#or that nonbinary people Don't Transition so they aren't truly trans? Like I've seen this exact shit for YEARS now

[uncanny-tranny]

It's okay to just be binary you know

It's also okay to let trans people do whatever they want forever. Hope this helps.

[the-fiction-will-knit-the-real]

and now time for some discussion about personal gender questioning

I am biologically female (and quite happy with that), and have been out as bigender for many years now

I've thought for most of that time that being a man and a woman simultaneously feels right for me. I've always, since childhood, been someone who people had trouble deciding, upon seeing me, what pronouns to use. I truly do not understand why - I guess I must have a more masculine body type than most women? I also rarely wear makeup and don't dress particularly femininely, but I do dress to show off the boobs (they're nice), so I really don't know

I also make friends with guys far easier than with women - guys have always been more willing to see me as 'one of the dudes' and be friendly, while many women are uncomfortable to have me in women's spaces, so I stopped going to such places

But lately I've been realizing that I'm really hurt by people not ever seeing me as a woman. It's led to romantic rejection multiple times, and honestly I haven't done anything to purposely not be seen as a woman (and on a few occasions I've even put in the opposite effort), and it's been making me feel really unattractive

So now I'm questioning whether being bigender is the right gender identity for myself after all, or if I just felt pushed into that by other people not seeing me as a woman. Maybe I'm just a woman after all?

But also, I respect dudehood and masculinity so much? And I do really like using my gender as a way to show people that men and women are not opposites, and are not even opposite ends of some spectrum, but are two possible ways of being that can and do overlap greatly and are both great ways to be. I use the term "gender positive" for myself instead of "gender neutral" for this reason

and before the vile sides of this website come after other people, I want to be 100% clear that all this questioning is mine and mine alone, it says NOTHING about any other person's gender identity. this includes but is not limited to:

- Everyone is valid in their own gender identity. This includes trans people, cis people, nonbinary and genderqueer folks, xenogenders, people who don't or can't medically transition, people who don't "look like" their gender identity, people who aren't "out" for any reason, questioners, detransitioners, EVERYONE

- Being a man is a great thing to be - whether you're cis or trans. It's patriarchy that is the problem, NOT men. Terfs and radfems can fuck off

- Being a woman is also a great thing to be. Feeling positive about your own gender, regardless of what it is, is a great thing

- Intersex people are valid too, regardless of what gender they are or are not. I don't seem to be one of you, as far as I can tell, but have high respect and support for your particular unique struggle

[residentialrabbit]

heya! first of all, i fucking LOVE your game, and i don't mean to be harsh at all.

the main thing i wanted to say that i appreciate the inclusivity of the gender options, but the way it's split between "men/non-men" for the different routes is a bit frustrating.

i'm bigender male + female and panromantic, i see myself as both a girl who likes girls and a boy who likes boys. the problem is it's a bit frustrating essentially having to choose between "men/non-men" when i'm both.

i'd choose the nonbinary option, but i'm planning to transition ftm. i prefer mr over mx, and the idea of not being seen as enough of a guy for irene's route is rather dysphoric.

i'd choose trans man in the options, but the idea of not being seen as wlw enough or "enough of a girl" for rositas route is also dysphoric. i've previously identified as a lesbian and i'm dating one, so it feels kinda weird to be completely locked out of the option. it's a different type of dysphoria, but it's still not great haha

i understand most people who identify as ftm aren't bigender or wouldn't want to be seen as wlw, so i feel like this could possibly be fixed with more customizable gender options. maybe tickboxes and a way to change the pronouns/honorifics used would work? i'm not quite sure.

overall, i understand if this is too complicated to add, and i understand the way you implemented it covered the most ground, and that i'm an exception here. i just wanted to share my experience. thanks for hearing me out, and good luck developing repurpose further! i'm super excited for cherri's route btw. ^_^

hi there! I completely understand where you're coming from, truly I do. but our current gender system is complex enough as it is for someone like me who's very very novice at programming ^^; I'd love to have a pronoun system as complex as other games like Our Life, and I am aware they recently even released their script for their gender system, but Repurpose is very much at a state where overhauling our gender system would be more work ontop of a mountain of work I already have to do.

Myself on top of being the director am the artist for sprites and CGs, editor, and programmer, as well as managing a bunch of other things it stresses me out to even have to think about having to build up something from scratch again after a turbulent production that now just me and my partner Sam along with outside help for parts I genuinely cant do myself (voice acting/direction, music, backgrounds).

Again, I totally get where you're coming from especially also someone who is enby and gets frustrated with games that don't even have nonbinary options but a system more complex than the one we have is just not feasible with our current state of production. 😭

Perhaps if I ever do another visual novel I would but given how much I struggled with Repurpose alone it's unlikely....

[jules-hoard-of-stuff]

More gender ramblings bc why not. Not as angry or venty this time tho

I think the reason I have trouble seeing myself as a trans guy, is that seeing myself in a fully masculine light is foreign to me. I can imagine myself with different genitals, or a deep voice, or being called boy but like. The moment it shifts into the thinking of binary transhood, that's when it just stops working. Suddenly it's impossible for me to think "Magnus is a Man" and i don't know... Why.

On the other hand, I can't be a gendernonconforming woman, because I'm just flat out not a woman. That parts easier.

And I've been thinking a lot lately about the Nonbinary flag and label and how it can encompass so many experiences, including those of trans people and its like... I can still be Nonbinary while transitioning similarly to a binary trans man, I'm pretty sure. Some parts of my presentation are effeminate to the traditional gender binary, like painting my nails or the way i dance or sometimes not binding so I don't do damage to my ribs, etc etc etc, things people see as effeminate even if they aren't.

So like... Maybe Nonbinary works in terms of my experience, and how much it changes and moves. Not in a genderfluid way but in a 'still figuring things out' way. I am not quite sure where i sit but just saying I'm trans Nonbinary feels alright in terms of just, it's a flexible term, and there's not specific 'do x do y' expectation from society at large that I truly care about. As I'm not seen as female, I'm good.