.

I mentioned before but offering to massage his back/chest/shoulders is his favourite, and if you kiss his jawline or neck even innocently it might not be innocent for very long ;) just when you’re generally affectionate and gentle with him.

He’d definitely enjoy it if you were confident, but I also feel like he’d like a shyer s/o too? If you were a little easier to fluster than he is, he finds it much easier to be confident and make you feel that much better ;) he likes making you blush.

N = No (something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

Okay, here’s where I’m definitely gonna lose some of you. But hang with me.

Short version: He doesn’t really like BDSM, be nice to him and let him be

Long version (I’m sorry guys):

By the time Kakashi’s in a loving relationship with you, he’s shown you his vulnerability and he trusts you, and he’s happy to try things within reason, but he has boundaries. And he expects you to respect them, just like he respects yours. You’re gonna frustrate him and make him close off if you’re wanting to push him to try new stuff or go out of his comfort zone. He can be set in his ways. If he doesn’t want to, he doesn’t want to. So if that’s not cool for you, that’s a turn-off.

He’s not into role-reversal. This is a tricky one to explain (and I’d explained it better in my first version of this that got lost to the void but alas this is where my memory is getting hazy), but though he’s a man with a lot of power and responsibility and control, these things aren’t necessarily things he’s insecure about or that come unnaturally to him. They’re not a persona or things he’s necessarily putting a lot of effort into being. He just is. He’s self-aware of his own abilities and strengths and he’s very a-matter-of-fact about them. I guess what I’m saying is, the more masculine attributes of his personality and demeanour that make some people say he’s DaddyAF and others say he’s probably not like that sexually, are just who he is naturally. He’s not putting effort into being these things and does not see the appeal of working to reverse this in the bedroom, or better yet, doesn’t really understand it. It’s way more effort for him to do that than it is for him to just be who he is. I could go way more into the psychology of this but this thing is long enough already but part of that accepting him for who he is is just letting him be. I’m saying he’s in no way a sub, basically.

But he’s not a huge dom, either. He’s actually really not into anything hardcore when it comes to dom/sub or bdsm stuff like at all. Like he’s not gonna be your daddy or your master or anything like that. He really values ease above all else and is happy to just enjoy the two of you and your body without adding extra layers of extreme power dynamics and kinks on top of it. He’s happy to be more on the authoritative side, which is why I say light dom, and it’s more natural for him to take the lead, but he’s not thinking about it too hard. I also don’t think he’d be averse to some mild power play - in that mean he likes it when you get a little cheeky, tease him, you can make fun of him, there’s a bit of cat and mouse between you, but if you’re too much into control or power that actually might bring out his rougher dominant side a bit more than normal. Don’t get me wrong, he’s not incapable of lying back and letting you do your thing.

…But he is still a bit of a control freak at heart and he doesn’t want to feel like something could go wrong, so if you make him feel like he can’t do anything about the situation or having no control at all is likely gonna be a bad experience for him.The other thing is that Kakashi doesn’t feel like he’s had control over his life where it counts, and he still feels pretty shitty about himself a lot. He’s not gonna wanna relinquish all control during his sex life, no matter how much he trusts you. He’d hate feeling completely passive, and if you humiliate him you’re just gonna make him feel shitty. He doesn’t wanna humiliate you either. So what I’m saying is, he’s just not into femdom or extreme male sub stuff or anything like that, sorry not sorry. He’s felt shitty enough in his life for you to turn it into a kink. He’s a pretty chill guy, but he still has his comfort zone, and he trusts you enough to be vulnerable, don’t take advantage of that. Be kind to Kakashi Hatake 2020.

With everything I’ve said so far, he’s never gonna let you peg him. It’s not something that really appeals to him visually or psychologically, plus any kind of receiving anal stimulation is just not really his thing. Leave Kakashi Hatake’s asshole alone 2020. Also, he doesn’t like the plastic/artificialness of toys in general, he’d much rather genuine skin on skin contact and feeling your body and you his, and just yeah you having to use toys on him will turn him off or seeing you in a way, that’s you know, not you, with an artificial appendage is just, a big no for him. Probably has the exact opposite effect you’d want. 

