#or someone gnc or something

[gilded-sterne]

humans really saw sexual dimorphism and said "hey that's really cool, let's expand on that" and made an artificial version of it (strictly enforced gender roles based on what kind of junk a person is born with) on top of the baseline dimorphism.

[stolenlandsshitposts]

Happy Crystalhue, gamers! It's a little late, as usual, but I hope everyone spent the solstice well. I failed in my goal to keep this really small and simple so I could squeeze Candlemark in on the side, whoops

[cepheusgalaxy]

Friendly reminder that being perceived as gay also has you experiencing homophobia (although ofc in a pretty different way than actual gay ppl but regardless, like a flamboyant or tomboy kid being bullied by peers bc of this perceived gayness) and in the same note being perceived as a woman also has you experiencing misoginy. Shocking, I know.

[nomoremrnicefag]

it is always so wild to me when cis people try to get me to shit talk non binary identities with them just because I present to them as a binary trans guy bc I will always defend them and whatever those fuckers have deemed as the "weird identity" this time. nothing about me gives off the vibe that a) i would ever feel the need to grift for cis approval and b)that I would ever give cis people the opportunity to talk badly about non binary people with a transgender pat on the back from me, just because they didn't follow the exact same path as I did. its stupid as hell and I sympathize with any non binary person that has the misfortune of crossing their path

[musclesandhammering]

I could get cancelled for this immediately, but does anyone else get really irritated when you see a certain subset of the queer community inserting themselves into other subsets’ issues?

Like when cis gay people think they can speak for trans folks just because “well we’re all lgbt.”

Or like gay men thinking they can make misogynistic comments about lesbians and use the word d*ke etc just because “well we’re lgbt too”.

Or (and this is a big one lately) queer women inserting themselves into conversations that are about issues specific to queer men, and acting like they have exactly as much credibility in the argument because “well we’re just as lgbt as you.”

It’s just like… yeah we’re all queer. But each individual group is their own mini community, and they all have their own things that are specific to them, and if you aren’t in that exact demographic then you don’t have the experience necessary to add your input on those topics. And if you go ahead and shove your way into the conversation anyway, then you’re like… only 5% better than a homophobe. If that.

[bylertruther]

why is it okay for other people to point out canon things about will and how he's perceived in hawkins as well as the differences between him and the other boys on the show etc etc and everyone claps and cheers and agrees with them publicly now, but when i do it i'm told that i'm trying to turn will into a girl, that i'm rude, that i'm homophobic, get accused of killing people's grandmothers, and get vagued, etc etc. like i know why but Why . . ....

[hag-lad]

It’s just so obvious to me that terfs’ anger and aggression towards trans people is completely misplaced. Trans people are natural allies to feminists of all genders; they aren’t a threat to women’s liberation! The freedom to explore, experiment with, and change genders is inherently good and inherently destructive to the patriarchy. Like. This should be obvious!

That being said, I do hate to see individual trans people exhibiting shitty/misogynistic behavior toward cis women, but like… I hate that no matter who does it?? And trans people aren’t particularly predisposed for it. If anything, they’re predisposed for the opposite! There are assholes in every group, but let’s not pretend they are representative of the whole group. That is so childish and absurd.

I’d feel safer around any random trans woman than I ever would around a terf, and that’s a FACT. I’m a cis woman, but I don’t feel represented by, protected by, or indebted to terfs at all. I feel actively alienated by them, I feel like 90% of my loved ones are despised by them, and I share virtually zero political goals with them.

[leofrith]

lol remember when eivor was like "i will not be captive to another man's gaudy design. my destiny is mine to weave." and then she. proceeded to be captive to a man's idea of what she should be and did not, in fact, weave her own destiny because she was too busy following the old god in her head despite having previously expressed blatant disinterest (and that's putting it mildly) in doing so. and then after finally finding safety and comfort among her people after a lifetime of scrounging and clawing for every ounce of happiness she ever got she then proceeded to die alone on the opposite side of an ocean from everyone who ever loved her and who she loved in return.

