#or planning a damn wedding

[tim-hoe-wan]

i place a lot of blame on buzzfeed and co for the internet boyfriend phenomenon and the backlash their SOs receive because publications like those are a huge part of the promotion of the personality side of celebrity when what they should be focusing on is the craft that made a celebrity a celebrity in the first place. it’s all the fluff articles and fawning content that enables the unwell fans in their frankly abusive behaviors.

they deify these celebrities to an extent that’s insane and while i understand that there is no excuse for fans that hurl abuse at celebrities’ SOs mental health services are lacking in many places and i do understand that on a psychological level when you’re constantly receiving messaging that this celebrity is so much better than “mere mortals” and they’re so so very special and basically the universe’s chosen one and prodigal son it’s gonna make certain fans feel some kind of way. because this celebrity rather than being a human being who ultimately is just as “normal” and mundane as everyone else who has ever existed and will ever exist has been made into this ultimate object of desire (basically a thing) and status symbol who has a result certain fans are going to strive to be with for validation because we live in a society that elevates the things buzzfeed and co promote. i know you don’t relate because of you and your family’s personal relationship to celebrities but that’s how the situation seems to me.

like it’s to the point where there are harry fans who would actually LOVE to be in olivia’s or taylor’s position receiving all the abuse and speculation and death threats from fans and busybodies on deuxmoi because at least it would mean that they were actually dating harry, it would be proof that they get to be the ones in what they see as the desirable position. does this make sense? i’m interested to know where you disagree

I generally agree. I do think this predates buzzfeed. It doesn’t help when a lot of the hollywood legends act like their affairs and number of women they bedded, even while they were married, is a mark of achievement. Even worst when they’re praised for it and people live for the age old dramas of rivalry for a man. Women fighting over men always sell a story. I remember teen magazines loved the whole team Hilary or team Lindsay over Aaron Carter. Then again with Selena and Miley over Nick. It doesn’t help that the celebs themselves love doubling down on this catfight and the men involved just keep acting smug. All that time I remember thinking Nick was not even attractive in my eyes for people to fight over.

Buzzfeed and other publications that use the same style did help reinforce this idea. Aside from this whole treating celebs like gods, they love riding on dramas and catfights. They’re practically one of the first to egg on people to pick a side. But it has always been fun for people to see women fighting for the sake of a man. Honestly it’s not limited to celebs, people do it at school or in the workplace or anywhere girls fight for a man’s attention.

And honestly, while men ultimately benefit from the worship, let’s be honest that it has led to people ignoring young men in hollywood being abused. Because that young boy is the subject of all women’s attention, suddenly people ignore inappropriate words and touches (such as for Shawn and JB), or the grooming of young men (Harry and ATJ). The idea of men as prize and worth fighting about affects everyone negatively end of day. Thirsting is one thing and normal. But if you get nasty and have unhealthy positive or negative attachments/emotions towards these strangers, take a step back pls.

[gunsatthaphan]

"I won't see you again."

[wanderlust-in-my-soul]

Lom caresses Nuea five times and one time Nuea caresses Lom

[bunnithechubs]

parent's night out: ended the year as a girlfriend, started the new year as a fiance

[rainc0at]

brassic questions im haunted by: what the fuck was the wanking contest? why the FUCK do these "professional thieves" never silence their phones when they're robbing? why does dylan continue to take class a's?

[beetlecakes]

I think Issac being obsessed with dinosaurs is my new favorite thing about the whole series

[asylumwise]

Oh that PhayuRain proposal was *cheff’s kiss* 😭 so perfect for these boys!!

I love their cameos in Wedding Plan, it almost feels natural. I want them to keep popping up in WP. I mean, Nuea needs to start planning the PhayuRain wedding, right? I can imagine Rain arriving at their first appointment with a whole folder of moodboards.

What if Wedding Plan starts with Lom attending the PrapaiSky wedding alone and ends with him taking Nuea as his date to the wedding of Phayu& Rain 😭😭

[dawdlecentric]

Happy 1 year since Lycoreco official account teased "Chisataki marriage"!

+ a mini comic I HC how they got "hitched" I know there's actually an audio drama on how they got hold of the wedding dresses but this is just a silly indulgent backstory I thought of :P

*does a little research*

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Bonus:

...then they got married 🥰💒💐

I was hesitant on showing this cuz I messed up with the outlines and colored it so lazily, basically rushing it (I'm actually a day late already). So this'll just stay here under the cut cuz I don't like how it turned out

[love-too]

I sometimes lay in bed before going to sleep and think back on the delicious food I had for dinner. This is the real aroace experience for me

[sunshinechay]

Did literally everyone get to learn that the wedding is fake before Nuea?

Because I feel like he should have been the first to know that.

[my-current-obsession]

So I've only played Baxter's step 4 (and 3) once so far so maybe I missed the options to lead me down the path I wanted, but for the first time in this game I felt pretty railroaded.

So for context, I did get romantically involved with him in step 3. Was okay breaking things off when he left because I understood a long-distance relationship wasn't feasible but I had hoped to stay in contact as friends and didn't appreciate him shutting that down. But I did respect his wishes and not even bother reaching out to him when it was clear he wanted to cut ties entirely. I chose the "for better or worse you don't really care anymore" option about how I felt when step 4 kicked in, because I'd like to believe I would be over any pain/anger from a brief fling from five years ago.