He’d also never wanna hurt you, or be into you hurting him. If it doesn’t trigger his PTSD or his tendency to self-loathe like all the other things I mentioned, he’s been getting hurt his whole life so he’s likely not gonna enjoy this in the bedroom, it’s either banal to him or a complete turn-off at the least. He’s self-aware enough to know it’s not gonna be the healthiest thing for him to sexualise it. He’s also hurt too many people to do something that could potentially hurt you, so no weapons, ninja techniques, things like that. I don’t think he’d even be into choking you. He just wants to relax, and enjoy himself and being with you in a way where he can feel safe, but not passive, and he loves having a partner that can allow him to do that.

So a partner being too dominant to the point of making him feel shitty and weak would be a turn-off, or just generally one that’s impatient or unkind. You’ll need to be empathetic and warm to get anywhere with him anyway, or at least you’ll struggle otherwise. Also, he wouldn’t ever want a threesome. It’s taken so much out of him to build up trust and intimacy between you, he’s sure that introducing another person, even if it’s only a one time thing, would ruin it. He also doesn’t want anyone other than you to see him in that way, or vice versa.

O = Oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)

So I don’t know why but I feel like Kakashi sees eating you out as such a special, intimate act? It’s a big deal, and this is something he probably wouldn’t do with someone he doesn’t have a strong connection to, or not as much. But when he does love you, your responses and the whole act are just mesmerising to him. Maybe it’s how vulnerable delicate you seem, how your moans are more gentle and delicate compared to when he’s fucking you, how he’s up and close against your most private parts, how he’s the only one that sees you like this… It really gets him going tbh, but it also takes a lot out of him? It just ends up meaning more to him than a blowjob might mean to you. So he might actually end up receiving more than he gives, despite the fact that he enjoys it and is very good at it. I don’t mind I’ll suck his dick 25/8

Like most men, he’ll be putty in your hands if you give him a good blowjob. It’s one of those things that never cease to amaze him or drive him crazy, no matter how many times you’ve done it, the sight of you on your knees, sucking him down. He’ll feel guilty but he face-fucks you sometimes, and it feels amazing, but he honestly might let himself get carried away. So he’ll sometimes grab your hair or clench his fist instead, otherwise he’ll just try to gently guide your ahead along sometimes. His moans during blowjobs are also damn hot as well. Like guttural groans and moans, he’s louder than normal.

P = Pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)

Depends with Kakashi! Whether it’s a quickie, the position, where you’re doing it. He has a penchant for slow and sensual though. He wants to savour you, the sensation, the moment, the sights, everything. He really wants to bask in the intimacy of what’s going on and go as deep as he can and take his time. He likes taking it easy.

But there’s always gonna be moments where he can be pretty damn animalistic and rough and he’s pretty good with that too. Though, where he has the time to do so, he likes to build up to it? Occasionally he’ll be too pent up/frustrated or too short on time to really do it but like if time and space allows he doesn’t wanna start ramming into you like right away, he wants you to adjust, and will slowly fuck you until you’re really want it as crazily as he does.

Q = Quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)

He likes a good quickie, or rather, they’re his only option sometimes. He’s a busy guy who can’t always plan his schedule, and this goes tenfold when he becomes Hokage. So whilst his favourite will also be something longer where he can take his time and enjoy your body, you’re gonna have to accept that there will be periods where all you’ll get is quickies in his office, or in the morning before he has to leave.

R = Risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)

So despite all that stuff I listed about all the things he won’t do, he’s willing to try a lot of stuff with you. He does enjoy experimenting and he thinks it’s fun and brings you guys closer together, but within reason. He doesn’t wanna do anything too complicated or too strange by his standards, but he’ll be up for new locations, new positions, and he is risky in the sense that he won’t mind doing some stuff in public, or semi-public at least.

S = Stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)

So it’s definitely better when he doesn’t have his sharingan constantly sapping his energy anymore, but not to the point that you really noticed there being a problem before. He just puts a lot of effort and concentration into not cumming before you, and he’s pretty good at that. Depending on how pent up he is, he can last a decent amount of time. But if he has lasted quite a long time, when he finally does cum, he might not be in the mood to go again.