[byclairs]

The knee jerk feeling when i hear "lonnie abused will and thought he waa gay because he saw his relationship and closeness with mike like one they them holding hands or something' 🤢

like i promise it’s not inherently problematic for a gay character to have stereotypical gay traits that make them clockable and maybe the point is that lonnie and everyone else do happen to be right about him (even if it’s not based on any actual proof) but they’re wrong about that being something to be ashamed of

[lord-squiggletits]

I know gender fuckery is the name of the game with alien robots and people are allowed to headcanon and AU whatever they want, but there are some choices to genderbend certain characters that do really fucking annoy me not gonna lie

[chiisana-lion]

years ago got this super cute lilac long skirt that ive never worn since getting it but would really like to if only it werent for the fact id hate to be perceived anything remotely close to femininely. and Especially by my extended family who i just know for a fact are waiting for me to grow out of my "phase" and be able to say "see that? you're acting like a normal girl now"

[pegasusknightsonly]

you have to understand I LIKE Severa but the thing that sets me apart from 99% of self-proclaimed Severa fans is that I've actually read any of her supports in the last decade instead of either filtering ao3 for "Severa/Lucina tagged:#modern au" or "M!Robin/Cordelia" and making it up from there

[satanfemme]

being both gnc and trans is so hard sometimes. it's like, I'll face adversity for being gnc/trans/whatever-strangers-read-me-as, and in addition to the normal base-level difficultly and pain and fear of these experiences, I'll also feel on some level like it's "my own fault" too because this is what I purposefully decided to be.

I often dress/act like a girl but have a deep voice/facial hair/flat chest -- and I opted in for all of those. I spent more money than I can conceptualize in order to medically transition in those ways. while, in theory, I could've saved the money, not transitioned, continued dressing/acting the same way as I do now, and the problem would no longer exist... in theory. ofc logically I know that's not at all how it works. if I hadn't transitioned I would feel even worse. and the way I'd experience & express gender would still be intrinsically different from "cis girl" -- that's true regardless of how my body looks or sounds. which should all go without saying, because I very obviously don't conform to my CAGAB either. if I did I wouldn't be in this mess!! u know?

...but the self-blame is still there, because for better or for worse I did go out of my way to become myself. <- feels like a truism.

[homosexualcitron]

I swear i'm trying to improve my mood but how am i supposed to be ok when i wake up and read my webtoon's comment and half of them missgender my ocs

[theygender]

Idk how many of y'all watch Good Mythical Morning but I just want to say that as a gnc person it makes me so happy to see Chase get to dress however he wants and have it just be normal. The crop top he always wears during international food taste tests isn't treated as weird, that's just his cartographer shirt, and it's become such a signature look that other people have to wear it while filling in for him. He plays a few female characters that wear dresses, but the fact that he's playing a woman or wearing a dress is never treated like a joke. The actual joke is that the character he's playing is a fancy dancing cow or an alternate universe version of Little Debbie named Giant Deborah who can teleport across dimensions if you chant for her. The dress is just part of the character, and Chase just happens to be comfortable wearing dresses and really good at playing funny characters. Idk, it just makes me feel really happy to see another gnc person out there thriving and living their best life. I've always been hesitant about being out as nonbinary at work bc I didn't think it would be possible for people to just treat it like a normal thing, and recently I've been worried that once I graduate college and go on to more "professional" work my future employers may see my gender nonconformity as unprofessional, which scares me bc it's not even possible for me to conform to any gender expectations anymore. But. Here on one of my favorite YouTube channels there's a gnc person who gets to dress however they want for their job, even having roles where their gender nonconformity is important to the videos, and it's just treated like the most normal thing in the world. If that's possible then maybe the idea of finding a research job that will respect me isn't so far fetched

[theophagie]

"Imaginary little girls ~can't just be tomboys in peace anymore~ because imaginary evil trans people will try to indoctrinate™ them" and are the ex-little girls who were instead at all supported by their parents and peers even for ~just being tomboys~ in the room with us