#paraily asks

[paraily]

Obligatory pinned post!

This gets pretty long, so here's a quick summary:

Pro-para safe space, anti-contact & accepting of just about anyone!

Tagging system is all the way downstairs (at the bottom of the post).

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What is this?:

This is a personal blog dedicated to unpalatable facets of myself--specifically my experience as a paraphile.

This blog primarily centers paraphilias, but with that being said, I do not post NSFW.

Despite this being a personal blog, I also want this to be a safe space for fellow paras! I know how isolating it can be, and hopefully this blog makes the paraphile experience less lonely. The pro-para community has been a great help to me, and I only hope for that experience to be shared among others.

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Who is welcome here?:

I don't have a DNI (I block liberally), but just about anyone is welcome here! If you are considered "odd" in any way, I will accept you. ♥️

Paraphiles (very much including the Big 3), questioning paras, non-paras etc. are always welcome! I am not radqueer, but radqueers are accepted here as well. I would much rather focus on para unity instead of driving us apart.

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Stances:

Anti-contact: I am anti-contact for anything non-consensual (e.g., the Big 3).

Pro-para: This one is self-explanatory! I am accepting of all paraphiles. There is no paraphilia that I won't support. Thoughts don't carry morality.

Profiction: Fiction is supposed to be fun! Mess around with it! Create whatever your heart desires. I do not believe in censoring fiction.

Sex positive: There is nothing inherently dirty about sex, and I will repeatedly advocate for sex education.

Radically inclusive: I am accepting of all types of queer people; including those with "confusing" or "contradictory" identities.

Pro mental health: This includes the "scary" disorders.

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Interaction:

Sending asks (whether it be questions, venting or basically anything) are encouraged! I am always happy to lend a listening ear to my fellow paraphiles. Anon is on for a reason!

Please do not flirt or be sexual with me. Hate is also automatically blocked.

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More about yours truly:

I'm paraily! I am a paraphile who finds immense solace in pro-para communities online. I have been a lurker in pro-para spaces, but didn't join until recently.

For safety reasons, I will maintain anonymity, but here are some things about me:

Aroace-spec

Lesbian & lesboy

Sex-averse / sex-repulsed

I have both disordered and non-disordered paras

I have OCD! I may post about that sometimes

Trauma heavily ties into my paras. I won't go too in depth, but I will talk about it

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Tags:

#paraily text #paraily rbs #paraily asks #para info #para positivity #paramisa (<- block this one if you dislike seeing para hate!)

[paraily]

Your blog is like a blast of cold refreshing water on my brain, I didn't know I needed it. Some of your posts are so touching they made me feel really normal and human for once. Just wanted to say thank you.

Thank you so much for this! This was incredibly sweet to read. :]

I sometimes forget just how many other paraphiles are out there, and it’s so comforting to know that I am not alone in what I experience or feel.

[paraily]

you cool ଘ૮ ੭ˊ꒳​ˋ)੭🌷

Thank you so much, anon! This made me smile! I appreciate the flower! You are a gem. ♥️

[paraily]

pro tip, dont use the green-brown blue flag! it's made by and for zoos who are aggressively anti-para toward other Big 3 paraphilias. it's called the zeta zoo flag and a lot of pro-para frown upon it even if its popular

the leaf zoo flag (all different shades of green and blues) was from a pro-para community contest to make another flag, to combat the zeta zoo flag. its gaining popularity! i wholly recommend that one

Thank you for explaining, anon! (flags under cut)

This is the green, brown and blue flag anon mentioned.

And the alef zoo flag (the preferred zoo flag)!