I see him going for like, one short round and one long one. Or if it’s shorter his recovery time’s pretty decent. But if you get ever happen to get three or more rounds of him in one go you should definitely praise him or take care of him cuz that’s pretty difficult and his dick might be broken for the next few days.

The only time his ability to hold back his orgasm goes to shit is when you’re having his way with him by riding him or sucking him off. You’re just too good have mercy on him But he’s better able to control that stuff and slow down and take breaks when he needs to when he’s the one leading things.

T = Toys (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)

Nah, this harkens back to the whole thing about him not wanting to overcomplicate things and just have fun without thinking too much. He can’t be assed with toys and won’t use them on himself. I also mentioned earlier that he doesn’t like the fakeness/artificiality of toys, just the gimmicky-ness of it, the plastics... Nah. He wants to feel something real. Besides it’s canon how crazy this man’s physical skill is, his hands, his fingers… He’s completely satisfied with just his hands. And you are too

If it means a lot to you, he can use toys on you. But let’s be honest I really don’t think you’ll feel the need.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Kakashi is a little shit, we all know this. He loves to tease and edge, and he just loves seeing how frustrated you get, your scolding, knowing that you still can’t make him do anything he doesn’t want to do, your annoyed little whines and huffs… But he always more than makes up for it later.

He is so bad at receiving teasing though, he cannot withstand as much as you can, which is lame, considering how much he can put you through.

V = Volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)

He’s not that loud, though there are times he can be. When he’s getting close to cumming, when he finally does are probably his loudest. But generally, his noises are so so nice. He makes soft little grunts and pants mostly, but he’ll growl and groan, whisper your name.. But sometimes you can get a semi-loud moan out of hiim and omg it’s so so hot.

He’s a little louder when he’s tired, or first thing in the morning? He’s more sensitive. When he’s not having to concentrate so much or think too much about what’s going on, he’ll get a little louder. He’s also louder when you’re riding him than in other positions.

W = Wild card (a random headcanon for the character)

You know what I’ve gone in so deep with this head canons that I can’t think of a random one and I can’t remember what I wrote yesterday.

So Kakashi really appreciates just physical contact with you, wherever it might be. It doesn’t necessarily need to be sexual either but it makes him feel at ease. I said this already too, but Kakashi loves the comfort of just being vanilla. Nothing special, nothing elaborate, no gimmicks, just him on top of you, with your legs around his hips, as he drives into you. It’s literally just you and him in the world and that’s all there needs to be and nothing’s ever felt more right than that.  

X = X-ray (let’s see what’s going on under those clothes)

It’s canon Kakashi is big need I say more. Okay I’ll say more. So it’s pretty long and thick. It’s not like monster huge but he’ll definitely take some adjusting. Probs uncut, and the same girth all the way down. Also kinda veiny, there’s some big ones on the underside. You’ll definitely feel him throb inside you.  But his body is nice too, but we been knowing that. He’s lean, and muscular, but in an understated way. He also has really nice legs? Like his thighs are good. The only time I saw his legs was in ep 101 of og Naruto but I was very pleased tbh. Like they’re well-trained but not crazy muscular like those men who work out a lot get… do you know what I mean? The round calves and stuff? He doesn’t have that. He also has a very nice ass. Gets flustered if you stare at it or slap it. Please do though his reaction is so cute.

Anyways, back to his dick, the colour is slightly darker than the rest of his body and the tip a tad darker than that. I remember seeing a picture on twitter and omg I couldn’t like it cuz I need some semblance of keeping my twitter professional but omg I saved the link, this is it though, the artist gets him perfectly.

Y = Yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

It’s high but nothing ridiculous. He’s controlled enough where he can go a while without it, but this is harder once he has a partner.

Once you guys have settled into each other and grown comfortable, he’s probably up for it 3-4 times a week, but depends on you and both of your schedules too. Sometimes it’s more, sometimes less.  But he’s a busy guy and has tons of things going on so as much as he’d like to, he can’t think about having sex extremely frequently. He’s also gonna have periods where he physically can’t see you that much, so the times you do see each other might be spent having sex so it might feel like it’s crazy high, but it’s more that he’s making up for lost time.