Of course, then you unexpectedly reunite and he proceeds to continue trying to freeze you out WHILE highkey reminiscing and wanting to relive all the good moments you shared, which is confusing and frustrating.

I was wanting to play things in a sort of "once bitten, twice shy" way. I was open to giving him another chance and wanted him in "my" life again, but only if HE was also willing to put in the effort. Beyond getting answers for his behavior and why things are the way they are, I actually DIDN'T want to be pushing to be part of his life. Not while he was still pushing me away. Why should I be making an effort and getting hurt repeatedly when ANY kind of relationship (not just a romantic one) takes work and dedication from BOTH sides?

But this is where the game absolutely failed to provide me the stance I wanted, which in turn make the entire resolution to the conflict not sit well with me. Once Baxter started opening up about WHY he cut ties and was continuing to be avoidant, I felt very "but thou must" about the choices. Again and again, 4-6 choices with slightly different tones/connotations that ultimately serve to reinforce how we want to help and be close to Baxter as opposed to any other more complicated or negative feelings towards him.

I understand that we're meant to like Baxter and I'm definitely not UNsympathetic to his severe self-worth issues and how that affected how he sees all relationships, but for the first time I feel like the story prioritized painting HIM in such a good light that it forgot to account for a protagonist that was anything other than 100% willing to continue loving and throwing themselves at someone that had ALREADY pushed them away and hurt them before and was CONTINUING to do so.

Why should "I" have to keep chasing relentlessly after someone who repeatedly rejects me? Why do I essentially have to keep bashing my head against this brick wall even when it's obviously bad for me?

What I desperately wanted but felt denied by was a confrontation that led to compromise. I wanted to be able to clearly express "my" hurt/anger and make it clear that while I cared about him, I WOULD NOT keep endlessly trying if he wasn't going to meet me halfway. I cannot single-handedly save the bridge that he is burning, he actually has to STOP burning it for us to get anywhere.

But no, it is only after you prove that you WILL keep trying and caring about him NO MATTER WHAT, no matter how much he continues to hurt and reject you, that he is able to overcome his issues and reciprocate. And really, what's doubly unsatisfying is... aren't we just validating his insecurities this way? It's literally by proving ourselves so stubborn and kind (to our own detriment) that he truly believes we'd never give up on him that he can trust and reach out in turn. Whereas if I had the option to make it clear HE has to work for this if he wants it, then he genuinely needs to face his problems and decides he cares about us more, that we are WORTH the risk.

A relationship takes two... but in this case I felt FORCED to do about 95% of the work in pursuing him AND playing therapist for him. It would have been much more satisfying if, after he rejects you one too many times, you CAN say "screw it" and give up on it just for him to finally turn around and be the one trying to chase YOU instead. I was frankly already pretty fed up with things, but by the ending when he avoided us AGAIN at the wedding (AFTER he'd opened up, more than once, and just generally made it clear that he DID care about you; truly this man is a master of the mixed message) I wanted DESPERATELY to just be able to say "fine, if you won't make an effort then I won't either" and leave it at that. If I was just allowed to express that dissatisfaction and hurt, then him coming around and trying to forge a true, long-lasting connection with us despite his uncertainty would have been so much better.

[gunsatthaphan]

"I shouldn't do this."

[housewifebuck]

I CAN'T WAIT for clipboard buck / best man buck to help plan maddie's wedding 🥰 he will be insufferable to most but so precious to eddie (and me)

PLEAAAAAAAASEEEE buck's gonna be maddie's maid of honor too...

[hauntingblue]

Jinbe not even on the crew yet and already talking about sacrificing himself for his captain... insane

[theheadlessgroom]

@beatingheart-bride

At this, Susannah couldn't help but grin at his answer, for it was a valid one: As excited as she was at the prospect of dining out and seeing a show together, that certainly didn't mean she wasn't excited about everything else on the agenda. There really wasn't anything she didn't look forward to-the world was their oyster, a taste of freedom they'd be sure to savor over the course of this vacation. It was a taste they'd become accustomed to, once they made it to California.

What a strange thought, one she still wasn't accustomed to yet...to not be stared at. It should be a comforting thought, and it was, not to be perceived the way she was used to, but at the same time...it was so alien too, thinking of others not looking at her like she was some heinous abomination...she supposed this vacation would be good practice, for herself to grow accustomed to being treated differently-better, she reminded herself-but still, it would take some acclimating to.

Another thing she would have to grow accustomed to: Having fun money. Although Philippe would undoubtedly insist upon paying for much of their trip (for which she was extremely appreciative), she nonetheless made sure to dip into what little savings she had, deciding to put a little extra in her purse, just so she could buy a few things herself. She'd like to buy him breakfast one of these mornings, as well as buy some souvenirs to bring back...for herself, and for Edward and Doreen.

Maybe I'll buy myself a new dress! she thought to herself brightly, as she felt her purse in her pocket. There was no guarantee she'd do that, of course, but it was an exciting thought anyways...when was the last time she bought something just for herself?

[lxvvie]

I loved it because it was sort of a fun house mirror version of how my husband and I met - I was in a quilting guild with my mom, she got to talking to the woman who would become my mother-in-law, they had us exchange phone numbers, and the rest is history!

omg, that is too cute for words. ❤️

I can absolutely see this happening for Simon and the Reader, too.