As he gets older his sex drive does decrease slightly, but not by much tbh. He’s very adaptable to your needs too. If you wanna fuck a lot that’s all great but if it’s like twice a day every day then calm down dang you might need to satisfy yourself. But if yours is a lot lower than is, he might struggle, but eh, he can manage.

Z = Zzz (how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

Sex definitely depletes him and makes it easy to sleep, but he’ll normally wait for you to fall asleep. It’s a control thing and a protective thing, but he just feels a lot better about sleeping once you’re already there dozing off in his arms, and after sex is one of the rare times where he feels relaxed enough and his mind is empty enough where he can get a good night’s rest without any issues.  

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Prompt Idea 💡

So reader has a short life span due to their... chakra ability? (I haven’t watched Naruto so plz forgive me in advance) and they do all that they can to make Kakashi hate them but it failed miserably.

y/n: I can’t do this.

Kakashi: You can’t do what?

y/n: I try to make you hate me so when I die, you’ll forget about me.

Kakashi knew that reader wasn’t being themselves... and he’s like “I’ve known you since we were kids. I can tell you’re not being yourself. I know who you are” and stuff like that.

(honestly Naruto lore can be complex and convoluted and gives you a lot to work with so I'm sure it's totally within the realm of canon possibility that there's some terminal chakra disease lol also i'm so impressed you're out here coming up with prompts for shows you haven't even seen!! i cant even do it for shows i love most of the time)

Ohhh okay so this is an interesting idea, I take it to mean that the reader probably finds out about their condition after they're already close with Kakashi, and then acts distant after an already established relationship/friendship?

Because given Kakashi's tendency to push people away, especially throughout his childhood/teen/young adult years, it would be hard if Y/N was trying to push them away from the beginning, you know? So I see them as knowing each other and being friends and all first, but later on as adults Kakashi detects a change in Y/N. Which I think from what you said that's kind of what you were going for, that Y/N begins to act differently after finding this information out. It's interesting, because, pushing someone away because you don't want them to get hurt, or you don't want to cause them pain, is such a Kakashi thing to do. So it's interesting to think about what the reaction would be if someone treats him that way.

As for Kakashi's reaction? Well... he has a bad habit of just letting things be, to be honest. When it comes to himself and how much suffering he can put himself through, at least. He just doesn't think he deserves good things. Like, if something shitty happens to him or if someone treats him badly he might just accept it. But I do think Kakashi has a tendency that, when someone seems to dislike him or doesn't wanna be around him anymore he's just inclined to let that be and not really fight to change their mind.

However, if he suspects something's wrong, and he's smart, he probably does - then he would probably investigate further, especially if he cares about someone, rather than just taking them at face value and letting them go. He's one to step back and assess a situation rather than be really pushy from the get-go.

So his reaction would be a combination of the two - he'd give them their space and also try to get to the bottom of the situation. They'd have to be really close for Kakashi to be openly insistent that they don't pull away right from the get go. But once Kakashi does figure it out - and he's not above doing some sleuthing on his own - I think you could expect him to show up to confront Y/N about it and you would get an exchange like the one you've outlined here.

As a lil writing exercise and one of my many attempts to get over my writer's block, I'm gonna write a tiny tiny unedited drabble under the cut (another reason it's tiny is because I've been seeing other writers do lots of cool things with this prompt and I'm incapable of that at the moment lmao).

mild angst under cut (0.27k words):

Even a fool would notice.

Even a fool would have noticed the way your fingers trembled before you clenched your first, the way your eyes failed to meet his even as you narrowed them, even as your voice broke before you scathed at him.

Even the way you turned away before you had finished, just so he wouldn't notice the tears in your eyes (something that had never worked before, mind).

And Kakashi Hatake, for all the impossible, contradictory things that he was, was no fool.

So why?

Why had he just quietly agreed when you'd told him, in no uncertain terms, that you wanted nothing to do with him anymore?

Especially if he knew - and he knew, he knew better than anybody else - what an unabashedly terrible liar you were?

His voice had been gruff - like it was still thick from sleep - and resigned. You had never expected him to put up much of a fight, but you had never expected the passivity to sting this much.

You want to turn around, to meet his gaze even though it terrified you, to glean any kind of meaning or emotion in that one visible eye of his. But your doubt stopped you - wasn't this what you wanted?

What you had to do, for his sake?

So why did it matter that it seemed like this was easy for him?

Had you got it all wrong? Had you really meant so little to him that he didn't even care for an explanation?

Your doubt takes over your discipline, and you turn around, calling out for him -

Kakashi is gone.

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what do you think about kakashi ignoring someone he loves after he sorta slept with her? Like the sexual tension between them was so strong and they ended up doing the deed and now he's like fuck I'm in love and acts cold to her?

Ohhh man well that’s a fun one. (And apologies for the rambles below) 

I do kinda see it happening like that, like he’s in love with her but adamant not to do anything about it, but they have a lot of sexual tension then something happens to push that tension to its breaking point and then ugh he lets himself lose control just this once and they end up going at it. In my head, it’s fairly simple, it’ll be following an argument after something high stakes has happened, or something like that, I kinda see it as her doing something stupid that she has no business doing because it’s dangerous, and Kakashi calling her out for it, they argue, it escalates, he kisses her, then you know, the clothes are off, etc etc. 

And maybe the sex, while being intense and wild, is kinda tender and intimate too? More than he intends it to be, but everything he’s been penting up for so long just comes out when he’s finally with her, and she reciprocates so well. Just, the eye contact, the kisses, the way he moves etc etc. And when it’s over, he’s probably too caught up in the adrenaline and the afterglow to let himself come back to earth and panic and leave right away, like, his post-coital pondering (and when he’s kinda staring at her while she’s sleeping tbh) might be how incredible that was and why the hell had he waited so long and maybe  he’s truly realising how he feels about her�� And he feels safe, satisfied and sleepy… So maybe he does just fall asleep.

And Kakashi doesn’t sleep for long, like normal, and wakes up earlier than she does. Then it dawns on him.  ‘fuck. I’m in love with her. What have I done.’. And yeah, of course he overthinks it. I’ve used this phrase before but his survivors’ guilt/self-loathing addled brain thinks he doesn’t deserve good things! Especially not this girl! She is wonderful and way too good for him and being with him will surely be terrible for her, but also really terrible for himself, because he’s just going to end up losing her and how could he be so selfish and stupid. 

So you know, he’s out of there before she wakes up. He does feel so shitty about it, but in his head he’d much rather she turn against him then end up having to deal with the pain of losing her further down the line, or doing something to hurt her. Little does he know that even if something did happen to her he’d be going through hell anyway, but he honestly feels bad for losing his cool just this once and allowing himself to be with her anyway - like that’s another thing, he always thinks he knows best, and can’t see why the hell she would love him back (even if he knows she does) and he has to cut her off for both of their sakes. So she can find someone better, and so he can protect himself from the get-go. Or punish himself, because yeah, he genuinely thinks he isn’t worthy of happiness and isn’t gonna let himself take that chance unless he’s literally being forced to. 

So yeah, Kakashi’s gone in the morning and will do his best to avoid her. He’ll bump into her again though, obviously, and act aloof, like their night together never happened at all, and might even be a jerk - anything to push her away. He might just flat out tell her he thought that the night was a mistake, and honestly, the girl might have to be perceptive or persistent to not take him at face value here, or for anything to happen between them again. I guess that’s where gentle determination in his s/o would be important, like she would need to be patient and empathetic - but also know him, herself and the situation enough to know that there’s no way that the sex meant nothing to him, that she means nothing to him, and he doesn’t get to decide it doesn’t, or her feelings, just because he’s scared, or because he’s trying to protect her. Or protect himself. And I guess, the kindness to see that maybe he’s just doing it cuz he hates himself that much, and that she doesn’t want him to put himself through that anymore, so I do kinda expect some pushback, or at least, I don’t think she’d start hating him, even if his behaviour hurt.

Having said that though, she might just let him be cold and distant. Even if she’s perceptive, maybe she didn’t expect he’d just be ready to begin a relationship or anything like that… But it still does hurt, and maybe she’s reluctant to let himself be swayed by him again, even if she understands him and still cares about him. Or maybe she genuinely takes him at face value and thinks that he was just using her, and he is just that much of an asshole. This I kinda see less likely cuz I think if he’s in love with her that there is some mutual understanding there… But if she does genuinely believe him, I don’t see her forgiving him easily.

But you know, I think there’s a teeny part of him that’ll end up regretting acting that way. Well, it’s a large part really, but he’ll act like it’s small - so a little pushback or determination from an s/o might be easier and go a little longer than you’d think.

Because honestly, I think even though he totally will act cold, I can see circumstances bringing them together again. Not necessarily sexually (but probably sexually), but maybe work, or happenstance, or missions, or the hospital… And I just think there’d be opportunity for a forced heart to heart, either that, or they end up sleeping together again, and he can’t really keep doing this, acting cold when it suits him - or at least, she’s not going to let him. Also, I think he’d actually have trouble staying away, at least in some respect. He might keep an eye on you here and there, and if he sees you with another man, it really fucks with him - even if he has no right to feel that way. So you know, it becomes easier to call out his behaviour.

So I guess, to answer your question, I think it’s very likely that he’d do something like that, but I think it’s equally likely that doesn’t mean it’ll be the end of the relationship for him and his s/o. 

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I have a question related to Kakashi! How would Kakashi react if his wife was pregnant as Jinchuriki? to make the plot more interesting.

‘To make the plot more interesting’ as if this isn’t Minato and Kushina and the Naruto plot isn’t wild enough 😂

So this is a really difficult question to answer because a) it's hard to imagine where this would fit into the story b) Kakashi welcoming a baby with any s/o (let alone a jinchuuriki!s/o) is gonna be a struggle - so I'm gonna (attempt to) answer this without worrying about canon compliance lol.

Honestly? Kakashi will most likely be very unhappy when he finds out his jinchuuriki wife is pregnant, or at the very least, extremely apprehensive and anxious. He really doesn't want this baby - not because he won't love them, not because there's not a secret part of him deep down that does have a kind of yearning for a family, but because it puts his wife and his unborn child in an extremely vulnerable and dangerous situation. There's plenty enough risk with a relatively normal childbirth and pregnancy, but he's been so close to this situation once before with Minato and Kushina that he finds it really hard to not think about that. Just, Kushina being a pregnant jinchuuriki literally made her a target and they took every possible precaution and it still didn't work, and they still both died, and Naruto was orphaned. He can't just forget about all that, that situation literally killed off the last of his loved ones (save for some friends like Gai etc). And even if Kakashi's wife got pregnant in a relatively peaceful time, like after the war, there are still people that might know she's a jinchuuriki, that might know that she's pregnant and that that's when a female jinchuuriki's seal weakens, and might want to take advantage of that. He's just so intimately aware of the risks he finds it impossible to be optimistic or be happy about having a baby. He can't lose his s/o after all that, he just can't.

So, when he first finds out, he might even be angry. He might have arguments with his s/o, assuming she is really happy about the baby and really wants it, so it will hurt her to see him react this way, and it'll be frustrating for him that she doesn't see the risks the same way he does. It's not that he doesn't know that the rewards don't outweigh the risk here, and he knows he'll love their baby, it's just that his life and experiences have never given him cause for optimism.

Ultimately though - if he sees how happy his wife is to be pregnant, how much she wants a baby, a baby with him, if he's given time to adjust to being a father and if there's a reasonable enough chance that it might turn out well - he will definitely come around. But I think his wife would have to be prepared for some overprotection and caution. It might be suffocating, the constant check ups and check ins, the surveillance, the guarding, the secrecy, the obsession with preparing re-sealing jutsu (Minato specifically learned sealing jutsu from Kushina but Idk if Kakashi knows it) - but this really isn't the kind of situation where he can let it be and hope for the best. Not when he's been so close to the situation before and the worst possible thing happened.